Category: Sunday magazine

  • 2015: Be impartial, Uche begs Jega

    THE prelateof the Methodist Church of Nigeria, His Eminence, Dr. Samuel Uche, has urged the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) to conduct free and fair election in 2015.

    Addressing reporters in Lagos at the anniversary of his one year in office, Uche said Prof. Attahiru Jega must defend the constitution rather than allowing the will of individuals who want to subvert the electoral process to prevail.

    He said: “Jega should be fair; he should not be bought over by any party. The police and soldiers should not be bought over.

    “They should know that the constitution is above any personal interest and should defend it.”

    Uche cautioned politicians against uncivilised conducts, noting that the level of decorum they display will determine the outcome of the polls.

    The cleric condemned acts that contradict the position of the Bible, saying that those who divorce and commit adultery were not good example of what Christianity stands for.

    He said: “At the conference we held, we condemned gay marriage, homosexuality and lesbianism.

    “Any minister that divorces should be ready to be excommunicated. We don’t tolerate polygamy.

    “Church leaders who commit adultery are wolves in sheep clothing, church leaders committing adultery is condemnable.”

  • Prayer in the foundation of Aladura churches (3)

    Our daily Bread:

    Give us today bread for the coming day. (Matt 6:11) Let’s look at some explanations of this: 1. The bread has been identified with the bread of the last Supper. 2. The bread has been identified with the spiritual food of the word of God. 3. The bread has been taken to stand for Jesus Himself. Jesus called himself the bread of life. (John 6:33-35.) 4.

    It has been taken as bread of the heavenly kingdom. Luke 14:15, “Blessed is anyone who will eat bread in the kingdom of God.” Essentially this was a prayer that God will supply us with the things we need for the coming day. When we see that this is a simple petition for our everyday needs, certain tremendous truths emerge from it.

    1. It tells us that God cares for our bodies. We do well to remember that God is interested in our bodies. 2. Teaches us to pray for our daily bread, for bread for the coming day. It teaches us to live one day at a time, and not to worry and be anxious about the distant and the unknown future.

    3. This petition gives God his proper place. It admits that it is from God we receive the food, which is necessary to support life. All living things come from God. Our food, therefore, is the direct gift of God. 4. This petition very wisely reminds us of how prayer works. It reminds us that prayer and

    Work go hand in hand and that when we pray we must go on to work to make our prayers come true. Prayer, like faith, without works is dead. When we pray this petition, we are recognizing two basic truths – that without God we can do nothing, and that without our effort and co-operation God can do nothing for us. 5. Jesus taught us Give US our daily bread and not Give ME my daily bread. The problem of the world is not the supply of Life’s essentials; it is the distribution of them. It is a prayer, which we can help God to answer by giving to others who are less fortunate than we are. This prayer is not only a prayer that we may receive our daily bread; it is also a prayer that we may share our daily bread with others.

    Forgiveness Human and Divine.

    When we come to see what sin really is, we come to see that it is a universal disease in which we are all involved.

    Outward respectability in the sight of others and inward sinfulness in the sight of God may well go hand in hand.

    This is a petition of the Lord’s Prayer, which we all need to pray.

    Of all the petitions of the Lord’s Prayer, this is the most frightening.

    ‘Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.’ The literal meaning is: ‘Forgive us our sins in proportion as we forgive those who have sinned against us.’ In verses 14 and 15, Jesus says that if we forgive others, God will forgive us; but if we refuse to forgive, God will refuse to forgive us. It is quite clear that if we pray this petition with an unhealed breach, an unsettled quarrel in our lives, we are asking God not to forgive us.

    Forgiveness, like Peace, is one and indivisible. Human forgiveness and divine forgiveness are inextricably intertwined.

    Our forgiveness for one another and God’s forgiveness of us cannot be separated. If we remembered what we are doing when we take this petition on our lips, there would be times when we would not dare to pray it.

    If we have not put things right with our neighbors, we cannot put things right with God. If we are to have this Christian forgiveness in our lives, three things are necessary. 1. We must learn to understand. There is always a reason why people do things. A person may treat us with suspicion or dislike, may be they have been misinformed about something we have said or done. Forgiveness would be much easier for us if we tried to understand before we allowed ourselves to condemn.

    2. We must learn to forget. As long as we brood upon a snub or an insult, there is no hope that we will forgive. “I can’t forget what so-and-so did to me” these are dangerous sayings, because we can in the end make it humanly impossible for us to forget. We can print the memory indelibly

    upon our minds. Nothing but the cleansing spirit of Christ can take from these memories of ours the old bitterness that we must forget.3. We must learn to Love. We have seen that Christian love, agape, is that unconquerable benevolence, that undefeatable goodwill, which will never seek anything but the highest good of others, no matter what they do to us, and no matter how they treat us. That love can come to us only when Christ, who is that love, comes to dwell within our hearts – and he cannot come unless we invite him.

    To be forgiven we must forgive, and that is a condition of forgiveness, which only the power of Christ can enable us to fulfill.

     

    Being part of the sermon delivered by Otubu PhD (London), Dip. Theology (Ibadan), the General Evangelist of Motailatu Church Cherubim and Seraphim Worldwide under the leadership of: His Most Eminence, Baba Aladura (Dr) Motailatu Akinadewo Primate, Founder and Supreme Head, MCCSW at the 50th anniversary of the church in Lekki Lagos.

  • Affront to, not ‘on’

    NATIONAL MIRROR front and inside pages of September 11 welcome us today: “Again, Mark assures on state creation” Who did he assure?

    “…but fails woefully (abysmally) in giving concrete evidences of such claims.”

    “NAHCO, last week, flagged off (began) the airlift of pilgrims….”

    “It is an affront on (to) this nation for a foreigner to come out with….”

