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  • Ambode, Wike preach love, friendship, peace

    Ambode, Wike preach love, friendship, peace

    Governors Akinwumi Ambode (Lagos) and Nyesom Ezenwo Wike (Rivers) have urged  Nigerians to use this year’s Christmas to promote love, friendship, peace and reconciliation.

    Ambode, in his Christmas message signed by his Chief Press Secretary, Mr Habib Aruna, said the season symbolises love, care and compassion for persons, especially the weak, vulnerable and less-privileged.

    According to him, his message to everyone at this period is to put a smile on the face of persons who may not necessarily be able to pay them back.

    “Christmas is a season that explains the depth of God’s love for mankind and exemplary sacrifice that we should emulate in our relationship with our neighbours irrespective of status and creed.

    “This season is another opportunity to increase our acts of kindness and touch the less privileged in our society.

    “Therefore, this Christmas means so much more than just mere merriment. It is a veritable avenue to extend love to the less-privileged who are disadvantaged in several ways.

    “In this special season therefore, I urge you all to spread love and be our brother’s keeper. Let us reach out to those who struggle to provide for their families. Let us put smiles on the faces of the weak and vulnerable. This is the real essence of Christmas,” Ambode said.

    He said the last 12 months brought about different challenging situations which combined to make both residents and the state stronger, just as he expressed optimism that Lagos would get even better in the New Year.

    “Our hope is based on our unshaken faith in the grace of God, the solid foundation which we have laid in terms of infrastructure development and renewal.

    “It is also based on the policies and programmes which we have put in place to positively impact on the social and economic well being of our people,” he said.

    Ambode commended residents for the peaceful atmosphere the state had enjoyed over the years and urged them to emulate Jesus Christ and embrace peace and continue to pray for continued peace in the state.

    “We shall continue to pray for continued peace in Lagos; we shall continue to pray for increased prosperity of our people.

    “We shall not relent in our prayers for Lagos to continue in its path of accelerated and unprecedented growth and we shall look forward to more of your prayers, now, in the New Year and beyond.

    “Our government appreciates the spirit of tolerance and cooperation which has provided the enabling environment for growth and development in Lagos State.

    In a Christmas Message, Wike said the season exemplifies love, advising that Nigerians should always  love one another.

    He urged Rivers people to use this year’s Christmas to erect  platforms  of love, peace  and reconciliation for the greater development of the state.

    The governor advised Rivers people to pray for the state to enjoy greater peace for the state government  to consolidate on her developmental programmes  that have made the state first amongst equals.

    He assured the people of the state that he would remain  focused in his delivery of pro-people projects and programmes to improve their standard of living. .

  • MICHAEL EMENALO: How I struck up friendship with Roman Abramovich

    MICHAEL EMENALO: How I struck up friendship with Roman Abramovich

    Nigeria’s former international, Michael Emenalo, arrived in Chelsea in 2007 as a scout and in four years he had become the second most influential person – answerable to only one man – Roman Abramovich, the owner of the current English Premier League champions.

    Few, even in the EPL, know just how powerful the Nigerian has become. However, the reality is that the 51-year-old was arguably Abramovich’s most trusted employee and the Russian billionaire entrusted Chelsea’s resurgence into his hands.

    Once, he fell out with Jose ‘the Special One’ Mourinho, and the loquacious coach had to bow to his superior argument. At other time, Abramovich declined to accept his resignation and when he eventually left after 10 years in the club, he left a gaping emptiness to be filled.

    The Abia State-born football man, as a matter of fact, stated that two things worked for him at Chelsea: “One, making friends come very easy. When I played for Lleida in Spain, I also made friends with Juande Ramos, my coach there, and at a point he wanted to take me to Tottenham Hotspur. We are still friends today.

    “I also made friendship with Avram Grant in Israel and it was Grant who encouraged me to come to Chelsea when I was working for some soccer academy and I started recruiting for Chelsea. I was involved with Mikel Obi transfer from Lyn in 2005, and Grant said I should come full time to restructure the youth programme, which is the kind of things I love to do.”

    “Secondly, I take my job seriously, even as a player, I tried to be active even outside the field. That I am considered the second most powerful person in Chelsea is flattering. I wanted to build something good for myself and since I was given the opportunity in Chelsea I had to give it all I had. I guess that paid off nicely for me. (Roman) Abramovich loved what I was doing and he encouraged me. He wants to build a great team. He is a great boss and friend too.”

    The graduate from Boston University, in this online interview with TAIWO ALIMI, speaks more on his closeness with his former boss at Chelsea, as well as the legacy he left as the club’s former technical director. Excerpts…

    How was  growing up in Nigeria and picking up football along the way like?

