Tag: love

  • My master’s son (4)

    My master’s son (4)

    Follow @Escapades007

    I quickly picked up the paper and my heart froze as I read the story. The report was about Edward. It stated that he had been involved in a car accident a few days before and that he was in a critical condition in an undisclosed hospital.

    ‘While the doctors are battling to save his life, a source close to the family disclosed that his parents are making frantic efforts to have him taken to a hospital abroad,’ I read. I stared at the paper in disbelief, not believing what was before my eyes.

    Edward in an accident? How did this happen? Different thoughts kept swirling through my mind. I was walking away from the vendor’s stand in a daze when the man said: “Aunty, you never give me money for the paper o!”

    I apologised, paid him and left. Throughout that day, I thought about nothing else but the accident.

    I kept praying that he would be alright. I longed to get an update on his situation but there was no one I could reach immediately. My mother had stopped working for the Addamsons some time ago after my grandmother fell seriously ill. She had resigned and had relocated to the village to take care of the old woman. As soon as I closed from work, I took a cab and rushed to the family house. 

    The place had not changed much since I left. The security men at the gate, on recognising me, let me in. None of the family members was at home, they said. It was one of the maids, Charity, who gave me a bit of information on the situation. She said his parents were travelling with him that night to a foreign hospital.

    “We are all praying so Oga Edward will recover soon,” she said. 

    It took months before Edward had recovered enough from his injuries to return to Nigeria. And it was not a full recovery as I found out when I went to visit him at home. He was in a wheelchair, a result of the spinal cord injuries he had sustained in the accident. Though I was so happy to see him alive, I felt bad seeing the once vibrant and lively Edward sitting in a wheelchair, unable to walk. 

    That first day, I spent a long time with him and it was like old times even though circumstances had changed. He was married now, had survived a near fatal accident and was confined to a wheelchair. His wife, Cherry was hardly around as she still lived in their marital home while Edward was at the family home during his recuperation period.

    Anytime, I visited, Edward was always very happy to see me. We would spend many hours chatting, watching movies together or playing some board games like Scrabble which he loved. It got to a point that he even suggested I should move back to the house so I could be closer to him. It was in the evening and the nurse who attended to him at home, had closed for the day.

    “What about your wife? How will she feel when she hears that a former girlfriend of yours had moved into your home?” I asked. 

    He smiled wryly before stating:

    “My wife? How many times do you see her here?”

    “Maybe she is busy with her job,” I suggested.

    “What job? Cherry doesn’t work! She is probably too busy with her shopping and hanging out with her equally rich and idle friends to have time for her crippled husband!” he said with some bitterness. Besides his wife, I wondered about his parents reactions too. Afterall, it was due to their interference that Edward and I had broken up. Though to be fair to them, since my return, they had been very friendly especially seeing how my presence made their son happy and less depressed about his condition.

    Back to base

    With no objections from his parents, I moved back to the house. Truth was, I wanted to be close to him so I could help in any way in his recovery. So, I did not mind the relocation. Each day, after closing from the office, I always looked forward to going home so I could be with Edward. With time, he became almost like his old self and less prone to bouts of depression and self-pity.

    Things went on this way until about a year after I had been living there. I returned from work one evening to find Edward looking despondent. Thinking he was in pain or something, I asked if I should send for the nurse to give him some drugs.

    He shook his head.

    “I’m fine. Nothing’s wrong with me,” he said.

    It was much later I found out what had been bothering him. He told me that his wife, Cherry had filed for divorce and wanted out of the marriage.

    “Can you believe she broke the news to me by text message? She did not even have the courtesy to come here and tell to my face that she is no longer interested in the marriage. All because I’m now wheel chair bound! She says she is too young to be saddled with a husband who is virtually a cripple and can’t perform his duties as a man anymore! And that she has fallen for some one else!” I could see he was getting really upset so I tried to calm him down.

    His parents were equally shocked when they heard what Cherry had done. 

    “What kind of wife would abandon her husband in his hour of need?” said his mother one day when she was discussing the issue with a friend of hers who had come to visit Edward.

    “It shows the state of the world today. Most young people don’t take their marital vows seriously. They jump ship at the first hint of trouble. No patience at all!” the friend chipped in.

    Some months later, after the breakdown of his marriage, Edward’s mother sent for me one day. We had a long chat, with the main focus being Edward. She pleaded with me to overlook the past, particularly the shabby way her husband and herself had treated me while Edward and I were dating.

    “I realize now, we made a mistake. We should not have stopped you both from being together.  I can see that my son really loves you and you genuinely care for him. Look at the way you’ve been caring for him since his illness. You have stood by him while the stupid, so called wife has abandoned him,” she said.

    She told me that Edward had spoken to her about resuming our old relationship, that he even wants to marry me.

    “I want to plead with you to please accept his proposal when he eventually summons the courage to ask you. Chief and I can now see that you are the only one who can make him truly happy. Please, Laura, my dear, he needs you now. We are ready to do anything you want. All we ask is just be with our son and make him happy again, be his old self once more” she stated earnestly.

    True to her words, Edward proposed to me a few days after his mother spoke to me. He said he had not stopped loving me and could not imagine being with anyone now except me. I did not turn him down or accept. I simply told him to give me sometime to think about it. 

    “I’ll be travelling to the village to visit my mother. I’ll give you an answer on my return,” I told him. He did not seem to mind, stating he was ready to wait as long as ‘my answer would be favorable to him.’

    Though I still loved Edward and it would make me very happy to be his wife, I had not fully forgotten the pain his parents put me through after they broke up our relationship. Now, they are begging the same person they did not want anything to do with their son because of her poor background, to marry him. How ironic! What will happen tomorrow if Edward recovers fully and they remember my roots and want to kick me out again? The last tests by some specialists doctors who had examined Edward showed he could regain the use of his legs with time and proper care. A physiotherapist had even been engaged to work on him.

