Category: Saturday Magazine

  • An Alice in Wonderland

    In Nigeria, a major problem affecting research in HIV/AIDS is getting reliable data. The reasons are protean; governments at all levels are prepared to release millions and billions of Naira to entertainers and sports enthusiasts without any bureaucratic hurdles as if giving out millions of Naira to celebrities is what the people elected them for. Imagine an elected state Governor giving out as much as 3000US dollars each to participants in the recently concluded ‘BBA(big brother Africa) the chase”; an event that showcased arrant immorality to unimaginable levels. Where did the money come from? People have become so incapacitated that they simply grumble in resignation. These same government officials are notorious for treating issues concerning health and education with so much non chalance that those who are writing have acknowledged that indeed history is being made ; with strange and unusual actors appearing on the stage to the awe and amazement of every Nigerian; young and old . It is relevant to emphasize that aside from the ongoing strikes by university lecturers(ASUU) and Resident Doctors(ARD), some states have witnessed more strikes by certain organized groups compared with others. People like Professor Osibanjo instead of asking for proof that ASUU has done anything by way of research to help the country should ask him self the same question, even as the head of a colossal institution the activities of which are permanently under discussion. He should then go ahead and midwife a law making it mandatory for all public office holders including political office holders to pass through thorough medical investigations including neuropsychiatric evaluation, so that individuals found to have issues with mentation can be identified and possibly disqualified by INEC. If he can do that for this country then he will be held with the same measure of reverence that was given. He should actually be seen to be very worried about the general state of lawlessness in the country, instead of making inuring and contradictory statements . The late Gani fawehimin never minced words; on important national issues, he made his position clear and unambiguous. We should have elder statesmen like that . He fought a good fight while he lived and left it all for Nigerians. It is abnormal for any one entrusted with the lives of other human beings in the same country to exhibit what in the language of Psychiatrist as a flat affect . It is even better when a leader surfers flares of emotion, but to be so flat as if communing with alien world is at best consistent with paranoia.

    Unfortunately for the poor in this country, even when Government manages to release funds with support from foreign donor agencies, corruption takes control and so nothing works . Every dispensation and every now and then, one slogan succeeds another; ‘Health for all by the year 2000”, MDGS, vision 20.2020, etc. and nothing comes out of the billions pumped into them.

    The medical , moral and legal basis for AIDS screening tests in a number of cases is antibody detection and once established and confirmed in a reliable laboratory, HIV antibody levels will persist throughout the life of the infected person . It has nothing to do with God or Satan. In fact, it is not the will of God that the situation of antibody production in response to the presence of HIV be reversed or undone . The presence of antibody simply means that the patient is assumed to be infected and can infect others ; it does not in any way imply immunity, sleeping around when you are HIV positive whether or not you use male or female condom and are on ART is profoundly irresponsible and dangerous.

    What may inform the need to run HIV/AIDS tests?

    There are a number of situations that may warrant lab tests for HIV/AIDS;

    .Before any surgery

    .During pregnancy (as part of routine antenatal care)

    . In procedures like endosccopy, laparoscopy, dialysis( including ambulatory peritoneal dialysis , artificial reproduction procedures(ART), before transfusion of blood or blood products, , blood and organ donation .It is in the patients’ interest to ensure it is the practice in centers offering these services before submitting themselves for instrumentation.

    .Lab test for HIV/AIDS can also be necessary as usual requirements for marriage, cases of rape to establish pre HIV incubation period status.

    .The test is also commonly requested when some clinical conditions emerge that point in the direction of AIDS such as unexplained high or mild elevation of body temperature depending on the HIV subtype) that may have lasted for over a month with disappointing response to the usual drugs for fever associated disease conditions

    “Unexplained weight loss (beyond 10% of body weight) within the setting of a medical history of chronic diarrhea

    “Unusual mouth diseases that were never there before the characteristic symptoms appeared

    “Appearance of eye diseases that look like vernal conjunctivitis( popularly referred to as ( Appolo) but this type is accompanied with much redness and plenty of gummy discharge-christened ‘salad cream and tomato ketchup retinopathy” as observed via ophthalmoscope.

    “Skin manifestations-boils and weeping lesions

    “Yellow eyes with or without pain in the right upper abdomen below the chest when there is co infection with hepatitis

    “Brain tissue, involvement is seen commonly these times with Neuro psychiatric manifestations or episodes of seizure and vomiting

    Others conditions that could draw attention to the possibility of HIV/AIDS being present include ;- Pseudomembranous type oral Candidiasis, Angular cheilosis, Xerostomia-dry mouth, marked reduction in the quantity of saliva expressed from whartsons or stensons ducts

    Also , HIV is commonly found in individuals suffering from pneumocystic pneumonia or pulmonary tuberculosis, syphilis, cytomegalovirus infection, herpes simplex, varicella-zoster, candidiasis, particularly oral with the candida sp.

    Though not common, AIDS defining cancers-such as -karposis sarcoma including asymptomatic oral karposis have been documented, as has AIDS related lymphoma

    What do we take home from all these ?

    A medical person cal take a look at you when you go to the Clinic for something else and then insist that you run certain lab tests in addition to HIV/AIDS test. While you may be surprised ,it will be unwise to do otherwise .It could be a stitch in time. You should feel free to ask questions however uncomfortable it may seem. A small fleshy swelling, firm to hard, swelling that appeared under the skin of the back of the head below the ear , and since it was noticed has refused to go away despite all efforts may have been ignored, but your Doctor might need to see that swelling.

    Many patients are now aware of these and many more others that can be tied to the possible presence of HIV/AIDS.

    Clinical suspicion for HIV/AIDS should be higher in the following individuals viz;

    People who are sexually active and have had unprotected sex in the past few years

    Blood recipients , particularly recipients of multiple blood units, other blood products like plasma ,platelets, even if blood was screened

    Organ recipients ,

    Intravenous drug users, especially those who share needles and syringes

    People with multiple partners- not only having many men or many women, but going from one failed marriage to another

    Individuals in polygamous and polyandrous relationships

    Tattoo and piercing enthusiasts etc, etc.