    I used to kick football around a lot while in Nigeria and that landed me in the school team. By 1985 I signed for Rangers International, one of the biggest teams in Nigeria. However, what I really wanted to do was further my education abroad. So when we (Nigeria) failed to qualify for the World Cup in 1986, I decided to move to pursue my dream of an education in the United States.

    You played for your college in the U.S, what was the experience like?

    I travelled to the U.S at a tender age and was focused on educating myself at Boston University, but I could not hide my football talent and soon became an integral part of the soccer team. I was one of the first African players to star in US College Soccer. Upon graduation, I would have gone ahead to becoming a lawyer because I got good grades, but after a lengthy talk with my mentor, I opted for a professional football career, especially with offers coming from Europe. I went to Molenbeek in Belgium and had a great time there playing through four seasons and that helped me to team up with Nigeria at our first World Cup in 1994.

    After the World Cup, I moved around a lot. I was in Germany, England, moved back to the U.S when MLS kicked off, and Spain, before heading to Israel to Maccabi Tel Aviv. I guess that helped me to gain the experience that I needed to survive as an agent.

    It is said that you were the second most powerful person in Chelsea and influenced the appointment of key coaches like Avram Grant, whom you met in Israel

    Grant is not the only coach that I’ve worked with and have developed long-time friendship with. It is who I am. I take my job seriously, even as a player, and I tried to be active even outside the field. Of course I knew I would be going into scouting and coaching after my active days and I told myself why I needed to begin to learn the trip early. When I played for Lleida in Spain, I also made friends with Juande Ramos, my coach there, and we are still friends today. At a point, he wanted to take me to Tottenham Hotspurs. Making friends comes very easy.

    Grant encouraged me to come to Chelsea when I was working for some soccer academy and I started recruiting for Chelsea. I was involved with Mikel Obi transfer from Lyn in 2005. I was recruiting, and Grant said I should come full time to restructure the youth programme, which is the kind of things I love to do.

    That I am considered the second most powerful person in Chelsea is flattering. I wanted to build something good for myself and since I was given the opportunity in Chelsea I had to give it all I had. I guess that paid off nicely for me. (Roman) Abramovich loved what I was doing and he encouraged me. He wants to build a great team. He is a great boss and friend too.

    You are now out of Chelsea, how difficult a decision was it for you to take?

    After 10 years here, 10 wonderful, successful years, but very demanding years, it is a very tough decision to decide to step aside. It is entirely my decision and it has come about for very simple reasons. I need an opportunity to get to see my young kids grow and also to step back and reflect on the work that I have done here and the things that we have been able to accomplish together in this great club.

    So a tough decision to come to, is it something that has been weighing on your mind for some time?

    It is something I have been thinking about for quite some time now and it is something I have discussed with my family and they understand the reasons and the timing for wanting to step aside. But this is not a knee-jerk reaction or decision. It has been on my mind and it has been thoroughly discussed amongst friends and colleagues that this is what I wanted to do and I am very grateful that the club has given me ample time to reflect on that decision and to be sure; which is testament to the respect and the admiration that I have always enjoyed at this club.

    It has been an incredible 10 years and of course you leave behind some very close friends and colleagues as well…

    I think, professionally, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that this is a good time for me to step aside and let the club continue to move forward. The club is in good hands, an outstanding board of directors, a very generous owner, one of the best coaches in world football who I know from personal day-to-day interaction who cares about his work and about the club, an Academy that is the best in the world bar none, a ladies team, and programme that is evolving at rapid and successful speed. There is so much to be proud of in this club. But the time has come for me to also take a step aside and consider some personal growth, which I think at my age and after 10 years of demanding, gruelling and all-encompassing work, is very necessary.

    What were some of your achievements as technical director?

    The first thing I would like to say is that I have been very, very lucky. When you work in this organisation, you are lucky because you are surrounded by very talented and very experienced and intelligent people. I have been one of the biggest beneficiaries of that working from the top down. I have had incredible support staff. I’ve had a set-up in so many different areas that can only bring success. At the Academy, we have an Academy manager who is absolutely outstanding. We have a scouting network that was revolutionary; people are copying some of the things that we did. We have managed to improve our opposition scouting department and the recruitment of players. There are so many things outside of the technical area which I am aware of that have also grown and improved exponentially.

    But the ultimate ambition and ultimate goal of this football club has always been to win, and the totality of the wins that we’ve had – whether it’s the Champions League, or the Premier League, or the Europa League, the Ladies’ Premier League and cups, the Academy, those young men winning back-to-back youth Champions Leagues – they have all been achievements that I am very proud of, and I’m proud of it because it’s not just an achievement by me or that has just my influence, it’s an achievement that is the totality of everybody’s work.

    As you look forward, what were the legacies during your time at Chelsea?

