Category: Sunday magazine

  • Wild, Wild  world of dogs: How safe is your  neighbourhood?

    Wild, Wild world of dogs: How safe is your neighbourhood?

    Gboyega Alaka attempts a critical look at the recent incident of dog attack on a four-year-old, paying specific attention to the inherent dangers of stray dogs on the loose, fatality of rabies infection, legal rights of citizens in the face of future challenges and more.

    It’s not unlikely that there is a dog in your neighbourhood. Put more succinctly, it’s not unlikely that there is a stray dog on your street or somewhere next door, foraging ‘harmlessly’ for pieces of bones, shreds of flesh, or just about anything your refuse can offer.

    Once in a while, there is actually a fine breed Rottweiler, Pug, English Mastiff, Boxer, Labrador retriever or German Shepherd next flat or somewhere behind the gate of that posh house on your street, purportedly being kept as a pet or for the purpose of security.

    What is, however, unlikely is whether people, who are voluntarily or involuntarily forced to live with these dogs, ever stop to worry or even recognise the danger inherent in these animals. True, dogs have been severally described as man’s best friend, but the truth is they also have a tendency to become man’s worst enemies – depending on which side of its temper you find yourself.

    For those who stop to think, do they ask questions? And if they do, do they go further by taking steps to forestall the possible danger? The unfortunate incident of four-year-old Omonigho Abraham, now undergoing treatment at the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital, readily comes to mind here.

    His parents, Abraham and Helen Odia, recognised the danger posed by Jacky, the new dog brought into the compound by their landlord, Stanley Wisely, but did little more than a whimpering complaint to their arrogant landlord until the disaster occurred. Perhaps if they had recognised their rights under the law and taken the right steps, maybe – just maybe – their son, Omonigho, would not have been a victim of that deadly attack that left him dangling on the cliff of life and within a short distance of death.

    And maybe Omonigho would still have been enjoying his quiet anonymous life and his mother, who says she is tired of the sudden celebrity status the unfortunate incident has thrusted upon her, would still have been enjoying her quiet life, rather than answering monotonous questions from desperate journalists, “who just want to sell their papers.”

    It would be recalled that two dogs, Jacky and Ghaddaffi , being bred in their compound on Adegboyega Street, Igando, had invaded the Odia’s flat and made a meal of little Omonigho’s scalp, with only a last minute intervention by his mother proving to be his saving grace. Mrs. Helen Odia had braved the odds to go into the flat, after stick-wielding neighbours and a team of policemen had been too terror-struck to go in and rescue her boy.

    But if providence has been so compassionate with the Odia family, preserving their son’s life in spite of the deadly fangs of the hounds, and raising two state governors to stand by them and benignly tussle over their son’s medical expenses, some victims, and indeed families, have not been so lucky.

    Fatai Jimoh, then a 12-year-old, who lived with his father in Ajegunle, wasn’t so lucky, as he received a deadly bite from a rabid street dog and eventually gave up the ghost a few months later. Fatai had gone about his normal childish business after being bitten by the street dog and given a mere anti-tetanus injection by the owner.

    Unfortunately, Fatai was too young to understand the deadly implication of a dog bite and did not tell his father or any member of his extended family, who lived a few blocks away. Worse still, he swore his peers who witnessed the incident of the dog bite to secrecy, inadvertently digging his own grave. It thus happened that even when the symptoms of rabies manifested, and he displayed strange agitated behaviour and an almost violent rejection of water, generally struggling in the throes of death, nobody suspected a dog bite, let alone a rabid infection.

    The ready explanation was suspected food poisoning, until one of his peers unwittingly dropped the bombshell days after he had passed on. And so it was that young, bubbly Fatai, well-loved in the community, died a totally preventable and avoidable death.

    Many wondered why the owner of the dog, knowing fully well that his dog was not vaccinated, merely gave him a mere anti-tetanus and went away. Could it be that even he didn’t know? Or that he just wanted to fulfill minimal righteousness, avoid the expensive post-exposure treatment and vacate the scene?

    Like little Omonigho, five-year-old Edna also experienced her moment of terror that would subsequently instill in her a strong phobia for dogs, when she was chased and dragged all around the compound by a co-tenant’s dog in their Ikotun area home.

