Tag: Adultery

  • Court dissolves six years marriage over pride, adultery

    Court dissolves six years marriage over pride, adultery

    An Ile-Ife Customary Court on Thursday dissolved the six-year-old marriage between Sunday Adelakun and his wife, Rasidat over adultery and pride.

    The President of the court, Chief Abioye Olatunbosun, in his judgement, dissolved the marriage and ordered that there would be no refund of dowry.

    Olatunbosun awarded the custody of the two children to the respondent and admonished her to take them to government hospital whenever any of them fell sick.

    He also ordered that the petitioner should pay N3, 000 every month per child for the upkeep of the children as well as take full responsibility of their education.

    The court advised both parties to give peace a chance and desist from causing trouble henceforth.

    The husband had on November 2, urged the court to dissolve their union for alleged adultery, uncooperative attitude, pride and constant fighting.

    He told the court that they got married in 2009 and the marriage was blessed with two children namely – Seyi, five, and Imole, 11 months.

    “My wife is fun of adultery, giving me no rest of mind since we got married and has no courtesy or respect for me and my family.

    “Am tired of her, there was a time her boyfriend attacked me, he would have killed me if not for God, to the extent that I was hospitalised.

    “If I delay the divorce, she would eventually kill me and marry her concubine,’’ he said.

     

  • Publisher arraigned for ‘adultery’ report against bank chief

    The Police Special Fraud Unit (SFU) yesterday arraigned the publisher of Best of Nollywood magazine, Mr Seun Oloketuyi at the Federal High Court in Lagos over a story that Fidelity Bank Managing Director Nnamdi Okonkwo impregnated a staff.

    He was accused of publishing the report on his website – www.naijahottestgist.com.

    Oloketuyi, who is the organiser of the yearly Best of Nollywood Awards (BON), was arraigned on a two-count charge.

    Count One reads in part: “That you, Seun Oloketuyi on or about June, 2015 did knowingly or intentionally send a message and other matters by means of computer systems or network on one Nnamdi Okonkwo the Managing Director/CEO of Fidelity Bank Plc which you know to be false, for the purpose of causing him annoyance, insult and ill-will on www.naijahottestgist.com.”

    In Count Two, Oloketuyi was accused of publishing “defamatory matters” against Okonkwo “with malice” while knowing that the information was false.

    Prosecution counsel Olakanmi Omisope, said the alleged offence contravened Section 24(1)(b) of the Cybercrime (Prohibition) Act, 2015 and Section 375 of the Criminal Code Act, Cap C38.

    Oloketuyi pleaded not guilty.

    The story claimed that Okonkwo impregnated the bank’s “top marketer” known as Justina, which resulted in her husband, Ben, leaving their matrimonial home. The story also claimed that Okonkwo took responsibility for the children’s welfare and schooling.

    Oloketuyi had apologised and retracted the story via www.bestofnollywood.tv, saying: “Naijahottestgist hereby apologises to the Managing Director, Mr. Nnamdi Okonkwo and the management of Fidelity Bank Plc over a story published on www.Naijahottestgist.com on June 18 and titled “Fidelity Bank MD, Nnamdi Okonkwo breaks Justina’s home, impregnates her”, where we had erroneously alleged that Mr Okonkwo was having an extra marital affair with Mrs Justina, the Head of Marketing team of the bank.

    “Regrettably, Naijahottestgist has discovered that the story wasn’t true as there was never a time Mr Nnamdi Okonkwo indulged in an extra marital affair with the said staff member, Justina.

    “We hereby tender our unreserved apology to Mr Nnamdi Okonkwo and the entire management of Fedelity Bank Plc.

    “Similarly, we hereby retract the story and appeal to all bloggers and news site that might have copied the story from Naijahottestgist to remove the story with immediate effect.”

    Justice Mohammed Yunusa adjourned to September 1.

  • Court dissolves 17 years marriage over adultery

    An Osogbo Grade II Customary Court on Tuesday dissolved the 17-year-old marriage between Funmilayo Kareem and her husband Saliu, over adultery.

    In his judgment, the President of the court, Chief Bolarinwa Popoola, held that the marriage ended when the petitioner left the respondent’s house had a child for another person.

    “Adultery is and has always been a major cause of divorce. This marriage is hereby dissolved with immediate effect,’’ he held.

    Popoola awarded custody of the children who were above the legal age of six to the respondent and granted the petitioner right of access to see the children at any time.

    Funmilayo, a mother of three, had urged the court to dissolve the marriage on the ground that her husband was a dirty man and always cursed her whenever they fought.