    I think I would like to be seen as someone who was very dedicated to the job, who loved the people he worked with and who loved the club. I was speaking to a friend earlier and alluding to the fact that to support Chelsea Football Club, work for this club and love this club, to share and revel in the dramas, especially the successful ones of winning trophies, is very addictive. My family and I have enjoyed that addiction, and I don’t know if that passes as a legacy but I would like to be remembered as someone who absolutely enjoyed supporting and working for Chelsea Football Club.

     

  • …of friends and friendships on campus

    …of friends and friendships on campus

    “I don’t really miss people.”

    “Are you joking? What about those times you say, especially to the female friends of yours that you miss them.”

    “I only said that to keep the conversation going. I don’t really mean them, not that I deceive them though.”

    That’s a candid expression by Tunji, a six-month old graduate of the University of Ibadan when he was asked about his friends back in school and if he missed them.

    That brings to mind the true worth or value of campus friendship. Is it just meant to stop in the campus or probably after some days after the whole campus thing?

    So many people are friends simply because of a circumstance or situation. Oh, she has a material and I need it, so let me ensure that we are on talking terms before I ask her about it. Then afterwards what happens, nothing!

    “I see now that most of the friends I made then were just because of the situation at hand. Now I can’t say I have friends, though I thought I had some in school. It’s as if I will always make friends and dump them. If possible, I wouldn’t even make any at all, ” Tunji said.

    You may not have seen any sense in what am saying. Just take a hike and think about your friends now, definitely something brought you together, what then happens when what brought you together elapses? Chasm?

    Don’t you think you can feel the same way Tunji is feeling now? Or you are the real culprit of the menace.

    Someone thoughtfully said that no one goes to the opposite direction of where his or her friends are headed. What happens when you don’t even have friends, when you are alone as Tunji perceived himself to be, what direction would you go?

    “I know I need friends but am just tired of momentary friends, especially the female friends. They never reach out to one first, I don’t know if they thought I would take them for granted if they do.” Tunji continued.

    I know the number of times I have complained about my friends not doing anything to keep our friendship, especially the females. Even the guys too sometimes are the same. Some would even say they are busy and I will be like, so I’m the jobless one.

    No friendship can last if only one party contributes to its survival. We all need friends, and we mostly need them under some circumstances, but what about when the circumstance is off, no more friendship?

    “What even makes me angry at myself sometimes and makes me feel I’m selling myself cheap is when I have no rest of mind if I haven’t called someone I remember I have spoken to for a long time. I don’t have peace until I call the person and that to me is a punishment for a crime I didn’t commit. I wonder if they ever felt that way too.” He lamented.

    Friendship is so important that we can’t overemphasize it. It is the fabric that holds this world together. No two true friends will ever act in order to make the other fall. Assume that Kim Jong-un and Donald Trump are friends, no one will ever abuse the other. There wouldn’t be an old or a short and fat person.

    If making friends is easy but keeping them a bit hard, then it’s time we focused on keeping, not just making to meet our immediate need.

    Take out time to reach out to friends, you may be hurting someone if you don’t. Never say you are busy to call, it costs nothing to take out one minute to say Hi. Start today!

  • A friendship betrayed

    A friendship betrayed

    Where are our animal rights activists?

    If animals could talk and march, we would by now be contending with a huge protest – and justifiably so. Every evil phenomenon is named after some animal. Animals are carriers of the most terrible of diseases. When we take any action that is meant to reverse a bad situation, we draw from the jungle some imagery to convey our message. When we are angry with a public figure we name our pets after him. The tortoise is notorious for being deceitful in Yoruba folklore.  But animals are supposed to be our cousins; our closest friends. What have they done wrong?

    The other day when the First Lady – sorry; I don’t wish to live in the past – the President’s wife spoke of hyenas and jackals in the corridors of power, many were wondering how those dreaded creatures left their comfortable abode in the woods to invade the hallowed seat of power. She said the lion king was on the way back to  drive them out.

    Mrs Aisha Buhari was only using the symbolism of the animal world to describe the power game that was unknown to those far from the scene of action. Now that the lion is back and roaring, are the hyenas and jackals still at work?  Who are they? Animals in human skin (God bless Fela Anikulapo-Kuti’s soul)?  What is their modus operandi? Who are their backers? What is their aim?

    What is their role in the bickering between Minister of State Ibe Kachikwu and Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC) boss Maikanti Baru?

    Kachikwu, by the way, seems to have shot himself in the foot, with that sensational letter. If he couldn’t see the President, why was he sitting tight in office? Are his explosive allegations still valid now that the NNPC has laid bare the facts of the matter, which our dutiful senators are threatening to probe?

    A source close to the Villa confided in me the other day that hyenas and jackals truly exist in the seat of power. The only place they have not infiltrated is the “other room”. Again, who are they?

