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  • Don’t marry a man who cannot rebuke parents, Solomon Buchi advises women

    Don’t marry a man who cannot rebuke parents, Solomon Buchi advises women

    Relationship coach Solomon Buchi has advised women against getting married to a man who cannot rebuke his parents to protect them.

    He insisted that men who cannot call out and rebuke their parents should be avoided.

    Buchi argued that the protective nature of men should not only be in their physical look but also in their ability to be stubborn and firm even towards their own family members.

    He argued that men should always be men and protect their family from outsiders.

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    Speaking via his X app, he wrote: “Don’t marry a man who cannot call out and rebuke his parents. The protective nature of men isn’t just in bigger toned muscles but in their ability to be firm, stubborn and bold even to their family. It’s easy to find a man who can protect you from outsiders; please find a man who won’t be scared to protect you from his family if need be. Men ought to be men.”

  • Why your wife should have access to your phone – Solomon Buchi tells men

    Why your wife should have access to your phone – Solomon Buchi tells men

    Relationship expert and life coach, Solomon Buchi, has emphasised the need for transparency in marriage, saying that it is right for women to always check their man’s phone.

    Expressing via his X platform, he said people who are married should be able to access each other’s phones comfortably.

    He further stated that as a married man, he grants his wife access to his location all the time and she also grants him location to her phone all the time.

    He revealed that when people are married, they are supposed to be open about everything hammering on the fact that the more open they are as a married man or as a married woman, the less likely they will fall into temptation.

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    He also revealed that when you are open, it breeds accountability and that feeling becomes inevitable when they have a private life in marriage.

    He wrote: “My wife and I have access to our locations at every time (Find My app) and more than for safety, I think it takes openness to share that.

    “In this marriage thing, open yourself as much as you can. Openness disarms your proclivities. The more open you are, the less likely you’ll fall into temptation. Openness breeds accountability.

    “Your gadgets, social media, and bank passwords shouldn’t be a secret. Your whereabouts too.

    “Falling is inevitable when you have a ‘private’ life in marriage.”

  • Why most abroad marriages suffer, Solomon Buchi reveals

    Why most abroad marriages suffer, Solomon Buchi reveals

    Relationship therapist Solomon Buchi has taken to his X account, to discuss how marriages abroad become a test of strength for couples.

    He said that relocating abroad often reveals the true attitudes of individuals, particularly women who may have married for the wrong reasons in Nigeria.

    Buchi said: “Abroad marriages suffer because of wicked spouses. Some men go to the village to marry meek and timid wives and suppress them in Nigeria until they move abroad. Over there, the laws give everyone a level playing field, and the woman grows up realizing that she can fight back.

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    “For women, they marry men for the wrong reasons. They deceive these men until they move abroad and can rebel because these abroad countries are gynocentric. Their laws are biased in favour of women. Moving abroad reveals the strength of most Nigerian marriages.”

  • Not every broke guy has a great future – Solomon Buchi

    Not every broke guy has a great future – Solomon Buchi

    Relationship therapist Solomon Buchi has dished out advice to young women regarding settling down with a broke man. 

    Taking to his X account, Buchi shared his thoughts on the common belief that financial stability alone defines a person’s character and potential as a spouse.

    He asserted that being a broke guy does not necessarily correlate with being a good person or having a promising future.

    He argued that contrary to the popular belief that money bridges all gaps and a requisite for a happy marriage, he said poverty should not be equated with virtue.

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    According to Buchi, women should exercise caution when selecting a life partner, whether considering a broke guy or a rich one.

    He said: “Not every broke guy is good. Not every broke guy has a great future. Not every broke guy has a vision. Not every broke guy will make a wonderful husband. 

    “Be careful when choosing a broke guy like you would when trying to choose a rich guy. Poverty is not another name for virtue.”

  • Yul Edochie making a caricature of Christian faith-Solomon Buchi

    Yul Edochie making a caricature of Christian faith-Solomon Buchi

    Social commentator and relationship therapist, Solomon Buchi has reacted to the new calling of actor Yul Edochie.

    Buchi questioned the basis for Yul’s alleged God’s calling to the pastoral ministry.

    The life coach posed a series of questions about Yul Edochie’s spiritual father, the church he attends and who discipled him.

    He noted how the actor had been embroiled in adultery and polygamy for the past months, claiming they make him unfit to preach the gospel without repentance and healing.

    Solomon admitted that though the actor has been through a lot in the past months, he needs intensive mental care as the charade of ministry isn’t helping him.

