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  • The secrets of family increase (4)

    DEAR Reader, I will be concluding this series, by showing you something that has robbed many from entering into the fullness of the blessings of God.  As we start, we will see how it can be avoided and cured.  This thing am talking about is a universal disease that has no regard for a particular race or colour. It plagues the big and the small. It doesn’t matter whether you travel from one country of the world to another; it needs no visa to travel with you. It is Anxiety!

    Anxiety is defined as a troubled feeling in the mind, caused by fear and uncertainty. It is a killer disease which needs a cure. If left unchecked, it degenerates into bigger diseases. However, as great as advancement in medical science is, it has not been able to provide a cure for anxiety. So, how do we overcome anxiety? The only cure to anxiety is the Word of God. The Word is the all-producing and never-failing solution to every issue of life (Hebrews 1:3).

    Before we can successfully tackle this disease, it will be good to know its causes and effects.  It differs from people to people, ranging from fear of insecurity, finance problems, failure, ill health of a family member, etc. Maybe you live in an area where robbers pay regular visits to, maybe the general economy of your country is not encouraging or you are to execute a project, and the means to do it is not visible. These and lots more are diverse causes of anxiety plaguing homes, families and people generally, in the world today.

    The effects of anxiety are so many as we mentioned above and they are devastating. Spiritually, anxiety cuts off your relationship with God, and takes away your joy. Without joy, you cannot worship God, neither can you serve Him acceptably, nor pray effectively. If all these are not in place, however, the devil has a free hand, and anything could happen. God forbid! The family today, is prone to this killer disease called anxiety. Never let it catch up with your family. Fight it and free yourself. Give the devil no chance in your affairs.

    So, what is the cure for anxiety? The Bible says: Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God (Philippians 4:6).

    The above Scripture is a commandment from God. To obey is better than sacrifice. When you give room to anxiety, you are working in disobedience. You may say, “Well, I know it is a commandment, but what do I do now? How do I pay children’s school fees, landlord’s rent, and car expenses?” Remember, the book of Proverbs chapter 29 and verse 1 says that anyone who refuses instruction shall perish suddenly without remedy. God knows about all these, before He said you should be anxious for NOTHING. It means He has given you what it takes not to give room to anxiety. You have the power to refuse anxiety.

    When you consciously refuse to be anxious, you are obeying God’s commandment and He in turn makes things begin to work out for you. You can overcome anxiety. Cast all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. When you give in to anxiety, you are judging God unfaithful, and you are calling Him a liar.

    You are not too sure of His abilities and therefore, you can no more depend on Him. Free yourself from the entanglement of anxiety today, and give God a chance in your affairs. This comes by surrendering your life to Christ.

    You surrender by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord.  If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer:  Dear Lord, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again! Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name.

    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204. For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • The secrets of family increase (4)

    Dear Reader, I will be concluding this series, by showing you something that has robbed many from entering into the fullness of the blessings of God.  As we start, we will see how it can be avoided and cured.  This thing am talking about is a universal disease that has no regard for a particular race or colour. It plagues the big and the small. It doesn’t matter whether you travel from one country of the world to another; it needs no visa to travel with you. It is Anxiety!

    Anxiety is defined as a troubled feeling in the mind, caused by fear and uncertainty. It is a killer disease which needs a cure. If left unchecked, it degenerates into bigger diseases. However, as great as advancement in medical science is, it has not been able to provide a cure for anxiety. So, how do we overcome anxiety? The only cure to anxiety is the Word of God. The Word is the all-producing and never-failing solution to every issue of life (Hebrews 1:3).

    Before we can successfully tackle this disease, it will be good to know its causes and effects.  It differs from people to people, ranging from fear of insecurity, finance problems, failure, ill health of a family member, etc. Maybe you live in an area where robbers pay regular visits to, maybe the general economy of your country is not encouraging or you are to execute a project, and the means to do it is not visible. These and lots more are diverse causes of anxiety plaguing homes, families and people generally, in the world today.

