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  • Bedrock for marital bliss (5)

    You are welcome to the last edition in this series. By the enabling power of the Holy Spirit, I have been able to show you several principles to marital bliss and so, your marriage must succeed. Today, I shall be teaching on the subject: Mind your tongue

    The tongue is an important part of our human make-up as it affects our daily triumphant living. The Word of God says: Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof (Proverbs 18:21). This part of our system is so important; it determines whether we live or not. God has promised to grant the desires of your heart this year. You need to always say only what you want to have. You may desire life, but if you permit your tongue to speak death, you cannot have anything but death.  The Word of God says: …He shall have whatsoever he saith (Mark 11:23).

    What are you saying to your life this year? Are you speaking glory to your life or are you saying negative things to your life? Life is a choice! Choose whether to use your tongue to bring about peace in your home or not. The tongue is either for blessing or cursing. As you use it, you reap its fruits. The Word of God says: What man is he that desireth life, and loveth many days, that he may see good? Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile (Psalm 34:12-13). Do you need peace and harmony in your home? Are you longing for serenity and happiness? Then, use your tongue to your advantage. When you become a child of God, old things pass away from you, and your spirit becomes regenerated. Let your tongue too be regenerated. Bring about peace in your home this year by the use of your tongue and you shall reap the rewards of a successful family life.

    Every good tree brings good fruit, while a bad tree produces bad fruit. What do you want in your family this year? I don’t care how much you can pray, fast or give, you will still reap the fruits of your lip. Keep your mouth from speaking evil. The Word of God says: A man’s belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled (Proverbs 18:20). Your home shall be satisfied with the fruit of your mouth. What is happening to you now is not the work of any devil, neither is it any witch near your house, but rather, it is the fruit of your tongue.

    The words of your mouth are seeds. When you plant them in your home,they begin to germinate and bring forth the kind of fruit your seed is made of. In Matthew 16:19, we are told that whatsoever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and that which you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. You bind and loose with your tongue; therefore, determine how to use your tongue. Your tongue is creative. Use it well. Our God is not a purposeless God. For everything He created, there is a purpose. He created the tongue for a purpose.

    God wanted to create a world that would be very good. His desire was implanted deep in His heart.  The day He gave voice to His desire, our world was born. When He looked at all He had made, He put a final stamp of approval and declared them, “Very good” (Genesis 1:13). Even if the creation work was not very good, as soon as God proclaimed that it was very good, the earth adjusted. Whatever good you desire to see in your home, speak it into being.

    From the Word of God, we understand that there are different types of tongues. God will not force anything on you. He has given you a will to choose that which will benefit you and bring about all-round happiness to you. We have:

    1. Wholesome Tongue (Proverbs 15:4): It is a healing tongue. It is spirit-filled. It heals the heart of the weary.
    2. Soft Tongue (Proverbs 25:15): It breaks the bone. It dissolves anger. It pacifies. (See Abigail – 1 Samuel 25)
    3. Just Tongue (Proverbs 10:20): It brings about deliverance. It produces life. It delivers the oppressed. It delivers one from fear. It speaks only the truth.
    4. Tongue of Wisdom (Proverbs 15:2): This has no relevance with age. It correctly applies knowledge. It speaks with grace and the wisdom of God.
    5. Lying Tongue (Colossians 3:9; Leviticus 19:11; Proverbs 12:20-22): This is a tongue that makes false statements with the intention of deceiving another person.
    6. Deceitful Tongue (Psalm 50:19-22, 52:2-5): A tongue full of deceits. It eventually brings about destruction.
    7. Flattery Tongue (Proverbs 6:24): It speaks wrong words of praise to destroy.
    8. Slanderous Tongue (Genesis 39:7-20): It destroys another person’s character.
    9. Backbiting tongue (Proverbs 25:23): It speaks evil concerning a person in his/her absence.
    10. Double Tongue (1 Timothy 3:8): It says different things in deceit to suit oneself.
    11. Perverse Tongue (Proverbs 17:20): It is a foolish tongue. Talks without having a purpose for talking. Argues unreasonably.
    12. Sharpened Tongue (Psalm 140:3): Full of poison. Ready to murder. Speaking words of destruction to other people’s destiny. It incites evil between people.
    13. Excessive Talking (Proverbs 10:19): It  talks without break. Gossiping.

