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  • The story of a 50-year-old virgin (II)

    The story of a 50-year-old virgin (II)

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I’m so delighted to tell you, I got married last month as a virgin. My husband was really happy and won’t stop thanking me, he was in AWE that at my age and in this century such an amazing woman could still be found! I must say the waiting is really worth it after all! I had always told anyone who wants to date that it’s a no sex relationship, so you have to think deep if it’s something you can do, because at every point I wanted to give a trial talk it was always NO. However, I was so determined and decided to wait for the right person!!!!

    You teachings really went a long way in aiding me, I had cleaved to them since the day I got to see it in the newspapers and when I stumbled on you on Facebook, I couldn’t but follow you and your teachings have been my guide and a light on the path I chose to follow. Also, your love and affection is second to none, thank you for yielding to this divine assignment.

    Much love for you momma!

    Adeola Adetomiwa

    Dear ma,

    I just stumbled on your article and I need your encouragement. I am 36 years old and still a virgin but I am having issues with suitors who come my way as men of these days are of the opinion that they must taste you before marriage. Although I don’t inform them of my virginity because they would not believe me because of my level of exposure (I am a Lawyer with a Masters degree)! What I tell them is that I am celibate but that is not working as they end up leaving me. I am a staunch Catholic and made vows to God to keep myself till my wedding night but I am getting scared that I may never get married if I continue with my strictness to keeping myself for my husband. I still trust God not to disgrace me as all my age mates and juniors are all married and eyes are on me. Please join me in prayers that this year will not pass me by as I hope to meet my own God-fearing Catholic husband who will appreciate me. Well done ma and may God continue to guide and protect you in all your endeavors Amen.

    Miss O.

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Last Sunday, I began discussing the  50-year-old lady who wrote me. You might like to Google search the article and learn from it as God does not wish for us to be miserable in the choices we make especially when it’s in tandem with his commandments. I counseled her as much as possible, while commending her for being committed to God! I continue today!

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    Dear 50-year-old precious and the rarest of gems,

    Like I mentioned last week, you ought to have become a wonderful wonder by now and be enjoying the very best things in life even if you’re not pleased with the type of men you come across! I’d suggest you join a genuine deliverance ministry, resume there while job-hunting if you still want one and making the most of your new vocation, get fired up, get rid of every strange battle and have your spirit ignited to see the wondrous glory ahead of you and how to recover any lost and wasted years! I tell you, you’d be pleasantly surprised at what would happen in the next 6 months! I know what I’m talking about! You practically have the world at your feet and I must congratulate you because God owes you nothing but the very best and you will receive all before the end of this year in Jesus name! You will not only marry a better version of your dream man, God will give you multiple births! I am very sure of this and look forward to reading your testimony! You’re absolutely wonderful!!! May God bless you and showcase you to the world in Jesus name!

    I shall respond to Miss O. next Sunday!

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    FINAL WORD

    Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. Stay chaste!
    Evangelist Temilolu O. Okeowo is the founder and Head girl of The Girls Apostolic Ministry of All Nations, an apostolic ministry for girls in their teens and twenties, and Girls Club of Nigeria, an NGO for Nigerian girls aimed at influencing a positive change. She published her debut-book for girls – THE BEAUTY OF LIFE – as an undergraduate and has other books and publications. She was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2003 and is a Certified Forensics Examiner.

  • A virgin should be treated like a deity, not disrespected!

    A virgin should be treated like a deity, not disrespected!

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I will be 34 this year but still single. This is because I made a decision to abstain from sex until marriage so this has made men run away from me after 1-3 months of dating them when I won’t give them what they want. I am not 100% clean because I have kissed few frogs and it has not exceeded that because I have never been sexually involved with a man. There is one particular guy who has always been off and on for almost three years now,hoping that one day,i will give in to him. He even said that I should not use my abstinence rule to lose the man God destined for me. I told him that if he really values me, he should do the needful,then he will enjoy the package all his life. He said that he needs to taste what he wants to buy and if I get pregnant,he will come for my hand in marriage. This present generation of men want tested, okay and certified women before marriage. Why i am telling you all this is because sometimes i almost want to give up but i remember God’s promise in my life and I brace up.

