Tag: Valentine

  • It’s Cupid for Valentine at Alexis

    Thirteen upcoming artists (12 painters and a sculptor) whose names may not ring a bell in Lagos art circuit have chosen to host a group art exhibition, Cupid, as part of this year’s Valentine celebration.

    The artists include Oyewole Olufemi, Sunday Effiong, Badejo Abiodun, Akhile Ehiforia, Yemi Uthman, Adeleke Akeem, Emeka Nwagbara, Lawal Ismail, Dagogo, Owolabi Ayodele, Raji, Salako Olajide and Tyna Adebowale.

    The exhibition will open from Saturday, February 15 and run till Saturday, February 22 at Alexis Gallery, off Idowu Martins Street, Victoria Island, Lagos.

    Cupid is an opportunity for the young artists to showcase their works as a group for the first time to the public. Many of the artists are still being mentored by master artists such as Edosa Ogiugo, Abiodun Olaku and Fidelis Odogwu.

    However, many of the artists claimed they are self-trained. The influence of these masters on these young talented artists can be observed in their works. The show will feature about 60 paintings, drawings and metal sculptures with titles such as Aspiration, Up Hills and Self-contain, a painting on Oko Baba scene by Nwagbara. Others are Harmony which portrays two love birds on a tree by Effiong, First Date … a painting that portrays a lady who sits by a table and wears a frown. Night Reflection is a painting of a landscape in Osun State.

    Generally, the artists make use of bright and warm colours to express themselves and their views and perception about Valentine.

  • Dress  for  love

    Dress for love

    As we all know, the day of love is around the corner and you have your own plans for the day. But do you really give any thought to what to wear on such a day, whether you are planning a casual date or a formal night out? Since time immemorial, red dresses have always been deemed as perfect Valentine’s Day dresses. Hot pink and fuchsia (soft) pink drape tops with jeans trousers will look great for casuals. Ladies, ensure that you are comfortable. There should be no extremely high heels for lunch or daytime event, possibly you may do a lot of walking (shopping, strolling arms in arms etc) and therefore avoid wearing high heels, so that you can go casual for daytime events with your special ones. Or dress up and be a bit on the blink-blink (glamorous) side for dinner or night out.

    Do not forget to carry a cute bag, probably a small clutch purse as it makes a great fashion statement. In all, you both need to dress up elegantly for an evening date! Evening gown, stilettos shoes, clutch purse are some of the things ladies should go for, and this could come from any colour, not necessarily red or pink. Although red dresses are said to be perfect Valentine’s Day evening wears, I think the perfect colour for an evening date is black.

  • Ibis hotel offers valentine promo

    The management of Ibis Hotel, Ikeja, has put together a three-day promo for this valentine season.

    The Head of Marketing, Paris Jarrett, said the promo is the hotel’s way of appreciating prospective guests.

    The romantic valentine get away for two is at a pocket-friendly price of N49, 500 per night.

    Other benefits of the promo include breakfast, lunch and a romantic candle light dinner buffet with a complimentary glass of wine and soft music at the background.

    She further said that guests will experience pleasures associated with the Ibis brands as rose petals and flowers will also be served on request with good music.

     

     

  • Paint the aisle in  red

    Paint the aisle in red

    Red, certainly, is the colour of love. Lovers and brides-to-be are having a great countdown and trying to make this year’s Valentine Day as memorable as possible. Yetunde Oladeinde looks at the options available for brides this valentine season.

    It is a season to love and be loved. Interestingly, a number of our designers have trendy pieces in their collection for brides who want to stand out this season. “I am getting married on Valentine’s Day somewhere in Lekki. I will be wearing white with a touch of red, while the train will turn out in bright red to set a glamorous tone for the event,” declares 27-year-old Anthonia.

    She adds that “it is an exclusive arrangement for only a hundred guests. My man and I want something that won’t be stressful to make it a wonderful experience. One of the major decisions I had to make was picking a shade of red to match with my total outlook. Once

  • A romantic ambience

    A romantic ambience

    “I wanted to tell you that wherever I am, whatever happens, I’ll always think of you, and the time we spent together, as my happiest time. I’d do it all over again, if I had the choice. No regrets.” This quote aptly captures what goes on in the heart of someone who is truly in love. That explains why there is the need to understand what the season represents and how to make the best out of the romantic opportunities available.

    To make it memorable, you need to consider your loved one’s preferences when it comes to planning for a wonderful valentine celebration. You can make it dramatic by playing up the element of surprise. Of course, your date knows that you have something planned for Valentine Day, but it is better not to tell them everything that you have lined up.

    What you wear on this special day matters a lot. It is good to pay attention to the clothes and accessories you turn up in to ensure that it is a magnetic affair. While looking out for the best outfit, you need to make sure that it is something that you are comfortable in and not over dress. For ladies, there are a number of options from an elegant dress or a simple top and matching pair of trousers can make you awesome.

