Category: New Woman

  • Crack that bone, end domestic violence

    Crack that bone, end domestic violence

    Compliments of the season, lovely ladies,” Tinu greeted the pack as she walked into *Christabel’s living room. But no one answered.

    “Hellooo ladies…are you there…, “ hollered Tinu.  Still, all was silent. We didn’t want to get caught. As if it was planned, we had gathered in Christabel’s on her invitation not knowing that something would happen that morning that would have disrupted our usual meeting at the Women’s Corner. With me were the usual suspects, Sexy Jola, Mummy Fawaz, Tamara, Ada and Mummy Judith.

    Like one engrossed in a Nollywood movie, we were spying on a new neighbour in another block from the kitchen window. We had watched as the neigbour, Mr. Effiong, was being rushed into an ambulance and the arrival of the police.

    The man and his wife, Mummy Iniebong, did not allow the whole estate to sleep: they fought all through the night. We woke up to find that she has broken her hubby’s head and he was rushed to the hospital. Ironically, the couple had moved in recently to replace another couple (Angela and her hubby) who were forced to move out due to their personal scuffles. Remember that ‘Angela the Giant’ beside Mummy Judith’s flat who used to beat up her husband; and it turned out the whole problem was because of their conjugal matters.

    The police had been invited and Mummy Ini was being interrogated. We were still watching the scene when Tinu walked into the kitchen and screamed: “I dey greet o…,” and startling us with her greetings. 

    “Haba, Tinu, take it easy na. Why are you shouting like we are deaf,” cautioned Ada in a hushed tone.

    “No vex, I have been screaming my greetings without anyone answering,” she pleaded.

    “We heard you the first time but we were trying to get the gist of what was going on outside,” Tamara explained as she helped Christabel with the bowl of soup she was carrying.

    “What are you guys looking at,” Tamara gestured to Tinu to help with the table mat, dropped the bowl and went ahead to download all we have learnt of the matter to our friend Tinu while we sat down to eat. Suddenly, a knock on the door drew our attention away from Tamara’s gist. It was Nurse Ejiro.

    “Ejiro, were you not supposed to be on duty,” queried Jolaolu.

    Ejiro explained her shift was cut short after she found that Mr. Effiong was rushed to her hospital: she made sure he was properly taken care of and escorted him back with the ambulance.

    “How is he now?” We asked with worried looks on our faces.

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    “He is okay,” she replied, grabbed a plate and joined us on the table. “Initially, I pitied him, wondering why his wife can be so wicked. Only for me to learn that he had been abusing his wife for long time, even before they moved here. She complained that he would hit her at any slight altercation, even before their conjugal duties. And she had had it up to here. But seeing the way we lived peacefully in this estate, and after attending Ada’s symposium on the 16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence (GBV), she decided to fight back. “That’s our Girl,” screamed Ada with a morsel in her mouth.

    I nodded my head as I busied myself with the food before me like some others, but the suffering of Tamara over a bone made me laugh.

    “Haba, it’s punishment to give a sister this kind of bone that refuses to crack.

    But seriously, like this bone, why has domestic violence become a huge thing to crack as a society. Must we resort to violence when every time we want to make a point? Was it not what drove Sharon, our sweet Tomato Jos from her husband’s house?” Tamara questioned.

    And just then, Ada gave a very insightful, reply to Tamara’s questions, “GBV is something we do not want to talk about or address as a society. When it’s us going through it, we keep mute. And if it’s someone else, we turn a blind eye. The shady way we all pass the blame when a neighbour dies is true evidence of our collective silence. What happened in Mummy Ini’s case could have been worse. No wonder, she was spoke with so much passion that morning at my event. We could almost taste the pain in her voice when she was asking questions on behalf of her friend, not knowing she was the one going through the problem she painted. What a world. We should invite her to Women’s Corner soon.”
    We all agreed, and continued with the feast before us.

  • Moneybags buy up rural communities, sack indigent citizens from cities

    Moneybags buy up rural communities, sack indigent citizens from cities

    Indigent people including farmers in remote and rural communities are losing their treasures at an alarming rate to investors in real estate who are on the prowl for land acquisition. Besides buying up available lands, developers are also buying up houses in many cities, kicking out poor tenants. INNOCENT DURU examines the implications of the trend for food security and housing challenges for the poor considering that a large number of indigent citizens have no means of living in the expensive and exquisite estates.

    • Food crisis looms as real estate investors take over farmlands
    • Development worsens security situation for rural dwellers – Builder Awobodu

    Sam, a resident of Epe area of Lagos State, and his kinsmen have lived in the community for ages. In fact, they were born in the community and also grew up in it to marry and raise their own children.

    For them, life revolves around the area. But the invasion of the area by investors in real estate lately has seriously unsettled them as they fear that their portion in the community could also be bought anytime soon.

    “If that happens, we will have a serious crisis to deal with,” he said. “This is the only place we have known all our lives. We were born in this place and have in turn given birth too.

    “Many people in neigbouring communities have been displaced after the land they were living on was bought. They are facing serious accommodation crisis.

    “I don’t even know how some of them survived it. If you look around many remote parts of this area, you will see estates all over the place.  Many of them have been there for years while many other new ones are springing up.

    “The more estates are built, the more poor people are displaced.”

