Category: Saturday Magazine

  • NCPC to extend pilgrimage to Turkey, Uganda

    The Executive Secretary of the Nigerian Christian Pilgrim Commission (NCPC), Mr. John Kennedy Opara has said the commission would explore the possibility of extending the scope of pilgrimage operations to Ephesus, Turkey and Uganda next year.

    He disclosed this recently while hosting the executive members of the Knight of Saint Mulumba who were on a visit to his office in Abuja.

    The NCPC boss informed the knights that the commission had extended the scope of pilgrimage operations from Israel to Rome and Greece. He explained that the commission would continue to explore the possibility of expanding pilgrimage operations by identifying worthy holy sites in the world where Christians could visit for spiritual rejuvenation.

    According to the NCPC helmsman, “NCPC will be able to partner knights to include it in our pilgrimage programme next year.”

    He adde: “The extending our pilgrimage to Uganda will not be a bad idea”, he assured.

    He hinted that both the Christian and Muslim pilgrims enjoy the concessionary exchange rate of 146 naira to 1 US Dollar approved by the Federal Government through the NCPC and the National Hajj Commission of Nigeria and this has helped reduced the costs of pilgrimage packages. He, therefore, called on the church to fully maximize this opportunity to encourage their members to go on holy pilgrimage.

    He intimated his guests that the commission has been airlifting intending pilgrims from about six to seven airports in Nigeria which has helped in reducing the stress the pilgrims go through.

  • The mistress (4)

    I consoled myself with the fact that I was still young and fertile enough to have more children especially sons. I was ready to do anything in my quest to give my husband male issues as I felt instinctively that our future happiness depended on it. I confided my worries to one of my aunties and she promised to help. She said she knew a powerful man of God, a prophet who could help ‘turn my womb so I can only give birth to sons.’

    One day, she took me to this man who prayed for me and applied some funny smelling ointment on my stomach. He assured me that my womb would only produce males from then on.

    I believed him so much that when I became pregnant again some time later, I bought clothes for a baby boy. So, you could imagine my disappointment when I had another girl. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughters and I think the world of them. But we live in a society where the male child is highly sought after and a woman who can’t give her husband males is deemed a failure, one who has not fully fulfilled her role as a wife.

    This time around, when Frank heard I had given birth to another girl, he did not even bother to show up at the hospital. It was one of my elder brothers who came to pay the bills and take me and the baby home. And it was two days after, that he came home from wherever he had gone to. I noticed immediately that he was quite withdrawn. He did not show interest in me or the baby unlike in my previous deliveries.

    I tried to find out what was the matter, but he refused to say anything. Then one day, he simply flared up when I asked him to help me keep an eye on the baby while I took a quick shower.

    “Am I now your baby nurse that I should carry the baby? Take her with you or leave her there! Don’t bother me!” he said.

    “But Frank, what’s wrong with your helping me with the baby? She’s your daughter afterall!” I pointed out.

    “Yes! She’s my daughter and that’s the problem! There are just too many of them! You think I married you to fill my house with girls? Woman, you better wake up to your responsibilities or else…! with that he picked up his car keys and hurriedly left the house.

    I knew I had to give him a son or my marriage would be in jeopardy. But try as I could, I could not conceive again. It was as if my womb just closed up. Worse still, my relationship with my husband continued to deteriorate. Before, he would come home straight from work as soon as he closed to spend time with me. Now, I hardly saw him. Sometimes, he would stay out for days and return without explanations. To keep the peace in our home, I did not ask questions about where he had been.

    Later, I started hearing stories of his escapades with other women outside. A friend of mine even saw him at a swanky hotel in town one day with a lady and told me how he was all over her. I ignored all these stories and focused on taking care of my children, all the while praying that God would remember me and give me a son.

    Things got worse, however. We had been together for about seven years when Frank simply walked out on me one day. I had gone out that day and returned to see him dragging some suitcases downstairs. His driver was standing nearby to help load the bags in the boot of his jeep outside.

    “Where are you going, Frank? You didn’t tell me you were traveling,” I stated, eyeing the bags.

    “As you can see, I’m leaving,” he said shortly.

    “What do you mean, leaving? To where?” I asked, my heart beating fast with fear probably.

    “Can’t you get it? I’m going away! I’m leaving you! And for your own good, don’t bother looking for me!” he said, as he moved outside to the car park. I followed quickly, shocked at the turn of events. I knew we were having problems but not to the extent of abandoning me and his family. How could he?

    I was not ready to lose my husband so going down on my knees, I pleaded with him to reconsider.

    “Please, Frank, you can’t do this to me! Don’t go, honey! Think of the children! They need you. And I can’t live without you!”

    But he ignored my pleadings and hurriedly getting into his car, drove away. It’s been over a year now and I have not set eyes on my husband. We only speak on phone when he calls to enquire about the children. I’ve pleaded and sent people to him to give me another chance but he remains adamant. Worse, I heard he has started living with another lady in one of his other properties in town and he is planning to marry her.

