THE bird perched on the wall nearby, there were other birds around. Jolly good fellows at work and you just can’t help but admire the beautiful scenario that they have just created. The last bird moved around a particular bird and wasn’t eager to fly away. A closer look and you discover that something had caught its fancy. It’s another bird but the bird had company, a rival who wasn’t ready to let go.
This beautiful bird was certainly excited (in love) and you can feel the excitement. Just when you think this was going to last forever, a noise from the latest entry into the emotional contest (bird) catches your attention. There is a struggle between these rivals and then it flies away from trouble.
That scenario aptly captures a number of experiences when it comes to love and relationships. It, certainly, is a sweet and memorable experience that trails the lovebirds at the beginning of every love story. While some are simple, others are dramatic; but the most important thing is attaining your emotional goals and surviving the many odds involved.
Naturally, love captures and captivates the person at the centre of the game and once you are hooked the rest is history, as they say. Conversely, all the rapt emotional attention, emotions and the other things that get caught in the web of each love story can also go down the drain.
An upset comes when the other party realises that he or she is being taken for a ride , not appreciated or there is another competitor lurking around ready to take away what you have accepted, kept, treasured and is ready to do just anything to have it for keeps.
Do anything for love? Yes! Why not! A lot of people are ready to do anything when they fall helplessly in love and that explains why a person known to be very tough softens down and allows the one he or she loves to have their way, sacrifice everything and anything for them. They would definitely close their eyes to things they would never have compromised on, hence the popular saying, ‘love is blind’.
Love is indeed intoxicating and it hangs on the discovery of something unique and different. It is therefore natural to want to keep and treasure something that is an asset, something that is beautiful and good. Of course, if you are lucky to have a very special connection, then you should be ready to do everything to make it last. And because the experience is exciting and great then you start to think that maybe you’ve finally found the bone of your bones.
Mr. or Mrs. Right? That, for many, is usually an elusive race and when this becomes a reality, it is at this point that you find a lot of ladies getting anxious about something going wrong, or about him suddenly “changing his mind” about her. Unfortunately, this is precisely the moment where a lot of women make a lot of mistakes. You can and should communicate what you want to a man and set certain standards.
A good relationship is about navigating the numerous differences between you. It must come first on your scale of preference. It is actually those differences that make life more interesting, as our lover opens up a whole new way of seeing or understanding the world. It is also very important to enjoy and appreciate what others have to offer rather than trying to change them to fit your own template of how life and love should be.
Having good communication helps to oil the emotional wheel. Of course, there are days when we disagree but it must be done in such a way that we do not end up always hurting the people we claim to love. How would you feel when the love of your life talks down on you in front of his or her friends? How would you feel when issues you discuss privately with your sweetheart are taken to the public domain? The crux of the matter here is that ridiculing or humiliating each other is not a good idea, at all. You need some level of privacy to succeed in the relationship that you are building. Once you understand this perfectly and make sure you both talk honestly about what irritates or upsets you, then the love arena would continue to wax stronger, no matter the issues confronting you.
If you have managed to surf the ups and downs of your relationship, you will become an inspiration to other people around you.
Besides, you will always have a wealth of shared memories to laugh over and look forward to handling differences without stress. This is because you have accepted each other in your entirety.
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