    “Man charged to court for (with) rape”

    “Banks survive regulatory stress         test amidst (amid) tense corporate governance challenges” (BUSINESS WEEK, September 8)

    “More than 4.3 million Nigerians ported to our network shortly after the flag off (sic) (inauguration) of the Mobile Number Portability….” (Source: as above)

    THE NATION ON SUNDAY COMMENT (EDITORIAL) of September 7 displayed grammatical hypocrisy: “The president should call the group to order for double standards (standard) and flouting our laws”

    “In times like this” Either in times like these or a time like this

    THISDAY, Saturday, September 6 edition, contained copious errors right from its front page: “Ebola: After assessing threat, FG re-opens (reopens) schools September 22”

    “Rangers’ boss picks holes on 3SC” I also pick my own holes in (not on) this headline.

    “TIME Magazine commends Nigeria over (for/on) containment”

    “…was the outcome of the series of meeting (meetings)”

    “Assure (Assure Nigerians) Boko Haram will be defeated”

    “The source said further that…are (were) now firmly in control of the military.”

    Ebola scare in Delta as FMC cordons-off (cordons off) emergency ward”

    “…the population of the estate has increased considerable (considerably)

    Finally from THISDAY under review: “Heat free (Heat-free) curls”

    SATURDAY INDEPENDENT of September 6 circulated a potpourri of misapprehensions: “Jonathan’s administration is been (being) sabotaged, says cleric”

    “Irri community seeks for support” Yank off ‘for’

    Wrong: electioneering campaign; Right: electioneering or campaign

    “Keshi clamours for Nigerians (Nigerians’) support” (SPORTINGLIFE, September 4)

    National Mirror of September 4 disseminated a few solecisms starting with this banner: “CNS indicts major oil companies in (for/on) oil theft”

    NATIONAL MIRROR Editorial of September 4 ignited some lexical crises: “…that the police was (were) supporting the impeached speaker of the House….”

    “…at the expense of majority (the majority) of other members of the House”

    “He said the police cannot (could not) be dragged into the mess….”

    “Underfunding, bane to (of) poly education”

    Still on National Mirror under focus: “…incessant strikes actions….” Education Today: incessant strikes

    “Truancy among professors and other senior academic staff often percolate (percolates) down the academic hierarchy….”

    “Modibbo meets delegates, promises all inclusive (all-inclusive) government”

    “Obiazor relishes Super Eagles (Eagles’) call-up”

    “Group insists PDP, APC should pick Christian (Christians) as flag bearers”

    “We express these fears, knowing fully well the nature of ….” This amounts to ill-treatment of the English language. Right: knowing full well.

    “…believed to have the largest oil bloc (highest number of oil blocks) in Africa….”

    “Rather, it rehashed old consciousness already canvassed….” (THE NATION ON SUNDAY COMMENT, August 31) You cannot rehash new consciousness

    Wrong: last minute change; Right: last-minute change

    “…is seeking to govern Kwara State under the PDP ticket” Politics: on the PDP ticket

    “The Nigerian bond market hitherto an exclusive preserve of blue-chip companies have (has)….”

    POLITICAL ECONOMY of August comes next: “Jitters in Nigeria as Italy (Italian) prosecutors open probe into Malabu Oil deal”

    “What is good for the goose can’t be bad for the gander. “ I do not understand the use of ‘good’ and ‘bad’ instead of ‘sauce’ in this instance.

    “…but LifeStyle will not hesitate to remind you about (sic) one of the qualifying criterion for this jamboree…” Singular: criterion plural: criteria. And, ‘remind you of…’

    “An alleged hike in school fees has created a row between the management and the Parents Association (PTA) of….” PTA means Parent-Teacher Association.

    “The donation of vehicles and communication gadgets provide a good beginning.” The donation… provides.

    “Fear of robbers keep lawyers away from courts” Fear of robbers keeps….

    FEEDBACK

    Please note that English is one-one standard English. There is NOT a separate language for the surveyor, the engineer, another for the lawyer, another for the bank manager, another for the Town Clerk, another still for the candidates at an examination in English, hence writing “firstly”, “secondly, e.g Secondly, one of your contributors to that edition should have said… “thirdly”, etc, in the 21st century, is considered bad solecism. Let’s ask, Will Nigeria Be the Death of English? In modern English, it is “First”, “Second”,” Third”,etc.

    “Specie”, meaning “coined money” or “money in coin”, has no plural form.

    Some idioms break the rules of grammar but they cannot be tampered with as they are fixed by usage. For example, “twice”, like “thrice”, is very old-fashioned but “think twice” (cannot be changed to “think two times”); “once or twice”; “Once bitten, twice shy” (NOT “two times shy”).

    Another note: In modern usage, “all hands on deck” is construed as meaning “Everyone should be on duty” while “All hands to the pump” is construed as meaning “Everyone should help”.

    “Strike action” still survives as an archaism in the dictionary. “Industrial action”, or “strike”, is the preferred term.

    There is no “traditional wedding” but traditional marriage”. The traditional marriage is Africa’s conventional or native marriage whereby the groom pays bride price to the parents of the bride. I repeat, “at about”, “about” is preferred in modern English. E,g. I will call for you about nine o’clock (NOT “at about nine o’clock”). More power to your elbow!

    (Bayo Oguntunase/Language activist /Adoro62@yahoo.co.uk)

  • Osun election: We didn’t collect money from anybody-PFN

    The Osun State chapter of the Pentecostal Fellowship of Nigeria (PFN), did not collect money from anybody before, during and after the just-concluded gubernatorial election, its chairman, Rev. Olasunmbo Ige, has declared.

    He made the declaration at a meeting of all the chapters of the body in the South West in Osogbo last week.

    Ige, who delivered a sermon at the meeting urging members of the body to return to the message of the second coming of Christ said: “We thank God that the election has come and gone.

    “We want to categorically state that we did not collect money from the Osun State government because we don’t joke with our integrity.