    Also when I see my friends or younger ones getting married or just being delivered of a baby,i tend to question God or want to reason giving in to their advances. Most times when i reason agreeing to their terms, I always get scared like what if I get pregnant and he refuses to marry,then I will become a single mom left to cater for her child and herself. Ma,please i need your advice and prayers. Thanks

    Read Also: The story of a 50-year-old virgin (II)

    My very precious sister,

    I must commend your stance so far and I know God will never disappoint you because He’s committed to those who are committed to Him! At a time when a lot of 18-year-olds have slept with more men that their mother and grandmother slept with, for you to remain a virgin at 34 is most applaudable! I must also say it’s the height of disrespect for any man to tell a woman to get pregnant first then he’d proceed and ask for her hand in marriage least of all tell a mature virgin that! Such a man can never treat a woman right, he would always lord himself over his wife and make her feel he’s her savior! How disgusting! May our daughters never end up with such men!  We all know that there are more women than men and we’ve heard over time even from the Bible in Isaiah 4:1 that a time would come when 7 women would beg one man to marry them just to bear his name to take away their disgrace and shouldn’t even bother about what they would eat! I make bold to say that could be the fate of women who don’t know their God and what they can get from Him no matter the situation or adverse combination of circumstances they could be dealing with! God is super committed to those who are committed to Him and I tell you there’s one super man out there looking for you- one whom you won’t manage but one who would be a better version of your dream man and make you thank God everyday of your life for keeping yourself till your wedding night, going through all those heartbreaks and ending up with a prince and one of God’s favorite children! I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT!

    You see, you really don’t know how blessed you are NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS! A virgin at 34 is not only a container of virtues and glory over-loaded, you also carry the awesome power of God you may not even be making use of ! Believe me, you’re a wonderful wonder and I pray out of pressure, you wouldn’t fall into the wrong hands! I’d encourage you to take a closer walk with God and by all means go for some deliverance sessions not only to scatter any satanic strongholds that could be tying you down and covering you from being seen by the right person but to make you manifest the wonder in you and open doors you could never imagine would open for you in the next 10 years! YOU’D BE SHOCKED at the outcome of that exercise! Those you’re envying for being married and having children would start envying you! All you just need is the power of God ignited in you- my dear, I promise you the right person would walk into your life before the month of June! This should be the best time of your life my darling- a transition into the best days of your life! I look forward to reading your testimony soonest!

  • Becoming a Secondary Virgin could restore your “Original Glory!”

    DEAR Temi, I commend your contribution towards a morally-upright society particularly last 2 week’s story about Miss O. (Becoming a Secondary Virgin could restore your lost and wasted Years!) Permit me to ask-is the story a fiction? Thanks!

    Eddy

    Thank you all for your kind words. Girls Club is a very serious matter and we deal with true life stories and diverse experiences of numerous girls and ladies who reach out to us.

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    In the last three and a half months, I’ve been discussing Secondary Virginity which is making a commitment not to be sexually active again until after marriage after having engaged in sexual intercourse.(You should please Google Girls Club-Saturday Punch for previous articles).

    How to become a Secondary Virgin (Contd.)

    1. PRAYER

    You’d recall I mentioned being full of the Holy Spirit as the most potent weapon to subdue one’s flesh and overcome temptations of lust! It also helps us to overcome the devil and conquer its wiles. A prayerful person is usually too hot for the devil to handle because the more that person prays; the more she wells up in the fire of God which snuffs life out of evil spirits as well as the spirit of lust! The more one prays, the more one rubs minds with God, carry the presence of God and have one’s future revealed. Now, if you knew the type of virtues/glory/star/shinning you carry and from your communications with God, you discovered that even in your present state of poverty, you have what it takes and could actually buy yourself an aircraft with your God-given wealth before you are age 40, would you even want any man to touch you before your wedding night? No! It would even be most difficult for you to make a wrong choice of spouse and give your treasures to someone your destiny should never have come in contact with! And I tell you, God can still work wonders in your life and restore your original glory even if you’ve been messing around for donkey years!

    The point is you can’t pursue a glory you don’t even know you possess! So, spiritual dullness or unintelligence could be one of the reasons so many girls sleep around! If you knew you carry gold, you’d never fling it away!

    Girls…girls…girls…YOU NEED TO DEVELOP YOURSELF SPIRITUALLY THROUGH PRAYER AND FASTING! Not only when you have issues to deal with but to become supernatural in a highly competitive and occulted world as this and have the very best of life!

