Tag: Lady

  • Would you use a lady as your best man?

    Would you use a lady as your best man?

    A groom and his best man. His bride, her maid of honour. A bevy of single ladies as bridesmaids and young eligible bachelors as groomsmen. These are the components of a marriage ceremony

    But a recent trend where men now use ladies as best men or among the groomsmen is becoming popular and got some attention when popular Nollywood actor OC Ukeje used his bosom friend Kemi Lala Akindoju as one of his groomsmen. Adetorera Idowu spoke to a cross section of Nigerian youths  to seek their opinions on the issue.

    Uche Eze

    No not at all, I wouldn’t allow that. He should have a male best man that’s cool and sexy. What if I use a male bridesmaid? Imagine the scenario

    Oge Iwuanyanwu

    I won’t mind. I’m not strict about certain things. I just go with the flow, whatever makes everyone happy

    Boma Inko tariah

    Its creative but I wouldn’t want a wedding with gay undertones. Men should be best-men and females should be bridesmaids etc

    Fadimah Yusuf

    Hell no!! I’m very sure he wouldn’t be ok with my maid of honor being a guy

    Eniola Jekpe

    Absolutely rubbish trend. Why do people need lady best man? Orisirisi. The role is meant for a man not otherwise. It’s just like having a guy as my maid of honour. In my opinion it’s a no no. it’s not that I’m jealous, it’s just somehow. Will the lady put on a suit?

    Adekunle Fabiyi

    As a guy, my lady cannot have a guy as her best friend. Neither can I have another lady as my best friend. We have to be each other’s closes friend.

    Olumuyiwa Ojelabi

    Why not? That would be interesting.

    Yeside Idowu

    I will definitely not have a lady best man for my man. Like begets like, so he should choose a man instead. Who knows whether the groom and the lady best man are dating? It’s a no no for me

    Bamidele Bamiwo

    If I were a lady, No I guess. Averagely, ladies are jealous naturally.

    Jahnet Kanu

    Nope! I’m not that liberal

    Tosin Bialalori

    I’ve always planned to have a female best man. Because she is my homie.

    Eniola Balogun

    Only if they are family

    Dinma Orabs

    We better not have a best lady and best man, unless the best lady is his sister then that’s fine. She will equally answer to me since she decided to do lady best man

     

     

     

  • Patient to First Lady: please, help me

    Patient to First Lady: please, help me

    A 32-year-old patient, Daniel Imo Emori, who is suffering from spinal cord injury since 2003 has appealed to First Lady, Dame Patience Jonathan to come to his aid. His travail began when he was attacked by a mad cow that caused him to be bed-ridden since the incident.

    Prior to October 2003, Daniel Imo Emori was a normal young Nigerian, working hard to make ends meet and believing that he had his whole life ahead of him. Unfortunately, it took an attack by a mad cow to make these dreams seemingly deferred.

    The 32-year-old Senior School Certificate Examination (SSCE) holder from Cross River State has been bed-ridden for almost 11 years. His limbs are malfunctioned, his legs are swollen and like that of a cripple. He can only turn his head sideways, speak and direct with his hands. He has been passing urine with the aid of a urine cartulary attached to his system.

    A visit to Emori in his self-contained apartment revealed a swept and clean environment. Unfortunately, the apartment exudes malodorous smell of urine due to numerous bed sores and urine cartulary.

    Fortunately for Emori, all hopes are not lost because the accident which caused him cervical injury can be repaired. His hope is that, one day, he would be able to walk again, return to school and achieve his dream of being an accountant.

    Regrettably, he is from a poor family.

    In 2003, the 5th child in a family of eight, while delivering pharmaceutical products for his company, RICOL Pharmaceuticals in Onitsha, he was attacked by a mad cow.

    At the University of Nigeria Teaching Hospital Enugu, the doctors discovered that he had sustained injury on the spine. He was not treated because his family could not afford the money. This necessitated his being taken to the village where he remained paralyzed for 10 years with no assistance or medication.

    He said: “One day in October 2003, I had just resumed work that morning. I was sent by one of my bosses in RICOL Pharmaceutical Company to supply drugs to one of our customers that had ordered for products at Fege Onitsha Anambra State. “As we were about to leave, a neighbour suggested that we supplied the goods to her instead which we did. So, after the supply, I wanted jump down from the vehicle, a mad cow appeared from nowhere knocked me down.