    To be fair to him, he still takes care of us by giving me money for our upkeep. But that’s not what I want. I want my husband back. Some people might think what happened to me is the law of karma or nemesis considering what happened to Frank’s first wife. Or I should have paid attention to my mother’s advice as they were words of wisdom from an elder. Whatever.

    Truth is, I still love and want my husband and I will do anything to get him back. He is not actually a bad person but his obsession for a son has beclouded his judgement. So, what should I do to win him back? Thank you.

    •Concluded

    •What do you think Nicole should do next?

    •Send comments/advice/suggestions to psaduwa@yahoo.com, psaduwa007@gmail.com or 08023201831. The best feedback will be published soon!

    •Names have been changed to protect Nichole’s identity and other individuals in the story

     

  • 9 Signs your bad relationship is affecting your life

    When you are in a bad relationship, it’s hard to actually watch out for the signs your bad relationship is affecting your life and really messing with your personality. Bad relationships can be extremely unhealthy for your entire body, your mood and can really cause your personality to change. If you are trying to find out some signs your bad relationship is affecting your life, take a look at my list below.

    1. Weight Loss: This is probably one of the most common signs your bad relationship is affecting your life. Are you constantly losing weight? Are you constantly slimming down without meaning to? Do you drop weight in no time at all, just because of the stress of your relationship? Watch out for this girls, it might be nice to lose the weight, but you want to do it the healthy way and this is unhealthy.

    2. Depression: Depression is another common sign that your bad relationship is affecting your life. Do you even want to go out of the house? Do you constantly feel down and can’t remember exactly what joy and happiness feel like anymore? These are things to watch out for

    3. Constant Crying: Crying is something that a lot of people experience when they are in a fight in a relationship, but if you are crying every day, every night and at random times, is that normal? No! You shouldn’t constantly feel like you need to cry, your relationship should make you happy, not this stressed out!

    4. Walking on Eggshells: Do you have a constant feeling that you can’t speak your mind? That if you do, it’ll only upset your partner and then it’ll turn into a huge fight? Truthfully, you should be able to be honest in your relationship and if you are always walking on eggshells, it can bleed into your life outside of your relationship too.

    5. No Self Esteem: Your self esteem can be extremely hard to build up, but it can also be really fragile once you do. If you are losing your self esteem because your partner is constantly putting you down, that’s not a good feeling. It’s also not healthy at all.

    6. Secluded: Remember when I said that with depression, you don’t want to go out? Well, being secluded actually holds true as well. This is when you don’t even want to leave the house. Doing anything is an huge inconvenience for you and can even make you feel sick!

    7. Being Pulled in Too Many Directions: When you are in a really bad relationship, you can feel like you are constantly being pulled in too many directions. This is especially true if your partner is needy and is always pulling your attention away. Remember, you need to slow down and take time for yourself too.

    8. Weight Gain: While some people might lose weight, weight gain is another common sign that your bad relationship is affecting your life. If you are an emotional eater, you could constantly be eating everything in sight and you can’t quit. That’s how you deal with being in your relationship. That’s hard!

    9. Moodiness: Finally, how are your moods? Are they constantly swinging from one end of the spectrum to the next? That alone could be a sign that your relationship is not stable and that you are fearing for something and that it’s affecting your life.

    So girls, these are all of my signs that your unhealthy relationship is affecting your life. What other signs are out there? Give them up!

  • Marriage: A garden of treasures

    Dear Reader, one common treasure in any healthy garden that is well cared for, is healthy fruits. This is so too, in every marriage garden that is well cared for, following the laid down principles given by God.

    Marriage fruitfulness is a guaranteed treasure in your marriage garden. God Himself commanded this to be, the way He commanded creation to be, immediately after He conducted the first wedding ever in Genesis 1:28 which says: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion…

    It was not an admonition, but a treasure added to the marriage garden. God did not say, “You may be fruitful”, but “Be fruitful!” God designed your marriage to be fruitful and He has not changed His design either. Whatever contrary and negative report you may be experiencing now is of the devil, which must be forcefully taken back via an understanding of the treasures of fruitfulness that God has made available unto you. I command every such report to be cancelled today, by the Blood of Jesus!

    Though unfruitfulness is a problem plaguing many marriages today, I want you to know that your marriage was designed for fruitfulness. It should be a natural blessing, addition and favour from God to you in your marriage garden. Everything He created came to be and is still in existence today. God will not lie nor change. He is not a respecter of persons but His Word (Acts 10:34). His counsel stands sure forever (Psalm 33:11). If He said, Let there be light and there was light, then when He said, Be fruitful, you must be fruitful.

    No biological or any other report from man has the power to keep your marriage garden fruitless. Mark 10:27 says: With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible. Disabuse your mind of every scientific explanation. Trust God by holding Him to His Word, and you shall receive a miracle. Your marriage garden was meant to bear treasure fruits, as written in Deuteronomy 7:13-14. Instead of mourning and weeping over negative reports, wipe your tears and start enriching your mind with the covenant rights of your marriage garden.

