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Category: RELATIONSHIP

  • PUT IN THE WORK IN YOUR MARRIAGE

    My dear friend Jodi had been married for 3 years, I ran into her last week and she told me she was on her way to church for a special prayer meeting. From her looks I suspected she was not having a good time in her marriage. I could not hold back questions because she was not looking like the ravishing Jodi I used to know.

     She said her husband had changed from being the loving, friendly, romantic guy she used to know and she was sure the devil was responsible, she concluded by saying “in fact that is why I have been fasting and praying; the devil cannot ruin my marriage!”

     I got to the root of Jodi’s problem when I visited her home the following week; I was even privileged to meet and speak with her husband.  

    Things became clearer after we spoke.

    Her husband said he is aware of her fasting and prayers but he is not interested in praying along because her problem is not spiritual. 

    He said she used to be a charming lady; she was the most attractive woman he ever knew. Aside for her godly inner qualities, she had the ability to always turn him on. With his spiritual convictions he wasted no time, he proposed and walked her down the aisle.

    He said: “she has changed, she is too concerned about our inability to have children and this affects her response when we make love. She comes to the bed with so much anxiety and this pisses me off. She is not willing to get a job or start a business; she fasts most days of the week and she is never at home to welcome me after a hard day at work. I sometimes wonder if she was married to me or Jesus!” 

    Of course I was short of what to say after his narration. I just encouraged that he gave her time and make room for her to make corrections while he worked on himself too.

    After that day, I made out time to speak with Jodi and I kept close contact with her. She cried most of those times and I see the willingness to change in her though she was shocked to know that these change(s) will not come by just fasting and praying.

    Jodi confessed that she gave her best to win her husband’s commitment before marriage but she was unwise to think the job was done after she became MRS.

    Is this not what we see daily? A lot of people go off tracks, the moment they say ‘I DO.’ You need more effort to keep your marriage than you need to get it. 

    Husband or wife, your spouse should not be disappointed whenever he/she returns home. Both parties must keep fit for each other. 

    Dear wife, your Primary Place of Assignment is your Home, you must keep it inviting. A man may not know how to tidy the house but he sure knows when its untidy.

    Even if you are a career woman, you should not be too busy to see to the affairs of your home, there must be a balance and agreement between you and your spouse. 

    Praying and fasting will not solve the problems you created by negligence. 

    It’s time to wake up!

    It starts from your inner values: build and invest in your marital bank. Both should adjust so there will be balance in the home and career.  Develop yourself to become irresistible to your spouse. 

    Adetutu DEBOLA-Adesanya 

    On Tue, 29 Aug 2023, 12:12 am Adetutu Debola-Adesanya, <adetutudebola@gmail.com> wrote:

    In the journey of life, there are certain fundamentals that act as the compass to navigate the vast sea of experiences. Much like a sturdy foundation for a towering structure, acquiring these essentials early on can significantly shape the course of one’s life.

    By grasping these vital aspects, individuals can lay the groundwork for a more purposeful, fulfilling, and successful life journey.

    What are these vitals?

    God: it is very important and life settling to have a good grasp of who God is early in life. I’m not talking religion here but having that deep understanding of God, His principles and ways. Knowing God for yourself. With this, no wind of religion and doctrine can sway you left or right neither will you become a casualty in the hands of merchant spiritual leaders. 

    Health. I see alot of young people eat dangerously everyday, it’s almost like suicide! Many are very high on soda, totallylow on veggies and fruits. They are anti-everything called good diet. Your life’s wellbeing and outcome is already determined if don’t eat healthy. Living healthy includes eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep. Taking care of your health now will help you avoid health problems later in life.

    Financial literacy. This includes understanding how to budget, save, invest, and manage debt. It’s important to be financially literate so that you can make informed decisions about your money and avoid making costly mistakes.

    Education. This doesn’t necessarily mean getting a college degree, but it does mean getting the education you need to succeed in your chosen field. You cannot afford not to take at least your first school leaving certificate seriously. You cannot afford not to get a skill. You have to be decided on that early in life. 