    “The major reason why I want to divorce him is that he is a dirty man, and he fights and curses me a lot.

    “I do not know how I became his wife, only God knows, I was forced to marry him, until now, I do not know his people.

    “About two years ago, he told me to follow him to a prophet, I refused to go, so he asked me to leave and I moved out since 2012 and we have been separated since then,” she said.

    Kareem denied all the allegations and urged the court to grant his wife’s request.

    “It is not true that she was forced to marry me; we knew each other for about a year before I married her.

    “We even went to pay her bride price to her family. What actually happened was that she became adulterous and I reported her to her parents, they denied it.

    “She claimed to be attending vigils, but I got to know that she was sleeping about; I once did not allow her to go for the vigil but she insisted and left without my permission.

    “I went to the pastor and asked of her, the pastor denied seeing her and he called her, which was when she said she told me a lie to
    leave the house.

    “The reason why she came to court is that she has a child for another man, she even left my house with the pregnancy,” he said.

  • Is adultery lawful in Tiv land?

    Is adultery lawful in Tiv land?

    It has taken me more than a decade to make up my mind on writing this article, knowing the passion it is likely to generate, no thanks to the sensitive nature of the topic. At a point, I even played with the idea of not doing any public write up on the subject matter. However, the sheer ferocity and consistency of the misinformation being peddled around and the risk of not standing up against this deliberate falsehood against my clan (and vicariously, perhaps, against me) while I am yet alive and the greater risk of going to join my Creator at His appointed time without countering this public lie have all made me damn the consequences and send this article for publication.

    It all started in 1987 in a criminal complaint of adultery, in the case of Tofi vs. Uba (1987) 3 NWLR (Pt. 62) 707 C.A. In this case, the appellant had filed a private criminal prosecution for adultery against the 1st respondent in the Magistrate’s Court, contrary to section 387 of the Penal Code. It must be noted that under this penal provision, a man can only be guilty of adultery if he is “subject to any native law or custom in which extra-marital sexual intercourse is recognised as a criminal offence.” This provision was one of the compromise provisions of the Penal Code at the time of its enactment, which balanced Sharia law with native law and custom, as both religions or customs held sway in the then Northern Nigeria.

    When the charge against the 1st respondent came up, his counsel raised objection that the charge did not disclose any offence known to law, contrary to section 33(12) of the 1979 Constitution – the equivalent of section 36(12) of the 1999 Constitution, as amended. At that relevant time, the Local Government (Declaration of Tiv Customary Marriage) Order, 1985 was in force; and section 25(1)(f) thereof provided that “any person who detained a wife duly married under this Declaration for any reason or purposes whatsoever against the wish of the husband”  was guilty of an offence.

    In view of this, the learned trial Magistrate dismissed the objection and called upon the 1st respondent to take his plea. Rather than do so, he applied to the High Court for judicial review, pursuant to section 33(12) of the 1979 Constitution. The High Court granted his reliefs and quashed the charge. The appellant’s appeal to the Court of Appeal was dismissed on rather technical grounds. That Court held that since the Local Government (Declaration of Tiv Customary Marriage) Order, 1985, did not prohibit adultery in express terms but merely criminalised wrongful detention of a married woman against her husband’s wish, section 33(12) of the 1979 Constitution was rightly invoked by the 1st respondent; because this meant adultery per se was not a crime in Tiv land. The Court of Appeal also rejected the need for oral evidence to be called.

    It was this judgment that laid the unfortunate foundation for the scandalous, ever-blossoming and tendentious falsehood that adultery in lawful in Tiv land. This barefaced lie is even widened to include a very silly assertion that ‘when you visit a Tiv man, he will offer you his wife’! What a monstrous and pith-of-hell assertion! Not even domestic or wild animals tolerate strangers or lesser males going near their female partners (and not even wives); talk more of the naturally well and strongly-built (chemistry-wise) and ultra-proud Tiv man!

    Before I proceed further, I wish to submit that in the whole of Southern Nigeria, adultery remains a moral offence as opposed to a criminal offence. So, are we on this basis alone going to say adultery is not a criminal offence or is lawful in Southern Nigeria? I think not, with due respect.

    In my mental agony of trying to repel this rapaciously-growing corporate lie against my clan (and vicariously against me), I dug deep into some fork lore and traditional songs. Two songs readily came to my mind.The first is this: “Aberanyi, ikurche, or van nya kpa ka gbidi nan; Ikurche, Terem O, or van nya ta abeda icul.” This, translated, means: “Aberanyi, let me give you information (ikurche”), even a visitor can be beaten; more information (“ikurche”) my dear father, your visitor tied your wife’s wrapper.” This is a clear indication that while Aberanyi the father was not around, the visitor misbehaved with the wife and there was need to teach the visitor the lesson of his life!

