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  • Why beautiful, smart ladies fall in love with silly, ugly guys

    Why beautiful, smart ladies fall in love with silly, ugly guys

    The reasons why every individual engages in certain things like making the choice of lovers is mostly personal. In essence, what works for you might not work for someone else. No doubt, this is a recent trend in the world of relationships.

    Below is a question from an anonymous reader on why beautiful and smart ladies fall in love with men that are silly and ugly.

    The Question

    Hi Dating Nerd,

    I have been noticing a recent trend in the dating world. Why are women attracted to such unintelligent men? Do they get a sense of power out of it or is it a lark?

    I have a few friends who are not the sharpest tool in the shed but yet manage to get laid every night. The women, however, are intelligent. I have spoken to many different women about this issue, and they think dating dumb men is really a turn-on.

    The women I have asked have such careers as doctors, lawyers, stock brokers, etc. My point is these women are not stupid. So what the hell is going on with this current dating trend? Please shine some light on it for me, because I refuse to dumb myself down for any person.

    – Unappreciated Genius

     

    The Answer

    Hi Unappreciated Genius,

    I get why you’re confused. After all, intelligent men are inherently superior, right? Why would a woman want to date some dumb jock when she could date a guy who quotes Proust and understands the motion of molecules? Wouldn’t she miss the scintillating debates? Wouldn’t she get frustrated that she couldn’t talk about her dissertation?

    Well, not necessarily. See, there’s a shaky assumption at the heart of your question, which is that smart men are inherently superior. And this is incorrect, for two reasons.

    First reason: Women don’t need men to provide intellectual stimulation. They can get that on their own. Look around you. If you hadn’t noticed, women are now lawyers, doctors, marketing sharks, insurance executives, and captains, so to speak, of industries. Many, many smart women are occupying demanding roles in the information economy. Increasingly, women spend long workdays absorbing avalanches of data and issuing complicated recommendations.

    And nobody — well, almost nobody — wants to keep their brain turned on all the time. If you’re a smart woman with a high-powered job, it’s perfectly reasonable that you’d want to hook up with an intellectually relaxing dude-bro, rather than an intellectually demanding guy like you.

    If this seems implausible, that’s only because it runs counter to some of the hoariest old relationship stereotypes. Y’know, like the one about the 1950s husband figure who does a complicated job and comes home to a simple, loving wife. Or the one about the private equity fund genius who dates a slew of European models. Dating someone who’s felicitous but a bit dim is not a new trend. It just seems more novel when the gender roles are switched up.

    And if this doesn’t seem fair, well — reader, look inside yourself for a second…

    Aren’t you attracted to the girl you met at the gym who isn’t necessarily exceptional at trigonometry, but probably looks great on a dance floor, or, more to the point, a bedroom floor? Don’t you find a certain kind of giggly, un-snobby femininity attractive?

    Don’t lie to me, now. All nerds nurse crushes on cheerleaders. It doesn’t seem right to judge women for having similar attractions.

    The second, more important reason is this: A lot of smart guys really suck with women. As we all know, intelligence doesn’t necessarily translate to emotional skills. Especially because a lot of intellectual dudes didn’t necessarily get a positive social experience growing up. Many dorky, sweet men are just unpracticed in terms of how to flirt, or date. And then there are straight-up terrible smart dudes: condescending pseudo-intellectuals and bitter PhDs.

    Surely, you’ve heard of the term ‘mansplaining.’ Y’know, the thing where men pepper their co-ed conversations with explanations of extremely basic phenomena as if the women they were talking to had never left their houses. Whatever you think of the word itself — whether or not you think it unfairly categorises the male gender — it is a very real phenomenon. Lots of women are tired of having men lecture at them about whatever.

    And usually, I don’t think it comes from a bad place. Men want to impress women. We’re under the impression that knowledge itself is impressive. And it is often said to be a quality women want in men. So we get the unhelpful impulse to brandish it at random. Also, the main genre of dude conversation is the hours-long exchange of minutiae and trivia. It’s not like mansplainers think, “Well, it’s time to be sexist now…” and then launch into their thing.

    But those good (or at least benign) intentions don’t change a thing. Mansplaining is still, at best, tiring. Every woman I know well is fed up with being on the receiving end of male rambling. They’ve all practised the pained but polite facial expression required when some software engineer goes on a monologue about how Radiohead’s last few albums were unappreciated. And maybe you’ve never done such a thing, ever. Maybe it isn’t you. But you can’t blame women for being wary of self-styled intellectuals.

