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  • Girls….Don’t let the devil stop you in 2023!

    Girls….Don’t let the devil stop you in 2023!

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I am always blessed by your teachings. I pray to meet you one day soonest! I wanted to do something that I know is not right and i suddenly bumped into your article and started following you immediately and my mentality changed! Please don’t stop writing! I love you ma!

    –Imala Faith

    Dear Mummy,

    It is indeed a great privileged and a great Joy in my heart knowing you. I really appreciate you. I pray that in Jesus name God have answered all that your heart desires Amen. I celebrate you always. Thanks for being a source of blessing and making immeasurable impact. Even when I want to misbehave at times as per flesh, and I think of all your teachings  I retrace my steps. I am 25 years old now and I pray God strengthens me to share my testimony someday. Thanks so much Mummy, my spirit continuously prays for you. Please don’t stop writing.

    –Omowunmi Isamotu

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    How has your 2023 been? Mine was supercalifragilisticexpialidocious (laughs) that means extraordinarily good; wonderful! I tell you a lot of people didn’t have a good year and never got their blessings because they were engaged in sexual immorality. Please TAKE THIS OR LEAVE IT! I may not be your G.O. but when i tell you sexual immorality does you more harm than good- I know what I’m talking about! I thought to share this with you to help you in your journey next year!

    REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD ABSTAIN FROM SEX TILL MARRIAGE AND MAKE THE MOST OF 2023 WITH YOUR SPIRITUALITY

    1. For Spiritual Intelligence

    There are so many with great destinies who will never manifest that which God has planned for them except they hear exclusively from God and regularly take instructions from him! DO YOU KNOW THE TYPE OF STAR YOU CARRY? DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT WILL TAKE TO MANIFEST? No wonder the scripture says, “The secret of the Lord is with those who fear Him, And He will show then His covenant.”Psalm 25:14 You need to have a Joseph’s dream divine ideas, information and revelations from God that will make you vigorously pursue that which God has planned for you per time, shine and stand out in life! May you not wake up very unhappy and tired of life at 55, lonely, unfulfilled, unaccomplished, and dejected only to discover God’s plan for you was to be the most influential black woman, surrounded by a wonderful husband and star children!

    2. To break evil soul-ties

    Every sexual intercourse bonds you with your partner emotionally and spiritually! In fact, sexual intercourse is a spiritual union! And that’s why the scripture talks about one flesh in marriage.Gen.2:24 GOD DESIGNED SEXUAL INTERCOURSE FOR MARRIAGE!

    My madam, how many destinies/souls do you want to be attached to in a life-time? Have you wondered why you can’t seem to get over one boyfriend or the other after all they did to hurt you? Have you ever wondered why you keep seeing them in your dreams? Have you ever wondered how one lousy ex-lover has a way of getting you to sleep with him after you stopped dating? When I tell you chastity saves you so much head-ache, I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT! When you should be charting your path to becoming a phenomenal success, you’ll be brooding and crying over a past lover and wishing you could see him again and feel his touch. In my opinion, the devil has taken over the life of any teenager or unmarried young lady who feels this way! Worse still you even take on their negative traits!

    A piece of your sex partner (the good, bad and ugly) stays with you and vice versa for the rest of your life. You can only imagine what it looks like when you bond with multiple partners! So many have married wrongly because after they had sex, they just couldn’t imagine life without their partner and went ahead to get married even with danger warning signals!

    The first step to breaking evil soul ties is to COMPLETELY ABSTAIN from sex and let the fire of God purge you! May God help you!

    3. For speed

    How can you load your life with diverse strange spirits from multiple sex partners and think all will be well with you? Do you know those strange spirits- ill-luck, curses, stagnation etc. transferred to your life from multiple sex partners form evil baggage which weigh down your destiny and delay you in the valley of life? YOU NEED TO ABSTAIN AND GET RID OF THEM FAST!!!