    In the absence of effective, uniform and harmonized HIV/AIDS voluntary counseling and testing policy, problems are unavoidable. Some of these problems are also connected with the rising proportion of illiterate Nigerians. Even the educated seem not to be firm about what they know concerning HIV/AIDS lab tests

    Some of the questions encountered can be summarized as here under;

    What is the test all about? How is it done? Where exactly do you get a reliable test? What is counseling? Why does any one need counseling? How do you explain false positive and false negative tests? What happens when an individual is said to have borderline HIV/AIDS? How is HIV test interpreted?

  • Ajimobi’s daughter delivered of baby girl

    The population of the household of the Oyo State Governor, Senator Abiola Ajimobi, has just increased by one. His daughter, Abisola Ajimobi, was delivered of a beautiful baby girl in the US.

    It was the second baby of the beautiful Abisola and her banker husband, Kola Daisi, in three years. No one would forget in a hurry how their society wedding shook the whole of Ibadan to its roots about three years ago.

    Abisola, the first and most popular of the governor’s five children, is enjoying a marital bliss. Her business outfit is also flourishing. The opening of her shoe place, Florence H, was one of a kind. It had many big names in attendance.

    It was gathered that Abisola and her husband are planning a shindig as soon as they return to the country. The party could mark her return to the social scene from which she took leave to have her baby.

  • Omowunmi Akinnifesi slows down

    Omowunmi Akinnifesi slows down

    Tongues are wagging over former beauty queen, Omowunmi Akinnifesi’s absence from public glare. So conspicuous is her absence that the social circle is abuzz with speculations about her whereabouts.

    In 2005, Akinnifesi was crowned the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria at the age of 18, making her eligible to represent Nigeria at the Miss World Pageant in China the same year. At the global beauty contest, she shone like a star and also engaged in tree planting for the Chinese government.

    Today, Omowunmi, the CEO of Elle Poise, a public relations and usher-hiring outfit, has disappeared from the social radar to the dismay of her fans and high society in general. In her heyday as Nigeria’s beauty queen, no A-list event was complete without her presence, as she dazzled everyone with her modish attires and stunning gait.

  • CANCER: Habits that lead to it —Experts

    CANCER: Habits that lead to it —Experts

    ‘How to avoid them’

    WHEN celebrated lawyer Late Chief Gani Fawehinmi died in year 2009 due to cancer of the lungs, there was a general hue and cry against the notorious killer known as cancer. But even before that, many celebrities had bowed to death through the wicked blow from cancer. Ace sports broadcaster, Yinka Craig, got a knock out punch from cancer in 2008 at age 60. There were prolonged tears for many that knew they will miss that voice of sports commentary on television.

    More tears flowed freely when society-loved wife of Timi Alaibe, the late Alaere Alaibe, took a bow and left life’s stage due to death by cancer. And so did late Clara Oshiomole, the late wife of Edo Governor Adam Oshiomole, who departed, leaving painful tears to her loved ones. In Edo State and beyond, it was difficult to control the flowing tears, as many refused to be comforted.

    For the death-ravaging cancer, the list continued and continues stubbornly. From Sam Ojebode, to fashion darling Remi Lagos, Remi Abiola, Mrs. Maryam Babangida and even the one still fresh in the mind, late Dr. Olusola Saraki. These are some of the celebrated victims. But death by cancer does not hit only the rich. All across Nigeria, more and more people have died sometimes from ailments relating to cancer.

    Sociologists and medical experts that we recently spoke to give the conditions that could lead, directly or indirectly, to cancer and how to avoid those situations. Cancer, once described as a ‘rich man’s illness,’ is now ravaging both the low and the mighty. And at close range, you never can tell, who the next victim will be.

    Abuja-based health and wellness consultant, Dr. Stella Chijioke, explains how some of the habits of the rich make them susceptible to the dreaded ailments.

    He says: “Our top flight executives are very much endangered because of a daily lifestyle that gives room to cancer. They live from chair to chair, sitting through one boardroom to another, with little or no activity. From there, they swing into air-conditioned cars straight to their door steps at home, into another chair and eventually into bed. The routine is like that, day in and day out.

    “Then the food consumption of many include heavy meals because they have too much money at their disposal and they drink alcohol and spirit. Some even inject themselves with different sorts of things (drugs). So, with that, cancer is already knocking on the door, and it will only take a little time, before the door comes falling down.”

    Prof. SRA Akinbo, a consultant at the Lagos University Teaching Hospital (LUTH), Idi-Araba, Lagos, says: “One of the major reasons for cancer truly is food intake. This is a big topic on its own. These days, one notices that more and more people are into the eating of refined foods, canned foods. Some of these over processed foods lead to cancer. Also our lifestyles, especially for those of us that live in the urban, we are exposed to a lot of radiation. People are in traffic for longer time and breathing in fumes emitted from automobile. All these are factors that lead to cancer. That is because the toxic goes into the system and induces all sorts of things and illnesses. There are various causes of cancer. Food is one of it, exposure to radiation is another, and some other major causes.

    “However, concerning what people can do or what lifestyle to keep to avoid cancer, we have left the traditional; that is, cancer used to be feared in the olden days and avoided through the eating of fresh foods. But fresh fruits are really missing in our meals today. Also in urban areas these days, people are exposed to generators and the attending fumes. In a house of 20 occupants, for instance, everybody there has generators. So more and more people are now likely to have cancer due to the lifestyle they presently keep. Then also there is the issue of age. Old age could also induce cancer.

    “Of course, I will recommend exercise as a necessary part of our daily lifestyle. But then also, exercise is not limited to just the avoidance of cancer; we need exercise in our lives. In those days, things were different. My father actually died at the age of 104. When you saw him then, you would have found it difficult to believe because, he was still agile. The lifestyle that they had then helped a lot. They used to trek for kilometres going to farms everyday. That was a good form of exercise. Then also, they had original foods, fresh foods from the farm, which they used to eat.

    “Still concerning exercise as a lifestyle in avoiding cancer, one has to note that there are different kinds of exercises which should be recommended on an individual basis because everyone of us has different health challenges. For instance, someone who is hypertensive, there is a type of exercise that he should do. So everyone cannot do the same kinds of exercise. The most important thing is that before we get involved in any kind of exercise routine, we have to get screened. When the kind of health challenge you have has been ascertained, then exercise routine can be determined. So it can be in terms of just sitting down or standing, or jogging or be on treadmill and so on. Exercising should be an individual thing and not generalised.