    Choose to walk in the knowledge of the revealed truth and you will soon find out that no force can hold you down anymore. I see every stranger in your body die from its root and all that may have mocked you before will gather to rejoice with you. All that called you barren, will soon call you the happy mother of children in the name of Jesus!

    These testimonies are proofs of God’s power over every contrary report to His Word: “My sister got married in 1972 and in 1993, there was still no child. This thing kept bothering me. In 1990, I gave my life to Christ. Since then, God has been blessing me tremendously via His Word.

    One day, I heard His Word said to me, ‘God is never late’. This word went straight into my system and calmed me down.

    I woke up that day with a heavy heart because I remembered my sister’s situation, which had been for the past 20 years. I agreed on the Word of God as it came. To the glory of God my sister took in a month after and gave birth to a bouncing baby boy!” Adelakun, T.B.

    “I have just delivered a bouncing baby boy 14 days ago. When I was pregnant, despite the Word of God that I had been hearing, the devil kept telling me lies and wanted to deceive me. I was passing blood for the first four months and a half of my pregnancy! In order not to be embarrassed by being stained, I had to use pad.

    In all these, I kept holding on to God’s Word. I kept on confessing that it was just blood that I was seeing, not my baby and that the presence of the Holy Spirit is holding this baby in my womb. I believed my confessions.

    When the pregnancy was almost five months, the bleeding stopped. I did not go to the clinic until after seven months and two months later, I delivered a baby boy!”- Jayeoba M.

    By the power backing the Word I bring to you right now, that situation of barrenness is consumed and you are liberated, in Jesus’ name. Your testimony shall be the next. You are free in Jesus’ name!

    However, children are from the Lord (Psalm 127:3) and accepting Jesus Christ into your life will guarantee you access to His reward. To accept Jesus, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me form sin and Satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your kingdom.

    Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name!

    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com, faithdavid2013@gmail.com Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437; 07094254102

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • My pains going about with one hand -Pastor Movel

    My pains going about with one hand -Pastor Movel

    Pastor James Movel Wuye relives how he lost a limb to what he described as needless violence, the pains he bears and the gains of the peace initiative he now  champions with his foe turned friend, Imam Muhammed Ashafa.

    What was the motivating factor behind the establishment of the Inter-Faith Mediation Centre?

    Inter Faith came about as a result of the chance meeting between myself and Imam Ashafa in 1995. We never planned to start something like that. Actually, when we met, our desire was to find a way of dealing with one another. Eventually, it turned out to be something that sprang out as a response to the violence we were having. If you look at me, I have an artificial limb. I lost my limb through the activities aimed at protecting the church in 1992 after the Zangon Kataf crisis. As a result of that, Imam and myself started the centre where we started calling on religious personalities, particularly among the youths to come and let us address this menace in our land.

    That was how it started as a child of necessity to address an issue that was facing the society. Issues of youth restiveness, religious violence and religious radicalism which was subtly entering into all the religions. As a response system, Christians also started justifying violence. That was how the centre came about 19 years ago.

    You carry an artificial limb today. Tell us your experience carrying an artificial limb, especially your right hand.

    The irony of my hand is that when I lost it, I did not feel a sense of loss because I thought I was defending a cause. But later, I got emotional because I was not born left- handed. So, I had to learn all over again how to right. The painful aspect was the fact that I had to wear beeb each time I want to eat because my hands will be shaking all through. As I scoop rice or any other food, I smear my dress. When I go out, I have to put my hand in a jacket because many who knew me were now seeing me with one hand and they will ask so many questions. Eventually, I got a hand which was looking black. In fact, the first hand I got was a Chinese hand and that was not nice at all. Then, I got one that looked like my hand, but without a palm and that was very expensive.

    Lately, I got this one I am using now with a palm and you must look closely to know it is artificial. Many people stay with me for a long time without knowing that I am incapacitated this way. This issue is that there is nothing like the original, even though it costs about N1 million. Some people donated money to buy this, but it is already fading and breaking. So, don’t fight and lose a limb because it is very costly to replace and you can never get the original. So, why don’t you dialogue instead of using excessive energy to destroy each other? For me, that is the pain I carry. My regret is that I have some young people whose wives are still widows who were with me in the struggle and are now dead and from 1992 till date, those young girls are now mothers and grandmothers without husbands.

    I wish I knew the path of dialogue, I would not have gone into this situation. So, this is the pain I carry; but I am happy that this thing is happening so that others will not lose their limbs or their loved ones or their premises or their businesses. To our brothers in the insurgency, especially those who are still not happy with what is happening, they should come out for a dialogue and there should be sincerity on the part of the government to show that they really need the dialogue and grant immunity for those who will come out for this dialogue. There should also be sincerity on the part of those people who are there trying to express their grievances in the way they are doing. Both parties must be sincere and then, we can get somewhere. It is possible to do dialogue, it is possible to stop this insurgency through dialogue and superior argument and discussion with people who feel differently.