    Another resident, who gave her name as Helen, said: “The poor have no place again in the society. When they buy the lands where poor people like us are living, they begin to sell them at outrageous rates, which people like us cannot afford. Where would people like us get hundreds of thousands of naira to buy land?

    “Everybody cannot live in an estate. The annoying thing is that they have left the city to buy up land in remote places where people like us are managing our lives.

    “It is unfair. The poor should also be given some space in the society.”

    Aside from Epe area of Lagos State, checks showed many remote areas across the country, the southern part in particular have been invaded by people investing in real estate. Experts have put the figure of Nigerians facing housing challenges at 62million. The number, from every indication, will continue to rise as moneybags continue to acquire lands and displace indigent people living in those areas.

    A resident of Mowe Area of Ogun State who gave his name simply as Hassan said the fear of real estate investors has become the beginning of wisdom for many tenants in the area and adjoining communities.

    He particularly cited the ofada area meant for growing local rice as one of the areas that have been bought over by real estate investors.

    He said: “Many parts of this axis have been taken over by real estate developers. Some people, out of poverty, are selling their property to them, forcing the poor tenants to look for accommodation elsewhere.

    “This is a serious issue, because it is not everybody that will live in an estate and it is not everybody that will build a house.

    “Poor people will have to live somewhere. But if the estate developers continue to buy every available land and house, the poor will not have a place to live anymore, and that will constitute a serious crisis in the society.”

    The activities of developers are not restricted to Lagos and Ogun states alone. Checks in some parts of Ibadan, the Oyo State capital, revealed that apart from buying virgin lands that were being used for different purposes by the people, developers are also buying existing buildings.

    A victim, who gave her name simply as Gethrude, said: “I paid for a year’s rent, and when it expired, the agent, who knew that the house would be sold, asked me to pay another rent for a year.

    “I agreed and paid, but shortly after I made the payment, the people who bought the house came and asked us to vacate. They only gave us three months as deadline.

    “When I complained to the agent, he said the buyers would refund our money. But the buyer only ended up paying a part of the money.

    “When I approached the local chief to complain, he said I should thank God that I could even get some refund.

    “It was a huge setback for me because I had to go looking for accommodation shortly after a year, and paid fresh commissions for the new apartment.”

    Farmers lose farmlands, investments to developers

    Findings also showed that apart from indigent residents in rural communities, farmers are also losing their farmlands to estate developers.

    Some of the farmers who spoke with our correspondent said the ugly development could worsen the challenge of food insecurity in the country.

    A former Chairman of Agriculture, Lagos State Chamber of Commerce and Industry (LCCI), Prince Wale Oyekoya, said he recently lost his farmland to estate developers. 

    “I am a victim, so you are asking the right person. Our farm around Epe has been taken over by estate developers. They have taken over the whole place, and the place is meant to be for farming.

    “The military owned the place but it was given to Lagos State Government for agricultural purposes. The local people in those places have been displaced. The whole place is like a ghost town now because they have chased the people away. 

    “The Lagos State Government allocated the land to us for farming. But right now, the omo onile (land grabbers) are conniving with developers to take over the whole place. 

    “As I am talking, two of my workers were arrested by the police through the developers. They were taken to court and remanded in Kirikiri correctional facility. 

    “The arrested guys were just working on the farm. They didn’t do anything wrong. But they lied against them, claiming that they found ammunition on them. 

    “How can you arrest someone that is working on a tomato farm and claim that they demolished property worth N50 million?”

    Oyekoya said prior to the time the developers took over his farmland, “we had made huge investments on the farms. We even had those who were into animal husbandry. We lost over 3,000 chickens when they came and chased everybody away.

    “If you don’t feed chicken for one or two days, it will become a problem.

    “When those hoodlums come to your farms, they are armed to the teeth. It is when there is pressure from the media and people like us that there would be a stop to this.

    “Most of us have taken loans from banks, friends and families to do all these, and that would mean that everything would go down the drain.

    “It is a big pain, and we are complaining that foodstuff is expensive. It is not only here. It also happens in the north and even in the east.”

    Also sharing his experience, Afero Dalegan, a farmer in Epe area of Lagos State, said: “My farm was also affected.

    “The Lagos State government gave us the farm because they collected the land on which we were farming and relocated us to where we are presently. 

    “Subsequently, omo onile started selling the land to estate developers. We cannot access the land anymore. 

    “They threatened that they would kill us and do all manner of things to us. They even brought military men with them.”

    Implications for food security

    Speaking on the implications of losing agricultural lands to estate developers, Prince Oyekoya feared that the country could suffer from severe food scarcity if the menace was not addressed.

    He said: “Most of the farmers in Lagos State have had their lands taken over by developers.  The same thing is happening in Benue and most of the northern axis of the country too. 

    “It is a very big problem, and that is why food production is very expensive. There is no land for people to farm again.

    “The implication is that there would be food crisis. When there is no food security, there would be a food crisis. Prices of foodstuffs will go up.

    “Farmers from Itokin, Erijinmowo, up to Epe have been displaced. They chased everybody away from the farm. 

    “Most of these people have no business in real estate. They are chasing us away because they feel that the farm is close to the Dangote Refinery and all that.  Definitely, it is going to affect food supply.”

