Tag: quality

  • Quality medicine govt’s concern, says don

    THE government has been urged to step up efforts in providing quality medicine to their citizens.

    This, according to a professor of Pharmaceutical Analysis, Nelson Ochekpe, will assist health officials in delivering quality services to patients.

    Ochekpe, who lectures at the Department of Pharmaceutical Chemistry, University of Jos, said provisions of quality medicine should be a concern of governments, health officials as well as patients.

    Delivering an inaugural lecture tagged: “Quality of medicine: Everyone a stakeholders?”, Ochekpe advised the Federal Government to come up with rules and regulations that will control the production and distribution of drugs.

    He also called for proper administration of the drugs to patients by health officials as well as good use of the drugs by patients.

    Plateau State Governor, Jonah Jang, said his government would continue to support the University to excel in its academic performance.

    He said: “Despite the fact that I am not a professional in the field, but by listening to the lecture it means we have qualified lecturers in University of Jos.”

    The university, he said, has produced qualified graduates that are doing well,  producing qualified leaders that would not fail the state and the country.

  • Service quality has reduced, says Lamido

    Service quality has reduced, says Lamido

    Jigawa State Governor Sule Lamido has said since 1999 when the country returned to democracy, the quality of service in government has reduced, due to high level of nepotism.

    He was fielding questions from reporters after collecting his permanent voter card at his home town, Bamaina.

    The governor said Nigerians loved democracy, following the way they participated in the voter registration and other democratic activities.

    According to him, they vote for leaders to protect them and improve their standard of living by executing good programmes, “but unfortunately they have disappointed the electorate.”

    Lamido said: “Leaders execute projects based on nepotism. They are not carrying out programmes to satisfy people’s needs or perform their duties to fulfil their campaign promises.”

    He said it is unfortunate that people cannot benefit from the government unless they know somebody or someone knows them.

    His words: “Nigerians have been patient. A time will come when they will forward their demands to the leaders and stand by them.”

    Lamido urged people to endure the difficulties and collect their permanent voter cards.

    He said they could only vote for their candidate of choice or vote out a politician who failed to perform if they possessed voter cards, adding that it was necessary to collect the cards.

  • Quest for quality telecoms services

    Quest for quality telecoms services

    More than a decade after digital telephony came to Nigeria, access to telecoms services has been liberalised across all the strata of the society. While active subscribers’ figure is approaching 135 million, teledensity has reached 92.42 per cent. However, poor quality of service has remained a big challenge. LUCAS AJANAKU X-rays the network enhancement efforts of Globacom, the only wholly indigenous operator in the country.

    For the telecommunication sector, it has been a story of gloom, boom, doom and the  country is earnestly hoping for the return to the era of boom, particularly in quality service delivery.

    The moribund Nigerian Telecommunications Limited (NITEL) signposted the era of gloom when the national carrier served about 150 million Nigerians with 400,000 connected lines as at October 2000. The nation, however, ecstatically eased into the era of boom with the licensing of global system for mobile communication (GSM) to operators.

    Millions of Nigerians, who never thought they could own their private telephone lines, became proud owners of phones.

    For Nigeria, the boom has not only been in the access to telecoms service, it has also been in the massive inflow of foreign direct investment (FDI). The Executive Vice Chairman, Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC) Dr. Eugene Juwah, said the sector has attracted FDI above $25 billion. According to him, the potential of the industry to grow the economy is almost limitless.

    Juwah is, however, forthright to admit that despite the investments by the operators, quality of service (QoS) levels have been unsatisfactory. Indeed, the excitement had since paled into pain for many subscribers with dropped calls and other inconveniences. Infrastructure of virtually all the key players had buckled under the pressure exerted by the ease of access to services. They were overstretched. The NCC had to wield the big stick to  restore the era of boom when most telcos fell short of meeting all the key performance indicators (KPIs) it set with the buy-in of the telcos.

    Juwah has equally come out on several occasions to admit that there are a number of peculiar challenges that make it difficult for operators to operate at optimum level in Nigeria. Some of these challenges include inadequate power, equipment vandalism, equipment theft and multiple taxation, which leads to a situation wherein Base Transceiver Stations (BTS) belonging to telecom operators are routinely shut by various agencies of government.

    They are huge challenges that he, however, said the regulatory body was working with the supervising ministry and relevant agencies and arms of government to resolve.

