Tag: Woman

  • ‘My woman isn’t good for me’

    A middle-age man, Egberamen Iyobor, has taken his wife, Abieyuwa, before an Agege Customary Court in Lagos, for being troublesome and abusive.

    The petitioner, who lives at Pa Alao Street in Fagba, a Lagos suburb, said his wife started acting up two weeks after she moved into his house.

    “I met her in 2008 but I never promised her marriage because I was jobless then. Since she kept in touch for five years, I decided to give her a chance,” he said.

    Iyobor said he couldn’t wish for another woman when she visited because she cleaned the house and cooked for him.

    He said: “I also gave her some money to get kitchen utensils which she did but everything ended within a week. She complained N1, 000 was too small to prepare a pot of soup. Each time I returned from work, she sat outside gisting with neighbours pretending not to see me which made me dish my food myself after the day’s stress. There was a day she poured urine on me when I was about to leave for work. Her attitude disgusts me.”

    The father of one said it was from that moment he realised she was not good for him.

    “As I intended to end the relationship, she said she was pregnant. I told her I wasn’t ready to marry her and gave her N10, 000 to abort the pregnancy but she didn’t. Our son is now two years old,” he said.

    Iyobor added: “The last time I slept with her was six months ago and my wife recently told me she is expecting another child for me. As I speak, I am just aware she is expecting another baby. In fact, am not ready to marry her.”

    The court’s President, Pa Adekunle Williams, asked the petitioner: “Why will you say you are just knowing your wife is seven-months pregnant and you live together?

    Egberamen: “She once told me she had a boyfriend and that is the reason she stopped disturbing me for sex. I just know she is pregnant and we live together.”

    In her defence, Mrs Egberamen claimed all her husband said was not true saying they left home together and rarely quarreled.

    “I didn’t want to collect the summons because we have no trouble in our home. He told me his parents were late but we did introduction. He pleaded with me to live with my father when I had our first child because he didn’t have enough money to cater for our needs. “

    She said: “How could he say he is not aware of this pregnancy and we live under the same roof. He keeps saying I raped him and doesn’t have feelings for me. His attitude changed towards me because he has another woman.” she said.

    Mrs Egberamen said she wanted settlement not dissolution.

    Williams fixed a mediation session and ordered both parties to bring two relations each. He adjourned the matter till May 18.

  • Woman, 80, 20 others charged with stealing, arms possession

    An octogenarian, Basiratu Balogun, was yesterday arraigned before an Igbosere Magistrate’s Court in Lagos for allegedly stealing N7,000 and frightening her neighbours with a single barrel gun.

    Balogun, who could not walk unaided, was docked with 21 others before Magistrate O.O Fowowe-Erufiase on seven counts of conspiracy, stealing, illegal possession of firearms and breach of public peace under Sections 51, 52, 53, 285, 328 (D) and 409 of the Criminal Laws of Lagos, 2011, and Section 398 (3) of the Firearms Act.

    Others are Wasiu Owotutu; Balogun Surajudeen; Bashiru Ayotayo; Giwa Ganiyu; Ajani Wasiu; Badamus Adeola; Habib Olojo; Abdulrasaq Olatunji; Jejelaiye Agunrege; Gbenga Adesanya; Kayode Azeez; Babatunde Oyebanji; Segun Taiwo; Rasheed Okulaja; Jimoh Ishakwu; Tajudeen Adekoya; Hassan Latifu; Muyideen Agunrege; Adeleke Odole; Mosuru Odumade and Suraju Olukayode.

    They are accused of trespass and taking possession of the complainants’ land.

    The defendants, according to prosecuting Police Corporal Innocent Odugbo committed the offence on April 26, at Igando Orudu, Abule Foli Village of Ibeju Lekki, Lagos.

    He told the court that the defendants unlawfully displayed the single barrel gun and cutlasses which they used to terrorise the Agbaje and Elesho families.