    You can therefore send a special cake or flowers to that special angel at work or early in the day. The second part of the arrangement can come later in the day with a candlelight dinner or you can leave sweet notes posted around the house, highlighting why they are such a treasure in your life.

    Eating out is one of the highpoints of a valentine date and so you need to know if your partner adores upscale cuisine or the options that would endear you to his or her heart. Most Valentine Day’s dates are built around some element of eating, whether it’s an all-out dinner or just chocolates. Think about what sort of cuisine you and your date both enjoy.

    If the person you are hooked on is hooked on romantic movies, then you may just have to stay indoors together watching these kinds of movies. Alternatively, you can go to the movies together which also makes it exciting and memorable.

    As a woman, you can make those mouth-watering dishes that he would find irresistible. Show your date how dedicated you are to a memorable evening by crafting an elegant meal yourself. This way, you can customise the food and make exactly what you and your date want. Think of some heartfelt ways of presenting the food, like arranging the salad in the shape of a heart; use a heart-shaped cookie cutter to cut out pieces as well as have a cake in a heart shape.

    Whether you’re going out or staying in, you can do a few things to establish a romantic ambience and put your date in a good mood. Dress up a bit and take extra care for your appearance. Speak in gentle, loving tones. Hold your date’s gaze and sit or stand close to him or her. And smile!

     

    Valentine Day has always been a special affair for most women. While they may not expect an over-the-top declaration of love, they would at least want a special gesture of affection from you. Don’t disappoint the woman you love just because she is really looking forward to hearing from your ‘heart’, this season.

    It is important to remember that not every man knows how to plan a perfect date. A large number of men realise their mistakes after losing the girl they dated. If you think that you need to plan your dates in a better way, then it is important to avoid having a dating this valentine.

  • Top spots for Valentine in Lagos, other places

    Top spots for Valentine in Lagos, other places

    MEMORIES are for ever, so they say. Many would next week try to create magical moments with loved ones that would last for a long time, if not a life time. It is the St.Valentine’s Day and there no better places to create memories and intimate moments than to set out to very special places to savour the moment.

    In Nigeria, there are alluring places where lovers can go to share magical moments and literarily touch the stars at top tourist sites.

    Oniru, Elegushi beaches

    The loss of the once popular Bar beach to ocean surge and the shut down of the near-by Kuramo beach has turned out to be the gain of private beaches like Oniru and Elegushi beaches in Lagos. The privately-owned beaches are little more organized than the public ones like Alfa and Eleko. Added to the fact that they are located within the town, they have become quite attractive to fun seekers. For those who appreciate the more lively atmosphere to celebrate the lovers’ day, these beaches would not be a bad idea. They have good parking spaces and security is quite commendable.

    However, public beaches like the Eleko and Suntan in the Badagry area would also be bubbling with activities for lovers who want to bubble and enjoy life in full.

    Special Valentine at Southern Sun

    For its numerous customers, the valentine season would not be an ordinary one, as Southern Sun, Ikoyi, Lagos, has come up with a package to make the celebrations memorable. The valentine season package would be enjoyed by guests who stay at the hotel between the 13th and 17th of February 2014. Special room rates and complimentary breakfast for two is also on offer

    According to the hotel’s General Manager, Mark Loxley, the hotel would have a special ‘Couples Dinner’ at N13,000 for two, as well as a ‘Sea Food Lovers Buffet’ for N7, 500 on Friday the 14th. In his words, “the seafood and couples dinner is the hotel’s way of encouraging couples to celebrate the valentine season with a mouth-watering spread of local and continental dishes.

    “Our customers are our primary responsibility, the relationship and friendship we cultivate, especially during this season, as well as the added values we have, gives us an edge,” Mark Loxley concludes

    Candle light dinner by the beach front

    One of Lagos State’s foremost resort, the Lagos Tourist Beach Resort, Akodo in Lekki council area of the state, along the Lagos-Epe Expressway, will be holding a romantic beach-side dinner for couples. It is a total package that involves accommodation, dinner and other in-house entertainment to be provided by the resort. The Akodo Tourist Beach Resort, with its long stretch of beach front with coconut trees, is clean with lush sand that is perfect for a romantic evening.

    Silverbird Galleria

    The Silverbird Galleria, along the Ahmadu Bello Way, Victoria Island, Lagos, would have its own share of the valentine’s day traffic. The attraction is that the place is almost an all-in-one complex for fun in days such as this. The eateries, the gift shops and cinema are all there for those who enjoy being in bustling and high-octane areas .

    Nature, sea and sand at La Campagne Tropicana

    The resort, Nigeria’s foremost and one of the oldest, go out of its way to make this season unforgettable. It combines rich African content in terms of culinary, arts and general aesthetics, with the finest modernity has to offer to make visitors have a good time. The resort has, in its tradition, put together a package for this lovers’ day.