    After all, compare that to your friendly gym-rat type of guy. He’s chill, easygoing, and doesn’t feel the need to speak in paragraphs about his existential crises. If he has a philosophy, it’s probably along the lines of “stay hungry,” or “be nice to people.” Also, he was probably popular in high school and is thus comfortable in conversation, self-assured, fond of making compliments, and pretty good in bed. His reflex isn’t to tell women all about seismology. He just says dumb sh*t to get a laugh. And it works.

    Everything I’ve said so far has been a condemnation of smart dudes. Even if you agree with me, I still haven’t given you any usable advice. But now I will do that. You might not like it, though.

    My advice is this: Learn from the dumb dudes.

    By that, I don’t mean suppress your intellect, or act stupid. What I mean is, change up your game a little. Upon meeting a lovely woman, is your first instinct to say something profound about a giant novel you just read? Well, maybe don’t do that. Instead, ask her some questions about herself. Say something silly. Keep it light. Don’t make the interaction laborious.

    Rather than being worried about displaying your intelligence, try hard to find a common connection with the woman you’re talking to. Look for shared interests, or opinions, or just something you can both laugh about. Be warm and genuine first, and verbose later. And, crucially, on your online dating profile, don’t write six paragraphs about all the smart stuff you think because you’re so smart. That’s just tedious. (I have done the same thing in the past, for what it’s worth.)

    Also? Those dudes of mediocre brainpower who are landing all those chicks probably have good style, and they’re probably in good shape. All the grey matter in the world won’t make up for a horrific outfit, a ridiculous haircut, or being in hideous physical shape. Get that stuff locked down. It’s as important as anything intellectual. Maybe much more.

    There’s a larger lesson here. When you see women being interested in men who aren’t like you, don’t just scratch your head, and assume that they should want what you’ve got instead. Instead of judging, observe. You’re being given important information about women’s needs. A man of your intellect should know how valuable that is.

  • Lagos Babe Cries Out: Help, My Honeypot Is Humongous!

    Lagos Babe Cries Out: Help, My Honeypot Is Humongous!

    A Lagos babe recently broke down in tears crying for help because her honeypot is too wide. This is what she had to say:

    “Please help me, my honeypot is so so wide. There is no soap, cream, oil I have not used, I have even sat on hot water, still no way. I have done everything there is.

    “The last resort now is that I went to see a doctor, as he asked me to lie down and open my legs. As I did, he screamed and asked me what happened? Yes it’s that bad, my honeypot is permanently open.

     

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    “The lips of my honeypot is so black and ugly, if I am urinating it’s like shower pouring. I don’t even want to talk about sex because it’s very very bad, even the guys complain. You can’t even give me a head cause all you will be seeing is a deep hole, I am so ashamed of myself and the life I lived.

    “All I did was f**k big d**ks, all my sex toys are so massive, I put different objects inside of me. I have used a pestle that comes with mortar to masturbate before, I don’t know what happened to me and my sex life, I became a freak, even my anus can’t grip anything again.

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    “I’m so scared that I might end up a lesbian because no man can enjoy my body anymore. And I don’t have millions of Naira to travel out for a surgery. Please I need serious help. How do I go about this? Please help me?”

    Please be your sister’s keeper.

  • Let’s talk about sex

    Let’s talk about sex

    A response to Sonnie Ekwowusi’s ‘Sexualisation of Children: Matters Arising’.

    Bisi Adeleye-Fayemi

    On Wednesday April 12th, Sonnie Ekwuwosi wrote an article that was published in This Day Nigeria newspaper called ‘Sexualization of Children: Matters Arising’. It did not come as a surprise to me because he has been frantically circulating his sensationalist claims about adolescent sexuality, sex education and the proposed Gender and Equal Opportunities Bill (GEOB) online for some time now. In his This Day article, he mentioned my name and that of a good friend, Oby Nwankwo, Nigeria’s representative on the UN CEDAW Committee, as champions of sex education as a right for children, and also accused us of pushing the GEOB that will ‘promote homosexuality and abortion’. People are entitled to their own opinions, no matter how archaic, uninformed or scary they might be. They are however not entitled to their own facts. Mr Sonnie Ekwuwosi has a right to write. When he insists on spending energy to convince people that there is a grand conspiracy to corrupt Nigerian children under the guise of Comprehensive Sexuality Education, he should realise that he is treading on thin ice. I take strong objection to Sonnie making libelous statements about my beliefs and values. In an attempt to come across as the champion of morality, he paints women like me as villains who are out to wreak havoc on the moral fabric of our communities.