    To be continued.

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  • Eight ways to be perfect lover during her period

    Eight ways to be perfect lover during her period

    When your babe’s monthly visitor is around, the initial instinct of perhaps the most patient lover may be to hide and wait for ‘it’ to run its course and go away.

    Unfortunately, this may not always be the best course of action. Have in mind that, a girl on her period isn’t to be feared or avoided like some plague. You simply need to understand what she’s going through and how to make her feel better.

    Your babe’s period is one of the perfect opportunities for you to step up and show her that you’re man enough to take care of her and more importantly that you don’t love her less.

    Below are eight ways you can be a perfect lover to your babe during her ‘red alert’:

    Ask her what you can do to help

    There’s no miracle cure for making a girl on her period feel better. Every woman has different preferences but you can somehow make a difference. As such in other not to be found wanting, just ask her what you can do to help out.

    Whether it’s running to the store to get pads or tampons or helping out with the chores, just keep in mind that she may be feeling really horrible and that those simple tasks can mean the world to her.

    Answer questions with care

    A girl on her period may not realise it, but there are times when they can’t help but put their men in the spotlight by asking questions that have no right answer.

    And when you attempt to answer those questions, you may be assaulted by a bombardment of angry words, tears, and the occasional threat to break up.

    Avoid sensitive subjects

    Your woman may usually be a rational and easygoing person. But when she’s on her period, she may not respond with the same nonchalance as she would on a regular day.

    So before you tell her about your honest opinion on one of her all-time favourite movies or casually mention an out-of-town trip with just the guys, consider telling her about it when she’s no longer as moody.

    Anything that might elicit the slightest hint of annoyance might turn into full-blown anger when a girl is on her period and already battling her hormones.

    With that said, it’s best to keep the conversation light and soothing, at least until she’s done with her period.

    Give her food

    Losing blood and feeling bloated can be pretty exhausting for a girl on her period. It can drain so much of a woman’s energy that she’d be too tired to prepare a meal.

    In these cases, one of the best gifts you can give her is her favourite food. Sometimes, women on their period can act like pregnant women in that they may start to have unusual cravings.

    In cases like these, it’s ideal to ask her what she would like before heading out to get it for her.

    Get naughty

    Some experts say that having sex or just engaging in foreplay can help soothe the cramps a girl experiences along with her periods.

    Albeit, it’s mostly a matter of preference if you want to engage in some horizontal tango while it’s all ‘bloody’ around. If you’re convinced you can go through with it, why not? Go for it.

    Just remember that she may feel extremely unsexy during this time of the month although, for some other women, this is when they feel the horniest. So, to avoid a tedious clean up after the cat, it’s best it’s done in the shower.

    Treat her like a queen

    You should have a lot more empathy for your beau when she’s on her period just in case you’re the kind of lover who has little or none.

    So, during these few days, you need to suck it up and be nice as pie. Treat her, show her that you care, and basically do all the things you should be doing a lot more of anyway! 

    Be as patient as you can possibly be

    While you’re the recipient of her hormonal rage, keep in mind that the state she’s in won’t last for more than a couple of days. After that, she’ll be back to her usual self.

    Also, during these times, it may be a good idea to be extra nice, just for added measure.

    Ensure to keep words like, “I’m sorry,” “You’re right,” and “It’s fine with me” in your vocabulary for use in conversations that are teetering precariously on the argument vs. conversation line.

    Compliment, tell her how much you love and care for her

    Beyond dishing out all the nice treatment you have up your sleeves, make sure you compliment her looks, even if you have to lie sometimes…lo!

    Also, butter her up with sweet nothings by telling her how much you love, adore, cherish and care for her.

  • Eight reasons big booties thrill men

    Eight reasons big booties thrill men

    Killer female features can sweep most men off their feet! But a nice, perky, well-rounded big butt has got to be number one.

