Category: Funmi Akingbade

Ach time couples come to me for counseling, I am always surprised that some of them still cling tenaciously to old wife’s fa bles, when it comes to s3x and s3xuality.

For instance, a man told me that men who desire children should wear boxer-styled shorts and loose-fitting pants all the time, so that their testicles – the sperm-producing organs – are not constricted. But constriction is not the problem.

The truth is that testicles are outside the body, because high body temperature may negatively impact sperm production. Therefore, wearing loose-fitting underwear is advisable. Men who are concerned about their fertility should also avoid staying too long in very hot weather.

The heat generated from laptops held in male laps can also cause low sperm count, which can make it difficult for them to father a child. It is always advisable that anytime a man wants to use the laptop, it should be placed on a desk or table. Of course, enlarged varicose veins in the scrotum, injury to the testicles, including damage done by bike-riding and so on, can also negatively impact on a man’s fertility.

Nowadays, many people mess around because they believe that s3x with the same spouse could be boring. This is a pure lie. S3x with the same spouse could be interesting if only you want it to be. Research shows that people who have been married for a long time have the most frequent and satisfying s3x lives. That’s because committed couples trust each other enough to express their deepest desires. Moreover, the emotional connection established over the years allows for erotic levels of intimacy. Since s3x is often as much about trust as it is about chemistry, long-term relationships offer the possibility of a high-quality (and high-quantity) s3x life.

That men crave for s3x more that women may not really be true, because many women want s3x more than their male counterparts. It’s not that women don’t crave a good erotic, breath-taking and explorative s3x; it’s just that the mechanics of getting turned-on are a little more complicated for women than for a man. When a man wants to have s3x, it’s the only thing on his mind. In women, the libido tends to be more easily distracted.

Therefore, for men to get more time in bed with their wives, they should simply try to be affectionate.

Some have said that good s3x can make up for bad communication. There is no truth in this because what is required is two-way communication, and not just a few sessions of hot and passionate s3x. Communication meltdown and tense conversations occur when people feel threatened. Couples should do everything possible to make each other emotionally safe and appreciated. Deep emotional connection enhances good s3xual connection.

S3x without good two-way communication between partners is mere second degree prostitution.

Most husbands believe that the best s3x occurs when the man takes the lead as the head of the home, while wives are to submissively play along, so that they won’t be tagged ‘spoilt.’ No. S3x between couples is team work, and not a one-man show. As such, it’s most titillating when both partners are getting their needs met, and fantasies realised.

Research shows that the best s3x is achieved when the man allows his partner to have a lot of influence over their love-making experience. Husbands should encourage their wives to express themselves about their wants and needs. Fulfilling an other’s desires can sometimes be the secret to spectacular s3x.

Most times, I tell husbands that they undermine the s3xual capabilities of their wives while taking the lead all the time. Tonight, husbands, give your wife the opportunity to take the lead. You will be surprised that there is a humble tiger in her.

The belief that the best s3x is spontaneous is relative, you never can tell. The truth is that some of the best s3x that couples have is scheduled and planned. Though it may sound routine, scheduled s3x can be an advantage for a busy, s3x-starved couple; waiting for that spur-of-the-moment escapade that sometimes never comes.

The appointment doesn’t necessarily have to be on date night; it can simply be something to look forward to on an otherwise-average evenings, once other members of the household are out of sight. Please, make sure they are really out of sight to prevent embarrassment.

It is a popular saying that s3x should start when the husband gets an erection. On the contrary, good s3x for a woman often begins long before the moment of her partner’s full salute. It’s the gentle caresses and loving attitude that are essential to great s3x for a woman.

Satisfying s3x for both partners begins with foreplay, whether it is fast and fun or drawn-out and sensual. But men who give their wives affection throughout the day, make things pleasurable for them and act thoughtfully are more likely to be lucky most nights.

It is far from truth when people say that happy marriage means that couples won’t be tempted, especially when they occupy a high religious position.

Most single ladies believe that the ‘ideal’ husband is a God-fearing man, or simply put, a ‘man of God.’ I often make them realise that even the so-called ‘God-fearing’ husbands are not ex empted from temptations. They are, and will be tempted, because they do not walk around the place blindfolded. They see what every other person sees. It’s not the temptation that signals a problem in a man or woman in a marital relationship, it’s succumbing to it.

Every man faces temptations, no matter how healthy and strong his relationship with his wife is, or no matter how strong and powerful his relationship with God is. Whether he is a ‘man of God’ or ‘servant of God,’ a loving relationship can’t gag against flirtatious co-workers or attractive acquaintances. But men do have the ability to control their urges and prevent falling into temptations. Ask for the grace and strength to overcome such temptations.

Keeping the pictures of your spouse and family in your office, cell phones, wallets, and most importantly, in your heart could be a reminder of one’s relationship and commitment. Remember, the matter of the heart is the heart of the matter. Treasure your partner in the sacred place of your heart and no other person will be able to occupy that special space.

QUESTION ONE

I am a young woman with inverted nipples and this has been giving me much concern as I see it as abnormal. I don’t know what to do about it?

You need to see a medical doctor, who would instruct you on what to do. You have no cause to fear.

QUESTION TWO

What are the negative effects of s3xual abstinence? Is there any side effect if a lady or a guy refuses to have s3x for over thirty years? Will the man’s sperm not dry up in his body or the lady’s vagina be sealed forever?

The human body is designed to adapt to changes. A guy’s sperm cannot dry up and a lady’s vagina cannot be sealed simply on account of s3xual abstinence. The body system is designed to take care of such eventualities. QUESTION THREE

How do hemorrhoids or piles affect a man’s ability to engage in s3xual intercourse in men?

They affect s3xual intercourse in men because of the location of the hemorrhoid and the pain men feel while having penetrative s3x. Sometimes, the pain may be so unbearable, especially when the penetrative s3x is vigorously done. This is because hemorrhoids are painful, swollen veins in the lower portion of the rectum or anus.

A person having this will experience an itching anus, anal ache or pain during bowel movements. The most common cause is straining during bowel movements. Hemorrhoids may result from constipation, sitting for long periods of time, and anal infections. In some cases, they can be caused by other diseases, such as liver cirrhosis. Internal hemorrhoids occur just inside the anus, at the beginning of the rectum. External hemorrhoids occur at the anal opening and may hang outside the anus.

Over-the-counter corticosteroid creams can reduce pain and swelling. Use cotton undergarments, avoid using hard toilet tissue with perfumes or colors, and try not to scratch the area. Sitz baths can help you to feel better. Sit in warm water for 10 to 15 minutes. Take lots of vegetables and fruits to prevent constipation. If the condition persists, contact a doctor.