    I have never met Sonnie Ekwuwosi. The interaction I have had with him has been through a recently created WhatsApp group for people working on gender issues.  After a while it dawned on some of us that Sonnie was the wrong man to have been added to the group. Sonnie was unrelenting in his rants against any reference to ‘bodily integrity’, ‘sexuality’, ‘sex education’, ‘choice’ and so on. He would go on and on about how our ideas were anti-African and were responsible for the collapse of our traditional values. He kept accusing us of promoting abortion and lesbianism. He would not listen to reason and he would make one absurd claim after another. After a while it was decided that because his views were so alarmingly anti-women, he should be removed from the platform because he had constituted himself into an unwelcome distraction. We all agreed on Sonnie’s rights to his views, but we wanted him to take them elsewhere and not clog our space. Sonnie’s removal from our WhatsApp group infuriated him no end. I was woken up the following morning by a journalist friend who called me and then forwarded a text Sonnie had sent to her. In his usual long rant, he claimed that some of us are out to ‘sexualize’ Nigerian children and import foreign values. He named me and Oby Nwankwo, as some of the ‘ringleaders’. He wanted my journalist friend to interview him so he could ‘expose us’. My friend refused. The text was an abridged version of his article which eventually appeared in This Day on April 12th. Sonnie Ekwuwosi is an editorial board member of This Day so I suppose they don’t have a choice other than to provide him space to air his views.

    This is what the United Nations Fund for Population Activities (UNFPA) has to say about Comprehensive Sexuality Education, ‘Comprehensive Sexuality Education enables young people to protect their health, well-being and dignity. These programs are based on human rights principles and they advance gender equality and the rights and empowerment of young people’. UNFPA also goes on to state that, ‘every young person will one day have life-changing decisions to make about their sexual and reproductive health. Yet research shows that the majority of adolescents lack the knowledge required to make those decisions responsibly, leaving them vulnerable to coercion, sexually transmitted infections and unintended pregnancy’. One of my favourites is the UNESCO position which describes comprehensive sexuality education as an ‘age-appropriate, culturally relevant approach to teaching about sex and relationships by providing scientifically accurate, realistic, non-judgmental information’.

    I am in my fifties. Like most people in my generation, my parents never had any deep discussions with me about sex. The most I was told was to ‘stay away from boys’. When I was in high school, there was this classmate of mine who was one of the brightest girls in the class. She also seemed to be the most worldly when it came to matters of boys and sex. One day about six of us were having a conversation about sex.  We were all curious and asked each other questions which, in hindsight, none of us had any truthful answers to. My classmate declared, very confidently, ‘You can’t get pregnant unless you have an orgasm’. The rest of us did not know what an orgasm was, and we were too embarrassed to ask for fear of displaying our ignorance. We believed her because she seemed to know what she was talking about. This friend did not take her final examinations with us. She was pregnant. When I heard the news I said to myself, ‘she must have had an orgasm’. That was almost   four decades ago. Every time the issue of adolescent sexuality comes up I remember the sad case of my naïve, misinformed classmate.

    Any parent would agree that they have primary responsibility for talking to their children about sex and related matters. Sonnie’s position is that it is only parents who have this responsibility. This is where I disagree. Parents do not bring their children up in isolation. Children spend long hours outside of the home in school, and even when they are home, parents are either too busy, too prudish or in too much denial to have these conversations. We go to great lengths to teach our children right from wrong, yet we have to contend with peer influences, social media, popular culture, raging hormones and other forces that are not always within our control. If we are concerned about what goes into the sex education curriculum in our children’s schools, we can get involved and ensure that we know what is going on. What we cannot afford to do is throw the baby out with the bathwater. Providing our children with the information they need about their bodies, relationships and decision-making in order to protect them from sexual abuse, sexually transmitted diseases, HIV and unwanted pregnancies, does not amount to ‘sexualising them’ as the Sonnies of this world are claiming. What we are doing is being responsible, proactive and realistic.