    The effects of anxiety are so many as we mentioned above and they are devastating. Spiritually, anxiety cuts off your relationship with God, and takes away your joy. Without joy, you cannot worship God, neither can you serve Him acceptably, nor pray effectively. If all these are not in place, however, the devil has a free hand, and anything could happen. God forbid! The family today, is prone to this killer disease called anxiety. Never let it catch up with your family. Fight it and free yourself. Give the devil no chance in your affairs.

    So, what is the cure for anxiety? The Bible says: Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God (Philippians 4:6).

    The above Scripture is a commandment from God. To obey is better than sacrifice. When you give room to anxiety, you are working in disobedience. You may say, “Well, I know it is a commandment, but what do I do now? How do I pay children’s school fees, landlord’s rent, and car expenses?” Remember, the book of Proverbs chapter 29 and verse 1 says that anyone who refuses instruction shall perish suddenly without remedy. God knows about all these, before He said you should be anxious for NOTHING. It means He has given you what it takes not to give room to anxiety. You have the power to refuse anxiety.

    When you consciously refuse to be anxious, you are obeying God’s commandment and He in turn makes things begin to work out for you. You can overcome anxiety. Cast all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. When you give in to anxiety, you are judging God unfaithful, and you are calling Him a liar.

    You are not too sure of His abilities and therefore, you can no more depend on Him. Free yourself from the entanglement of anxiety today, and give God a chance in your affairs. This comes by surrendering your life to Christ.

    You surrender by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord.  If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer:  Dear Lord, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again! Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name.

    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204. For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • The secrets of family increase (4)

    DEAR Reader, everybody in life desires increase, and it is good and godly to want increase.  That is why we will find out from God’s Word today what it takes to enjoy increase, so you can keep on increasing in life.

    God is a giving God. Giving is godlike. If we claim to be God’s children, we must emulate Him in all things.  This week, we will be looking at Giving.God so loved the world that He gave (John 3:16). He demonstrated His love for man by taking the initiative and giving us His Son, even when no man understood what He was doing and could not say, “Thank you”. It was in His selfless giving that the world was won. If man and wife will learn to prefer each other in love, consider and think of ways to bless the other, family life will be so much sweeter. God’s Word says: Love is…never…selfish… (1 Corinthians 13:5 (TLB).

    Giving To God

    Money is actually limited in value except it is placed in the hands of God. Money has wings. If you don’t send it on errand, someday it will take up wings and fly away by itself.  Wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not? for riches certainly make themselves wings; they fly away as an eagle toward heaven (Proverbs 23:5).

    Money is a god; it seeks to be worshipped. That is why Matthew 6:24 says you cannot serve God and mammon. “Mammon” means money. It is a good servant but a terrible master; don’t allow the absence of it to determine the atmosphere of your home. There are some people once they are angry, you know there is no money in their pocket. Don’t let it destroy the peace and joy in your home.

    The Bible declares that two is better than one. You can “better” your giving to the Lord by giving as a family, thus making better your receiving (Luke 6:38). You must encourage each other to sow seeds. Though hard times have come upon the earth, you will be exempted as you purpose to keep sowing into the Kingdom. As a family, ensure your tithe is paid, either separately as husband, wife and children or together as a family. Give offerings according to your size also. Don’t rob God in your offerings. Ensure that your children also give offerings.

    It is wisdom to sow to the Kingdom, even when you need every penny. There is a portion to eat and a portion to sow (Proverbs 11:24).

    Giving To The Poor

    You must be generous to the poor, the underprivileged and those who do not have as much as you have. God loves the merciful and releases blessings upon them. God’s Word says: He that giveth unto the poor shall not lack: but he that hideth his eyes shall have many a curse (Proverbs 28:27).

    When you reach out to bless the poor, God ensures that you do not lack. Anyone who pretends not to know those who are in need, is selfish and will incur a curse upon himself.

    Cornelius was a man given to almsgiving, and one day God visited him and blessed him with salvation. You, too, can register in God’s book of remembrance, by being open and generous. Women can emulate the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31.