    Thankfully, she didn’t appear to have been bitten, nor was she chewed up. But Edna’s parents nevertheless took precaution and promptly took Edna for anti-rabies treatment.

    According to her father, Mr. Benjamin, there was no way he could have taken the risk of not taking her to the hospital for that vital post exposure treatment, “because she was so bruised and covered with blood at the end of the incident that we didn’t know if the dog actually sank its teeth in her skin or not. Besides, we didn’t know for sure if the dog had been vaccinated, or if the vaccination was up to date.”

    Moreover, he had seen someone die of rabies after a dog bite in the past, and the sheer horror of how helpless the victim died was something he would not wish for his worst enemy. Also, Benjamin had heard somewhere that the rabies virus can also be found in dogs’ nails.

    Yet despite these evident danger and hazard inherent in the mere presence of dogs in our environment, several are on the loose, and will probably always remain. To make matters worse, children go out of their way to tease some of these dogs and sometimes make them react violently, while some other people walk dangerously close, oblivious of the animals and whether or not they could be temperamental.

    Deji, an auto-mechanic in Olodi Apapa area of Lagos, reveals the prevalence of stray dogs that live perpetually on street rubbish in his area. If he were to do a headcount, Deji says he would count well over 20 of those dogs roaming the streets, hounding each other and most times engaging in wild street copulation.

    He also wondered why there is never any attempt to clear the streets of these dogs, not even vaccinate them, since the government is aware of the dangerous virus they carry.

    “From what I’ve read and heard, health workers in other countries usually arrest such dogs and get them off the streets, or in some cases vaccinate them from house to house. “And I wonder why they would not do that in Nigeria. I think you should let them know that such carrier dogs pose danger to everybody, including their own children.”

    Stray Dogs: Comparable only to lunatic on the loose

    According to Dr. Funmilayo Alao, a clinician and small animal practitioner, who runs Ized Veterinary by Governor’s Road Junction, Ikotun, Lagos and who incidentally is wife of the president, Lagos State chapter of the National Veterinary Medical Association, the potential danger of stray dogs is palpable.

    She agrees with the general public opinion that likens a stray dog to a lunatic on the loose and that must be avoided like a plague. “Even as a Vet doctor,” she reveals, “I don’t play with a dog I don’t know. If I see a stray dog, I simply move away from its path. That is not cowardliness, it is called wisdom. The reason is that I don’t know if the owner has vaccinated the dog or not; why then should I expose myself?”

    She declares that even the average dog keeper or breeder in Nigeria rarely takes the effort to vaccinate their dogs as and when due, thereby underlining the danger in those who have nobody to care for them. As a Vet doctor and from her privileged position as wife of the president of a state chapter of the Vet doctors’ association, Dr. Alao should know.

    To make matters worse, Dr. Alao also discloses that she has met several dog-keeping Nigerians, most of whom are educated, who always counter that they cannot spend a whopping N3,000 on vaccinating a dog, rationalising rather foolishly that “How much do we ourselves spend on Paracetamol?”

    But the Vet doctor says the danger of an unvaccinated dog is lethal and the danger of the rabies virus cannot be compared with the meagre N3,000 required to vaccinate a dog and keep it safe. “There is a very big danger in an unvaccinated dog bite. You can be infected with rabies and the implication is death, because it’s a viral infection. The only thing that can stop it is a timely intervention.”

    Worse still, she says the most vulnerable demography to deaths from rabies are children, because when they are bitten by dogs, “they hardly ever tell their parents when they get bitten by dogs” because of fear of being scolded. In the process, they also lose that vital moment, when their parents could have taken them out for that vital intervention treatment.

    According to Global Alliance for Rabies Control (GARC), a global body founded in the USA and largely behind the instituting of September 28 as World Rabies Day since 2007, and whose vision is a world free of human rabies, over 55,000 people die every year of rabies, 99% of them from the world’s poorest communities, where the people care least for vaccination or where the economic deprivation is so harsh that such exigencies can only rank at the lowest rung on their scale of preference.

    In Nigeria, even though the dangers of rabies resulting from dog bites (canine rabies) is well known, with virtually all the major tribes having well-known local names for it such as: digbolugi in Yoruba,  ciwon kare, (Hausa), ginnaji, (Fulani), ebua idat (Efik) and arankita (Igbo), control measures are still grossly underdeveloped, leading to its increasing spread and avoidable deaths.

