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  • Yuletide: FG assures palliative measures on damaged Calabar – Itu road

    Bassey Anthony, Uyo

    The Federal Government has assured that it would put in place palliative measures to ensure that the badly damaged Calabar-Itu road is motorable during the forthcoming yuletide.

    The Senior Special Adviser to the President on Niger Delta Affairs, Senator Ita Enang dropped the hint at the weekend after an inspection of the Calabar-Itu road.

    Enang said the palliative measures became necessary due to hardship travelers encounter on a daily basis especially with the upcoming Christmas season and new year season.

    He disclosed that several intervention agencies of the Federal Government have agreed to collaborate to make the highway passable and comfortable.

    “We have brought in, the office of the SSA to the President on NDDC, the Federal Ministry of Works and Housing, Federal Road Maintenance Agencies (FERMA), Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC), Federal Road Safety Commission (FRSC), National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA), for them to work together to ensure that this road (Calaber-Itu road) is motorable and reduce hardship on the people”.

    “The essence of our responsibility to people is not to give excuses but take every step to get solutions to the problem of people and get life going,” he added.

    Enang stated that contract sum of 54 billion naira was awarded to Julius Berger, which covers about 22 kilometers of the road, beginning from Mbak Obio Itam to Odukpani, adding that 7 billion naira has been paid and that another round of sum would be paid to enable them return to the site.

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    He hinted that there are some areas on the Calabar- Itu highway that are not awarded, adding that other area not awarded but designed and procured covers from Mbak Obio Itam to Ikot Ekpene.

    The area awarded is about 8 to 9 kilometers to the Cross River end and 12 or so kilometers in Akwa Ibom end”.

    “The area from the power station in Odukpani where the Julius Berger Job stops in the Cross River end up to the Cabalar Itu Bridge and 1.2meter has not been designed or awarded so there is no commitment at that end”.

    “Then the not awarded, designed and procured area is the one from Mbak Obio Itam where the job of Julius Berger stops to Ikot Ekpene,” he said.

    The Project Manager, Julius Berger Construction Company, Christian Kloeptle, assured that as soon as the rain seizes, palliative work would commence to aid free movement during Christmas.

    “We will do something before Christmas, anytime the rain stops we will make the road motorable again”

    “Our money finished and we were unable to buy asphalt and zinc needed for the road, that is why we stopped the work for a while”.

    “The granite we want to use for the road does not like water, if rain falls on it, it will wash away,” he said.

    The Deputy Director Highways, Federal Ministry Of Works and Housing, Mr Peter Umoren assured Akwa Ibomites and Cross Riverines that Calabar-Itu road would be passable before the year runs out.

    “I am assuring Akwa Ibom people and Calabar people that this road (Calabar-Itu road) before December runs out. All highways would be motorable as contained on our programme.”

  • Jonathan charges lecturers to resist pressure to rig elections

    Chris Oji, Enugu

    Former President, Dr. Goodluck Jonathan has charged university lecturers to protect the integrity of the nation’s democracy by resisting the entreaties and pressure from politicians to rig elections in their favour.

    Jonathan spoke Saturday in an address he delivered at the 10th anniversary celebration of Godfrey Okoye University, Enugu.

    He also urged Nigerian students to shun cultism and aspire to become agents of change, adding that society profits more when the recipients of knowledge are led by the virtues of honesty and hardwork to positively influence their environment.

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    Speaking on the role of academia in good governance and nation building, the former President said: “The involvement of the academia in our electoral process is premised on the assumption that academics are people of proven integrity, who cannot be compromised. However, our scholars should know that they bear the responsibility of justifying the trust placed on them by other members of the society in the management of elections. Any member of the academia who compromises what he stands for, by getting involved in the manipulation of elections, betrays that trust.

    “Like parents, lecturers and teachers should always bear in mind that the important part they play in nurturing and guiding of younger ones project them as consequential role models. It is dangerous for members of the academia to get involved in election malpractices because of its wider implication for the future of our country.”

    The former President also pointed that there is a need to reform the academic programmes of the nation’s educational institutions and make them more responsive to the needs of today’s economy.