    Giving To Men Of God

    As couples, you must provoke each other to do the right things. Sowing to the lives of men of God placed over us is right and provokes great blessings from the Lord. God is glorified when you handle your money this way.

    Giving To Parents

    We have an undeniable responsibility towards our parents. It is your duty to honour your parents, according to how God has blessed you. You can’t have parents, who don’t have food to eat and you are wasting food in your house. That is irresponsibility. You must honour your parents, if life must be well with you.

    Many marriages are in a financial mess because they fail in their covenant responsibilities to their parents.  God’s Word says:  Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth (Ephesians 6:1-3).

    Also, giving gifts to each other spices up the marriage. You can take the initiative to surprise your partner with thoughtful little gifts. If it did wonders for you during your courtship days, it will do you no harm to carry the habit over into marriage.

    Those who run after money are running after sorrow. My husband often says, “If you run after money you will mourn.” So, run after God, and money will run after you. Are you set to run after God? You need to be born again. To be born again means confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • The secrets of family increase (3)

    Dear Reader, with great joy and excitement, I bring God’s Word your way today. Last week, we saw the role of the man in the family.

    This week, we will also be looking at The Role of the Woman in the Family Finance. As we go along, I want you to believe God’s liberating Word as it comes to you through instructions. As you believe and obey His instructions, you will experience God’s mighty hand in your family.

    From creation, we see the role of the woman.  God created the woman to be a help that is meet for the man.  She is the help that is suitable for the man.  You are meant to be a help not ‘dis-help’.

    There should be no “his” and “hers” in family finance. Both should have access to each other’s money. Where there’s a joint account, no one should spend money without informing the other. At an agreed date, both partners can come together to plan the family budget, mapping out how much should be spent on food, children and each other, as well as paying electricity bills, etc. It is refusing to work together as a team that places families under tension and crisis.

    Trust is the key word in family finance. Husband and wife must trust each other enough to put their money together and be prudent in spending it. Note that accountability helps to boost trust. Where no one wants to be accountable to the other, there will be no progress financially.

    There are some women who spend feeding allowance on clothes and other personal things, when their husbands give them money for house keep. The virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 is trustworthy. God’s Word says: The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her… Verse 11.

    A good place to start in building up trust in one another is by being open about your monthly income. If you lie about it, you are only opening the way for the enemy.

    Consider this testimony

    “I was having problems at home financially. The money I had did not seem to be enough to make ends meet. My husband too was not co-operating. Then I heard about “Family Clinic Programme” being conducted by Pastor Mrs. F. Oyedepo and I decided to come and seek counsel concerning the finances of my home. After the teachings, I applied all I learnt and since then my husband has changed; he has been giving me money not only for feeding but enough to start a business. Thank God for His counsel.” – Mrs. T.

    As you obey the Lord’s instructions, your finances will take on a new turn as this lady’s own did in Jesus’ Name.

    To have an exciting marriage and family, you have to surrender your life to Jesus Christ. This is by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

  • The secrets of family increase (2)

    DEAR Reader, by God’s arrangement, the husband is to provide for his family. He is the one who must ensure there is food for members of his family. He must ensure that his family members are well taken care of, especially his immediate family members (S.O.S 1:6).

    The man must labour with his hands, especially as a married man; he cannot afford to be lazy. Your hands must be working hands. There is dignity in labour.  God’s Word says: Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: but he that gathereth by labour shall increase (Proverbs 13:11).

    This week, we will be looking at The Role of the Man in Providing for His Household.

    It is unfair for the man to shift the responsibility of handling family finances to the woman. He may assign a portion of it to her, but should not abandon his responsibility, only to turn around and blame her half way in the month, if the money does not stretch. However, the woman ought to be hard-working and assist the man in any way possible.