    Sonnie is part of a global, ultra conservative network that is ideologically opposed to any discussion about sexuality. As far as they are concerned, any mention of ‘sexuality’ is about homosexuality, and ‘family planning’ means abortion.  Whether we like it or not, our children are exposed to situations or people who will take advantage of their innocence if they do not have the tools to understand what is happening to them and around them. When someone tells a young girl who does not know any better that she cannot get pregnant if she does not have an orgasm, you can just imagine the fate of millions of girls who have fallen victim due to ignorance and misinformation.

    I do not wish to be on the same page with Sonnie, in fact, we are not even reading the same book. What I am asking is that Sonnie should continue reading his book and not attempt to burn mine. He also does not have the right to change the title of my book. One of the most outlandish claims that Sonnie made in his This Day article is about the proposed Gender and Equal Opportunities Bill (GEOB) which is currently being considered at the National Assembly. Sonnie and others in his camp are so rabidly opposed to the Bill that they are trying to sabotage it. They claim that (here we go again) the Bill will promote abortion and homosexuality. There is a draft copy of the GEOB available online. Sonnie should point out which sections of the Bill are about abortion and homosexuality. The Bill does mention the rights of women to ‘Family Planning’ , and  I suppose this is a red flag to Sonnie’s bull. There are a lot of careful negotiations currently going on around the Bill to ensure that it takes into consideration cultural and religious sensitivities without totally jeopardizing the interests of those it seeks to protect. The sanctimonious hysteria of people such as Sonnie does not help.

    Sonnie Ekwuwosi, please stop the bullying and misinformation. I do not claim to speak for all Nigerian women, but regardless of our age, education, social status or geographical location, many of us understand what it means to live as women in a fundamentally patriarchal society.  You don’t. Leave Nigerian women, their lives and bodies alone. Every day, women and girls are raped, abused, excluded from decisions which affect them, are denied access to healthcare, education, inheritance, credit and basic amenities. We need the Gender and Equal Opportunities Bill to create a level playing field and to ensure that women and men, girls and boys, can live lives of dignity and respect in this country. The GEOB will ensure that our political, economic, cultural and social systems are more inclusive and responsive to the needs of women. None of our developmental goals as a nation will ever be achieved if women are left behind. We will no longer sit in silence while our children are abused and we lack the capacity to change the story. We will work with men who are our husbands, fathers, sons and brothers, who understand what needs to be done, and who are true supporters of promoting the dignity of women.

     

     Bisi Adeleye-Fayemi is a Gender Specialist, Social Entrepreneur and Writer. She is the Founder of Abovewhispers.com, an online community for women. She can be reached at BAF@abovewhispers.com

     

  • Gynaecologist cautions women against multiple sexual partners

    An Abuja-based gynaecologist, Dr Nnamdi Ezenwa, has warned that multiple sexual partners can expose women to Cervicitis, an Inflammation of the cervix.

    Ezenwa told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Abuja on Friday that the Inflammation could be as a result of irritation, infection or injury to cells that line the cervix.

    According to him, the irritated or infected tissues might become red, swollen, ooze mucus and pus, and might also bleed easily when touched.

    “Severe cases of inflammation are usually caused by infections that are passed during sexual activity and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) that may cause cervicitis include “gonorrhea, chlamydia, genital herpes, trichomoniasis, mycoplasma and ureaplasma.

    “But many women with cervicitis don’t test positive for any type of infection; other causes of the inflammation may include allergies to chemicals in spermicides, douches or the latex rubber in condoms.

    “Another cause can be hormonal imbalance such as having relatively low estrogen or high progesterone which may interfere with the body’s ability to maintain healthy cervical tissue.

    “Rarely, radiation therapy or cancer may cause changes to the cervix consistent with cervicitis.”

    Furthermore, Ezenwa said that many women with cervicitis do not have any symptoms, adding that the condition might be discovered only after a routine examination or test.

    He identified symptoms of cervicitis as grayish or pale yellow vaginal discharge, abnormal vaginal bleeding, such as bleeding after sex or between periods or pain during sex.

    According to him, extreme symptoms of cervicitis include difficult, painful or frequent urination, pelvic or abdominal pain or fever, in rare cases.

    “Those who are at a higher risk of contracting cervicitis are women who recently had sexual intercourse without a condom and women with multiple sexual partners.

    “Studies show that cervicitis will recur in eight per cent to 25 per cent of women.

    The expert explained that if an infection was suspected, the main goal of treatment was to eliminate the infection and prevent it from spreading to the uterus and fallopian tubes, or to the baby, in the case of a pregnant woman.