    “There are some organisations now that have programmes such as ‘walk for life.’ However, walking too fast for some people who may be hypertensive, could trigger off another kind of thing that can lead to heart attack, especially, when you are over 30 and 40, you have to be very careful on the type of food you eat and exercise that you do.”

    A dietitian with LUTH, Titilope Adelani, says cancer is avoidable through a dietary plan which comprises eating a well-balanced diet daily. “Such dietary plan”, she recommends, “should start early in life for an individual to avoid cancer in future. It should start at a tender age so that it will be part of the child, leading him or her into adulthood. That will also make the child to be eating well when he or she grows up.”

    She adds: “Foods that should be eaten to avoid cancer include whole grain, legumes, fruits, vegetables, and protein. But there are also others. A child should start eating these from age two. And for an adult who has a family history of cancer, the person should take high protein, high calories, low fat foods and high fibre diet with intake of fruits in between meals.

    “A dietitian actually has a role to play in the lifestyle of people generally to make them avoid having cancer. A dietitian plans the menu and ensures the people follows it. A dietician’s role is also to monitor such. And for an adult that is already diagnosed with cancer, it is important that such persons eat high calorie, moderate and low fat protein foods. Such persons are also supposed to use plant sources of oil for cooking, also depending on the severity of the cancer.

    “Foods to totally avoid are foods that are fatty products. Well, as a lifestyle, I will recommend that people generally eat very well, avoid alcohol, eat fruits and vegetables and do exercises.”

    An Assistant Chief Dietitian also with LUTH, Bolanle Tijani, describes cancer as “a terrible disease that is preventable, although there is not much that anyone can do.” She added: “But with good healthy diet, one can reduce the risk of getting cancer. The kind of food encouraged is what I refer to as green, green, green. What I mean by this is that, when you are taking food, ensure that it is green! Avoid foods that are roasted or fried. Also avoid barbecued foods, make sure that most of the foods that you eat are fresh. We are advocating these days, that is, trying to encourage people to go back to the use of our former pots, cooking utensils that were used in those days; pots made from mud are more heathy. But the problem with that is that it may not look civilised, especially when friends come calling, but the truth is that these pots are believed to be more healthy in using to cook.

    “For people with a history of cancer in the family, I can say that cancer is not a transmittable illness; there is a risk factor, and there are different kinds of cancer. There is the leukaemia, the blood cancer, the cervical cancer, pelvic cancer, colon cancer, lung cancer, brain cancer, various types. It is not genetically transferred from one to another but variously during maturation of the foetus. That is a risk factor that can cause it.

    “What a dietician can do is that if and when cancer has been diagnosed, the first thing is that the patient should go for medical attention, surgical operation afterwards. A dietitian is then to encourage the patient to eat heathy foods to prevent the growth and multiplication of the cancer cells and also keep eating green, green, green with all the family group of foods to encourage a healthy eating habit.

    “As a lifestyle, everyone should eat protein, eat carbohydrates, avoid fatty foods, but most of all, we encourage more of fibre. For cancer patients, eating of fibre is very important for quick recovery, as they serve as anti-oxidants for the eradication of the cancer cells. Foods such as water melon, oranges, banana, water leaf, apple and so on should be eaten.

    “It is difficult to totally avoid particular foods; we don’t even advise it, it is only that smaller quantities are recommended; even for the over-blown cancer patients, reduction of the intake of particular foods are recommended. But then, we advocate the avoidance of foods with folic acid. Even then, folic acid cannot completely be denied because there is folic acid in most foods, even in animal protein and vegetables. So the important thing is to reduce the intake of folic acid.

    “The eating habits and lifestyle will dictate more as to whether a person is likely to get cancer or not. To women, I will advise that they eat healthy and avoid alcohol, avoid an environment that is stuffy or congested. That is a challenge in Lagos where fumes are all over the place. Even in traffic when you have your air-conditioner on, the fumes from other vehicles still find a way of getting in. Exercise is very good for the body, at least do it for an hour everyday. These are healthy lifestyles that can make one avoid cancer. Then reduce your alcohol intake, do not take alcohol as if you are drinking water.”

    According to a nutritionist at the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH), Ikeja, Lagos, Justina Akagu-Osojiese, “somehow, cancer is avoidable through a dietary plan because some of the foods that we eat now are being prepared with addictives that are not really not good for the body.” She adds: “For instance, we have things that are today used as substitute for sugar. Sacarrin, for instance, is used as a substitute. There are findings that such prolong usage can cause cancer.

    “As far as I am concerned, a dietary plan should start for everybody right from day one, that is at child birth. I say this because it is very necessary to consider a diet plan for a child. So we give the baby milk. And at different ages, we give a child appropriate foods, not just anything in sight.

    “To avoid cancer it’s better to eat natural foods. Most of the time, however, there is usually no problem with most foods that are not natural, but it is the addictive that are used in preparing them that causes or could lead to somebody having cancer. For instance, too, it is better to eat oranges directly than take orange juice that has been processed, especially for an adult. The fruits are natural but you do not know what has been added to produce the juice. The same applies to canned foods because they always have preservatives. Sometimes, they are kept for long periods; the addictive can influence the cause when eaten, the potassium, the sodium are major cause of worry.

    “For those already with cancer, natural foods are just good for them. Cancer is a very terrible disease that destroys the cells of the body. So it is good to give someone already with cancer, a high protein diet and a high calorie diet. By high calorie diet, I mean the carbohydrate family of foods. They give energy. Most cancer patients are very weak, we give them that for energy. To replenish the cells that are being destroyed, a cancer patient needs high protein foods and these are fish, meat, egg, milk and so on and these are augmented with plant set of foods.

    “I think that people should be more active in lifestyle; we should avoid high calorie dense foods; we should be careful to eat foods that have all the class foods to give us adequate nutrients in the body, protein, carbohydrates, fat and oil, minerals and vitamins which is in fruits and vegetables. Our foods should be adequate and that is commonly referred to as balanced diet. We have what is called anti-oxidants in our foods; they are the ones that destroy those unwanted things, or harmful foreign things in our body. So, we should just eat right.”