    Career. This includes figuring out what you want to do with your life and taking steps to make it happen. It’s also important to develop your skills and knowledge so that you can be successful in your career.

    Relationships. This includes building strong relationships with your family ( especially your first family), spouses and friends. Having strong relationships will provide you with support throughout your life.

    Personal growth. This includes learning about yourself and what you want out of life. It’s also important to develop your own unique skills and talents.

    Life goals. This includes setting goals for yourself and working towards achieving them. Having goals will give you something to strive for and help you stay motivated.

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    Of course, no one has their life completely sorted out at any age. But by taking steps to address these important areas early in life, you can set yourself up for success in the future.

    Don’t be afraid to take risks. Sometimes you need to take risks in order to achieve your goals. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone and try new things.

    Incase you think life is way ahead of you, please start from where ever this meets you. Don’t give up. Even with the setbacks along the way, don’t give up on your dreams. Keep moving forward and eventually you will reach your goals.

    Getting your life in order is a journey, not a destination. It takes time, effort, and commitment. But if you’re willing to put in the work, you can achieve anything you set your mind to.

    I love you. 

  • Seven things not to do when meeting your partner’s parents for first time

    Seven things not to do when meeting your partner’s parents for first time

     It is a major step in the relationship and first impression can be a lasting impression, potentially a lot riding on it.

    How you ensure you don’t come off like some mannerless person during this first encounter is important.

    Here are seven things you should not do when meeting your partner’s parents for the first time

    1. Glued to your phone

    Avoid being on your phone, texting, checking your email or browsing social media. Your spouse’s parents might feel dismissed and think that you are not interested in getting to know them.

    2. Lie to make yourself look good

    Being fake instead of who you truly are is a mistake that will upset your partner’s parents. You’re also likely to be found out at some point and possibly when it could really hurt your relationship.

    If your partner has accepted the kind of person you are, then his/ her parents should be able to accept you too.

    3. Publicly display affection

    Although public displays of affection can be a wonderful thing, there is an appropriate time and place for it.

    This does not mean you have to become cold, distant and robotic, but it does mean you need to know the audience you are in front of.

    4. Spark controversial topics for discussion

    Bringing up controversial topics like religion, politics or sex is a no go area.

    Even if you definitely know that your beliefs are in line with your partner’s parents, some people still consider it to be in poor taste to bring it up.

    Better get to know them more before raising such topics.

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    5. Talk only about yourself

    Despite the fact that your partner’s parents are probably very interested in getting to know you, they also do not want to spend the entire time listening to your life story.

    Try to find a balance in the conversation by also asking them questions to show interest in getting to know them as well.

    6. Don’t pass the night

    No matter the persuasion, don’t pass the night in their house on your first day of visit.

    7. Being a know it all

    Even if you are an expert in a certain area, please keep it cool. Don’t let it seem like you know everything better than everyone else.

  • Husband pens wife touching tribute on anniversary

    Husband pens wife touching tribute on anniversary

    In a heartwarming declaration of love and gratitude, a husband’s sensational tribute to his wife has captured the hearts of audiences worldwide. 

    The poignant message, penned in anticipation of their 15th wedding anniversary, paints a vivid picture of unwavering support, dedication, and the enduring bond that defines their relationship.

    The luxury personal shopper Eghosa Asemota Agbonifo, reflecting on the remarkable journey of his marriage, expressed profound gratitude for his wife’s unwavering support that has been a cornerstone of their shared experiences. 

    From pivotal life decisions to personal aspirations, the wife’s steadfast belief and encouragement have been instrumental in shaping their path together.

    Sharing intimate moments of vulnerability and triumph, Eghosa Asemota Agbonifo recounted how his wife stood by him through the highs and lows of life – from career setbacks to pursuing a master’s degree. 