    A man who is too slothful to find gainful employment should not be caught eating … This we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat (2 Thessalonians 3:10). God is serious about the need for men to rise up to their God-given roles, even in this day and age, where women also work to help make ends meet. A man who is too slothful to find gainful employment should not eat. Bishop T.D. Jakes said in one of his teachings, “The first thing God gave the man was not a wife but a job, a vision, an assignment”. Right from the time Adam was blessed with a wife, the man has had to head the marriage union. This has also placed upon him the responsibility of providing for his household. God’s Word says: But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel (I Timothy 5:8).

    As the man, you must be working towards a goal of some sort. You should have some gainful employment. The only time we are permitted to stop working is when we don’t want to eat anymore, and that is either when you are asleep or dead. However, as long as you are awake and alive, then work must continue.

    Look at this testimony:“For over three years, whatever form of business I did eventually ended me in debts, as I went into the business without any capital. During this time, the devil would put me into one problem or another (either my children would fall sick or something else), which always disturbed and disgraced me.

    The miracle came just after the Breakthrough Seminar. We were advised to do whatever was laid in our minds, and it occurred to me to start selling ice water. I prayed and started it. Since then, I had been able to pay up a major part of my debt, and now I enjoy rest of mind!” – Nagberi, R.

    The man is given the responsibility to cater for his wife and children. If he fails in this duty, he is a failure! It is a curse if the wife takes up this responsibility of the man permanently in the home. For a couple to ensure they are shame-free, the man must understand this truth and rise to the occasion. When the money does come in, if the man selfishly spends all the money on new clothes for himself, etc, he cannot win his wife’s trust. From then on, she will take money from the feeding to buy personal effects for herself too.

    So, according to God, the man is the provider. He is the one who must look for food and provide for members of his family. This is in keeping with the divine order. Therefore, the man must labour with his hands and expect God to bring the increase. If he does not work, no increase can comes his way.

    The grace to carry out your responsibility in your home can only be given by God.  Do you need God’s grace in your life?  Then surrender your life to Christ. This is by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Managing your home (2)

    Managing your home (2)

    Dear Reader,  last week, we learnt man’s placement in the home. God designed marriage and family life to be successful. Well, you may say that every family has its own problems, but that is not necessarily the truth. From searching the scriptures, I have evidence to back up my claims that it is quite possible to have a hitch-free family here on earth. It is possible!

    This week, we shall be looking at those scriptural evidences briefly.

    After the fall of man, NOAH’s family was the first to distinguish itself in an evil generation. He was such a successful married man that God singled him and all the members of his family out, in the midst of destruction. God’s Word says:  And the Lord said unto Noah, Come thou and all thy house into the ark; for thee have I seen righteous before me in this generation (Genesis 7:1).

    It is amazing that a man can succeed in family life, even before the dispensation of grace. That is to say that even before the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ and the era of grace, a man had won God’s favour by his commitment to his family. God’s Word says: But Noah found grace in the eyes of the Lord (Genesis 6:8).

    If Noah could make it, then you and I have no excuse to fail in our families. There is no reason for pressure, tension, or frustration because Jesus has already paid the price. He was our perfect substitute. He has been wounded, bruised, beaten, humiliated, spat on, etc, so that we may enjoy glory and honour in our homes. That is why no man has any excuse for beating his wife. None whatsoever! In as much as you cannot beat yourself for inefficiency in any circumstance.

    ABRAHAM, the father of Nations, was a very successful married man. In those days when the law had not been delivered, Abraham was still faithful to his barren wife. Even before he became the friend of God, he had a successful marriage. His contact with God did not reduce his commitment to his family, rather it enhanced it.

    He was a man God could count on to command his family to follow after Him.  God’s Words says: For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgement; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him (Genesis 18:19).

    If truly we are children of Abraham, it should be for us ‘like father, like son’. That’s why Isaiah 51:2 says: Look unto Abraham your father, and unto Sarah that bare you: for I called him alone, and blessed him, and increased him.

    It is time to resemble our father, Abraham, not only in a life of faith but faithfulness to build our families following God’s blueprint. If Abraham did not have problems in his family, you should not import problems to your family. It is about time you walked in the footsteps of your father. If he made it, so will you!