    Dear friend, of all listed above, which do you choose? Or rather, which is your own? The Bible encourages us to constantly examine ourselves and make amendments. Which of them is operational in your life now. Is it the positive one or negative? Examine yourself and make amendments. As it affects you, your family and all around you, let there be changes in your tongue this year. You will no doubt reap the fruits. Determine to reap good fruits by the words of your mouth. Ask God to touch your lips with His coal of fire, even as He did to Isaiah (Isaiah 6:5-7). This year, by the words of your mouth, you can turn the situation in your home from bad to good, from good to best, and from shame to glory. Speak well concerning your husband or wife. Let words of grace come out of your mouth to your children. Refuse to talk like the people of the world concerning your business.

    Read also: Bedrock for marital bliss (3)

    To fully maximise all of the points written herein, you need to be born again; have a genuine relationship with Jesus Christ by making Him Lord and personal Saviour of your life. If you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please, pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

  • Bedrock for marital bliss (3)

    In this third edition in the series, I will start by establishing that love is a vital key for the effective running of the home. Love is the price every member of your family must pay to have a glorious home. The Word of God says: And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8).

    If you want your home to be a glorious one, love is the requirement. Love is mandatory. This love does not have its origin in the world, but in God.  The Word of God says: He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love (1 John 4:8). A Christian home must be a home where the love of God is practised.

    WHAT TRUE LOVE DOES

    By true love, I mean God’s kind of love that is demonstrated in actions. Let’s see in practical terms how Jesus loves and how He expects us to love. I shall be taking my text from 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. The Living Bible renders it thus: Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, Never haughty or selfish or rude.  Love does not demand its own way.  It is not irritable or touchy.  It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.

    True love is patient and kind:

    Jesus, while He walked on the earth, was an epitome of patience and kindness. He tolerated, accommodated and endured with His disciples.  He could have given up out of anger, but He didn’t. Going beyond His disciples to the Jews at large, whose sick He healed, whose dead He raised and whose demoniacs He freed, Jesus was still an epitome of patience.  He closed His eyes to their jeering and went to the cross for our sake. Jesus was kindness personified! Many miracles He wrought were based on compassion. God instructed man to love as He did. Many things try your patience as husbands, most of all, imperfect wives.  But if Christ was patient with us, then husbands ought to endure and be patient with their wives.

    True love is never jealous or envious

    I want you to know that Jesus was never jealous of His disciples’ achievements.  The seventy went out in twos and wrought great deliverance. Jesus only replied: He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father (John 14:12). Jesus’ love compelled Him not to envy the works of His disciples, but to desire that they did greater works. Likewise, husbands need not feel threatened by their wives’ success. Rather, they should wish them well and encourage them to put in their best. Even if the wife earns more money, perfect love places a demand on the husband to desire only the best for her.

    True love is never boastful or proud

    Jesus never spoke proudly of Himself; He never boasted. Everything He said and did points to God the Father.  The Word of God says: …The Son can do nothing of himself, but what he seeth the Father do… (John 5:19). Jesus had cause to boast about His works, but His eyes were focused on God and on the ones He had come to save.  Some husbands tend to get carried away with the things they provide in the house and are misled to think: “I am the breadwinner in this house; I do so and so, I give and give and give!” However, when you realise that you have only because He (God) provided, your language will change.

    True love is not selfish, haughty or rude

    The attitude of “Me, Myself and I”, has destroyed so many homes. Another name for it is selfishness.  Marriage is built on selflessness and courtesy. Jesus, our perfect example, was not selfish.  He relinquished His throne to live on the earth for thirty-three and a half years. The Word of God says: For ye know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that, though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich (2 Corinthians 8:9). Husbands must pay the price of selflessness, if they want enviable marriage.

    Does not demand its own way

    Love does not demand its own way!  That does not mean that the man should become subservient to the wife, no!  The key word here is “demand”.  This word means “to claim as a right.” Love means asking, “Could you do this please?”  You’re neither begging, nor rude.  It is a mixture of authority and courtesy.   The Word of God says: Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones (Proverbs 16:24).

    Not irritable or touchy

    This means that you should not be over-sensitive.  Some people are offended at the slightest thing. They just flare up and fly off the handle.  Some are very touchy.  Husbands, learn to desensitize your nerve! If Jesus had been over-sensitive, He would have fought the Pharisees who always sought to trap him.  Your wife is neither a Pharisee nor Sadducee!