    In the first instance, when the stupid, bad devil has a life in captivity, it doesn’t like to release that life unless that very life slugs it out with it and puts up a fight! THIS IS A VERY SERIOUS MATTER! Every sexual intercourse carries a heavy spiritual significance and not only creates a covenant that bond 2 people together, it forms ungodly soul-ties, transfers a lot of evil and virtues from one life to the other. All of these are one of the devil’s ploys to thwart our glorious destinies. You have to pray for the fullness of the spirit of God to be able to suppress the desires of your flesh and enable you stick to your decision to become a secondary virgin. You need to pray out all the evil that may have been transferred into your life and pray for a recovery of your stolen virtues. You also need to pray to disconnect yourself from your sexual partners. Sigh! Girls…girls…girls…pray, prayooo! And be holiness personified so that God can answer you quick, quickly!  Now, check this out-

    “I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one;”

    John 17:23 KJV

    “I” represents Jesus, “thou” represents God. And that we may be made perfect in one! You can be perfect says the one who has the final say over our lives. You can be made whole! With man it could be impossible but with God all things are possible! Beware of wet blankets- those who would try to discourage you on your journey to being a Secondary Virgin. If only you knew what’s ahead of you! Your star must shine! Start praying now!

     

    • To be continued

  • Becoming a secondary virgin could restore your lost and wasted years!

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu, I bless God for how He’s been using you to turn the lives of girls around for good with your admonitions on chastity! I wish I’d known or heard about your type of teachings some 18 years ago, perhaps I wouldn’t be feeling sorry for myself right now. I’ll be 38 in August and single. I was a virgin until 15 years ago when I engaged in a single relationship that left me heartbroken for four good years! Before then, I constantly received visions effortlessly; He gave me a discerning spirit such that if anyone lied while talking to me, I’d know. I enjoyed His presence and leading tremendously such that if I continued that way I can imagine the great glory I would be manifesting by now! I lost something tangible, I lost revelation, I lost the vision, I missed hearing from the Holy Spirit.

    I don’t know how I allowed the devil to manipulate me after preserving my virginity till the age of 23 and getting me to engage in a sinful relationship/sexual immorality.  When I clocked 27, I went back to God promising not to misbehave again and He mercifully restored my spiritual gifts. However, I went back to my vomit two years ago after staying away from premarital sex for 11 years. I was actually fornicating with a co-chorister and so on. Right now, I keep wishing I could just turn back the hand of the clock. I know my life has been polluted. Nothing makes sense to me anymore. My life is stagnant, I keep going in and out of wrong relationships hurt, rejected and abandoned. I’ve also stopped going to church. I’m too depressed. Please advise me before I do something silly to myself.

     

    Miss.O.

    Dear Miss O.

    I empathise with you and wish I could give you all you wish you had at the moment. However, I must mention that it’s amazing that you could restrain yourself from fornicating for 11 good years without achieving something fulfilling from preserving your virtues! From my discussions with you, before you fell back into sin, you were a fire brand church worker in more than one “fire” department! You must have been loaded with enormous power of God and virtues so I can’t help but wonder why life is knocking you out! If you had maintained the second chance God gave you, your success should have been long phenomenal! I don’t want to start analysing what could have gone wrong; God who created you knows the battles your destiny is contending with. All I  know  is His promise in Joel 2:25

    “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.”

    Funny thing is advanced as you feel you are in age, it doesn’t take God anything to give you one of his best sons – a single guy as husband and multiple birth for your first pregnancy and the very best of every other thing to have! It’s really up to Him and that’s why instead of refusing to go to church, re-fire and get refilled with the Holy Spirit! Without telling you, you know that’s the only power that can help you now. And that’s why Acts 1:8 says “But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is upon you…”  Please start afresh and let the power of God in you start projecting your dream life, win souls for God, work for God, get Him 100% on your side, get Him too committed to you not to make you happy, believe me, before you know it, your glory will appear and the rest of your life would be glorious. He knew you’d mess up and He’s still waiting for you. No wonder Haggai 2:8-9 says

    “The silver is Mine and the gold is Mine, says the Lord of hosts, ‘The glory of this latter temple shall be greater than the former,’ says the Lord of hosts. ‘And in this place I will give peace,’ says the Lord of hosts.”

    Wow! What a good God!!! Quite frankly, I congratulate you in advance! Please stop the pity party and pen down how you intend to get back at life and command it to your will. I love you darling and so does God! I can’t wait to hear your testimony!