    “As soon as it happened, we thought it was a minor injury. I was taken to a nearby clinic and the next day, they referred me to the University of Nigeria Teaching Hospital, Enugu. After examination by the consultant, he discovered that I had spinal cord injury which is called cervical injury. The most threatening at that time, according to him, was the internal injuries that I, sustained as there was no external injury.

    “After running tests and a little treatment, they requested for N75, 000 for the operation which my family could not afford.

    “After being in Enugu for a while and the hospital could not operate on me because we could not afford the over N100, 000 bill, a matron at the hospital offered to be a Shorty for us as they will deduct the money we owe them gradually from her salary.

    “So, my family took me back to the village, where I stayed with no treatment or drugs. By 30th October last year, on the 10th anniversary of my illness, after i had pasted my picture on Facebook, one of the journalists with National Mirror in Cross River State took up my case and brought the Reverend of the Damarismilla Foundation, a non-governmental organisation (NGO) to my community.

    “The NGO arranged for me to be brought to Abuja to the Primos International Hospital Karu, February 1. On arrival at, the management of the hospital requested for N150, 000 for admission which the NGO paid. After that, they paid another additional N200,000 for the hospital to run tests after which they discovered the injury on my neck, a tear in my bladder due to the prolonged use of the urine cartulary and another injury on my rib which is a bed sore caused by prolonged lying on my back.

    “To effect the operation on my neck would cost N1.2 million. They carried out the operation on the 3rd and 5th. And I was discharged. The next stage was the physiotherapy which they could not be carried out immediately. The NGO got me this accommodation and paid a house boy that takes care of me while they look for a place that I can undergo the physiotherapy.

    “The problem right now is that, contrary to the NGO’s expectation that the problem would be over after the operation, based on the doctor’s advice, they said that my condition is not going to normalise immediately but as long as I’m taking the prescribed medication and going for physiotherapy, I will get better. But the NGO said it will need support because they are running out of funds.

    “My medication monthly is very expensive. The one for this month cost N99, 480 and I get new prescriptions every month which are also expensive. They doctors for now are not sure when I will get better. I’m begging for help from the First Lady, Dame Patience Jonathan and all well-meaning Nigerians to assist me to carry out the physiotherapy and buy my drugs so that I will be able to walk again and return to school to continue my education.”

    Emori’s medical certificate addressed To Whom It May Concern and signed by the Medical Superintendent and Head of Medical Services, Primos International Hospital Karu, Col. (Dr). E. O. Emodi (rtd) explained his medical condition.

    It states: “31-year-old male, presented in our facility on 3rd February, 2014 with 10 years history of old neck injury leading to weakness of all four limbs. He also presented with pressure sores and ulcer on his penis.

    “He underwent cervical spine surgery and Urethral repair on 10th February; he was discharged on 6th March, 2014 in a stable condition. He has been on a regular follow-up and he is advised physiotherapy and medication.”

    Kind-hearted Nigerians who wish to render financial assistance to Emori in order to have access to physiotherapy and his monthly medications could make their donations as quickly as possible to make live normal life again.

    This is his bank account details: Daniel Imo Emori, Fidelity Bank, account, 6160829205. You can contact Emori on these phone numbers 08098929156 and 08086387108.

  • Lady cobbler finds her passion

    Elizabeth Ojelua is the up-and-coming entrepreneur behind shoemaking startup firm, SureLift Tranx. The company, which was launched in 2010 with eight staff, has been developing a name for itself in the  fashion industry for its boutique, handmade shoe and handbag designs.

    Ojelua found time to answer questions from “How we made it in Africa” on her inspiration behind Surelift Tranx, and what it takes to be a first-time entrepreneur in Nigeria.

    What inspired you to start Surelift Tranx?

    I first conceived the idea in 2008 but officially started in November 2010. The name Surelift Tranx is a combination of my childhood nickname “Surely”, ‘lift’ inspired by God and ‘tranx’ from transformation. What actually inspired me was my creativity and the fact that I have always loved to work with my hands. I learnt bead making and some other skills after I graduated from school and before I found a job. I started to make the beads but couldn’t sell them because a lot of people, even my friends and family, were already making beads too. I couldn’t sell my beads, but it got me thinking and I finally arrived at the concept of putting the beads on easy-to-wear slippers.

    A lot of people loved the concept but complained about the finish because I initially used roadside shoemakers to help me fix my beautiful knitted beads onto the slippers. But their finishing was poor. So I was encouraged to learn the skill…. And just like that I found my passion in shoemaking. Today I still make shoes with my hands and train people and groups to do the same.