    Also regretting the setback caused by their predicament, Idowu said: “Among us are poultry farmers who had 10,000 birds and were producing eggs. But now they can’t go there. 

    “The consequence is that the quantity of eggs going to the market will be reduced.

    “I have cashew in my own farm. I sell it to exporters. I also have cassava farms but they are not allowing us to go there.

    “It is certainly affecting Nigeria’s food security. It is also affecting the foreign exchange that the country is supposed to be earning.

    “When I produce cashew, we always export the seed and get more dollars. When we export cassava we get more foreign exchange. But now everything is at a standstill.”

    Farmers take battle to Lagos govt

    Worried by the incursion of estate developers on farmlands, the affected farmers led by Prince Oyekoya paid a courtesy visit to the Attorney General of Lagos State during the week.

    “We are just coming from the Attorney General’s office as we are talking now,” Prince Oyekoya said.

    “The Attorney General said this is a big problem because most of the farmland that they gave to farmers has been taken over by developers. 

    “In fact, it seems you are reading the mind of the Attorney General. I told the Attorney General that all he needs to do is to strengthen the Land Grabbers’ office.”

    Also corroborating Prince Adekoya, Dalegan said: “We met the honourable Commissioner for Justice and he was sympathetic with us. He promised that he was going to look into it.

    “But you know how the government works. When they tell you they will do something, it may take time.”

    Estate developers exposing rural people to security challenges – Builder Awobodu

    A former President of the Nigerian Institute of Builders, Kunle Awobodu, in a telephone chat with our correspondent, noted that rural dwellers are constantly exposed to security challenges as they have to further move into isolated areas, each time estate developers displace them from their communities. 

    He said: “For those people in the rural areas, they would have to go further into the forest. It is unfortunate but that is what is happening.

    “When rural people are made to go further into the forest, it is another level of suffering. 

    “When you go to the outskirts of a town, not a city, it is another level of suffering. 

    “When you go deep into the outskirts, you are exposed to attacks from criminals.  That is what those who stay on the outskirts face. Whenever they go to work and come back, hoodlums would have stolen their little property.

    “Staying on the outskirts has security implications, but that is the fault of the local chiefs, and government. When the government is taking land from communities, they always excise some plots of land.

    “If the government does not take the land where people are already occupying, why would they allow developers to do that?

    “It is recklessness. The local chiefs and land owners are guilty of that.”

    In spite of the rush by estate developers to acquire large expanses of land by estate developers, Awobodu said most of those estates are not really developed.

    “If you go to Ofada area, you will see so many estates. They wouldn’t build any house. All they will build are sample buildings for exhibition and a large expanse of land will be there for years.

    “It is for speculation. They are trying to speculate into the future that in five years, six years or ten years’ time, development will get to those areas and the land could be resold.

    “Don’t mind them, because they may not develop the estate in future. It is part of speculation.

    “On the Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, they are many there. Also when you are heading towards Epe and Ijebu Ode, they are many there. It is all part of speculation.

    “When they take land from the indigene or people within that area, well, I don’t know why those ones will accept that. It is part of speculation. It is a business. 

    “When you have some money, property is a business you can invest money in for years and reap bountifully. People bought some of those lands and discovered that those places are not yet habitable.”

    Some of the displaced people, according to Awobodu, don’t own the land.

    Explaining further, he said: “What is happening in Abuja is that some of the lands that have been acquired,  those who are working in the city will go and set up temporary shelter they know might be demolished after a while. It is just for them to manage with their family.

    “From there, they will be going to work in the centre of the city.  That is why in developed countries now, they try to provide accommodation, they have some specific buildings in the centre of the city where the low income earners can stay not far from their offices.

    “There is the existence of societal stratification in the society. The people at the lower wrung of the ladder in the society are so many and they are so contented that most of them occupy tenement buildings popularly called ‘face me I face you’.

    “You would find a whole family staying in a room. All the tenants in the house are using a common toilet and common kitchen.

    “When you go to a village setting too, it is more or less like that. But the elite stay in a six-bedroom or three-bedroom apartment, and at the end of the day, not all the rooms are occupied.

    “It is a societal contradiction.”

    Also commenting on developers who are buying up existing buildings and sending the tenants out, Awobodu said the solution lies in adopting the late Lateef Jakande, the former Lagos State governor’s approach to solving housing problems.

    “This is an area where we have to remember people like the late Jakande who built rent-to-own houses. He built so many houses where you would be paying rent and later own it. 

    “That is the recommendation that we are making for the low income earners. We have been advocating this for a long time. We said there should be a deliberate housing scheme that will consider low income earners.

    “This is what the new minister of housing and urban development is working towards. That is what he is doing presently. We pray that state governments would emulate that.

    “The Lagos State Government has also built some houses that are meant to be rent-to-own. That is a way of overcoming this challenge.”

    62 million Nigerians facing housing crisis

    Managing Director/Chief Executive Officer of Sow Real Estate, Mrs Uzo Onukwubiri, recently put the figure of Nigerians facing housing crisis at 62 mllion. 

    She said: “Nigeria has an estimated population of about 200 million people, and about 30 per cent of the entire population still struggle with quality shelter and housing crisis.

    “This implies that urgent attention should be placed on the country’s housing sector if the housing needs of the inhabitants are to be met.