    Here are eight reasons women’s ‘arsenal’ (backside) thrills most men:
    They’re like a drug

    According to a study, big butts affect the same part of the male brain that is triggered by alcohol and drugs.

    The researchers showed men pictures of women before and after butt enlargement surgery while they monitored their brains.

    These men’s brains were literally intoxicated with the beauty of big derrieres, which evoked the same attraction and obsession as if they were a drug.

    They are simply nice to gaze on

    Men are visual creatures; it’s as simple as that. So, if they see a beautiful woman in a swimsuit or sexy tight leggings, they will be instantly attracted to her.

    Of course, they will check out her eyes, smile, hair, and last but not least, her body type with the focus on her butt cheeks. Truth be told, a nice butt captures the gaze of both men and women.

    A big bootie sparks every guy’s imagination and they spend a great amount of time observing that particular part of the female body.

    They’re a forbidden territory
    Guys are usually aware that the butt is off-limits. It’s a place they are usually forbidden to enter, if you grab!

    And that is why a butt especially a big butt one is that much more attractive because it’s a forbidden territory and they can’t have it, which makes them want it even more.

    That’s why guys are obsessed with sex positions that include or accentuate a woman’s behind in the bedroom; it makes them feel like they are breaking the rules for gaining access to a no-free zone.

    They look perfect in jeans

    There is a difference between what men like and what women like.

    Women, on the one hand, like to look lean and long in their jeans, while men can’t resist seeing a woman in a perfectly fitting pair of jeans that accentuate her curves.

    Great satisfaction comes with seeing the process of how those big butts fit in tight jeans

    Seeing a woman trying to pull up jeans over her tights and big butt leaves a lasting memory on the minds of many men.

    Men get immense satisfaction by watching the process of a big booty entering really fit jeans. They like to see that there is something holding those jeans up.

    So, in a contest between a flat butt versus a nice, plump, round ass, the former doesn’t stand a chance.

    Perfect resting place for their hands

    When men hug a girl, the only logical place to put their hands is her butt, and if it’s nice, big, and squishy, they’ve hit the jackpot.

    They like to grab it and play with it, especially in the bedroom as it seriously turns them on.

    And during coitus, when a girl is on top, putting his hands on her butt is a must. Grabbing a nice, woman’s butt is extremely satisfying to guys.

    They’re nice to feel

    Big booty with the perfect amount of fat in the right places can serve as a pillow, hand warmer, or just something fleshy and fun to play with.

    There is nothing more beautiful than a perfectly shaped big butt to make a guy lose his mind nor is there anything nothing more soothing than the feeling of warmth from a nicely shaped booty.

    They’re a damn s3xy feminine trait

    A woman with a big round butt is certainly a sight to behold as it’s one feature that adds to a female’s s3xual appeal. It’s a major s3xy feminine trait, no cap!

  • My First Time Receiving Flowers – Ladies in Lagos and Abuja Speak

    My First Time Receiving Flowers – Ladies in Lagos and Abuja Speak

    As I sit at my desk and scroll through my social media feed these days, I often can’t help but feel
    a little envious of all the happy couples who are celebrating with bouquets of flowers and sweet
    gestures. But as I continue scrolling, something catches my eye – a post from one of my own
    friends in Lagos, sharing a photo of a beautiful bouquet of flowers from Regalflowers.com.ng
    with the caption, “First time receiving flowers and it feels amazing!”

    Intrigued, I decided to reach out to her and a few other ladies in Lagos and Abuja to hear their
    stories of receiving flowers for the first time. Here’s what they had to say:


    Lola, 27, Lagos:
    “I remember the first time I received flowers like it was yesterday. I was in my final year of
    university and had just landed my dream internship at a top law firm. My boyfriend at the time,
    who was also a law student, surprised me with a bouquet of red roses from Floralhub.com.ng to
    celebrate my achievement.

