Enoch Odesola, a student of Bells University, Ota, says that he would not like his lady to spend so much time on make-up. “A lady in waiting should be very mindful of her association. This is very key. Enough of the games and child-plays and get serious with your life. Many young ladies still have friends that are not serious about life hovering about them. A friend that does not have the same interest with you in marriage may just influence you with hers. This is important because the association you keep will influence your decision on any of the tips listed here. Personally, you would know such friends around you because they are not hard to identify. Try to desist from them. There are some friends that one will keep and might never get married or never be taken serious.
Chastity must, of course, be positive. No guy wants to marry a girl that has lost her chastity to the winds, especially not by him. It is good for a lady in waiting to keep herself for her husband. No seats before marriage. Many young ladies have thought this to be an “olden days” advice, but I tell you it is true and still applies today. The rate of divorce is rapidly increasing and this is one of the major causes. Trust me, you do not want to handle a broken home. Chastity also increases the level of respect and value your spouse has for you. This is not an old tale.
Don’t feel desperate to be married, and so no guy should feel like he is doing you a favour by marrying you. You are getting married to him to add to his life and so carry yourself with a little bit of pride and modesty. You are not trash. Walk with a lot of dignity and not pride, a lot of modesty and not forming. Also, be a value-adding personality alongside being a very important person. You should be ready to add one or two things to the life of the person you hope to get married to. One should not just be on the receiving side, but also learn to give. A guy should be able to say, “Because you came into my life, I was able to achieve this and this.” Do not be a trouble maker but a peace giver. Mr. Olalekan Adesina said that values are the traits that the man would count on to serve as foundational pillars upon which his family would grow. He added that every man needs a lady whose values would boost his ego and the value she upholds determines who comes calling.
God is the most paramount in the life of the lady in waiting. For every tip written here, it is God that would help actualise all of them. Many people don’t believe in that story of God picking a life-partner for a person because many have fallen into the hands of liars. But a lady that knows her God would not make mistakes and have regrets in her marriage. I personally believe that God was the one who made us and he knows what is best for us and so whatever decision you have to make concerning your spouse, I think God should be involved. While having a chat with someone, he said, “Her God should be prime in all as it is God that can indeed ordain a head for her as she continually seeks him.” Every virtuous lady deserves a man who can “pastor” her effectively and only her God can order her steps to achieve such. Well, I don’t have an advice for the atheists; maybe they should trust their instincts alone.
Where she finds herself
Hmmm… this one is very important. This has to do with the places she finds herself. A lady that wants to get married would not like to be seen in some places. The places you used to go with your friends when you were much younger and less concerned about marriage might just have to change. Mr. Adesina, also contributing to this aspect, said, “A lady in waiting would not want to be found ‘waiting’ in red-light districts. A lady would be patronised only by the patrons of her position. A lady waiting in dim-lit or dark places would not be found by a man of light except by a man of dark places too. Her positioning and places she finds herself must constantly reflect the type of the person she is waiting for.”
Keeping her home
Keeping the home has to do with managing your home. If you can manage your time, then you might not have many problems here. You must know how to meet the needs of your husband as well as children and making sure nobody is lacking at any point in time. This could be quite difficult but what makes it easy is when a lady has maintenance and management already like a habit. At this point, it does not become a stress, but now a lifestyle. A lady in waiting must then learn how to manage and keep a home. As I said before, you don’t learn how to fight in the ring. A lady is accountable for the well-being of her children and husband. Always be ready to learn from people around you. This aspect is actually the pillar that keeps your household together. A home not properly managed might soon be shattered. Try to spend time with your family.