    So, this time around, I want to be careful. My trip to see my mother in the village is to seek her advice on the matter. She is older and wiser and would advise me on the best decision to take. 

    I also want readers of my story to make an imput, to advise me about the issue- should I accept Edward’s proposal or not? Thank you.

    Concluded

    Names have been changed to protect the identity of the narrator, Laura and other individuals in the story.

    For Archive, Visit Patience Saduwa

  • ‘I caught my husband in bed with his mistress’ (1)

    ‘I caught my husband in bed with his mistress’ (1)

    Follow @Escapades007

    • Now my home is in disarray!
    This is the story of Jessica, a lady who out of the love she had for her boyfriend overlooked his murky past, with dire consequences. She fell in love with him and believed him when he promised her paradise; but in the end, hell was all she got!
    ***
    “Everyone is inside having fun and you are here, just staring at  the garden. What’s so fascinating about those plants?” I had been so engrossed in my thoughts, I had not noticed the man who had come up quietly to stand besides me on the verandah. He was of average height, not much taller than me with a quiet confidence about him. 
    “Just taking in some fresh air. It was getting too hot in there,” I told him. It was a birthday party of a friend of my flatmate Trina and as the night progressed, the party was getting more raucous by the minute.
    “Yeah, I get you. All that loud music, cigarrette smoke and chatter of the guests can give one a migraine. I’m Kel by the way. And you are?”
    “Jessica,” I introduced myself.
    We got talking after that. He was a friend of the boyfriend of the celebrant, he told me and had been practically dragged to the bash.
    “I have a very important presentation to make at the office on Monday and I need a lot of time to work on it. But Jerry said all work and no play will make me develop premature grey hair. So here I am!” he said with a grin.
    “Same here. Today is the fifth anniversary of my mother’s death. I wanted to have a quiet time 
     for remembrance but Trina would not hear of it, stating that my Mum would not be happy wherever she is to see me so sad,” I said.
     “I think your friend is right. Life is for the living; the best way to honour her memory is to live well. And talking about living, I think it’s time we hit the dance floor. So, lady, can I have this dance?” he said. And taking my hand, he led me inside the house where the Kokomaster D’Banj’s hit tune was blasting from the speakers…
    That was how I met Kel. After that evening of the party, we became friends and began seeing each other regularly. Kel was the first man in three years I had become close to and it surprised my friend, Trina. In the past, she had set me up on dates with guys she knew but I had simply not been interested. That was until Kel came on the scene. 
    A dark past
    At the beginning, she seemed to like him too, stating that I must have been waiting for someone ‘like him’ that’s why I turned down the other men who were interested in me. Then, about four months when Kel and I began dating, she told me things she said she had heard about his past that nearly ended our growing romance.
    “I know you will say it’s none of my business, Jessy but you are my friend and I don’t want anything bad to happen to you. Kel is a nice guy and he’s loving too but there’s something you need to know about him,” she said one night at home. I had just returned from work and I was having a late dinner.
    “What are you talking about?” I asked her as I took a sip of fruit juice.
    She gazed at me for a while before speaking.
    “I heard he was married in the U.S when he lived there and even has a child.”
    “I know. He has told me about it. The boy is about seven years old and he lives with the mother in the States- they are divorced. So, what about it?” I queried.
    “Did he tell you why they got divorced?” she said.
     I shook my head.
    “He only told me they were having problems and he left and returned to Nigeria when he could not cope with the situation anymore,” I told her.
    “That’s not the whole story,” she noted. She then went on to give me the full gist of what happened to Kel while he was abroad, how he used to regularly abuse his wife physically to the extent that the police became involved.
    “I learnt he served a short time in prison for wife battery, domestic violence and other offences,” she added. “You know over there, the authorities don’t joke with cases like that- its a serious offence for a man to beat his wife. It’s unlike here where such incidences are often swept under the carpet and the women suffer in silence,” Trina added.
    I was shocked at her words. While Kel had told me a lot about his time in the States, first as a student, then as a staff in an IT firm, he never mentioned his going to prison for domestic violence. My Kel, a wife beater? I found it difficult to believe that the gentle looking man I had been seeing these past months was capable of beating a woman, much less his wife. 
    Trina assured me she had got the story from an authoritative source, ‘someone who knew him from his days in the U.S,’ as she stated.
    That he had spent time in prison was bad enough but keeping it from me was worse. How could he do that, I fumed.
    “He should have told me about it,” I murmured to myself feeling upset.
    “I think it’s best you ask him. I can see you like him a lot and he is obviously smitten with you. I see the way he looks at you; it’s the look of a man in love. But before you guys go further in the relationship, you need to be more open with one another. Keeping secrets can ruin a good relationship,” Trina advised.
     The following day, a Saturday, Kel came in the evening to pick me up for an outing we had. I sat him down in the living room and confronted him with Trina’s story. Initially, I thought he would deny it and call it the handiwork of ‘idle gossips’ but to my surprise, he readily admitted to serving time in prison. 
    “I know I should have told you about it, but it’s in the past, and it’s a time of my life I want to forget. Some bad things went down while I was in the States; I used to drink and smoke a lot and I did some things I’m not proud of today including doing hard drugs. But I have put it all behind me. And I want you to do the same, Jessy. I’m a changed person and have put behind me my rough past. I’m sorry for keeping it from you but I felt it might affect the way you feel about me. And I don’t want to lose you now that I have found you,” he stated.
    “No matter what my reaction might be, you should have still told me about it. I don’t feel good hearing about it from someone else,” I grumbled.
    “I know, dear. It was bad of me. Please forgive me,” he pleaded earnestly. He sounded really contrite and my resolve to take a break from the relationship, to cool things a bit, died at that moment.
    At that point, I realized I was in love with him and the thought of leaving him at that stage was unthinkable. He had become an important part of my life and I just could not leave him then. Besides, as he had pointed out, it was all in the past and he was a changed person. So, who was I to judge him based on things in his life that happened years before I met him, I reasoned.
    ***
    Instead of breaking us up, the issue of his past brought Kel and I closer. Though very busy because of his job, Kel nonetheless created time to be with me. Most times, we would go on some outings like parties or visiting friends or just stay at home chilling. At a point, I was spending more time at his apartment than in my own place and Trina began to complain about my long absence from home.
    “I never knew when you started seeing Kel that he was going to snatch my best friend away from me,” she said one Saturday morning at our flat.
    “What did you say? Who is snatching who?” I asked, looking at her wonderingly.
    “Is that not what he has done? I hardly see you these days! I’m practically living alone in this house because you are never around,” she stated.
    “Ha, ha ha! You are funny Trina! Nobody snatched me from you. You will remain my friend till eternity,” I assured her.
    “It’s easy for you to say. I don’t even see much of you now. What will happen when you two get married?” she queried.
    “Who’s talking about marriage? Anyway, wait till that time comes. Stop stressing yourself now over that,” I told her.
    “I have to. You are my best friend. Until your Kel came and has taken over your life. Now we hardly see,” she said in a grumbling tone.
    “I know your problem. You are just jealous!”
    “Jealous ke? I’m just saying the truth. And the truth is that he’s nothing but a best friend snatcher!” she declared.
    I laughed and went to my room to get my dirty clothes for washing. I wanted to finish all my chores that morning as Kel was coming round in the afternoon to take me out to some where ‘special’ as he had put it…
     Names have been changed to protect the identity of Jessica and other individuals in the story