    What have been the success stories?

    To me, we have so many success stories that I don’t even know what to say; but you talk about our success locally, there is a saying in Hausa that if somebody promises you a suit, you look at the one he is wearing so that you know what to expect. Our first major success story was in 2002 when we brought over 15,000 Nigerians, including religious leaders, to the Murtala Square in Kaduna here to sign a peace declaration and almost all the members of the diplomatic community in Nigeria were in attendance. We had the British, the Americans and also a message from Yasir Arafat who was still alive then and a message from the Israeli foreign minister.

    For me, that was the peak. Another one was when we went to Yelwa Shendam, Plateau State, where a genocide was said to have been committed against the two factions that were fighting. Corpses were buried enmasse both for Christians and Muslims and we went there and tried to marshal out what we called the Shendam Peace affirmation. The then governor who was on suspension was just returning to office after the state of emergency and he came to sign that peace pack. Since then, Yelwa Shendam has been peaceful inspite of the challenges that had happened in Plateau State. Up till this point, the city of Yelwa Shendam is still peaceful partly because of that work we did for which we got a grassroot response to conflict, which is still standing. Another one that happened was in a city outside Nigeria. We were partly responsible for the restoration of peace between the Kikuyu and Kalenji in Kenya. We are helping them to solve the problem between cattle rustlers, farmers and pastoralists. They have learnt a lot from Nigeria.

    A prophet does not have respect in his home town. The Prime Minister of Malaysia will invite us and in Chad, we have trained all their journalists and community leaders and now, there is a film coming out called the Chadian solution. We also have a film that has been produced in Kenya as a result of the restoration of peace. Rutu is a Kalenji, while President Uhuru Kenyatta is a Kikuyi and the fighting in Endorent was between the Kikuyis and the Kalenjis. With our little intervention, after the post-election violence, we have a Kikuyi as President and a Kalenji as Vice President and they are telling the World Court that they have resolved their problems and so, their leaders should not be taken there because we have forgiven them. But the World Court, being a system of justice is still inviting the leaders to come.

    So, if you say what success we are talking about locally, I can tell you about Kaduna and Yelwa Shendam. What successes are we talking about internationally that has measureable impact? Go to Endoret and you will know our story. We were in Burundi in 2005 where we were given the title of Ihingi Amahoro. ‘Ihingi’ means pillar, while ‘Amahoro’ means peace. It was given to us over there at the national level in Burundi. The conference of the cities in transition held recently in Kaduna is like the icing on the cake. We have a young governor who drove himself to the venue of the conference to see what was going on. It showed that the guy is pragmatic and he is the kind of a leader we want. He supported the programme, otherwise, we would not have had the financial capacity to do it. For us, it is a great achievement and we looking forward to working more with him to bring tolerance to Nigeria and peace among the people of this country.

    What have been the challenges?

    We have been in Plateau State since 2001 working with successive governments. We have success with some governors, while we have challenges with others. I will say generally that in some states, there is the lack of political will on the part of the government and the leaders to implement agreements. It is one thing to agree on something with the local people and it is another thing to implement what you have agreed. Some governments in some of the places where we have worked appeared to be part of the problem and instead of being the solution. But everybody has his narratives. If you meet the government, they will tell you the reason why they are doing what they are doing and the people will also give their own reasons.

    But generally speaking, our main constrain is that there is the issue of supporting initiatives. We have what we know which has been tested in other parts of the world that we can give Nigerians. We can both handle this issue of insurgency if given the necessary space and support, just as we have handled such issues in other parts of the world. We can also handle such issue here because we have the credentials and credibility to do that. So, our challenge is having more partnership with the government in states where we are working and the Federal Government itself.

    You hosted the Conference of the Forum for Cities in Transition. What did you intend to achieve with the conference?

    Sharing and caring and the fact that we are not alone in our troubles and that we are going to have some solution because others have solution. If we harmonise our solution and their own solution, we can have a refined solution. What we are saying is that people came from conflict spots in the world to learn the Kaduna model. They went round Kaduna, visiting places aimed at reintegrating the society. They learnt a lot from it and took back what they learnt to their countries and they also shared with us their own experiences. We are excited about the conference, especially because it brought people from several countries to Kaduna and we also had people across Nigeria in attendance. It was not a coffee drinking workshop because at the end of it, people were given tasks which they are expected to report on at the next conference. It is not just talk without implementation. We are pragmatic people and the Inter-Faith Centre wants to see things done.

  • Oya: Harbinger of positive change

    Oya: Harbinger of positive change

    There is no doubt that encouraging the cultural heritage is an incentive for investment in cultural tourism.

    Little wonder, advocates of the Yoruba cultural heritage and other cultural aficionados recently converged on the sleepy and predominantly agrarian community of Ira in the Oyun Local Government Area of Kwara State for this anniversary of the Oya Day.

    Oya in Yoruba pantheon is the goddess of change. In deed, tornados and violent thunderstorms are attributable to Oya.