    Odugbo said the defendants also stole N7, 000 from Waidi Agbaje.

    The defendants pleaded not guilty and were granted N100, 000 bail with a surety each in the like sum.

    Magistrate Fowowe-Erufiase said the sureties must be gainfully employed; depose to an affidavit of means and have their addresses verified.

    She adjourned the matter till June 10.

  • Woman docked for ‘stabbing’ ex-boyfriend

    A 20-year-old woman, Abiola Olayinka, who allegedly stabbed her ex-boyfriend, Olanrewaju, with a broken bottle, was yesterday brought before an Apapa Magistrate’s Court in Lagos.

    Olayinka, a resident of Ijora Badia in Lagos, is facing a two-count charge of conspiracy and unlawful assault.

    Prosecuting police officer Friday Inedu told the court that the accused committed the offences on March 17 at 23, Asoju Street, Ijora-Badia.

    Inedu said the accused conspired with others at large to beat Olanrewaju and also stab him with a broken bottle.

    The complainant, he said, described the accused as his ex-girlfriend.

    He said Olayinka and others stabbed him with broken bottles on the body, accusing him of cheating.

    Inedu said the offence contravened Section 243 of the Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2011.

    The accused pleaded not guilty.

    Senior Magistrate Adeyemi Amos granted the accused N50, 000 bail with one surety in the like sum.

    He adjourned the case till April 23 for further hearing.

     

  • Thunderbolt kills woman in Ondo

    Irun-akoko,  a sleepy town in Ondo State was in shock, following the death of a 35- year-old woman, simply identified as Bisi Ibidapo.

    She was reportedly killed by thunderbolt.

    Eyewitnesses said she was on her farm with an unidentified woman, when the thunderbolt struck. The victim was burnt beyond recognition; her companion was, however, unhurt.

    The development was said to have thrown the community into mourning, as her body could not be buried without recourse to Sango, the god of thunder.

    The regent of Irun-Akoko, Princess Bola Adeusi, could not be reached for comments.

  • Thunderbolt kills woman in Ondo

    Tragedy struck Tuesday at Irun-Akoko in Ondo State following the death of a 35 year-old woman, simply called Bisi Ibidapo who was reportedly killed by a thunderbolt in Ojeka farm site.

    Eye witness said she was burnt beyond recognition; eventhough another lady with her during the incident was unhurt.

    It was learnt the rain which did not exceed 30 minutes snuffed life out of the deceased.

  • Man arrested for shaving woman’s pubic hair

    The Edo police command has arrested a ‎35-year-old man for allegedly shaving the pubic hair of a woman who fell asleep in his room in Benin City.

    Also arrested by the command is a man who allegedly defiled his 13-year-old daughter in Ologbo area near Benin.

    The Edo State Police Commissioner, Mr. Samuel Adegbuyi paraded the two suspects along with 25 others at the ‎state police command headquarters, Benin on Friday.

    According to the Adegbuyi, the suspect, Adamu Ibrahim lured the victim, (name withheld) “into his room, shave her arm pit hair and her pubic hair without her consent.”

    The suspect, a resident of Aduwawa community in Benin who hails from Funtua local government area of Katsina state, confessed to shaving his woman’s pubic hair while sleeping, but said that the woman is his girlfriend.

    “I shaved the pubic hair of the woman because I wanted to sleep with her. She is my girlfriend”. He stated.

    He however denied that he did it for ritual purpose, adding that he threw away the hair afterwards.

    The suspect further stated that when the woman woke up and discovered that he had shaved off her pubic hair, she demanded to see the hair.

    He maintained that since he could not produce it, she raised alarm and the people around the place called the police ‎who arrested him immediately.

    The Police boss also stated that one Omonuyodo forcefully had canal knowledge of his 13-year-old daughter and the Family Unit of the police command is already investigating the defilement.

    Also paraded was 18-year-old Emmanuel alleged to have licked the private part of a four-old child while her mother was away at Etete area of Benin.