    “Depending on what organism is causing the infection, your doctor may prescribe antibiotics, anti-fungal medications or anti-viral medications.

    “Your doctor may also recommend that your partner be treated to make sure you don’t get infected again. You should not have sex until you and your partner have finished treatment.

    “Treatment is especially important if you are HIV positive because cervicitis increases the amount of virus that is shed from the cervix and it may increase your chances of infecting a partner.”

    Ezenwa, therefore, urged women to limit their sex partners and always use condoms during sex.

    He also advised women to desist from using feminine hygiene products as they might cause irritation in the vagina and cervix.

    He added that diabetic patients should try to maintain good control of blood sugar.

  • My wife refused to cook for me until I discovered this secret that made me last 25mins during sex and increase my manhood size

    My wife refused to cook for me until I discovered this secret that made me last 25mins during sex and increase my manhood size

    My name is Dave Taidi, and believe me, some years back when I married my wife she was very respectful, caring and everything I wanted in a woman. But recently, something happened.

    I noticed that my sexual performance was diminishing. I could no longer get stronger erections.

    When I wanted to have sex, sometimes my manhood will not stand properly even with all the foreplay and romance. And when I had sex with my woman, within 3minutes I will release semen all over the place.

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    I suffered from premature ejaculation for years. But it became worse.

    I noticed that my manhood was getting smaller, and it could not penetrate my wife, Damilola, like it used to before. It was a shame. My wife was complaining bitterly. She was frustrated. She picked quarrels with me.

    Later on, she threatened to pack out of the house all because I was not performing like a real man which I used to before.
    So I started looking for solutions before the matter got out of hand.

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    I tried several products like spray, drugs, some said I should try taking alomo bitters or alcohol before having sex. But it didn’t work. I only got temporary results.
    One day, I decided to try a drug vega, so that I could perform in bed like a friend told me about it. But then I noticed it had side effects, and even worse, my dick became soft and I could not even be with my woman in bed.

    That is where it all changed, my wife refused to cook for me, she stopped talking to me. My marriage became miserable.

    All these continued to happen in my marriage until I came in contact with a men health specialist that introduced me to a natural herbal supplement that helps restore your body system and permanently cure premature ejaculation so you will last up to 25mins with your woman in bed.

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    Within 3 weeks, I was already seeing gradually enlargement in the length and girth of my manhood, and my wife was asking me what I was using on my penis.

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    To your sexual health,

    Dave.

  • Wife reveals how her husband added extra 3.5inches to his manhood size and now last 25minutes during sex

    Wife reveals how her husband added extra 3.5inches to his manhood size and now last 25minutes during sex

    My name is Damilola, and I got married to my husband about 2 years ago. We have one kid already and when we started the marriage, our sex life was great.

    But recently, I discovered that my husband could hardly get hard erections, and anytime he wants to penetrate me during sex. His manhood will be numb and soft.

    And when we had sex he could not perform for up to 3minutes before he will release his semen everywhere.

    He always had an excuse of too much stress and pressure from work and so on.

    Even most of the time, I would be the one to initiate the sex. I was frustrated, sad and confused.

    How could I continue with a man that is suffering from weak erections and premature ejaculation for the rest of my life?

    …a man that could hardly satisfy me in bed and can’t last up to 3minutes during sex?

    Even worse his manhood is so small and it hardly pleases me!

    I almost cheated on him with my ex-boyfriend because truth be told my ex was a complete man in bed and handles me during sex the way I want it.

    But I did not want to hurt my marriage that was already collapsing.

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    For months, I and my husband did not have sex, no romance and no intimacy.

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    Then something happened that changed the entire situation and saved my marriage.

    You see, when I talked to my husband about these 2 problems and we started looking for solutions, we tried several products that did not work.

    Until we came in contact with a family friend, who is also a men health specialist that recommended 2 solutions for us.

    He gave my husband a herbal supplement that helped him cure his weak erections problem and premature ejaculation.

    Gradually, within just 2 weeks of using it, I noticed that my husband could go up to 20minutes in bed, and with much sexual energy and stamina unlike before.

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    And my husband even recommended it to some of his close friends and they are sharing positive testimonies about the supplement.

    I’m so happy now because everything has changed about my marriage. The sex life is great again, my husband now performs like a young guy in his early twenties. Our marriage has become stronger and I am not tempted to look outside or cheat anymore.