    It has two Valentine Day packages, tagged “Nature, Sea, Sand and Love”, starting from Friday to the next Sunday at the resort in Ikegun, Lagos, and the club, located on Adeniyi Jones Street, Ikeja.

    The club will also host a ‘Thank God Its Valentine’ (TGIV) on Valentine’s Day. The club resort has packaged Nature, Sea, Sand and Love, which it says will provide lovers a platform to connect, cherish and celebrate Valentine’s Day. It is well-known that music paves the path to unwind and resonate with our loved ones. This has led us to believe that it is integral for us to facilitate an avenue that fosters this sentiment.

    The events offer lovers the opportunity to celebrate their love at a romantic, outdoor concert under the stars, along with an eternal musical sojourn. According to the management, the vision for the packages was to convey a high impact message by way of delivering an exciting and interesting night, featuring artistes from diverse spectrum and to make this enterprise an annually celebrated carnival.

    Other places…

    The Ikogosi Warm Spring Resort, Ekiti

    If this were to be written last year or year before, it may not have been wise to wise recommend the place to lovers. The environment is serene with tree and quiet ambience to savour. But the accommodation facilities were nothing to write home about. But all these have changed, as the current administration of Governor Fayemi has totally turned around the fortune of the site. The Ikogosi Warm Spring resort could pass for a destination now. For lovers who want to explore the forest and hills setting of the Ikogosi area, Ikogosi would always be an option.

    Obudu Ranch Resort

    Love goes with beauty, either physically or inside. And what better place to celebrate Valentine’s Day than to float on the Obudu cloud and get to love’s cloud seven. Obudu is the most beautiful place in Nigeria and could compete with any place in the world for allure and grandeur. Getting to Obudu is very easy. The Remlords Group, through destination Cross River, has an all-inclusive package to the place. For lovers wishing to go to Obudu, it is just a click away.

    Other places include the Millennium Park in Abuja , Jabi dam and many other places.

  • Valentine breakfast for grandparents

    Lillywhite Nursery and Primary School, Ilupeju celebrated Valentine’s Day last Thursday with grandparents of its pupils.

    They were treated to a breakfast of local dishes including Moinmoin and Eko/pap, bread and tea, and barbequed fish with their grand children.

    Speaking to The Nation, Mrs Olanrewaju Osibanjo, Proprietress of the school, said Valentine’s Day is a period of love and a time to share things with people. She said this year, grand parents were invited to honour them.

    “We have been doing it for many years with our parents and children so we decided that we need to appreciate our grandparents. That is why we invited them to have breakfast with us on Valentine’s Day,” he said.

    Apart from breakfast, Mrs Osibanjo said the time would allow the grand parents interact with their grand children, a Nigerian culture the 11-year old school doesn’t want to die.

    “We have told them to prepare a question each for the grandparents we have here asking them about how things were done during their youth,” she said.

    She advised that love should not be shown once in a year but everyday.

    Also speaking at the event, one of the grandparents, William Iyomere said the programme gives opportunity for them to reassure the young ones of their love and support.

    The 65-year old lawyer said: “it is a way of trying to tell the kids that we are and will always be there for them and provide them with parental love. Valentine can unify us as a nation but that will be if we follow the teachings of our religions. All the major religions preach love so if we follow the doctrines we will have a better Nigeria.”

    Another grandparent, Mrs Agnes Olayemi who came from Kogi state to attend the programme, said during her time there was nothing like celebrating Valentine’s Day, so “I am happy that I can celebrate if even once”.

    A primary five pupil, 10-year old Iradat Lawal said it is a day to appreciate and share gifts with family and friends.

    “We wear red and white to show love. It is just magical. I hope and pray that everyone in the society, come together and be one again. Let us stop the fight,” she said.

     

     

     

  • My Valentine’s Day treat

    I have fond memories of my days with Granny Fanny-Jane (aka Mama Saro). I was the only grandchild who lived with

    her from infancy till mid teenage years, and later sometimes during adulthood. We used to sit together baking or cooking during the day time and you could bet that all the hours were spent gisting.

    Towards early evenings, we would retire to the balcony or the living room to talk some more. Many times, she would help cut my nails, clean my ears and generally groom me to become a lady. As I grew older and she weaker, I started helping her dye her hair, cut her nails and I was (and still bad with weaving of hair), I would just comb her hair for her and part it in the middle. We had so much laughter and fun.

    And with all those books and novels, my mum used to buy for me, I always found time away from Granny to read and enrich my mind. I was the best Government student in my set at St. Teresa’s College, which was a shame because with so much creativity packed into my head, I should have been the best in Literature. I got by in Literature too, at least I never failed to make my As up to GCE and WAEC. I tried.

    I used to fantasize a lot too and I put all my thoughts into drawing.