QUESTION FOUR

I have been having some problems in my home, particularly when it comes to love making with my wife. She is the type that doesn’t like that word intercourse. She’s always scared of making love with me. She also has these painful menstrual pains. If she manages to give it to me once a week, I thank God. We have been married for two years now without a child. I work offshore – one month in, one month out. I don’t enjoy her when I’m at home. Sometimes, we quarrel because of this and it is driving me mad. Sometimes, I feel like keeping another woman out for my pleasure, but I can’t because I love my wife and I’m a Christian. Please what can I do?

I can feel your frustration, and I know how men feel when they are denied of s3x. As I always tell others, be patient with her. Try to explain your frustration to her and do that lovingly. No woman in her right frame of mind would want to deliberately destroy her home, except a foolish one. Tell her again and again how much you desire good s3x. Help her out with her daily house chores that can task her energy and also allow her to take a lead whenever you want to have s3x. I am sure these pieces of advice would be of help.

QUESTION FIVE

I sincerely need your advice on what I could do to regain my strength as a man. I am 37-years-old and I have the challenge of maintaining erection for more than two minutes after penetration. What really bothers me is the fact that my recovery time for another erection takes more than ages and sometimes my wife would have been long gone before I am back in the mood again. My greatest challenge is the fact that I can’t satisfy my woman any longer. Please, advise me on which doctor to meet that will appreciate the enormity of my travails and properly diagnose my problem.

There are lots of experienced doctors in the private and public sectors. You can visit some of the government teaching hospitals for help.

I came across this well-written and hugely beneficial article and I felt that I should make it available to my readers. It is an excerpt from a book, The Five S3x Needs of Men and Women, by Gary and Barbara Rosberg. Excerpts.

Can you believe that a couple can achieve 100% of s3xual satisfaction if they so wish? During an interview with Christian s3x therapists, Clifford and Joyce Penner, e-Harmony founder Neil Clark Warren asked, “What percentage of couples can attain a mutually satisfying s3xual relationship?” The Penners respond, “Attaining a high level of s3xual satisfaction with each other.”

Couples often ask us how they can keep the excitement in s3x. Our answer: Stay connected. Being connected body-to-body and heart-to-heart is what makes s3x fulfilling and fun. Here are 13 ways you and your spouse can have more passion.

 

1. Kiss intensely and passionately

Do you remember the kind of kissing you did when you first fell in love? Do you still kiss that deeply and passionately? Rediscover passionate kissing. Take your time. Enjoy the touch and taste of each other’s lips. The burning sensation is terrific.

 

2. Laze around in the afterglow

Delight in the closeness you feel after having s3x. Stay in each other’s arms. Tell your spouse how good it felt and how much you love him or her. This is one of the most intimate as a couple.

 

3. Become a scholar of your partner’s s3xual zones

Seven erogenous zones have become a hot cake. They are the nipples of both spouses, the breast of your spouse, the earlobes of both spouses, the groin of both spouses, the penis and scrotum of the man, the vulva of the woman, the clitoris of the woman, the not-open-to-discussion ‘G spot’ of the woman. Even if no other places responded to your touches, these once are ever-ready-to-stimulation-sure-spots. A woman has more erogenous zones than just her breasts and vagina. Explore with her, and discover where she is most responsive. Kiss, stroke, or caress each body part. Ask: “How does this feel? Does it make you tingle? What would make you feel even ‘tinglier’ – if I caressed less or more?” Remember that although it is good to work toward a climax, the journey is pretty unbelievable too, and highly rewarding.

 

4. Appreciate a wife’s definition of satisfaction

“ don’t get it,” a husband told me at a restaurant. “ I do everything I can think of in bed, but my wife doesn’t usually have an orgasm.”

“Does that bother your wife I asked?”

“No. She seems content. I don’t get that either.”

“That’s because many women are still satisfied with s3x, even when they don’t have an orgasm.”

This husband stared blankly at me. “Huh?”

Husbands, if you want to satisfy your wife, shift your definition of satisfaction. Of course, wives love to climax (who does not?), but they can enjoy the lovemaking experience even when they do not reach that place.

Many women enjoy the sensuality of cuddling, kissing, and touching every bit as much as they enjoy the thrill of a climax. Women’s s3xual pleasure occurs on many levels other than simply orgasm.

 

5. Know, admit, and value s3xual peaks

Most men reach their s3xual peak in their late teens or early twenties. Most women reach theirs a decade or more later. Often when a woman is in her thirties and forties her s3xual desire becomes stronger, sometimes insatiable. Moreover, as a man ages, his emotional side increases. Through each stage, couples grow and learn more about each other and become more patient and sensitive to each other’s needs. This is God’s blessing to us because it allows a couple’s s3x life greater longevity and duration.

 

6. Recognize the different kinds of s3x

So often, couples feel the pressure to have “perfect” s3x – complete with earthquakes, fireworks, and multiple orgasms. It is not every time you have s3x that there will be a “bell ringer”; and that is okay because you are both connecting. Sometimes s3x will be a quickie to meet the need of the moment. Sometimes it could be functional s3x or just s3x. Sometimes, when you are not in the mood, you could have it simply because your spouse needs you at that moment. Sometimes it may be comfort s3x; when life has brought devastation, the only comfort and security you find are in the arms of your spouse as a lover. You will be ahead when you understand that the different kinds of s3x point to the ultimate reason for s3x: the relationship. The goal is not whether you end with a climax. The goal is that you are connected as a couple.

 

7. Just make passionate s3x the main kind

Do not rush. In a s3x survey we conducted recently, we asked women what they hated about s3x. Rushed s3x ranked number five. When you have a solid foundation and have spent years growing together and discovering more s3xual tips, then you would want to have a lot of variety. Nevertheless, a woman who is repeatedly unsatisfied, who senses that her husband’s pleasure always comes before hers, can feel used and empty. She wants to experience the whole spectrum of s3x – the physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational. This is not to say rushed or quickie s3x is wrong. Still, s3x should not be rushed all the time. That would be like eating nothing but fast food. Going through the local fast food drive–through for a chili dog and onion rings every occasionally is not a problem, but your health would suffer if you did it at every meal. Make your goal pleasurable s3x that satisfies both of you.

 

8. Communicate what type of s3x you need

If you think you are going to have a quickie and your spouse is expecting a long, passionate encounter, both of you will probably end up frustrated. Clarify your expectations. Women need to prepare mentally for s3x. If a wife knows she is headed for quickie s3x, she can mentally prepare for that, including the realization that she may not climax. Most of the time the woman will still enjoy s3x, even if she does not have the same outcome as her husband.