    GARC is, however, of the opinion that a little, deliberate effort the world over, by governments and individuals through awareness, empowerment, access to accurate knowledge about the disease, an understanding that teasing or provoking animals like dogs can be dangerous and (most importantly) timely access to adequate treatment in the event of exposure to the virus could go a long way in successfully ridding our world of this preventable disease.

    Lion Dogs: From biting to eating

    The big question many in Nigeria have been asking, however, is: What could make a dog ‘progress’ from mere biting to eating a human being alive?

    According to Adeshina Samuel, a dog lover who has been keeping dogs for years and who says he diligently vaccinates and takes care of his dogs, “It could only have been hunger, as the natural dog reaction, even when you provoke it, is to growl, bark at you and bite. If you are fast enough to avoid the teeth, you get some vicious scratches, but not for it to now settle down to have you for lunch like we read in the case of poor Omonigho. So, for me, the owner must have been starving them. Except, of course, if the dogs have gone mad.”

    Alao, however, posits that first and foremost, it is likely that the dog (Jacky) had never seen the boys in that flat and was therefore not familiar with them. Secondly, she says it is absolutely unwise to suddenly bring a fully mature dog that does not know anybody around into the house.

    “I understand that the dog was recently brought into the house fully matured. This is another lesson that I always pass to my clients. Why bring a fully mature dog into the house? It’s just like when you go and buy a fairly used car. The truth is if the car was serving its owner well, he wouldn’t have had any reason to sell it. If you trace the history of that dog to where it was coming from, it is likely that it had become a nuisance in the neighbourhood. It is also possible that it was no longer respecting its owner and by the time a dog attacks its owner, that means it has become extremely dangerous.”

    To kill or not to kill?

    Curiously, the police allegedly called the complainant and father of the victim, asking what to do with the dogs, and threatening to return them to the owner if he did not give them any reply. Should this happen, the dogs will be returned to the same house where they’d wrecked so much havoc; something many consider unthinkable.

    A large section of public opinion is of the view that the police should do away with them, since they have tasted blood and are very likely to want to travel the same route if let loose again. Alao also thinks the best option is to put the dogs to sleep. She recalls that they were told back in Vet school that “once a dog kills a human being, it must sleep that day.”

  • Stan Rerri cruises on

    Stan Rerri cruises on

    DELTA State-born Stan Rerri radiates opulence. The Executive Director, Sterling Oil &Gas Limited, enjoys life and he is living it to its fullest. Once married to Edith Jibunoh, daughter of Sir Newton Jibunoh, the famous explorer, the union crashed within one year.

    But the Itsekiri-born businessman who friends prefer to call the Lion, sources said, has since married again.

    The graduate of the London School of Economics, sources revealed, enjoys being in the midst of his friends, Scott Tommey, Eyo Effiong, Chucks Iroche and Farouk Saleh. His garage parades wonders on wheels like Bentley Mulsannes, Rolls Royce Ghost, Merc S-550′s and an Escalade.

  • Rhoda Eweka  gets baby girl

    Rhoda Eweka gets baby girl

    LAGOS socialite and lawyer, Rhoda Eweka is in joyous mood . The Edo State born lady got a baby girl last week in the U.S after her first daughter, Osayamen, an undergraduate at Howard University, in the United States.  Rhoda kept her pregnancy from the public and went low-profile. She left for the United States during her second trimester

    In her heydays, Rhoda Eweka was very prominent on the social scene. Suddenly, for reasons best known to her, she decided to go low profile and quit attending events

  • Taofik’s Top 10

    Taofik’s Top 10

    Taofik Okoya, son of Lagos industrialist, Chief Rasaq Akanni-Okoya is down-to-earth and a  fashion enthusiast. The founder of Queens of Africa project and manufacturer of Nigerian dolls tells Adetutu Audu his favourite things.

    Favourite fashion designer

    Ituen Bassey

     

    Favourite shoe designer

    Jeffery West

     

    Favourite belt designer

    It varies. I like ornament belt and one of those who do that is Gucci

     

    Favourite perfume

    It is hard to choose. It depends on the fragrance and my mood. But

    I love Tom Ford

     

    Favourite Holiday spot

    I like Island holiday and have so many places I like to explore. If I have to narrow it down,

    I will take Dubai.