    “We are committed to the message of the cross and we will not allow anybody to drag our name in the mud.”

    About 50 delegates from the region attended the meeting, which considered how the body can be more relevant to nation-building.

    The National Vice Chairman South West PFN, Bishop Reuben Oke, enjoined members to work towards the progress of the country and the church.

    Oke noted that the PFN cannot make any impact if there is disunity among members, noting that the success of the church lies in unity.

    “Our strength lies in the unity of purpose and cooperation among ourselves. We cannot overemphasise the unity of the body,” he reiterated.

    Oke added: “We are in a strategic period in the history of our country. This is the time for us to close rank and come together with a heart of oneness.

    “This is the time for us to build our nation and work towards the progress of the church and Nigerians in general.”

    The Chairman of the Lagos Chapter, Bishop Sola Ore, urged the leadership of the body to begin to focus on grassroots pastors whom he noted have been very active in the PFN.

    “There is a need to begin to look at how the PFN can be blessings to churches that are small and growing so that they will be encouraged to continue to participate in the activities of the body.

    “Many members of the PFN want to know how the PFN will be a blessing to them. That is what we should be working on in the years to come,” he counselled.

  • The silent industrial revolution

    The silent industrial revolution

    In an interview published in the August 30, 2014 edition of some national newspapers, Senator Ibikunle Amosun, Governor of Ogun State, spoke about the danger that the growing army of unemployed youths pose to the country. The Governor should know. While superintending over a state like Ogun with 22 public and private tertiary institutions, and many more still under construction, Senator Amosun estimated that there must be about half a million unemployed graduates presently living in the state.

    The natural follow-up question is what the Governor is doing in the area of job creation. While the Amosun administration has directly and indirectly created over 50,000 jobs through employment in the public service, helping small scale entrepreneurs with soft loans to develop, sponsoring skill acquisition programme for youths, empowering traders to gain access to cheap funds and creating opportunities in agriculture for young graduates, it has also pursued with vigour one of its five cardinal programmes, which is Increased Agricultural Production leading to Industrialisation.

    In achieving the objective behind the industrialization programme, the Amosun administration deliberately set out to profit from the state’s contiguity to Lagos, the commercial capital of the country and the border it shares with Republic of Benin, which by inference made it a gateway to the over 300 million-population in the West African sub-region. The strategy therefore is to attract multi-national industries, both those already existing in the country but have expansion plans and those that are just coming into the country afresh. The state has abundant land resources, 16,432 square kilometers, available for industrial, commercial, agricultural and property development. This is a key factor that an investor will actually consider in deciding on a location for his new industry. More than that, the state government has equally liberalized the process of acquiring land, particularly for industrial, commercial and agricultural purposes.

    Add this to the fact that though industries located in Ogun State have easy access to the air and sea ports in Lagos, the state also boasts of having 84 percent of the strategic Lagos-Ibadan Expressway which is a link between Lagos and the rest of Nigeria, located within its territory.

    The numerous tertiary institutions in the state also provide a ready pool of skilled workers to industrialists. All these advantages have been harnessed by the Amosun Administration to create a bi-annual Investors’ Forum through which it shifts the focus of investors from across the world to investment potentials in the state and the benefits the state government offer.

    In addition, the state government has invested heavily in upgrading the infrastructure in the state. The emerging road network in Ogun State is comparable to the ones in many developed countries. The security system is so good that it is reassuring that one’s investment is secured in this environment, despite the challenge that its multi-border nature ought to pose.

    The result is that in the last three years, the state has become the industrial hub of Nigeria. The popular question in the investment community about Nigeria now is not ‘who is in Ogun State’ but ‘who is not in Ogun State’. With 47 multi-national industries having opened shop in the state in the last three years, Ogun State is now the industrial capital of Nigeria. According to Otunba Abimbola Ashiru, who handles the Commerce and Industry portfolio in the state, the new industries have altogether invested in excess of $8 billion in the state.

    The new manufacturing plants that have commenced production in Ogun State belong to the biggest industrial concerns in the world. These include May & Baker, Lafarge Wapco, Nestle, Procter and Gamble, Dangote Cement, among others. In the next few weeks, ten new industries, including Olams and Apple & Pears, will also join the train, as they are set to commission their industries. In fact, in the last three years, President Goodluck Jonathan had visited Ogun State three times to commission big industries. Today, Ogun state is the cement capital of Africa. With an annual total of 13 million metric tons of cement produced by Lafarge Wapco and Dangote Cement from their plants located in the state, (same as the total national production figure for South Africa), the state can rightly claim that appellation.

    While commissioning the Procter & Gamble Industry in Agbara, the largest American investment in Nigeria outside the oil sector, President Jonathan declared Ogun State as the most industrialized state in the country. Also, while commissioning the WEMPCO Steel Company Limited in Ibafo, the President praised the Amosun administration for creating the enabling atmosphere for industries to be trooping into the state. He added that in the nearest future, there will not be a single person who is willing to work but cannot get a job in Ogun State.

    The President’s testimony brings us back to the plan of the Amosun administration to systematically tackle the problem of unemployment among the youths, thereby laying a solid foundation for the socio-economic development of the state.

    •Olaniyonu is Commissioner for Information and Strategy, Ogun State

  • Walking in financial dominion! (2)

    Walking in financial dominion! (2)

    Last week, I showed you some platforms on which you can walk in financial dominion. This week, I will show you some examples of great lovers of God in scriptures, who walked in financial dominion. Some of them are:

    • ABRAHAM, the father of Faith 

    Abraham was said to be a friend of God. Note that love is the cord of friendship. Abraham was reported to be very rich(Genesis 13:2).The Bible says:…Abraham was old, and the Lord had blessed Abraham in all things (Genesis 24:1).