    This is indeed a failure of reporting, of which this reporter is also guilty.

    When the military felt that  kidnapping, armed robbery and such detestable criminal activities were getting out of hand in the Southeast, it launched Operation Python Dance I. All was quiet – for a while.

    Then came Operation Python Dance II. Despite the army’s strident explanation that the exercise was to rid the Southeast of criminals, the Independent People of Biafra (IPOB), now outlawed, claimed that it was all targeted at it and its leader Nnamdi Kanu – where in the world is he? Soldiers and IPOB activists clashed. It was bloody. Heads were smashed and limbs broken.

    No surprise there. What is to be expected when pythons dance? Even in a circus, a python is not a spectator’s toy. It won’t dance for nothing; its dance is a dance of death.

    Kanu, you may wish to recall, had boasted before the “python” slithered its way to his community: “By the time we finish dealing with the enemies in the zoo, there will be none left to tell the story.”

    Where is the zoo? Who are the animals? The insolence was so much that all that was left was for the python to dance. Since it did, Kanu has not been  seen in public. Except for some tepid statements, IPOB has largely been quiet.

    As part of the exercise, the military launched a series of medical missions to attend to many who lack access to good health care. Then, there was commotion everywhere. Parents stormed schools to fetch their children. The story was that the Federal Government had unleashed soldiers on the people who were to be forcibly injected with the monkey pox virus. All attempts by the government to explain that no evil was intended failed to convince the public.

    By the way, monkey pox is another ailment that broke out in Bayelsa State. One of the three patients in the state has committed suicide, we are told. It all sounded strange and people were wondering: another disease borne by an animal? Bush meat vendors and lovers of such delicacies have again been put in disarray. A replay of the Ebola hoopla.

    Undeterred, the military launched its Operation Crocodile Smile in the Southwest. We are yet to hear of any casualty, not even among those fellows who have found a huge fortune in kidnapping people for ransom and their cousins who rob homes and seize the highways. Now many are asking: “When will this crocodile begin to smile?”

    But the commotion has begun. Parents were withdrawing their kids from schools in Ondo State on Tuesday after it was rumoured that they were going to be vaccinated against some diseases, including monkey pox. The rumour mongers were at work in Kwara State yesterday. There was panic among residents when the false news went round that kids were to be forcibly vaccinated.

    I recall my undergraduate days in Benin City. I woke up one sunny morning after a hangover to get some water from the big drum we all fetched from in the backyard of my friend’s mother’s home. That simple routine suddenly turned into a screaming  and dashing flight back to the bedroom.

    As I dipped a bowl into the drum, a crocodile leapt up from the cubicle that housed the drum. I couldn’t wait to see that its huge mouth had been tightly held together by a thick rope. I flung the bucket and rushed in, panting.

    Roused from sleep in an unusual manner, my friend sat up and said: “Bob, wetin dey pursue you?” After catching my breath, I replied: “Ol’ boy, I found a crocodile in the backyard.” Emma was smiling. Softly, he said: “Oh. My mama wan make Olokun.” The crocodile was to be sacrificed to the river god to ward off evil and bring good fortune. I was stunned.

    In the heat of the ebola palaver, animals were indicted as the carrier of the lethal ailment. Hunters and bush meat vendors were sent out of business. When the noise subsided, we went back to our old ways. Were all the animals in the land vaccinated? Was it just a case of giving a dog a bad name to hang it?

    When the President returned from his medical vacation, he could not work from his office, which was to be renovated after rodents, cockroaches and their ilk had messed up the place.

    Even a presidential office could not command some respect from animals. The joke was all over the place that the man nobody could displace had been stopped by mere rodents.

    Who unleashed the rodents? The jackals and hyenas? I am surprised the Senate has not deemed it fit to probe this glaring executive dereliction. Are they waiting for a replay of George Orwell’s Animal Farm before moving?

    It is a busy season for our distinguished senators, I understand. Some are busy probing Senator Hamma Isah Misau’s  allegations of financial impropriety and concupiscence against police chief Ibrahim Idris. Others are threatening to probe the $25b contracts row.

    Even then, they need to spare a thought for the role of animals in our socio-political development.

    President Putin recently got a puppy as a birthday gift from President Berdymukhamedov of Turkmenistan, who grabbed the poor dog by the scruff and lifted it up. Putin cuddled the animal like a baby. A pro-Kremlin journalist, according to a Times of London report, contrasted the Central Asian dictator’s stern handling of the dog with the Russian leader’s softer approach.

    A radio analyst even saw an allegory before the Russian presidential election in March. He said: “Such a handover of the puppy from Asiatic cruelty to European tenderness can be interpreted as make the right choice and you will receive fatherly care, after all we could do it differently…  .”