    For Archive, Visit Patience Saduwa

  • Emmanuel’s wife’s love for the poor

    In fulfilment of her promise to turn the fortunes of the less-privileged around and show love to the vulnerable in the state, the Wife of Akwa-Ibom State Governor and initiator of Family Empowerment and Youth Reorientation Programme (FEYReP), Mrs. Martha Udom Emmanuel, visited destitute homes, children’s homes and prisons in the state where she made donations as well as encouraged the inmates.

    At the Lutheran Children’s Home, Ikot Otong Nsit, Nsit Ibom Local Government Area and the St. Anthony’s Destitute Center, Uruan Street Uyo, she donated food and relief materials to the inmates.

    Represented by the wife of the Speaker, Akwa-Ibom State House of Assembly, Mr. Ememobong Uko, the Mrs Emmanuel urged the inmates of the various care centres to imbibe the dakkada spirit of believing in their greatness, being obedient to their care givers, respect for the elders as well as fear and honour God in order to become good and worthy citizens.

    Mrs. Emmanuel also advised the inmates to be of good behaviour, believe in God, cultivate the ‘I can do mentality’ and look into the future with great hope, adding that God, in his grace, will strengthen and make them great and productive citizens.

    She advised the inmates against indulging in unruly behaviour that could be inimical to their future, noting that the government would not rest on its oars in ensuring that every Akwa-Ibom child achieves his highest potential.

    Mrs Emmanuel thanked the care givers and members of staff of the various homes for their continued love for the inmates, saying that she was impressed with their living conditions.

    In appreciation, the outgoing father in-charge of St. Anthony’s Destitute Centre, Rev. Fr. Anthony Ekong appreciated the governor’s wife’s benevolence towards the home, stressing that for the past 10 years that he has been in charge of the centre, he has not seen such philanthropic gesture. He prayed God to reward the Governor and his wife and guide them in the discharge of their duties.

    Also speaking, the incoming father in-charge of the centre, Rev. Fr. John Adei appreciated Mrs. Emmanuel for her donations. He described the visit as being providential because he is barely in office, yet the governor’s wife greeted him with donations to the inmates. Fr. Adei said he was marvelled by the magnanimity of the Governor’s wife, promising to use the items donated judiciously and for the benefit of the inmates.

    At Eket, the morale of inmates of Eket Prison was given a boost as the wife of the governor made donations and engaged them in some soul-lifting discussions.

    Represented by the wife of the Hon. Commissioner for Health, Mrs. Nelly Ukpong, Mrs. Emmanuel said her visit was part of the social responsibilities of her pet project to touch lives. She implored the inmates not to give up on life, irrespective of the situation they may have found themselves in.

    She also urged the inmates to imbibe the dakkada spirit of believing in their greatness, stating that life behind bars does not mean that they cannot be productive citizens again.

    Earlier, the Chief Superintendent of Eket Prison, Agomo Ibezimako expressed his gratitude to the governor’s wife for her benevolence to the inmates of Eket Prisons. “Your visit to us is not unexpected. When we realised that you have begun a tour of destitute formations in our state, we became hopeful that you have included us in your itinerary, and that you will visit us before you exhaust your list. By your coming here today, our hope has not been dashed. We are most grateful to have you,” he said.

    Also visited was the Motherless Babies’ Home, Idung Iniang, Eket, where the governor’s wife donated items.

    Mrs. Emmanuel thanked the Matron of the home, Mrs. Tom Bush for dedicating her life to taking care of the motherless, praying that God will reward her labour of love.

    In appreciation, Mrs. Tom Bush thanked Mrs. Emmanuel for her kind disposition towards the home, saying that within four months in office, her impact on the socially-disadvantaged people has already been felt. She prayed God to sustain her and the Governor.

    Among the items donated to the inmates were bags of rice, beans and tubers of yam.

    Others were gallons of palm and groundnut oil, cartons of indomie, pillows, mattresses, toiletries as well as cash.

    On the entourage were wife of the Hon. Commissioner for Culture and Tourism Mrs. Emmanuel Ibiok, wives of members representing Nsit Ubium and Nsit Atai State Constituencies in the House of Assembly, Mrs. Uduak Onofiok Luke and Mrs. Dorcas Mark Esset, among others.