    • DAVID, a man after God’s own heart

       That is, a man with a heart for God (1 Samuel 13:14). David once testified:  …Because I have set my affection to the house of my God, I have of mine own proper good, of gold and silver, which I have given to the house of my God…(1 Chronicles 29:3). Every true lover of God enjoys his own proper good of gold and silver.

    • JOB, the God-addict

    Job was so much in love with God that he once said: Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him…(Job 13:15). We saw how much Job walked in financial dominion. The Bible records that he was the greatest of all men in the East (Job 1:1-3,8).

    • Solomon, the celebrated lover

    The Bible records that Solomon loved the Lord. He proved his love by offering to God a 1000 burnt offerings, which brought him into realms of financial dominion (1Kings 3:13). Note, no one can empower himself for financial dominion. Until God empowers us, we are utterly powerless. The story of one J.C. Penny validates this fact.

    J. C. Penny was an outstanding American entrepreneur. He owned J. C. Penny network of shopping malls across North America. But more importantly, he was a believer and a tither. However, at a point, he felt the volume of his tithe was becoming too much. Then he began to rationalize what he paid. Subsequently, his business began to go down, until he went bankrupt. But by the mercies of God, he was able to retrace his steps, and began to tithe his way back up. As a result, he supernaturally came out of his ordeal. He recovered his business back and enjoyed financial fortune, until he departed to be with the Lord.

    But Why does God bless His People?

    God blesses us so that we can be a blessing to His Kingdom, and to the world around us. That is why:

    •God will not bless anyone beyond his commitment to promoting His Kingdom (Matt. 6:33; Hag. 1:3-14).The story of John D. Rockefeller applies here. Rockefeller became a tither from the first pay cheque he received, till he went to be with the Lord at age 93. It was also reported that at one time, He gave a whooping sum of 140 million Dollars towards a university project of his church. No wonder, Rockefeller grew to be the first American billionaire in history!

    •God will not bless any man beyond his commitment to blessing the needy around him, because he that giveth to the poor shall not lack (Job 29:4-12).

    •God will not bless anyone beyond his commitment to impacting the nations with his fortune, because He has ordained every seed of Abraham to be a blessing to all the families of the earth. Therefore, start building a global dream of your financial fortune in Christ (Deut. 15:6; Deut. 28:12).

    Giving Priorities In The Covenant

    • Tithing: This is the capital demand for access to an open heaven, as it is the master key to a world of financial fortune (Malachi 3:10).Financial dominion is impossible without tithing.
    • Worship offering: We are admonished not to come into God’s presence empty-handed (Deuteronomy 16:16-17).
    • Kingdom promotion givings: Matthew 6:33; Haggai 1:3-14.
    • Giving to biological parents: Genesis 27:3/ 25-29; Exodus 20:12.
    • Giving to spiritual parents: Ephesians 6:1-2; 1 Corinthians 4:15.
    • Giving to the poor: Giving to the needy around us is a platform that empowers us for financial dominion (Job 29:4-12; Proverbs 28:27; Proverbs 19:17).
    • Giving for the common good: Genesis 22:17-18; Luke 10:30-36.
    • Giving to the ministers of the Word: There are blessings that accrue to us, when we give to men and women of God, who minister to our spiritual needs (Galatians 6:6-8; Luke 8:1-3; 1Corinthians 9:11; Romans 15:27). 

    Friend, the power to walk in financial dominion is available, if you are born again. You get born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are set for it, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. Today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus! Now I know I am born again!” I will be with you next week!

    I invite you to come and fellowship with us at the Faith Tabernacle, Canaan Land, Ota, the covenant home of Winners. We have four services on Sundays, holding at 6:00 a.m., 7:50 a.m., 9:40 a.m. and 11.30 a.m. respectively.

    I know this teaching has blessed you. Write and share your testimony with me through: Faith Tabernacle, Canaan Land, Ota, P.M.B. 21688, Ikeja, Lagos, Nigeria; or call 7747546-8; or E-mail: feedback@lfcww.org

  • Singles of purpose meet

    The interdenominational outreach, Singles of Purpose will hold a special service for singles and couples today.

    The summit takes place at Lamborghini Event Centre before the 3rd roundabout in Lekki Lagos.

    Time is 3pm-7pm.

    The host pastor, Solomon Ojigiri, said the summit will address practical issues affecting relationships from a biblical perspective.

  • ‘Teachers in mission schools need training’

    Teachers in mission schools must be trained and equipped well to raise godly children.

    This was the submission of the Principal of Christ the Redeemers College, Pastor Antoinette Omo-Osagie, at a breakfast meeting with parents.

    Teachers in mission schools, she said, must be retrained in the content of the Curriculum to enhance the performances of students.

    She attributed the recent dismal national performance in the WAEC examinations to lack of adequate training and motivation for teachers.

    According to Omo-Osagie:  “We should stop blaming students for poor performance rather the school authorities should look inward and organise workshop and training for teachers.

    “If teachers were properly trained, they would be able to teach the students with right materials.”

    She said that teachers must also be professionally qualified and competent in their subjects to make the right impacts.

    The school head explained that due to different assimilation levels among the students, the College has introduced e-learning (tablet) for the students.

    She said that book applications, past questions and national curriculum are in the tablet to enhance learning.

    She noted that there is no child that is not familiar with laptop or computer, we

    She advised parents to cooperate with the school management to bring out the best from the students while advising them against mounting pressure on their wards.

    The mandate of the school, she stated, is to raise godly children that will lead by examples.

  • ‘My life in a wheel chair’

    ‘My life in a wheel chair’

    After suffering severe spinal cord injury in an automobile mishap, Dr. Stella C. Iwuagwu, has devoted her life to pursuing her goal of being a voice of the voiceless. Currently an Assistant Professor at the School of Health Sciences, Cleveland State University, Cleveland Ohio, she was recently on the Carnegie African Diaspora Fellowship Programme to work with Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife, Osun State, She speaks with Assistant Editor, Joke Kujenya and Blessing Olisa, on how lonely and frustrating it is coping with a life-changing spinal cord injury, being dependent on others, among others.