    Dr. Stella Chijioke, Managing Director, Ultimate Health and Wellness Ltd, Abuja, posits that with a particular cautious lifestyle, cancer can be avoided. She adds that, that could be complemented by a combination of three things.

    “Health and wellness stands on three legs. One of the legs is diet, which means whatever you put inside your mouth, food, drink, smoke, snuffing or injection. The second is increased activity, which culminates in exercise. Any small activity is better than no activity at all. This helps the heart. Do anything that can make you sweat, like walking, swimming and so on. Brisk walk is good and not expensive.

    “The third leg of the tripod is adequate rest and management of your stress level. Every human being undergoes one form of stress or the other. Without stress, you cannot live a balanced life. But in certain situations, the stress level gets too much, so you have to manage it well. If you don’t, things like hypertension, diabetes and all that sets in. Complete health and wellness means that the above three legs must be implemented.

    “Additional habit is the drinking of water. One of the ways of managing stress well is having enough sleep. Seven to eight hours of sleep at night is mandatory so that your body can use that opportunity to recharge. REM Sleep is the highest form of sleep, because some people think that they are sleeping but they are not really sleeping. You have to get into the REM Sleep before you really rest.

    “We are all setting ourselves for cancer, though we have better diagnosis, but most people are gearing themselves towards cancer. If you check the three legs of wellness that are stated above, you will find out that most of us are not eating well or eat the wrong things, smoke or drink the wrong things. Some of us inhale or inject ourselves with the wrong things (drugs). These are the wrong parts of civilisation that we are imbibing.

    “Most people in the urban cities are not resting well. In the effort to make it because of high cost of rent, transportation, school fees, people don’t get home early to rest and sleep, they are hustling all over the place or staying in the office late, believing that they are resting but they are burning their candles at both ends.

    “Some people don’t even get into activity. They move from car into the house with little or no activity, into chairs at home or office. And one of the worse things or habits that the executives have is long hours of sitting on chairs. This is the latest killer that many don’t know. We are supposed to sit down not more than two hours and that is if our jobs are sedentary. Even market women sit in one place for too long at a time. The use of maids are not too helpful too because the madam ends up sitting down too much, while throwing errands around. She’s not getting up from that seat at all. So, it is not just the executives alone that sits from one boardroom to another.

    “Executives take elevators; nobody takes the stairs anymore, these are silent killers. These are ways that we are all driving our selves towards having cancer. Even younger people are coming up with some of these degenerating diseases. We shouldn’t be seen as getting old at 50, if we are living the right lifestyle. If you are living the right kind of lifestyle, then it will be difficult to develop cancer in the 40s. But these days, cancer could even be diagnosed among the younger ones. There is a book called ‘alleluia diet.’ This book tells us more about this. We eat the wrong things.”

    A Lagos-based medical practitioner, Dr. Ogunkoya, says: “To avoid cancer, people need to stop taking these cancer-inducing foods; they are: sweetened beverages, fried potato, hot dog, donut and burnt meat. The top anti-cancer foods for people to take are: green vegetables, tumeric, tomatoes, and rice. Then cancer-fighting foods are: tomatoes, garlic, grape fruits, ginger, ginger pepper, white berry, ginseng, broccoli, lemon, mustard seed and rosemary.

    “What you eat determines your healthy habits too. People should also try to live at places with minimised smoke and fumes. Do not stay where people who smoke are, because if you do, you are as well smoking with them as you inhale. It causes cancer of the lungs. And go for check-up and clean up your system regularly with cancer-fighting foods.”

  • Together, at Home and at Work

    Together, at Home and at Work

    I spent much of the last six months helping my wife with a rare professional opportunity. When friends heard how many days, nights and weekends we spent in the same room, they had the same reply: “Whoa! When are you getting divorced?”

    It reminded me of when my mother, an art teacher by training, helped my father, a real estate developer, build houses when I was young. She described the experience as “the worst years of our marriage.”

    People who don’t work with their spouses look at those who do in the same way that casual fans often look at professional hockey: Sure, it’s fun for a while, but when is the fight going to break out?

    One reason for this hostility may be decades of negative examples. There are some high-profile couples who work together successfully. Bill and Melinda Gates run their foundation, as do Bill and Hillary Clinton (along with Chelsea). Nina and Tim Zagat built their restaurant-guide empire together, as did Kate and Andy Spade in fashion. Joel Coen has directed his wife, Frances McDormand, in four films; Daniel Craig and Rachel Weisz are performing together on Broadway now.

    But the list of famous couples who worked together and flamed out is even longer. In Hollywood: Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz, Woody Allen and Diane Keaton (and later Mr. Allen and Mia Farrow), Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman.

    In music: Sonny and Cher; James Taylor and Carly Simon; Tammy Wynette and George Jones; the two couples in Abba, both now divorced. And elsewhere: Tammy Faye and Jim Bakker; Rupert Murdoch with both his second wife, Anna, and his third, Wendi; Frank and Jamie McCourt, whose split forced them to sell the Los Angeles Dodgers. It’s a wonder anyone says “I do” and then sets foot in the same office as their spouse.

    Exact numbers of collaborating spouses are hard to come by. For almost 20 years, Glenn Muske, a professor at North Dakota State University, has studied couples who start businesses together. He calls them “co-preneurs” and said his research found that two-thirds of businesses in the United States are family owned, and a third of those are run by couples. Other arrangements include romantic partners who work in the same organization but not alongside each other, and sole proprietors who get casual, often unpaid contributions from their spouses.

    So what can a working couple do to avoid disasters? I reached out to some of those who have researched the matter.

    DON’T COMPROMISE Kathy Marshack, a psychologist in Vancouver, Wash., and the author of “Entrepreneurial Couples,” said that couples working together was the norm for most of human history, from family farms to mom-and-pop shops. Blaming the arrangement for an increase in fighting is wrong, she said.

    “This real issue is that with increased time together, you have more time for conflict,” she said.

    Lots of people experience an uptick of fighting on vacation, she said. “Suddenly you’re spending every day together,” she said. “You’re having fun, but you’re sick and tired of the fact that the other person leaves the towel on the bed or whatever.”

    Dr. Marshack said that the biggest problem she sees is that the skills it takes to succeed in a relationship, like accommodation, are often destructive in business.