  • My best friend’s husband (1)

    My best friend’s husband (1)


    The first time I set my eyes on Eric, something told me I had met 'the one' I had been searching for. My soul just went out to him as romantic writers would describe it. Unfortunately, it was all one sided- Eric did not reciprocate my feelings. Instead, he had eyes only for my best friend, Patra. Patra and I had known each other since we were very young. Infact, we grew up together in the same neighbourhood and had attended the same secondary school. Later, her father, who worked in a government parastatal, was transferred to Abuja and we lost contact for a while. As fate would have it, she was posted to Lagos for her youth service programme and that's how we got reunited. By then, I was running my own business, a wedding planning outfit. When Patra finished the NYSC, I invited her to come and join me in the business. We have been working together for about four years and the business has grown in that period. And we have not had any personal problems, that is until Eric came on the scene. I first met him at a client's house. She was Eric's sister who had contracted us to plan her wedding. She was still living with her parents and Eric, who lived elsewhere in town, was on a visit to the family. I pride myself on being someone who is not easily carried away by emotions especially where men were concerned. But meeting Eric changed all that. I think I was attracted to him from the first time we met, which was a record as it usually took me time to get to like a guy. Anyway, after that first meeting, I did not see Eric again till some weeks later. Patra and I had finished another meeting with Sharon, his sister and were on our way out when he arrived. My heart grew warm at the sight of him, wishing he had come earlier. "I see you ladies are done already," he said as he stepped out of his car. I told him we had another session with Sharon in a few days. "I hope my sister is not giving you a tough time. She can be quite stubborn you know," he stated, his eyes all the while focused on Patra. Then lowering his voice in a conspiratorial tone, he added: "This is top secret. She has been like that since we were young. I feel sorry for the young man she wants to marry. The poor guy doesn't know what is about to hit him!" And with that, he waved at us and walked briskly towards the house, leaving us gaping after him. One day in our small office, Patra and I were going through some files on her laptop when her mobile rang. She walked towards the window and spoke for sometime on the phone, then turned to me, a surprised look on her face. "Who was it?" I asked indifferently, my eyes on the computer. "It's that guy Eric, Sharon's sister. He wants to take me out for a drink or something. He says you can come too if you are free," she said. At the mention of his name, I looked up quickly, fully interested. "Why would he want to do that?" I asked. I remembered the way he used to look at Patra the few occasions we had met him and my heart fell. God, I hope it's not what I'm thinking, that he likes Patra. He can't because I want him for myself, I silently prayed. "Who knows, Una? Maybe, he just wants to show appreciation for all the hard work we have put in planning his sister's wedding," she stated, with a shrug. Deep within me, I knew it was more than that...   Losing Eric My worst fears were confirmed during the outing with Eric. He took us to an open air garden bar by the lagoon front in the city. We sat close to the water front where some water hycinths grew profusely. That evening, it was clear to even the blind that Eric liked my friend. It was not just because he paid more attention to her, but the manner he looked and interacted with her. At a point I simply sat, glumly staring at a few boats that were speeding away on the water, leaving a trail of foamy water in their wake. Though it was a nice outing, I felt unhappy at the way things had turned out. Eric whom I liked so much had obviously chosen my friend over me. And she seemed to like him too as she confessed to me when we got home later that night. For one of the few times since our friendship began, I was angry with Patra. I felt betrayed and resentful, feeling that because of her, I had lost Eric. How can you lose someone you never had in the first place, the reader might wonder. Truth is, from the first moment I set my eyes on him, in my mind, he was already mine. Now, my friend had taken him from me! I knew I was being unreasonable but I could not help myself. I was consumed by jealousy, wondering what was so special about my friend that Eric would chose Patra over me. I kept all these thoughts to myself and never allowed how I felt about Eric to show. Even when they started dating fully, I wished her the best in the relationship. Deep inside me however, I prayed it would not last and that they would break up within a short time. My prayers stayed unanswered for with time, their relationship seemed to wax stronger and stronger. My friend had fallen in love and it showed in the glow in her eyes whenever she talked about him. She never hid anything from me concerning their relationship, both the ups and downs. Whenever they quarreled, I was the one she ran to, complaining bitterly about his 'difficult ways' and how controlling he could be. At such times, I would put my jealousy of her aside and console her as a friend. It was painful seeing them together but at least I took consolation in the fact that my friend was happy. Gradually, I began to accept the relationship, feeling they were meant to be. There was nothing I could do about it and I had to move on. But try as I could, the strong feelings I had for Eric never waned. It was to have dire consequences later as my story will show...   Names have been changed to protect the identity of Una, Patra and other individuals in the story

      For Archive, Visit Patience Saduwa
    [news_box style="2" display="category" link_target="_blank" category="82112" show_more="on"]

  • My master’s son (4)