    All my mates in school would remember all the cartoons I used to draw. I could remember how some of them brought exercise books for me to create stories for them in graphic details, which they would take home to read.

    What all that did was creating in me a very soft and romantic person.

    As an adult now, I enjoy evening strolls with my partner as much as I enjoy soaking his feet regularly in the foot tub I got especially for him. I make cooking and serving of it such a delight that people just love eating my meals. I wake the household with soft music most days and make sure there is enough fragrance in the atmosphere to kick-start the day. And oh goodness… we can talk and talk and talk!

    With us, there’s no limit to gisting. Even when we’re having our usual misunderstandings, we always make up by talking some more. Hmm… Mama Saro’s style!

    Saturdays are spent either at any of the parks with us playing games or visiting our favourite fura-de-nunu joint or just driving around town to see and admire the best architectural designs in the hope that one day, we would have one of them someday soon.

    We often have fights over eating out because I love oriental meals while he loves local dishes. He almost always wins though because he blackmails me with the question of whether I’m not the full and happy Nigerian that I say I am.

    We must have done all the romantic stuff under the sun that when this year’s Valentines’ Day came, we were at a loss on what to do to make it different. For us, everyday is a celebration of love. We were so undecided about what to do express our love. We often spread some of the love we have with those less fortunate than us. We all have them in neighbourhood and in our religious assemblies.

    So, what we did to celebrate this year was to give even more to those who may not be able to express love the way we do. I fried and baked and cooked, and we took it to whose smiles at receiving such goodies drew us even closer. It was a very big treat from us to them and the smiles from them just gave us the best Valentine’s Day, yet.

    Mama Saro never gave me a Valentine’s Day present, but the love she taught me has lived with me ever since.

    I pray we all learn to show love to those around us. For you all, I’m bringing these fabulous tips for spreading around a little love to those you care about.

    Food is always a good choice when it comes to spreading your Valentine love. How about cooking food and taking to charity homes this weekend.

    Clothes and shoes are always appreciated, whether they are your new clothes/shoes or old (but not torn ones). Make those less fortunate than you look gorgeous too. Your sweetheart is sure to be impressed with the love you both share with others.

    There may be childless people around you. Give them the opportunity to be called daddy and mummy by arranging for children to visit them and help them with small chores. Give them the opportunity to tell stories to these children and encourage them to be hugged and kissed. It is still a part of spreading love and making other people happy.

    Looking for something to do this weekend into style and waoh people?

    Why not arrange for you and your amiable neighbours to talk to those miscreants in your neighbourhood and let them know the dangers of smoking weed or living dangerous lives. Showing a little love and lending a hand of support (without bringing them into your homes until you’re sure about them) can save our youths and the society. Get them jobs if you can and monitor their progress.

    Looking for date ideas? Visit somebody who is more of a recluse and draw the person out. Most people who keep indoors are lonely and some are suicidal. Save a life but don’t visit alone.

    Volunteer with your partner and your neighbours for a cause. It is a great way to spend time together on something that you are passionate about. You can think of visiting a hospital and making someone’s day a little brighter.

    Perform a small act of kindness. You can truly show someone the power of love just through a simple act of kindness. Don’t ignore that man or woman on your street who doesn’t have a car and has to trek to the bus-stop with all those children in tow.

    All in all, celebrate the power of love. Though, this is belated, but love is still very much around, Happy Valentine’s Day!

     

    How to Get Closer with Your Partner or Spouse by Jasmine Starr

    Being intimate with your partner or spouse sometimes needs to be worked out. The intimacy that once was very available during the start of the relationship becomes hard to find after several years of being together. Raising a family, maintaining a home and career moves usually overwhelms you with too much stress that you tend to forget to get closer or intimate even with your partner or spouse.

    This intimacy is very much needed in order to keep the marriage working. You must take time and give extra effort in getting closer with your partner or spouse. The following are some of the tips that you can use in order to maintain the bond between you and your partner or spouse.

    •Take time to listen to your spouse or partner. Be keen about the non-verbal signal that your partner is showing you. If you think that he has become distant from you, entice him to a talk and discuss your issues.

    •Make sure that you keep a cool head and you listen to his ideas and vice versa.

    •Be honest always. Keeping secrets from your spouse will make you worry which will affect your behaviour towards him. It is always advisable

    and healthy in a relationship that both of you do not keep any secret from each other. And open line communication is the key to this and an honest attitude should guide you.

    •Let your spouse feel that he is important. Showing your partner that he is important to you will keep you close to each other because you can only show the importance of a person in your life when you always take time to spend quality time with him. It does not need to be long but a simple greeting as soon as you see him walk in the room will surely make him feel important because you noticed him.

    Never forget to make contact a physical one with your spouse. Even when you are walking to the grocery store hold his hand or when you are watching TV lean you head on his shoulder. These are just simple gestures but it is important to keep the intimacy between the two of you.