    “Most Americans expect their love relationship to be between consenting partners,” she said. “But at work it’s different.”

    To accomplish things in the workplace, she said, someone needs to be in charge, or, even better, each person needs to have control over separate things: say, one person controls strategic decisions and the other financial ones.

    “At work I always tell people never compromise unless you absolutely have to,” she said. “When you’re working with your spouse, you’re going to be tempted to compromise, because that’s what you do at home. But that’s not good for business.”

    Too much sensitivity to others is the primary reason family companies grow slower than nonfamily firms, she said.

    DON’T SET BOUNDARIES One problem my wife, Linda, and I have faced is that when you’re living, working and raising children together, a disagreement about one aspect of your lives quickly descends into an excuse to bring up everything else that’s bothering you. “You don’t like that decision I made about that project? Yeah, but you never finished the dishes last night.”

    Researchers call that phenomenon “spillover.” The easy response is to create clear boundaries: no business in the kitchen, or no talk about the children during office hours. But Phyllis Moen, a sociology professor at the University of Minnesota who has studied working couples for decades, said that approach is outdated.

    “These days, everyone experiences blurring of boundaries because of new technologies,” she said. Co-working couples have an edge, she said: the partners understand the reason for the interruption and are right there to help solve it.

    “Otherwise, pressures at work get translated to stress at home, and no one understands why,” Dr. Moen said.

    Her advice: When issues pop up at inappropriate times, dispense with them quickly, then get back to what you’re focusing on, like negotiating your office lease or playing Monopoly with the kids.

    DON’T FEAR CONFLICT Joshua Wolf Shenk, a best-selling author, has spent the last few years studying creative pairs for his forthcoming book, “Powers of Two.” His subjects include nonromantic partners like John Lennon and Paul McCartney, as well as romantic ones like Marie and Pierre Curie, and Giancarlo Giammetti and Valentino. He said that instead of viewing conflict as threatening, co-working spouses should view it as elemental to their success.

    “A lot of people mean conflict as bouncing up against someone in a way that is not pleasurable,” he said. “But the core experience is that bouncing up against someone.”

    To have chemistry, he said, you have to have rapport and a unity of vision.

    “But there have to be fundamental differences, or else the two people have nothing to add to each other,” he said.

    Mr. Shenk likened conflict between partners to a tennis match where you’re both hitting the ball as hard as you can. “You have a net, you have a perimeter, you step onto the court, you’re able to step off the court,” he said. When the relationship works, he said, the sense of mutual commitment is strong enough that it leads to a sense of shared reward. Take note, co-working couples: Fight on!

    DON’T HESITATE TO WALK AWAY What happens when working and living together become unsustainable? Dr. Muske said that most people, though not all, tend to try to save the relationship first. This sometimes requires that somebody be dismissed.

    “You can easily give a pink slip to an employee,” he said, “but if you’re living with that person, you have to reach a mutual understanding that this is not working.”

    He recommends being clear in advance: both spouses have the right to tell the other that he or she is holding the organization back. My wife, who works with entrepreneurs, calls this a “start-up prenup.”

    I asked Linda what she had learned from our experience. While acknowledging the occasional tensions, she was, as is her nature, upbeat: “Working together allowed me to have a deeper appreciation for what you do, and the same in reverse.”

    Would she recommend it to others?

    “For a limited time,” she said.

    That qualified support echoes what I’ve heard time and again. For all the problems, most co-working couples enjoy the process. One reason may be that regardless of how well their businesses do, couples who spend that much time together tend to think more about their relationship.

    Dr. Marshack said: “When you work with your spouse, you’re going to be challenged all the time by the way they think, including the way they think about you. That makes you introspective. It makes you work on yourself and the relationship. And that can’t be bad.”

     

    Culled from NYtimes

  • ‘How Vir2o ‘ll redefine social media’

    ‘How Vir2o ‘ll redefine social media’

    CEO of East Coast Diversified Corporation, Kayode Aladesuyi, a US-based Nigerian, and founder of Vir2o, a new website giving a different meaning to the social media experience, loves challenges. Joe Agbro Jr., met him during the official launch of Vir2o in Lagos recently and he shares his story.