    Her unwavering faith in his abilities and sacrifices made with unwavering dedication have been a source of strength and inspiration.

    The heartfelt tribute celebrated not only the professional achievements they have realised together but also the deep bond of love and admiration that transcends all boundaries. With a thriving luxury company spanning two continents and a beautiful family to call their own, Eghosa Asemota Agbonifo credits his wife as a driving force behind their shared successes.

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    While acknowledging his wife’s aversion to social media, he expressed his profound appreciation and admiration for the love, support, and sacrifices she has made.

     This rare glimpse into their love story serves as a testament to the enduring power of love, resilience, and unwavering commitment shared between two soulmates.

    As they approach their 15th anniversary,  Eghosa Asemota Agbonifo eagerly anticipates the boundless possibilities that the future holds for them with wishes for continued good health, wisdom and shared experiences

  • May your s3xually-active friends not make you cry!

    May your s3xually-active friends not make you cry!

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I must let you know you’re the only Apostle of Chastity I have ever known in my entire life. Many know God but they don’t talk about s3xual purity and abstinence. They only preach what people want to hear but mummy you say the truth even when people are not ready to accept it! You keep preaching the gospel truth to the youth. I lack words to tell you Maami but can only pray the almighty God crowns your efforts with success and bless you abundantly. I LOVE YOU MA!

    Naomi Yusuf

    Dear Ma,

    I started reading your columns  since 2014 when I was in SS 2. Your words and warnings always boomed in my ears throughout my undergraduate study. I was able to connect with God and serve Him wholeheartedly. Not only did I graduate as a virgin, I also passed out with a second class upper division from the University of Ibadan! Looking back now, I can help but be grateful for the seed you sowed in my life that was further nurtured by God. You’re a gift to our generation ma!

    Kenny

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I’ve been s3xually pure for over 3 years now. Call it secondary virginity. Someone told me that it will affect me as I advance in life, that I am too young to start preserving myself for my husband. I don’t know what to do, she advised me to check out one guy and have s3x with him at least once a week. She’s a nurse and she sternly warned me that she isn’t against s3xual purity but medically I am bound to have issues in my womb in future. Please reply and let me know if this is true because I am confused, but certainly confident in staying s3xually pure. Thanks ma.

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    My darlings,

    When I tell you to stay away from s3xually-active friends if you want to remain a virgin till your wedding night, I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT! A lot of them are horrified at their experience, worn out physically and torn apart spiritually, they won’t rest till you join their band wagon and feel that way!

    Your virginity has absolutely nothing to do with your fertility or child delivery! It has no adverse effects on your health either! Preserving your virginity till marriage is in your life’s interest and the very best thing that could happen to any young lady/man! Do you know so many children who were formed by God as shining stars on earth may never fulfill destiny because they came through a channel which could not afford them a stable home, good upbringing and nurture them to align with God’s divine agenda?I could go on and on!

    “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away.” Psalm 1:1-4

    Every sheep that walks with the dog will eat excreta. Promiscuous people are dangerous- they’re controlled by the devil and  have ways of causing the pure to become defiled like them. The only way of escape is not to allow them in your life.

    You have absolutely NOTHING TO LOSE waiting till your wedding night! YOU HAVE SO MUCH YOU CAN NEVER IMAGINE TO GAIN- I PROMISE YOU!!! This year 2024, God’ll showcase you to the world such that your oversabi/wayward friends will have sleepless nights over your transformation and will be more than convinced to pursue S3xual Purity in Jesus name!!!

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  • Lust in the Emotional Zoo

    Lust in the Emotional Zoo

    I don’t think that men should sleep alone….Good old song. It got many singing and swinging their heads at a restaurant a few days back. That wasn’t all the guys were giggling and probably recalling some memories old and new.

    Magical moments but again, you can afford to leap into the bed with just anyone without putting on your thinking cap. Sleeping with who, where, and how? A cat with ten lives, a pretty peacock, or the ferocious dog on the prowl. Those are some of the amazing options that may come your way in the emotional zoo. The more you look the less you see. The emotional character that you settle for in the emotional bestseller series would actually determine where and how the deal is sealed in the long run.