    The guest speaker at the event, who is the Director, University of Ilorin (UNILORIN) Archives and Documentation Centre, Prof Adebayo Olaoye, said the celebration of Oya is also the celebration of the cultural dignity of the blacks and people of African descent.

    In his lecture entitled: Oya: The harbinger of positive change, the university teacher maintained that “religious and socio-cultural event, like the Oya festival which we are celebrating today, has a long memory in history. By way of refreshing our memory, the objective of Pan-Africanism championed by African nationalist fighters was to restore the heritage and dignity of the blacks and people of African descent.

    “The Pan-African movement was domesticated in Africa by its leaders. It is equally germane to note that in Nigeria, official support was given to the African traditional religion and festivals through the Festival of Arts and Culture (FESTAC in Lagos in 1977. To permanently stamp the prominent role of traditional culture and festivals in the life of the black people, the Nigerian government built a gigantic structure called the National Theatre in Lagos. In this context, the celebration of Oya goddess, as we are celebrating today, is to ensure that the core values of the black people do not go into extinction.”

    Prof Olaoye further said: “Oya deity is a religious and socio-cultural phenomenon not only in Nigeria but several other countries. For instance, she is widely worshipped in Brazil and the Caribbean. Apart from this, Oya is known by different names in other countries.”

    At the event, the National Coordinator of the Oodu’a Peoples’ Congress (OPC), Otunba Gani Adams, charged the Kwara State government to develop its indigenous culture and traditions.

    Adams, who is also the chief promoter of the Olokun Festival, added that such would boost the state tourism potential.

    He said: “I, therefore, call on the Kwara State government to borrow a leaf from its counterpart in Osun State. You will agree with me that the Osun Festival in Osogbo has put the town and indeed Osun State on the global map.

    “Every year, hundreds of thousands of tourists from all over the world storm Osogbo for the festival. These people spend hard currencies helping to develop the economy of the state.

    “The Osun government has successfully differentiated between religion and culture in the way it goes about with its efforts to preserve the rich cultural heritage of its people.

    “I believe the same thing can happen in Kwara State. For a start, I would advise the state government to take the opportunity of the very large expanse of land in Ira to establish outfits that will attract investors to the town and create employment for the people. The government can also use the rich cultural heritage background of Ira to attract both foreign and local investors to help develop the tourism potential of this town.”

    He added that “you will agree with me that the Osun Festival in Osogbo has successfully put the town and Osun State on global map.”

    According to him, the Osun State government has been able to differentiate between religion and culture, hence its determination to promote and preserve the rich cultural heritage of the state.

    “The government has successfully completed the construction of the Oodua bust in Ile-Ife. That is why the Olokun Festival Foundation presented Governor Aregbesola with the award of the Grand Cultural Ambassador,” he said.

    The OPC boss declared that developing the cultural potential of Ira town cannot be done by the state government alone.

    He called on believers of Oya both at home and in the Diaspora to join hands with the government and the foundation to ensure that the Oya Festival gets global attention it deserves.

    Adams said the Olokun Festival Foundation was doing its best to keep the rich cultural heritage of the Yoruba people alive.

  • I’ve no beauty  routine, I only wear powder and  lipsticks—NTDC D-G Sally  Uwechue-Mbanefo

    I’ve no beauty routine, I only wear powder and lipsticks—NTDC D-G Sally Uwechue-Mbanefo

    The Director-General of the Nigerian Tourism Development Corporation (NTDC), Mrs. Sally Uwechue-Mbanefo, is a woman on a mission. Since she was appointed into that position in May, the former Executive Director, Nigerian Bottling Company has embarked on vigorous campaigns aimed at rekindling the interest of the Nigerian public in tourism. She took time off her busy schedule to tell SEGUN AJIBOYE about her dream for the tourism industry. She also spoke about her career, family and fashion sense. Excerpts:

    You are a beautiful woman. How often do people tell you this?

    I’m hardly told. People always see me at a work environment, so they dare not tell me that.

    Where were you before your appointment as the Director-General of NTDC?

    I started my carrier in 1987 with Abacus Merchant Bank. I moved to International Merchant Bank (IMB) after two years. I worked with IMB for 15 years and rose to become the Company Secretary. I was there till I became the Director of Business Development. I did three major restructuring exercises for IMB. After 15 years, I moved to Lafarge Cement. I was the most senior female executive, supervising general managers. My job was to restructure for them and to stabilise the company. I took Lafarge to the market to restructure their debt profile. That made Lafarge to soar.

    What year was this?

    I was with Lafarge between 2004 and 2005.

    That was rather brief…

    I had just finished the restructuring for Lafarge. Just as I was finishing it, Coca-Cola desperately wanted me, but I didn’t want to go. Chief Oshunkeye was my boss at the time. I admire him so much, so I do go to him for advice. When I went to him for advice, he was surprised that I said I was not going. He said his daughter wanted the job and that I should go ahead and take it.

    How come your boss would allow you to go like that?