    SIMON PETER, one of the foremost apostles and right-hand man to Jesus, during his earthly walk, was a successful married man.  God’s Word says: Have not power to lead about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the brethren of the Lord, and Cephas? (1 Corinthians 9:5).

    It is possible to doubt whether Peter was married or not, because there is no record of a day his wife came to the crusade ground to challenge him for not fulfilling his marital obligations! I believe that one major reason he could fulfil his course with joy was because he had peace at home. His marriage was not an obstacle to his ministry or vice versa.

    If Peter could make it in spite of the tight schedule Jesus ran, we have no reason to fail. God’s Word says: And when Jesus was come into Peter’s house, he saw his wife’s mother laid, and sick of a fever. And he touched her hand, and the fever left her: and she arose, and ministered unto them (Matthew 8:14-15).

    These are proofs that success in family life is a reality, and only fools doubt proofs. So, we have a responsibility to apply ourselves to the principles of God’s Word, which form the blueprint for marital success. Marital success shall be your portion in Jesus’ name!

    If you are not born again, you cannot be entitled to the peaceful married life that God has reserved for His children. You become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you desire to be born again, say this simple prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your Precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now, I know I am a child of God.

     

    Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: Email: contact@faithoyedepo.org and Tel. No: 07026385437, 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, The Effective Minister’s Wife, and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Managing your home (1)

    Managing your home (1)

    Dear Reader, it is with great joy that I welcome you to this life-transforming and inspiring teaching via the Word of God.  It is my prayer that at the end of this teaching, your life and family shall be transformed to the glory of God in Jesus’ name! This month, I will be sharing with you on Managing Your Home.

    God made the human family an unbeatable team and established them as gods on the earth; but because Adam failed in family management, he lost control and was sent out of the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3:23). May you not be sent out of your place of destiny, in Jesus’ name. This is why this week, I will be sharing on Man’s Placement in the Home.

    Your placement in the kingdom of God, as a man, is determined by how well you rule your home.  If you cannot rule your house well, God will not allow you to rule His church, because He knows that you will not succeed at it. See what the Bible says about those to take up responsibilities in the Church. One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (for if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God? (I Timothy 3:4-5). Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well (I Timothy 3:12).

    If you can’t rule your house well, there is a limit to how far you can go in the things of God.  This same truth is repeated twice in the same chapter, showing its importance.  How well do you rule your home?

    To rule the home well, the man must be a loving leader, not a taskmaster.  Love is a necessary ingredient that a man must possess for effective leadership.  Christ rules the Church with the rod of love.  For the man to succeed, he must rule his home with the same rod. In fact, it is a scriptural commandment for the man to love his wife, as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25).

    Remember, Christ loves the Church and gave Himself for us, even while we were yet sinners.  Did I hear you say, “But I am not Jesus Christ?” God’s Word says: I tell you the truth, anyone who believes in me will do the same works I have done, and even greater works… (John 14:12, NLT). So, if you are a follower of Christ and believes in His ministry, then you must also love your wife sacrificially, unconditionally and limitlessly.

    Don’t forget, love is not love until it is expressed. Therefore, to sincerely show that you love your wife, express it to her in words and in deed. When you demonstrate your love to your wife, you will be able to govern your home with ease.

    Clearly, if you must not suffer the kind of dethronement Adam suffered, you must have your home directly under your control. If your family fails, it is your fault and you will be held responsible by God. Even though God knew that it was the devil that deceived Adam and Eve, and gave them the fruit, which Eve ate before Adam, yet it was Adam that God called upon (Genesis 3:9).  Why?  Because God had already committed the management of the home into his hand.  The management of your home shall not fail, in Jesus’ name!

    God’s Word says: For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning… (Romans 15:4).  That is, in order not to make the kind of mistake Adam made, so that you do not suffer what he suffered, ensure that there is no communication breakdown between you and every members of your family.

    However, it is not enough to rejoice at the great authority that God has vested in you, as the head of the home, but to live up to the responsibilities attached to it. This is because some men boast to be the head of the family, without being responsible for the success of anything in the home. Anything happening to the body is felt most by the head.