    Does not hold grudges or notice when it’s wronged

    A grudge is an angry feeling against a person for something done in the past; it leads to unforgiveness. Love forgives and forgets.  Love does not keep record of wrongs.

    Grace to hear and do these is made available when you accept Jesus Christ and become born again.If you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Bedrock for marital bliss (1)

    Dear Reader, it is another beautiful month, in which God will be opening strange doors of favour, blessings, provisions and peace for you and your family. I must congratulate you, therefore, for your best days are here already. The Bible clearly states: In the midst of the street of it, and on either side of the river, was there the tree of life, which bare twelve manner of fruits, and yielded her fruit every month: and the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations (Revelation 22:2). This means that there are blessings reserved for each month. Therefore, your package for the month will not elude you, in Jesus name!

    All through this wonderful month, I shall be teaching on the topic: Bedrock for Marital Bliss. Marriage is one institution that everyone desires to succeed in, and the foundation of anything determines its ultimate end. A good understanding of the foundation upon which marriage is built will constitute the raw materials upon which your family will be built. As it is in the natural, if you consider the foundation of any building as unimportant, no matter how beautiful that building looks, in no time, it will crumble.  No wonder the Bible says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm11: 3).

    Let us examine some of the characteristics of marriage to help us understand God’s original purpose for the family.

    Marriage is an incident not an accident:

    Marriage is not an accident but an incident that God, the Almighty Himself, had to specially prepare for and bring into existence by being practically involved in its institution. There is a world of difference between an accident and an incident. A servant of God once gave an illustration saying, whenever an accident happens in the natural, people gather. Among those who gather are sympathizers and ordinary onlookers who haven’t come to render any help, but just to find out what has actually happened. That is why so many people, Christians inclusive, who see marriage as an accident, will always have to gather a crowd to settle quarrels. They will always have to gather a crowd to tell them how to behave and sympathize with them and boost their longing for self-pity. They will even gather a crowd who are not even beckoned to, but who will come of their own accord because of the terrible situation that they are going through. But for you and me as believers in Jesus Christ, whether as married or singles, it is very crucial we know from the Word of God that marriage is not an accident but an incident that God Almighty specially prepared for.

    Marriage is a mystery not a mistake:

    It is also very important for you to know that marriage is a mystery and not a mistake. The Word of God speaking about it says: This is a great mystery… (Ephesians 5:32). Marriage is a mystery, and every mystery is designed to give mastery in life’s endeavour. A mystery is defined by the American Heritage Dictionary as a religious truth that is incomprehensible to the reason and knowable only through divine revelation. You are meant to live a life that is beyond the imagination of the world, a mysterious life that even the devil himself can neither understand nor predict.God’s wish for you is to live a life of mastery.

    Marriage is a life of mystery where you are able to overcome every obstacle of the enemy and enjoy God’s best for your life. For those of you who are married and are reading this article right now, I want to congratulate you because God has brought you into a life of mastery. For those of you who are single and not married yet, Ephesians 5: 32 tells us that marriage is a mystery designed to make you a master, not a mistake.  It is a thing that is meant to make life better for you, not worse. I pray that every person reading this article today will enjoy the mystery that is in marriage, in the name of Jesus Christ!

    God designed your marriage for all-round fruitfulness:

    The Word of God says: So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth (Genesis 1:27-28). God began the human family by blessing, not cursing it.  He said to Adam and Eve, Be fruitful; multiply; replenish the earth; subdue it! What wonderful words of blessing! It is interesting for you to know that fruitfulness goes beyond procreation; it includes success in all areas of life.  It also means having many good results.  The fact that God rained blessings on the first family is a clear indication that every family is meant to be successful.  These blessings will answer for you, in Jesus’ name!

    Make God first in your marriage:

    If you want God to form your marriage, you must make God first in your marriage, not second. As husband, wife, children or family members, make God first in everything. Get committed to the course of the Kingdom of God. Get committed to God, His Word and His work. Let God be your utmost desire for life, day and night.

    In whatever assembly you find yourself, take the work of God as your only purpose for living. When it is time for the Church to be swept, don’t sit back and cross your legs as the supervisor of everybody.  When it is time to do one thing or the other, rise up to the task; don’t wait to be called upon. When it is time to serve God with your intellect, energy, money, possession, position, the position you occupy shouldn’t matter. Let me tell you something, you are in that position because God has allowed it. If you cannot serve God with your means, money, position, faith, intellect and energy, I tell you, you will one day serve the devil with them because nature abhors vacuum. Whatever is within your power to do for the promotion of God’s work, go ahead and do it with the whole of your heart.