     “One key issue affecting housing delivery in Nigeria is that the level of housing shortage has not been adequately presented. This is a result of inadequate and inappropriate statistics and data by the managers of housing in Nigeria.

    “However, there have been attempts to estimate the magnitude of the housing shortage in Nigeria. The National Housing Policy specified in detail that to achieve the goal of providing 15 million housing units by the year 2022, 1.2 million housing units would have to be built each year.

    “It concluded that this number is necessary to compensate for the housing shortage in the country.

    “It is estimated that around 100,000 housing units are built each year, and an average of 80% of Nigerians live in informal housing, which is plagued by problems related to poor quality and inadequate infrastructure.

    “Although the exact reasons for the housing shortage vary across the country, the main problem in Nigeria is the low income of residents. This is problematic since privately constructed houses are expected to comply with official planning laws and other costs incurred during the construction of the house.

    “Huge resources including effort, time, materials and money have been devoted to planning the Nigerian environment at the national and sub-national levels. Nonetheless, the various challenges that have been, and are being addressed have hardly diminished. In fact, the problems of housing shortages such as physical deterioration, poverty, inadequacies and inequality in the service delivery system have escalated. The incidence and growth of these problems seem to outpace the capacity of the government to take them on. Nigerians are faced with the fact that their cities are in trouble and that there is an urgent need to do something that will ameliorate the emerging problems.”

    FG plans to build 34,500 houses nationwide

    The President Bola Tinubu-led federal government in October announced its plans to build 34,500 houses across the country in a move aimed at addressing the housing shortage in the country.

    The Minister of Housing and Urban Development, Mr Ahmed Musa Dangiwa, stated this when the Executive Governor of Taraba State, Agbu Kefas, paid a courtesy visit to the ministry in Abuja.

    Dangiwa said as part of the first phase of the ‘Renewed Hope Cities Project’, the Federal Government aims to construct approximately 34,500 houses across the country.

    This initiative will be carried out via a combination of the Federal Mortgage Bank, Federal Housing Authority, and Private-Public Partnerships (PPP).

    He said: “With this project alone, we aim to create over 240,000 jobs at 7 per housing unit. This is in line with Mr. President’s goal to create jobs, lift 100 million Nigerians out of poverty and grow the economy.

    “In doing this, the government was building for the 80% of Nigerians who fall within the non-income, low-income and medium-income brackets. We are focusing on affordability but without compromising quality.”

    He also said the ministry was collaborating with the National Population Commission (NPC) to determine the actual housing deficit in the country.

    Dangiwa said: “Our in-house estimates show that for us to meet the housing needs of Nigerians, we need to build about 550,000 new homes per annum over the next 10 years.”

    The minister also disclosed that the Ministry had communicated with state governors, requesting approximately 50 hectares of land at no cost for Renewed Hope Cities.

    According to him, this approach would enable the Ministry to offer the houses at a price that Nigerians could afford.

    He also sought the governor’s support as the ministry intended to revise the Land Use Act of 1978 to streamline land administration and facilitate access to land, making it a more efficient, rapid and cost-effective process with the enactment and adoption of the model mortgage foreclosure law that establishes mortgage registries.

  • Make yourself attractive without worry about your looks

    Make yourself attractive without worry about your looks

    Looking good is good business, but how do you make yourself attractive without worrying so much about the outward beauty?

    Vogue writer, Dulce Moncada tells it all in her article, 5 things that make you more attractive that have nothing to do with your looks.

    “Today we’re going to reveal a huge secret–the things that make you more attractive are found within you, in your personality, way of thinking and acting. And we know this is a little hard to believe since we live in a world that often overemphasizes physical appearance, but it’s essential to remember that true beauty goes far beyond what’s reflected in the mirror.

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    “The confidence you have in yourself and your charisma are attributes that are cultivated from within and are capable of illuminating any space you find yourself in. Don’t believe us yet? We reveal to you those aspects that make you look beautiful and that have nothing to do with physique so that you can put them to the test, empower your true essence and shine with your own light.

    ·               Sense of humour

    ·               Authenticity

    ·               Empathy

    ·               Generosity

    ·               Knowledge

     Remember, true beauty emanates from within, so it’s important that you feel good about yourself so you can project it and develop personally. Give it a try!

    • Culled from https://www.vogue.in/content/5-things-that-make-you-more-attractive-that-have-nothing-to-do-with-your-looks

  • Tomato Jos cascades a violent December

    Tomato Jos cascades a violent December

    Tomato Jos has landed…,” muttered the vivacious Tamara, disrupting my tête-à-tête with Tinu, who was telling me how she discovered a bush market (local wholesale market for foodstuff in town), courtesy Mummy Yinusa.

    Remember that Mummy Yinusa, who saved our Fashionista, Christabel from passing out after a jogging session with Coconut water. It was that Mummy Yinusa that Tinu said connected her to the woman who took her to one of those markets after the meeting of the house which I mention in last week’s write-up. You recall that Christabel had suggested that as Black Friday ended last week and the Yuletide season begins, we should weather the storm of the hike in the prices of foodstuff through bulk buying. Tinu and Christabel were named our food ministers and were given the responsibility of coordinating the whole affair. She was about filling me in with the details when Tamara walked in.

    “Did you hear me, Eve? Tomato Jos… Sharon has arrived and she comes with lots of goodies,” she repeated, and the last part of her statement caught my ears.