    How did you go about financing your startup?

    I actually started with as little as N8, 000 ($49) cash that I gathered from the sale of cosmetics immediately after my time at the National Youth Service Corp because I hate idleness.

    Who are your customers?

    Middle and upper class men and women; people with a taste for quality and unique products in a variety of designs.

    Describe the potential in Nigeria’s clothing and fashion market.

    Nigerians love fashion and wearing beautiful clothes. Nigerians are always striving to be outstanding and are really good at keeping updated on trends… So with constant and creative work on colour combinations and designs, the fashion industry will never run dry.

     What are some of the biggest challenges you face in business and how do you plan to overcome them?

    Power supply is a big issue but we are overcoming that by using a generator. Another challenge is the constant non-availability of some materials, sometimes when demand is high on a particular product design… I have to tell the clients we may have to alter the materials.

     The best part of being an entrepreneur?

    I am a happy entrepreneur because I love my line of business as a shoemaker. I also have control of my time (even though I work around the clock some days).

    In your opinion, what qualities must an entrepreneur have to be successful in Nigeria?

    Entrepreneurs in Nigeria need to be focused… and passionate about what they do.

     What entrepreneurial qualities come naturally to you?

    The ability to keep on learning, creative thinking and planning, and, of course, being very friendly.

     Do you think more can be done in Nigeria to encourage young entrepreneurs and foster a supportive environment for startups?

    Yeah, sure. A lot should be put in place to assist young entrepreneurs, especially to tackle the high rate of unemployment. Grants and loans should be more readily available to them and, of course, the power supply should be more regular. Also, more forums should be organised for them on entrepreneurial matters to help them improve their business and achieve faster growth.

    Do you have any advice for first time entrepreneurs?

    Put God first, follow your passion only, and be consistent in giving your best. The sky is your starting place and together we will improve our world.

    Culled from how we made it in africa

  • Can a lady  pay for her own engagement ring if…?

    Can a lady pay for her own engagement ring if…?

    On an online forum, a lady posted a comment, seeking advice on whether or not she should give in to her boyfriend’s demand to borrow money from her for her engagement ring. Adetorera Idowu speaks with some people on their reactions to this question

    Titilayo Osifeso – Consultant

    No way!!! Why should she pay for it? The man should buy it when he is ready. If he can’t afford it, he should buy what he can afford at that moment. I think this is an act of desperation. It makes me question whether the girl really wants the guy or wants to show off and if you build your marriage in that foundation, it’s sure going to crumble.

     

    Isi Edowaye – Banker

    Well, it is not out of place. It’s just a matter of understanding between both parties. If his not having a ring for me is as a result of finance, I understand. Although if he can’t give me a ring because he cannot afford it, it speaks volumes, I mean… it’s marriage. From my stance, buying myself a ring is awkward and I’ll rather take his words (I want to marry you) as the bond. I don’t have to wear an engagement ring.

     

    Amfani Musa – Swimming Coach

    What satanic arrangement is that? That guy must be MAD. I don’t mean to be insulting but it’s the truth. It’s absurd, inappropriate, unacceptable, out of place… in fact it’s PURE MADNESS. Ok let’s not be emotional about this. Even the bible says he that finds a wife finds a good thing, not he that the wife finds. In the garden, God gave the responsibility of work to the man and it is not the woman’s responsibility.

     

    James Alabi (Abinibi) – Creative Entrepreneur

    Sure! There is nothing wrong with it as long as both of them have an understanding and the guy keeps his promise. Borrowing money from her to buy the ring might be a decision to make official the relationship till they are ready for the actual wedding.

  • First Lady for women’s rally

    First Lady for women’s rally

    The National Council of Women Societies (NCWS) is set to organise a mass rally and carnival to celebrate what it described as “an unprecedented empowerment of Nigerian women.”

    According to a statement released by the National President of the NCWS, Mrs. Nkechi Mba in Abuja, the theme of the rally is “Celebration of Nigerian Women for Peace and Empowerment.”

    Mrs. Mba urged Nigerian women to come out “en masse to celebrate and honour those who have demonstrated commitment to our cause as women.”

    Highlights of the two-part event scheduled for Thursday August 15, 2013, include a Road Show/Rally and Award Dinner.