    He said: “The time has come for our universities to adjust their programmes, rejig their curricula and equip students with requisite skills that will make them compete favourably with their colleagues all over the world. This is what is required in order to create the kind of citizens that can adequately fit into the demands of today’s information and knowledge-driven economies.”

  • Group lauds Akeredolu over public service transformation

    From Damisi Ojo,Akure

    A group, Sunshine Integrity Movement(SIM) has lauded Governor Oluwarotimi Akeredolu for boosting the productivity of public servants in the state.

    The group said globally, efficient public service is the engine room of result-oriented governments because of the critical role the sector plays in ensuring genuine in the interest of the masses.

    A statement signed by its Director-General,Prof Olu Aboluwoye pointed out that public service being a non-political entity, should efficiently serve any government in power irrespective of the political platform the government wins elections.

    The statement recalled that when Akeredolu’s administration assumed office on February 24, 2017, it inherited a ‘ humiliated public service’ whose morale was completely low especially on the seven months salaries owed the workers.

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    Besides,it noted that they were denied other benefits such as promotions, capacity building through training and the refusal to grant them car loan by the immediate past administration which hindered their efficiency and productivity.

    SIM however lauded the present administration for tackling the past agonising experiences and gave ray of hope to restore the lost glory and the dignity of the state public service.

    It said” to the amazement of the state public servants, Akeredolu’s government defrayed six of the seven months salaries’ arrears and promoted 14,016 public servants cutting across all the self-accounting agencies, boards and parastatals of government with their full benefits paid between 2017 and 2018.

    “The promise of making the welfare of the people of Ondo State one of the major priorities of his government has made the era of the delayed promotions and subsequent denial of other benefits things of the past in the state”.

    The group disclosed that a total of 2,261 deserving civil servants were promoted based on the briefs forwarded to the Civil Service Commission by the Service Matters Department, Office of Establishments and Training, various ministries and extra-ministerial departments where 7,443 officers were also promoted.

    It assured that the workers in the the state public service would continue to reciprocate the governor’s gesture by rededicating themselves to their work.

  • Kogi: Former two-term Reps member dumps PDP

    James Azania, Lokoja

    A former member of the National Assembly that represented the Yagba Federal Constituency at the lower chamber, Hon. Karimi Sunday Steve, has withdrawn his membership from the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP).

    Karimi, a member of the House of Representatives between 2011 and 2019, has however not indicated what party he will be pitching tent with, though speculation is rife that he may seek membership of the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC).

    Karimi, who once served as the (Kogi) State Deputy Chairman of the party, in a statement signed by him, said that the withdrawal of his membership of the PDP is with immediate effect.

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    The former lawmaker defected from the PDP to the defunct Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN), under which platform he won the House of Representatives seat in 2011, but later returned to the PDP, from where he won a return to the National Assembly, in 2015.

    He aspired for election into the Senate in 2019, but was disqualified alongside others from contesting the primary by the PDP.

    Karin, in a statement, said that he will hand over his membership card to his Ward exco after which he will make public his decision on his political future.

    There are however strong indication that he may be joining the APC, which was formed by a coalition of the ACN and three other legacy parties.

  • A’Ibom govt: Emmanuel ‘s roads have not failed

    By Bassey Anthony, Uyo

    The Akwa Ibom State Government has said that none of the roads constructed under Governor Udom Emmanuel has failed as misconstrued by the State House of Assembly.

    A committee of te state legislature had last week passed an unfavorable verdict on the quality of roads done by the current administration, saying they would not stand the test of time.

    But the Commissioner of Works, Mr Ephraim Inyang-eyen on sunday during an interaction with journalists in Uyo debunked the notion that 97 percent of road projects embarked upon by the present administration has failed.

    Inyang-eyen said that it is true that one or two out of the 57 roads currently being constructed across the state have some issues.

    He however maintained that that does not amount to 97 percent of the roads have failed, adding that the recent continuous heavy rainfall has slowed down several road projects.

    He maintained that some of the roads alleged to have failed have not been completed but were at the asphalting stage, noting that he had ordered the contractors to suspend all earth work and asphalting jobs till the rains stop.