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    All thanks to the men health specialist, because aside from giving us the supplement that cures quick ejaculation, he also shared with us an enlargement oil that helps men increase their manhood size.

    You see, the truth is that women won’t tell you but manhood size really matters. Women want men with at least an average manhood that will penetrate them fully and satisfy them in bed.

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    With these 2 products, my husband is now performing like a real man in bed, no more quick ejaculation, low libido and weak erection is now a thing of the past.

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  • Terrible reasons married people have less sex

    Terrible reasons married people have less sex

    You might think the current flood of dating apps would mean people are having more sex than ever, but in fact, for many, the exact opposite seems to be true. Gasp!

    A new study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour and reported by the Washington Post found that people are having less sex overall than they were in the 1990s. 

    The study, which used data from the giant General Social Survey, found that on the whole American adults in the early 2010s had sex nine fewer times per year than they did in the 1990s. When you spread that over 12 months, that’s not exactly a heinous dry spell, thank goodness. Still, more sex is usually better than less.

    The decrease was seen across gender, race, region, education, and employment status. One reason for the drop? There are now more people without partners, who typically tend to have half the sex that those with partners do. But even married people (and those living with partners) aren’t doing it as much.

    [quote]There used to be what was called the “marriage advantage,” meaning that those who were partnered up had more sex because they had a ready and willing partner at hand. But that has sadly disappeared. In 1990, married people had sex around 73 times per year, according to reports. By 2014, that was down to 55.[/quote]

    Comparatively, that number for unpartnered people stayed level—about 59 times per year. Even with Match and OKCupid and Tinder, singles aren’t really hooking up more than when you had to meet people the old-fashioned way.

    So why are the married among us failing to get busy with each other? The study suggests it may be because they’re too busy doing other things, like sending work emails or playing games on their phone. After all, how many nights have you sat in bed combing through your feeds, oblivious to the person next to you? 

    [quote]We’re also less happy overall, are more depressed, and are taking more antidepressants as a result. All of these things aren’t exactly known for putting people in the mood. We do know, based on the data, that the decline isn’t due to people working longer hours or consuming more porn. [/quote]

    Of course, just because this is happening on average doesn’t mean it has to happen to you. You can put the phone down and look at your partner again. And if you’re single, you can pick up the phone and try to find a match who makes you want to do more than just look at your phone.

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  • Updated: 2 blind men bag 6 years for sexually abusing 2 boys

    A Minna Magistrates’ Court on Thursday sentenced two blind homosexuals to a total of six years imprisonment without an option of fine for sexually abusing two boys.

    The Magistrate, Hajiya Hauwa Yusuf, handed down the verdict after the duo of Idris Usman popularly called Bagobiri and Abubakar Sadiq pleaded guilty to the charge.

    She sentenced each of them to three years in jail.

    Earlier, Police Prosecutor Abdullahi Mayaki told the court that the accused committed the offence sometime in December 2016.

    Mayaki said the accused had enticed two boys of ages 10 and 12 with N50 and N100 respectively before assaulting them sexually.

    The offence, he said, contravened Section 19 of the Niger State Child Rights Law (Sexual Abuse and Exploitation).

    Mayaki said under the law the accused should have been sentenced to 14 years imprisonment but noted that the sentence was reduced to six years because the accused persons had pleaded guilty and asked for leniency.

    The Director General of the State Child Rights Agency, Hajiya Mairam Kolo, who was in court, applauded the judgment.

    She commended the magistrate for ensuring that justice was done which, she said, would serve as a deterrent to others.  (NAN)

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  • Sex scandal rocks IBB varsity

    Sex scandal rocks IBB varsity

    The Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida University (IBBU) in Lapai, Niger State, is probing the sexual harassment allegation levelled against a teacher, Mallam Ishaq Yusuf, by a student, Chidimma Mercy Samuel. The teacher, who was found in the student’s room at night, denies the allegation. He claims he was framed up. WALE AJETUNMOBI reports.

    How did a lecturer find himself in such a compromising situation? This is the knot a panel is seeking to untie as it probes the allegation of sexual harassment against Mallam Ishaq Yusuf, a teacher in the Department of English Language and Communication Studies of the Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida University (IBBU) in Lapai, Niger State. The lecturer was allegedly found naked in a female student’s room around 10pm on February 21.

    Chidimma Mercy Samuel, a 400-Level student in the department, accused the lecturer  of coming to her hostel with a plan to sleep with her. But, Yusuf claimed that he was framed up. He alleged that the student conspired with some boys to abduct him.