    “Really… when? She remembered us after a long while…,” I screamed excitedly, after recalling she always had stuff form everyone.

    “Who is this Tomato Jos?” Tinu asked.

    “She is our in-law…I mean the sister in-law to Ada. We love her so much. She is truly a nice person. She is a key member of our Women’s Corner. She always brings us things when she comes to visits…”

    “Who is Tamara praising with such passion,” Christabel asked as she grabbed herself a seat and Tamara went ahead to explain herself away.

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    “But why is she called Tomato Jos sef?” Christabel queried.

    “That’s the nickname her family members call her and it was the name that brought her into trouble with her hubby. But for us, it is our fond name that we use to celebrate her as the strong woman she is. She went through a terrible marriage that was laced with domestic violence and a harsh divorce but she came with her head held high. She is today a big business woman supplying big hotels and some VIPs foodstuff,” Sexy Jola took over the explanation.

    “And she always visits us in December which is the anniversary of her divorce. Incidentally, she says December is the most violent of all the months, because when other women are celebrating with gifts from their husbands, her gifts her with kicks and blows. But instead of feeling sad, every year after her divorce, she travel abroad to celebrate for season and commemorate her freedom from ‘hell’ as she puts it,” highlighted Mummy Fawaz

    “Woah, what a story, I can’t wait to meet this great woman,” Tinu said, excitedly.

    “Don’t worry Tee; you won’t have to wait for long. Here she comes,” announced Jolaolu. And we looked to Ada’s wing of the blocks of flats a smiling Barrister Ada accompanied by Tomato Jos herself with a big cooler in hand.

    “Did I not tell you…Jolly done come,” whispered Tamara as we all rose to welcome our heroine.

    “How una dey o… I done miss una,” she expressed with a wide smile even as the ladies took the cooler from her.

    “Na we miss you pass,” I stated and introduced her to the newbies in the pack and praised her beautiful attire. “Sharp woman, fine woman…You go kill them o,” I teased and hugged her.

    “Them done die finish. Abeg make we jolly joor. I get gist for una,” she replied.

    “We too gist for you,” Jolaolu replied as Ada opened the cooler to let out a mesmerising aroma that drew us into it coffers.

  • From crutches to millionaire footwear maker: Amazing story of Aderinsola

    From crutches to millionaire footwear maker: Amazing story of Aderinsola

    You can call her amazing. Twenty-two-year-old sociologist-turned footwear manufacturer Aderinsola Omirin is that and more. This CEO of Solasoles, a handmade footwear brand, rose from crutches to becoming a millionaire footwear maker, redefining the industry by her casual and orthopaedic shoes for those with special needs. In this interview with EVELYN OSAGIE, she speaks on her journey, her book, The Radiant Path, and more.

    The Inspiration behind my going into footwear business at 16 can be linked to when I had an accident. I broke my leg at the age of 13 and I was on crutches for a long time. I could not wear shoes or anything on my right leg. I wasn’t mobile and was in that situation for a while. Even when I got well, I found it difficult to wear heels and that was how I fell in love with casual shoes. That was what led to my establishing the orthopedic line in my business. I do not just make shoes for women and kids; I also make for people with special needs because I was once in that space. I got healed and causal shoes became my thing after the accident.

    My journey

    In general, I’ll say it has been a very life transforming one in diverse ways not just for me but other people. It has been amazing. I’ve learnt so many things, and met people. I was privileged to be trained by one of the best, who had been there for decades. I’ve been able to widen my understanding about life and business. I’ve had diverse experiences that taught me many lessons and I’m still learning.

    I started my footwear business in 2017, I was 16 at the time; but it properly kicked up in 2018 when I was 17 and in my 200 level while in Covenant University. I was actually in the 100 level, transmitting to 200 level. And in fact, I made my first million at the age of 18 while in school. And by 19 in 400 level, my products had been shipped to the 36 states of Nigeria, including the federal capital territory and internationally using e-commerce.

    When people hear that they’d say ‘Woah, great”. But it’s not without its challenges; I only like to see solutions. I made it despite being in a school where phones were not allowed, and we weren’t allowed to leave school any time and no stable Wi-Fi. There were times I wasn’t even able to come online. I was able to do all of those things in school and got an award from the university as an entrepreneur of its 16th set because I sort to create a system that would work without me being present.

    In my journey I cannot but appreciate the sacrificial role that my elder sister, who is in Canada, played. She was my pillar of support that stood by me. With her help I could run the business. When I wasn’t able to come online, she was there chatting with the customers. And because of support like hers, my family, particularly my parents who supported my vision, today Solasoles is a brand.

    Navigating education and business

    On how I was able to navigate the world of education and business, I figured that I can’t keep thinking the way my mates were; else I won’t be able to achieve what I have today. It all starts from my building capacity. Some people have the capacity to do just education and education alone. But I saw it was way beyond education and I needed to fine-tune my journey by developing capacity to handle both excellently well. And if you’d ask me, they can go side by side. 

    Knowing what I do now, I feel our educational curriculum needs to be revamped in the sense that it needs to include entrepreneurship right from primary school. By doing so, we won’t be having the problem of unemployment that is almost exploding on us. The educational system should actually be able to prepare the students to come out adequately prepared for the world in real life.