    24-year-old Okpu and 25-year-old Osagie in different locations and time, separately defiled five-year-old girls at Igueben town and Benin.

    The police commissioner said investigation was on-going into the cases and they would be charged to court.

     

  • It takes maturity to live with a Woman –B-CODE

    It takes maturity to live with a Woman –B-CODE

    Godwin Chinedu Nzekwe, known with the stage name B-Code, recently released his second single ‘Lemme know’ directed by Toyin Lawani after his first single, titled ‘Rollercoaster’, was directed by Patrick Elis under paparazzi records. B-Code, a petroleum engineering graduate, who also plays the konga drum, started music professionally in 2008. In this interview with JOE AGBRO JR., he talks about his passion for music, inspiration and more.

    The music industry is very competitive at the moment. What is unique about your music?

    I am not going to say that I am the strongest vocalist but what counts is my versatility. You can’t really predict what I would do next. I may do afro pop today and tomorrow I could do a reggae song and next you would hear another song done in R n B. I can switch style and my versatility is my very strong asset.

    How did it all begin for you in music?

    I am not one of those who would say it started when they were five and all that. My mother was a lead singer in a dance troupe and they even had some records. I grew up in a family of nine made up of seven boys. We started by going to events to perform and gradually it got bigger and better. In year 2006, the love for it grew and I decided to take it to a professional level.

    My friends and I started writing songs and in 2008, we did it with paparazzi records. My elder brother, Samuel, actually opened the record label because of me. He is based in Austria and when he came home, he heard a couple of my songs and he was impressed. When he came back, he decided to open the label and that same year I got admission.

    How do you get motivation for your songs?

    I have dropped some singles, dropped some videos and done a couple of things way back in school, that is the Federal University of Technology, Owerri, where I studied Petroleum Engineering. I have performed in different places and I have been involved in a number of competitions. In year 2002, I won the best act in school. I like my career in Petroleum Engineering but it would be on hold for a couple of years.

    Everything about life inspires me; the good times and the hard times, as well as the times that you feel confused. Life is about the ups and downs. You get the downs to make you stronger and it also makes you not to forget how you got up there. When you have the good times, you appreciate it with good music and when you are confused you write confused songs. So when people who have gone through that stage get to hear such they appreciate the persecutions and the things that they have passed through more.

    Talking about confusion, Bobby Brown and his family are passing through this phase. What do you think about what his daughter, Bobby Kristiana Brown, is going through at the moment?

    It is really sad and unfortunate. Her mother died about three years ago and now the girl is in a coma and she is being abused. I don’t know whether I should say that he is not being watchful or careful. But sometimes, you are so watchful and the same thing still happens. Sometimes, I think it is part of life and you really don’t know if it is your mistake or someone else’s mistake.

     A number of local and international celebrities take drugs for motivation. What do you think about this?

    For me, I have been inspired naturally. I do not smoke but if I tell you that I do not drink, then I would be lying. I hang out with friends and drink occasionally. I know my limits and I do not take drugs at all. My advice to fellow upcoming artistes is that they should not be under pressure; they should not do drugs to get inspiration. Inspiration should be natural; all these things are just temporary. Once you get addicted, without it, you are hopeless. Womanising is another problem, especially for men, but the truth is that whether you are an act or not, women would always be there. They have been there from the inception, they are drawn to celebration. I love them and respect them like my mother and sisters.

    I know where to draw the line of friendship and relationships because sometimes you might be friendly and they may get the wrong impression. So if you change the situation at this point, they would feel heartbroken and very emotional. I relate with my female fans in a friendly way.

    Who would you describe as your role model in the industry?