     

    Favourite sunglasses

    Roberto Cavalli

     

    Favourite car

    Mercedes Benz

     

    Favourite food

    I love vegetables. Either Yoruba’s efo-riro or Calabar’s vegetable

     

    Favourite wristwatch

    I love AP

     

    Favourite Underwear designer

    I have quite a number. But I like Ralph Lauren

  • Boost hair with  natural remedies

    Boost hair with natural remedies

    THE hair is the crowning glory for every woman. This explains why a lot of women spend fortunes trying to make their hair look good. Apart from going to your beautician or making use of expensive products, there are some natural remedies that can make you look glamorous and exciting without stress. Some of these include eggs, yogurt and honey, which experts have described as hair treatment ingredients that are affordable, all-natural ones at that.

    In addition, you also discover some unique ingredients in the oils in avocados more closely resemble our own skin’s oils than any product in the beauty aisle does. Experts also inform that the mild acidity in lemon is an effective and gentler alternative to chemical-laden products. The (raw) egg is really the best .The yolk, rich in fats and proteins, is naturally moisturising, while the white, which contains bacteria-eating enzymes, removes unwanted oils.

    For normal hair, you can use the entire egg to condition hair as well as use the egg whites only to treat oily hair and also use the egg yolks only to moisturise dry. Use the egg mixture appropriate for you and apply to clean, damp hair. If there isn’t enough egg to coat scalp and hair, use more as needed depending on your hair type. Leave on for 20 minutes, rinse with cool water and shampoo hair. Whole egg and yolks-only treatments can be applied once a month; whites-only treatment can be applied every two weeks.

    You also need to have at the back of your mind that styling products can leave a film that both saps moisture and dulls shine. However, dairy products like sour cream and plain yogurt can help reverse this damage. To achieve this effect, you can massage half cup sour cream or plain yogurt into damp hair and let sit for 20 minutes. Rinse with warm water, followed by cool water, then shampoo hair as you normally would. This treatment can be applied every other week to achieve a good overall effect.

    To fight flakes brought on by poor diet, stress and climate, among other factors, you can also try a lemon juice and olive oil mixture in your hair. The acidity in lemon juice actually helps rid your scalp of any loose, dry flakes of skin, while the olive oil moisturises the new skin.

    Interestingly, a number of ladies have hair that is falling apart and this can be worrisome. To add body to hair, you can make use of what can be described as an unlikely beauty beverage: beer! The fermented drink contains generous supplies of yeast, which works to plump tired tresses. What you need to do here is to mix half cup flat beer (pour beer into a container and let it sit out for a couple of hours to deplete carbonation) with 1 tsp light oil and a raw egg. Apply to clean, damp hair, let sit for 15 minutes, then rinse with cool water.

    For dry hair that is falling apart, honey is great. It attracts and locks in moisture. Here, what you need to do is to massage honey into clean, damp hair, let sit for 20 minutes, and then rinse with warm water. You can also add one to two spoons of olive oil to loosen the honey for easier application. For extremely sun-damaged hair, mix honey with one to two spoons of a protein-rich ingredient, like avocado or egg yolk, which will help replenish the keratin protein bonds that UV rays attack. Treatment can be applied once a month.

    Home and natural beauty experts would tell anyone who cares to listen that avocado does more than repair damaged hair. Its oils and proteins boast the best combination of nutrients for smoothing and weighing down unruly hair.

  • Poise is it!

    Poise is it!

    AS we all know, looking glamorous is not an easy take, even though it might look so. It takes much effort and care on one’s part to be glamorous, every other day. Below are listed some celebs pictures and tips that will help you remain glamorous.

    Sexy lingerie

    Slip into something sexy! Glamour starts with what you put on under your clothes. Wearing something lacy can lift your spirits and make you feel sexy. Trade your cotton bra and underwear for a silk set that adds instant sex appeal.

    Paint your lips sexy

    Nothing says glamour like a luscious red pout. Instead of your usual swipe of nude gloss, opt for a look-at-me shade of red. Consider your skin tone when picking the shade.

    Play up your eyes

    If you really want to look and feel more glamorous, the eyes have it. Play with this season’s bold shadows or do up a sexy, smoky eye to instantly add glamour to your overall look.

    Struts heels instead of flats

    Flats may be comfortable but they don’t exactly scream glamour. Maximize the glam quotient of any outfit by wearing a pair of fabulous heels.