  • Softy, Valentine Romeo…. Juliet can be deadly

    Today is Valentine’s Day, Lover’s Day. And, going by tradition, millions of young people and old people who are still young at heart will paint many of Nigeria’s cities and towns real red. Red has returned to the top fashion colour chat lately, with many women and men donning red tops. Often, I have found myself teasing red – topped women to cool off and save all their energy till today!

    Painting the towns red at this time means plenty of water will flow past under the bridge, as an adage says, and men, as usual, will pay dearly for it. For in this part of the world, love is synonymous with sex, and over indulgence in sex as this season promotes drains men of vital energy with damaging effect on their prostate glands, for example. It was timely that no less a medical giant than the respected and brilliant Professor Ashiru, of the Lagos University Teaching Hospital (LUTH), Lagos, said last Saturday in a Channels Television interview that many men were suffering today from prostate gland disorders.

    Although he spoke in a context different from what a Lovers’ Day revelry may impact on the prostate gland, I believe all the roads end up in the same market, as they say. I was informed of Prof. Ashiru’s interview by an avid reader of this column, Mr. Olawale Ajila, of Abuja, who follows every reading of this column with a basketful of questions. He is in a stressful top job which he does not wish to age him prematurely, and, routinely, asks for which food supplements to invest in. I tell him always to care for his brain, eyes, heart, blood vessels, liver and digestive system and, of course, his prostate gland. In respect of the prostate, he invests in such supplements as Calcium, Magnesium, Zinc, Essential fatty acids, Amazon Prostate Support, Vitamin E (d – alpha tocopherols), among others. We have a point of departure with cow’s milk. He easily gave up bread, sugar and fried foods. But he would not agree to replace cow’s milk with coconut milk. He is yet to read last week’s edition of this column which featured publications in respected medical journals which showed that women who drank the most milk, in search of calcium from milk for their bones, suffered the most from osteoporosis or loss of bone matter. But when, according to him, Prof Ashiru listed Magnesium and Zinc deficiencies and cow milk consumption as possible front-line causes of prostate diseases he bade cow milk bye. I did not watch the interview but I hope the interviewer gave the learned professor enough time to comment on the health ravages of cow’s milk. Only last Thursday, I explained in part how the calcium of cow’s milk, for which the medical profession prescribes it for osteoporosis, is too dense, like the protein, for the human body, and how in composition, coconut milk, like almond milk, comes closer to mother’s milk.

     

    Zinc

     

    I will quickly address Zinc since it is a mineral not many people are familiar with. Inside the prostate gland, there is an enzyme known as 5-Alpha Reductase. It behaves well, performing its natural functions in this organ, if there is enough amount of Zinc to keep an eye on it. Many nutritionists believe that the average adult human body contains about three grammes of zinc (3,000 mg) of which about 80 per cent is inside the prostate gland. The remainder is concentrated in such parts of the body as the hair, eyes, thymus gland, liver, bones and semen, for example. In the nail, Zinc deficiency manifests as white spots and brittleness. In the tongue, Zinc deficiency causes loss of taste and loss of the sense of smell in the nose. In tissue, Zinc deficiency is associated with poor wound healing. Zinc lozenges are known to heal sore throat or mouth sores when chewed or gargled with. In some experiments, Zinc supplementation of the diet has led to increases in penile and breast size and weight, increased sperm count and fertility profile. Even children who do not grow satisfactorily do so when they are given Zinc. Some studies suggest, also, that low Zinc levels are not too distant from pregnancy complications, miscarriages and birth defects. Mothers often force children to eat when these young ones do not feel like, perhaps because their appetite is down and their taste and smell acuity low. Giving these children Zinc supplement often reverses this situation, going by some research findings.. The same goes for children who are apathetic or lethargic or exhibit other behaviour problems.

    The eyes account for one of the largest concentrations of Zinc in the body. Here, Zinc is believed to support the activation of Vitamin A, a crucial factor in the prevention of night blindness which may progress to such dangerous eye disorder as glaucoma. Many studies associate Zinc deficiency in the eye to such other disorders as cataracts and optic neuritis (inflammation of the optic nerve) which may dull vision or, intimately, leads to blindness. Physical stress takes its toll on Zinc stores.