 

9. Become skilled at your spouse’s s3xual triggers

We often joke about his-and-hers triggers. Usually, we say that men have one s3xual trigger: everything. Women are a bit more complex. Though, seriously, because men are more visually stimulated, a man can become aroused by seeing his wife naked, undressing, or wearing something provocative. Typically, women are not that way. Therefore, a husband needs to discover what his wife’s s3xual triggers are.

A wife may be a “touch me” girl: she likes hugs and caresses. She may be a “tell me” girl: she likes affirmation and verbal foreplay. She may be a “listen to me and share with me” girl: she opens up after connecting with her husband through conversation. She may be a “doing” girl: she appreciates it when he picks up messes and helps with housework. She may be a “spiritual food” girl: she becomes open to s3x after connecting with him through prayer, reading Scripture, and discussing spiritual matters.

 

10. Practice the fine art of admiration

There is a part of each of us that likes it when our mate is happy with our performance, insight, or advice. We long to hear, “You did a good job,” or “You’ve worked so hard this week; I want to take you out for dinner so you don’t have to cook.” Sincere verbal appreciation motivates us. Overwhelm your spouse with appreciation, and watch s3xual desire increase.

 

11. Make each other a priority

Multitudes of s3x therapists and marriage counselors name fatigue as the number one enemy of s3xual intimacy. When couples are worn out, s3x is one of the first things to go. If s3x enters our minds – even fleetingly – we think, “I’d really like to have s3x, but when I do have the time and the energy?”

We can push s3x to the side and claim it is “just for a season.” Yet, pretty soon, that season turns into a pattern. That is when it becomes ingrained in the heart and we become blind to what we are doing. Of all s3xual issues, exhaustion is the one over which we have the most control. How you may ask? By reprioritizing, working less, saying no to outside activities that do not further the marriage, or asking for help. Carve out time each week just to relax and have fun with each other.

Grab your calendars, sit down with your spouse, and talk through your schedules. Ask each other the questions: What is an absolute priority? What feels like an absolute priority but really isn’t? What can we get rid of, at least for now? What is the best day to set aside as a time for just the two of us to have s3x, to have fun, and enjoy each other? Get yourselves back to remembering, oh yeah! This is really fun!

 

12. Say “Why not?”

Give yourself permission to enjoy s3x. Be open to pleasing your lover. Take on a “Why not?” attitude.

 

13. Keep practicing enthusiastically!

S3x stirs the craving for more s3x. Lovemaking elevates the brain chemicals associated with desire. Therefore, as we decide to have s3x and find we enjoy our time of lovemaking, our libidos increase, often leading to an increased yearning to have s3x more often. What could be more fun and exciting than that?

 

Question

I have had gas and bloating for almost 3 weeks now. Seems no matter what I eat I get gas and a gurgling stomach, I have taken so many medications. This is more alarming each time I am making love with my spouse.

 

Answer

Excess gas problems in spite of taking all these medications can be caused by any of the following factors.

Stomach flu or viral infection is the most common cause if this is related to the viral infection; you should see gradual improvement over the next 2 weeks.  Another possibility can be lactose intolerance. This can be checked by eliminating the dairy products and seeing if that improves your symptoms. The next possibility can be a gallbladder problem –which can present like gas symptoms without any stomach pain sometimes. An ultrasound and liver function test will help to diagnose this. Please watch your diet.

Your diet should contain a moderate amount of dietary fibers.

Initially, you should cook your vegetables well to make the fibers soluble for easy digestion.  Avoid meat, fish, chicken, eggs as much as possible.

You can have plant proteins, avoid nuts, beans, and also avoid sweets, cake, and caffeine as they worsen bloating symptoms.

Many couples, especially, the ‘about to wed spouses’ most times do ask me for the best s3x ever, they want to know the best encounter that will  be registered in their memories for life and I most time say the best s3xual experience is the one both spouses enjoy the most.

However, as my custom is I went researching, and from research, I gathered that the best s3xual ‘gbam! tend to begin with slow and steady movements. Slow soft kisses are the rule of the game.  As those kisses get deeper, bodies move closer, minds become more focused and hands start to roam. Even if you have had s3x with your spouse hundreds of times, you can still feel the incredible thrill of slowly progressing to a climax.

The benefits are not just that you are bound to feel each other’s wonderful sensation for a little longer than you would during a quickie; you are also more likely to feel enhanced sensual thrills. By couples taking their time, you both have a chance to pay attention to how you both respond to different touches, kisses, positions, thrusts, and pleasures. You both have more opportunities to try new things, make small adjustments, and build towards a state of heightened arousal that rocks both of you from head to toe.

In addition, during slow s3x, you are more likely to look each other in the eyes, communicate what you want, and tap into more profound emotions. A lengthy s3xual encounter is a well-prepared intercontinental, African, Chinese, or village-local-meal. It is not just about satisfying your hunger; it is about enjoying every single, delicious mouthful.

Husband, please don’t squeeze your wife’s breast like tissue paper or handkerchief but feel her nipples become erect one at a time, as your fingertips circle each one over her blouse or night dress with the bra off.  A little kiss on her panties can provide a provocative preview of things to come later on.

Wife, the aroma of a hygienic, sparkling, fresh, dirt-free, vagina fluid is one of the erotic s3xual tipoffs for many husbands. So keep your vagina inviting, captivating, appealing, tempting, and enticing always.

Husbands should treat their wives to the most classic romantic move; you can just sweep them off their feet and carry them to bed. 100% of wives are dying for this move. The last time many husbands swept their wives off their feet was on the wedding day when they were posing for the wedding picture. You all will agree with me that another sweeping off the feet is long overdue.

Wife, a romantic, well-perfumed light wear can inspire a slower-paced response from a man than something tight, rough, unattractive, old, and smelly.

It is characteristic for African couples to rush through s3x, but when a spouse is in the mood to savour s3x, start with soft kisses and caresses, letting your lips and hands glide at first, and then slowly add more pressure. These first small moves set precedence for your spouse to follow, they let him or her know that you are in the mood to let every sensation linger. Starting in first gear does not mean you have to kick off the night with a mouth-to-mouth kiss with an un-brushed mouth. Many times, a typical wife ‘s3x engine’ has ‘knocked’ a few months into the marriage, the car parked on a hilly hill with the hand brake pull to neutral just because the husband all the time rush through s3x.

Husband, I want you to know that it is not where you direct your attention first that sets the mood for leisurely love, but it is how. You can start caressing below the waist and still inspire long, romantic s3x with soft kisses, light touches, and gentle licks.