    Yup! Intimate stuff brings excitement. Even the toughest melts when matters of the heart are being discussed. The Mighty ultimately falls into the love arena, gets consumed by emotional arrows, and is taken to height.

    Did someone just say, ‘Whatever goes up must come down’? Well, that unfortunately is the truth of the emotional matter. The excitement lingers but when it vanishes, the memories may just not be pleasant anymore.

    Perhaps it is better to spell it out from the onset to avoid being led astray by monkeys lusting after bananas, nothing more. Even here, you just can’t be too sure. The crux of the matter here is that sometimes, you just get caught up in the web, trapped in a mesh that further entangles you in the emotional process.

    The shop next door is also a busy hive. It is a gambling shop and there is noise and excitement everywhere. The thought of winning cash (hearts) naturally brings excitement. There is great expectation as you imagine what you would do with the money (heart). For cash, you spend on essential or luxury items. When you win a heart, you have taken possession and you are at liberty to kiss, just a little at a time or just use up the emotional card in just one sitting.

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    Not only are lucky though. The losers file out in twos and threes, this time around with changed disposition. You don’t need a soothsayer to tell you they have lost a great chance.

    In the emotional arena, there are lots of gamblers on the prowl. The emotional gambler puts down a penny and expects to reap hundreds, thousands, and even millions.

    A case that comes to mind is 34-year-old Funsho. Having combed the emotional market and made a great impact in the nooks and crannies, he told his pals that it was time to settle down.

    No qualms! The big question is whether our dear friend would pick a queen from all the babes he had been ‘gambling’ with all this while. Response: ‘No way! How can I marry all these city girls? They are too cheap. I want a woman that has preserved herself. I want to marry a virgin. I don’t want all these expired city girls who would run after any man just because of the money that he has to offer”.

    Nice one! Now that the gambler knows that the emotional stakes are high, then much work has to be done in the search. The lover boy finally finds his heart’s desire. “I think I have finally found what I have been looking for. She is my type of girl. She won’t even allow me to touch her until our wedding night.

    The lovebirds are good to go now. All arrangements for the wedding were concluded and it was a very colorful event, attended by co-gamblers in the race. After the wedding, they proceeded to Dubai for the honeymoon. It was supposed to be a very memorable period in their lives but the first night turned out to be a disaster for the twosome.

    “My bride looked really beautiful and everyone was very excited. it was a very memorable day. But when we got into bed, I discovered that I had been shortchanged. She wasn’t a virgin at all. I was really mad and I would have beaten her to pieces”.

    Poor guy! So what did this babe have to say for this great disappointment on their first night together? Why did she have to lie about her emotional status? Isn’t it better to tell the emotional truth and be damned?

    “I am so sorry my darling. I was raped when I was on campus. I didn’t know how you would feel if I told you what happened to me. I am so sorry, and I hope you would forgive me”.

    No way! She had destroyed the love, trust, and everything he hoped for in that relationship. He just could not believe that his sweetheart, the smart babe who finally whisked him to the altar was a big liar, a schemer with all kinds of antics in her emotional kitty.

    Wait a minute! What is all this fuss about? Why is he desperately searching for a virgin, when he is not one? As a matter of fact, he lost his, a very long time ago. Like minds,g they say attract like. Giving false information about your status amounts to gambling with the heart of the other person, not a nice idea. That actually makes you a swindler in the corridors of emotional power.

  • Girls….Don’t let the devil stop you in 2024!

    Girls….Don’t let the devil stop you in 2024!

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I am always blessed by your teachings. I pray to meet you one day soonest! I wanted to do something that I know is not right and i suddenly bumped into your article and started following you immediately and my mentality changed! Please don’t stop writing! I love you ma!