    I think he knew the value of the job more than I did. He said his daughter had been chasing the job for about three years, and that they had not chosen anybody. He said it was a fantastic opportunity for me. It was indeed a big job because I was to supervise 10 countries. But I think they have streamlined now and become a bit leaner. But Chief Oshunkeye was instrumental to my taking the job.

    What was your position at Coca-Cola?

    I was the Executive Director, Public Affairs and Communications. It involved public relations, government relations and public affairs.

    How tasking was it?

    It was not as tasking as Lafarge. It was not as challenging as it was at Lafarge because there was nothing to clean up. There was much to be done at Lafarge. Coca-Cola was already made, so there was no big challenge to pursue.

    What made the difference between these two companies?

    At Lafarge, I had to relate with the community, the grassroots, the staff and all that. They had a lot of issues at the time. The pension funds and the staff, there were lots of problems. Lafarge was borrowing to survive at the time, so most of the money that they made went into servicing bank loans. They could not pay their staff the world-class salaries they had promised them. So there were lots of issues.

    So, when I came in, I suggested the public offer. I said I did it three times for IMB and the results were great. So we did it and the public put money into Lafarge, taking the pressure off the Oodua Group. They were able to pay off their debts to the banks and also pay the staff world-class salaries. Lafarge was a fantastic experience for me. It was like a natural movement because IMB was like a training school for me.

    I was exposed to leadership at a very early stage of my life. At the age of 32, when much older women were company secretaries, I became a company secretary. As a matter of fact, I was the youngest in the country at that time. I saw a lot of restructuring. At IMB, we had seven managing directors in 15 years. IMB was the best bank in Nigeria in the 80s, and you know that it was partly government-owned. So, any government in power wanted its man to be the MD.

    Anybody that came there tossed people around. So I ended up working in almost all the departments. It made me to learn a lot in every department. I think another thing that was wonderful about IMB is the culture. We had a family culture that I tried to recreate everywhere I went. It was same at Lafarge.

    For how long were you with Coca-Cola?

    I was not there for long. My children needed to go abroad, and there were some personal issues I needed to attend to. But I achieved quite a few things while I was there. But shortly after that, I was approached again by an oil and gas company, but I said I was not ready, that I needed more time. After six months, they took me on.

    You seem to have been everywhere. You are a trained lawyer and you have worked in banks and other blue chip companies. How did you acquire all these?

    I am also an artist. That is the fundamental of everything. Being an artist makes you versatile. It gives you a broader view of issues. Your mind is able to absorb issues, and whatever happens doesn’t really trouble you.

    Let us look back at your time at Lafarge. The monarch of the community honoured you with the chieftaincy title of Yeye Oge, which literally translates to queen of fashion. How fashionable are you?

    I try to be traditionally fashionable. I want my fashion to reflect my culture. I am very proud to be a Nigerian, so I use fabrics that reflect my identity as a Nigerian.

    Six months on the job as the DG of NTTDC. How has it been?

    It has been a fantastic experience; an eye-opening one. It has also been partly a baptism of fire. But it has been fantastic because there is much to be done. Tourism is a very wide topic. The sky is the limit if you are focused and you have a clear picture of what you want to do.

    You have been going round meeting with stakeholders. Why this?

    In the six months that I’ve been here, I have been to Yenagoa, Kaduna, Port Harcourt and Calabar. I will be going to Kogi and Ekiti states soon. In all these places, I preach domestic tourism. I mean Nigerians need to be proud to tour their countries. We need to take leisure in Nigeria. Why would I travel to another man’s country if I can get good sites in my own country? So we are trying to see the tourists’ sites in these states.

    Also, we are preaching grassroots tourism. We want everybody to be involved in tourism. It should not be for the rich alone. We already entered into partnership with ABC Transport to take Nigerians at reduced charges. We are also partnering with Arik Air to take Nigerians at subsidised rates. We want to authenticate these sites and see how we can partner with the states. We can even work with financiers to develop them. But the important thing is that we want to ensure that we have at least one tourists’ site in each geo-political zone in the next one year.

    Where do you see Nigerian tourism in next few years?

    Nigeria would be the destination of choice in Africa. I have met and signed MOUs with tourism ministers of Ghana, Gambia and Sierra-Leone. We agreed that there is going to be a West African tourism brand. The sort of thing we are looking at is that if somebody wants to travel round West Africa, you can buy one ticket that would take you round the countries and end up in Nigeria. And if Gambia has too many tourists during their peak period, they can send them to us. But we have to make sure that it would a pleasurable experience for those non-Nigerians.

    Where is all this passion and optimism coming from?

    It is from loving my country and my people.

    What was growing up like?

    Growing up, I lived all over Nigeria. Though I was not born here, I came home young. I come from a family that is very close and warm, so I grew up living mostly in Warri, Sapele and Benin.

    Let us go a bit into your background.