    Former Italian Prime Minister Benito Mussolini had a pet lion. President Tito, formerly of Yugoslavia, kept a cheetah, among other animals.

    A friend sent me this last week: “Chicken pox, bird flu, lassa fever, ebola, monkey pox, python dance, crocodile smile; have Nigerians in any way offended the gods of the animal kingdom?”

    I really don’t know if we have betrayed our friendship with animals. But a piece of advice: Let our men of power begin to acquire pets. That way, animals may be kind to us, especially now when the best of our hospitals are broke, lacking cotton wool, syringes, hand gloves, bandages, and all such vital tools of medicine.

  • Delta: No bad blood between Ibori and Okowa

    Delta: No bad blood between Ibori and Okowa

    Sometimes the strength of a friendship is best measured by the number of people trying to ruin it through bad blood. If the foregoing is extended to the romance between Delta Governor Ifeanyi Okowa and the strongman of Delta politics, James Ibori, then their friendship is very strong indeed. Not a week passes without one plot or the other hatched to tear the two apart.

    Governor Ifeanyi Okowa

    Since Ibori’s ‘triumphal’ return to the state early in the year, it has become apparent that the friendship between him and Okowa goes beyond a political marriage of convenience. Theirs is a bond forged in the fire of mutual hardship, having seen each other through trying times. Unsurprisingly, not everyone is happy about the strong bond between the two, hence the repeated attempts to destroy their relationship. The latest attempt is the gist making the rounds that Ibori and Okowa are no longer on talking terms.

    Those in the know have since debunked it as a false alarm peddled by some individuals with evil motives.

  • ‘Mr Dowell’s Friendship Party’ thrills Port Harcourt residents

    ‘Mr Dowell’s Friendship Party’ thrills Port Harcourt residents

    After engaging Lagos residents in what has been called one of the biggest Friendship parties, it was the turn of the oil city of Port Harcourt to feel the vibe of ‘Mr Dowell’s Friendship Party’.

    Held August 13, the event featured cocktails perfectly paired with great music which made the atmosphere the ideal destination for fun seeking friends.

    In Port Harcourt, when the time came for the millionaire friends to be picked, Desire Igwe and her friend, Cassie Onyejeike, were drawn from the lot by a member of the audience chosen at random. In the true spirit of friendship, they decided to split their winnings equally.

    In attendance were some of Port Harcourt’s hottest radio personalities including Rhythm FM’s El-Dee and Cool FM’s Showman.

    Home-grown talent from Port Harcourt also kept the audience entertained with energetic performances that brought the roof down.

    Launched in 1968, McDowell’s Whisky is a blend of imported scotch and Indian malt whiskies which originated from India.

    According to the organisers, the last destination for ‘Mr Dowell’s Friendship Party’ is Abuja on the 20th of August.

    To stand a chance to win a ticket, follow Mr Dowell’s on Instagram or send a message to the McDowell’s Facebook page.

  • With my wife, it was friendship at first sight —Ambassador Baju

    YOU have been quiet for some time. Any special reason for that?

    Times are changing. Even in the political domain, there has been a lot of changes. So it requires one to really adapt to the situation on ground. And, of course, things are usually quiet between one election and the other. One, when a new government comes in, they need time to settle down to forge a direction politically, economically and so on, and everybody recognises the fact that a new government needs time to settle down. So things are generally quiet during such periods. But once we pass the half way mark, things start getting warm and a lot of activities come up towards the next election.

    You talked about a new government coming in. Do you think the Buhari government is settling down well?

    Well, I think the government is taking a lot of time to settle down. Some may understand this because it is a change from one party to the other, but most Nigerians may be impatient and rightly so because what they expected to see was a lot of changes economically, which has not happened. So, I think the government has its own strategy and it is taking its time.

    Some may not agree with them. I think now the government should be fully settled after one year. The government should be fully settled so that in the next two years, we will see the full thrust of activities by which they will then be judged, when they will now be ready to present either the same candidates for the same election or bring in some new candidates.

    Talking about settling down, your former constituency, the National Assembly, also seem to be finding it difficult to settle down…

    Yes, that is true. Well, it has been a lot of problems, particularly from this current National Assembly. A lot of things now seem to be coming out, which shows that the National Assembly has not fully positioned itself to carry out its functions. My advice is that the leadership of the National Assembly has to really settle down to the business of giving legislative expression to the feelings and aspirations of the people. There is a lot of in-fighting, rivalry and all that. Of course, the ruling party has a lot to do to get them in the right direction.

    Talking about in-fighting, the Speaker and some principal officers of the House of Representatives are at daggers drawn with one of its members, Hon. Jibrin, over allegations of budget padding which runs into billions of naira. As a former member of the National Assembly, how do you see all this?