    Mrs. Mba noted that the Carnival Float by women from across the states of the federation would start from 7:00 a.m. from the Old Parade Ground, through designated routes in the FCT and to terminate at the Eagles Square.

    An Award Dinner scheduled for same day would also hold at7:00 p.m. at the International Conference Centre, Abuja.

    Mrs. Mba said the event promises to be an epoch-making one in the annals of women movement in Nigeria.

    The First Lady, Her Excellency Dame (Dr.) Patience Goodluck Jonathan, is expected to be the mother of the day at the event while the Special Guest of Honour is Vice-President Mohammed Namadi Sambo.

    The colourful event, according the NCWS President, would feature performances by popular artistes, including Onyeka Onwenu, Yinka Ayefele, Iyanya, and Sani Danja.

  • First Lady blasts Amaechi

    First Lady blasts Amaechi

    •Says Port Harcourt no longer attractive

    •Holds meeting with anti-Amaechi lawmakers

     

    The First Lady, Dame Patience Jonathan, yesterday took a swipe at Governor Rotimi Amaechi of Rivers State when she said Port Harcourt, the state capital, has lost its attraction during the governor’s reign.

    Dame Jonathan who was in the city to attend the wedding of one of the five anti-Amaechi legislators in the State House of Assembly prayed for the return of the lost glory.

    “During the time of Chief Rufus Ada-George and Dr. Peter Odili as governors, everybody wanted to come to Port Harcourt, which was called the Garden City, but I pray that it will return to what it used to be, so that we and our children can be proud of Port Harcourt,” she said at the wedding reception.

    The governor who was scheduled to be the guest of honour was absent at the wedding-of Mr. Evans Bipi and former Miss Rhoda Sika- although he was represented at the church by his deputy, Tele Ikuru .

    Ikuru did not attend the reception having left for another function in his home town.

    However, scores of prominent politicians from the state including ex-Governors Ada-George and Odili were there, as were national and state legislators with the Minister of State for Education, Chief Nyesom Wike, playing the chief host.

    The First Lady was full of praise for Wike for bringing together such an array of prominent citizens.

    She said: “I grew up in Rivers State, but I have never seen a gathering of the movers and shakers of this state like this. When I say I love Wike, people do not understand. If not for him, I would not have this opportunity to be here.

    “It is good to be good. Both Rivers and Bayelsa are one, because Bayelsa State was created out of the old Rivers State (on October 1, 1996) and nobody can separate the two states, but the people must come together in peace and speak with one voice. Wike has brought us together.”

    Wike is currently locked in a bitter struggle with Amaechi for the soul of the PDP in the state.

    He is said to be the Presidency’s favoured candidate for the 2015 governorship election in the state.

    He is the chief supporter of the Obuah-led faction of the PDP in the state and enjoys the backing of the five anti-Amaechi assembly men.

    The first lady’s presence in town practically shut down the city.

    Security was heavy and traffic paralysed especially in and around St. Cyprian’s Anglican Church, Hospital Road, venue of the wedding and Alfred Diete-Spiff Civic Centre, Moscow Road, where the reception took place.

    Several Armoured Personnel Carriers (APCs), soldiers, policemen and State Security Service (SSS) operatives were deployed in strategic places.

    Mrs Jonathan, a native of Rivers State, had once openly clashed with Amaechi when she scolded him for demolishing shanties in parts of the state.

    It was gathered that she met last night with the anti-Amaechi lawmakers.

    The governor is also not in the good books of the Presidency for his acts of ‘insubordination’ toward President Goodluck Jonathan.

    He is perceived as threatening the chances of the president for a second term in office by allegedly agreeing to run as vice presidential candidate to a Northerner in 2015.

    He has denied the allegation.

    He is also blamed for defying the Presidency by running for a second term as Chairman of the Nigeria Governors Forum (NGF). He defeated the Presidency’s candidate, Governor Jonah Jang of Plateau in the election by 19 votes to 16.

    He is currently on suspension by the party

    Also at yesterday’s wedding were a former Minister of Science and Technology, King Ebitimi Banigo, now the Amanyanabo of Okpoma in Bayelsa State, the Amanyanabo-elect of Ogu, Nicholas Nimenibo, former Governor Celestine Omehia and former Deputy Speakers of the House of Representatives Chibudom Nwuche and Austin Opara.