    Justifiably so, the operators have been lampooned by subscribers who want nothing but good quality service delivery. The operators knew that notwithstanding the challenges, they must rise above the occasion to satisfy their customers  to remain in business. They have repeatedly assured the nation that they are doing all within their capacity to significantly improve telecom service. Several billions dollars have been poured into the sector by the operators who are eager to make a positive change as soon as possible.

    Nigeria’s only national telecom carrier, Globacom has, particularly, been outstanding in this regard. The operator has tried to make its own network expansion and modernisation project as transparent as possible. The operator called journalists together at the commencement of the project and has called journalists together again several times since then to update them on the progress made.

    On one of such occasions, the Group Chief Operating Officer of Globacom, Mr. Mohamed Jameel, said the project was being embarked upon to put the issue of flagging quality of service to rest. He said the company was determined to achieve this even if the task looked daunting.

    He recalled that Globacom commenced operation with no support infrastructure in 2003 and built one of the fastest growing telecom infrastructure in Africa.  He said Globacom delighted in doing what many might consider impossible.

    Jameel recalled that Globacom shattered the myth surrounding per second billing in Nigeria by introducing it at its launch, when other operators insisted it was impossible. He added that the company had since gone ahead to blaze the trail in other areas.

    He said Globacom launched commercial operation with 2.5G network, which made it possible to provide General Packet Radio Service (GPRS) and products and services running on the infrastructure which was then the most advanced in the country, such as mobile internet, mobile banking and BlackBerry.

    He said Globacom was the first to introduce 3G Plus in Nigeria and, indeed, West Africa. This enabled the telco to provide video calling, high speed internet (HSI), mobile TV and video-on-demand to its subscribers.

    Globacom remains the only operator with an individually-owned submarine cable called Glo 1, which has started addressing Africa’s internet bandwidth problem.

    He added that Glo was the first and only operator to introduce the beautiful and environment-friendly Palm Tree base stations, which adorns the Lagos Lagoon, among other places across the country.

     

     Why build new network?

    When the telco clocked 10 last year, it began a massive network expansion project being implemented by leading technology infrastructure companies, Huawei, Ericsson and ZTE. The project entailed swapping of old base stations (BTS) with new ones and the modernisation of existing infrastructure.

    According to Jameel, the swapping of old BTS in Lagos is  90 per cent complete. He said the project is expected to be completed before the end of this month, promising that subscribers would witness improved network experience upon its completion.

    “Ogun State swapping is fully completed, while Edo State is about 60 per cent completed. The swapping project has also started in neighbouring Delta State. This is in addition to Abuja, Oyo, Osun, and AkwaIbom states. Port Harcourt and several parts of Lagos including Lekki, Ikorodu, Agbara and Otta have also been completed,” he said, promising that by the time the project is completed, it will have  swapped old components on the network across the nation with state-of-the-art network software and hardware. “In short, we are building a sparkling new network,” Jameel enthused.

    Its Head, Operations, Bisi Koleosho, who briefed the media on updates, said the telco would soon achieve its target of 90 per cent 3G coverage, the first in the industry, making it possible for its data subscribers to experience significant service enhancement. The project is expected to be completed this year.

    Service improvement is being felt in various parts of the country. Koleosho promised that the improvement would continue.

    Speaking during an interactive session, Jameel said: “Having played a prominent role in the first telecom revolution in the country, Globacom is ready to lead Nigeria into the second revolution, which will be an explosive ICT broadband growth across Nigeria in the next three decades.

    “Globacom will be the biggest player in the second telecommunication revolution in Nigeria. We are converting every cell site in Nigeria into broadband. Nigerians will enjoy the massive transformation on the Glo network after the expansion and modernisation exercise.”

    The project covers swapping, upgrade, and overhaul of network infrastructure, as well as building of new switches and construction of additional 4,000 km of optic fibre cable (OFC) to complement the existing facility, which is among the most extensive private fibre networks in Africa. The company’s 10,000km OFC network is also being expanded with IP MPLS and Dense Wavelength Division Multiplexing (DWDM) network to provide capacity and route protection. It will also ensure constant (24/7) connectivity.

    The massive project, according to Jameel, also includes the setting up of three new call centres in Port Harcourt, Abuja and Lagos to take care of vast increase in subscriber figures and upgrade of the radio access network which will ensure that data customers enjoy unparalleled speed and reliability.

    He said the brand new network Globacom is building would be congestion-free, with reduced call drops. The Lagos microwave network is also being transformed into a full internet protocol Network (IPN) to meet future data requirements.