    Buchi added that Yul Edochie is making a caricature of the Christian faith and embarrassing Christians.

    According to him: “Yul Edochie is making a caricature of the Christian faith. From cheating on his wife, getting another woman pregnant and being caught, to claiming polygamy is normal and okay, and now to open a ‘ministry’ claiming God called him. No doubt, God can call anyone, but there’s a whole structure to the logistics of starting a ministry.

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    “Who is Yul Edochie’s spiritual father? What church does he even currently attend? Who discipled him? In the past months, he’s been involved in adultery and polygamy, which the Lord can forgive, but why is his ministry launched so close to a vulnerable season, for which he needs repentance and healing?

    “Yul has been through quite a lot in the past months, and he might need intensive mental care. This charade isn’t helping and all he needs is Jesus and reflective time to morph into a better man. It’s hard to tell if his ‘ministry’ is sarcastic or real, but whatever it is, it is still embarrassing to the Christian faith. Get your life and family together first, Yul”.

  • Stop dating for too long, you can’t know your partner 100% – Solomon Buchi

    Stop dating for too long, you can’t know your partner 100% – Solomon Buchi

    Relationship therapist and life coach Solomon Buchi has disagreed with singer Simi over the discourse of cohabiting.

    Countering Simi’s recent video about couples needing to live together before getting married, Buchi said no level of togetherness before marriage can provide 100% necessary and detailed information about one’s prospective partner. 

    Buchi stated that it’s impossible for a person to know their partner too well before marriage and that no matter how long couples date, the reality of marriage tends to shock a lot of them.

    He also disclosed that getting married has to involve a certain level of fear and uncertainty because life is very uncertain.

    The acclaimed life coach stated that even in marriage, the person that you once knew can evolve and then you have to learn to experience them as new and different people all over again.

    He concluded by advising intending couples to stop dating for too long because they want to get to know each other well because marriage would teach them things that they would still not be able to know even while dating.

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    According to him: “You can never know your partner too well before marriage. No matter how long you date, marriage will shock you. You’ll see sides to them that you never saw in your 10 years of dating. I understand trying to spend long years to know someone before marriage, but getting married requires a level of FAITH. 

    “It requires a little bit of uncertainty; after all, is life itself not uncertain? Even in marriage, your partner evolves per stage. Who they were before childbirth is different from who they’ll be after childbirth. 

    “Stop dating for too long because you want to know the person well; marriage will teach you how much you don’t know them, and why you should patiently study them. Please, just marry and face the dynamic reality of marriage. It’s a consistent learning curve.”

  • Solomon Buchi blasts Tacha over attack on Mummy Zee, family

    Solomon Buchi blasts Tacha over attack on Mummy Zee, family

    Relationship therapist Solomon Buchi has blasted BBNaija former housemate Tacha who descended on Mummy Zee and her family. 

    Tacha dragged Mummy Zee on Friday describing her husband as a hungry man for allowing the wife to cook by 4am. 

    But Buchi slammed Tacha, accusing her of wasting away in waywardness while pointing out Mummy Zee’s contented family life.

    The social commentator further asserted that Tacha dropped out of Big Brother due to her troublesome attitude and resorted to opening a GoFundMe account, alleging that she, too, has a history of seeking financial assistance from fans.

    In response to Tacha’s claims that Mummy Zee’s success was fueled by donations from netizens, Buchi presented screenshots showing Tacha soliciting funds from followers.

    In his words: “Mama Zee is happily married with a child. You have been wasting around in waywardness.

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    “Your earliest introduction into fame was a semblance of being an IG call girl, hawking your bbs online with a shameless tattoo of Davido plastered in between your boobs.

    “Not until you became a BB dropout because of the same hadlum attitude, and opened a GOFUNDME to beg, and now you’re on podcasts being so rezz and uncouth. Not one ounce of class! Not one ounce of morality. Not ounce of maturity.

    “Nothing warranted you bullying a WHOLE family because of your ugly heart. Even if Mummy Zee offended you, why drag her husband and daughter?

    “I honestly hate witnessing this level of vile@ess.”

  • Virgin women have lowest divorce rates, says Solomon Buchi

    Virgin women have lowest divorce rates, says Solomon Buchi

    Media personality and relationship counsellor, Solomon Buchi has educated the general public on the significance of marrying a virgin.

    Buchi’s response is spurred by a tweet from an X user as regards marrying a virgin.

    Explaining the dynamics, Buchi said that virgins have the lowest divorce rates, citing a 65% probability of having a happy marriage for women who marry as virgins.