    The hall was one of expectancy as the event promised the launch of a new social media network. Hovering from one corner to the other, he quietly ensured everything was going smoothly for the press conference about to begin. He had reason to. He is Kayode Aladesuyi, the chairman of East Coast Diversified Corporation (ECDC) and founder of www.vir2o.com, the product the audience waited for.
    Call him a busy body and you won’t be wrong. In the span of his life, he had managed a restaurant, worked at construction sites, worked as an accountant, founded a telephone company, a recording studio, and three technology companies. But as he walked to the dais, spotting a branded fez cap with the vir2o logo, Aladesuyi was full of infectious energy, telling the press that Vir2o, his brand new baby, has come to bring ‘humanity to socialisation.’
    “Unlike when we were growing up when you would find a girlfriend in school or at sport or social event,” he said, “today, it all happens online. Everybody is meeting everybody online. For most women, it is a dangerous experience. You don’t know who is on the other line. You don’t know what he likes and what he doesn’t like. Vir2o solves that problem.”
    Vir2o also creates a platform to connect on a business level, allowing users and businesses to have live interaction with regards to products and services offered.
    At the launch in Lagos about three weeks Aladesuyi said he feels honoured to come back to the country after 32 years. Speaking on the motivation for vir2o, Aladesuyi said, “Facebook is great but it doesn’t take care of connectivity that you have in an extended family situation. It doesn’t actually add socialisation to social media. In the US, it is referred to as a poster board where people go online to post information.”
    So three years ago, he sounded his then 16-year old daughter on what she thought of Facebook. Her verdict according to him was that “Facebook is boring.” “The moment she told me that,” he said, “the light bells went off in my head.” Recognising an opportunity, Aladesuyi said, “I got my engineers and my creative team together and we started to study social media to understand what exactly is there about social media that is exciting to people.”
    And www.vir2o.com, a website that puts chat, photos, music, games, videos, and a marketplace, together on one platform, was birthed. While vir2o has some common features with facebook and google+, it distinguishes itself with nVite, a session sharing technology patented by Aladesuyi, which allows users to share media contents such as videos and photos with their friends or family in real-time. This enabled friends and family to for instance, watch a movie or go shopping together, despite differences in locations. Also on the website is facility for live chat, Vmovies, and VBroadcast, which enables streaming of live events, such as concerts and religious services.
    Speaking further, he said, “today, what I’ve been able to do is for someone on vir2o to be able to tell a friend and say join me, let’s watch a movie together, regardless of where that person is – whether you are in China or in Mexico.”
    And, the sharing experience which is due to nVite, a session sharing technology patented by Aladesuyi also enables connected people on the platform to shop together. “About 68% of relationships today are formed online,” Aladesuyi said, as he hopes that with vir2o, the word virtual become realer.
    Aladesuyi is also interested in getting “black people to code (computer programming)” and says Nigerian software developers now have a platform on which they can develop locally-relevant applications. “Even in the US, we are lacking when it comes to technical education,” he said. “You won’t find a single app developed by an African on facebook. It’s not because we can’t do it. It’s because we don’t have the platform.”
    But in a market swelling with a plethora of social media sites, what convinces him that Vir2o can fly, I ask. “Inspiration and business,” he swiftly replies. Being an African-American, a Nigerian in the field of technology by its very nature is challenging. I love to be challenged.
    So far, vir2o has about 20,000 users globally but it is poised for growth. To push this, Aladesuyi has set about one million dollars. And following its launch, users have an opportunity to win $5,000 by uploading a creative video on the website.
    Born on May 21, 1960 in Lagos, to Mr. and Mrs. Adedeji and Kikelomo Aladesuyi (nee Benson), Aladesuyi grew up on the Island and Mainland of Lagos at various times. In 1982, he went to the American University in Watford, England but transferred in 1983 to the US, bagging a Bachelor of Science degree in Accounting from the University of Alabama in 1986.
    Immediately upon graduation from college Mr. Aladesuyi’s interest to practice as an accountant was immediately dashed when a head hunter advised him to change his name if he wanted to secure interviews.”
    Aladesuyi didn’t adopt an English name and decided to be entrepreneurial. He paid a professor to teach him digital accounting. And with the knowledge of several accounting packages, the young Nigerian started Associated Management and Financial Services Group, his first business in the US, in March 1986. It was a bookkeeping and tax services for small businesses. He provided financial and accounting services to many businesses and individuals, representing companies such as Metropolitan Life, Prudential and New York Life insurance companies.
    Though, with an academic background and early career steeped in accounting and administration, Aladesuyi as CEO of ECDC runs three technology companies. How did it happen?
    “My transition (to technology),” he said, “began when accounting started to move from paper accounting to digital accounting.”
    And by the early 90’s when Atlanta was becoming a major music market, Aladesuyi created Loud Entertainment Group, a production studio, and Vision Records, an artist development company.
    And when the United States decided to break up AT&T’ and the Baby Bells’ monopoly in providing local phone services across the country, Aladesuyi took advantage of the opportunity and started Planet Link, the first African American telephone company in America in 1996. “I was like a child in candy store basically. So, to compete with the Baby Bell, I partnered with Dish network, which was major cable service provider in North America. I was able to compete by combining cable service and my own telephone service. I ran that business up until 2002. In 2002, the company was taken public.”
    Black Enterprise Magazine ran a story on him as one of few African Americans to run a publicly traded entity.
    In September of 2003, Mr. Aladesuyi resigned from PlanetLink Communication to start EarthSearch Communications. Doing business with Dish and researching on satellite, Aladesuyi found out that President Bill Clinton had signed a declaration allowing commercialisation of GPS technology. Studying GPS technology fascinated him. “To me, it was a technology that broke down all boundaries. ”
    In 2004, he set up Earthsearch Communications in Brazil where in conjunction with engineers to build his first technology product, AutoSearch GPS, a GPS tracking device.
    When FBI reports showed that more than $40 billion worth of goods were stolen each year while vehicles were on the highway in the US and even more in Europe and globally, Aladesuyi took it as a challenge, one which he solved by creating the first wireless communication protocol between GPS and RFID. This technology, which he owns the patent for has been transferred into many industries including security. And a local beneficiary is Halogen Security.
    In 2008, after 25 years of living abroad, he returned to Nigeria for the first time. He brought along with him a GPS navigation product called Roadnut. The concept of a navigation device was novel in Nigeria then. “We used a local company to get us the street map of Nigeria,” he said. But we quickly found out that it was not going to work. The roads were not properly numbered, there was not enough detail. But, just the idea was exciting.”
    But, there are still big plans in the offing as Aladesuyi said “he intends using vir2o to demonstrate to the world that Nigeria is a virile market. That Nigeria can be a catalyst to investors who want to invest in Nigeria. If vir2o can take on facebook, I can say vir2o took on facebook because Nigerians support vir2o. It is a powerful statement to make in the business circle in US. We are ceding Nigeria to the Chinese. It is something that concerns me.”
    Aladesuyi is married to Andrea Sousa, his second wife, who he met in Brazil in the course of expanding his business. He had earlier married Valerie Wells a native of Alabama that he met in college. Though, his works take him to India, China, Brazil, and other parts of the world, away from his wife and five children, whenever he can, he said he loves spending time with his family. “I also love to play golf too.”

  • Dangerous lifestyles of Nigerian hustlers in South African enclave

    Dangerous lifestyles of Nigerian hustlers in South African enclave

    Fresh from an adventure into the Johannesburg’s underworld governed by drug, sex, murder and other anti-social activities, SEUN AKIOYE writes on how many Nigerians live in a part of the South African city

    He wanted to be known simply as IK. He looked at the undercover reporter and said in a tone that conveyed no emotions: “Do you want to make money? Can you hustle on the streets? Are you man enough to survive on this street like these other boys?”

    IK and the reporter were standing at a corner in the crowded Quartz Street in Hillbrow, Johannesburg on the evening of October 29, 2013. He had just resumed for work on the streets and had been introduced to the reporter as a new prospect who was willing to make out his fortunes in the dangerous and perilous drug world in Johannesburg. IK’s first impression about his new prospect was very unfavorable: the reporter appeared too naïve and scared to be a successful drug baron.

    “My man, the streets are very dangerous and you must be very hard to survive. But the boys are making a living, the same way I am also struggling,” IK said, clutching the reporter’s shoulder with a friendly hand.