    Have you ever thought about this: you as a man occupy such a strategic position that can influence and determine what the lives of other family members will be like? Therefore, live up to expectation, so that Christ can be magnified, not only in your life, but in your home as well.  Don’t let God regret making you the head of the home!

    The grace of God is the utmost requirement to effectively manage your home. This grace is only available to you when you surrender your life to Christ. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your Precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now, I know I am a child of God.

     

    Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: Email: contact@faithoyedepo.org and Tel. No: 07026385437, 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, The Effective Minister’s Wife, and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Guidelines for an exciting marriage (4)

    Guidelines for an exciting marriage (4)

    Dear Reader, so far, I have opened you up to possessing a right perspective of marriage, keeping yourself pure, and working on yourself to be the kind you like to attract, as guidelines for an exciting marriage. I see God giving you a change of story in Jesus’ name!

    There’s a unique fusion that occurs with the merging of two separate individuals into one. No one keeps secrets from himself. It is not possible for the toe to hurt without the brain knowing it; they are both members of one body. Similarly, God expects that when two become one in holy wedlock, nothing should be kept as secret between them. Both must be open to one another and walk in sincerity. This is why today, I will be teaching on the Power of Openness.

    The devil often leads people into thinking that if they open up completely, they may never be accepted for who they are or that when their spouses hear the whole truth about an issue, they won’t love them anymore. But this is a lie of the devil. God’s Word says: And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed (Genesis 2:25). If, in the beginning, the man and his wife were naked but did not experience shame, then it follows that if you apply the same principle of openness to your marriage, shame will not be your portion.

    When a wound is covered, it tends to fester and worsen; but when it is opened, however, healing comes. Whatever is covered will eventually be exposed. When it comes to light, it may come with shame and disaster (Proverbs 28:13).

    Even after marriage, important things that happen in our day-to-day lives should be shared. Openness breeds trust, and trust is the foundation for effective communication. Don’t speak in parables. Be truthful in your communication.

    For instance, be free to tell your spouse when you’re not happy about his/her lack of personal hygiene or anything else. You’ll be surprised that it’s such little things that cause big problems. Let your conversation be filled with sincerity. Don’t tell half truths. A half truth is a whole lie. Good marriages are founded upon effective communication. Learn to discuss freely with your spouse. Openness is not only for women; men also need to learn the art of opening up to their wives. God’s Word says:…Hide not thyself from thine own flesh (Isaiah 58:7).

    When a man takes a woman as wife, the Bible declares that in God’s eyes, they are one flesh. In Ephesians 5:28, God declares: …He that loveth his wife loveth himself. God says in Genesis 2:24: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.

    Intimacy is often thought of only in terms of the physical relationship. But when God says one should cleave to his wife, He is saying that there is total intimacy of spirit, soul and body. If there is no intimacy of the soul and spirit, then the physical relationship will not be fulfilling.

    Build closeness. Sit down frequently and talk things over. Be a good listener! Communicate! Share your feelings! Let your spouse know that he/she is the most important person on earth to you. Many times, after marriage occurs, times of intimate sharing become less frequent, the early super-romantic feeling dwindle, and the first tingly love is lost. Then some married partners say they are not “in love” anymore. But the early romantic spirit of courtship must continue to grow, if the marriage is to be a successful one.

    Through wisdom, the Bible says, is a house builded; and by understanding it is established (Proverbs 24:3). Homes are established upon understanding. Understanding enables you to read between the lines.

    Many homes have been destroyed because of lack of understanding. The husband misunderstands his wife’s actions, the woman also reads meanings into simple statements made by the man. When your spouse speaks, his words may be few, but because you understand him very well, he successfully communicates (1 Samuel 25:23-25).

    When you understand your husband or wife, less friction is bound to occur. Woman, with a good understanding of your man, you can pass across things you have observed that he does, which may not be profitable. May the Lord give you understanding in Jesus’ name.