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    We are still on secondary virginity, which is making a commitment not to be sexually active again until after marriage after having engaged in sexual intercourse.(You may please Google Girls Club-Saturday Punch for previous articles).

    Stop cheating yourself, stop short-changing yourself and stop “chancing” yourself when you can have the very best of life and eternity at your finger tips. Stop sleeping around and become a secondary virgin today!

     

    • To be continued

  • Becoming a secondary virgin can announce you to the world!

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, I have been following your articles since I began reading newspapers. Suffice it to say I’m an avid reader of your column and still a virgin. I started dating since I was 13 and after three weeks I would end the relationship. Recently, I have been failing in school and I would do anything to get back on my feet because even though I play with boys, I suffer the loss. Please advise me. God bless you ma.

    My darling,

    I’m sorry but you got what you asked for. If you’ve been reading my articles as you stated above, you’d recall I always speak against having a boyfriend before 19! I always emphasise how delicate and crucial your teens are and why it’s better for anyone to spend that period laying a solid foundation academically, spiritually, psychologically, emotionally etc. I want to believe your recent failure would jolt you back to your senses! What’s the rush? Why in the world would you allow any boy – a total stranger to your destiny steal your silver and gold? Yes, your grades are your silver and gold and what would very much determine your placement in life intellectually. Who even knows if your intellect and a particular course of study is what God has designed to make you famous in life? So, what happens if you move out of God’s plan so soon because you can’t control your emotions? You had best be careful! If I were you, I’d shut the world away and allow the Holy Spirit permeate my entire being! That’s what you need right now! May God arrest your heart and empower you to bounce back to your desired grades in Jesus mighty name!

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    In the last two months, I’ve been discussing secondary virginity which is making a commitment not to be sexually active again until after marriage after having engaged in sexual intercourse.(You may please Google Girls Club-Saturday Punch for previous articles).

    You see, the challenge the average youth has in this generation is that the societal influence and the world’s depravity got into their spirit and soul before their parents knew it! The need for a sound spirituality, a life of holiness, the fear of God and deep connection with God has been watered down even in places of worship such that a lot of children don’t even know the 10 commandments neither do they care to abide by them. The stupid, bad devil cashes in on emotions of teenagers knowing that those teen years are what would decide anyone’s future then it(the devil) confuses an average teen with romantic relationships/lust and ensures the seed of greatness planted by God isn’t nurtured!

    If I ask someone reading if she followed her childhood dreams to be this and that, the answer would most likely be a NO! Now do you know all we ever wished to be as children was more often than not placed in our hearts by God for us to manifest into great glory? Sadly, first crush comes along too soon, then boyfriend who breaks a heart and it continues with a string of guys destroying the average girl’s emotions and making her lose concentration! To crown it all she begins to sleep with these boyfriends and starts getting loaded with strange spirits then gets pushed out of God’s divine agenda! HOW TRAGIC! I tell you, if a lot of people saw God’s divine agenda for their lives they would commit suicide!

    The good thing is that with God not only are all things possible, He has also promised us a latter glory which would be greater than the former – the reason why any sensible unmarried person should become a secondary virgin.

    I tell you, you can’t imagine what you can still turn out to be and how enjoyable life could be. But as I stated last Saturday, you need the power of the Holy Spirit. By the time you make that commitment to move closer to God and remain pure, you attract the Holy Spirit and you’ll be pleasantly amazed at how you can even become what no one in your generation has ever been such that you could even become a global wonder! It’s all up to you!

    However, as it is written:

    “What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard,

    and what no human mind has conceived” the things God has prepared for those who love him.  These are the things God has revealed to us by his Spirit.

    The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God.  For who knows a person’s thoughts except their own spirit within them? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God.

    1 Cor.2:9-11

     

    • To be continued

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  • How to become a secondary virgin

    DEAR Ma, I’m a 24-year-old virgin who just gained admission into tertiary institution. I have been dating a guy for the past three months. However, since the day I told him I’m still a virgin, he’s been acting strange. Although anytime we are together he tries to hug and kiss me. I began avoiding him in the last three weeks but I can’t seem to get him off my mind. Please advise me ma!

    Miss T.

    My darling Miss T.