     

    International services

    Glo says it is enhancing its reputation as one of the biggest voice and data carriers in Africa. It has deepened its roaming services offering with the addition of over 100 leading network partners across the world in the last one year. Subscribers to Glo, who are on the postpaid platform, can enjoy seamless roaming services in almost every part of the world as Glo has interconnectivity arrangements with over 430 partners in 176 countries. Thus, Glo is the network in Nigeria with the largest international postpaid roaming footprint.

    Glo has, similarly, extended its prepaid roaming to more destinations as the service is available in most major destinations where it is partnering with over 80 leading networks. Jameel added that Glo’s GPRS roaming is also one of the largest in Africa. The service, which enables data roaming for mobile phones, laptops, iPads, Blackberry and android handsets, is available in 115 countries comprising all major travel destinations.

    Having pioneered per second billing (PSB) and led the revolution to make telephony affordable to many Nigerians, expectations are high that Glo will make the nation proud again with its new network.

  • Dangote Cement to distributors: expect quality service, bonus

    Dangote Cement to distributors: expect quality service, bonus

    Dangote Cement Plc yesterday promised its distributors in the Southwest quality service delivery and an increased bonus in appreciation of their patronage.

    Its Executive Director, Sales and Marketing, Knut Ulvmoen, spoke at a Distributor Forum held in Ibadan.

    He said Dangote Cement is producing 19.25 million metric tonnes from its three plants in Obajana, Gboko and Ibese, adding that by the end of this year, additional 9 million would have been added from the 6 million Mtpa new lines in Ibese and 3 million Mtpa new line in Obajana.

    Ulvmoen said the company decided to be holding the Forum regularly so as to interface with the distributors and other customers.

    The Regional Director in charge of Southwest 1, Mrs Funmi Sanni, thanked the distributors for believing in Dangote Cement and assured them that the company would continue to give them superior product and better delivery services.

    She said N1.2 billion was given out early this year as sales bonus to distributors, adding that the company would increase the bonus in line with increase in sales.

  • Nigeria’s telecoms service quality better than London’s, Dubai’s, says NCC

    Nigeria’s telecoms service quality better than London’s, Dubai’s, says NCC

    The Chief Executive Officer, Nigerian Communications Commission  (NCC), Dr Eugene Juwah yesterday took a swipe at the barrage of telecoms customers’ complaints in the country over service quality, saying the quality of service (QoS) in the country is one of the best in the world.

    Speaking at the 75th Telecoms Consumer Parliament in L:agos, Juwah said he just came back from Central London and Dubai in the United Arab Emirates (UAE) insisting that the QoS in those two cities were not better than that offered by telcos in the country.

    According to him, the QoS provided by players in both the aviation and banking sectors of the economy were worse than the one offered in the telecoms sector yet not much noise is heard about that.

    He said: “I have heard about these complaints about quality of service in Nigeria. The quality of service in Nigeria is not the worst. The quality of service in this country is better than that of  Central London, better than Dubai. Wireless telephony technology is rather complex. You cannot absolutely do without drop calls.”

    Juwah who was reacting to the explanation of Corporate Service Executive at MTN, Akinwale Goodluck that QoS get degraded during wet season because of whirlwind, said while he will neither agree nor controvert that position, the technology of global service for mobile (GSM) communication is complex.

    He explained that it is not within the mandate of the regulator to compel operators to give financial compensation to customers for poor QoS, adding that its mandate is to ensure that customers get fair deal by ensuring that they get value for their money.

    He said the NCC will continue to sanction operators that fail to meet the specified key performance indicators (KPIs) while money paid from the fines will be paid to the coffers of the Federal Government for appropriation since the regulator does not have the power to “appropriate”.

    He said customers that feel so aggrieved about the QoS issue should either go to the Consumer Protection Council (CPC) or the court to seek redress.

    Goodluck said the operators were doing their best at ensuring improved QoS. He said all the operators have currently engaged all the original equipment manufacturers (OEMs) to do network optimisation.

    He lamented the inability of the operators to tame the excesses of groups and other government agencies that invade base transmission stations (BTS) to decommission them, adding that developments such as that will continue to impact negatively on service quality.

    According to him, three of the operators are currently having issues with the government of Enugu State where their facilities have remained shut-down.