    I quickly picked up the paper and my heart froze as I read the story. The report was about Edward. It stated that he had been involved in a car accident a few days before and that he was in a critical condition in an undisclosed hospital.
    ‘While the doctors are battling to save his life, a source close to the family disclosed that his parents are making frantic efforts to have him taken to a hospital abroad,’ I read. I stared at the paper in disbelief, not believing what was before my eyes. Edward in an accident? How did this happen? Different thoughts kept swirling through my mind. I was walking away from the vendor’s stand in a daze when the man said:
    “Aunty, you never give me money for the paper o!” I apologised, paid him and left. Throughout that day, I thought about nothing else but the accident. I kept praying that he would be alright. I longed to get an update on his situation but there was no one I could reach immediately. My mother had stopped working for the Addamsons some time ago after my grandmother fell seriously ill. She had resigned and had relocated to the village to take care of the old woman. As soon as I closed from work, I took a cab and rushed to the family house.
    The place had not changed much since I left. The security men at the gate, on recognising me, let me in. None of the family members was at home, they said. It was one of the maids, Charity, who gave me a bit of information on the situation. She said his parents were travelling with him that night to a foreign hospital.
    “We are all praying so Oga Edward will recover soon,” she said.
    It took months before Edward had recovered enough from his injuries to return to Nigeria. And it was not a full recovery as I found out when I went to visit him at home. He was in a wheelchair, a result of the spinal cord injuries he had sustained in the accident. Though I was so happy to see him alive, I felt bad seeing the once vibrant and lively Edward sitting in a wheelchair, unable to walk.
    That first day, I spent a long time with him and it was like old times even though circumstances had changed. He was married now, had survived a near fatal accident and was confined to a wheelchair. His wife, Cherry was hardly around as she still lived in their marital home while Edward was at the family home during his recuperation period.
    Anytime, I visited, Edward was always very happy to see me. We would spend many hours chatting, watching movies together or playing some board games like Scrabble which he loved. It got to a point that he even suggested I should move back to the house so I could be closer to him. It was in the evening and the nurse who attended to him at home, had closed for the day.
    “What about your wife? How will she feel when she hears that a former girlfriend of yours had moved into your home?” I asked.
    He smiled wryly before stating:
    “My wife? How many times do you see her here?”
    “Maybe she is busy with her job,” I suggested.
    “What job? Cherry doesn’t work! She is probably too busy with her shopping and hanging out with her equally rich and idle friends to have time for her crippled husband!” he said with some bitterness. Besides his wife, I wondered about his parents reactions too. Afterall, it was due to their interference that Edward and I had broken up. Though to be fair to them, since my return, they had been very friendly especially seeing how my presence made their son happy and less depressed about his condition.
    Back to base
    With no objections from his parents, I moved back to the house. Truth was, I wanted to be close to him so I could help in any way in his recovery. So, I did not mind the relocation. Each day, after closing from the office, I always looked forward to going home so I could be with Edward. With time, he became almost like his old self and less prone to bouts of depression and self-pity.
    Things went on this way until about a year after I had been living there. I returned from work one evening to find Edward looking despondent. Thinking he was in pain or something, I asked if I should send for the nurse to give him some drugs.
    He shook his head.
    “I’m fine. Nothing’s wrong with me,” he said.
    It was much later I found out what had been bothering him. He told me that his wife, Cherry had filed for divorce and wanted out of the marriage.
    “Can you believe she broke the news to me by text message? She did not even have the courtesy to come here and tell to my face that she is no longer interested in the marriage. All because I’m now wheel chair bound! She says she is too young to be saddled with a husband who is virtually a cripple and can’t perform his duties as a man anymore! And that she has fallen for some one else!” I could see he was getting really upset so I tried to calm him down.
    His parents were equally shocked when they heard what Cherry had done.
    “What kind of wife would abandon her husband in his hour of need?” said his mother one day when she was discussing the issue with a friend of hers who had come to visit Edward.
    “It shows the state of the world today. Most young people don’t take their marital vows seriously. They jump ship at the first hint of trouble. No patience at all!” the friend chipped in.
    Some months later, after the breakdown of his marriage, Edward’s mother sent for me one day. We had a long chat, with the main focus being Edward. She pleaded with me to overlook the past, particularly the shabby way her husband and herself had treated me while Edward and I were dating.
    “I realize now, we made a mistake. We should not have stopped you both from being together.  I can see that my son really loves you and you genuinely care for him. Look at the way you’ve been caring for him since his illness. You have stood by him while the stupid, so called wife has abandoned him,” she said.
    She told me that Edward had spoken to her about resuming our old relationship, that he even wants to marry me.
    “I want to plead with you to please accept his proposal when he eventually summons the courage to ask you. Chief and I can now see that you are the only one who can make him truly happy. Please, Laura, my dear, he needs you now. We are ready to do anything you want. All we ask is just be with our son and make him happy again, be his old self once more” she stated earnestly.
    True to her words, Edward proposed to me a few days after his mother spoke to me. He said he had not stopped loving me and could not imagine being with anyone now except me. I did not turn him down or accept. I simply told him to give me sometime to think about it.
    “I’ll be travelling to the village to visit my mother. I’ll give you an answer on my return,” I told him. He did not seem to mind, stating he was ready to wait as long as ‘my answer would be favorable to him.’
    Though I still loved Edward and it would make me very happy to be his wife, I had not fully forgotten the pain his parents put me through after they broke up our relationship. Now, they are begging the same person they did not want anything to do with their son because of her poor background, to marry him. How ironic! What will happen tomorrow if Edward recovers fully and they remember my roots and want to kick me out again? The last tests by some specialists doctors who had examined Edward showed he could regain the use of his legs with time and proper care. A physiotherapist had even been engaged to work on him.
    So, this time around, I want to be careful. My trip to see my mother in the village is to seek her advice on the matter. She is older and wiser and would advise me on the best decision to take.
    I also want readers of my story to make an imput, to advise me about the issue- should I accept Edward’s proposal or not? Thank you.
    Concluded
    Names have been changed to protect the identity of the narrator, Laura and other individuals in the story.
  • For the love of Jos violence victims

    For the love of Jos violence victims

    Lacking materials and cash, Jos University Teaching Hospital and Plateau State Specialists Hospital often struggle to cater for victims of violence. Now, N30m relief has come, reports YUSUFU AMINU IDEGU

     

     

    They are not just another pair of hospitals. Owned by the state government, their doors are always open to patients including victims of violence. Immediately, their staff get to work, trying their best to dull patients’ pain, stop bleeding and revive those fighting for their lives. But the hospitals often run into all sorts of problems, including lack of cash and life-saving materials.

    That is the lot of Jos University Teaching Hospital (JUTH) and Plateau State Specialists Hospital.

    Help has come. A non-governmental organisation, Victim Support Fund or VSF has provided N30m to be split between them, N20 for teaching hospital, N10m for the specialist facility.

    The two major hospitals in Jos, the state capital, have been bearing the burden of providing medical care to victims of attacks.