    He shared insights from the Institute for Family Studies, claiming that non-virgins are more likely to experience issues such as low self-esteem, academic failure, and poor relationship decisions.

    According to his findings, most sexual problems in marriages stem from past sexual experiences.

    The media personality countered the tweep’s apparent skepticism, advising him to refrain from ridiculing virtue and implying that those who lack it may not fully understand its value.

    Buchi shared statistics supporting his argument, stating that 71% of men who had only slept with their spouse reported satisfaction with their marriage, while 64% of women who had only had sex with their spouse claimed happiness in their marriage.

    He said in contrast, women with 6 to 10 sexual partners were reportedly 13% less likely to report marital happiness.

    Men with more than 21 partners were 15% less likely to express satisfaction with their marriage.

    He said: Virgins have the lowest divorce rates. Women who married as virgins have a 65% chance of having a very happy marriage than their non-virgin counterpart. “When it comes to sex, less experience is better, at least for the marriage,” – institute for family studies.

    “71% of men who have only slept with their spouse reported satisfaction with their marriage, while 64% of women who’ve only had sex with their spouse say they’re happy in their marriage.

    “Women who’ve had 6 to 10 sexual partners were 13 percent less likely to report marital happiness. For men who have slept with more than 21 partners, they were 15 percent less likely to say they were satisfied with their marriage.

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    “Non-virgins are projected to suffer more economic lack, low self-esteem, academic failure, and bad relationship choices.

    “In this pornographic world, virginity is proof of discipline and focus. If anyone should be embarrassed, it should be the other party that revels in sexual promiscuity.

    “There’s nothing shameful about marrying on a clean slate. Most sexual problems in marriage stem from past sexual experiences. Lastly, even if there was no benefit of virginity, we ought to stay virgin till marriage because God commanded it. God is wise, I’ll rather follow him, than follow the bandwagon.

    “Stop trying to ridicule virtue just because you lack it.”

  • Solomon Buchi tackles trolls over ‘The Experience’ concert

    Solomon Buchi tackles trolls over ‘The Experience’ concert

    Social media relationship therapist Solomon Buchi has taken a swipe at Nigerians who criticized the multitudes that stormed the Tafawa Balewa Square for “The Experience” gospel concert.

    Responding to the backlash, Buchi compared netizens’ reactions to Burna Boy, Davido, or Wizkid’s 20,000-capacity concert and free annual gospel concert with over 65,000 people.

    According to him, their activism is only activated when Christians gather.

    He also questioned if the reactions were ordinary or a possibility of demonic infection.

    Solomon Buchi, in a lengthy post, wrote: ‘’Burnaboy, Davido or Wizkid sells out 20,000 capacity concerts. Wow! My goat, I love to see black excellence.”

    The Experience is a FREE annual gospel music concert with over 65,000. “Nigerians and religion. Imagine if these people went to protest; Nigeria would be fine. Why don’t you say this about your fave when thousands attend their concerts?”

    “With all deserved disrespect, you’re out of your mind. Your activism is only activated when church folks gather. Same way you guys bully churches that build cathedrals, instead of focusing on your governors.”

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    “When I think about this double standard against Christians, I detect a possibility of demonic infection. Is it ordinary?”

    “For a lot of Nigerian Christians, they don’t attend concerts all year, because there’s a lot to hustle for. Then, at the end of each year, they gather for FREE, FREE oh, to worship God, and express gratitude for the year. But you won’t stop taunting them.”

    “Look at it morally. Which is better? Paying for a concert where you’re led to sing “I need Igbo and shayo” or attending a free gospel concert where you express gratitude.”

    “From a purely artistic and musical perspective, the Experience is the most expensive gospel concert in Africa. Most of your faves cannot match up with the musical excellence that the Experience portrays.”

  • Inter-tribal marriage stressful – Solomon Buchi

    Inter-tribal marriage stressful – Solomon Buchi

    Writer and relationship coach, Solomon Buchi, has briefly shared the challenge that comes with getting married from a different tribe. 

    Speaking of himself, he admitted openly to the difficulties he face, particularly in public communication.

    Buchi, an Igbo man is married to a Yoruba woman, lamented his inability to converse with Arike in Igbo in public, frequently resorting to English instead.

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    Buchi jokingly wished he could speak Igbo to his wife on a train and have her understand and respond in kind.

    ”Being married to someone from another trouble whose language you can’t speak is stressful.

    “You can’t even gist in public. Why does it always have to English? Sometimes I just want to speak Igbo to my wife on the train, and command her to understand it and reply me in Jesus name!,” he said.