    My father is from Delta State. He is a former Chairman of Body of Benchers. Very recently, books were written about him as a very senior citizen in the legal profession. The head of my family is Ambassador Ralph Nwuche, who is the immediate elder brother of my dad. He was the first person to write a book to make every African proud. So, what I’m doing is not new to my family.

    You have kids. How easy is it combining your job with managing the home front?

    I think you just have to prioritise. I know I don’t have to go to owambe parties or some other stuffs so that I can spend quality time with my family.

    You mean you no longer attend parties?

    I never really did. I have always been a kind of serious person. I think one thing I enjoy most is the beauty of motherhood. It was something I looked forward to, so I ‘m really close to my children.

    You are banker, lawyer and artist. What else can we ascribe to you?

    I’m also a child of God (laughs). I give a lot to my community. I am also actively involved in church activities.

    Are you a pastor?

    If I wasn’t a Catholic, I might call myself a pastor. I love working for God because it is very rewarding.

    What is your daily beauty routine like?

    I don’t have any routine. I am dressed in ten minutes. I only wear powder and lipsticks. Moreover, the type of jobs that I have done would not allow me the luxury of any beauty routine, because I just jump into the car and run off to work.

    What is your favourite Nigerian dish?

    I eat three times a day. It keeps me strong. I enjoy Amala with okro and stew. It is my favourite meal.

    Your life as an artist, was it something you learnt?

    It is pure talent.

    How often do you draw these days?

    I have not drawn anything in the last six months. But I think I would go back in the new year.

    What inspires your artworks?

    My state of mind inspires me. I draw well when I have peace of mind. I have been drawing since the 80s, and I have almost a hundred paintings.

    Which schools did you attend?

    I went to Mary Mount Convent School in Delta State.

    A convent school? That means you had plans to become a nun. What happened?

    Probably it wasn’t my destiny at the time. But I have aunties who are reverend sisters.

    Would you have loved to be one?

    I have always loved to work for the church. After, I went abroad to do my A/Levels, then came back to read Law at the University of Lagos.

    I also gathered that you are a police officer. Is this true?

    I love discipline a lot. So each time I see policemen, I wished to know the type of training they receive. So I registered to be trained as a spy policewoman. It was the same training that we received. It made me to have a sense of camaraderie with the police.

  • SATLagos office opens next month

    SATLagos office opens next month

    All is set for the opening of the South Africa Tourism (SAT) office in Lagos. The event is billed for December 10.
    The office will be declared open by Marthinus van Schalkwyk, South Africa’s Minister of Tourism, and his Nigerian counterpart, Chief Edem Duke.
    Also expected on the occasion is the Chairman of the SA Tourism Board, Mr. Frank Kilbourn, and  SA Tourism Chief Executive Officer, Mr Thulani Nzima.

  • 10 relationship deal breakers you should be aware of …

    Relationship Deal Breakers can be things that you might not even be aware that you are doing. The smallest and simplest thing in the world could, actually be one of the many relationship deal breakers for your man. Below, I’ve detailed out the relationship deal breakers that I’ve come across that way at least you know what is off limits!

    1. Not Backing Your Man Up: This is a biggie girls. If you don’t back up your man is whatever he does or says (within reason mind you), it could be one of the relationship deal breakers that could break you up! A man likes to know that his girlfriend is going to be there no matter what so show him by backing him up!

    2. Playing the Jealousy Card too Much: I hate, hate, hate when men and women constantly try to make their partner jealous. A little jealousy here and there is okay, but keep it to a minimum. There is a difference between flirting with a guy that works at a gas station that pumps your gas to grinding up on a guy that isn’t your boyfriend in a club. Keep it classy, not trashy ladies!

    3. Neglect: This is a huge one and one that I am actually guilty of too. Men want to feel important, want to feel secure in their relationship and want to be paid attention to. One of the biggest relationship deal breakers is actually their women neglecting them. Remember this one okay ladies?

    4. Any Lies: So you think that the occasional white lie is okay right? That is, until your guy finds out about it. When you lie to your boyfriend, it is hard to gain back that trust. Just keep it open and honest it’s better that way.

    5. Criticizing & Judging: How would you feel if you were constantly judged and criticized? Most women would go haywire if their man critiqued what they wore, what they eat, how they talked what do you do to your boyfriend? Do you constantly judge him, constantly criticize him?

    6. Disappearing without Notice: We all need our ‘me’ time. I get that, I need some ‘me’ time sometimes too, just let your guy know where you are! This is one of the biggest relationship deal breakers out there. Men like to know where their girlfriends are at not all of the time mind you, but they at least like to be kept in the loop.

    7. Withholds Sex: Oh-em-gee, I hate this trick. In a relationship, you should never use sex to dominate your man. It’s the quickest way to lose him and definitely the worst way to make a reputation for yourself. Remember, men talk too.

    8. Constantly Drinking: Drinking with the guys is fine, drinking with your girlfriends is even cool, but if you are constantly drunk what guy would have fun with you? You want a guy that is going to like you tipsy and sober. You want to remember the night that you had with your man right?