    – Imala Faith

    Dear Mummy,

    It is indeed a great privileged and a great Joy in my heart knowing you. I really appreciate you. I pray that in Jesus name God have answered all that your heart desires Amen. I celebrate you always. Thanks for being a source of blessing and making immeasurable impact. Even when I want to misbehave at times as per flesh, and I think of all your teachings  I retrace my steps. I am 25 years old now and I pray God strengthens me to share my testimony someday. Thanks so much Mummy, my spirit continuously prays for you. Please don’t stop writing.

    – Omowunmi Isamotu

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    How has your 2024 been? Mine was supercalifragilisticexpialidocious (laughs) that means extraordinarily good; wonderful! I tell you a lot of people didn’t have a good year and never got their blessings because they were engaged in sexual immorality. Please TAKE THIS OR LEAVE IT! I may not be your G.O. but when i tell you sexual immorality does you more harm than good- I know what I’m talking about! I thought to share this with you to help you in your journey next year!

    REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD ABSTAIN FROM SEX TILL MARRIAGE AND MAKE THE MOST OF 2024 WITH YOUR SPIRITUALITY

    1. For Spiritual Intelligence

    There are so many with great destinies who will never manifest that which God has planned for them except they hear exclusively from God and regularly take instructions from him! DO YOU KNOW THE TYPE OF STAR YOU CARRY? DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT WILL TAKE TO MANIFEST? No wonder the scripture says, “The secret of the Lord is with those who fear Him, And He will show then His covenant.”Psalm 25:14 You need to have a Joseph’s dream divine ideas, information and revelations from God that will make you vigorously pursue that which God has planned for you per time, shine and stand out in life! May you not wake up very unhappy and tired of life at 55, lonely, unfulfilled, unaccomplished, and dejected only to discover God’s plan for you was to be the most influential black woman, surrounded by a wonderful husband and star children!

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    2. To break evil soul-ties

    Every sexual intercourse bonds you with your partner emotionally and spiritually! In fact, sexual intercourse is a spiritual union! And that’s why the scripture talks about one flesh in marriage.Gen.2:24 GOD DESIGNED SEXUAL INTERCOURSE FOR MARRIAGE!

    My madam, how many destinies/souls do you want to be attached to in a life-time? Have you wondered why you can’t seem to get over one boyfriend or the other after all they did to hurt you? Have you ever wondered why you keep seeing them in your dreams? Have you ever wondered how one lousy ex-lover has a way of getting you to sleep with him after you stopped dating? When I tell you chastity saves you so much head-ache, I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT! When you should be charting your path to becoming a phenomenal success, you’ll be brooding and crying over a past lover and wishing you could see him again and feel his touch. In my opinion, the devil has taken over the life of any teenager or unmarried young lady who feels this way! Worse still you even take on their negative traits!

    A piece of your sex partner (the good, bad and ugly) stays with you and vice versa for the rest of your life. You can only imagine what it looks like when you bond with multiple partners! So many have married wrongly because after they had sex, they just couldn’t imagine life without their partner and went ahead to get married even with danger warning signals!

    The first step to breaking evil soul ties is to COMPLETELY ABSTAIN from sex and let the fire of God purge you! May God help you!

    3. For speed

    How can you load your life with diverse strange spirits from multiple sex partners and think all will be well with you? Do you know those strange spirits- ill-luck, curses, stagnation etc. transferred to your life from multiple sex partners form evil baggage which weigh down your destiny and delay you in the valley of life? YOU NEED TO ABSTAIN AND GET RID OF THEM FAST!!!

    To be continued.

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  • Five ‘red flags’ in a new relationship

    Five ‘red flags’ in a new relationship

    When starting a new relationship, there are things or actions one needs to carefully observe to know whether your partner is fully into you.

    Here are five red flags to note:

    Boring conversation

    It’s important to always have lively conversation. They should be your friends first in the talking stage. And the only way to achieve that can be from the frequent conversation When the conversations goes like “Hey” “How are you?” “Fine” “Have you eaten?” and you have nothing else to say. When conversations are boring, it’s a sign there is a huge lack of compatibility and commitment.