    Dazzle in dress

    When it’s time to feel glamorous, don’t even think about donning something drab. This style situation calls for a dress, and nothing less will do. Choose a style that’s fun and flirty and that makes you feel wow.

  • Belle of the ball

    Belle of the ball

    GUESS what’s back in vogue after a short time off? Ball gown dresses! These elegant, sexy and sophisticated designs have made a sudden and dramatic return to the social scene. As we all know, one of the secrets of a great looking dress is the fabulous design and its distinctive cut.

    Ball gown design has been introduced into sleeve of different size and styles over the centuries and these have been revived and reintroduced according to their suitability for the current mode of dress.

    And as you must have noticed, usually the sleeve of the dress could be puff, long,  short, off-shoulder, three-quarter or strapless.  These fabulous and unique designs are too fantastic to be ignored.

    Believe it; they are for women of class and style. The hottest hue is  black.

  • Let your brow Define your personality

    Let your brow Define your personality

    WHILE some women have eyebrow that is full, others are sparse. The eyebrow defines your personality and almost every woman tries to define and redefine her looks with the brow. If what you have is not good enough, then there is the need to fill in the brows as part of our normal beauty routine.

    If you were born with sparse brows or simply went too far with the tweezers, there is a fix to filling in your eyebrows. All it takes is a pencil, powder, and an angled brush or a clean mascara brush.

    Pencils and powders tend to stick to skin, not to hair; so, if you don’t have a lot of hair you’ll want to shade in the skin where hair should grow.

    Select a soft pencil (hard pencils tend to be too waxy) which is a shade lighter than your brows and a powder which matches the colour of brows. If brows are super fair, choose a pencil that’s a shade darker than brows.

    First, comb out brows with a clean mascara wand. Examine brows for any sparse spots.

    Use the pencil to fill in the sparse spots with short, feathery strokes. Apply in the direction of hair growth. The key here is not to create a definite line, but to create the appearance of hair. Be careful not to pencil in the entire brow, which will result in an unnatural look.

    Follow with eye shadow or brow powder or a clean mascara wand in eye shadow. Brush the powder along the brows. It should stick to the pencil, while also acting to blend in the colour perfectly. For more staying powder, dampen the brush slightly before dipping it into colour.

    You can try two colours when filling in brows: A light powder where brows are thickest and a darker shade for the tail ends. Conditioning your brows with castor oil is a great way to keep brows healthy and looking great. Fuller brows are preferable to skinny ones. Have eyebrows shaped by a pro every four weeks. Use a good tweezer, to clean up the hairline in between visits.

    Eyebrow threading is an ancient Middle Eastern technique that is becoming common all over the world. It’s fast, cheap and precise. How does it work? An aesthetician uses a doubled-up strand of cotton thread to twist around individual hairs, then pulls them out from the roots. The procedure is used mainly on the eyebrows and upper lip. Threading is faster than tweezing. The average eyebrow procedure takes about five to 10 minutes, while tweezing takes about 20 minutes.

  • ‘There’ll still be another confab’

    ‘There’ll still be another confab’

    The Spiritual head of Inri Evangelical Church Lagos, Primate Elijah Ayodele, spoke with Sina Fadare on 2015 elections and sundry issues. Excerpts:  

    Most people handle prophecies with levity. Why is that?

    Maybe people’s experiences about prophecies did not encourage them to take some of what l said serious. A lot of people have seen it as a business and a venture. They talk so that people will fear them and nothing came out of it. I am not in that class.

    A pastor is different from an evangelist or a prophet. Some people are miracle makers. They believe that if they do not perform miracles, they are not men of God. There are a lot of thousands spiritual gifts in the church of God. One person cannot get it all. That is why you have different pastors that handle different things.

    Either they take the message serious or not my concern is that the message has been delivered. Those who take me serious get in touch with me and they offered prayers to avert the possible dangers, only l cannot mention some of their names.

    There is what we call maturity. Prophecies are to warn an individual, corporate body and government of the impending danger and what to do to avert it. When you warn, it does not matter whether you like that person or not. That was how it was in the past. Prophets will go to government, leaders and people in authority to deliver God’s message to them but today people did not take it in good faith. They did not listen to the prophets of God, an indication that they berate God.

    What is next after the last confab?