    I would say that 90 per cent of the artists coming up in Nigeria would tell you that Tuface Indibia is good. I respect him to the core. He is an act you just feel so proud of; he is an act that you just wish to be like. MI is an extraordinary rapper, I respect him a lot. There are so many young talents that I admire, like Wizkid. There are so many of them that make the industry fun and they inspire me a whole lot. They make you want to do much more. On the International scene, I admire Akon, R.Kelly and recently I admire Chris Brown. He has brought something fresh to R and B.

     Why did you study Petroleum Engineering and now you are in music?

    The truth for me is that music is life. I have been in music before I went to school. The course, Petroleum Engineering, is very challenging. It is a course that I admire a lot. I chose it because music for me is natural and I wanted to study something new. Instead of restricting myself to music, I said why don’t I divert and do something fresh. Expand the knowledge and not just be in the arts to study music. I wanted to be a professional in two fields and it wasn’t easy convincing my people initially. Then going back to music, my people were like ‘are you sure this is what you really want to do?’ Music in me is very exciting. Even if I decide that I want to do something else in future, I still see myself writing songs for people. My albums are all in the works and it should be out early next year.

    After explaining all this to my family, they also saw the passion and the zeal. They said that as long as I assure them that I would be successful, they would support me. Of course, I know that I can’t put in all this and not aim for the top. I believe that with hard work, it would be a success story. In going back to music, my family was like ‘are you sure this is what you really want to do?’ Even if I decide that I want to do something else in future, I still see myself writing songs for people.

    What does style mean to you?

    For me, being stylish is being comfortable. Today, I may put on my jeans and tee shirt with a simple hat and tomorrow you could see me in a shirt and straight trousers. Being stylish is looking clean, smart and comfortable. Looking good for me is not just about wearing something expensive, it has to do with how you put it all together to look unique.

    What are some of the challenges?

    The truth is that the biggest challenge is working with the right set of production crew. As an artist, I feel that to get a great song, the producer and people you work with should feel and understand the emotion behind the song to get a great production. Everyone has a favourite singer, favourite rapper and so you must give them the reason why they must like you and their favourite. So far, it has been good. I have a wonderful management.

     Let’s talk about your mentors. Who are those inspiring you?

    First, I would say my brother, Samuel, has been great while my management team has been wonderful. They believed in me from day one. My parents are late; I lost my dad in year 2002 and my mum in 2007. She was diabetic. My brother was a footballer but now he is retired. He played for an underground team in Austria before going into business. Dad was a civil servant, mum was also a civil servant and she did a couple of business by the side.

    Are we talking about marriage now?

    No! Falling in love is not a problem. Marriage, however, needs a whole lot of dedication and maturity. I didn’t say women are difficult but they can be difficult sometimes. It takes a whole lot of maturity to live with a woman for the rest of your life.

    Where do you hope to be in the next five years?

    I would like to consolidate on the gains. In addition, if I want to move to any other area it would be clothing. I love clothes and I know how to do some sketches. I also have some guys that I want to work with on this.

  • Style, inner expression of a woman’s personality—YEMISI SUSWAM

    Style, inner expression of a woman’s personality—YEMISI SUSWAM

    In the current political dispensation, Yemisi Suswam, architect and First Lady of Benue State, has etched her name on people’s consciousness on account of her charitable works and distinct style. She speaks on these and more in this interview with REMI ADELOWO

    How do you feel on the award conferred on you by the Sun Newspapers?

    Of course I feel very grateful to God Almighty and the organisers of the award. I also feel very humbled. I’ve watched a few of the past awards with admiration with no expectation that I would one day be honoured by the organisation. And the good thing about it all is that the award is not price tagged. I just saw my name like every other winner and that is quite humbling and heartwarming. Of course, my humble contributions to ensuring that my husband’s administration is endeared to the people of Benue State have not gone unnoticed and I give God all the glory.

    You have won many awards in the past, so which one would you consider as the most remarkable?