    Conversation shouldn’t always be about S3x

    The s3xual attraction between the two of you is important, but if that is the driving point of your interactions with each other, then you need to jump ship. If, on the first interaction, they are solely focused on having s3x with you, the most likely thing is that it’s only s3x they are interested in. Plus, introducing s3x so early might cloud your judgment; if the s3x is so good, you might ignore the other red flags.

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    Describing ex as villain

    Everyone else is a villain in their story. When they talk about their exes or family and friends, is everyone else wrong and they are perfect? This is a sign that they lack emotional intelligence and evade responsibility. Be on the lookout for people who talk about how good they are; this is a form of emotional manipulation. Look at how they treat others, like drivers and waiters—are they always complaining?

    Indecisive

    Whenever they are indecisive. You don’t even know if they like you or not. Today they call you for hours, but you don’t hear from them for the next two days. You can tell them how you notice they are indecisive, if they don’t change but make a lot of excuses, just leave them alone

    Faking busy

    Even if they spend all their day saving lives, they should never be too busy for you. This is the stage where you both want to talk and get to know each other. If they don’t talk to you often and their excuse is that they are busy, just know they are not interested. We are on our phones almost all the time, and if he or she can’t pick up the phone to call or reply to your texts, call it a quit

  • Cultivating relationship skills

    Cultivating relationship skills

    • By, Adetutu Debola-Adesanya 

    Do you know: If you refuse to learn how to communicate well with people, you will become a person to be avoided or someone people will relate with as a matter of compulsion. Can you imagine a sour relationship between a wife and her mother-in-law.

    One cannot be terminated for the other. 

    Communication is the process of transmitting messages from one end to the other with understanding and feed back in view. 

    When there is no feedback then you cannot be certain that what has been communicated is heard and understood. 

    Achieving sound communication in any relationship is in your ability to know and understand the core of people and how we can influence them positively and also get value from them. 

    No doubt there would be moments of arguments and misunderstandings, this is a proof that both parties are really relating with the inner cores that cannot be seen but felt. Those who experience high friction at the inception of their relationship will quickly get to the point where they know and decide if they should continue with the relationship or not.

    Some often feel crisis is an indication of incompatibility, not necessarily. In crisis you build the ability to discover, understand and despite challenges bear the personality of the people in your life. 

    We ought to develop the ability to forebear and tolerate people. One nasty person to you today can be your ally tomorrow. 

    You can be that incredible person that everyone will be glad they have in their lives. Lets check some of the ways through which you can help yourself.

    Don’t become anti-social: A lot of people live strict uninteresting lives. Your being anti social is not the best guard for your personality. When you place premium on healthy relationships, you will reap the fruits. Until you place value on your relationships, you will not see the need to cultivate relational skills. When you don’t learn how to communicate effectively you pave way for constant clashes. There are laws that control everything, when you break these laws you make it impossible to enjoy the benefit therein. 

    Show yourself Friendly: you dont have to get stocked with yourself alone. Its important to know that some feel very uneasy with company, it may be as a result of ones background. It’s time to stop thinking everyone who gets close to you do so because they want to get something from you. You will not get the gift of great people into your life that way. 

    Admit your mistakes: have you ever met someone who never admits wrong doing. Such people are easily defensive, they will never own up to error even when there are proofs. Some of them will never say sorry, they will rather give excuses. Even when such people have inner struggles; they will rather die than ask for help. They are difficult to get along with at work and dangerous to marry. You will refine your character when you learn to admit your mistakes.

    Don’t be arrogant to say “I was wrong,” even when you offend your junior colleagues, children or students.  

    Be willing to change: when you are so comfortable with whom you are in the present you may loose the opportunity of becoming better in the future. I have heard people say things like” this is who I am, I cannot change.” You daily walk should be a walk into perfection. Your rough edges should be straightened as you pass through people, situations and circumstances.