    I was absolutely shocked and touched by the gesture. I had always dreamed of receiving
    flowers, but never really thought it would happen to me. It made me feel so loved and special,
    and it’s a memory that will always stay with me.

    As a woman living in Lagos, it’s not uncommon to feel like you have to work twice as hard to
    prove yourself and achieve success. So to have someone acknowledge and celebrate that
    success with such a romantic gesture meant the world to me.

    Looking back, I realize that that moment was just the beginning of my love affair with flowers.
    I’ve received them on many special occasions since then, but that first bouquet will always hold
    a special place in my heart.”

    Chika, 32 Lagos:

    “My first experience receiving flowers was a little different from Lola’s. I was in my early 20s and
    had just started a new job in Lagos. I was working long hours and feeling a little overwhelmed,
    so it was such a surprise when I came home one day to a beautiful bouquet of red roses from
    Regal Flowers on my doorstep.

    I had no idea who they were from at first, but when I saw the card attached, my heart skipped a
    beat. They were from a guy I had been secretly crushing on for months. He had seen me
    struggling at work and wanted to brighten my day with something special.

    I was so touched by the gesture, and it made me feel like someone was looking out for me and
    cared about my well-being. It was a small but meaningful act of kindness that I will always
    remember.

    Since then, I’ve received flowers on several special occasions, but that first bouquet will always
    hold a special place in my heart.”

    Tolu, 23 Abuja:

    “My first experience receiving flowers was on my wedding day. My husband and I had a
    traditional Nigerian wedding, and one of the customs is for the groom to present the bride with
    gifts during the ceremony. While it is normal to see traditional items like yams, rice and so on, it
    was surprising to see he had included a bouquet of red roses, which was an interesting twist on
    the tradition.

    It was such a sweet and romantic gesture, and it made me feel so loved and appreciated.
    I will never forget the look on my husband’s face as he presented me with the flowers. It was a
    moment that captured all the love and joy we felt on our special day.

    Since then, my husband has continued to surprise me with flowers on special occasions, and it
    always brings a smile to my face. Flowers have a way of expressing love and appreciation in a
    relationship or even friendship.

    Ronke, 25 Lagos:

    The first time I received flowers were from my then boyfriend on our first anniversary.
    “I was completely surprised when he showed up at my office with a bouquet of red
    roses,” Ronke recalls with a smile. “I had never received flowers before, and I was
    overwhelmed with emotions.

    It was such a sweet and thoughtful gesture, and it really made my day. I still have that a picture of myself holding that bouquet pressed in a frame as a reminder of that moment.

    Kemi, 28 Lagos:
    Kemi, who lives in Abuja. Her first experience with flowers was a bit different than
    Yemisi’s.

    She had been in a long-distance relationship with her boyfriend for a few years,
    and they were always trying to find ways to stay connected and show their love for one
    another.

    One day, Kemi received a package in the mail from her boyfriend. Inside, she
    found a beautiful bouquet of roses, along with a sweet note telling her how much he
    missed her and how much he loved her.

    Kemi was overjoyed by the gift, and immediately called her boyfriend to thank him. She
    couldn’t believe that he had thought to send her flowers, and it made her feel loved and
    appreciated in a way that nothing else could. She kept the flowers on her desk at work,
    and looked at them every day as a reminder of the strong bond she shared with her
    partner.

    What about you? What was your experience receiving flowers for the first time?

  • Female celebrities who shamed ex-lovers over s3xual performances

    Female celebrities who shamed ex-lovers over s3xual performances

    Breakups can be messy. While some couples opt to part ways amicably, others find it difficult not to draw the first blood. Women, most times, take breakups more seriously than their male counterparts probably because they are much more emotionally invested than the men. In trying to get back to the men, they try to puncture their ego and s3xual performance.

    Here are some female celebrities who took their pounds of flesh after a messy breakup:

     

    Nkechi blessing and Falegan.