    He revealed that the error discovered on one of the commissioned roads had been corrected, adding that the government was waiting for the rains to stop for it to complete the roads as work cannot continue with the constant rainfall.

    He said it was only the Airport/Okpoedi road where contractors handling the road had to be forced out because of poor quality job, stating that he has insisted that the current contractor handling the road, DPL, works according to the Ministry’s specifications.

    He explained that he has been pressuring the contractors who were lagging behind in their jobs to speed up work, saying his work so far cannot be faulted as he was the champion of quality jobs.

    The Commissioner decried the abandonment of the Calabar-Itu road project started by the Federal Government.

    He stated that the road was not captured in the 2020 budget, as Julius Berger, the contractor supposedly hired to construct the road was never mobilised to site.

    He reiterated that the award of the road contract to Julius Berger at the eve of the 2019 elections was a political move, and called on the FG to take steps in repairing Federal roads in the state as many of them were bad.

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    “The report by Victor Ekwere, member representing Mkpat Enin State Constituency that
    97 percent of the roads done in the State since the coming of Governor Udom Emmanuel has failed is absolute fallacy, it is not correct.

    “I am ready after next week to take the media world around all the roads we have done. He was sponsored by some evil men to write down that report and I will prove him absolutely wrong. The Awa/Ikot Edem/Ikot Emem/Ukam road does not just stop there. The spur goes to Asung, my village, and I will be an irresponsible person to get a contract done that goes to my village that will fail after one year. So, It is not correct.

    “I discovered in the course of that particular road that if because of constant rainfall, they do asphalting intermittently as we have sun, there is bound to be water sipping into what was done and when they start a new one, there were gaps. That is what happened on that road and I was the one who discovered it with my team before the commissioning.

    “It was the Govenor who told me on the day of commissioning to tell the MD of DKS to clean up that road, and I wrote to the man, and Mr Karmal Onu accepted responsibility at no cost to government. That road was commissioned in May, how would we repeat the same error for the road to be done under the rain? It has rained from the day that road was commissioned till today.

    “The same contractor is handling the 13.9 kilometre Awa Nkanga road. We have finished up to stone base but every time the road is primed for asphalting, it rains torrentially and any time it rained, it takes two or three days for the water to dry out. The last time I went to that road, they had finished but I told them to wait till December because the forecast says it will rain till December.

    “If you go round this state, you will see that there are several roads that are near completion that further work cannot be done particularly asphalting. I take responsibility as the supervisor of Awa/Ukam road, Asong/Ikot Ebiere that the member representing Mkpat Enin, Victor Ekwere was being tricky; he did not discover the error.

    “If you come to my office, I can show you letters as of 6th of July that we wrote to the contractor and his response to take responsibility. That one road out of the several roads done that has a problem and the contractor has taken full responsibility, does not account for 97 percent of all the roads done in the State that has failed.

    “I wrote to suspend all earth work and all asphalting job across the entire state because the volume of rainfall we receive does not allow us to have the benefit of getting these roads done as, and at when we what it,” he stated.

  • Will Burnaboy finally clinch the Grammy for Nigeria?

    Following the nomination of Nigerian Afro-fushion singer, Damini Ogulu, aka Burna Boy, for the 62nd Grammy Awards, there is increasing . Ogulu’s nomination was announced in a statement on the Grammy Awards’ website on Wednesday. He was shortlisted for his album, ‘African Giant’ in the Best World Music Album category.

    He is competing the award with Altin Gun (Gece), Bokanté & Metropole Orkest Conducted By Jules Buckley (What Heat), Nathalie Joachim With Spektral Quartet (Fanm D’ayiti) and Angelique Kidjo (Celia).

    The nomination is for albums containing at least 51 per cent playing time of new vocal or instrumental world music recordings.

    Read Also: Burna Boy’s Grammy nomination excites Nigerians 

    When the news broke, Burna was congratulated by his fellow Nigerian artistes like Wizkid, Davido, Banky W, and Don Jazzy. And since its annoucement, there has been so much optimism that Burna Boy will clinch the Grammy. Should that happen, he would have confirmed himself as ‘African Giant.’