    You will appreciate that some of us were in the National Assembly for a very brief period. I was elected in 1992 and the transition had not been concluded. It would have been successfully completed with the election of M.K.O. Abiola as president, but it was annulled by the military and then everything came crashing down. That is a pity because I think we had in that National Assembly highly respected people who were totally committed to making Nigeria a great place. But all the manipulations at the time and the grand design of the military to perpetuate itself in power had serious consequences for the nation. It drew the nation back so badly. But then, with the coming of democracy in 1999, the sacrifice of people like Chief MKO Abiola and those of us who had the opportunity to be there paid off eventually with democracy coming back in 1999.

    While the President thought he had his hands full with executive work and concentrated on bringing changes, the National Assembly was left to its own devices and the result is what we are seeing. The National Assembly has been left so much to its own devices and unfortunately, they did not take advantage of this. To a large extent, governors have been very dominant in their states. So, you do not have too much of arm twisting by the legislature. Governors were able to put them in check and I think that is to the credit of the governors. At the national level, we have had at best some ad-hoc arrangements which did not work for the interest of the nation.

    I will give you one example: the so called constituency projects. I think it is very unfortunate. Because if you look deep, it means the legislators are executing, and that is not supposed to be. The executive has its duty clearly defined and the legislature has its duty clearly defined. But when it gets to this stage of legislators now executing, legislators having allocations, I think both the executive and the legislature are to blame. That is a kind of very shoddy arrangement at best, which was bound to lead to this kind of disastrous consequences we are now witnessing.

     

    In other words, you are seeing the crisis more from the fact that the legislators left their statutory responsibilities and tried to make incursion into what ordinarily should be the responsibility of the executive?

    Definitely, that was what happened. And having successfully created the so called constituency allowances, projects which the executive did not certify, they felt also that they are free to manipulate the budget.

    Are you saying legislators have no business executing constituency projects?

    Definitely yes. You see, the basic duty of the legislators is not even to propose budget. But when you start putting something like constituency projects, then you are also proposing budget. Mr. President was supposed to come and say, ‘I want to build this dam; it is going to cost me N700 million.’ The legislature is supposed to, one, check. Do we really need this dam? Is it in the right place? Is it at the right time? And then check whether the N700 million in the budget is in order. In other words, acting on behalf of the people to say, ‘This should not cost 700 million, it should cost N600 million. But a situation where the President says he wants to spend N700 million and the legislature says N700 million is too small, spend N800 million, it is crazy. That is totally out of it.

    Yea, it is possible that the executive has not done proper homework. In which case, N700 million may not finish the project. In such a situation, the legislators should reject the project and point out the deficiencies, not to now turn around and increase it to N800 million or one billion naira. That has been happening under this republic. I don’t think that it had been like that before. There are a lot of things that have gone wrong.

    Don’t you think the president was arm-twisted by the legislative arm into accepting the additions to the budget? I remember that after the initial alteration by the National Assembly, the President refused to sign the budget.

    A President who is competent should be able to stand his ground. That is why he has the mandate of the people to be President. If you want to stand firm and do the right thing, it is extremely important that he should. In fact, no president could have a valid excuse to say he was arm-twisted; that will never be a valid excuse. So, that is where we started getting it wrong. So, it now got to the point of the so called insertions and so on. Those things are wrong. I think this is an opportunity for us to go back to the drawing board and get it right.

    I think I have a lot of admiration for Hon. Jibrin for being able to come out. And also some of his colleagues. These things have been there for years. Now to see one of them come out and stand firm, I think he should be commended. And I think the government should seriously investigate and once and for all clear all these mess.

    You were the Nigerian Ambassador to Cuba. The Cuba you left behind then is not the Cuba we have currently. Its row with America has been settled, with the American President visiting the country. How do you think that this development will impact on the country and its relationship with countries like Nigeria?

    Well, in the last 60 years, Cuba has been changing. Don’t forget that Cuba was under the former ruler, Gen. Batusta. Things were very bad for the people and then the emergence of Fidel Castro. You know sometimes things have to get worse to get better. When Fidel Castro was there, a lot of Cubans migrated to America, and many of those people who migrated were the highly skilled and the rich people. There was great disparity between the rich, very rich, and the poor, very poor. At that time, life expectancy was very poor, particularly among the very poor. So, over the years, the government started this mass programme of paying a lot of attention to training in the area of medicine, health care and so on, which has paid off because after about 40 years, they became so self-sufficient that they began to export medical doctors and medical personnel all over.

    Of course, that came at some cost. One of the costs was incurring the wrath of the United States of America and coming under the embargo of the United States, a neigbour that was just 120 miles away, and a very powerful neighbour. The people have been able to withstand that at a great cost.