    Nkechi Blessing and her estranged lover Opeyemi Falegan were the instagram celebrity couple you would have wished you were. They ‘peppered’ the “God when the association of singles” and the “God am I a spoon faculty” with their picture-perfect couple goals but things soon took a downturn when the duo separated.
    In a live video, admitting to the fact that she was a lesbian and shouldered her ex’s financial responsibilities among many other things, Nkechi Blessing also alleged that Falegan had a poor bedroom performance. She had even alleged that his manhood was ineffective. Following that accusation, she brought out a variety of s3x toys for the satisfaction she claimed her ex could not meet. She went as far as switching them on and mimicking the sounds they make.

     

    Tonto Dikeh to Olakunle Churchill.
    The whole internet was on fire when Actress Tonto Dikeh and her ex-husband Olakunle Churchill went their separate ways. The actress- cum socialite accused her ex of being emotionally abusive and an absentee parent. It was even learnt that her bride price was returned after their fall out. She alleged Churchill had erectile dysfunction. In an interview with Daddy Freeze, the actress blatantly alleged that her ex could not hold a penile erection for more than 40 seconds, leading to the popular coinage “40- second man”

     

    BBN Ka3rna to BBN Praise.
    Speculations trailed the relationship between BBN season 5 lockdown housemates Ka3rna and Praise after the duo was seen having an affectionate moment on camera. However, after she was evicted, Ka3rna denied ever being s3xually intimate with Praise. She said their act was mere “aggressive cuddling’ but the story changed when the reunion of the season aired.

    Ka3rna, who had denied having s3x with Praise, confirmed they actually did an Praise couldn’t even hold up for more thatn 30 seconds.

    With disdain, she said “I slept with him and he couldn’t even last for 30 seconds”

     

    Tbaj and Prince

    Just like Ka3rna, T’baj also gave Nigerians an insight into the s3xual prowess of her former Lover in the house, Prince.
    The relationship between the duo from inception was always rocky. They always had an issue to tackle inside and outside the house. According to the story that was revealed between Dorathy, T’baj and Prince during the reunion, the duo had gotten s3xually intimate, an action which T’baj termed “unimpressive”. Addressing him and Ebuka she said, ”we had s3x and he didn’t even last up to five minutes.” Turning to Prince, she said: “You did not impress me at all.”

     

    Stefflon Don and Burna Boy

    Singer Stefflon Don and her ex-lover Burna Boy were a force to be reckoned with as they proved to be really close knit. But to the utter amazement of well wishers and online inlaws, they parted ways but not without spilling blood. Although the duo had not yet sheathed their swords, we have not heard any ramblings for some time. Steff alluded their break up to a number of things including the Grammy award winner’s inability to satisfy her in bed. In an instagam story she wrote: “I broke up with Burna Boy because he has a fragile ego. He sees his friend Wizkid as a competition despite knowing Wizkid is bigger than he is. He can’t even satisfy me in bed. SMH. He bullied me the last time I wanted to talk, but not anymore. Funny, Laslas na everybody go chop breakfast”

  • Girls, stop messing around with your glorious destiny!

    Girls, stop messing around with your glorious destiny!

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, Kudos to your wonderful initiative of teaching the world to be s3xually-pure. Even though I’m not a Christian nor ever read a bible… I still yield to your advice ma’am. Keep it up ma!

    Rofiat Atanda

     

    Dear Mummy Temilolu

    Thank you for always showing us the way! You’re a perfect definition of “you can be godly, s3xually-pure and beautiful!” Countless times when I’m in despair like God why this…He kept mentioning your name to me and trying to spiritually discern what it means, I saw the road maps very clear and i kept it because I wanted a confirmation several times. My prayer for you is that you’d never get tired of us for he has given you an assignment to be a hell raiser and a saver! More strength ma.

    Damilola

     

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters.