    I congratulate you on finally getting admission into the tertiary institution and of course your very uncommon status! A family member was still teasing me yesterday wondering how I can carry virginity till marriage on my head and preach it with so much passion. He finds it really strange. So, I won’t blame your boyfriend especially when he’s not a committed born-again Christian! You’ve done well by staying away from him. However, if I were you, I wouldn’t even spare any guy a thought until my final year. This is because you’ve obviously experienced some delay and thankfully you still have a seal on your virtues (your virginity) that is if they’ve not been attacked spiritually. However, no matter what may have happened spiritually, your chastity will give you the much needed power to soar high, assimilate easily, graduate in flying colors and recover all your lost and wasted years and even get doubly compensated such that you’d be made a reference point of success! I advise you to activate the power of God in you and become a spiritual giant and a wonderful wonder! May everything good come to you with ease in Jesus mighty name!

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    A few weeks to the end of 2018, I began discussing secondary virginity which is making a commitment not to be sexually active again until after marriage after having engaged in sexual intercourse. And I discussed the following as reasons you should become one as soon as possible!

    1. For power to coast through life
    2. To discover your divine identity
    3. For spiritual intelligence
    4. To break evil soul-ties
    5. For speed

    6.To regain lost glory and opportunities

    1. To expunge strange spirits
    2. When your life is behind schedule
    3. When your star/destiny is under attack and your dream life is a mess
    4. When you want to shine

    Sex was designed by God to be enjoyed by two people married to each other but sadly, the enemy of our existence -the devil daily uses it to war against us and deprive us of the goodness of God (believe it or not). So many see sex as an indoor game while most people-both male and female take advantage of it to make money! How sad, how cheap, how fatally-denigrating!!! Humanity in general need some serious mental renovation which I’ll be discussing today.

    Mental renovation

    This is a time-tested and the most potent weapon in curbing the desires of the flesh.

    “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”

    Proverbs 4:23 KJV

    What this means is that the mind is the seat of our intelligence and it determines what happens in our lives. As such, wrong thinking brings wrong action while right thinking brings right action. Unfortunately, the devil fights for the mind of men to control their thoughts and control their lives. It has instant and immediate access to anybody’s mind. It has a complete picture of our thoughts and imagination including our motives, intentions and secret ambitions. It is familiar with every weakness and strength that we have and can plant whatever it wants in our hearts if we allow it. Stupid, bad devil knows an average young lady wants to have designer bags, latest gadgets, luxury and all that can make her enjoy attention and praises so f such a person’s spirit is not in sync with God, she easily succumbs or even seduce men to sleep with her and get rewarded with money or gifts in return. It doesn’t have any other name than PROSTITUTION! The devil knows you’re just launching out into a depraved world and very confused in your teens. Meanwhile, the spirit of the world is in contention with the spirit of God. It knows that if your parents have failed to lay a solid spiritual foundation for you, it can easily saturate your mind and soul and manipulate you into getting into romantic relationships and engage in sex when you should be concentrating on your studies and self-development! I could go on and on! Now, how can one fight this corruption of the mind? Let’s find out next Sunday!

  • You’re better off a virgin till marriage (II)

    DEAR Aunty Temi, I just read your article- “How pre-marital sex enforces evil family patterns.” It’s not for young girls only but for single ladies to read and digest properly. Coming from a polygamous home where both parents aren’t properly married, I see the ugly trend trying to rear its head my way. I made a decision to stay off relationship with married/divorced men years ago and that has helped me to forestall my mother’s mistake reoccurring in my life. Although, I’m not a virgin, neither am I married, I’ve kept my body intact for two years and still counting, thanks to the impact of the word of God and the leading of the Holy Spirit. There is truly honour in chastity. God bless you ma.

    Anna, 34

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I’m a 21-year-old virgin determined to remain so till my wedding night, however, my girlfriends keep telling me having sex will make me look fresh and younger. I’m really confused. Please advise me ma!

    Anonymous, Akwa-Ibom

    My darling Anna,

    I thank God for your life because it only takes a lady who loves God with all her heart and genuinely desires a salvation of her soul to make such a decision at your age. Not even at a time when parents and family are breathing down the necks of 25-year-olds to hurry up, get into the family way and settle down with a man who has got some cash whether he’s the right person or not. These married men will still come to you in droves and mock you for even being too old for them to “enjoy” but this is the word of the Lord to you today, “And kings shall be thy nursing fathers, and their queens thy nursing mothers: they shall bow down to thee with their face toward the earth, and lick up the dust of thy feet; and thou shalt know that I am the LORD: for they shall not be ashamed that wait for me.” Isaiah 49:23

    If I were you, I’ll not only give God some holy disturbance, I’ll further consecrate my life and become super useful for Him. My sweet, by the time He’s done with you, your life will shine like the sun out of the azure blue sky and the best man specifically configured for your life will locate you!