    But, the images of a series of WhatsApp conversations between the lecturer and the student, obtained by The Nation, paint a different picture. They indicated that Yusuf planned to visit Chidimma in her hostel at an arranged time. He allegedly used his MTN number – 08035520941 – to chat with the student.

    Yusuf was allegedly caught in Chidimma’s room by a group of boys just before the act. The English lecturer, who allegedly drove himself to the student’s hostel, hurriedly left without taking his two mobile phones, an ATM card and his underpants.

    It all happened at the Montana Lodge, an off-campus hostel in Lapai, where Chidimma lives. Chidimma has alleged threats to her life, following the incident. She said some anonymous persons called and threatened her with death after the incident.

    Chidimma claimed Yusuf started disturbing her from her first year in the school. Her refusal to yield ground, she claimed, earned her a carry-over in his course.

    She said: “The lecturer has been disturbing me since I was in 100-Level. He would tell me how much he likes me and would come to meet me where I was reading to disturb me. I declined to date him. I told him I was not interested in anything he was saying. Then, he failed me in his course, which I took in second semester of 100-Level.

    “I didn’t protest the result, because I did not want to meet him for any help. I knew I would do better the next time. I was able to pass the carry-over course when the department brought another lecturer to take the course.”

    Chidimma said Yusuf was unrelenting in his pursuit, claiming: “It got worse when I was in 300-Level.”

    Chidimma, whose wedding comes up on March 21, added: “The lecturer purposely failed me in two of his courses I took, because I turned down his advances towards me.”

    What culminated in the February 21 incident started on the eve of the last Valentine’s Day. Yusuf, according to the WhatsApp conversation, allegedly asked Chidimma to see him in private.

    “I asked him if there was a problem; he replied that there was a problem. I asked him what the problem was, but he refused to tell me in the conversation. He insisted I see him in private,” the student claimed.

    Chidimma claimed to have complained to former Head of the Department (HOD) of English Language and Communication Studies, Dr Ebenezer Ogungbe.

    “I told Dr Ogungbe about the conversation the lecturer had been having with me. The former HOD said I should tell him (Yusuf) to see him. When I told him Dr Ogungbe requested to see him, he didn’t reply me. He only said goodnight,” she said.

    On February 20, Chidmma alleged, Yusuf again chatted with her around 11pm, complaining about her reluctance to see him. He then allegedly demanded to see Chidimma that night, but the student said she declined because it was late.

    She alleged: “The following day, he sent me messages and said he would see me later. In the evening of the day, he sent me another message, asking where I was. I told him I was in my hostel. He said he could not imagine ‘how it was going to be’. I was confused. I asked him what he meant by that statement.

    “He said he wanted to see me that evening and he did not want the meeting point to be at his office, so that people would not see us together. I told him to come to my hostel, because my fiancé was around. He said he would come to my hostel at 10pm. I called Dr. Ogungbe again to inform him about the development.

    “My fiancé was already angry and had started suspecting my relationship with the lecturer. He felt I was the one chasing the lecturer about for marks. I explained everything to him and he said he would like to know why the lecturer wanted to see me. I told the lecturer to come to my hostel if he really wanted to see me, but he did not show up.”

    After Chidimma’s fiancé left for Abuja the following day, Yusuf allegedly called to say he would be at her hostel in the evening.

    Chidimma claimed: “I quickly informed my fiancé, who called his friends to come around my hostel to confirm things for him. My fiancé thought the lecturer wanted to kill me after sleeping with me. When the lecturer called me to say he was on his way to my hostel, I alerted my fiancé’s friends who positioned themselves around my apartment.

    “Immediately he got into my room at 10pm, he checked around to be sure there was nobody with me. He checked my bathroom and kitchen. He didn’t know that people were beside the windows outside, listening to our conversation.

    “I asked him what he wanted from me. He sat close to me on the bed and extended his arm around my shoulder. He asked if I knew the reason I had been failing his courses. I told him I did not know. He said it was because I had refused to ‘comply’ and ‘play along’.

    “He said that was the reason he needed to come to my hostel and ‘rub minds together’ with me. He said he would ensure that I passed his courses after sleeping with me. He told me that without sleeping with him, I won’t pass the courses and I won’t graduate from the school.”

    After making his intention known, he allegedly got up, went close to the bathroom and pulled off his clothes. He only had his boxers on him as he approached the student.