    Others were Justice Mary Odili of the Supreme Court, a former Minister of Culture and Tourism, Alabo Tonye Graham Douglas; PDP National Women leader, Kema Chikwe; ex-Managing Director of the Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC), Timi Alaibe; Dr. Abiye Sekibo, factional chairman of PDP in Rivers State, Chief Felix Obuah; Senator Lee Maeba, the National President of the National Council of Women Societies (NCWS), Chief Nkechi Mba; and the wife of the Bayelsa Governor, Rachael Dickson.

     

  • Beautiful world of Lady Nwanneka Ekweremadu

    While the wife of the Deputy Senate President, Lady Nwanneka Ekweremadu, may not be your regular reveller, it would be safe to say that her not-so-frequent appearance at parties thrown by her rank has rubbed off positively on her personality. She is one woman who has a lot of things going for her in addition to her alluring looks. Splendid manner and decent choice apparel are traits that stand her out wherever she goes.

    The amiable mother of four, two girls and two boys, exudes a kind of beauty that is more than skin deep. The former teacher at Federal Government College, Enugu, now works in the Office of the Accountant-General of Federation, Abuja. Her love for the downtrodden is so much that she visits them regularly. She has done a lot to alleviate the suffering of those she has come across.

  • Iron Lady passes

    Iron Lady passes

    •Margaret Thatcher was a prime minister who failed Africa but helped capitalism

    The passing of the iron Lady of British politics, Margaret Thatcher, yesterday, at age 87, has sent shockwaves around the world. Many have praised her for her quintessential politics: hardheaded, defiant and audacious. In her eleven and a half years at the top of British politics, many of her fans and Western analysts have serenaded her for inaugurating a new era of conservative politics as a right-wing populist in the mould of her American counterpart, Ronald Reagan.

    But to us in Africa, she was bad news. While South Africa reeled under the grip of racist regimes of apartheid, Prime Minister Thatcher described the partisans of African National Congress as “terrorists.” In the years of fervent anti-apartheid umbrage around the world, when Nelson Mandela had spent over two decades in jail, many forces called for an imposition of sanctions to force reforms on the regime. Thatcher, like her fellow traveller Reagan, opposed the call for sanctions on the pretext that it would hurt the blacks more than the whites.

    It did not matter to the Iron Lady that the blacks who had lost generations of pride and progress because of the draconian hand of apartheid prejudice were ready to make a few years of sacrifice. That was assuming that her opinion was right. In a recent meeting with Mandela, the present British Prime Minister distanced himself from the Thatcher policy and apologised. But the woman never openly regretted her cold-blooded position even though she witnessed the birth of freedom, those years when Mandela became President and rose in stature as one of the greatest personages that ever lived.

    Thatcher’s role in inaugurating a new life for capitalism has remained controversial. When she became prime minister, Thatcher opened up the economy to the rich by chopping down taxes for them and selling off many state-owned corporations, including the British Airways and British Petroleum. She also sold off council houses for the ordinary. She broke the back of the labour unions, and she succeeded especially with the miners’ union whose one-year strike did not compel the prime minister to change course. They eventually stopped the strike without a deal and many of the mines were shut down and others privatised. She was a great stalwart against socialism and, on her watch, the world saw a seismic ideological change with the fall of communist regimes in Europe and the Soviet Union.

    Thatcher’s success brought a burst of entrepreneurial excitement to Britain and the rest of the world. Britain saw a new capitalist elan and the United States under Reagan followed that path as well. The economic idea of Milton Friedman took over the familiar state interventionist logic of John Galbraith. But it was a reflection of the ongoing war of ideas between Hayek and Keynes. The birth of Thatcher’s economic policies seemed to sound a death knell for Keynes.

    It implied privatisation, lower taxes and deregulation of what was seen as suffocating state presence in the economy. Even the victories of President Bill Clinton of the United States and Tony Blair of Britain came at the expense of some of the leftist orthodoxies like the welfare state.

    But that policy created a world that put institutions at the service of rational choice and that gave sanctity to powerful individuals. The real consequence was that, between her and Reagan, an era of apparent prosperity was born that has exploded for its false premise. A wide chasm has charaterised the past 20 years between the rich and poor.

    The collapse of the economies around the world showed that individual initiatives can be overrated in solving the world’s riddles and that is why both in the United States and Europe, interventionist policies are checkmating the hubris of the individual investor. Keynes returned from the grave.

    That is the legacy of Thatcher’s years, not so much her victory at the Falklands War. She never regretted any of her acts even when the poor felt she was ruthless and imperial. “You turn if you want. This lady is not for turning.” She said that too.