    VSF noticed their efforts and challenges. Each time there were such attacks as car or suicide bombings, the hospitals quickly ran out of drugs and other consumables because of the huge number of casualties they treated. The hospital management often appealed to governments and private organisations to assist with necessary health facilities for saving life.

    It was on that note that the NGO sourced funds to assist the hospitals for the sake of victims of attacks. At the end of their search for funds, they came up with a whooping sum of thirty million naira to be donated to the hospitals. Hence,  the NGO came up to formally present the fund in aid of victims.

    But before the NGO made their presentations to the benefiting hospitals, the NGO had to sign a memorandum of understanding with managements of the hospitals so as not to divert the funds for other purposes other than purchasing medical facilities like drugs to be used on victims of insurgency.

    The Executive Director of the NGO, Prof. Sunday Ochoche made the donation to management of Jos University Teaching Hospital (JUTH) and Plateau State Specialist Hospital. Of the N30 million, the NGO gave N20m to JUTH and gave N10m to Plateau Specialists Hospital.

    Mr. Ochoche said, “The donation is to compliment the efforts being made by hospitals which bear the most burden of caring for victims of insurgency and other related crisis in the country.

    He said, “Victims Support Fund is private sector-led, in conjunction with and support from government and other well meaning individuals. We have been to different hospitals providing care for crisis and insurgency victims in North East and other areas, the problems and challenges are enormous, we come in to show solidarity and to support in our own little way”

    “The organisation was set up when former president Goodluck Jonathan invited private sector to compliment government efforts following the intensity of attacks in 2014, so as to help alleviate the sufferings of victims, thus the Victims Support Fund Committee was formed under the chairmanship of T.Y. Danjuma who has been the largest individual contributor, haven donated 10 million dollars to VSF at its inception.

    Mr. Ochoche also said,“We have not supported private hospitals because the emphasis is to help build capacity and provide resources for these public institutions to be able to provide free medical care for victims, and we are providing support to help build capacity that will be available for public use. With the limited resources we have, we thought it will be more cost effective to put it in public institutions. Apart from Plateau State, we have provided support for other government hospitals in Borno, Adamawa, Gombe, Yobe and Abuja respectively.

    The fund was presented in cheque to management of the benefitting hospitals. The Chief medical directors of Jos University Teaching Hospital (JUTH) Dr Edward Banwat received the cheque on behalf of the hospital while Dr. Joseph Golwa, Chief Medical Director of Plateau Hospital recited a cheque of N10,000 on behalf of the hospital. Both of the expressed appreciation for the support by VSF and promised that the funds will be used for what is it meant for and that, that will be judiciously utilised as agreed.

     

  • My husband won my heart because of his love for his mum-Wife of ex-Police Affairs Minister Modupe Jemibewon

    My husband won my heart because of his love for his mum-Wife of ex-Police Affairs Minister Modupe Jemibewon

    As a child, Chief Modupe Jemibewon, wife of Major-General David Jemibewon, former Minister of Police Affairs, was always enthralled by the wonderful world of teachers, and she looked forward to the day she would stand before a group of children to impact knowledge into them.

    The daughter of two teachers, young Modupe had the opportunity to learn the art of art of teaching early in life. “I am a product of two teachers, so teaching had always been part of me,” she told The Nation.

    Expectedly, she proceeded to study French Language at the University of Ibadan, with her eyes fixed on a future in the teaching profession. But shortly before entering the university, she fulfilled her childhood dream when she taught for one year at Hope Grammar School in Ibadan, Oyo State.

    “I am an educationist by training. I have a degree in education, principally in French Language. In my younger days, I was a teacher. I taught in Hope Grammar in Ibadan after my A-levels. That was before I entered the university. I am practically an Ibadan person. My father was a principal of St. Patrick’s Grammar School and I went to St. Theresa’s College and later University of Ibadan.”

    Though her father would have loved to see his first child become a teacher, but her proficiency in French, a foreign language, would take her away from her most cherished profession-teaching, taking her into the corporate world where she cut her teeth in diplomatic circles, shuttling world capitals on behalf of the then very vibrant Nigeria Airways.

    “My father would have loved me to be a teacher. But in life, you don’t have to be a classroom teacher to teach and impact knowledge into people. By your lifestyle and attitude, you are always mentoring those around you. In that wise, I believe I am a teacher, though I have not been able to pick a chalk and teach.”

    Talking about her childhood, she went into a brief deep silence as if something was amiss, and said:

    “Mine was a very structured home. I happened to have parents who were much ahead of their time. They nurtured the future of their children according to what they thought each child needed. It was not a home where they forced on you what they think you should do. Very early in life, my father was able to differentiate the strength and wisdom of each of the children, six of us. So, we never had a situation whereby our parents dictated to us what they wanted us to do. And whatever we became was out of our own volition.

    “From the word go, I always knew I was a humanity person, while the men that followed me were medical. Among the six of us, I am probably the only illiterate who does not have a PhD after the first degree.

    “I think we had an Eldorado growing up in those days in the South West. As students from the Western Region in the University of Ibadan, we had scholarships. We collected our bursary every month without any hassle. It is very unfortunate that our children are not enjoying all those benefits. We lived like any other child of our time anywhere in the world. Believe me, I am very proud of my Yoruba heritage.

    “As students, we were made to listen to the redifusion in Ibadan. We were made to listen to the proceedings at the parliament. And as young as we were, we were able to differentiate between Chief Obafemi Awolowo and Chief Ladoke Akintola or Chief Adegoke Adelabu.

    “I can tell you where I was when John Kennedy was murdered. It was on the redifusion. And our school, being a Catholic school, we were ordered to start praying. All the things happening in the US were broadcast to us live, that was the kind of beautiful growing up that I had in the Western Region.

    “We were taught that wealth was not the accumulation of what you have acquired, but an aggregation of what you are, what you own and satisfaction. It was how you are able to impact on the society, no matter how little you have.”

