Reality TV star Bamike Olawunmi Adenibuyan aka Bambam has claimed she was a victim of s3xual molestation as a child and young adult.
The actress, in a video clip on her Instagram page, narrated the traumatic experiences which affected her in no small measure.
But she said she’s been receiving help from therapy with constant support from her colleague and hubby, Teddy A which has managed to tone down the negative effects of the scarring created by the ugly ordeals.
Recounting her ‘troublesome’ childhood experiences, she begun: “Recently, there’s been terrible news going on about child abuse, child trafficking, pedophilia. I have two beautiful daughters and I think we need to back off from that mentality of not trying to do anything about it….
“I remember when I was just three. My parents were working parents. So I grew up with maids and nannies and I had no…..like I’ll just come back from school and it’ll just be me and the nanny.
“And we had one when I was between the ages of two and three. I believe that woman was just possessed and sick in the head. I don’t think that woman was more than 18 and she just derived pleasure in bullying me.
“She would not feed me, whenever she was horny, she would force me to suck her breast. She would use my fist to masturbate. She would tie my mouth and punish me. Like she just enjoyed torturing me.
“Clearly, she was someone who was abused when she was younger. And if you’ve noticed a pattern, hurt people, hurt other people. And because I was still learning to talk, she would tell me that, ‘if I told my parents, shey it’s her that I’ll be left with. My parents would go to work. That she’ll starve me.”
Bambam, recollecting series of abuses she experienced and how they impacted her, continued “As I got older, different series of abuse happened in my young age. And I know the impact it’s had on my life. Even now that I’m married, there are times Teddy A and I need to really sit down and talk about certain things because certain things are like trigger for me sexually.
“And if not that I’ve grown older and I’m matured, and I’ve seen a therapist. And I’ve learnt to deal with it. And I’m married to a man who understands, and we have learnt to go on the journey together. How much more those who don’t know any better? How much more those who don’t have the opportunity to be married to men who don’t understand? How much more those who have refused to marry at all?
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“How much more those who think because they were molested by women, they are lesbians? Or those who were molested by men think they are homosexuals? It’s just a programming that has made them believe since I had my first experience this way maybe that’s who I am.”
Reiterating meaner punishment for child abusers traffickers, the mother of two captioning her post added: “I Was Abused by a Nanny as a child between the ages of 2-8. “Part 1” (part 2 is on next post)
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“She used my fist to masturbate and forced me to suck her breast while at it, it has affected me in different ways. I have also been raped a few times as a young girl, I wasn’t ready to have sex with some of the guys I dated in the past, so they forced themselves on me.
“During sex some things trigger trauma I didn’t know wasn’t dealt with, I have gotten help, I still get help.
“Look sex MUST be consensual even in marriage! Sex must be consensual at all times! Don’t manipulate a mind into it! Not to talk of children?!!!
“I stand against PEDOPHILIA CHILD TRAFFICKING, CHILD MOLESTATION AND ABUSE/ SEX INDOCTRINATION OF ANY-FORM!
“Hurt and mentally sick people hurt other people! That nanny was clearly abused or possessed and felt it was okay to do all she did to me! We have sick people making laws to permit their sick orientations! Make it stop!!!”