    He lamented the impunity with which people go and shut down BTS, insisting that nobody goes to Kainji Dam and shut down its operations yet telecoms infrastructure are as critical to national development as power infrastructure.

    Speaking on the occasion, its Director, Consumer Affairs Bureau, Mrs. Maryam Bayi, decried the low response time to customers’ complaints by the network operators.

    She identified common complaints to include unauthorised text messages/telemarketing, ‘credit’ disappearance, drop calls, customers care centre monitoring, inaccessibility of customer care help lines, unlawful deduction of credit for value added services not subscribed to, poor network service unavailability of service and running of adverts for promos without obtaining the mandatory regulatory approvals.

     

     

  • Firm restates commitment to product quality

    Leo Group of Companies, makers of Leo Smart ball pens and other products, has restated its commitment to the quality of its products.

    Speaking in Lagos at this year’s Distributors’ Forum, organised by the company for major dealers of the ball pens and other products, the Managing Director of Rasa Industries Limited, a subsidiary of Leo Group of Companies, Mr. Manoj Dadlani, said the purpose of the distributors’ forum was to discuss quality assurance, fakery, promotion and other marketing options as well as fresh reward system, among other issues.

    Also, the forum, he said, was aimed at keeping pace with the group’s growth rate in terms of being customer-oriented and focused. Said Dadlani: “After sending our team to the field to know what the distributors are experiencing, feedback we got was not too cheery in terms of the distribution network. We decided to call them together to let them know that we want to help them, we want to collaborate with them in achieving their market targets. We also want to hear from them and react the best way we can. The company is resolved to improve the relationship between it and the customers.”

    He also said the company is making efforts to reposition its brands. “The repositioning effort is on brand basis. We reposition based on product line, even though we take into account the fact that all the group’s products should be consumer-friendly because all that we push to the end users must be of high quality. We take every complaint and issue concerning quality very seriously,” he said, reassuring the distributors of his company’s determination to improve the cordial relationship existing between them and the group.

    Pledging the firm’s commitment to ensuring that distributors are accorded a high priority in the scheme of things, especially while evolving policies and programmes, he clarified that Leo Group comprises Leoplast, which is the group’s original company that manufactures furniture and other home products, while Rasa is a relatively new company that is into beverage production. It has three brands namely C’est Bon, Smarty and 2Cool fruit drinks. Leo Smart Company, on the other hand,  manufactures ball pens.

    Also speaking, the School Products Promotional Manager, Mr. Fadairo Afolabi, said Leo Group of Companies thought it wise to bring the key distributors together to rub minds on how to guarantee the leading position of the company’s products and how to deal with some challenges dealers may be experiencing.

    He noted that Leo Group of Companies is a major player in the education sector, maintaining that as part of the company’s corporate social responsibility, it has remained committed to giving support to education not only in Lagos and Ogun states, but also in other states.

  • Retreat seeks quality education for pupils

    How to meet the knowledge need of Nigerian children with quality educational materials formed the crux of Learn Africa Plc’s training session and retreat in Abeokuta, the Ogun State capital, for its workforce.

    Over 50 of the publishing firm’s sales persons and senior managers gathered at the Olusegun Obasanjo Presidential Library (OOPL), Abeokuta, on Monday.

    They brainstormed on how to enhance Nigerian secondary school pupils’ chances of gaining knowledge and also passing their examinations in key subjects such as mathematics and English Language via quality books.

    The participants went home with the conviction that those who impart knowledge must themselves be knowledgeable and that teachers, schools, policy makers on education among others, who would also make use of the books, are adequately reached and informed about the availability of such quality books.

    Chief Executive Officer and Managing Director Learn Africa, Mr Segun Oladipo, said the meeting was to sharpen and broaden the mind of the sales operatives to enhance their capacity to respond to the market demands.

    Oladipo noted that as more children are being born, they would be sent to schools for training and would need quality educational materials for sound intellectual development, which is why Learn Africa is in business.

    He explained that the firm’s New Concept Mathematics and New Concept English have been assessed and adopted by many states including Ogun, Oyo and Kwara for use by their schools and students.

    Oladipo said: “As people are giving birth to children and they are being sent to schools, so also we need to train them, we sell knowledge and for you to sell knowledge you must be knowledgeable, we are training to sharpen the skills of our sales team on yearly basis,” he said.

    With books meant to be reviewed every three years, Oladipo said the workers need to be on top of their game.