In addition, the more time spent caressing each other over your clothes, the more you will both anticipate the fabulous sensation of skin against skin. A rushed in, rushed out s3x is another major stress-prone factor, please slow down and calm down!

Slow and steady s3x is a healthy, curative, therapeutic, and romantic love spa, and helps increase the body’s general immune system to combat germs and virus that kills.

Savour every spot, peel off and do not irritably tear off your wife’s clothing piece by piece.

Notice each freckle and curve as it’s uncovered, then kiss or stroke it. When either of the spouses is still partially dressed and the other is naked, the result can be extremely racy. Keep all or a few pieces of clothing on after stripping your spouse to let them know that, for the moment, their bare erogenous zones are the sole focus of your attention, and if you need to pass any constructive positive comment for a healthier better shape be very careful and cautious about your utterances. The comments and reactions of our spouses go a long way to enhance and boost or inhibit, hinder, hamper and hold back our s3xual performances.

Pay attention to those seldom-appreciated areas, for instance, a man’s nipples. Nonetheless, the surprise of feeling fingertips, lips, or tongue in these sensitive areas will shoot tiny shivers of pleasure up your husband’s spine, as you would be igniting not easily tame fire unknowingly.

Please be sure to use more pressure in typically delicate places to keep the touch, kiss, or lick sensual, passionate, tormenting, flaming rapturous, and erotic.

One thing that is crystal clear is that there will be an intense connection. In a long-term marriage, or relationship, it is very easy to fall into an eye-closed-routine-s3x in which the first thing that happens, and then couples stop talking, stop looking into each other eyes and you both just engage in physical s3x. At this point, s3x is about as intimate as a wrestling match and that can be passionless, unsatisfying, boring, and not compulsory because you feel that you are just going through the motions.

You can prevent this from happening by taking minutes to be still, looking your spouse in the eye, kissing those eyes carefully, stroking their hair, complimenting them, and reaffirming your love for each other. Even when your wife is bored, take control of the action while still being gentle by cradling her head in your hands, caressing the head and telling her you knew she lost them all while in your house and you are ready to help her regain them back. When you begin to touch each other, again things will feel different, more intense, and fulfilling. Wife, while in missionary position, and thrusting in and out is going on, to intense the position, wrap your arms and legs around your husband’s body and pull him closer to you for deep penetration. Don’t just lay still, match the rhythm of each thrust so that your bodies move together.

Holding hands during s3x is surprisingly intimate and loving. Then grasping your spouse’s hands is also a romantic way for you to provide added support and balance when he or she is moving up and down on top of you. Alternate this position to the wife on top, and if the husband gets the moves right it is guaranteed to take your wife’s breath away.

Encourage her to straddle you on the edge of the bed and give her neck and breasts plenty of loving attention as she moves on top of you. You can also lift her by placing your hands under her thighs, slowly turning her around, and laying her back on the bed. If you are good at multitasking, kiss her continually and as you do this subtlety just push your longest finger into the tip of the vaginal and manually do a thrusting in and out with it while you place the thumb on her clitoris and rub it vertically I tell you, you can’t beat this undercover cruising, do you want to try this out please do and I can’t wait from hearing from you.

 

QUESTION

If I have a good morning erection am I free from every s3xual health challenge?

My friend once told me that if or whenever one wakes up with an erection it means the person is free from every penis and erection problem, in short, every s3xual health challenge in men. Please, how far is this true?

 

ANSWER

Hmm, this is far from true because some men with weak erections, premature ejaculation, and erectile dysfunction still get erections when they sleep and even when they wake up. This is not because they do not have a s3xual health challenge, but because it is usually a sign that their weak erection, premature ejaculation, and erectile dysfunction are caused by stress, the anxiety about performance, or some prevailing situation that they can’t fix on time. If you don’t have night-time erections, that usually means such a person’s erectile dysfunction has a physical cause. Anytime a man has a problem getting or keeping an erection on a few occasions, should not be considered a s3xual or erectile health challenge. As a matter of fact, being tired, stressed, having problems with one’s wife, or drinking too much can make it tough to get an erection, and it’s normal for that to happen once in a while.

However, men with diabetes have a higher risk of erectile dysfunction (ED) because diabetes can damage blood vessels and nerves, which can cause Erectile Dysfunction and other problems. Men who have diabetes are two to three times more likely to have s3xual health challenges than men who don’t.

 

QUESTION

Honestly, I envy my children’s s3x lives and activities

My husband and I have hit middle age, and suddenly his erections seem less firm and his libido has dropped drastically.

He says this is normal, but s3x is not just the same for me as before, this is the time I want it every now and then. Moreover, I am even ashamed to admit to myself that I am more active s3xually now than ever, and I sometimes even envy my children’s s3x life and activities.

Sometimes, I secretly ask them to tell me about their s3xual activities [pretending to be interested in their relationship], only to get myself arouse and masturbate afterward.

Funmi, please be honest with me, is this normal?

 

ANSWER

Firstly, it is very normal for you to be more active s3xually now than ever because it is part of aging for women and also you are more peaceful emotionally.

Even though, there is no need for you to envy your children’s s3x life because you can experience the same. Most males after middle age experience changes in s3xual function. They may not develop an erection as quickly or as often as before. Their erections may not be as firm. They may not maintain the maximal erection as long. Ejaculation may not occur as quickly, and there is typically less volume of ejaculate, but still, s3x can still happen.

Because these changes usually develop slowly and may not always occur to the same degree. In other words, the erect penis may be larger and firmer one day, but not the next.

Sometimes, other factors affect a man’s system: fatigue, alcohol use, some types of medications, dejection, and anxiety, mainly “performance anxiety.” Actually, this problem of performance anxiety is a good reason for you not to express your concern about your husband’s erectile changes in derogatory terms or accusatory tones, but rather find a way around it.

If you do, it will make him have low s3x-self-esteem which could make him worry more about the loss of potency and make normal s3xual function even more difficult. On the positive side, some couples find that the changes in a husband allow him to last longer in intercourse, which can potentially provide greater stimulation for his wife.

Your husband is extremely interested in and perhaps anxious about your reactions to his problem. He’s also probably very sensitive about it. Be as reassuring as you can about your love, admiration, and respect. Eliminate words that might be interpreted by him as rejection. A problem like this calls for teamwork, however, when changes in erectile ability are creating serious tension between spouses, it’s a good idea to consult a s3x therapist.

Recently, I have in addition find out some natural researched herbs with no side effects from Seychelles that can cure and also slow down erectile dysfunction to a very large extent

For more detailed information about these herbs, please call me.