    I have said it and I will keep saying it and for those who care to listen, there will be another confab. It will happen. Let them hear before the Scotts shouted for joy after independence, I said that the independence would not last and it happened. There is going to be independence in Nigeria.

    I’m not seeing Nigeria as a nation in the next 30 years. And for this reason, we have to pray very well because of this coming confab. There is going to be referendum where we are going to decide if Nigeria should disintegrate or not.

    As I have said, we will have a new confab, which is going to be bigger than that of last time and that confab will determine where the country will go. This confab will be a foundation for Nigeria’s future where all the social injustices that have been neglected in the past will be taken care of.

    What do you see after Boko Haram?

    I said that time that they would not capture Shekau but they would kill him. Either the country believes it or not, he is dead. But Boko Haram is yet to die; the Boko Haram boys are going to re-group themselves outside the country. They might not be Boko Haram but they might be coming up as another terrorist group.

    Our security forces should start working on how they are going to tackle this new terrorist group. Rehabilitate these people or not, it will not end terrorism and government should not have any dialogue with any terrorist because of the Chibok girls.

    Government should stand firm. Those people who empower Boko Haram should be exposed.

    The killing of Shekau is not the end of Boko Haram in Nigeria. There is still going to be counter attacks but the head of the security can make it end. The end may come to terrorism in Nigeria but it may not be now either two or three to four years.

    Do you think the Chibok girls will all come back alive?

    No, not all of them will be released; they are going to see them but not all of them. 10 per cent of them are no more.

    Do you think Nigeria will remain the same after 2015 election?

    2015 is not the end of Nigeria. There will be peace in some areas whereas some areas will experience violence. Nigeria will still remain one entity. 2015 elections will not separate us. But I still foresee separation in the nearest future. There is going to be a lot of troubles in Central Bank of Nigeria. The CBN governor must be very careful so that he will not be misled.

    We have a lot of men of God in the country, yet things are not what they should be. What is wrong?

    Let me correct an impression, not all pastors are prophets. If you are not gifted as a prophet you cannot know what to do if a nation is in crisis. It is different from a spiritualist, who has the source of his power through other means. But a prophet is linked up with God and he delivers His message to whomever he was sent to.

    Did you make prediction so that people will visit your church for solution?

    No, not like that. When you came in, did you see any visitation time? All what we are saying is that if the Lord sends us to the nation, we must deliver the message. I thank God what l will eat till kingdom comes has been provided by God. When He calls you, definitely He will cater for your needs.

    As a prophet of God, you have a covenant with you and he is going to be with you till the end. When you follow God’s instruction, he will surely bless you. What gains will l be looking for? is it national awards? l have them in excesses. My position is higher than the president, therefore l don’t need all these so call awards.

    I have done a lot, not in Nigeria alone, but all over the world. Recently, l received a letter from Buckingham palace. They acknowledged our book of prophesy. I got another one from Israeli government. So, l do not need man’s commendation but that of God and if you are doing His work, you are blessed. I have a house and a vehicle that l can use, what else am l looking for?

  • ‘Bonding is important for marital success’

    ‘Bonding is important for marital success’

    do you know your wife’s lingerie’s sizes? Do you know the name of the primary school she attended and or her grandma’s name?

    If you are not too sure, you can start working on these areas and more so you don’t get caught pants down.

    This and more are some of the lessons picked at the grand finale of the one -week conference of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Redemption zone, Lagos Province 9, Agege.

    Men, who attended the conference with the ‘the over flowing family’, were charged to build intimacy with their spouses.

    The guest minister, Pastor (Mrs.) Abigail Adarabioyo, said:  “Our husbands must know the mind of God. And when they do, it will take a smart man to carry his wife along by loving her.

    “And this can be achieved through some of these tips we have highlighted above. Women should also not provoke their husbands to anger or disrespect them, either in public or in private.

    “When a couple is in unity of purpose, it will be easy to raise the children, hence an overflowing family.”

    The hostess, Assistant Pastor (Mrs.) Olusegun John, anchored the session where men were told to dress their babies up.

    Turning to the men, most of those who were uncomfortable with the chore, Mrs. John said:  “You can see that it is not easy to dress up for children. So, whenever you feel your wife is taking time and ‘delaying’ you, bear in mind that children must not be mismanaged and your wife is a professional, trying to prevent crises.”