    The immune system cannot do without Zinc. Zinc is important for the production of thymolin,a secretion of the thymus gland. It is in this gland that the immune system T cells (named after the Thymus gland) finally mature after the production. In Zinc deficient people, the thymus gland has been found to shrink to about a quarter of its adult size, implying reduced Tcell maturation in this organ that may be likened to a Defence Academy of the immune system. Dr. Walker suggests in his book VIBRANT HEALTH that the thymus gland bounces back to full size and activity in many people within two weeks of their taking zinc supplement. For physician who manages condition, such as cancer and HIV and their patient alike this may be useful information from Dr. Walker. In many people challenged with cancer, low level of Zinc and high-level of Copper have been reported in clinical studies. Zinc and Copper co-exist in a 4:1 ratio. Too much zinc means too little copper. Too much copper means too little Zinc. Copper is useful for body processes, including the production of the natural immune system complex, SUPER OXIDE DISMUTASE, in the manufacture of melanin, the skin pigment, and in blood formation among many others. Copper is present in food crops and enter the body through cookware and copper pipe water plumbing, not to mention copper – complex drugs. Too much of it may cause over-growth of viruses, headaches and lupus erythematosus, an immune disease. I have digressed into Copper somewhat because many women use copper-based inter-uterine device (IUDs) for contraception. These devices are a source of copper ingress into the body which calls for Zinc supplementation of the diet as counselees.

    Many people are Zinc-deficient for many reasons. The crops they consume as food may have been grown on Zinc – deficient soil. They may not have enough stomach acid to digest Zinc in the diet. Or, they may have short intestines, or malabsorption problems, both of which negatively affect nutrient absorption into the bloodstream. Sometimes, the problem may arise from taking Zinc-rich food or supplement with fibre-rich foods in which case the Zinc may be trapped in the webs of the fiber. It may very well happen, also, that Zinc is consumed with a diet rich in Calcium and Magnesium which, in the competition for absorption, may crowd zinc out. In the ELECTROCHEMICAL SERIES, Zinc comes after Potassium, Calcium, Magnesium and Aluminum in that order, and can be displaced by them. Some English doctors discovered this problem by chance. One of them was treating a young woman for a series of condition which be thought warranted the deployment of Zinc against them. But to his surprise, during check up afterwards the serum levels of Zinc hardly rose to the desired levels. So, he changed his tactic. She was no longer to take her zinc supplements with her meals but on empty stomach every night before she went to bed. And amazingly, the serum level of Zinc rose as high as was expected. Publication of this experiment led many doctors to adopt the process. My friends should understand now why they take their Zinc supplements on empty stomach.

    We must return now to Valentine’s Day, Lovers, Day, and the tendency among virile men to paint the town red. The lyrics of the young generation of musicians shows that, at this age and perhaps far into the choleric years, men seem to understand nothing beyond sex. I will always remember one woman, letter with them, who says the brains of men are on the tips of their organs! Last week, Ayoka Willes one of my Facebook friends, wrote on the wall that a woman who wished to keep a man should (1) feed him (2) let him sleep with her and then (3) leave him. I replied that this was where short time palliatives which offer no such guarantees in the long run for serious minded men who desire completely different values in woman they like to keep for life. Women who wish to be toys in the hand of men will forever seek the short cuts, no doubt. But short cuts are no more than short cuts.

    Before we get lost, inside the prostate gland, is 5-Alpha neductase. As I said earlier, It behaves normally in the presence of zinc, its headmaster so to say. Zinc is an alkaline substance plentiful in semen. Sperm thrives in an alkaline environment. Sperm requires this alkalinity to survive in the acidic vagina. The vaginal needs a measure of acidity to protect her against germs. It has been suggested by some gynaecologists that when a woman has sex frequently, the alkaline semen alters the pH of the vagina and leaves her unprotected, a reason advanced for frequent vaginal infections experienced by some women. If has nothing to do with promiscuity by the dictionary or religions. Definition: if a woman sleeps with her husband every day, the pH of her vagina may alter, according to this hyper thesis. For the man who loves himself, every ejaculation means loss of lots of Zinc. From the prostate storage if, for the reasons stated or / and any other, Zinc losses are not replaced, even the prostate gland soon become Zinc deficient. One of the possible consequence of this, apart from low sperm count, sperm or low motility (poor movement ) and misshapen or agglutinated (clumped or gummed)sperm is that, in the vacuum created by in adequate Zinc stored or in the absence of the headmaster, 5 Alpha Aeductase runs riot. What it then does is to convert the male hormone testosterone into dihydrotestosterone. This is a dangerous form of testosterone which makes the prostate cells grow abnormally. Such a growth may lead to Benign Prostrate Hyperplasia (BPH) or to prostate cancer or to any other.