    The truth is that I’m always very skeptical when it comes to people or organisations conferring me with awards. The greatest award one can have in life is serving God and humanity. If I could recall, the first award I got was shortly after I got married; that was around 1996 before my husband became the governor. I also got an award from the National Council for Women Society (NCWS). Then I also cherish the award conferred on me by my professional body and all these did not come with any monetary condition. Of course, that is not to say that the awards I’ve received as a governor’s wife are not appreciated. These awards too are very important. In 2008, the European Market Women Union based in Belgium conferred an award on me alongside the former National Chairman of PDP, Alhaji Bamanga Tukur, in France. Then there is also the African Leadership Award which was organised by the European Research Marketing Company, African Achievers Award which held in Kenya. Other awardees include a former Deputy Speaker of the House of Representatives and former Minister of Petroleum Resources, the late Alhaji Rilwan Lukman of blessed memory.  No doubt, I appreciate all of these awards.

    Not a few Nigerians have described you as, unarguably, Nigeria’s most stylish first lady. Is that something you consciously set out to achieve?

    I feel shy and humbled if people say that about me, but, honestly, it’s not something that is deliberate. I don’t even think about it; I just do things as directed by God. I believe that I’m a vessel that God uses for certain purposes and that is all that matters to me. What has also helped me is that because my husband is a governor, a lot is expected of him and the time he spends with me is quite minimal…

    (Cuts in) I’m sure that is a huge sacrifice for you

    Of course it’s a big sacrifice, because as a married woman, you expect your husband to stand by you when the situation demands it. But I can understand, because he must attend to public calling. So, what I do is to spend my time on charitable works which I find very rewarding.

    Still talking about style; is it a virtue that is innate or something you imbibed along the line?

    My belief is that style is an inner expression of a woman’s personality. My mum is quite a stylish person and she is now 86. We learnt a lot from her. If you also meet my siblings, you see that in them. But above all, looking stylish is all about the glory of God.

    Your NGO has done a lot in the areas of empowering women and tackling the scourge of HIV and AIDS in Benue State. So, what has been your most significant achievement as Benue’s First Lady in the last eight years?

    In terms of our intervention in HIV and AIDS prevention in Benue State, I’m very proud of what we’ve been able to achieve. Some years ago, many people in the state were dying in huge numbers, but the situation is different today, because of the awareness and sensitisation we have done in the 23 local governments in Benue State. Now, people are equipped with adequate knowledge on how to know their status and live a positive and productive life. This is quite heartwarming for me. The first baby that we had in one of our HIV clinics, who tested negative, is the biggest excitement for me. That child is about four years now and still tests negative. The fact that we are getting rid of HIV among the next generation, for me, is something to cheer about. Before our intervention and in collaboration with Action Committee on AIDS and other agencies, Benue State, which recorded 12.8 percent in 2010, has dropped dramatically to 5.7 percent in prevalence scale. So, instead of being first on the prevalence scale, Benue State now ranks number nine. I’m so excited about this, because that simply shows that all our humble efforts have not been in vain.

    Your tenure as Benue first lady would be winding down come May 28, what has been the most impactful lesson you’ve learnt in the last eight years?

    The popular adage that says all that glitters is not gold is very true at least from my personal experience. People erroneously believe life is all rosy for elected public officials and leaders…

    (Cuts in) but is it not all rosy?

    I tell it’s not rosy at all. There are a lot of sacrifices to make; there are a lot of risks to take on behalf of the people you lead. Before you get into public office, you dream of doing so many things, but when you get there, you are confronted with severe limitations that would constrain you from making things happen. As a leader, there are some circumstances that are just beyond your powers to change or influence. And that is why we have to educate our people on making unnecessary demands, because the truth is some of their requests are just ridiculous that you wonder whether they think you are God. The expectations are just so many. In public office, I’ve also learnt a lot about people, because it gives you the opportunity to see the good, the bad and the ugly. As a public office holder, you learn every day.

    Do you sometimes get sulked in or carried away with all the fawning and sycophancy of people around you?