    The second song goes thus: “Baba o-o, Baba u yem ke zende yo, or nyor sha yough i Aya la, or yav sha gambe u Aya; Aya ka a daa or; or a daa Aya, cho i gba ga Aya yav gadeaa, kwaghbo.” Everybody knows the meaning of “Baba.” The interpretation, therefore is thus: Father, while you travelled, a stranger entered into your elder wife’s (Aya’s) hut, sat on her bed and the two of them started pushing each other until after a while, Aya, the old women lay weak; it is an abomination (kwaghbo). Of course, the consequence of such kwaghbo or abomination could only be imagined!

    My findings and views above were recently confirmed by no other person than the Tor Tiv, HRM Dr. Alfred Akawe Torkula, the paramount traditional ruler of the Tiv worldwide, in his book, The Tiv Woman: Challenges and Prospects, published by the Aboki Publishers in 2009, the foreword of which was written by no less a personality than HE Rt. Hon. Gabriel Suswam, the Executive Governor of Benue State, himself a Tiv. Writing in his capacity as the chief custodian of Tiv cultural values, HRM submitted on pages 21-22, under the banner FIDELITY, as follows:

    “The challenges of the pre-colonial Tiv woman were enormous. She had to be faithful to her husband at all times. Like the Idoma of Central Nigeria who dragged their wives before alekwu for adulterous confession, as reported by Shishima (2008), the pre-colonial Tiv woman faced the same situation … married women were subjected to periodic concoction-drinking rituals to determine their fidelity in marriage … It was an exercise in morality which brought honour, respect and good reputation to the husband on one hand and the parents of the woman on the other. Any adulterous woman who dared to drink the concoction risked instant death if relevant deities were not appeased or propitiated.”

    And concluding on the effect of Christianity on the moral life of the Tiv woman, HRM summed up on page 41 of the book as follows:

    “No less obedient to her husband, educated, feminine in structure, comely in looks, stately in gait, and faithful among other equals, more than any woman in Nigeria, the Tiv woman today yearns and aspires for the best that is available for the womenfolk…. Through evangelisation, her belief in tsav and akombo (wizardry) has been replaced by the Christian Biblical teaching of the Almighty God … The Christian God has become central in the belief system of the Tiv people as a whole.”

    What a truism! If over 95 per cent (by my estimation) of Tiv people are Christians, where then is the place for adultery?

    My research has further shown me that a man reacts angrily, call it fatally, to infidelity of his wife or partner. The Tiv man is not an exception. Two recently reported cases will support this. In Sugh vs. State (1988) 2 NWLR (Pt. 77) 475 S.C., the appellant, a Tiv man, murdered in broad daylight a foreigner for flirting with his Philippine girlfriend in Makurdi, Benue State. He was sentenced to death, which sentence was confirmed by the Supreme Court.  More recently, the Court of Appeal confirmed the death sentence of another Tiv man in far away Osun State, who had murdered a native of that State for flirting with his wife. This was in the case of Ahungur vs. State (2012) 12 NWLR (Pt. 1313) 187 C.A.   Admittedly, every society has deviants, sinners and immoral persons. Tiv land cannot be an exception till our Lord returns in His Glory to take His saints to heaven. But I oppose the lie growing like wildfire that adultery is lawful or even tolerated in Tiv land. This is an intolerable lie. It must die a natural death. Now! God bless the Tiv nation.

     

    •Hon is an Abuja-based lawyer

     

  • Husband wants 30-year-old marriage dissolved

    A 60-year-old husband, Mr.Abdullahi Saka on Monday prayed a Customary Court sitting in Ado-Ekiti, to dissolve his 30-year-old marriage to Mrs Iyadun Abdullahi, for allegedly committing adultery.

    Saka told the court that apart from committing adultery, his wife was frequently fighting him and some of their neighbours.

    He said that the 30-year-old marriage had produced two males and two females, who are now grown up.

    Counsel to the petitioner, Mr Ajibade Abubakar, told the court that neither Mrs Iyadun Saka nor her counsel had appeared in court since their first appearance in 2011.

    Ajibade said that the estranged wife had since returned all her husband’s property in her possession, “which shows that she is no longer interested in the marriage’’.

    The Court’s President, Mr Joseph Ogunsemi, ruled that there was nothing the Court could do now since the defendant was absent or not present in the Court at the time of its sitting.

    He adjourned the case to Oct. 28 for further hearing. (NAN)