LOVE and friendship brighten up your day. They are the oil that keeps your emotional wheel going, especially when things are tough. It is better to cultivate an emotional balance from the onset. It helps you to maintain the elasticity of the heart which is imperative as a future investment. All relationships have positive or negative influence. These skills focus on building positive relationships through managing reactions in all circumstances.
Interestingly, a lot of people take our emotions for granted, especially in our youth. Why not! Naturally, this is a time when emotional concerns are few and it is a time we just want to play to the emotional gallery not minding whose ox is gored in the process. Hearts, hearts and more hearts are broken, leaving tales of sorrow, tears and blood.
After all, other people have broken hearts before and so why should your own case be different? Another school of thought argues that hearts get stronger when they have been broken, crushed and shattered. So it must be a part of the emotional process.
After criss-crossing the emotional landscape in tears, it looked like there was an emotional light in the tunnel. It was at this point that she met Kunmbi at a shopping mall when she went to pick her laundry. He looked calm and nice and almost like an emotional saint. But the phrase, ‘Men cannot be trusted’ registered vividly in the background.
Four months along the emotional corridors, and the smart Alec succeeded in pulling her off balance and putting her heart in a state of turmoil. It was indeed a time to sing a new song: “Should I say yes, or should I say no?”
Finally, the weaker part of the heart caved in and she decided to take the plunge; after all, nothing ventured, nothing gained. A few dates rolled pleasantly by and it looked like it was going to be the happy-ending type which you often read about in story books. They also recorded a couple of romantic outings in some popular restaurants and it looked like her emotional dreams were falling perfectly into place.
But deep down, her instincts kept on warning her not to get too excited. She could smell deception but just could not lay her finger on what it was. Was it a problem she could fix? Time certainly would tell. First, the most important thing was to make the best of this emotional opportunity. At the moment, she was lost on the emotional Island and in her heart was that inescapable tingling every time Kunmbi was around her.
He literarily swept her off her feet, and, one by one, she told her friends about the emotional star who had stolen her heart. They were also very eager to meet this knight in shining armour and a small get-together was organised for everyone to meet our dear Kunmbi. Unfortunately, it turned out to be a disaster. Reason: “He came late and there was a lot of suspense in the air. Then when he finally came to the venue the mood changed, they all knew him. The man I was going to show off to them had been a serial cheater. He had left bitter emotional tales different from the side he had been showing to me.”
Empty allegations, or could they be the usual mistakes that men make? Well, Kunmbi just refused to give any explanation. He took off and since that encounter did not think he owed his ‘Juliet” any explanation. It was obvious that he just wanted to take her for an emotional ride and did not imagine that he would run into friends who had some nasty experience exposing the side he had covered up for too long.
Well, that certainly is one of those things. The ball certainly is in her court and she needs to make her up mind whether she wants to pull out or pretend that nothing has really happened. Every decision comes with consequences because the affectionate road is filled with bumps and it could just be a nasty road all the way through.
It is indeed a case of different strokes for different folks. Most times, what you need to forge ahead in the emotional arena is inspiration. This skill focuses on using other people’s experience in previous and current relationships to connect with your buddy. You acquire this by listening to the person you treasure as well as making the other person feel important.
One other important skill for relationship management is developing others. Developing your partner occurs when you focus on acknowledging his or her accomplishments and strong points, then offering feedback to them. This skill is important because it helps the growth of relationships and businesses. Like employees who feel valuable and appreciated, the love of your life is likely to do so much once the person knows that you appreciate the effort that is being put into the love process. Conversely, things are likely to work negatively when all you do is to shout at the person you claim you adore and desperately look out for shortcomings and mistakes that are imagined.
Relationship management skills include the ability to manage conflict in a constructive way. It also means that you are willing to accept different perspectives, as well as demonstrate self-control and respect for everyone.