    To have an exciting marriage, you have to surrender your life to Jesus Christ. This is by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your Precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now, I know I am a child of God.

    Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: Email: counselling@faithoyedepo.org and Tel. No: 07026385437, 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family and Success In Marriage (Co-authored).

  • Coping with diseases: Genital herpes

    Herpes is a generic name for a group of viruses that cause a variety of diseases. The ailments people generally associate with herpes are those that produce small blisters on the skin, which open and are replaced by a crust before they heal completely. Genital herpes is caused by a virus called herpes simplex (HSV2), which causes crusted sores, commonly around the lips and mouth (“cold sores”) and the genitalia. The infectious condition itself is also known as herpes simplex.

    The virus is intermittently present in the mouth of healthy carriers and is spread by personal contact; genital herpes is spread by sexual contact with an infected person and is a venereal disease. Although some forms can be transmitted through the air or by contact with infected articles (especially towels) used by someone with active herpes, infection usually occurs through direct physical contact.

    An attack begins with itching of the skin in the affected area, quickly followed by redness and swelling. Within a few hours fragile blisters (vesicles) appear and rupture to exude a sticky serum like fluid which rapidly crusts. Unless secondary infection with bacteria occurs, the lesions heal without scarring within about a week.

    Because herpes blisters individually are the size of a pinhead or smaller, they may not be easily visible. Generally, the affected area will be red, tender, and mildly to severely painful. Fever, headache, and general malaise may also be present.

    Genital herpes infections may cause a painful cervicitis (inflammation of the cervix) in women, with ulceration and a vaginal discharge. The results of recent research studies have suggested that women who develop herpes cervicitis may have an increased risk of developing cancer of the cervix in later years. The condition is now seen as a reason for regular screening by Pap smears, which can detect early cancerous changes at a stage when treatment is simple and curative.

    In men the genital infection is usually less severe. However, those whose immune response is impaired (such as cancer patients, HIV/AIDS sufferers or organ transplant recipients) can be very susceptible to herpes infection.

    Genital herpes may be passed from a pregnant woman to her baby during delivery. Babies infected during birth by their mothers’ active genital herpes are very likely to die or suffer severe brain damage because they have little or no resistance to the virus.

    Once the virus enters the body, in stays there for the rest of the person’s life, unless a natural remedy is applied. Recurrent attacks may occur, usually during periods when the person is feeling run down, anxious, or depressed, before menstruation, or after sexual intercourse.

    In holistic lifecare, the best prospect of prevention and total cure of genital herpes is in going back to nature in terms of personal hygiene, protected sexual contact and use of potent herbal remedies. Also, a body kept healthy by proper nutrition and exercise has the best chance of keeping the virus under control.

    The holistic remedy being suggested for total cure of Genital Herpes is a combination of natural extracts of Eugenia caryophylatta, Citrus lemonis, Euphorbia unispina, Hypericum perforatum and Echinacea augustifolia.

     

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  • Why Success in the family (4)

    Dear Reader

    You are welcome to the concluding edition in Jesus’ Mighty Name! By the enabling power of the Holy Spirit, I have been able to show you reasons why your marriage must succeed, the principles of a successful home, and the dangers of lack of success in marriage. Today, I shall be teaching on a subject which I titled, ‘Mind your tongue’.

    The tongue is an important part of our human make-up as it affects our daily triumphant living. The Word of God says: Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof (Proverbs 18:21). This part of our system is so important; it determines whether we live or not. God has promised to grant the desires of your heart this year. You need to always say only what you want to have. You may desire life, but if you permit your tongue to speak death, you cannot have anything but death. The Word of God says: … He shall have whatsoever he saith (Mark 11:23).

    What are you saying to your life this year? Are you speaking God’s Word and promises or are you saying negative things to your life? Life is a choice. Choose whether to use your tongue to bring about peace in your home or not. The tongue is either for blessing or cursing. As you use it, you reap its fruits. The Word of God says: What man is he that desireth life, and loveth many days, that he may see good? Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile (Psalm 34:12-13).