    As the first child of her parents, Modupe had a huge responsibility thrust on her lean shoulders. According to her, her position in the family meant she had to be hard working.

    “My parents were disciplinarians, but they were also very friendly. It was not a regimental kind of discipline. But, as the first child of the family, the responsibility to do well was always on me. I had to prove myself, so the ones after me would have to follow suit.”

    Widely travelled and fluent in French, English and Yoruba, her stint with the Nigeria Airways saw her represent the nation’s airline across the world and opening new doors and frontiers for her.

    “I used my French as a staff with the Nigeria Airways. I represented the airline at IITA in Geneva, and you know that you had to be proficient in French to do that. I also did same across the west coast, I mean countries like Togo, Benin and Cote Devoire. It was my ability to speak French Language that gave me those opportunities.”

    But even with the several years she worked, she always had it at the back of her mind that she would one day go back to invest in education. Her desire to give back to the society, she claimed, was influenced by the belief that the society gave her a lot as child.

    “Even while I was working, I always knew that I would one day be a proprietress. I always had the desire to give something to the society that has done so much for me. I knew that in whatever I do, I had to do something cognitive. We cannot continue to complain that the educational system is going bad. Governance in Nigeria has gone so wide. During my time, we had three regions, so you had to be very excellent to get somewhere.

    “You know one thing, I am always happy when I see these kids run to me and hug me. Such scenes give me joy. But you see, there should be cause for concern. In Kogi State where my husband comes from, they are people noted for excellence. There you find parents who would sell all their possessions to send their children to school. But today, it is surprising that what you see the young children aspiring to become is to buy an okada that they can use for business. You see young men who would rather be political thugs than go to school.  That worries me and I think we have to do something.

    “It is for reasons like these that we have Boko Haram with us today. The other day, I watched an interview by one old politician and minister from Maiduguri. His father was a teacher, and he spoke about how he and others trekked very long distances to get to Nguru, where he schooled. He said the people had to write the District Officer, who later provided the funds to build a school that was not too distant from Maiduguri.

    “Doesn’t it surprise you that if those people who lived during the colonial period would suffer that much just to get educated, what has now happened to the children who would rather embrace violence and Boko Haram instead of education? That is my fear. How do you situate this, that the grandchildren of people who gave so much to get educated are now saying education is a taboo. It is a dangerous trend. We all cannot fold our arms.”

    For her, getting involved in the promotion of education, she said has come at a price. According to her, when the decision to start the school was made, she and her husband had the option to cite the school in Lagos, Abuja or Kogi. But after due considerations, the couple decided to cite the school in their local Iyagbede in Kogi State.

    “When we were planning the school, several people advised that we cite it in either Lagos or Abuja. They said that would enable me to carry money home in baskets.  But we had other ideas. I said I would love to carry the success of the children with those baskets instead of the money. And I tell you, that is what is happening now. Those children are those who would lead this country in the future.

    “I must confess to you, that is my joy. True, I am a ‘city girl’ by all ramifications, but all of us cannot be in the city. Some of us need to go back and develop the rural areas. In the last Olympiad Mathematics competition, one of my students came third among the pool of students from all over the country. No joy can be better than that.”

    Determined to give the best, she said she made trips to some schools in the US and Europe to see first-hand how their schools are run. Those trips, she said yielded positive results, as she met heads of institutions who were willing offer assistance, including donating precious books to her library.

    “Even before we started the school, I had the privilege of going round the world. I went to schools in the US. For instance, I was at the school where Chelsea Clinton was. At that time, the Obama kids were there. I met the departmental heads of those schools and they were happy. And through a friend, I was able to get some books from them, voluntarily donated to us. All they asked us to do was to pay for the shipping cost of the books, and they are here with us now as I speak. Those trips gave me useful tips on how to run things here.”

    As part of her quest for excellence, the school is run by the Lokoja Diocese of the Catholic Church. Her experience growing up in a Catholic home and Catholic schools for both her primary and secondary education, she confessed may have informed her decision to let the Catholic run the school.

    “Though a non-denominational or religious school, our school is run by the Catholic. The principal is a Catholic sister. You see, whether you like it or not, the Catholic system of education is holistic, it is wholesome.  We had to bring them in to run the school. It is a partner that has worked very well. The truth is that I am willing to work with whoever is able to give me the best, and the Catholic has given me that.

    “Mind you, we have lots of Muslim children in the school. We also have Arabic Language as one of our subjects. All this has nothing to do with your religion, all we want is what is best for our children.”

    Getting the best for the children, she said, would involve teaching the children foreign languages, which she said would equip them for leadership roles in the future.

    “Apart from the common languages like English and French, we also teach Arabic Language. You know, the way the world is going, you need to speak a bit of Spanish, a lot Chinese and other major languages of the world. By next term, our Chinese teacher will arrive.

    “I want my children to be citizens of the world. I want them to go to any country without any encumbrance. I want them to be ambassadors in the United Nations and be ambassadors of peace.”

    With a tinge of passion permanently pasted on her face, she referred to the students as ‘my children’ as she rolled out her dreams for the school. The reason for this, she said, is because of the close relationship between her and the students.

    “Wow! You asked to know why I call the kids my children? Of course, that is what they are to me.”

    Looking into the future, Modupe Jemibewon would love to hear the children say she gave them her best. “I would love the children to say I gave them by best. You know, as Africans, we say a child is trained by many people around. I want them to say that I did all I could to give them a future, I mean a future that is secured.”

    Apart from ensuring a standard education for the children, she is also particular about the need to educate the female child. The girls, who she described as future mothers, she said need specialised training to prepare them for the difficult task of home building.

    “It is particularly unfortunate that you get to see girls on the street hawking when they are supposed to be in school. Many fathers would rather send their male children to school at the expense of the females. Such parents don’t know that they failed to prepare these girls for their future responsibility as mothers and home builders.