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Believe me; the sense of reasoning of an average Nigerian girl is contemptibly poor! The reason men think any woman who wears make-up is looking for “customers.”  The reason the female folk will forever be relegated to the background and only given the responsibility of sewing the latest styles with the free ankara given to them by political parties to jiggle their waists during campaign. The reason every latest musical video on television debases womanhood. The reason lecturers and employers would brazenly harass their female students and employees and expect them to succumb to their pressure because others even more distinguished have danced to their tune! What am I driving at? Why should having pre-marital sex, fornicating to look fresh and young be any lady’s priority at 21? Yes, you are an adult in a world where you are free to make choices you deem best for your life. However, there’s a reason you’re still a virgin at 21 and I must salute you especially if you passed through the four walls of a university. However, what baffles me is the reason why you’re considering getting deflowered before marriage. Does God exist in your life at all? Have you considered His thoughts about fornication?  If you can be so consumed by looking young and fresh to an extent that’s putting your virginity, treasure, pride in jeopardy then your no.1 priority in life is to look good. Look good for your family and friends? No! It is to look good and attractive to men! No be so??? At what age? What have you done with your life or body that you think you need sex to look young and fresh at 21? This is tragic! Is that what would determine your success in life or your intellectual pursuits at the moment and your level of spirituality? Sex indeed makes committed couples look younger because it relieves stress amongst other things and not casual sex and affairs which brings about stress and anxiety. However, I still wonder why that should be your priority! I imagine you day-dreaming on instagram all day and fantasising you’ll be so popular and famous like one fresh-skinned celebrity slay-queen or the other someday! Lord have mercy! May you discover yourself before it’s too late! May God set His face against Leah’s captors, consume them with His fire and set her free in Jesus mighty name! Amen!

  • You’re better off a virgin till marriage!

    DEAR Aunty Temi, I’m 19 years old and just left secondary school last year. I’ve never had a boyfriend and I’m still a virgin. However, there’s been pressure on me by my friends to date a particular guy. I want to keep my virginity till marriage but my friends always make jest of me telling me I’m missing out and would benefit tremendously if I start engaging in sex. I’m confused ma.

    *Hannah

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    I’m happy to be with you again this Sunday, however, I must confess my disappointment a lot of times much as I love you all and would always want to attend to your questions. I find it really strange that at a time when we have more churches, church meetings on a daily basis and more access to God, a lot of you would allow your friends’ opinion on matters concerning your destiny overshadow the path God wants you to follow as written in the Holy Bible-our life’s manual. A lot of you go to church; you have clergy role-models you almost idolise because of God in them I believe, you spend time in church services, some of you are even members of the church work force. So, why would you even spare what God is against a thought? If you have been following my articles, you must be acquainted with the consequences of pre-marital sex ranging from sexually transmitted diseases to unwanted pregnancy, abortion, heart-breaks leading to loss of self-esteem, depression etc. And its dire spiritual repercussion which include transference of spirits of everyone your partners have had sex with and everyone they (other strange partners you won’t ever know) have had sex with, a covenant and soul-tie with everyone you sleep with, transference of one’s glory/virtues/shining, transference of evil spirits, ill-luck, curses, opening up your life to demonic invasion etc. I could go on and on!

    Believe me, anyone who makes jest of you because you are not committing a sin and tearing your destiny apart before it blossoms is the devil re-incarnate and you must keep away from such girls immediately! DO YOU KNOW THE TYPE OF DESTINY YOU CARRY? DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR SHINNING IN LIFE ENTAILS? DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT WOULD TAKE YOU TO MANIFEST GOD’S SPECIFIC AND WONDERFUL PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE? A lot of girls are already finished before they are 18. Before 20, too many have slept with more men than their mother, grandmother and great grandmother slept with! If biblical Esther had a boyfriend and was sleeping with him to have some cash because she was an orphan and a slave, would she have been chosen by God to become queen? If biblical Joseph had given in to Mrs. Portiphar’s advances which an average man in his shoes would have done would he have become Prime minister at a young age and more importantly fulfilled God’s plan for his life to tower above his household which was the reason he was sold into slavery?