    Nothing and nobody should take the place of God in your life, not your husband, wife or even your children, because if that happens, you will be placing your priorities wrongly. I know my husband loves me so much and I hear him tell me almost everyday that he loves me, but I have never wished or secretly desired to take the place of God in his heart.  He knows I love him too, but he also knows that the love of God takes number one in my life, followed by His own. There are some parents, whose children are like gods to them. Your children are not your gods but God’s gifts to you. I remember that any time my parents prayed, they would refer to us as the gifts that God had given to them. Then, I didn’t understand, but now, I know better.

    In all, you must understand that you need Jesus to achieve anything worthwhile in your home. If you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

  • Secrets to marital bliss (5)

    DEAR Reader, A lot of times, people dream about a perfect home where joy, peace, abundance and fruitfulness abound. Such dreams are good, if you determine to do what is required to realize it. Just as physically you cannot own a home by mere wishing. If you plan on having a glorious family, stop wishing and prepare to play your part. You must accept responsibility for the building of your family. God’s Word says: Every house is built by some man… (Hebrews 3:4). This week, I will be teaching on Commitment.

    Husband, wife, are you committed to your marriage, home and relationship? Many people have entered into marriage thinking they might as well give it a trial. After the first attraction dies and the work of making a happy marriage begins, they begin to wonder if they have not married the wrong person.

     

    Three fold-cord of commitment

    Commitment to God

    When you commit yourself to Christ, Christ commits Himself to you. 2 Timothy 1:12 says: For the which cause I also suffer these things: nevertheless I am not ashamed: for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day.

    A husband and wife, who are committed to the Lord Jesus Christ and to doing the will of God, are walking in the light (1 John 1:7). This brings great stability into marriage and family life.

    Since it is God who instituted the family, it is only reasonable that He occupies a central part in your marriage and family life. God must be in the life of both parties. Marriage is an institution designed by God. So, it cannot be successful when God is ignored. After accepting Jesus Christ as your Saviuor, you have the love of God shed abroad in your heart and you can truly love others (Romans 5:5).

     

    Commitment To Your Spouse

    The second strand in the three-fold cord of commitment is permanent commitment to your spouse. Men and women, our nation and churches desperately need strong families. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. When I speak of commitment, I am not referring to some form of passive past commitment that was based on hormones and emotions. Rather, I am referring to the daily exercise of love (1 Corinthians 13). I am referring to the husband taking the time to get to know his wife and communicating with her (1 Peter 3:7-10). I am talking about building the kind of a relationship together, so that you enjoy being together and after years of marriage, you are still ravished with her love.

    A blissful marriage requires commitment to your spouse.  When you neglect this, no amount of prayer and fasting and ‘sleeping’ in church can prevent your home from falling apart.

     

    Commitment To Your Children

    The final strand in the three-fold cord is a commitment to your children. As parents, you must be committed in training and providing for your children.

    In conclusion, Commitment to God begins with Salvation. This comes by surrendering your life to Christ. You surrender by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord.  If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.” If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

     

    Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Secrets to marital bliss (4)

    DEAR Reader,  This week, I will be giving you another secret that will open the door to your marital bliss – Being Knowledgeable of Your Spouse.

    When you know your spouse and your spouse knows you, less friction is bound to occur. With a good knowledge of your spouse, you will be able to relate with him or her. Bible says: …Ye husbands, dwell with them (your wife) according to knowledge giving honour unto the wife… (1 Peter 3:7). Husbands, you need to know your wife. Know her not just physically, but know her likes, dislikes, background, way of thinking, why she behaves the way she does, etc.

    You may think you’ve known your spouse well enough during courtship, but I tell you, there are a lot of undiscovered things you need to know and understand about each other. A month, a year, etc, is not enough.

    That’s why marriage is a lifetime experience. You never know everything at once; you get to know more each passing day. You can get to know each other better, by communicating and asking questions like, “Why did you do that?”, “How do you feel about this?”  You can do these in a calm and respectful manner. You can do things together, spend time together and study each other closely.