    Be willing to give a chance for your life to take an upward move. The fact that you were raised in a particular way is not an excuse for you to be rigid in your dispositions. Take heed when people call your attension about a particular anything. It’s all for you to get better. 

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    You should learn to take to corrections and accept to try out new things.

    Bring value: Be the reason someone is glad. 

    Always check your life’s progress by doing a review from time to time.

    Cultivating relational skills involves active listening, empathy, effective communication, and understanding nonverbal cues. Practice these skills in conversations, seek feedback, and be open to learning from interactions. Developing patience and building connections over time can also enhance your relational abilities.

    I hope to hear from you. 

  • Tramatch: A faith-centric dating app bridging hearts, beliefs

    Tramatch: A faith-centric dating app bridging hearts, beliefs

    In a world of fleeting digital connections, Tramatch has emerged as a beacon of hope for those seeking love rooted in faith.

    Proudly Nigerian, this innovative dating app announces its beta launch, offering a platform where shared beliefs are the cornerstone of every match.

    Established in 2023 by visionaries Ani Okono, Elijah Bassey, and Uduak Etim, Tramatch is more than just a dating platform. It’s a sanctuary for individuals who value the enduring principles of the three Abrahamic faiths – Judaism, Islam, and Christianity.

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    Ani Okono, co-founder and product manager, passionately shared the essence of Tramatch. “Our mission transcends mere matchmaking. We aim to curate a space where faith is the foundation, allowing individuals to connect with partners who resonate deeply with their spiritual beliefs, be it views on monogamy or polygamy,” expressed Okono.

    In the rich and diverse cultural landscape of Nigeria, Tramatch stands out by intertwining individuality with faith, ensuring that every connection made is not just based on mutual interests but also shared spiritual values.

    For those yearning for love that respects and celebrates their faith, Tramatch is the answer. Discover a world where love and belief converge at Tramatch.com.

  • How to win his/her heart on first date

    How to win his/her heart on first date

    The first date is an exciting and nerve-wracking experience for teenagers and youths. It is a chance to get to know someone new and determine if there is a connection worth exploring. It is important to approach the first date with the right mindset, take the time to prepare and know the appropriate etiquette for the occasion.

    First, it’s essential to approach the first date with a positive mindset: Be open to getting to know your date and don’t go in with predetermined assumptions about the person.

    Take some time to prepare for the occasion: Preparing for a date is very important. This preparation entails dressing appropriately but don’t overdo it, choosing a location/making reservation and also being punctual because showing up late can set the wrong tone for your date.

    Greet and compliment your date warmly: Complimenting and greeting your date warmly is extremely important, you can do this by saying nice things about your date’s looks, dress, perfume and so on. You can also ask your date open ended questions about their interests, hobbies and goals. Your date should also feel comfortable enough to ask you questions and have meaningful conversations. Avoid talking about controversial/sensitive topics and focus on finding a common ground.

    Be relaxed and confident when meeting your date: When you meet your date for the first time, try to be relaxed and confident while having a conversation with your date, you can do that by showing a genuine interest in your date.

    Pay attention to your date’s body language: Make sure you avoid any behavior that would make your date uncomfortable on your first date instead be respectful during your first date.

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     Enjoy the moment: Try to be natural but also mindful of your behavior and make use of an appropriate language throughout the date. You don’t need to be uptight, just enjoy the moment and be free. Pay rapt attention to your date questions and be authentic in your response.

    Be sure to end your date gracefully: Thank your date for their time and express your interest in seeing them again if that’s the case. Don’t try to force a romantic connection if one does not exist but don’t be afraid to show interest if there’s a mutual attraction. A simple hug or peck on the cheek can be a fitting way to end the date.

     The first date should be an opportunity to get to know someone new and establish a meaningful connection. It takes efforts to make the experience enjoyable but with the right mindset and preparation, a first date can lead to a long-lasting relationship.