    “The National Council on Education recommends that books must be reviewed every three years, that means as a publisher, you must come up with new books every three years and those books must be in line with the school curriculum, if you don’t do that, it means we are selling obsolete knowledge. For you to remain in business, you have to review your books,” he said.

     

  • Quality service key to our success, says firm

    The founder of Paga Mobile Payment Limited, Mr Eyitayo Oviosu,  has said quality services have made Paga a top brand in the mobile payment market.

    Speaking at the fifth anniversary of Paga,Oviosu said the mobile payment market has grown with banks also venturing into the business hence making the competition more deeper for companies which provide payment solutions for retail payment.

    He noted that despite the competition, the industry has continued to grow as all licensed mobile money firms are working towards efficient service delivery to their customers.

    “There are many companies in the mobile payment industry and I think we are all going towards same business, which is how we can deliver mobile payment to Nigerians whether in your business or individuals,” he said.

    Also, the firm’s Head of Agent Network  Sales, Jay Alabraba, noted that Paga is working hard to create awareness for users.

    “Paga is becoming a brand. For many people, we are an established brand because of the trust we have created through consistency and quality offering. This makes a product to become a brand. So, our ability to innovate and remain consistence in our transaction. So, for the fact that we want to ease payment challenges for customers, we created values that will enhance convenience for the customers. So, those key things have made us a brand … It’s about giving consistent service and high quality service. So, our unique selling point is offering convenience,” he added.

    Developed on the premise that simple and easily accessible payment solutions would endear shoppers, businesses to reduce customer’s frustration of dealing with cash and other inadequate payment channels, Oviosu, however, said through innovative product offerings, a strategic agent network and sheer determination, Paga has become the market leader in the mobile payments industry in Nigeria.”

  • Right strategy for performance and quality (2)

    In the last segment, we said findings show that most managers spend 90 per cent of their time dealing with the most challenging employees. We expatiated that they (managers) work to improve performance, attendance and overall productivity, but the risk taken in focusing too much time on low performers amounts to neglecting high performers or even steady performers.

    We stressed that it is imperative for managers to help low performers improve, encourage steady performers to become high performers, and inspire high performers to maintain their standards.

    We said to be able to coordinate the team well for performance, you need to be a leader rather than a boss. We explained that the difference between a boss and a leader is that while a boss gives orders; a leader influences his team through collective decisions and motivation.

    We said though there are times when a manager must exercise authority, on a daily basis, a leadership approach will foster a team feeling and eliminate the “we versus they” perception often associated with the manager-subordinate relationship.

     

    Improving quality

    Quality is defined as a degree or grade of excellence and an inherent or distinguishing characteristic or trait. According to Carole Sue Jones, a contributing writer for Interactive Quality Solutions, “For Call Centres, providing a ‘Quality Experience’ to your customers competes for priority with other metrics such as call handle time, call volume and full time equivalent. However, it can become a distinguishing trait. So how can Call Centre managers improve the quality of their customers’ experiences?”

     

    First strategy

    Creating a quality call experience requires three primary focus points. First, you need to define what quality looks and sounds like in your call centre. This may be defined by your customers’ needs; needs of the call centre, or by scores or other deliverables for which you are responsible. However you define quality in your working environment, it is essential to communicate that effectively to front-line employees who interact with your customers the most.

    Kelly Graves, founder and CEO of Internal Solutions Consulting says you may believe that your company is the only one in the free world that’s suffering from poor employee communication and frustrations at every level. You are definitely not alone. But knowing that conflict and communication problems exist in practically every organisation comes with little comfort.

     

    Second strategy

    The second focus point, according to Jones, involves monitoring. In order to know what kind of experience your customers are having, you have to listen to how your customer service representatives handle calls. When you monitor a representative’s quality, you must consider tangible behaviour like using the correct greeting, description of product and documentation methods as well as intangible behaviour, including manner of speaking, tone of voice and attitude towards customers. You should be able to document and discuss the behaviour in order to correct what is not working and to expand upon what is working well. Once you identify the behaviour, apply the last focus point, which includes feedback and coaching.

     

    Third strategy

    Third focus point for creating a quality call experience is coaching. Representatives not only need to know that they are being monitored, but also that somebody cares about the type of job they are doing. Quality Assurance (QA) scores alone, while helpful, rarely have enough impact on a representative to change or improve his or her behaviour.