    In the course of this week, a lady posted a video on social media in which her boyfriend stripped her naked in the presence of his friends and flogged her for cheating on him! My question is how could any girl bring herself so low to a point where a so-called boyfriend would have the guts to assault her if not that she has submitted her entire life and enjoyed so much of his largesse? How can a guy ravish your body, soul and spirit and have the temerity to treat you in such a savage manner? Spousal abuse starts from even your teens when you start treating a guy like a god! A lot of you girls are going through horrible emotional pain and allowing the devil to successfully derail you from manifesting the wonderful wonder that you are! A lot of women your mother’s age have been torn apart and had their lives turned upside down because they didn’t lay a solid foundation for their lives and thought all the good in the world could come to them only through one man or the other! Haaaa….this is tragic! Very bad! And a lot of you are already toeing that very disgraceful path!

    Let me ask you, if right now you can’t even afford a 3-square meal and God opened your eyes to see your bright prospects and His superb plans for you including owning an aircraft before age 40, provided you follow Him with all your heart, avoid ungodly s3x and preserve your virtues, would you ever have a boyfriend or s3x outside marriage?

    You can’t pursue a star/glory you don’t know you carry so you are swept away by the world- submerged by its spirit which is in contention with the spirit of God! Unfortunately time’s going! Time’s running out fast! Every life has a time table! What God has designed to make you shine in your teens/20’s may never come up again in your lifetime if you fail to manifest it! This is a very serious matter!

    Yielding to the lust of the flesh does more harm than you can ever imagine. It fights against your soul which is the seat of your spiritual perception and intelligence and deprives you of seeing God’s beautiful plans for you. It turns you to your lover’s puppet! It denies you too much! Believe me, if some of you saw what God has planned for you and how phenomenal you’d stand out in life, you’d wish to have limited human contact so as not to be denied of what some can never achieve in 10 life times which is right on your fingertips! I know what i’m talking about! A lot of you have scuttled God’s awesome plans for you even after He showed you by messing around and playing into the hands of the devil, sacrificing your goodies through s3xual Intercourse!

    Stop dulling yourself, stop dulling yourself! Stop attending churches where all you hear is pastor’s life nuggets! You’d remain beneath them! However, if you attend churches which preach the undiluted word of God and hammer on the narrow path and live a consecrated life, you’ll continuously be under the shadow of the almighty and soar so high such that your altitude in life would be limitless!!! You’d be one in your generation, as uncommon as a rainbow!

    May God move you from Zero to Hero, from Rejection to the Grandest Reception in Jesus mighty name!!!

     

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  • 8 places you may find a ‘wife material’

    8 places you may find a ‘wife material’

    So many get confused when it comes to places to find a wife.

    Well, no matter your level of confusion, never rule out these seven places if your intention is to find a great ‘wife material’;

    Religious gatherings

    Religious gatherings, especially those held on weekdays and Sundays in churches or mosques, have always been considered one of the best places to find a ‘wife material’ from time immemorial.

    So if you are the very religious kind of man who also wants a ‘religious’ wife you should always switch on your search antenna whenever in any such gatherings.

    Though not all the ladies and even men who gather in such places are what they depict, with your faith the heavens will smile on you and you will find your ‘perfect’ fit.

    Social media platforms

    While not all social media platforms are guaranteed to give you your spec in a wife as there are a handful of people displaying false lifestyles and identities, there are still genuine ladies on these platforms. With due diligence and caution, if you apply your searchlight in the right corners, the comment section of a post or looking up a lady’s bio could interest. You can proceed to sending a DM and you could just get fortunate to realise she’s all you’ve wanted in a woman upon first actual meeting and the rest would become history.

    Weddings

    This is one sure avenue to meet pretty ladies who would waste no time to show up looking beautiful, screaming ‘Take me home to mama’. But you know you can’t take all but one home to mama.

    So you must spot and identify the one you think fits into the picture of the kind of woman you desire and shoot you shot. You may eventually get lucky and your wedding will be next others would be attending.