This week, because of the recent discussion we had on the case of the man who complained that he was dirty and uninterested in s3x, I am going to write on the steps that a woman can take to make herself look s3xy.

Ever since I published the man’s email, I have received others saying that a lot of men experience the same thing at present. This is a large field and I know one cannot exhaust it in a single article, but we shall dwell on some important points.

First, I am going to talk about the importance of odour and s3xual hygiene. Actually, an odour is any smell. But because the word ‘odour’ is often associated with a repulsive smell, people tend to use ‘odour’ to denote an unpleasant smell. But not all odours are repulsive. Sweet odours can do wonders to your s3x life. On the other hand, offensive odour can be so repulsive that it may paralyse a couple’s s3x life. But it is not only women who have offensive odour that may paralyse a couples’ s3xuality, some male spouses are so disgustingly offensive that their wives easily get turned off when it comes to s3x.

When it comes to s3xual hygiene, these areas are very important: oral hygiene, armpit hygiene and penis/vulva hygiene. If it is mutually acceptable, it is important that you shave your pubic hair for freshness and smoothness and the armpit hair for a good odour. One of the guiding rules for successful lovemaking is complete neatness. If not, the offensive odour from the genitals can easily turn off either of the spouses. Try to take a shower regularly and smell nice. In fact, I always advise a proper bath and the use of scented roll-on before lovemaking. Make it a duty to brush your mouth at least twice daily and use breath mint to freshen your breath. There are affordable peppermints available in local shopping malls. Bad breath is always a sure turn-off. In order to prevent infection, this is especially important for those who practice oral s3x. And if you are one of those who involuntarily salivate while sleeping please do something about it. You may even pray about it because this is a big s3x ‘turn off’ and if you fart, apologise. Some men like to say, “Well, but you also do the same to me!”

Couples also need to know that it is always advantageous to cultivate the habit of putting fresh and fragrant flowers in the room.

This isn’t about body or room odour: but women, especially, should learn to dress well at home. I am not saying that you should dress as if you are going to a party. But do your hair, stop wearing the same tattered pyjamas and T-shirt to bed (men should also not wear those smelly, sweaty singlets and boxers to bed in the name of “l want to be free in my own house”). Why do you think men get turned on when their wives are dressed for a party? The wife dresses and smells so irresistibly and alluring that the husband’s hunger for s3x rises.

Women need to always remember that their men would always meet beautiful, well-dressed ladies, who also smell like flowers, in the course of the day. And a wise woman should make an allowance for this. For example, the breasts of a wife are the second objects of attraction after her face. Then why do women spend little time on this important endowment? For example, product manufacturers understand the power of good packaging, even when the product content is nothing to write home about. Manufacturers spend a fortune to give their products a befitting wrap because they know the power of good packaging. Even if the two breasts have gone pendulous, the use of good brassieres will help to bring them back to shape. The brassiere helps to display the breasts more prominently, emphasising its s3xual symbolism. It also prevents premature stretching of the fibrous supporting tissues. With a good brassiere, flat breasts become pointed when enclosed. While packaging the breasts, always put the nipple of your breast at the joining of the cup of the brassiere. Nursing mothers should always breastfeed by bringing out their breasts from the upper part of the brassiere near the chest and not from beneath the base of the bra close to the tummy. The odour of breast milk stains on brassieres can be extremely nauseating – they make s3x non-appealing. If your breast must satisfy your husband at all times as the Bible enjoins, then spice it up with a good odour, pack it well, keep it firm, and make it clean, shapely and appealing.

The use of roll-on under the fold of the breasts to keep them dry and rash free is very good. Light-fitting, lacey cotton panties give room for fresh air and prevent candidiasis infection. Deodorants can also be used on the inner parts of the thighs as it keeps them dry, and rash-free and prevents friction and irritation. The hair on either side of the curve of the thighs can be shaved to prevent bad odour and repulsive moisture. If you prefer to keep your armpit hair, make sure that they smell well at all times. It is absurd to welcome your husband in a smelly ragged, faded old nightdress when your husband is coming back from work. Nor is it appropriate to ‘blow your nose’ on the edge of your dress when under stress or overworked; it is disgustingly irritable. Wives, be sensitive to the needs of their husbands.

Cleanliness is next to godliness. A clean and well-groomed body is essential to keep your man asking for more.

 

QUESTION ONE

If I have a good morning erection am I free from every s3xual health challenge?

My friend once told me that if or whenever one wakes up with an erection it means the person is free from every penis and erection problem, in short, every s3xual health challenge in men. Please how far this is true?

 

ANSWER

Hmm, this is far from true because some men with weak erection, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction still get erections when they sleep and even when they wake up. This is not because they do not have s3xual health challenge but because it is usually a sign that their weak erection, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction is caused by stress, the anxiety of performance, or some prevailing situation that they can’t fix on time.

If you don’t have night-time erections, that usually means such a person’s erectile dysfunction has a physical cause. Anytime a man has a problem getting or keeping an erection on a few occasions, should not be considered a s3xual or erectile health challenge. As a matter of fact being tired, stressed, having problems with one’s wife, or drinking too much can make it tough to get an erection, and it’s normal for that to happen once in a while.

However, men with diabetes have a higher risk of Erectile Dysfunction  (ED) because Diabetes can damage blood vessels and nerves, which can cause Erectile Dysfunction and other problems. Men who have diabetes are two to three times more likely to have s3xual health challenges than men who don’t.

 

QUESTION TWO

I envy my children’s s3x lives and activities.

My husband and I have hit middle age, and suddenly his erections seem less firm and his libido has dropped drastically. He says this is normal, but s3x is not just the same for me as before, this is the time I want it every now and then. Moreover, I am even ashamed to admit to myself that I am more active s3xually now than ever, and I sometimes even envy my children’s s3x life and activities.

Sometimes, I secretly ask them to tell me about their s3xual activities [pretending to be interested in their relationship] only to get myself arouse and masturbate afterwards.

Please be honest with me, is this normal?

 

ANSWER

Firstly, it is very normal for you to be more active s3xually now than ever because it is part of ageing for women and also you are more peaceful emotionally. Even though, there is no need for you to envy your children’s s3x life because you can experience the same.

Most males after middle age experience changes in s3xual function. They may not develop an erection as quickly or as often as before. Their erections may not be as firm. They may not maintain the maximal erection as long. Ejaculation may not occur as quickly, and there is typically less volume of ejaculate, but still, s3x can still happen.

Because these changes usually develop slowly and may not always occur to the same degree. In other words, the erect penis may be larger and firmer one day, but not the next. Sometimes other factors affect a man’s system: fatigue, alcohol use, some types of medications, dejection and anxiety, mainly “performance anxiety.”