    And the big question on many people’s lip is whether Burna will break the jinx and bring the Grammy back to Nigeria. In the past, King Sunny Ade, Babatunde Olatunji, Femi Kuti and Seun Kuti have been nominated for Grammy.

    Nigerian artistes previously Nominated for Grammy

    • 1984 – Syncro System – King Sunny Ade
    • 1998 – Love Drum Talk – Babatunde Olatunji
    • 1999 – Odu – King Sunny Ade
    • 2003 – Fight To Win – Femi Kuti
    • 2010 – Day By Day – Femi Kuti
    • 2012 – Africa For Africa – Femi Kuti
    • 2014 – No PLace For My Dream – Femi Kuti
    • 2019 – Black Times – Seun Kuti and Egypt 80

  • Marriage: A garden of treasures (4)

    The family is God’s delight.     When God delights in you and you delight in Him, He makes your life and your home a delightful place. If it is joy you need, He gives it to you. If it is money that is in short supply, God releases it. If it is peace that is required, He brings peace. Everything it takes for your family to succeed is made available. When God delights in your family, everyone against your family progress is silenced and you enjoy all-round security and speedy answers to your prayers.

    Furthermore, when your delight is in Him, your life will always be on the increase (Psalm 18:19); God will promote you and you will enjoy abundance in every area of your life. God’s Word says: Thou shalt no more be termed forsaken; neither shall thy land anymore be termed desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzibah, and thy land Beulah: for the Lord DELIGHTETH in thee, and thy land shall be married (Isaiah 62:4). This is God Word’s for you right now.

    Every successful home is a threat to satan’s kingdom, which is why he would do anything to destroy it.  Unfortunately, he gains entrance to many homes often through the woman. Remember, he gained access into the first home through Eve, and history always repeats itself. God’s Word says: But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ (2 Corinthians 11:3).

    For this reason, men should protect their wives spiritually, to ensure that they do not engage in private discussions with hell, which can send them out of their “garden”.  Once the woman is effectively shielded from satan, he will have difficulty in trying to penetrate the home.

    Women are more susceptible to the attacks of satan, because of their roles in the home.  She is usually more at home than the man; so, she is more available to satan. He creeps in on her and tells her, “What makes you different from the man? Are you a slave? Have you forgotten that you too are educated as he (husband) is? Have you forgotten your placement in your office? There is no Jew nor Greek, male or female; the same Lord is rich over all.” If unguarded, the woman would be tempted to agree with him.

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    Somehow, satan is able to easily secure the attention of women, particularly when they are idle.  He barrages them with all sorts of negative information, which in turn makes them unhappy. He often arrests them by painting a deadly picture of calamity and woe, which they readily accept. But unfortunately, some women claim that it was God that revealed such information to them, not recognizing that it came through “the prince of the power of the air.”

    Woman, please learn to prove the source of the information that comes to you.  Find things out for yourself from the Word of God, because nothing anybody says can make the Word of no effect.  The destruction many families have experienced today came from information that had satanic sources.

    Man, it is time to awake and chase satan out of your garden! Until you say, “Get thee behind this family, satan”, he will keep hanging around. As man’s eternal enemy, satan has vowed to pull down the family unit.  God’s Word says: How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the Lord had shut them up? (Deuteronomy 32:30). He wants to stop you from destroying his kingdom.

    In the covenant, one can deal with 1,000, two, especially in marriage, are empowered to put 10,000 to flight!  Satan knows this and wants to keep his kingdom; so, he launches attacks on the family, to prevent them from destroying his kingdom.  Since one family can destroy 10,000 demons, Satan aims at destroying the 10,000 capacity destroyers.  If he succeeds, he has preserved more demons to run errands for him.

    Another reason the devil wants to gain entrance into families is found in I Peter 3:7; Likewise, ye husband, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

    When a man and his wife are at variance with each other, their prayers are hindered, and they are disconnected from God.  They may pray all the time, but there will be no response from heaven.  Heaven will be shut, making it impossible for them to enjoy the harvest of whatever seed they may have sown.