    “I travel a lot by road. I am sad that each time I travel, I see these girls hawking along major roads. Such things were not possible in those days when parents would sell off their property to send their children to school, not minding whether those kids are boys or girls.”

    Interestingly, apart from the children, she also speaks affectionately about her father and her husband. She told The Nation that it has been tough for her getting over the recent loss of her father. And she indeed proved how tough it has been when she barely summoned up courage to say a few words about him.

    “My dad was my friend. But I don’t really want to talk about that now. He was my confidant. There were secrets between him and I that I dare not let my mum know about. I was very close to both of them, but like I said, I was closer to him than mum.”

    Asked if it was her beauty that attracted her husband to her, Chief Modupe Jemibewon burst into a prolonged laughter, then shot back, “I don’t know. You may need to ask him”. After a little pause, she looked up as if trying to remember something very important. Then with her eyes like those of a teenager who has suddenly found love, she said: “I knew many soldiers, but David was one soldier that respected his mum. That was what made the difference for me. The fact that he respects his mum won my heart. For me, I respect my parents a lot, and I knew that any man that respects his parents, especially the mother, will definitely respect his wife.

    “Though it was tough, but I thank God for everything. I must tell you that I have no regret at all for making that decision to give my heart to him.”

    Not even age has taken away her love for preparing her husband’s meals whenever she had the opportunity. “Yeah, whenever I have the opportunity, I still make sure that I prepare his meals. But that is not often now because I travel a lot these days.”

  • Charles Ahize returns to first love

    Charles Ahize returns to first love

    The first time you fall in love, it changes you forever. No matter how hard you try, that feeling refuses to go away. And this applies not only to the love of fellow human beings but also to one’s passion.

    Popular Lagos socialite and businessman, Charles Ahize’s greatest passion is auto business. Popularly known on the Lagos social space as Charlie Akpuruka, Ahize believes there is no love like the first. Hence he has had to return to his first love after trying his hands on other endeavours.

    The owner of Tribeca Night Club on Ahmadu Bello Way, Victoria Island, Lagos, has turned the once bubbling hospitality haven to an automobile showroom. The place is now said to be filled with exotic vehicles, including assorted brands of exotic SUVs.

    It looks like Charles can never let go of auto business. What is more, things have generally been looking up for him since his marriage hit the rocks and he remarried.

  • DAVIDO SHOWERS DAUGHTER WITH LOVE

    DAVIDO SHOWERS DAUGHTER WITH LOVE

    To prove to the world that his daughter is presently the only woman in his life, superstar entertainer, Davido not only bought his daughter, Imade Adeleke, a customised necklace, he also posted the picture of a blue beautiful floral customised Air Jordan sneakers he just got for her, with the caption: “Yay or nay…. for my pumpkin?”

    This is coming shortly after the Pop singer debunked the rumours making rounds that he has reconciled with his former girlfriend, Guinean Sira Kante.

    The story went viral, when the ex-lover shared a picture of herself rocking Davido’s customised HKN chain with a succinct caption made of an emotion icon.

    Though pictures posted showed both of them together, the OmoBaba Olowo crooner, gave a subtle denial on his Twitter handle when he said; “Only Woman in my life right now is my daughter so blogs stop talking shit.”

    It will be recalled that, the artiste and his baby mama, Sophie Momodu who is Dele Momodu’s cousin, welcomed their daughter earlier in March.

  • I still love my wife, says Emeka Ike

    I still love my wife, says Emeka Ike

    •’I’m no longer interested in him’

    Ace Actor Emeka Ike yesterday prayed the Lagos Island Customary Court not to dissolved his marriage, saying he still loves his wife, Emma.

    Emma had gone to court, seeking dissolution of their 12-year-old marriage.

    Emeka, represented by his counsel, Abdul’Hakeem Labi-Lawal, said his client has not appeared in court because he is ill.

    “My client is ill but I will try my best possible he comes on the next adjourned date. We indulge the court to give us six months from this day to see if there is possibility of settlement between the couple,” he said.

    But Mrs Ike said six months was too long adding that the respondent had two years to reconcile with her but he didn’t.

    She said: “The last time I wanted to speak with our children, it was my mother-in-law who

    picked the call and asked if I had read Exodus 21 which says that if I go, I shouldn’t return.”

    The court’s President, Chief Awos Awosola, said the court could only grant two weeks.

    He said: “I am expecting Emeka Ike in this court if he really wants settlement.”

    Awosola adjourned the matter till August 12 for further hearing.

    After the court rose, Mrs Ike told The Nation that she wasn’t ready to return to her husband. “Over two years since I left the house, he never taught of reconciliation. He had every opportunity to ask me to return but he didn’t. So why now?”she asked.

    Mrs Ike said her husband took her last two children from her when she was going for her mother’s burial in February.

    “He promised to bring them to me immediately I returned from my mother’s burial but he didn’t. Even when he didn’t allow me access to see our children, I spoke with them on several occasions but now, he doesn’t allow me anymore. My children are now against me, she said.

    Mrs Ike said she left her matrimonial home because she could no longer bear being tortured anymore.

    “If I was still with him, I may not survive. I was 19-year old when I met him and he was the one who deflowered me. I see no reason I shouldn’t be treated with utmost respect.

    “Due to physical torture, my health has been affected. There was even a time I thought I had breast cancer because I felt a lump on one part of my breast.” Mrs Ike said.

    She said things became worse last Sunday when she called her husband to speak with their children.

    In tears, Mrs Ike said:”I almost went mad when my first son told me on phone that if I truly loved them, I wouldn’t have abandoned them. Even my seven-year-old son whose day wouldn’t be complete without seeing me said he doesn’t love me. I love my children. I miss my children. I never abandoned them. I am in pain. They don’t have any other mother. I really need my children. I am a good woman; I endured so many things as his wife.”

    The union produced four children between ages 4 and 13.