Actually, this problem of performance anxiety is a good reason for you not to express your concern about your husband’s erectile changes in derogatory terms or accusatory tones, but rather find a way around it.

If you express your concern about your husband’s erectile changes in derogatory terms or accusatory tones, it will make him have low s3x-self-esteem which could make him worry more about the loss of potency and make normal s3xual function even more difficult.

On the positive side, some couples find that the changes in a husband allow him to last longer in intercourse, which can potentially provide greater stimulation for his wife.

Your husband is extremely interested in and perhaps anxious about your reactions to his problem. He’s also probably very sensitive about it. Be as reassuring as you can about your love, admiration and respect.

Eliminate words that might be interpreted by him as rejection. A problem like this calls for teamwork, however, when changes in erectile ability are creating serious tension between spouses, it’s a good idea to consult a s3x therapist. Recently, I have in addition found some natural researched herbs with no side effects from Seychelles that can cure and also slow down erectile dysfunction to a very large extent.

For more information about these herbs, please call me.

 

QUESTION THREE

I am concerned it seems it gets worse by the day

Why does my semen dribble instead of squirting out during orgasm, is this normal? I am concerned it seems to get worse by the day. Does masturbation have anything to do with this?

 

ANSWER

Squirting or squeezing of semen during climaxing simply means the manner, mode or way the semen comes out during ejaculation.

Squirting can also be called spurting, gushing or spewing out. While dribble or dribbling also means trickling salivating or dripping semen during ejaculation. Whichever way a man’s semen comes out during ejaculation depends on a lot of things.  It depends on how s3xually excited he is at that particular time, or when he ejaculated last, it depends on how old the individual is, or maybe even just how tired he is.

Each man’s experience does not only differ, each man’s physiological make-up differs. It also depends long such an individual has been s3x-starved, a new wed s3x-starved man or generally s3x-starved husband will squirt over and over again and again while a regular s3x supply husband may dribble over and again.

It also depends on the type of diet a man is on.

Remember s3x is an exertion best performed by fit bodies eat well. Generally, men squirt farther when they are younger and the force diminishes as they get older and eventually just dribbles or drips out as they reach andropause.

No matter which way it comes out, the feeling is usually the same and how far it squirts out has no bearing on how pleasurable the feeling of climaxing or s3x is.  As a matter of fact, wives who enjoy harmonious s3xual intercourse with their husbands always enjoy and loved the feeling of a loaded squirting inside them. Some categories of men squirt after prolonged stimulation or interrupted stimulation, for instance, a wife can make sure she gets her husband overstimulated, make him get extremely excited but not finish up then later after some distraction getting back on the job big time. The husband will squirt powerfully. This is a one-lifetime experience husband looks forward to, wife! You can make this possible.

However, this may not be true for a habitual masturbator, instead of his ejaculatory pattern going from squirting to dribbling then drops of drips the ejaculatory configuration can just start dripping without remedy. Many masturbators argue that they can’t handle their s3xual tension and urges but the actually uncontrollable s3xual tension is a permitted myth.

S3xual urges and tension can be easily controlled once one’s s3x addiction is eliminated. When the muscle contraction is not as strong as it should be it makes the feeling of squirting less intense. But an individual can actually strengthen his PC muscles so that he will probably squirt more often. And what you do to strengthen PC muscles is you squeeze as if holding back urine; hold that squeeze for three seconds. And repeat that exercise 20 times. Do this three times a day.

This week, I would like to itemize some reasons married women find s3xual solace in the arms of other men. These articles and my counseling sessions are not  meant to castigate any spouse, but to provide an educative medium and serve as an eye-opener to things affecting marriages.

Besides, through it, I have been able to restore incalculable broken homes and bring back relationships that have been written off as hopeless, for over two decades.

Let me quickly share the tales of two married women who gave permission to alert our husbands on reasons married women fall into the next available arms.

Case One. Mrs. Loveth is married to a Nigeria-based contractor; they have been married for 15 years with two children, but her husband stays more at his office than home. Some of her friends who saw the level of negligence advised her to try out other men in order to have chances of getting s3xual satisfaction.

She went ahead and got a younger man, housed him, fed him, clothed him. He, for his part, gave her unimaginable s3xual treats and service day and night. She still treasures those memories till date.

Why did you have to go to such a demeaning extent I asked? She said: “I was dying for a man’s touch, for a man’s voice whispering s3xy things to keep me alive. I once pleaded with my husband. His only response was ‘you are jobless, that’s why you only think of s3x’. Do you know that I could decide to be a lesbian without the knowledge of my husband? However, I wanted s3x with real men, and since he denies me, I went out.’

Case Two. A high cultured university lecturer was in my office at about the closing hour who felt really embarrassed with respect to the circumstance for which she was seeking consultation.

Her husband has been away in the U.S. for the past five years, and she had fought loneliness with all sorts of s3x toys to the extent that she cannot feel sensation on her clitoris again due to numbness.  She even enrolled for a degree course just to beat loneliness – all to no avail. Instead, she craves for a man’s touch, for erotic escapades.

Against her wish, she succumbed to the advances of another man who not only satisfied her all the s3xual cravings, but also awakened the tigress in her. Now her husband is not only back but he’s not as s3xually vibrant as her new partner. Her purpose for visiting my office was to discuss how to handle the situation.

So why does a married woman seek s3xual pleasure in the arm of another man? When a married woman is s3xually neglected, deserted, abandoned, ignored, and forsaken, she falls into the arms of the next available sympathiser.

Husbands should be aware that men and women have s3xual needs, desires, attractions, tastes, and fantasies. It is a mirage to assume that the wife is only at the receiving end; she must submissively obey, and carry out the demands of her husband, ignoring the fact that she also needs to exhibit her s3xual expression!

God made both man and woman beings with similar s3xual chemistry called hormones.  The s3xual instinct of a man is God-made, but ‘He’ wants the preservation of s3x to be within the four walls of marriage. However, when endless business trips, long-distance relationships, prolonged office hours, marathon fasting, and prayer sessions are the order of the day in your marriage, there’s a need for balancing.

From my personal experience and interactions with many couples, I have discovered that s3x and money are the two most important ingredients in a marriage. When the two are present, a marriage enjoys unqualified bliss but when any of the two are missing, just one outcome is possible: unending crises.

Reason two. A woman’s heart is her first bedroom for s3x, space is provided for any one who gives attention to her heart.  Ladies, in general, have an insatiable appetite for attention, approval, affirmation, and devotion. The never-ending search for attention and affection makes a married woman find adventure in the arms of other men. Nothing wears down the immune system of the s3x bed like a husband being too busy to spend time alone with his wife. Love and s3x for a wife are spelt A-T-T-E-N-T-I-O-N and A-F-F-E-C-T-I-O-N.