    The man, who opens up his home to malice or discord, has blocked his access to God’s blessing.  Satan knows this, so he does all he can to see that there is rancour and strife between a man and his wife.  Anytime you sense any animosity rising within you against your spouse, know that satan is seeking an entrance.  Therefore, resist him steadfastly in the faith.  Tell yourself that since you have no intention of having another home, you will not give satan a foothold in your family!

    In case you are not yet born again, this is another opportunity for you to do so today. If you want to overcome satanic loopholes in your family this year, don’t miss this golden opportunity. You can become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

     

  • ‘Excuse me sir, I don’t know what to do’

    1. Lecturer: Hey ! you girl tell me, what is your name?

    Student: My name is Bimbo.. Bimbo Owoyemi.

    Lecturer: You failed my test, you failed my exam.But if you want to

    pass you know what to do.

    Student: Excuse me sir, I don’t know what to do…

    Lecturer: I will tell your mummy and I will tell your daddy, you

    no wan give me pomo, I be Mr. Lecturer, I will fail your papers.

     

    REMEMBER the above song by sensational Nigerian Hip-hop singer, Eedris Abdulkareem? It was a song that hit the music waves, and if you ask me, it really sold well. The song was, in a nutshell, trying to conceptualise the goings-on on our campuses. In that particular track Eedris tried to portray that when it comes to sexual harassment on campuses, the lecturers are culpable. I don’t know the actual reactions to this song, but in a bid to balance the equation, I believe Eedris quickly did a follow-up to this song.This time  he portrayed the student as the sexual harasser.

    In my time in school it was the lecturers that were doing the chasing. They harassed the living daylight out of some of us. I recall vividly the experience of one of my very close friends, way back then. This particular lecturer that took us in photography  vowed that he must sleep with my friend, otherwise  he would fail not only his target  but even her close friends, yours truly included. Our endless pleas to him fell on his  deaf ear. He insisted on having his way even  if it meant  the last thing he would do.

    To make good his threat he started scoring my friend below her normal merits. And as if that was not bad enough his fellow lecturers joined him in this personal vendetta,dealing terribly with my friend. For every test of 20 marks, my friend would score two. Even the ones we spent endless nights preparing  for, it was the same outcome.

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    We had resigned to fate only to notice a dramatic change in Mr. Lecturer.He became friendly  with us. He smiled more and joked more with us even when we could not fathom what the change was all about. My friend was quick to put us out of our misery. She invited us all to lunch and opened up on what we all had dreaded over the years

    “You remember the weekend I told you, ladies,that I was going to Benin to see my parents?” she began,asking no one in particular.

    “Well, I lied. I spent the weekend with Mr. A.”

    For the first time in my adult life,  I felt speechless.

    Before any of us could pick up our dropped jaws, she continued  as if she wanted to get it all out of her.

    Summary of it all is that my friend decided to be the fall guy, or is it fall-lady now, for us all. She felt that since all he wanted was to sleep with her then he could have her. We felt terrible, we felt violated.

    Till date, the scar of that incident has refused to leave us.We feel like crying whenever we recall the harassment. My friend  has since moved on with her life.She has a good husband and a child, and I believe they are living happily.

    Anyway, that was then, and this is now. Things have changed drastically. It is the students that are now sexually harassing their lecturers. Indecent dressing, for now can be considered stale news. Female students are getting more daring .

    I heard of a recent occurrence  in a popular campus in Lagos  where a female student locked up her lecturer in his own office; pulled down her undies after neatly tucking the key into her brassiere! I will spare you the details of how that particular incident ended ,but sadly that is what we have today.

    Some students simply  refuse to study. They are pre-occupied with   looking  for shortcuts to success and that is why graduates today cannot even begin to defend their certificates. How can they? When they either bought their way out or slept their way through. There are cases of  ambitious students  who aspire to have the best grades, but also want to have a good time while on campus. Such students then begin to run after lecturers.The desperate ones decide to sleep their way through it that is what will get them  second class upper or even first class.

    There have also been cases of  pretty ladies  harassing  lecturers with their flirtatious and lecherous  glances. I heard that some even offer to give it to them right there on their office tables! How sad, condemnable and cheap. Why one earth would anybody want to get a certificate they don’t deserve?