    Effective communication is the first step towards enhancing performance and as a follow-up to that, Connective Coaching can make all the difference between success and frustration. Connective Coaching Model allows managers to build on employees’ existing skills, to offer relevant suggestions for improvement and to provide employees with a platform to monitor their own successes and coach others.

     

    Connective coaching model

    Connective Coaching for improved performance and higher quality service can be one of the most rewarding and challenging interactions you have with your employees. As an effective coach, it is your responsibility to guide, discuss, educate and encourage employees to achieve outstanding results.

    In the absence of good feedback, employees will provide their own. If a manager never gives effective feedback, inexperienced employees may think that they are doing a great job and more surprisingly, capable employees may have a negative impression of their performance, says Jones.

     

    Greatest resource

    Your employees are the only resource you have which separates you from your closest competitors. In short, they are the source of your competitive advantage. Irrespective of your technical, financial or other challenges, there will always be human beings involved. Therefore, all challenges must be solved by you and your staff. You will definitely benefit from taking steps towards implementing an employee development programme. Establishing or re-establishing trust and improving communication has a profound and positive impact on each employee’s development – as well as on your company’s bottom line.

     

    Last words

    Partnering for performance is a tool like any other in the manager’s tool box. It is critical to success. Effective relationships, commitments and productivity are the tangible rewards of the partner relationship.

    Partnering for performance is a worthwhile challenge that enables you to become a team leader.

    Go out there, partner for performance. Creating high quality requires an investment in the processes through constantly reviewing and refining goals and skills. By defining the standard, monitoring and coaching, you can improve your employees’ performances and enhance your customers’ experiences.

    PS: For those making inquiries about our Public Speaking, Business Presentation and Professional Writing Skills programme, please visit the website indicated on this page for details.

     

    Till we meet on Wednesday.

     

    •GOKE ILESANMI, Managing Consultant/CEO of Gokmar Communication Consulting, is an International Platinum Columnist, Certified Public Speaker/MC, Communication Specialist, Motivational Speaker and Career Management Coach. He is also a Book Reviewer, Biographer and Editorial Consultant.

     

    Tel: 08055068773; 08187499425

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    Website: www.gokeilesanmi.com

     

  • Solutions to real life relationship issues

    Solutions to real life relationship issues

    Thought for the week

    Are our men becoming “Muguns” just because of their cheapness?

    Oyinkan went to visit her boyfriend, she is a second year student at a major university in Lagos. They both had an agreement that she would come and spend every third weekend of the month at his place. Victor is in his fifties, divorced with two children, Oyinkan is in her late twenties, beautiful, light colored skin, always love the latest Brazilian weave-on, nice polished manicured nails and she always looked her best. Of course Victor loves her, he was even thinking of one day proposing to her, if she agrees to eventually make her his wife. This arrangement has been going on nicely with barely any interruptions for almost a year now. Anytime Oyinkan visits, Victor will give her anywhere from ₦20,000 to ₦30,000. Once in a while, if she asked that she needs to buy something, he will give her extra like ₦50,000, but never more than that. One this particular day, she came to spend the weekend as usual with him, she excused herself to go take a shower, her phone started ringing in the bedroom, Victor called her that her phone was ringing, but due to the noise from the shower, she did not hear him, he picked the phone and the person on the phone was “Mugun No 6”! He said to himself, “Mugun No 6”! As soon as the phone stopped ringing, he used his own phone to call her phone, of course, he was stored as “Mugun No 12”!Oh my God, he almost collapsed, he rushed right into the bathroom, almost shuffling the phone in her face to askthe meaning of this? Oyinkan was dump-founded, unable to give a clear explanation of why she stored him as “Mugun No 12”! He calm himself down, and asked why does she store names as “Muguns” after much persuade, she told him that she has about 15 boyfriends, since all of them believes that she is only dating just each of them, most of them just give her upkeep money, none believes that she needs more than what he gives her, she went on to tell him that men thinks they are smart, but as far as she is concerned, they are the biggest “Muguns” There affair ended that day. This of course left a big scar in Victor’s heart.