    The workplace

    Oh yes! The office or the space you transact your business is another great spot to find for yourself the woman of your dreams.

    Though, some people bluntly refuse the idea of considering the office as a place presenting several arguments to that effect.

    However, the workplace should never be ruled out because many people have been fortunate to find their soul mates there.

    You beam your searchlight among your female colleagues ‘entering your eyes’ and make your pick.

    It’s okay to ask a few other ‘trusted’ colleagues about your spec if you haven’t established a good rapport with her.

    If you’re conceived she fits into the picture, ‘apply pressure’ regardless of what others may think or say but stay ‘woke’ while at it because your yearning for a wife in the office must not interfere with your jobs.

    The gymnasium aka gym

    For the fitness enthusiasts who love to work out and desire someone just like yourself, this is your one sure spot to find ‘her’.

    Parties/clubs

    Not all female clubbers/ party attenders are indecent or ‘loose’. Some go to such places just to unwind, may sound like a weird way of doing that though. But yes, that’s how some people unwind. Not everyone would just lock themselves indoors or going to the movies some want to party hard, dance, listen to loud music and maybe sip some drinks.

    So, if your spec fits into this category, you should ‘dull yourself’ when next you go clubbing or partying.

    The movies

    The cinema is a cool place to spot that ‘wife material’ you have so yearned for.

    If you are single and searching male and a movie lover who would rather go out to see one than in your house, aside seeing your favourite movie when you do go to the cinema, also intentionally look out for a prospective wife material among the ladies that troop in to indulge.

    Do not allow your movie night out go to waste!

    The beach

    Yes! Yes!! Yess!!! The beach! This is another sure hotspot to get that dream girl and make her yours forever.

  • Girls, may the devil not be posted to your lives!!!

    Girls, may the devil not be posted to your lives!!!

    Dear Evangelist Temilolu, I’ve been a very big fan of yours since i came across your articles. I am a devout Catholic. I want to tell you today that though I am 43 years, I am still a virgin ma. I made up my mind since I was young not to sleep with any man except the man I’m married to!

    I have always prayed to God to keep me safe and He always hear my prayers. I have never been in a serious relationship with men, as I detest the attitude of a man trying to romance me in the name of love.  Some time in my secondary school days, I had a problem with my legs and till now I still depend on a walking stick to move about. Despite this, I have come across a few men interested in me over time but they don’t seem sincere and I don’t go far with men trying to romance me not to talk of sex because I know what romance can turn to. I’ve avoided it so far and once I do that, that’s the end of any relationship!

    Sincerely I don’t have any regrets that they left because I refused to yeild to their lustful desire and I have been resolute in God that no matter what, I will not defile myself until God brings the right man into my life and I’m happily married to him.

    I hope you will keep me in your prayers ma, as I really pray to get married soon by the grace of God and have a glorious, happy and God fearing family.

    Thank you ma. More grace from God. Love you ma.

    Antonia, 43

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I decided to keep myself till my wedding night! I dated a Benue guy for 4 years and we did nothing until I met this Yoruba guy who has been harassing me for a relationship since the last two years.I didn’t want to accept his overtures because I don’t want to marry a Yoruba but I later fell for him after dating for six months then he broke up with me without reasons!

    After 2 months we were back after much pleading and he kept disturbing me for sex. The day we clocked one year- October24 2020 we were romancing and I thought as usual i could harden my body and avoid penetration, but he overpowered me and pushed in with full force! He knew I wasn’t ready and begged me all through November to forgive him and I said no problem though i was deeply hurt. I got deflowered at the age of 23.

    I noticed i was pregnant last year June and out of fear and because we were both never ready, I aborted it! After six months I took in again December Last year and I aborted again! My feelings for him is unusually strong ma and I guess it’s because he deflowered me. Last month, he left without saying a word! No call…No visit…I did nothing wrong and he told my friends reasons that aren’t genuine like “she doesn’t trust me,” “she can kill me” and the like!