    Do not, for any reason, be intimidated by this set of people. Just challenge them to a debate or discussion especially on  happenings around us, and watch how they expose their lack of education.

    My thesis is that there should be an anti-sexual harassment policy in place in all schools of higher learning. Offenders should be brought to book to  deter  others or would-be offenders; I feel also that this could restore  sanity in our tertiry  institutions.

    For the relentless predators, please be careful not to victimize the aging male lecturers who may be enticed by your escapades since you obviously want to have it both ways – good grades, little effort.

  • How to survive a broken relationship

    With Rois Ola

    THESE days, and even in the past, it can be said that surviving when your relationship breaks up can be a very difficult time. It is indeed a painful process of grief and sorrow.  Losing a boyfriend/girlfriend or a husband/wife can can be likened to a heart  that is  about to burst  from severe pain.  It is not uncommon to  see  people exhibit   depression or hear  about  attempts at suicide, self-harm or harm to others at the end of a “wonderful” relationship.

    Relationship issues, from my experience, are one of the reasons people seek counsel and, often times ,go through depression. People   cope with breakup at various levels. Unfortunately, our society does not properly educate people on how to deal with FAILURE, much less of heart break. I will do my best to explain techniques you can use to cope in healthy ways, when it comes to matters of the heart although  the healing period cannot be determined. You can only do the best to accept the situation, re strategize and then move on.

    Let me also warn that my tips will NOT stop you from experiencing pain of loss. They will only help give you clarity and guide you through the process of loss as fast as your heart and feelings can manage it . And of course still enable you enjoy better relationship with others.

    1.Try not to fight the feeling of grief

    Break ups sometimes come  with severe negative feelings: your head spins with unimaginable thoughts most of the time. Such  feelings include  sadness, anger, confusion, resentment, jealousy, fear and regret, and suicide being the worst of them all.  If you try to ignore or suppress these feelings, you will only prolong the process, and sometimes get totally stuck trying to overcome the pain.   As hard as it is, you will not be able to avoid this pain;but  realize that these feelings, over time, will reduce. It starts with shock, sometimes denial, anger, depression and after a short while, or long while ,acceptance. Ensure the acceptance does not come with bitterness.  Severe grief feels like it will last forever, but I can tell you from experience that it will and can never last forever.

    1. Look for avenues to express your feelings

    Talking about your feelings on  the break-up is an equally powerful way to cope with the grief arising therefrom . Friends, family members can help ease the pain, which will help one come to some new understanding and relieve your pain. Several perspectives of trusted people who can give you a shoulder to lean on can guide you on how to discover your feelings and survive them. The key point is to make sure you don’t isolate yourself and withdraw from those who can support you and those who truly love you.

    1. Document your feelings

    Even after you have spoken to others and cried on a shoulder, writing down how you feel is therapeutic.It helps guide your feelings and thoughts  because the fact is that people may not always be available.You may also not like the idea of confiding in people at the beginning. Some feelings are too deep to share, so the act of writing it out can still help you heal. At some point the pain will be in the  past and no longer in the  present. 4.  Break-ups are sometimes out of your control

    Many relationships especially in dating end up in break up. This is the nature of life itself.What we need is someone who will  complement us, bearing in mind that no one is perfect. You need to keep searching. With this mindset you won’t be ready to kill yourself if one or several don’t work out as planned. You may have to try several times to get the man or woman of your dream. If at first you don’t succeed, pick yourself up and try again.

    1. Don’t forget who you are

    Care of self is a technique which states that you must ensure that your needs are met, despite the fact that you may be feeling upset and depressed due to the break-up.  You may not feel like eating but do it anyway, and try to make some healthy choices in what you eat.Don’t binge  or starve yourself or go on pain inflicting fasts because you are upset.It is better you are alive to love again, than die and your ex now finds true love.  Give yourself time to rest, particularly since this may be difficult for you.  Sleep deprivation will only increase your pain.Start an exercise, join a keto club, join a gym, just do something.