    From the onset, I knew I had a vision and a prototype of your entire life in view – there’s a place I see myself.  And I don’t do what I do because of myself alone. I do things with the consciousness that when people see me and the things that I have done, they won’t just be inspired but fueled to do things that will open greater doors of opportunities for themselves.

    Growing up like that helped you become the woman you are today

    Growing up I have three siblings and my immediate elder sibling is seven years older than I. So, you can imagine the gap between I and the other two. While they were away, I was at home, so it became a personal burden for me to decide the path that I wanted to tread. But I had a lot of books around me, including motivate: I read widely and they help shape my worldview. And even when my siblings were not around, I am glad that I had my parents around me. And when they were I had the opportunity of having conversations with them, capitalising on their experiences. You see, I used to be a very sharp child, always asking questions. I wasn’t shy at all and it molded me. I got a lot from my siblings, my parents and their friends; and that curiosity birthed the person I’ve become as an adult. I was so inquisitive that it helped my personal branding. All of these helped in making me who I am today.

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    My passion for reading

    I am very passionate about reading. I was on TV the other day and someone asked if people still read. And I said reading is a conscious effort that we need to practice in making us outstanding individuals. The moment you stop reading, you’d start dying. As I’ve said, I developed the habit of reading voraciously from childhood. And that is because I wanted to be an extraordinary person: I wanted to make an imprint and impact. Anybody can do anything regardless of where you are coming from or background, but some people feel you need to know somebody who knows somebody. They think that the only way to make headway is through connection. I beg to differ. I would say that work on yourself, be dedicated towards being outstanding, and tirelessly pursue your personal development. I’ve always advised that as young ones, we must be informed about whatever career path, we want to pursue: pick the kind of books to read; social media is free of charge but you can use social media to your benefit. Issues like these and more inspired my book, The Radiant Path. I call it ‘your guide to an extraordinary significance’; a wakeup call or guide for the young people to build legacies not just followership. It also focuses on the need for a rebirth of potential, embody, skill mastery and redefinition of what’s extraordinary in you.

     My escape

    How I relax… I cook to relax. I often chat on my live videos and encourage people to relax, but it’s so weird to me. I don’t watch TV, I only watch movies when I’m compelled to and even if I do I’ll sleep off. I go to the salon, but for fun I sleep and cook for fun.

     Beauty to me

    For me, beauty is something that comes from within: something that comes from character, personality. We have a lot of people who are looking for beauty outwardly.  And you’d encounter the person and you’d see his/her character is nothing to write home about. Beauty stems from the impact you are making or going to make: from your excellence and brilliance as a person and your touch as an individual. When I meet you and have a conversation with you what is the lasting impact you have on me. These are the things that make the world a livable place.

     My sense of fashion: fashionista or not

    I would describe myself as a fashionista. But I feel like fashion is relative. Since my fashion is not your fashion and vice versa, people can be allowed to express what they term as fashion in any way they see fit. For me, I consider myself as a queen. And everywhere I go, I am always unconsciously exuding that aura. I say ‘unconsciously’ because once upon a time I was consciously putting in the effort to make sure that every time I appear, I am most gorgeously dressed. I believe as a queen in being decently but graciously dressed. I believe in simplicity. I don’t like to go over the board, even when it comes to make up. I love accessories, but simple stuff.

    Fashion item I can’t do without

    My dress, of course! It very is necessary but I love simple dresses. But I love dramatic sleeves.  Another item I’m particular about is my bag. It helps me carry all my important stuffs everywhere I go. I have my notes, phone, and iPad in there. 

    My plan for the future

    I plan on having a bigger factory that’ll create shoes, job opportunities for people, and a lot more to come when it comes to my shoes. And for my Radiant tribe, I have a goal of having over 10000 people by 2030.

  • NDLEA seizes 478kgs illicit substances in Kaduna, nabs 99 suspects

    NDLEA seizes 478kgs illicit substances in Kaduna, nabs 99 suspects

    The National Drug Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA), Kaduna State Ocmmand says it has seized 478kilogammes of various illioit substances in November.

    This is contained in a statement signed by the command’s spokesperson, Shuaibu Yusuf-Omale and issued to the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Kaduna on Tuesday.

    Yusuf-Omale listed the seized substances to include: Cocaine, heroin, cannabis, tramadol, methamphetamine and other pyschotropic substances.

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    He said that for the period under review, the command has also arrested 90 suspects, saying that the figure represents both drug traffickers, dealers and users.

    Yusuf-Omale said, “In its efforts to combat the drug scourge in Kaduna State through the drug demand reductin activities, the command carried out numerous sensitisation programmes across the state.

    “This was with the aim of enlightening the citizenry on the ills associated with drug use and illicit trafficking.”

    ( NAN)

  • Notorious kidnapper Dogo Oro killed in Kebbi

    Notorious kidnapper Dogo Oro killed in Kebbi

    A notorious kidnapper, Dogo Oro, has been killed in Kebbi, the state government said yesterday.

    Chief Press Secretary to the Kebbi State Governor,  Ahmed Idris, said Oro was killed  by local vigilantes in Tunga village in Bunza Local Government Area of the state.

    He said the kidnapper launched attacks with sporadic shooting at people with bows and arrows in one of the surrounding villages of Kanzanna yesterday.