No matter what you do for her, she still requires your time. To deny her attention is to jeopardize your s3x bed and create room for another man to step into the bedroom.  Love to a married woman is more than a game, it is life. A woman would give everything she has to have a marriage that works and a home that is the envy of everyone! A woman is ready to invest all her life to possess her dream home.

No matter how much a husband cares if he doesn’t communicate in action, the wife still feels unloved. There is a desire within every wife to share her greatest dreams, deepest desires, innermost thoughts, and heartfelt needs with the man she married. When a wife says to her husband, “please talk to me now,” she’s pleading for heartfelt intimacy. Unfortunately, it is an effort many husbands do not make.

A recent survey showed that 86 percent of women that seek s3xual pleasure outside their marriage did so because the other man gave them attention and affection. To have a healthy s3x bed, the husband must make time to give a few minutes’ attention to his wife. Talk, listen and respond in love to her, try as much as possible to be as good, as caring, as supportive, and as understanding as possible. Continue the courtesies of courtship in marriage; do things that will secure her faithfulness at all times.

Let your main objective be to continually study her, learn to know her, grow with her and protect her. Sometimes you both need to sit together and make reappraisals to see how you are doing in the relationship. Genuinely ask her about the things that both of you need to do in order to have a trustworthy s3x bed.

Obviously, during the time of courtship, men, like hunters, relentlessly pursue their prey and after marriage, they take the same prey for granted. You should not take your woman for granted because the monotony may send her into someone else’s arms. Keep love and affection growing by expressing love for your wife or it will die and both of you will not only drift apart, the next available confidant would have the best of s3x with her.

Spend as much time as possible doing things together with her, learn to greet her with enthusiasm. Such acts of courtesy were some of the reasons she chose to spend the rest of her life with you.

She imagined that if during courtship you could be this nice, understanding, caring, loving, friendly, encouraging and tender, then spending the rest of her life with you would be the best decision she would ever make. Treat your wife, as you would love to be treated. Please do not overlook little courtesies, especially the encouraging gestures and affection.

Brag about her when she’s within earshot. Most times, she may pretend not to be listening, but deep inside she’s happy and smiling. If you treat your wife with extra courtesies, she will blossom and service you s3xually until you protest.

 

FEEDBACK

This is feedback from a woman who helped her husband overcome premature ejaculation (PE) after attending our couples coaching session.

‘As a couple, we had struggled with and overcome PE. When my husband was battling the problem, we felt terrible; less satisfaction and more anxiety about our s3xual relationship. It wrecked my husband’s confidence and caused him to avoid s3x with me altogether. We took the bull by the horn and followed a three-step method we picked up from counseling. You too can benefit from them.

Step One: Help him

If your husband suffers from PE, you don’t have to make him feel bad. You can work on his problem without him ever knowing you know it’s a problem. Tell your husband you want to experience with him the ecstatic pleasures of male multiple orgasms.

You are going to bring him, as close to the edge as possible, but he needs to help you by letting you know when he is about to climax. By bringing him close to the point of ejaculatory inevitability, but not past it, he will experience one or two pleasurable orgasmic contractions, which will expel some of the s3xual tension that has built up in his pelvic region.

Make a game out of bringing him in and out of his “peak zone” and you’re killing two birds with one stone: giving him the pleasure of male multiple orgasms and helping him last longer.

Moreover, if he does come too quickly (which is bound to happen as you both sense it), do not make a big deal out of it is all part of the help.

Some ideal ways of pleasing him include manual and oral stimulation, as well as getting on top during intercourse. Not only does the female superior position help you to enjoy s3x by letting you press your clitoris directly against his pelvis, but also with you on top, and in control, he stays longer.

Step Two: Squeeze

Now, it is time for some squeezing. Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. Squeeze right below the head of his penis. This method pushes blood out of the penis and suppresses the ejaculatory response.

Step Three

After you have given him a good squeeze, back off his penis and go back to hugging and kissing, and focus on stimulating other body parts. Give it a good 30 to 60 seconds before you return to any form of direct genital stimulation.

Not only does this let him relax and cool down, it is also a chance for him to practice some nice trip on you. Husbands with PE are typically very anxious about wanting their wives to experience orgasms and are generally all too happy to give their wives the best s3x treat or introduce the use of drugs such as the great Cialis or 36 hours of freedom, to develop confidence and control while simultaneously arousing you.

The trick is taking the emphasis off one orgasm and focusing on serial orgasms. Finally, apply the assistance of condoms designed for men with PE. Wife, here is your marching order, go turn your one-minute-man into a s3xual superman.

 

QUESTION

I recently got married but the s3x is so disappointing. I had waited for this moment; my husband is a nice man but s3x with him is such a let-down. Is all the ‘mind-blowing s3x’ talking just hype?

ANSWER

So, your long-awaited expectations were dashed due to inexperience and you feel s3x isn’t worth it? No, you got it wrong, and blaming your man is unfair. Mind-blowing s3x is not just hype. The responsibility for good s3x is 50/50 between couples and the skill takes time and patience to master. Do you know what turns him on? Have you told him what feels good for you? Do not give up! Go back and make it work.

We have come to an era when married couples can boldly discuss their s3xual desires, fantasies, and needs with no iota of shame or fear. Most times, couples open their hearts to the wrong people about their secret s3xual desires simply because they are not courageous enough to face their partners. They do not want to feel embarrassed or be branded as neophytes. This is quite understandable. The nature of our society has placed so much restriction on s3xual discourse

For instance, there is the avowed belief that the husband should always take the lead in s3xual affairs. But in an actual sense, both partners need to give each other a helping hand for better s3x life.

For instance, when it comes to pleasing their wives, many men do not have the clue as to when their wives want s3x, simply because most women shut their mouths while burning for s3xual desire inside. And the average husband would want the wife to, at least, drop some hints.

Women, tell your husbands the exact way you want it because what most men do is more or less trial and error. Point him towards your hot spots, and do so, using positive reinforcement. For instance, every woman can experience a breathtaking and ‘oh my God’ orgasm just by locating and caressing the ‘G’ spot; even when some of them have undergone female genital mutilation. After all, the ‘G’ spot is not mutilated. Husbands love it when their wives are able to guide them without giving them the typical dirty look, snarl at them, or push them away scornfully, behaving like a sacrificial lamb about to be slaughtered. No! Tell him how good it feels when he does something right, or erotically remind him of a performance that leaves you panting for more. This boosts his ego. For instance, wives love it when their husbands use their fingers to caress the inner part of their vagina. Every man wants to hear and know he is the best in bed, at least, from his wife. If he is not giving you enough foreplay, go ahead and tell him where you want to feel his hand or mouth (please, make sure you are clean inside out) and tell him that you want the moment to be a long one. Through guidance, a wife will surely get the maximum pleasure from every session of a s3xual affair with her husband.