    1. Get your life back

    Going through a break-up can disrupt your life. The best is to continue your basic routines to, at least, give you a sense of normalcy;routines that can keep your mind busy.Don’t just sit and feel miserable:get up, move on and live your life

    1. You are special, treat yourself that way

    Now is the time to pamper yourself.  You need to do something that will actively make yourself feel better. Go to a special restaurant, movie, club, take a friend who can keep you company and engage you in good conversation.Buy new books to  read, improve your mind and you will find that your thoughts will gradually start drifting to better things.

    1. Shit happens, get over it

    You will not get back to full capacity immediately, definitely.It  takes time,but you will eventually get there. You will be under a lot of stress quite alright.If you are schooling and see that you can’t cope, it may be wise to relax or defer for a bit , if you can manage that .It just gives you time to process your loss I would advise you don’t process for too long, because if you do , your grades will go down,and that  will be another future headache. So while you are grieving get  hold of yourself and accept that you are not waiting for a phone call or some plea to get back together.Accept it is over and move on.

    1. Your Ex is your EX keep it that way

    I will never advise that you never depend on your ex to help you do anything; you have to learn to live your life without them. Make effort to ensure they are not within your line of sight. It has to be a clean break or else you may not be able to recover from them. Even if you wish to remain as friends , wait for a while.

    1. Healing is the goal not REVENGE, learn from your mistakes

    Never retaliate against anyone who you feel has hurt you, it will only cause more damage. Retaliation can  lead to violence and there is the consequence of criminal charges if you are involved in damage of property. As much as you feel like hitting back,make  restraint your watch word

    1. Find Love Again

    There is no formula on  the best time to date again. I would advise you don’t immediately jump back into dating.This does not mean wait for forever or never to love again. You will only end up bitter. Keep your dating casual for a bit to get to study and know your partner properly before you go in deep. There is a risk in opening yourself up again, but this is LIFE, you fall to rise again. I wish you all the best.

  • I am contemplating suicide!

    By Progress OBERIKO

    Sniper has been banned, but not this.

    Like an unsolved arithmetic, I have no answer to it. It’s there in my head.

    It has become my nightmare. Deep in my thoughts, there it is, seated in confidence!

    We are entangled!

    There’s absolutely no way out.

    What have I not done in this life?

    How unfair can life be?

    I act like it is all okay just to meet up with the life, but here I am, in the middle of nowhere fizzling away.

    I feel like God has blown me away like the beans shaft.

    I am dying inside.

    Yes, I have dreams, BIG DREAMS, but they remain mere dreams, as life has conditioned them to remain so, they never wake up.

    My mates are already in school, I’m here ‘jambing’ JAMB; Still being posted by post UME.

    My mates are done and dusted, graduation and matriculation pictures flirting on my timeline. And you say I should hold on? Hold on for what?

    It is too late for me already!

    My nudes leaked

    My reputation destroyed

    My dreams chattered

    No one cares

    I’m a disappointment to my family.

    And you say I should continue living? Live for what? When I can’t even raise my head in public.

    I feel like the worst person in this world!

    I am a good person, Oh yes I am!

    I have helped people, I do charity;

    But I can’t even get back the good I’ve done! Everyone plays dumb and oblivious of my condition.

    I feel useless, there’s no hope for me in this life!

    Too much bad luck! So unfortunate!

    Lemme just die! There’s nothing to live for!

    Ladies who are not even as beautiful as I am are getting married

    My guys, who are less intelligent than I are getting jobs. But me? What do I get? NOTHING!

    What do you expect?

    No, tell me!

    They keep giving me useless hopes, “HOPE IN THE LORD”.

    Which hope? Has God not been aware of my situation? =Ø Þ What did He do?

    ‘Have faith’, they say.

    Shut up! Don’t ever speak about faith to me!

    Don’t tell me about the Bible because there’s nothing I have not heard!

    It is ten months into the New Year, ooops, the “Old-New year”. December is already by the corner, and boom! There comes 2020! What do I have to show for this year? Nothing!

    I can no longer condone this bugbear when sadness is spilling from my back pockets. And poverty running down my veins. I take full responsibility for my incapacitatedness, so allow me surcease this tragedy called ‘LIFE’.

    I have had enough!