     “The security progress report indicated that today, 01/12/2023, from Tunga village in Tilli ward, Bunza Local Government, a notorious kidnapper called Dogo Oro, who was well known for terrorism in Bunza and Kalgo local government areas, was killed this morning by our men, the vigilantes at Tunga area,” he said in a statement.

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    The suspected terrorist had been kidnapping innocent villagers and demanding ransom for their release, Idris added.

    He said that with the successful operation by the local vigilantes, the residents of the communities can now go about their normal business activities unhindered, with the security of their lives and properties guaranteed.

    Applauding the gallant efforts of the vigilantes in supporting other security operatives, he appreciated the unending support of Governor Nasir Idris in ensuring that the security challenges in some council areas of the state are critically addressed.

    According to him,  regular security meetings and logistical support for security personnel will be a priority for all security agencies to address banditry and criminality in the state.

  • Last minute hacks as Black Friday ends and Yuletide begins

    Last minute hacks as Black Friday ends and Yuletide begins

    So 2023 Black Friday ends tomorrow but you still haven’t done some last minute shopping for yourself, even as the countdown to the Yuletide season begins. Not to worry, we’ve got you. You still have time to shop. Find time in your schedule to do so.

     It doesn’t matter if it’s only just two days, the countless sales and discounts can inevitably lead to excessive spending. But just because it is Black Friday, that does not mean you should be hurting your pockets, overspending money blindly. Here are some tips to help you with last minute shopping get things at cheaper rates. Interestingly, these tips also apply when shopping for the holiday.

    •Draw up a budget and stick to it

    •Do not overspend on items you don’t need

    •Have a game plan

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    •Make a list of your must-have items to avoid getting distracted and don’t stray from it, no matter what

    •You can still do your homework: check prices, do some research on the items on your list

    •Get shopping companions or companions: a shrewd shopping companion can help you hit more places in less time and find great deals.

    •Give yourself a deadline People posting Black Friday links on social media can get you those sneaky bargains nice and quickly: People posting Black Friday links on social media can get you those sneaky bargains nice and quickly.

    •Take a peek on social media People posting Black Friday links on social media can get you those sneaky bargains nice and quickly

    •Remember the sales for yourself or family will come and go but your  finances should never be compromised, and you are responsible for your spending

  • Sweet potatoes on a Black Friday

    Sweet potatoes on a Black Friday

    Hmm, ladies! So this year’s Black Friday came and took us by surprise and now we are at the last of the last days of the season. And I am here counting my fingers, dreaming of what we could have bought. Kai, this is not good o…it is not acceptable, I tell you,” entered the world famous Jolaolu, the one we call Sexy Jola, murmuring to no one in particular as she joined us under the ebelebo tree in front of the house.

    “Could have, should have, wanna! Why are so worried? What to do Jola, no be our own bad pass jare. The whole world, not just Nigeria is going through cash crunch. I bet the sellers themselves are not smiling, just as buyers are not,” Tamara interjected.

    “But where is Tinu and her potatoes Totori porridge na? I am salivating already,” voiced Tamara, laughing her heart away.

    “Una go kill person with grammar, which one be Totori porridge again. You guys are so creative,” Barrister Ada noted with a smile.

    “Make you siddon there. After Tamara’s exploit with the yogurt snack last week which she called ‘yogurt extravaganza’, why won’t Tinu call her potatoes porridge Totori. But I hope it would be as sweet as the name sha,” I offered.

    “But seriously, Jola raised a valid point with the Black Friday thing. Ladies, are we not going to shop at all? This is not funny o,” Tamara asked.

    Ada shook her head and said: “How times have changed! Remember when we used to outdo each other with our shopping spree, even when we really didn’t need most of what we bought that we too know what’s what. Even COVID-19 did not stop us, but this year, nothing. It came without any pomp and ceremony. Times have truly changed.”

    “Speak for yourself, Ada. I have never been a fan of Black Friday. I have always wondered why there is so much frenzy around it,” Mummy Fawaz stated with a determined tone. “I feel it’s irresponsible of a sort and a waste of resources (of time, energy and money). I feel we be setting a good examples for our children and not be encouraging such behaviours.”

    And by that she threw open a can of worms that thrust the house into an argumentative mode. “Why would you say that”, “Speak for yourself Mummy Fawaz”, “Don’t be too backward in your thinking,” “Haba, why would you feel that way” and more followed.

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     “What are you ladies fighting about,” asked Tinu and silenced all arguments with the arrival of the tantalising aroma of her porridge. She literally doused the heat and brought smiles on the faces of the waiting party. “Oya, food don land, make we make peace.”  Some ladies stood up to assist her, just then Christabel walked in with some pack of juice in hands.

    “I was listening to all your gists, and had a thing or two to contribute but for my client waiting to collect the dress I was making for her, I would have joined you ladies earlier,” Christabel said.

    Just then, Tinu stretched her stretch a plate to her, and probed “What is even the cause of the squabble sef?” And as a good reporter, I offered to explain, “The row was about Black Friday and its essence.  Mummy Fawaz actually called the frenzy usually associated with Black Friday as irresponsible.”