    Quartz Street is made up of predominantly of Nigerian immigrants. Apart from a sprinkle of Zimbabweans, all commercial activities are carried out by Nigerians and they are mainly from the South East. On the surface, there are the African food stores which sell Nigerian foods at exorbitant prices. There are the dry cleaners, internet cafes and bars owned and operated by Nigerians. But the real business of Quartz Street lies in its ugly underbelly, the world of cocaine and other illicit drugs. It’s a world so secretive that only few people are admitted into it; a world so dangerous that very few survive it.

    Johannesburg, for many Nigerians and other immigrants, is the New York of South Africa. It exists so that the poor can survive. It is the only city in South Africa where immigrants can make ends meet doing multiple odd jobs. The city, derogatorily referred to as Johaness-hustle-burg by many locals and immigrants, also has the highest crime rate in the country. Aside from the usual criminal tendencies of frustrated locals, the crime rate is also fueled by the underground drug world. In Johannesburg, sadly, the drug world is controlled by Nigerians.

    The crime world in the city is centered on three localities: Berea, HillBrow and Julies. In the first two neighborhoods, the drug kingpins rule while Julies is the headquarters of the credit card fraud business.

    There are many stories about the cocaine world in Berea and HillBrow. Even among Nigerians, the name is mentioned with reverence and fear. They are tales so dangerous they sound almost unbelievable until of course one gets the evidence or a glimpse of that drug world. It is both dangerous and secretive. No one answers his real name in that world and there are multiple rumours of backstabbing, tradeoff and murder.

    Getting information about how the drug business runs is no mean feat. One would have to be introduced by a member or someone who has the confidence of the drug lords. Lately, those who operate in this world had taken more precaution about the way the business is run. It was authoritatively gathered that early in October 2013, one of the kingpins was “dropped” in Julies. The drug lord was said to have been accosted by some men and several bullets were fired into his heart. He died before his body hit the ground. The late drug lord had reportedly led less than a sterling life with reports of several droppings he had either ordered or personally carried out.

    Apart from these usual fatal confrontations, there are cases of ‘brothers telling on brothers.’ “Our people are wicked. If they see that you are making it, they will be the one to tell the police the kind of job you are doing. We have many cases of brilliant people who have been ruined like that.

    “This job is a very dangerous one. If you are not careful or if you play too smart, you may not live to regret it or make amends,” a source said.

    The real centre of activities for the drug business is Berea, a sleepy neighbourhood just outside Johannesburg city centre, and that world is controlled by Nigerians, mainly from a particular part of the country.

    Very few understand how the Nigerian cartel that runs the drug world in Berea operates or how dangerous it could be when threatened. Those who rule the drug world are often not seen, preferring instead to use what is known in local parlance as the “hustle boys.”

    The hustle boys can be found on every street in Berea. They look tough and hardened, more by the conditions under which they have to operate than by anything else. Even though their primary occupation is selling cocaine, marijuana and other hard drugs, they often have an alibi as all of them sell small provisions like sweets and kola nuts. There are others who sell jewellery, gold and diamond while a few others indulge in currency trading.

    The most dangerous spots in Berea are Soope Street, Fife and Prospect Corner. On Soope Street, the houses are derelict and crying for rehabilitation. Most of the tenants here are Zimbabweans and Nigerians. On the houses are inscriptions warning residents that guns, knives and other dangerous weapons will not be allowed.

    Down the road in Soope Street is Soope Lodge, which is said to be owned by a Nigerian. It is the home of drug addicts and dangerous drug lords. Outside, emaciated bodies slept on the pavements and the stairs.

    Walking down Soope Street, it is common for one to hear a particular Nigerian language. You would find Nigerian men engaged in heated arguments, idling away. There are other men from Zimbabwe, wasted by drugs. They look more like skeletons than human beings, a result of years of drug abuse. But it is hard to find a Nigerian whose life has been wasted by drugs as much as South Africans and Zimbabweans.

    The corner of Prospect and Fife Street is where the real drug business thrives. On this particular day, more than 40 Zimbabweans and South Africans stood on one side of the street sniffing cocaine; they looked like the worst human specimen, completely ruined by the drugs they use. On each side of the road could be found Nigerians selling provisions. But that was a façade that conceals their real business as drug couriers and small-time hustlers for the real kingpins.

    According to the investigation carried out by The Nation, the “boys” who sell by the road side get their supply from a house between number 1 and 3, Prospect Corner, Berea. This house is said to be so dangerous that only accredited and “certified” drug lords can access it.

    “That is where we get our supplies from. Not all of us can go inside there, but we have different levels of command. My own immediate boss can go inside and whatever he buys there, we will repackage and resell on the street,” one of the ‘boys’ told The Nation.

    It is hard to find an innocent soul in Berea as almost everyone is involved in drug business. The talk among Nigerians is that anyone living in Berea must be into drug business. One of the hustlers simply called Daniel explained life on the edge in Berea.

    “You know, there is no job in this country and the only people who make it are those who can hustle. Although it is dangerous, if you can survive it, you will be happy,” he said.

    Happiness, in Berea context, The Nation learnt, meant climbing up the ladder in the underworld and buying a car. “The first thing the Nigerian buys after he becomes happy is a car. We have people who drive very expensive cars and that serves as a status symbol. Those of us who are still hustling can’t afford such luxuries,” Daniel further explained. In Hillbrow, you need to hustle to become a man”

    It was 7pm on Quartz Street, Hill brow. More Nigerians were pouring into the streets and the Olympic Bar was filled to the brim. It is a storey building with a veranda that looks outside into the street. Not everyone can go inside and only those who have attained a level of street credibility are permitted. Up there, fun and enjoyment went on unabated while the legendary music of Fela blared from a big speaker on the veranda. Outside, Zimbabwean security guards stood at attention, frisking anyone going into the bar.

    A large crowd gathered outside the African Food Stuff store. Trading activities began as cars poured into the street. As a car pulled up, one of the boys would move swiftly towards it and the ‘exchange’ would take place. Apart from those selling by the road side, many of the buildings on the street also acted as sales point.