    ALTHOUGH Stella Iwuagwu has been through experiences that warrant defeat, she continues to push through the obstacles in her life. Sleepless nights were a frustration for her son and daughter as they had to wake to turn her frequently to prevent pressure sores. As she narrated her story from the benefit of hindsight, she bemoaned, “you never can imagine how on the physical side, you, a once agile, go-getter, now has to daily depend on other people to do most of your life activities.”

    Starting from the end of the beginning, she said “Things that used to be so easy now became huge challenges, if not impossible to do them on my own. I had to think twice before I could venture to do anything. Things, walking and even getting up from my wheel chair seat, now take longer, despite having a team that help me. Many times, I have to surmount frustration while striving to get my ‘old life’ back, especially, when one once had a very promising life and now, one is close to being a vegetate. It was that bad”, she emphasised.

    The lady, now in her forties, was lively until an accident that left her paralyzed from the chest down after crushing her C1 and C2 vertebrae and was given a ventilator to breathe. She said “It was in 2007, I was travelling to Kano from Abuja. When we got to Zaria, our vehicle suddenly went out of control and we skidded. I don’t know exactly what the problem was. But it went out of control and we glided into a ravine close by. I knew I was unconscious for a while. After a while, I regained consciousness and saw that some people have already brought a Danfo bus, moved my driver into the bus and were trying to move me when I opened my eyes.”

    Asked if her driver was dead, she said “No, but he was slightly injured. Then, they tried to pull me out of the gully. But I was in so much pain. I was bleeding and my head was all thumping. But after they gently pulled me out, I realised I had so much pain at my back and somehow knew my spine was broken.” Recalling the number of people in the vehicle, she said “It was just me and the driver in my Toyota Camry. We had travelled all the way from Lagos to Abuja. But I needed to get to Kano from Abuja. The accident happened around Zaria, about two hours into our trip. I think the time was around 7pm because it was getting a little bit dark…that was all I could recall at that point.

    Hospital in Kano

    “COPING with excruciating pains can be extremely overwhelming even if it lasts a few minutes”, Iwuagwu intoned with a ting of tears in her eyes. “I was told they moved me to Ahmadu Bello University (ABU) Hospital, which was about five minutes’ drive from the accident point. But we could not be taken in because doctors were on strike at that time in 2007. So, we were moved to a maternity home. But all they could do was to stop my bleeding and administer some pain relief measures. One of the good Samaritans that stayed with us told me they said that an ambulance came the next day to move me to the National Hospital, Abuja. Believe me, at this point, I was numb and half gone. I didn’t know much of what was happening to me again. The task that took me to Kano automatically aborted.”

    At Abuja National Hospital (ANH)

    BLINKING off the tears forming in her eyes, Iwuagwu said “This is not about feeling sorry for myself. It is really about moving forward and making each day count. But it is also about wishing someone who has the power to do so will help correct the anomalies that got me to the point of living off others today. I recalled vividly that when we got to the ANH very early the next morning, I was taken straight into the emergency room and seen by a medical officer who immediately put a collar on my neck. Even though I was screaming that my back was broken, they just lifting me from one stretcher to another. Yet, with the little energy I could muster, I tried hard to make them realise the greater injury was on my back, not the neck. But they just continued what they were doing without regard to my cries. With the collar fixed, the official asked them to move me to the Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) and X-ray. So, the official there did all sorts, checked the spinal cord and the nerves. Later, I found he only wrote about my head and neck ignoring  any mention about my spine or lower back despite the fact that I kept weeping and in tears shouting my back was badly broken and hurting. So, that was how they did not diagnose my back injury that night.

    “The next day, they removed the collar because they discovered I didn’t have a neck injury. But they sent an orderly to move me to the Intensive Care Unit (ICU). By that next day, my voice had gotten weak. But the fear I was having persisted because the pain on my back had gotten to the dying point. It was much more unbearable. I didn’t know if there was no communication between the entire hospital and the ICU. It seemed as if I just showed up and didn’t  fit into their systems. I just can’t understand it all. Then, some nurses showed up and started asking ‘what is this’?; ‘who brought this patient here’? ‘We don’t have any space, we are just coming back’. And that was how they went back and forth. I just felt abandoned. I felt like shouting to tell them that I am also a trained nurse at the university. But it was only the little voice in me that was talking. I was now too weak to be heard. But I heard them so clearly well. And I wept bitterly.

    “Shortly after, they grudgingly admitted me into the ICU and I was promptly ignored. It was so bad that for three days, no one came into the room where I was or dare even asked me if I was hungry enough to be given any food. And for them to even give you a bedpan to pee, they had to lift me up. And for me with a broken back, you can imagine how crushing that would be. Again, nobody indicated that I had a broken back. So, they expected me to be grateful in the least that an hospital official, not a nurse or medical personnel, is even helping me with a bedpan. By that third day, a Consultant came and he asked me to lift my leg. And by this time, I only had tingling sensation on my leg and I was losing feelings progressively. I told him, sorry sir, I can’t lift my leg, they are dead. He looked at me surprisingly, and promptly asked for the MRI which was given to him. When he saw the result about my head and neck; he asked, where is the result of the check on this woman’s spine? They told him they didn’t take that. And he asked them angrily, why not? This is an accident victim. You should have taken that automatically. They had no answer. The man was furious. He then ordered MRI of my spine. And I started crying for the fear of being moved because my body was in pains and dying at the same time.