    I don’t ever get carried away and that is the truth. I’m always a bit jittery when people say nice things about me and always on guard. I’m not God, and so when you say nice things about me to my face, I cannot see your heart, so you have to be very discerning and also be imbued with a lot of wisdom to really read people’s motive.

    Your husband’s status as governor has denied you of his full attention, now he is going to the Senate. How do you feel?

    I rest my case (general laughter).

    Are you returning to your architectural field once you are done with public service?

    Do you know how long it took me to get qualified as an architect? Will you now advice me to abandon all of that? That is impossible. A professional remains a professional any day. Up till today, I still design for people…

    (Cuts in) Do you get paid for that?

    Sometimes, a few people are magnanimous to pay me, while others feel I don’t need the money. But by and large, architecture is a very rewarding profession.

    What is you most cherished possession?

    The Holy Bible! If you don’t dwell in that word, you will regret any step you take.

    I know you have two boys, any plan of adding a girl?

    (Laughs) I have a daughter and by God’s grace, I will have more.

  • Police parade woman for ‘setting husband ablaze’

    The police in Ekiti State yesterday paraded a woman, Bukola Ogidiolu, who allegedly poured petrol on her husband, Abimbola, and set him ablaze.

    Also paraded was a farmer, Moses Ofega, who allegedly shot a Fulani herdsman on his farm after a scuffle.

    Speaking to reporters, Mrs. Ogidiolu (36) claimed she had a quarrel with her husband following his alleged nonchalance to their childlessness.

    She denied torching her husband for refusing to take her out on Valentine’s Day, which happened to be her birthday.

    The incident occurred at the couple’s residence in Idolofin in Odo-Ado, Ado-Ekiti, the state capital.

    “We had an argument following his nonchalance to my barrenness and we were fighting. Our neighbours tried to plead with him but he never listened to them.

    “He ran inside and destroyed my property. But he had forgotten that we have petrol inside and when he was about lighting his cigarette, the keg containing the petrol exploded and my husband caught fire.”

    Abimbola, who has first-degree burns with his manhood badly burnt, is receiving treatment at the State University Teaching Hospital (EKSUTH), Ado-Ekiti, where doctors are battling to save his life.

    Ofega (30), after killing the Fulani, was said to have poured charcoal on the body at Iyemero-Ekiti in Ikole Local Government Area, on March 4.

    He claimed he shot at the herdsman mistakenly after fighting over the destruction of his farm by the deceased’s cows.

    Police spokesman Alberto Adeyemi said members of the Fulani community reported the murder.

    Adeyemi said detectives from the State Criminal Investigation Department traced Ofega into the bush, where he fled.

    Ofega said: “I didn’t kill him intentionally. I went to the farm that day because I am a hunter.

    “When I saw that my farm had been destroyed, I had to challenge him and during a scufle, my gun went off  and hit him.”

     

  • Woman ‘kills’ husband in Enugu

    Woman ‘kills’ husband in Enugu

    A housewife at the weekend in Enugu allegedly killed her husband.

    Grace Agbo, was said to have allegedly used a club to hit her husband, Elijah Agbo, on the head.

    The Agbos were said to hail from Imirike Agu village in Udenu Local Government Area of Enugu State. They live at Mbu Amon in Isi-Uzo Council where the incident occurred.

    Police spokesman Ebere Amaraizu said the deceased was hale and hearty before the incident and was with his 12-year-old daughter, Deborah.

    The body has been deposited at the General Hospital, Ikem, mortuary for autopsy.

    The suspect is in custody at the police headquarters, Enugu.

    He said: “About 9pm, Deborah was suddenly asked by her mother, whose motive was not known, to go to bed.

    “It was learnt that Deborah went into her room, only to hear the sound of a heavy hit. She rushed out and found her father lying in a pool of blood.

    “It was discovered that the mother used a big stick found on the scene to hit the father on the head, which caused him injury that made him to slump. He became unconscious and later died.”