     

    Calcium and magnesium

     

    Like Zinc and Copper, Calcium and Magnesium go together but in a 2.1 ratio. Last week I mentioned the relevance of Calcium to bone density and some types of Calcium, popular because they were cheap, which cause absorption problems. Calcium aids blood clotting, proper functioning of the heart, prevent pregnancy-related hypertension, helps to activate the enzyme required for the digestion of fats and proteins, and support energy production. Nerves transmission, too, is helped by calcium. Thus, dull vision due to sub-optimal optic nerve output may be helped by Calcium. When I get up from my seat, my nerves and muscle are at work, and they are using up Calcium. Even when I sleep on a soft mattress and my nerves must help the muscles adjust the body to the contours of the bed. Calcium is being used all night. Thus, I may arrive at a point in which I am Calcium deficient if I do not regularly replace the used or worn out Calcium molecules. As for reproduction, many people are always surprised that the sperm, seemingly without eyes, know where to find the egg. This process is helped by signalling; just the same way immune cells discover foreign bodies and attack them. The egg signals its location using Calcium and the relevant antenna in the sperm picks them up. Thus, a woman deficient in Calcium may give the sperm a hell of problem, as they say, locating it. And this may delay pregnancy, much desired as it may be for woman anxious by seeking a “fruit of the womb”. Calcium and magnesium are alkaline minerals which help to neutralise excess undesirable acids in the body. The prostate too profits from them. Magnesium is the counter pole of calcium. When Calcium flows in, it tightens the soft muscles in cell. But they relax when Magnesium flushes out Calcium. Magnesium supplement in the diet has been found to aid sound sleep, especially if given a few hours before bed time. Constipation may be due to magnesium deficiency. If intestinal muscles contract and do not relax easily, food cannot move on as it is the contraction and relaxation process which induce penstaltic motion. That’s why milk of magnesia helps to keep the bowels moving. People who suffer from nerve pains, such as neuralgia or fibromyalgia (bone, nerve and muscle pain) profit from magnesium use. Many psychiatric conditions also abate on magnesium supplementation; this suggests that this mineral helps the brain cells to relax. A study of 165 boys showed that the one among them who was depressed, schizophrenic or sleep well had the least blood levels of magnesium; even some autistic children were found to improve on magnesium supplementation. Magnesium, like zinc, can help the prostrate felon, which has been on the rampage in Nigeria for years. If, as was published in this column a few months ago, BENEBIOTIC, an alcoholic extract of some Nigerian medicinal plants, reversed BPH in about three months it is most probably because of its high zinc content and the antibiotic action of the constituent. For I am aware from the Pharmacopeia of western Nigeria, that one of the ingredients is very rich in Zinc. Benabiotic was originally designed for staphylococcus. Magnesium helps out in some types of hypertension and in cases of angina pain caused by spasms of coronary arteries, since it can calm these muscular agitations. There is abundant evidence that high blood pressure, like diabetes, causes spasms in the blood vessels of the retina which may cause vision loss or blindness, and that, in their conditions, magnesium levels are low and higher in magnesium levels help to minimise or reverse the risks. In glaucoma, a serious condition of the eye, magnesium can be a wonderful friend. Calcium flowing into the self muscles of the drainage channel tightens and blocks it. Special pharmaceutical eye drops prevent this adhesion, but at a cost. Magnesium chases calcium out and the eyes feel alright and better.

     

    EFAs and Vitamins E

     

    Vitamin E deficiency has been found to cause the testes to shrink or to atrophy. EFAs are essential fatty acids… especially the Omega-3 oils in many people, the ratio of Omega-3 to Omega-6 and to Omega-9 has altered in favour of Omega-6 largely because Omega 6 is what now dominates the diet. Yet, the prostate, as a fatty organ, requires Omega-3 to keep healthy. Saw Palmetto Bernes made the headlines in the 1980s when it was found to be an answer to BPH. When this herb revealed the secret of its constituents, few people were surprised. They contain lots of Omega-3and zinc. Ditto Pumpkin seeds and Sunflower seeds, both of which grow abundantly in Nigeria.

    In conclusion, may we plead with the Romeos of Valentine’s Day to cool off their heels, to take it easy with the flaming Juliet’s lest they lose much more nutrients than the prostate gland can stand. The prostate loss affects other organs as well, as has been shown. Can this be why young men are sick today?

  • My Valentine my university

    You came to life in 1948 eleven years after I was born, the whole country your bridegroom, and only the brightest and the best would have the singular privilege to see your face. What chance did I have of ever meeting you, this truculent urchin, from Obetiti, Nguru, Mbaise, who had never crossed the Niger and only knew Aba, Calabar, and Owerri, all in Eastern Nigeria, Lagos a far-off dream. You welcomed all chasing after you, as long as knowledge was their dream and learning the only enterprise of their soul. Oh, yes, you welcomed them and sent them off after four years or so, with their various degrees to a world you had craftily created for them, in union with all that is good to know and live by, their hearts agog in a romance of intellectual affinities.

    Triumphantly selective, you were University College, Ibadan; liberal and warm, you spread your arms to all who sought after you and had a lot to offer you with brilliance, acuity and astuteness. You were accommodating, perspicacious in an uncannily sagacious fashion. Majestic Flame of the Forest trees stood tall in guard of honour at Oduduwa Road, the imperial entrance into the depths and caverns of your intricate dwelling places. To the few who had come unscathed from the roasting discernment of your qualifying examinations, you matched their talent with red bougainvilleas of excellence pried from arduous labour. Only the best would deserve you and they would give their eye teeth to knit garments of learning with your golden threads of diligence and brilliant study.