    The keys to knowing each other better are sincerity, being truthful, being unashamed, not being afraid of betrayal knowing that God is present to help both of you. Some husbands are afraid to tell their wives the truth, while some wives will not let their husbands tell the truth by the way they shout and abuse their husbands. Learn to be patient and build trust in each other. The Bible says: Now although the man and his wife were both naked, neither of them was embarrassed or ashamed (Genesis 2:25TLB). The “nakedness” spoken of here is not only physical but also emotional (your feelings), and spiritual (your goals and desires). Husband and wife bare their minds to each other; they don’t hide the truth from one other. I must tell you that it makes for better understanding and peaceful relationship.

    Lack of knowledge of what your spouse needs, and what is going on in his or her mind or life is what causes quarrels most times.  God’s Word says: And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times… (Isaiah 33:6). Wives, too, need to know their husbands, so they can help them. It says wisdom and knowledge enable you to enjoy stability.

    Not knowing your spouse well causes insecurity. If your spouse has been upset, find out why and find a way of helping him or her. If he or she is happy, find out why and rejoice with him or her. This enables you to have a stable home. Then the man is no longer eager to look outside the home for relaxation and comfort; rather, he is always reluctant to leave home because there is comfort at home.

    To be knowledgeable about your spouse, you must first of all know God. God’s Word says: And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free (John 8:32). To know the truth, you must accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour.  If you are set for it, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Secrets to marital bliss (2)

    DEAR Reader, last week, one of the secrets to marital bliss, which is wisdom, was unlocked to us. This week, we will yet be looking at another secret, Effective Communication.

    There are many families on this earth that are not alive, but dead. They are just existing by name. When it comes to how each member relates to the other, there is no life, no communication. You won’t believe that such people are from the same family by the way they treat each other.

    Being a family by name alone means bearing the family name e.g. Ademola’s family, Olushola’s family etc. When it comes to common characteristics e.g. love, discussions, doing things together, etc., they are poles apart. This ought not to be so, but the life line (communication) is not functioning properly, and in some cases it has been cut off. To prevent your family from merely existing, instead of thriving (growing strong, healthy, prospering etc), don’t just talk to each other at home; rather, you must learn to communicate effectively.

    The difference between talking and communication is: talking is one way and may not necessarily be sincere (truth and sincerity are probably absent), but communication and the right kind is two-way – both parties are airing their views and truth, and sincerity are involved. To communicate means to share or exchange information.  You may ask, “This is what I think; how about you?   What do you think?” It also means to consider the other person’s view; or to be connected.

    It is coined from the word communion, which means “sharing in common.” A wise man once said, “If you talk together, you will stay together” and the opposite is true too. Any conversation which is one-way falls short of God’s ideal in the family.

    For instance, if as a couple, you as the wife are always talking and never allowing your husband to speak or properly express himself, you will find out that most times he will end up doing things that surprise you. You may feel, “He never discussed it with me”. Probably, you didn’t give him the time to discuss with you; rather, you controlled the conversation most times. My husband once said, “Poor communication is the major cause for brutality”.  Since they can’t communicate effectively, such couples resort to physical combat and violence, in order to express their deep feelings.

    Most times, you find out that your children are not opening up to you all of a sudden, and you are panicking because they are becoming strangers to you. Maybe you haven’t created time to spend with them and discuss or you have been the only one talking in your discussions with them and not encouraging them to share their minds and feelings with you, or you scold them too often. Try and think of when the breakdown in communication started.

    Effective communication begins with having a good relationship with Jesus Christ. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Secrets to marital bliss

    DEAR Reader, God designed your marriage to be sweet and exciting. If yours has lost its excitement, God can impart His joy and goodness into it.  As you read this article and apply the principles therein, my greatest heart’s desire for you today is that your home will come alive and be full of joy, laughter and excitement in Jesus’ name!

    This week, I will be sharing with you on Wisdom as one of the secrets to marital bliss. To enjoy marital bliss, wisdom is required. God’s Word says: Through WISDOM is an house builded; and by understanding it is established (Proverbs 24:3).

    I have noticed in the course of counselling people that most of the problems encountered in homes result from lack of wisdom, and wisdom is what makes a home sweet. With wisdom, you know what to do and at the appropriate time. As a husband, if you walk in wisdom, you will know how to relate with your wife and train up your children, not beating them up and posing to be a terror to your household. Wives who are full of wisdom relate easily with their in-laws and other members of their families.

    From the anchor text, you need to search for wisdom to operate your home. Therefore, open up and receive the wisdom you require to handle those situations correctly so that peace and joy will fill your home.