    “And well, you might want to say, thank God the man came. But it didn’t do me any good because by then, I could no longer lift my legs. The damage had already been done. I know if they had identified I had a spinal cord injury at the time I was brought in the next day from Kano, it could have saved me because there are certain measures they could have taken to avert the trauma I am currently in. In any case, even after they had ascertained that it was spinal cord injury, they told me they could only do ‘conservatory treatment’, meaning, they can only just wrap me in POP which I truly don’t know what help that could offer me. Eventually, another consultant was brought in because they didn’t have a nuero-surgeon and they requested for one from the Usman Dan Fodio (UDF) University Hospital to come to the ANH to help me. He then read the MRI and told me apologetically that apparently, they knew what to do but lacked the equipments to handle my case. I just laid there, crying.

    “It was on the fifth day that those I call ‘angels of mercy’, who had by the been searching for my whereabouts, Dr Mike Egbu, Dr Gaga, formerly of the Ford Foundation and Ms. Katheline Perry, formerly on US National Institute of Health (NIH), Nigeria, who was once my Director of Nursing Service when I worked as a nurse at the First Consultant, knew where I was. They didn’t ask me questions. They just came together, made enquiries at the ANH and told me that they had found a specialist hospital in Ghana where I could be taken for my legs’ surgery so it can be restored as much as possible. And believe me, I didn’t even know how my hospital bills were offset. It was much later I was told how they pulled resources together to settle all my bills including the N60,000 that was paid for the MRI. That’s all I could say on that.”

    Moving to Ghana

    NOTING that it was hard for her to describe her restless nights due to chronic back pain, Iwuagwu continued, “at the point I was to be moved to the Foundation for Complex and Orthopaedic Surgeries’ (FCOS) in Ghana, I was told one ANH doctor and a nurse were assigned to travel with me. Despite that, they had difficulty assigning an ambulance to move me to the Abuja airport. So, when Dr. Mike Egbu saw their reluctance of the ambulance driver, he shouted on him that if he refused to drive, he, Dr. Egbu, would drive it. So, it was a whole saga at the ANH. Eventually, we got to the airport, then, another problem arose. The doctor to go with me was nowhere to be found. When we expected him at the hospital, we thought he had plans to meet us at the airport. My suspicion was that they were afraid of their ANF, Chief Medical Director (CMD), because throughout the period of my stay at the hospital, he was at loggerheads with those that came to cater for me. It was even a hurdle for him to give me a referral letter on the hospital’s letterhead with his signature. He came one of the days and said with sarcasm, who is this Stella especially when he saw Dr. Egbu advocating for me. In fact, so many calls within and outside were made until one big shot spoke with him to give me the letter. So, the whole thing got the CMD repulsed at me. Dr Perry jumped into the plane as the second nurse. I remember I laid flat on my back because by the time I left the ANH, I have gotten paralysed up to my chest. Worse still, I could not even fathom the level of my injury at that time. So, I was gripped with terrifying fear because I don’t know how further worse it would become. I almost stopped breathing at some point because I had lost sensation. I couldn’t do anything for myself, lost my legs, and not able to feel my muscles again. I could only hear, and that, even faintly. So, they had really rush things by now and carry me completely. My talking had become so slow and hushed. But the point was, I could not advocate for myself. All I could do then was that at a time I was unable to find my voice; there were voices helping to fight my battle. And that brings tears of thankfulness to my eyes because I was not abandoned.

    “Our flight to Ghana was about two hours or so. And what made it prolonged was that somewhere along the line, it was like landing permission was not secured. So, we could not land for some time, hovering in the air, until we got the consent to land. However, by the time we disembarked the aircraft, surgeons with an ambulance were on ground to receive and whisk me away promptly to the theatre. And they would have done the surgery right away. But because it was a Sunday and due to all the delays we experienced, they did it first thing the next day, Monday. By the time they were through, they had fixed a metal on my back to support the bone and then, they did trans-section of the Laminectomy. Well, I wasn’t conscious of all they did. But the medical experts explained everything to me in details later. The doctor that started the whole process in Ghana at Kolebu Teaching Hospital, Dr. Hoanabe Boachi, is a special orthopaedic surgeon in New York, USA. He is the one that initiated that programme at the centre I was taken to. He then taught other surgeons in complex neuro and orthopaedic surgeries. They had a team assigned to ensure that all I needed were catered for.

    “Temporarily however, the pains I used to feel were all gone. But by the fifth day or so, I started experiencing another bout of crushing pains on back. It was so bad I suffered insomnia. And the surgeons came back, quite shocked and surprised to meet me in hot tears, crying and groaning. They ran series of tests and examinations again. When they poked any part of my body, I will yell in a shrilling way. They were not expecting me to have any pains other than usual humane feelings. And that was the beginning of my healing. Even though I was able to feel pains on my back, I still couldn’t lift any part of my body. They administered more treatments, told me that they had done the best surgery that can ever be prescribed for someone in my situation in any part of the world. Two weeks after, they had to discharge me for onward recuperation, continued therapy and rehabilitation in the United States of America (USA)…

     Recovering in USA

    According to medical reports, a person with spinal degeneration often experiences stiffness in the back. In Iwuagwu’s case, Ghanaian surgeons had begun the healing process by trying to get her out of bed, to sit up and handled her like a little baby. She said “Even when they got me up, I would simply collapse back. People had to hold me on both sides. I had my younger sister and a personal nurse that flew with me at the hospital. And that made things a lot easier. Now, during the period of pains, I never knew I was easing out wastes. But after the surgery, I felt pressed to ease and realised I couldn’t push it out. And a nurse had to do it for me. She had to put her hand into my bowels to draw it out. It was all so awful. I felt for her but she seemed unperturbed. They put me on a daily and timed routine bowel programming. But I could only feel pains on my back.

    “And that pains hasn’t gone away till today. Indeed, the doctors told me the pains will live with me for life. They call it neurogenic pains because my nerves are continuously firing with nothing to control them. According to them, it is all part of the nerve damage. So, the movement to USA was the next best thing for me because my two children, daughter, 21, and son, were there. Plus, they felt I would get better handling there especially as my surgery was monitored by a US-based doctor. When the pains was increasing after some time, they did another surgery on my back again. And they gave me a Spinal Stimulator by inserting some electrodes, electronic gadgets that would intercept the firing nerves only to reduce the pains. So it acts like little tingling on my back and that takes over the pains. And this helps but doesn’t take away the pains totally.”