    But things started unfolding with President Obama coming into office some seven years ago. Apparently he has that as part of his plans to ease tension between the two countries. So, the development that we have witnessed in the past one year has been a tremendous boost to socio-economic development of Cuba, because as you know, Cuba depends a lot on tourism and Americans were barred from travelling to Cuba. It does not mean that no American went to Cuba. Some of them did go, but they had to go through a third country.

    Two years ago, Cuba still managed to have about two million tourists, but with the easing of tension, it has jumped to three million. I think that is a positive development; an initiative of President Obama. I think the two countries should be able to build on this and establish diplomatic relationship up to ambassadorial level.

    You have served your term in the foreign mission and you are a bit quiet on the political terrain. What are you currently into?

    I have always been in business since 1983. I have a profession, which is safety management. I am a safety management consultant. So, even in between the time when I served, I always had to come back to business. Since I returned from my diplomatic assignment in Cuba in 2011, I have been back in business.

    Of course, I have also been active in some sort in politics, giving support to my party. So, if I am called in any capacity to serve, I will. Otherwise, I will be back to business.

    How would you describe your early life?

    I am from Ile Ife. I was born in Ile Ife and I spent my first five years there. But my father was an inspector of education. He was an employee of the Western Region. So, every two or three years, he was moved from one town to the other. So, I found myself in Ilaro, now in Ogun State, where I had my primary one, and then to Lagos where I had primaries two and three.

    Again, I had to move to Sagamu in Ogun State and finished in Ado Ekiti. For secondary school, I was at Ekiti Parapo College and I had my HSC at CMS Grammar School, Lagos. I had a stint at Ahmadu Bello University. I studied Education. In 1978, I did my youth service in Lagos and started working for a number of years before I started my own company.

    Do you see yourself as one from a privileged home?

    I would say middle class home.

    How did your father’s position influence your growing up?

    It did. I was able to mingle with people from different parts of Nigeria from very early age. From age five to about 12, I moved to so many towns, even tried to learn the dialect. For a while, I thought I could speak Ijebu. And in Ekiti, I was able to grab some words. So, the exposure was very good for me. But I was always coming back to Ife for holiday, particularly in December. I was still able to maintain some level of contact with my age mates.

    Your father was an educationist. What are some of the things you picked from him?

    I discovered that in those days, inspectors of education were well respected. Any time he had to visit a school, the level of preparation that went into receiving him was so much that the pupils and the teachers would make sure everything was in order. And because the inspector would come at any time, they were always on their toes. The quality of education at that time was very good.

    Did that put extra burden on you?

    Well, I wasn’t thinking that far really. But I enjoyed schooling and everything. But one thing that was clear to me was that I would not end up in the civil service.

    Why?

    I wanted the freedom…

    And you don’t think your dad had that freedom?

    Well, I think he was confined in a way. If you are a civil servant, you were not supposed to make money, and you were not supposed to have any other job, and we were a fairly large family. So, I just reckoned he still had it tough paying school fees for all of us. I remember that my father paid my school fees in installments. My school fee was 60 pounds at that time, and he issued a cheque of five pounds a month to cover the year, because I had three people ahead of me and others behind me.

    I knew that despite his position, he still had to be meticulous for him to be able to cope. So, I did not see myself as a civil servant. I saw myself either in the private sector or going into business. That was very clear in my mind even though we did not discuss it.

    How was the home front with a large family?

    It was good. Everywhere we went to, we were well received and we quickly settled down. We enjoyed school and we made good friends along the way, then moved on, and equally made new friends again. So, it was nice and home was good.

    Let’s talk about your social life…

    I am an outgoing person even though I may be more reflective. But I enjoy meeting people. I enjoyed sports in school. I consider myself a sports enthusiast. I enjoy watching television, I enjoy watching sports channels, I enjoy watching documentaries. These days, I also play golf. I enjoy the exercise and the challenge the golf course proofs.

    I am a member of the Lions Club. I joined the Lions Club about 30 years ago. I was quite active there, I became the president of my club, Ikeja Lions Club and I held so many other positions at the district level and became the district governor. I have attended many conventions within Nigeria and internationally.

    How did you meet your wife?

    Well, we happened to work in the same area…

    Was it love at first time?

    No, it was not love at first sight. But it was friendship at first sight. She was working with First Bank in Marina and I was working at Femi Johnson also in Marina. So, we met, chatted and had a couple of lunch. Then we became interested in each other. It was like that for about five years before we eventually got married.

  • Friendship across borders

    Travelling is part of education, but for members of Rotaract Club in District 9110, who travelled to Ghana last week, it was beyond learning. The trip was an opportunity to build friendship with their counterparts in Ghana. DAYO OJERINDE reports.