    Every good tree brings good fruit, while a bad tree produces bad fruit. What do you want in your family this year? I don’t care how much you can pray, fast or give, you will still reap the fruits of your lip. Keep your mouth from speaking evil. The Word of God says: A man’s belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled (Proverbs 18:20). Your home shall be satisfied with the fruit of your mouth. What is happening to you now is not the work of any devil, neither is it any witch near your house, but rather, it is the fruit of your tongue.

    The words of your mouth are seeds. When you plant them in your home, they begin to germinate and bring forth the kind of fruit your seed is made of. In Matthew 16:19, we are told that whatsoever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and that which you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. You bind and loose with your tongue, therefore, determine how to use your tongue. Your tongue is creative. Use it well. Our God is not a purposeless God. For everything He created, there is a purpose. He created the tongue for a purpose.

    God wanted to create a world that would be very good. His desire was implanted deep in His heart. The day He gave voice to His desire, our world was born. When He looked at all He had made, He put a final stamp of approval and declared them, “Very good” (Genesis 1:13). Even if the creation work was very good, as soon as God proclaimed that it was very good, the earth adjusted. Whatever good you desire to see in your home, speak it into being.

    From the Word of God, we understand that there are different types of tongues. God will not force anything on you. He has given you a will to choose that which will benefit you and bring about all- around happiness to you. We have:

    1. Wholesome Tongue: (Proverbs 15:4) It is a healing tongue. It is spirit-filled. It heals the heart of the weary.

    2. Soft Tongue: (Proverbs 25:15) It breaks the bone. It dissolves anger. It pacifies. (See Abigael – 1 Samuel 25)

    3. Just Tongue: (Proverbs 10:20) It brings about deliverance. It produces life. It delivers the oppressed. It delivers one from fear. It speaks only the truth.

    4. Tongue of Wisdom: (Proverbs 15:2) This has no relevance with age. It correctly applies knowledge. It speaks with grace and the wisdom of God.

    5. Lying Tongue: (Colossians 3:9; Leviticus 19:11; Proverbs 12:20-22) This is a tongue that makes false statements with the intention of deceiving another person.

    6. Deceitful Tongue: (Psalms 50:19-22; Psalm 52:2-5) A tongue full of deceits. It eventually brings about destruction.

    7. Flattery Tongue: (Proverbs 6:24) Speaking wrong words of praise to destroy.

    8. Slanderous Tongue: (Genesis 39:7-20) Destroying another person’s character.

    9. Backbiting tongue: (Proverbs 25:23) Speaking evil concerning a person in his/her absence.

    10. Double Tongue: (1 Timothy 3:8) Saying different things in deceit to suit yourself.

    11. Perverse Tongue: (Proverbs 17:20) It is a foolish tongue. Talks without having a purpose for talking. Argues unreasonably.

    12. Sharpened Tongue: (Psalm 140:3) Full of poison. Ready to murder. Speaking words of destruction to other people’s destiny. It incites evil between people.

    13. Excessive Talking: (Proverbs 10:19) Talking without break. Gossiping.

    Dear reader, of all listed above, which do you choose? Or rather, which is your own? The Bible encourages us to constantly examine ourselves and make amendments. Which of them is operational in your life now? Is it the positive one or negative? Examine yourself and make amendments. As it affects you, your family and all around you, let there be changes in your tongue this year. You will no doubt reap the fruits.

    Determine to reap good fruits by the words of your mouth. Ask God to touch your lips with His coal of fire, even as He did to Isaiah (Isa. 6:5-7). This year, by the words of your mouth, you can turn the situation in your home from bad to good, from good to best, and from shame to glory. Speak well concerning your husband or wife. Let words of grace come out of your mouth to your children. Refuse to talk like the people of the world concerning your business.

    You must be born again in order to obtain that success you desire in your home. Please say this prayer and be born again: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today.

     

    Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name!

     

    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:

    E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437; 07094254102

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Single With A Difference, Building A Successful Family, and Success In Marriage (Co-Authored with Bishop David Oyedepo).