    University College, Ibadan, the moon at dawn lit your brow; and, at sun-ripe day, your words rolled out in the tongues of your groom. Each deserving student received your prize in unsurpassed dignity, Bachelor of Arts, Bachelor of Science; degrees that would excel in any contest anywhere in the world. You were truly Universitas. They were all bachelors, their bloods boiling to be married to you, and one day, return with their doctorates to fully discover you and announce your name to the universe. Yes, the planets sought you; the world sought you; Nigeria would give all his heart for you – so sparkling your soul, intense your purpose, grand your design. Nine years after your birth, 1957 it was, this bumbling intrepid rascal in overblown dusty trousers sweeping the brown clay of Obetiti came to your beehive to taste that bravura honey saved for knights of your kingly libraries to whom learning filled the soul.

    You welcomed me to searching lights at Central Porters’ Lodge and you took me by the hand to Kuti Hall, Wing B, gave me a bed and bedding and blew me a kiss of “Now take care of yourself; call me if you need me. Remember, I do not answer all calls; only those that would lead you to soar to your wildest dreams.”

    Oh, you were magnificent, mellifluous, your voice a subtle sultry invitation to excellence. You gave me endearing and enduring friends of trust and purpose. We were all enamoured of you, running after your elegance and fluid sincerity. We graduated Bachelors of Science and those who sought you still returned to a new life in unbridled pursuit of your priceless endowments. What a world they sought to create: their lives and yours intertwined in a new creation in the African sun – a planet whose epiphany was proclaimed by Africans themselves and east and west would now play a rollicking symphony called University of Ibadan, Kenneth Onwuka Dike the conductor.

    I came to join you later in the seventies that you may take me to places I can only dream of. Yes, you always make me dream. You offer me the world and you give me all the love and joy that this world can ever hope to contain. Over the years you indulged me, gave me your sweetness cooked with fine okra, or ewedu, crayfish, fresh-fish, dry-fish, stockfish, in chewy mouth-watering lumps of arduous work and diligent sporting restlessness. I could exult in my retirement letter in September, 2002, ‘My prayers and good wishes will ever remain with the University of Ibadan.’

    In this new and advancing millennium our million dollar bride, to whom we gave all that thrilled her sumptuous heart, now receives only thousand naira suitors; some even offer insulting hundreds. Things are not what they used to be and you are sad, sitting there, outside Trenchard Hall, right hand on your chin, looking out to a world in sunset, where the moon will soon go to sleep, your heart despoiled by interlopers who do not value the refinement of learning. But do not worry. Yes, I say rejoice: for in postgraduate studies, your bastion of revolving brightness will shine anew. Fresh suitors will wield flywhisks of African culture dripping in the wines of our forefathers, in their virtues, in their nobility, in their assiduousness, in their scientific and social acumen, not yet fully explored, but gradually revealing to all joined to your soul the essence of human love and ingenuity.

    Oh, sweet one, I am here for you; many of us are here for you, and we shall not give up. We shall bear you up and give back some of the gains you showered on us. Maybe it is a dream; if so, have the comfort that you have countless friends from many successive decades and though their hearts and minds may be turned to merely earthly pursuits, they all long for you with astounding strength and vigour. In retirement I come to you, my soul singing praises of joy and peace recounting the love you bestowed on me; the graces I received in everything this earth offers by whatever name they are called. I come to you still, drive along the same Oduduwa Road, the entry to your luminous heart, though the Flame of the Forest trees are all gone. But that does not really matter: we may ask then, what matters: are your suitors still coming for the best you can give them in learning; and are they themselves the brightest and the best? What of the teachers, are they worthy in character and learning? You now lie low in a forest of lawns – what a forest; what a lawn! My heart drops down to the earth to better gain your insight – a new life of a new band of suitors rushing madly around in a world you do not understand. Noble traditions of honour and fortitude have given way to expediency, ‘the reality of the situation’, ‘the Nigerian factor’; how do you feel?

    However it may have been, you have not abandoned me. You take me to the University of Ibadan Senior Staff Club. You offer me and my dear wife, Helen, some Gulders, suya, fresh-fish, goat-meat pepper-soup, and you have kept an army of friends who speak your voice when they say, ‘welcome home.’ One would say, ‘I’m happy I stayed behind in Ibadan so Mark and Helen will always have a home here.’

    You give us friends, old and new, who light our faces with frizzy dazzling joy, with their abiding company, their music, their songs, their dance. And you tell us: ‘I’m all for you, I’m University of Ibadan.’ For ever and for ever you will be my Valentine; in sickness and in health; for richer for poorer; for better, for worse. I shall live with you on the planet of Love.

    • Professor Nwagwu is of Paul University, Awka