    Chidimma alleged: “I pretended to be playing along. I asked him to pull off his boxers too. He obliged. That was when I called for help and my fiancé’s friends barged in and saw the lecturer naked. They started filming him and taking his photographs as he was naked.”

    It was gathered that Yusuf begged the boys not to expose him. Asked what he was doing in a female student’s room at night, he allegedly pleaded that the matter be resolved amicably and promised to pass Chidimma in all his courses.

    Yusuf was made to write an undertaking that he would not disturb the girl again before he was allowed to go. The lecturer allegedly wrote the undertaking. As he left in a hurry, Yusuf was said to have forgotten his underwear ATM card and mobile phones, which were still with Chidimma at the time of this report.

    The next day, The Nation gathered that Yusuf  reported the case to the management. He alleged that Chidimma sent a group of cultists to abduct him and dispossess him of his ATM card and mobile phones – a Nokia and Infinix – at gun point.

    Chidimma, he claimed, connived with the boys to kidnap him on his way home.

    “I was forced to remove my clothes,” he said, claiming: “I received calls from the girl in the evening. She asked me to see her. She said a boy whose test paper I tore earlier in the day during a test wanted me to help talk to the lecturer taking the course for a make-up test. I told her they should see me the next day.

    “On my way home, I saw the girl at a junction close to her hostel. She was standing by the roadside with some boys. As soon as she entered my car, the boys also came in and pressed a metal on my back. So, I was forced to drive to the girl’s house.

    “As we got into the room, they removed my clothes and poured water on me. They demanded that I give them ransom before I could be freed. I was accused of making attempt to rape the girl. The boys humiliated me.”

    But Chidimma denied framing up her teacher. She said she had been receiving threat calls.

    “I was frightened by the calls and had to leave for my safety. Some people called me that they were after me. The school is no longer safe for me,” she said.

    The management has invited the lecturer and the student to explain what transpired.

    Chidimma said her department’s head had called her to confirm management’s letter inviting her to the panel.

    Contacted, Dr Ogungbe said he was aware of the matter, but declined further comment in order “not to pre-empt the panel’s investigation into the matter”.

    The IBBU Director of Information, Alhaji Baba Akote, said the panel would unravel what happened.

    Akote said: “I won’t make further comments on the matter, except to tell you that the incident is being investigated by the school panel. This is my position.”

    In a statement on its website last Friday, the school said it would take appropriate action against anyone indicted by the panel.

    The statement reads: “The university management is aware of the recent unfortunate incident between a male lecturer and a female student. In view of this, management has set up a committee to investigate the immediate and remote cause(s) of the incident. The committee is headed by the Deputy Vice-Chancellor and involves all stakeholders in the matter.

    “Accordingly, all parties involved are hereby advised to exercise restraint. The university community and the general public are assured of the management’s resolve to take appropriate disciplinary action against any party found guilty after the investigation.”

  • ‘I can’t bear my husband’s strong sexual urge’

    An estranged wife, Sola Bamisile, 30, on Monday told an Ikole Ekiti Customary Court that she could no longer bear her husband’s strong sexual urge.

    The petitioner alleged that her husband, Bayo Bamisile, constantly beat her whenever she refused him sex.

    Sola told the court that within five and a half years of their marriage she had given birth to four children.

    She also alleged that the respondent failed to care for her and the children.

    According to her, none of the children is in school.

    “I always quarrel with my husband because none of our children is in school; there is no proper care for me and the children.

    “My husband is always concerned about having sex with me whenever he has taken palm-wine.

    “He has not even paid my dowry,’’ she said.

    The petitioner, however, told the court that her husband and his family members had been  reaching out to her to reconsider her divorce move.

    “My husband and his family have been coming to me to change my mind about the divorce.

    “He has also written a letter of undertaking to be of good behaviour,’’ she said.

    The petitioner tendered the letter of undertaking in court as exhibit.

    The News Agency of Nigeria reports that the letter was admitted by the court.

    The respondent denied the allegation of constantly fighting his wife and failing to take care of his family.

    He however admitted not paying the dowry.

    The president of the court, Mrs Yemisi Ojo, ruled that the plaintiff should monitor the respondent’s  behaviour for three months to ascertain if he had  changed.

    She also ordered that the man should enrol his children in school before the next adjourned date.

    Ojo adjourned the case to May 8 for report of settlement. (NAN)