    Now he’s back to his ex after saying there’s nothing between them! I’m so crushed! My pain is why did he trace me till he found me? Why did he come back to defile me?

    I can’t forgive myself for having 2 abortions! I’m in so much in pain! I can’t forget him easily and I don’t know where to start from! Please help me before I do something silly to myself!!!

    Girls…girls…girls…ladies,

    Hmm…to start with my heart goes out to wonderful Antonia who’s still a virgin at 43! Wow! Just wow! I can only pray God will honour her before the end of this year with the best marriage and the very best of things in life! What a lady! At an age where a lot of girls before age 20 have slept with more men than their mothers and grandmothers combined ever slept with! I pray God glorifies her and makes her a classical example of the rewards of obedience!

    There’s a Yoruba proverb which says “You shouldn’t smell what you don’t want to eat!” The 2nd lady above has been keeping herself for marriage yet she’s been romancing some guy thinking she would always have power over her flesh only for her to end up with 2 abortions and a badly broken heart! How sad!!! How cruel! I imagine all she’s ever gone through from rejection, to disappointments to lack of favour and so many lonely nights while keeping her virginity only for it to be cunningly snatched by a satanic lover and then 2 abortions!!! Lord have mercy!!!

    You all had better be very strong in the Lord as the devil usually gives anyone who doesn’t want to defile God’s temple a very hard time! More to come on this!

     

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    Ten natural tips to grow your hair

    We all love long hair and the hairstyles we can do on that hair. But just growing hair is not enough, if they are not healthy.

    Yes, having long and healthy hair accounts for those beautiful hairstyles which you have been seeing. Just like we need vitamins, proteins, and minerals to grow ourselves and keep our body healthy. Similarly, our hair also needs enough nutrients for it to grow. But only nutrients are not enough for hair growth.

    To maintain the proper growth of hair, you need to take care of some basic home remedies. Such as-
    1. Drink lots of water
    2. Always oil your hair before you wash them
    3. Use mild shampoo and conditioner
    4. Use silk cushion cover while sleeping, in order to avoid hair breakage.
    5. Don’t tie your hair too tightly.
    6. Do not use heating iron frequently
    7. Apply hair mask twice a week
    8. Do not use a towel, to dry your hair, instead use a cotton t-shirt
    9. Eat healthy and nutritious food
    10. Use castor oil if you have much hair fall
    11. Use hair growth products.

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    Five helpful tips for successful marriage

    Agreeing to be with someone for lifetime requires wisdom and a lot of sacrifices. Baring in mind that you have different upbringings, a certain level of commitment and tips are expected from both partners.

    Here are five helpful tips for successful marriage:

    *Respect your partner

    It’s important you both respect each other. Regardless your status, there is need to respect each other’s decision. Although, there are time you might feel the need to compromise, however, it has to be mutual.

    *Encourage and compliment each other

    Encouraging your partner brings the better version of him or her. Ensure to help push each other to reach your highest potentials. Be each other’s cheerleader and greatest supporter. Be the husband or wife that encourages decision that will grow the marriage.

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    *Good communication

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    Communication is a very key thing in a relationship. When there is good communication, you are more likely to experience a peaceful and happy relationship, and this won’t give room for disagreement or misunderstanding. Be expressive about anything and everything to your partner. Never listen to hearsay. Be open minded to each other. Convey whatever bothers you to your partner.

    *Master the art of fidelity and trust

    Leverage on trust in your marriage. Partners need to be sure of what they are both capable of doing or not. Be the partners that stick to your words. Build and grow your marriage with trust. Learn to always speak the truth to each other for peace and love to reign in the marriage .

    *Develop an intimate relationship with God

    Having a relationship with God makes it easier for the both of you. Seek the holy book  wisdom, study the word of God, develop a life of prayer and be dedicated to living for God.