    Question

    Dear Prince, I am a 40year old Business woman dating a 32year old man, his name is Lere. I have been happily married for the last 13years to the love of my life Alex.. We have two sons together. My problem is that my husband travels a lot, he barely stays at home the little time he has to spend with me,heis either on the phone talking about business deals or chattingwith old friends. My husband also loves to play games on the internet with his friends, worst of all, if his favourite football team happens to be playing when he is around, it is like welcome to zobie world, meaning he does not talk to me and I don’t talk to him if l made the mistake of talking to him during the time when the game is on, it would be war. The combination of his attitude in and outside of the bedroom leaves me veryunsatisfied. Anytime we make love, within 5minutes he is done to extend that sometimes when he has exhausted himself outside bedroom he even finds it difficult to perform. Princess, he does not have “premature ejaculation”or “low sex drive”,like you wrote in one of your columns. No, he is fully capable, but it seems he loves money more than he loves me. Yes, I do love him. I’m a full time house wife the two children do go to school l find it more lonesome now for some reason than ever before. I just assumed that its part of the marriage, but the problem is that the lonesomeness is making sad and depressed than before. About two years ago, I met this young man at a party, he requested if l could dance with him because he too was by himself, at first, l was reluctant, but then I thought of myself one dance is not going to kill me or destroy my marriage, so got up and took his hand, I allowed him to leadme to the dance floor. Princess, I can’t lied to you, holding his hand I could feel the softness, the coolness and the gentleness of his hand, I was just imaging how those hands will feel on me if chanced, quickly, I blocked the thought out of my mind. We danced to about three musics, he again like a gentleman led me back to my seat, at this point he brought his drink over to my table and sat with me.We started chatting,he was able to tell a bit about himself, which is how i found out that he too is a married man and also unhappy with his marriage. When i was about to leave we exchange numbers and BB. Pins, we promised to communicate with each other.About a week after we met, he pingged me and we started pinging each other. He invited me out for a dinner date, this act continued off and on especially when my husband is out of town. One thing led to another we started sleeping with each other. This behaviour l know is unacceptable for a married woman, I allowed my body to control my brain and the relationship is in its second year right now. The problem is that I’m feeling guilty and It’s eating me alive. You see, financially my husband is not lacking and he takes good care of his family.Sexually, huh, oh yes, he is very lacking. My concern now is that I think Lere and I are falling for each other and it scares me, both of us seem to be using each other to fill the void in our marriages. I want to end this affair with this young man, but am afraid l will just find another man to fill the void in my marriage. Princess, please advise me am at my cross-road. Felicia, AkwaIbom.

    Dear Felicia

    This problem of your husband working too much and not having time for you is a problem that some married women face. One thing most women don’t understand about men is that they value efficiency, power and achievement more than anything else. For them to develop power and skills is a way of proving their manhood. Most men strive and thirst to self-actualize their success. Achievement is a way of attaining this drive. Now, by the time this goes on all day, when the night comes, he might be so tired to the extend that if you touch him he will get upset at you. The ones thatarestrong enough to know that satisfying their wives in bed is also part of a man’s duty will within five minutes discharge. By doing these his wife is not satisfied. Now, the ball is in the woman’s court, meaning, should she go out to find someone or something to feel the void at home?. The question I want you to ask yourself is,is sexual satisfaction more important to me thanfinancial satisfaction in my marriage?Amarriage that supports me and my children financially, a marriage that most women will die to have. Well, if you are a self-sufficient woman and you know if your marriage fails you can take care of yourself and your kids, then I will say continue with the affair. But if you are not self-sufficient, if you’re not selfish, knowing that if that marriage fails, it will affect all involved, and then my advice is to stop your affair and do whatever possible to keep your marriage. I always do tell women these, unless thereis no love, no financial support, no commitment whatsoever in your marriage, knowingfull well you have giving it your 100%, it is better not to rock the boat, because if you do and the marriage fails, believe me life on the other side is not a bed of roses either. The ultimate decision is in your hands,I have giving you all the tools you need to be able to arrive at the right decision. I wish you all the best.

    Thought of the week

    There are women of quality, there are women of quantity. The lack of money in the country has so much bridge the gap between the two classes that unless you are a man of “quality” yourself it will be very difficult to differentiate between the two. The mistake most men make like Victor is that, they think dating a woman that does not have financial burden or does not ask for a large amount of money at a sitting means the man is smart? Well, I beg to differ, the woman of quantity will have up to “15 Muguns” just like Oyinkan, the woman of “quality” will ninety-percent of the time date only that one man that satisfy her needs emotionally, physically and financially. The chance of getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD) from a woman of quality is less thanthat of woman of quantity. One of the concerns I have nowadays is that because of the way the economy is in the world, some women of “quality” are downgrading themselves to be with a man of “quantity”, thereby mixing the goat with the sheep! Meaning, they have downgraded their status for money.

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