    The most painful thing about the average Nigerian girl/young lady today is the lack of clear-cut plans to pursue a fulfilling life- they just move with the tides, surprisingly mindlessly too! I fear so much for the future of a good number of you who write me with very bad English about boyfriend issues. I usually wonder how you can pass an entrance examination into the university. A lot of you are so engrossed in your boyfriend and simply forget you have a life and a beautiful destiny to pursue. You are practically lost and satanically-diverted when you should be laying a solid foundation for a most colourful future that could take you where your entire family/generation would never have access to! To worsen matters, most of you are spiritually-dull; unfortunately failing to use the power of God you have access to at a time when you have so much energy to command for yourself the very best of life. I’m talking about the best grades after studying hard, the best job after working hard for it, unusual achievements using your talents, the best man to spend the rest of your life with-your divinely-ordained husband who will make you wish to live forever, magnetising wealth with your entrepreneurial skills, having access to all you are naturally entitled etc. without the devil diverting them.  To think we are in a satanically-patriarchal society which appears to be getting worse and whose regard for the female folk is dwindling minute after minute. How do you want to survive when you throw away your God-given potentials, special gifts and spiritual power to live a good life? Hmm…girls…girls…girl…

    • To be continued.

  • Can I be a Secondary Virgin (II)

    THANK you so much aunty Temi. May the Lord bless this ministry. May your efforts produce virtuous future mothers who will nurture our Nation to greatness in Jesus name.

    Mrs. AdenikeDurojaiye

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    I’m glad to be with you again today and believe with all my heart that you are on your way to becoming a secondary virgin and recovering your lost virtues. I know a lot of change is on-going in your lives and I can’t wait to hear your beautiful success stories.

    You would recall I described a secondary virgin as a person who, after having engaged in sexual intercourse, makes a commitment not to be sexually active again until marriage. And the first tip I gave on how to become one is Mental Renovation which is a spiritual renewal of the mind.

    1. PRAYER

    Every sexual intercourse carries a heavy spiritual significance and not only creates a covenant that bond two people together, it forms ungodly soul-ties, transfers a lot of evil and virtues from one life to the other. All of these are one of the devil’s ploys to thwart our glorious destinies. You have to pray for the fullness of the spirit of God to be able to suppress the desires of your flesh and enable you stick to your decision to become a secondary virgin. You need to pray out all the evil that may have been transferred into your life and a recovery of your stolen virtues. You also need to pray to disconnect yourself from your sexual partners. Sigh! Girls…girls…girls…pray, pray ooo! And be holiness personified so that God can answer you quick, quickly! (Please visit my blog for prayers). Now, check this out-

    “I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one;”

    John 17:23 KJV

    “I” represents Jesus, “thou” represents God. And that we may be made perfect in one! You can be perfect says the one who has the final say over our lives. Beware of wet blankets. Your star must shine! Start praying!

    1. Be a chastity crusader

    You’d recall I earlier mentioned ungodly sex is one of the devil’s ways of stripping us of our virtues and stars. A lot of girls never knew what they were headed for and with no proper explanation of the facts of life by those who should look after them (who perhaps are not even aware of the dangers of ungodly sex), innocently danced to the rhythm of their bodies and lost a lot of goodies. Now, check this out-

     “And they that be wise shall shine as the brightness of the firmament; and they that turn many to righteousness as the stars forever and ever.” Daniel 12:3 KJV

    In case you don’t understand that, Good News Bible says “The wise leaders will shine with all the brightness of the sky. And those who have taught many people to do what is right will shine like the stars forever.” Whoa!  What this means is that when you decide to abstain from being sexually active i.e. all forms of satisfying yourself sexually including masturbating and you want to recover with speed whatever virtues you have lost, you could just preach to every girl around you on why it is so important to remain chaste and be sold out to God. What a good God! Do you know the more you evangelise to others, the more the spirit of God inhabits you and the more you acquire the much needed power to subdue your flesh and command the good things of life to come your way? Your prayers will also carry fire and power. I beg you, if you know you have a star that has been suppressed or your life is downhill instead of uphill, please start campaigning for God and see how the enemies of your destiny will end up your footstool. I see someone’s original destiny exploding and shaking the world within a few months.