     

    Back to school on a wheel chair

    Having a back surgery can be a tough choice. On average, people consider this only after all other treatments have failed to provide relief. “It was a choice I could not even make but others made for me. And it taught me that you don’t know what you have until you lose it. But what kept me going was the fact that I am alive. And it is even a big miracle for me to retain the little functions that I still have. So, I am rejoicing in God for the things that I can do, one of which is to return to college to complete my PhD programme.

    “My life was like a whole reversal, I became the baby while my children became my parents. They made sure I ate, pooped and I was well kept. In the middle of the night, I call on them when I needed anything. But amid that, we had so much humour to keep me going and which we also used as therapy for all of us. It wasn’t until my daughter did essay for her college when she revealed that she cries only when she gardens that I knew she ever wept over our situation. She cried because my voice that used to prompt them to let us go garden was not being heard no more. She was now the one calling on her brother. So, the garden became her space to express herself to mother nature.

    “And so, here I am confined to a wheel chair, my CRH project in Nigeria, running well under my younger sister’s care, who took on the vision and ran with it, it now has projects across 13 states in the country. But for years, my financial life grounded. But suffice to say that all I have needed, the Lord has provided. Prior to the accident, I was at the Southern Illinois University. Then, I had less than six months to be through with school and hoped to graduate by the end of that year 2007. When the accident happened, my immediate goal was survival. And rather than just trying to walk and seeking healthcare, I felt the need to go and complete my PhD. Yet, I had to register for 16 credit hours and research hours that I didn’t need. I also had to be a full student to benefit the health care benefits. Somehow, I was able to get the Walker Residential Fellowship for three times, which ordinarily, was often won just once. And that helped in paying for my school fees. I also had my medical therapy paid for by the university. With a number of research to conduct by a woman that could barely sit up, I had a formidable duty. However, with the support of God, families in and out of the USA, wonderful friends and colleagues, I did my programme, got my PhD and eventually won the Carnegie African Diaspora Fellowship Programme that brought me to Nigeria, years after my tribulations”.

     

  • Inside the world of troubled  marriages of preachers

    Inside the world of troubled marriages of preachers

    The news of the divorce case between Pastor Chris Oyakhilome and his wife of 23 years, Anita, is the latest of shocking marital breakdowns among Nigerian preachers. Sunday Oguntola writes on many pastors opting for the courts despite the many negative implications. 

    IT perhaps only came to public knowledge penultimate weekend. However, to many the seed had been planted as far back as 1999. The then 30-year old Anita Oyakhilome decided she had had enough. Her young marriage was turbulent. The husband was hardly in town. When around, he was always busy with ministry works with too many “ladies in skimpy skirts” lurking around, according to a former domestic staff.

    Anita, according to multiple sources, was drained and exhausted. She had two young girls to cater for all alone. The strain of raising them and working in the church weighed her down. She craved for her husband’s attention but couldn’t get it. He was just damn too busy with church works. The presence of too many ladies in his office also left her spent.

    Then one day, she decided to quit the marriage. “She wanted out since she was not getting emotional support. She felt she was not loved enough and was becoming a pain for her husband. She asked to call the marriage quit but her husband would not hear of it. He said it would destroy his ministry and church. He was willing to negotiate and Anita felt comfortable with the proposal he offered,” a family source confided in our correspondent last week.

    The proposal, according to Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, founder of Christ Embassy Church with headquarters in Lagos, was to dispatch his wife to Woolwich, South London with their two daughters, Sharon and Charlyn. The relocation will give the flamboyant pastor “a breathing space and sanity of mind to move the ministry forward,” a church source confirmed.

    On her part, it would allow Anita to express her prodigious gifts and fulfill her calling. She was to pioneer the UK branch of the church. She had always complained of being underrated and overlooked in the schemes of things. She felt she had a calling and deserved more in the then budding church. For the couple, it was a win–win situation. The husband would have his space while the wife would be able to prove her calling.

    That development more or less led to the physical separation of the popular couple. The flamboyant husband had all the time and space to expand the church. He travelled without any restraint. The number of ladies around his Lagos office codenamed ‘White House’ increased significantly. The church grew in leaps and bounds, opening branches within and outside the country.

     

    Free at last

    Anita also settled down in her new abode free from the emotional strains in Lagos. She devoted her time to building the church to a force to be reckoned with. The branch she built from the scratch became the Europe’s headquarters of the church, raking in remarkable revenues and breaking new records. “It was like she came in prepared. She gave her all. South London became her territory. Her amiable personality and beautiful mien attracted people. She was the new kid on the block,” a founding member of the church, who identified herself as Isabella, informed.

    Pastor Chris, as members fondly called him, noticed the strides his wife was making. He felt justified with his proposal. The wife was breaking barriers in Europe while he was making headways in South Africa. He made occasional visits to the UK branch to the delight of his wife and new members.

    But while their church was making remarkable progress, the union was cracking and failing. Separated by thousands of miles on two continents, the popular couple drifted from each other. It became a marriage of convenience with intimacy taking a serious dip. “Both of them were happy that at least the church was growing and raking in revenues. They just forgot their marriage and became more or less business associates,” another source explained.

    The couple’s smiling faces dotted Rhapsodies of Reality, the church’s popular devotional. But deep within, all was far from well. There was tension and suspicion between them. They masked all of these with excited public appearances. A former pastor in the church said: “They felt they just had to keep a bold face for the sake of the church and themselves. They were making money and thought that was enough to get going.”