    For members of Rotaract Club in District 9110 in Nigeria, it was fun all the way to Ghana. There was no dull moment during the 10-hour journey. Their ribracking jokes made the Friendship Exchange Trip lively and interesting.

    The students, numbering about 30, were in Ghana on excursion. They were led by District Representative, Oluwadamilare Oduonikosi, who said the journey would linger in their memories.

    “Although the journey was stressful,” Ayobami Sowale, who is the International Service Director of the club, said, “we all have nice experiences to share about the trip.”

    The students took off from Lagos, passing through Benin Republic and Togo from where they entered Ghana. Their first port of call was the Nigeria High Commission in Accra, where the team visited with the High Commissioner, Oluseyi Onafowokan.

    Onafowokan urged them to be worthy ambassadors of their country.

    “Nigeria is a country of men and women of good character, who promote our values wherever they find themselves. No matter the period of your stay here, you must uphold our objectives and desist from acts that can stain our national flag,” he said.

    Onafowokan advised the students to participate in electoral process, urging them to reject any politician that may want to use them to perpetrate violence.

    The team visited some tourist attraction sites before returning home. On what they learnt from their trip, president of Okokomaiko, Lagos chapter of the club, Ada Ahaotu said: “We learnt about the Ghanaian culture and its ageless relationship with Nigeria in economy, politics and heritage.”

    Maxwell Seshie, the co-ordinator of the club in Ghana, said the visit afforded the Rotaract members to engage in discussion on culture and politics. “The visit by our Nigerian colleagues gave us the opportunity to make new friends, exchange contacts and learn about our cultures. We also discussed politics where we made some salient points about the forth coming elections in Nigeria. We are also contemplating to reciprocate the gesture. We want to go and learn about Nigeria as well.”

    Another Ghanaian student  Michael Drez said: “I have special attraction for Nigerian attires. I have always wished to visit Lagos because of our cultural ties with Nigeria. I believe this visit will promote understanding among our members and make them to respect other people’s culture.”

    Constance Jaiyeola, the immediate past president of The Polytechnic, Ibadan (IBADAN POLY) chapter of the club, described the trip as educative, noting that she made new friends and learnt new things about Ghanaian heritage.

    She said: “Learning does not end in the four walls of our classrooms. This Friendship Exchange trip will indeed linger in our memories because it will always be a reference for bilateral activities that will come up in future.”

  • 7 Things to look for in an amazing friendship

    I CAME across this article and I think we can learn a little something from it. But the truth really is that I’m under the weather and I’ve been off work so I can get well soon. However please do take your time and read this interesting piece.

    I have several friends who I’m proud to say that together we have an amazing friendship…The ones I can be as crazy as I want and they’d still be there to smile with me.

    Here are several ways to identify these amazing friendships so you can cherish them.

    1. You are always learning from their friendship and vice-versa

    You are learning from them in so many subtle ways that it’s mind blowing once you take a moment to step back and look. They improve you as a person, they give you valuable advice, and they provide honest feedback that makes you become the person you want to be. You also learn how to be yourself around them.

    This relationship works both ways; the truly amazing friendship are two-sided in which you reciprocate and provide value to your friend. Just as they are your teacher, you are theirs.

    2. You empathize on a whole different level

    Empathy is very important and it is necessary to maintain a solid framework for a working relationship (even platonic ones.) However, in this special sort of relationship, it’s just not just empathy that you feel but there is a whole new level of emotional investment on your part.

    You desperately wish for them to succeed in everything they do. It hurts you when they’re sad and you just want them to keep moving forward. It’s good to have these feelings for all of your friends and family, but this relationship is more. You invest in them without expecting anything in return.

    3. You look to emulate them

    Everything they do amazes you. It seems like they have this magnetic force among them when you are spending time together which just puts you in your most content mindset.

    There are things they do or say, or perhaps even how they act that makes you wonder if it is possible for you to follow in their footsteps. You notice subtle features no one else does and run it through your head for whether or not it suits you because you want to be just like them.

     

     

  • Femi Otedola, Aliko Dangote renew friendship

    Femi Otedola, Aliko Dangote renew friendship

    There is a popular saying that there is no permanent friend or permanent enemy in politics but permanent interests. This aphorism would seem to also apply to the friendship between two Nigerian business moguls, Aliko Dangote and Femi Otedola.

    The two made a good show of their affection as they stepped on the green carpet together at a party organised by the Ibru family for one of their children a few days ago.

    A few years ago, a major disagreement over their business interests nearly ruined their robust friendship. The feud saw the two not only going their separate ways but also haunting each other’s business interests.

    In fact, it took the intervention of a popular publisher to restore their friendship. But today, they are back stronger and better together with a new regime of conviviality reigning between them.