    To crown it all, why don’t you strike a deal with God? Ask Him for your greatest heart desire or something so big, you don’t even believe you can get from Him in return for your chastity and commitment towards Him. This deal could change the lot of your entire family; make you greater than the greatest in your family. You will be free from all forms of sexual harassment because God will take sides with you and deal with any man who harasses you, you can never lack, you will have good grades, a fantastic job etc. The best things in life will fall on your laps with ease and of course you could end up marrying the best man in the world, specially-designed by God for your life. I assure you in the name of the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob! I wish you a happy new life! God bless you all.

  • Can I be a Secondary Virgin

    DEAR Temilolu, I just read your article of Sunday, April 3 on virginity and I agree with you totally on your piece. I’m proud to congratulate my daughter for making me proud when her husband “met her.”

    A proud parent

    A secondary virgin is a person who, after having engaged in sexual intercourse makes a commitment not to be sexually active again until marriage. This comes with a lot of determination, discipline and training of your soul, eyes, ears, body, your entirely life. And it all starts from the heart. You have to be mindful of what you fantasise about, what you watch, what you read, what you listen to, what you wear and so many other things that could tempt you. You may have to cut off some friends. It may not come easy because we are surrounded by so much rot in individuals and in the social media but hey, there is a powerful force which can take us far above everything that could get in our way. Whoa! I can’t wait to share it.

    Sex was designed by God to be enjoyed by two people married to each other but sadly, the enemy of our existence – the devil daily uses it to war against humanity and deprive us of the goodness of God (believe it or not). Girls, ladies and women as well as the male folk all over the world need some serious mental renovation which I’ll be discussing today.

    Mental Renovation

    This is a time-tested and the most potent weapon in curbing the desires of the flesh.

    “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23

    What this means is that the mind is the seat of our intelligence and it determines what happens in our lives. As such, wrong thinking brings wrong action while right thinking brings right action. Unfortunately, the devil fights for the mind of men to control their thoughts and control their lives. He has instant and immediate access to anybody’s mind. He has a complete picture of our thoughts and imagination including our motives, intentions and secret ambitions. He is familiar with every weakness and strength that we have and can plant whatever he wants in our hearts if we allow him. Now, how can one fight this corruption of the mind? You’d recall I mentioned a super force that can help us out in last week’s article. Now, check this out…

    “Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the Lord unto Zerubbabel(Morounke, Chidinma, Fatima), saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the Lord God of hosts.” Zech.4:6

    What a good God! He has all the answers to every challenge He knows we have to deal with. He expects us to live a victorious life by being filled with His spirit which is the spirit of holiness-doing things God’s way, resisting the devil and fleeing from all appearances of evil. And we are even told that as many as are led by the Spirit of God are the sons of God. Now, if you are a son (daughter) of God, would you feel comfortable sitting with girls who would only talk about sex? Would there be unholy thoughts in your mind? Would you watch pornography? Would you masturbate? Would you wear seductive clothes? Would you succumb to the pressure of guys to engage in sex? NO! NO! NO! NO! NO!

    Sisters…Sisters…Sisters…how many times did I call you? Hmm…you are missing a lot! You were created for signs and wonders and you have to shine like the star that you are this year. Surrender your lives completely to God today. Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour today and let him control your life and lead you to your original glory!

    You’d recall I earlier defined virginity as a state of being untouched, unexplored or unspoiled but I never mentioned the hymen which is a membrane which partially closes the opening of the vagina and whose presence is traditionally taken to be a mark of virginity. The hymen could be torn as a result of sexual intercourse, sports, gynecological reasons and so on. Now, do we call a girl whose hymen is intact but who performs all other acts of ungodly sex a virgin? And on the other hand, there are girls whose hymens have been broken by other means but any form of sexual activity and yet they’ve never kissed a guy.  I also defined a secondary virgin as a person who, after having engaged in sexual intercourse makes a commitment not to be sexually active again until marriage. I underlined the above term because it entails all forms of satisfying your body sexually and it all starts from the heart. This is why the first tip I gave on becoming a secondary virgin is MENTAL RENOVATION! There’s much more coming your way on this topic. However, I advise you stay away from people who would dampen your morale on the way to a brand new you. A lot of people are going to tell you a lot of crap such as once you are deflowered, you are deflowered and there’s nothing like secondary virginity. They are sent by the devil to encourage you to stay in sin and never get your original to manifest. Stay away from fornication, masturbation and the like till you get married and come and see the wonderful wonder God will make out of your life. You will radiate God’s glory and soar in all things like the eagle that you are. You will then become too big and too great for those discouraging you from being a secondary virgin to reach! You will say I said so. God bless you my sweeties!