    Though Anita was taken care of, her emotional stability remained a challenge. She wanted her husband around for the growing daughters. “There were days she cried and cried with no shoulder to lean on. Fine, there was money but where was the man? She wanted him around desperately but he was busy crisscrossing the globe,” a friend to the wife hinted.

    Last April, she finally filed for divorce. The case was filed at Divorce Section A, Central Family Court, First Avenue House, High Holborn, London, UK, on Anita’s behalf by Attwaters Jameson Hill Solicitors. The development became a public knowledge penultimate weekend when The Cable, an online publication broke the news.

    Investigations revealed that the months leading to the filing of the case were really stormy for the couple. Anita, it was learnt, became aggrieved in November 2013 when she was shut out of the church. Her husband, sources said, became enraged when she allegedly started making demands and claiming equality. He accused her of planning to usurp authority and being rude to senior pastors of the church.

     

    His reaction was to seize the church from her. Anita, on her parts, felt she had contributed enough to be so recognised. She wanted more visible presence in the schemes of things and thought she was being shut out. Sources close to her stated that having pioneered the UK branch to stardom, she should have been further elevated despite being the Vice President of Believers’ Love World Incorporated. The power tussle between husband and wife spiraled to several confrontations and accusations.

     

    The storm came

    Last May, Pastor Chris decided to frontally address the issue in a meeting with pastors and elders of the UK church. “Bitterness is prolonged and accumulated anger. My wife is always angry and bitter,” he told the stunned pastors.

    “Some pastors’ wives think when they marry a pastor; they are equals to the pastors. My wife thinks so. As a matter of fact, Rev. Tom was her pastor before I married her and Rev. Ray and Evang. Owase were her leaders long before I married her. How come she thinks she’s senior to them now?” he stated. (The two reverends are pastors in the church).

    To put her where she rightly belongs, Oyakhilome declared: “I already started Christ Embassy before I married her. I didn’t marry her and said we should start Christ Embassy. I was already pastoring. I already set my sail and knew my direction before I married her. I only said come and help me.”

    The public accusations meant nothing again to Anita, who had already filed for divorce. She knew her husband was going for her jugular and cared less. Long before the suit was filed, Anita had been prevailed upon to reconsider. “Pastor was willing to make peace because of the backlashes on the ministry and their daughters. He begged her but she had made up her mind,” a source in Pastor Chris’ camp hinted.

    The charismatic preacher reportedly offered to give her more attention and visibility but Anita, it was learnt, could not trust him again. “She realised he wouldn’t change. He was just pleading to save his face and image,” one of her friends stated. To her, the divorce was a fait accompli. “Even when some concerned ministers outside the church intervened, things were already out of hands. She just wanted out and wanted to really hit back at him for years of suffering,” she added.

    It was learnt that Anita perfectly timed her fight back. The first daughter, Sharon was going to be 21. She clocked 21 on August 11 and threw a bikini party in London for her friends. Sharon is a UK-based gospel singer with the stage name CSO formed from Carissa Sharon Oyakhilome. Her younger sister, Charlyn, is already 18, old enough to understand the messy affairs. Their understanding, it was learnt, convinced Anita to finally go ahead with the suit.

    The daughter of a former MD/CEO of Nigerian Deposit Insurance Corporation (NDIC), Mr. John Ebhodaghe, Anita met Pastor Chris in the former Edo State University now Ambrose Alli University where she studied English. Her mother is Swiss and she is the first in a family of five children.

    Since the news broke, officials of the church have maintained complete silence. All efforts to extract official comments proved abortive. But Oyakhilome is not one to take such affront without a fight back. Checks revealed he has removed the profile and picture of his wife from the church’s official website, www.christembassy.org. His personal website also no longer has her picture and profile. They have been replaced with those of popular gospel singer, Sinach, who worships in the church.

     

    Like Oyakhilome, like others

    Their messy divorce case has brought to the fore again the unexpected marital turmoil of preachers and church founders. Some of the affected preachers include Pastor Chris Okotie, Bishop Bola Odeleke, Pastor Olumide Emmanuel, Evangelist Wunmi Owolabi and Pastor Eze Ofoegbu, among others. (See catalogue of Nigeria’s pastor-divorcees for details).

    These celebrated marital spats ruffled not a few feathers. As it is in the wider world, indications have, however, emerged that Oyakhilome’s case might not be the last among preachers in the country. Several others, according to findings, are working towards breaking their marital vows. Many who married before they became preachers now consider their wives unsuitable for their new status.

    “To some, these women are no longer suitable because many of them were married before ministerial calling came. They feel they have made mistakes and desire someone with ministerial outlook,” Pastor Bisi Adewale, a marriage counselor stated. He, however, said such consideration is terrible. “Even if you married an unbeliever and became a pastor, you must stay married. You have a responsibility to pray and work for her conversion instead of leaving her,” the televangelist stated.

    For those who think their wives no longer match their status in life and ministry, Pastor Taiwo Odubiyi said such preachers must ensure they brush them up. “Even if she is way below your standard, you up her level. Carry her along as you grow in life and ministry. Bring her to your level. You have married and there is nothing you can do about it,” she advised.

    Church growth consultant, Dr. Francis Bola Akin-John, is of the opinion that there is no going back once Christians get married.

    While stating that divorce is never an option for gospel ministers, Akin-John said: “There is no room for divorce at all. Pastors divorce a lot today because they have committed a lot of errors. These days, most of our pastors are not real men who can fight for their homes. When there is what they term ‘irreconcilable differences’, they look for every reason to get out of the marriage.”

    He added: “Once you are married, you must remain married. You must fight for that marriage. You must adjust to each other. You must be willing to offer sacrifices for your marriage. You must not do what only pleases you but learn to adjust to your partner’s personality.”

    The question most outside the pastorate ask is: “If iron gold rusts what will iron do?” In other words, if those who preach patience and endurance in marriage can’t live by what they preach, what will the flocks do?