As much as wives want to be turned on, husbands also want their wives to turn them on. It is no joke. Real hard work requires that a man should always sacrificially help to get the wife in the mood for s3x, recognising that it takes a long time for a woman to get aroused. Though most loving men are more than willing to get their wives fired up, husbands would appreciate it if their wives give themselves a head start occasionally. Try to get yourself into a s3xual state of mind. Reminding yourself about the last best s3xual encounter between you and your husband definitely turns you on, on sighting your husband. You can also remember the time he was so affectionate towards you. Create loving and sensual feelings by just fantasising about that alone.

I am sure you can still remember the article which dwelt on some daring, wild, erotic, exhilarating, and sensational positions. Except you experiment with it, you will not experience the bliss of sensation.

I always drum it into the ears of married women that our husbands care much about what we do. Even when their eyelids appear closed, we shouldn’t be deceived, men can see between the lines.

The taste is not only in the touch but also in the look. Their eyes are focused on every detail and this is being recorded in the subconscious mind. Often, they cast their minds back to their wives when they are tempted outside. If they get the best from their wives, they won’t go into extra-marital affairs. So, wives, be wise. This is not the time to postpone s3x till midnight when the children are asleep; you can have it at any time of the day.

Don’t bother about your saggy breast or shape. I can assure you, a high percentage of husbands are not so bothered about your shape or size, the moment they are ready. But they are very concerned about their wives ‘delivery.’ So, ‘deliver’ and leave the rest to the body. Your husband wants to watch you in your full glory and how your body reacts to their advances and how much you enjoy what they do to you. This is what gives a man the conquering satisfactory look. Some husbands want their wives to put on s3xy and seductive clothes.

Wives should never underestimate the profound power of new, nice, and scented s3xy lingerie which can produce an instant erection in men. I always encourage wives not to be afraid of getting naughty once in a while with their husbands. There is this feel of not wanting to shatter the ‘good girl’ image he has of you or the fact that you are weird. But the honest truth is that these husbands are not just sure of your reaction and they don’t want to offend you by asking for it. Of course, the real couple’s life s3x may not be as perfect as the ones being portrayed in movies, but you can still be a little wild by doing things that let him know how much you enjoy having s3x with him. Ironically, this will also give the wife the confidence to ask for what they want.

There is no point denying that an average spouse wants something new and exciting in bed.

No married partner wants ordinary s3x when they can swim in the ocean of the extraordinary.

So, every married couple needs to pull a move that either of the partners would not be able to stop thinking about weeks after. Therefore, married lovers should master some particular and peculiar s3xual tricks that are really out of this world. type can make the same wonderful s3x fall below average and even turn sour. So, there is no harm in opening up to variations. Don’t let your spouse easily predict your moves. The average human being loves surprises. Give them the best and see a changed person in your spouse.

Newness in speed, look, pressure, position, and place will definitely make for more interesting and explosive s3x life. Variety keeps s3x partners in a heightened state of arousal because neither of them is aware of what to expect next. Women love surprises.

It is bad when couples cannot remember the last time either of them surprised each other; s3x has become so habitual, thus making you an auto-pilot.

Re-ignite the old passion; plan a hot evening full of surprises. Create erotic anticipation; you can even phone and give a hint, but keep the detail.

Remember, curiosity, they say, kills the cat. But this time around, it kills boredom.

 

Question

My wife does not have s3xual feeling

I need your advice. My wife does not have any s3xual feeling. Is there any medication for this?

 

Answer

There is no woman without s3xual feelings. It is either not expressed or well expressed. Most times, societal values and family upbringing or early childhood trauma may affect the libido and s3xual expression of some women. But I can assure you, if you treat her with careful understanding and love, she will change.

 

Question

I have lost my s3xual power

We are a couple in our late 30s. Before our marriage, my wife used to talk of my s3xual prowess. I was still able to maintain this after our marriage. Suddenly, I noticed that I usually become soft anytime I want to have s3x with my wife, and it is not so whenever I come close to other ladies.

I am faithful to my wife, though she doubts me. What can I do? This is a serious issue. I have been managing the shame in silence. Can you give me a lasting solution? If one’s wife is not satisfied, she will definitely get satisfaction elsewhere.

 

Answer

I am sure that if you go the extra mile in making sure that you bring new innovations into your s3x life, you will enjoy your wife. It is possible for your wife to doubt your faithfulness if you do not satisfy her and you cannot get the best out of such a relationship.

 

Question

I have low sperm count

I’m married and I have a five-year-old daughter. Since the child was born, my wife has not been able to get pregnant and we have conducted a series of tests. I was diagnosed with a low sperm count. To compound the problem, I now have fewer s3xual feelings. Is it possible for me to impregnate my wife in this situation? We have spent a fortune on this without any improvement. Is there any known traditional treatment or any piece of advice that will make my wife conceive? What are the possible causes of this low sperm count?

 

Answer

Low sperm count could be due to poor dietary intake, stress, and other medical conditions. Since you have consulted your doctor, I will advise you to relax and do all you can to take your mind off the situation. We all know that nothing is impossible with God.

 

Question

I can’t go beyond one round

I usually find it difficult to go beyond one round with my wife. What could be responsible for that?

 

Answer

You may need to change your diet and do something to reduce the stress you go through every day. Except you are in your mid-40s, you should not be experiencing such. If this persists, consult a medical doctor.

 

Question

How can I retain the firmness of my vaginal walls?

I am a young lady in my mid-thirties and I am blessed with a loving man, who is the only man I ever had s3x with. According to him, making love with me is like taking a walk around the garden of Eden. He confesses this at every opportunity.

My major concern is, I am currently two months pregnant and I heard that women tend to lose the firmness of their vaginal walls after childbirth. How true is this? Can I opt for a CS instead of the normal delivery method? I am afraid of the pains of labour.

 

Answer

You have the right to choose the one you want. But, be aware that C/S and normal vaginal delivery have both their advantages and disadvantages. Actually, most African ladies opt for normal vaginal delivery because of its advantages over C/S. If you ever consider changing your mind, you can practice KEGEL exercise after delivery. The point of emphasis here is that with or without C/S, you may lose the tightness of your virginal wall.