    The opposite of wisdom is foolishness. It is a problem rooted in the realm of the spirit. It is what causes a woman to react negatively, speak abusive words and misbehave (Proverbs 9:13). It is what causes a man to chase after other women to the destruction of his soul (Proverbs 7:7-23). Foolishness is a destroyer of the peace and sweetness in the home. If you learn to walk in wisdom, you will enjoy fulfilment in your family life. God’s Word says: Wisdom is the principal thing (Proverbs 4:7).

    The type of wisdom I am referring to here is not that which comes from education. So, don’t regret your level of education saying, “If I had gone to an institution of higher learning, I would be wiser than I am now”. The wisdom you require to shine in the family is from God. It is knowing what to do when confronted with an unpleasant situation and is based on your knowledge and application of the Word of God in your life. God’s Word says: Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock (Matthew 7:24).

    Who then is a wise man? He is one who hears and does the sayings of Jesus. These sayings are located in the Bible. As you hear the Word of God and apply, and practise it in your life, you are walking in wisdom.

    Do you desire the wisdom of God in your life and home? Why not surrender your life to Christ today so that a measure of God’s wisdom will be imparted upon you?  If you are set for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.” If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Omorede Osifo savours marital bliss

    Omorede Osifo savours marital bliss

    Retraction and introspection are the best ways to deal with ill fortunes of life. It is best to retrace wrong steps, rethink past actions and think up a better way to find happiness. Omorede Osifo has retraced her steps, rethought her actions and seems to have found happiness once again. She is currently in the seventh heaven, sipping the nectar of good fortunes as angels sing in joy.

    Lady Omorede Osifo, a former commissioner for youth and sports in the Governor Adams Oshiomole administration has had her fair share of heartbreaks and disappointments. It will be recalled that some time ago, she seemed to be in deep romance with ill luck as she was relieved of her job as commissioner. But she licked her wounds and dealt with her disappointment the best way she could. She simply fastened her belt as moved on with her life.

    Today, the good times are here again for Omoredo and she has been playing the good host to good fortunes, having found her soul mate in a popular Edo born businessman, Ken Marshall. They recently got married in a low key ceremony.

  • Maryam Augie enjoys marital bliss

    Maryam Augie enjoys marital bliss

    Maryam Auguie is currently relishing the ambience of blissful matrimony, savouring every minute of her garden-fresh union and basking in the glory of being an elegant consort of the renowned Hon. Abdulmumin Jibrin. The stunning daughter of Justice Amina Augie is carrying on with a contagious glow found only among fulfilled society ladies.

    Maryam got married on her birthday a year ago at the Emir of Argungu’s palace in Argungu, Kebbi State, and there was a birthday dinner for the beautiful bride later that day in Abuja. Although the grandeur nature of the wedding could not be questioned, it paled in comparison to the birthday dinner that witnessed an influx of the country’s bigwigs.

    Hon. Jibrin and his beautiful wife beamed majestically at the birthday party in Abuja. It was indeed a grand day for the couple who dug into the depth of their vast social contacts to make their day as could be.

    There was a surplus of the best victuals and drinks. I Go Die, Banky W and Waje also performed to everyone’s delight.

  • Hadiza Akala savours marital bliss

    Hadiza Akala savours marital bliss

    Hadiza Akala would not be wrong if she thinks of herself as the most favoured woman on earth. She has found herself a good husband, hence she hums tones of joy, recites poems of love and shuts her heart to life’s problems as she struts around town with an air of confidence.

    The British-born daughter of billionaire businessman, Aare Rasaq Akanni Okoya, and wife of Olamiju Akala is one happy lady at the moment.  In a fit of intense creativity, Jane Austen asserted that happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. She probably failed to realise that there could be rare exceptions like the case of Hadiza and husband. The couple say that theirs has been a smooth ride since they began their journey to living happily ever after.

    As a mark of their abiding love for each other, they have been touring the world together, bucking and clawing as they seek to shut the world out of their marriage. The couple was sighted on Sallah Day at the bride’s father’s compound where they had gone to celebrate Sallah with Aare Rasaki Akanni Okoya.

    Hadiza’s husband, Olamiju Akala, is the son of former Oyo State governor, Otunba Alao Akala. He is reputed for dotting over Hadiza and splashing her with the good things of life money can buy.