    9. Too Poor: If you can’t afford a cell phone bill, rent or even a a dinner out, you really shouldn’t be in a relationship. Guys, this goes for you too if you can’t take your lady out, that can definitely be a relationship deal breaker! You don’t have to be rich, you just have to have enough money for savings and not to be completely broke all of the time.

    10. No Phone Calls just Emails: When you are in a relationship, you have to nurture it. It isn’t something that you can use technology for. If you are a technology-driven person use the phone, see your boyfriend. Don’t just use emails or texts, it’s not way to have a relationship.

    There are many different relationship deal breakers that could potentially put your relationship in danger. If you find yourself committing one or more of these relationship deal breakers stop it! It might be hard, but it’ll be worth it in the end. What tricks and tips do you use to nurture your relationship and keep is happy and healthy?

  • Controversy over death of Nigerian bizman in Ireland-The connection  of mother of three

    Controversy over death of Nigerian bizman in Ireland-The connection of mother of three

    His words were touching. They were such that could have flown from the inner recesses of a heart concerned about the plight of a dear one. They were words of faith and hope posted by Blessing Adeyemi, an Ireland-based Nigerian businessman, on his Facebook wall.

    It was an expression of his feelings after his socialite and human resource specialist friend, Taiwo Jamani, went into coma following an attack allegedly carried out against him by one of his friends in Dublin, who accused Jamani of dating his girlfriend and mother of three.

    “Please and please,” wrote Adeyemi, the CEO of Lati Solutions Promotions, “the fear of the worst is on people’s minds. Not because they want it to happen. Just fears. All we can continue to do is pray. Jamani is in coma, but he will come out of it in Jesus name.”

    In the message posted on October 17, Adeyemi had added: “It is a week today. Loved ones and friends are still praying for you to respond to treatment, to come out of this coma. Please, fight back and respond for the sake of your kids, wife and loved one. Everyone is praying that you come out of this. It’s not your time yet nor ours in Jesus name.

    “This kind of issue is not only about having faith, but having a strong belief in God, the miracle-worker. He will, from heaven above, lay His healing hands on you and make you respond. He will work His miracle through the doctor’s hands and answer the prayers that are being said for you all over the world. May your sins not stop the prayers from being answered.”

    Jamani, owner of Data Link Company, Dublin, was allegedly attacked by 37-year-old Jooda Akanbi (a.k.a Sharon) on October 10, on Main Street in Dublin town at about 12.20 pm after an argument broke out between them.

    An eyewitness, who told the police that the two men began with a shouting march, said: “I think one was waiting for the other because the boot of his car was open and there were two bats in it, even before the fight began. Then, the man with the bat held it high over his head and brought it down hard on the other man’s head, and he just slumped to the ground. It was shocking. It’s not something you expect to see.”

    Adeyemi’s sorrow was compounded when 45-year-old Jamani later died at about 4 am on November 12, in a Beaumount hospital, after going into coma for a month. Obviously devastated, Adeyemi, who knew the genesis of the crisis, described as untrue the insinuation in some quarters that Jamani was killed because he was dating a single mother of three named Biola.

    He recalled that when the issue of Jamani’s alleged romance with the mother of three came up, he intervened in the matter along with other friends. But he said he never imagined that it could degenerate into loss of life.

    He said: “Jooda had accused Jamani of sleeping with his girlfriend, Biola, a single mother of three. But when I asked Taiwo (Jamani) if it was true, he told me that it was a lie. But the boy had been threatening to kill Jamani.”

    According to him, at the time Jooda attacked Jamani, he was out of job. So, he could have acted out of frustration. He stated that Jooda had been charged with assault, which carries a maximum sentence of five years imprisonment. “But now that Jamani is dead, he is going to face murder charge,” he added.

    Adeyemi, who has vowed to do everything to get justice, also said: “No one else can play his (Jamani”s) role in my life. He was my closest friend. We will do our best. I’m one of the witnesses in the case.”

    Adeyemi also revealed that when Jooda first arrived Dublin, it was Jamani that housed him.

    Asked what plans were being made for Jamani’s family, Adeyemi said: “It is too early to think about relocating Jamani’s family to Nigeria. The focus should rather be on bringing the guy (Jooda) to justice.

    “ Biola, the lady at the centre of the incident, was in court when Jooda was first arraigned, and she is going to be a star witness when the murder case against Jooda comes up in court.

    “Biola has never admitted to being Jamani’s girlfriend. She said there was nothing between her and Jamani. She admitted dating Akanbi. We all know and she doesn’t deny it.

    “Adeyemi and Jamani had been together for 17 years. They both moved to Ireland from Holland in 1999.”

    Adeyemi wondered why someone would kill another fellow because of a single mother of three when there are many single Nigerian ladies in Ireland.

    Asked if he would discourage Nigerian single girls from coming to Ireland, he said: “No, I will not discourage them. But that depends on their aims and reasons for coming here.”

    Jamani is due for burial today at Flemingston Cemetery, Balscadden Balbriggan, Dublin.