    “I think it’s a matter of choice, Mummy Fawaz but it is also her opinion and should be respected,” Christabel opined. “But if you ask me ladies, we can still do something before the season ends. Let’s make a list of what each of us would love to have or need. If it’s needed by many of us, like foodstuff, we can contribute towards it and get it in bulk.

    This time, we don’t have to follow the frenzy but plan well, even for the Yuletide. Just let me work out the details; I’ll get back to you.” The suggestion went down well with everyone; we all agreed, dug deep and savoured the delicious steaming plate of Tinu’s Totori porridge.

  • ‘Emotional, mental health determine quality of women’s relationships’

    ‘Emotional, mental health determine quality of women’s relationships’

    Lawyer and relation coach Ruckey Peniel is a woman of many talents and competencies with a strong philanthropic streak. She is the brain behind the global Hope Now conference, which was held in Nigeria for the first time this month. For years, this Switzerland-based Nigerian has crisscrossed the world, taking succour to the downtrodden and empowering relationships through her annual conference.  In this interview with EVELYN OSAGIE, she speaks on her passion, the conference and more.

    My journey into the world of advocacy

    t has been very satisfying to see people’s lives transformed by a kind deed. Of course, it has its challenges, an example being differentiating between those who are really in need, and impostors.

     What fuels your passion for touching lives

    Love. I have a passion to see others thrive. I am a product of relationships. Whatever I am or have today has been possible because others took me seriously and supported me. I am only giving back from what I have been given. Also, I am driven by the love of God, of my husband and children. I am constantly in awe of God’s love for me.

    Events that made me a development expert and philanthropist

    Although today I’m known as Ruckey Peniel, a lawyer who is also a relationship and marketplace success coach and an ambassador of hope, I have always been a woman who is passionate about the well-being of others. I have always loved to give since I was a child. I am that child that gives the child who has no lunch, my lunch without giving much thought to it. Then I became a single mom in the 90s, and later remarried. You know what they say; the best healers are those who have experienced the pain of stripes. I know what it is to be in a desperate situation and vowed to reach out to the hurting anytime I can.

    Being a woman

    Being a woman means being a healer, a mother, a visionary, solution provider, life giver, and a support system for your family and neighbourhood. It means trusting God for help so you can be a helper indeed for those you are privileged to know and impact.

     My growing up that impacted the woman you became

    I grew up as a military child who eventually went to a military school. I grew up under a disciplinarian dad and mom of blessed memories. My dad treated me exactly how he raised my brothers – strong and independent. He constantly said I was born a leader and gave me a platform to lead. I was an only girl until I was almost 13 years old, so you could say I was somewhat a tomboy. It was fully normal for me to get into fights with my brothers and cousins in a bid to prove to them that I deserved to be in their boy games!

    Hope Now conference: From the world to Nigeria

    Hope Now is a platform where issues facing relationships are discussed in an open, holistic and non-judgmental manner, thereby providing hope and healing for our times.  At Hope Now, we believe you are as successful as your relationships.

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    In the last six years, the conference has run in the USA, Switzerland, UK, Germany and India. Lagos edition is the first in Nigeria. I am a Nigerian, so of course I am passionate about the welfare and success of my fellow -Nigerians; hence Hope Now Lagos was brought home to impact Nigeria as well. And we hope to host subsequent ones here. Our goal was to enlighten participants on the pivotal essence of having empowering relationships in life and we are happy Hope Now Lagos successfully achieved it. This year’s edition was special in many senses in that notable Nigerians, like Chief Segun Odegbami, Godwin Dudu-Orumen, Dr. Lanre Olusola, the Catalyst, Mr. Emeka Mba, the former Director General/CEO of the National Broadcasting Commission (NBC), and Sola Adesakin, all joined us to do justice to this important topic. And we are calling on more Nigerians and businesses to partner with us on this journey to reach those in need of our assistance. Vessels of Hope is a non-profit organisation and charity arm of Hope Now TV and conferences.

    My advice on navigating these difficult times and keeping relationships intact

    I would say to Nigerians, particularly womenfolk that self-love is the best love and you are as successful as your relationships. Be mindful of your emotional and mental health which influences the quality of relationships you have. And of course, for regular empowerment for your relationships, connect with me and my team at Hope Now TV on Facebook and other social media platforms.

    Juggling my roles of a lawyer, relationship coach, minister of the gospel and more

    It has not been an easy one. I would say time management, solid family support and a great team are the three factors that enable me to juggle my engagements. I decide the things that deserve my time; my husband and kids are very supportive of my engagements and I am blessed with a good team of men and women who make things happen.

    Beauty to you

    Beauty is not only how one looks but how one thinks. Beauty must begin from within. Beauty is usually aesthetic, it depicts visual pleasantness. However, I believe true beauty is in our ability to empathise, respect and authentically connect with others on our human journey.

     My fashion style

    As I mentioned earlier, I was a tomboy while growing up which was sometimes frustrating to my mum who was a tailor and clothes designer. I eventually woke up one day in 2001 and decided to become stylish to impress my mother. I liked it! I love looking good. Although lawyers are restricted to conservative colours and style on the job, I dress according to the occasion. And these days, especially in the western world, business and corporate lawyers are dressing more stylishly. So are ministers of the gospel! I wear colours and designs that suit my body and mind, again it depends on the occasion.

     What next

    I will soon publish my fifth book. I also have my eyes on new horizons.