    But there are other legitimate businesses on Quartz Street. Chigozie, a 29- year- old Nigerian, sells fried yam on the street. A slice of the delicacy costs R10 and it goes with pepper stew. Soon, a call came on his mobile phone and he hurried off towards one of the buildings to deliver a consignment. There are others like Eze who sells jeans from the comfort of his car. He persuades passersby to patronise his “Nigerian jean.” A Nigerian-made pair of jeans costs a whopping R150.

    But apart from the frenzy of commercial activities in Quartz Street, drug business booms in its underworld. It was the reporter’s first day at “work” and IK was explaining the process of recruitment to him. The first step towards becoming one of the boys is to start selling pipe (used for smoking cocaine). According to him, the pipe costs R20 each, and if one is hardworking, one can sell up to 200 pieces a night.

    After a couple of months selling the pipe, one can graduate into running errands for the big boys in Berea or Hillbrow. By that time, one would have learnt the intricacies of the trade and know the landmines and how to approach them.

    “You need to hustle to become a man in Hillbrow. All the boys who have made it started like this, and if you can do it, you will make it too,” IK said.

    Down Quartz Street where the road links Kotze Street is the red light district where Zimbabwean ladies rule the world. Here, many Nigerians are regular patrons of the wild ladies of the night. The red light goes perfectly with the business on Hillbrow and Berea communities. The kingpins have their ladies there and when business is good, the orders flow from Berea to the red light on Kotze.

    But one needs to always plan for the unexpected either in Hillbrow or Berea. On the evening of the undercover reporting, a fight broke out at the Olympic Bar. Those who knew the underground business said it was on a deal gone bad. The “boy” in the middle of the fight had his body covered with blood. Other Nigerians stood outside watching the spectacle.

    As the fight became fiercer, the security guards moved in and pepper-sprayed the Nigerians before putting the “boy” in handcuffs. Five minutes later, a police pick-up van arrived and the Nigerians were pushed inside. The van headed towards Kotze Street and turned into Pretoria Street where the Hillbrow Police Station is located.

    The police and corruption

    Surprisingly, the Nigerians were least perturbed about the arrests made by the police. They were angry at the Zimbabwean security guards who had used pepper spray on them and had handcuffed one of their own. An argument soon broke out with the Nigerians demanding an apology from the security guards.

    “You are ordinary Zimbabweans, how dare you pepper-spray me? You are an illegal alien as we are, so you are not better off. The other day when they wanted to kill you, we were the ones who saved your life,” one Nigerian said.

    The security officers apologised and returned to their post. They knew better than to incur the wrath of the Nigerians. The reporter asked IK what would happen to the arrested Nigerians and got a shocking reply.

    “We are going to bail them. The only problem now is that they may ask each of them to pay R2000 (about N42,000) for their release. We are not afraid of the police here; they allow us to do our business and we also keep our side of the bargain. We must put their money aside every week and give them when they come to collect it,” he said.

    A similar scenario had played out in Berea a day earlier. Although cocaine was being sold and used openly and police vans patrolled the street every ten minutes, few arrests were made, if any. A hustler said the police rarely disturbed them and if any arrests were made at all, it was meant to collect their dues.

    The reporter visited the Hillbrow police station; a station with world class police facilities. It stood majestically down the hill on Pretoria Street, Hillbrow. Beside it is the police barracks where the officers live. Several state of the art cars were parked in the garage and the apartment for the police was about a 20- storey building. It looked more like the newly refurbished 1004 flats on Victoria Island than a police barracks.

    A source close to the police department, however, said there was no truth in the allegations of police complicity in the drug business of Hillbrow and Berea. “The police make arrests as soon as complaints are lodged and they are treated according to the law,” the source said.

    Credit card fraud

    After two days, IK was getting frustrated about the slow progress or the unwillingness of his new ‘recruit’ to become fully integrated into the underworld, so he looked for other options.

    “go and meet your brothers. They are into card business and there is more money there. But remember, when you make it, don’t forget me,” he said.

    IK’s advice was instructive because while kins men control the drug business, the reporter’s people are kings of the credit card scam. Their base his Green House in Julie’s area of Johannesburg. From the Carlton Centre in central Johannesburg, a R10 bus takes you down to Julie’s. Here too, there is high population of Nigerians mostly from another section of the country.

    The credit card fraud is more intricate and delicate. According to a “repentant” fraudster, it requires the cooperation of clerks and officers in big malls and hotels who would supply the credit card details of wealthy clients to the gangs. But unlike the drug business, the police routinely make arrests and therefore the business is dying.

    The dangers have also made the practitioners to be more careful and they often cooperate more with themselves. All attempts made by The Nation to speak to some kingpins were rebuffed and the repentant fraudster declined to make any more comments after a few hours.

    The reporter did not succeed with the credit card issue and returned to Hillbrow, but IK was nowhere to be found. His phone was switched off when the reporter tried to call him. Of course, no one knew him by the name IK in Hillbrow, so his whereabouts remained shrouded in mystery.

    “You are looking for your man? I suggest you better be on your way,” a sympathetic hustler said. The reporter did not need a second opinion; people do ‘vanish’ for doing less than he had already done.

     

  • ‘Our frustrations as care givers to street  kids’

    ‘Our frustrations as care givers to street kids’

    Few would suspect that the place is a rehabilitation centre for the less-privileged. The building is well designed and tastefully furnished. The comportment of the occupants of the home does not give them away as boys rescued from the streets. Their vivacious faces point to the fact that they are happy.

    Yet before they were rescued from the streets, they had lived a life of frustration, having broken ties with their families. Survival was all that mattered to them and whatever they had to do to survive mattered little, no matter how injurious it could be to them or to others in their surroundings.

    But now they are living as responsible members of the society, with the Fair Life Africa Foundation (FLA) at the forefront of their rehabilitation. For instance, 16-year-old Mark would always be grateful to the Fair Life Africa Foundation for changing his fortune. Unlike those who were picked from Oshodi and Kuramo Beach, Mark, having heard about the activities of the foundation decided on his own to visit the centre. Before then, he was sleeping under the bridge at Oshodi, eking out a living as a burden bearer.

    As a precondition to be accepted as a “street child” into the home, he was placed on an assessment for a while and was counselled by a social worker. But he broke one of the rules of the home by engaging in a fight with one of the housemates. That should automatically qualify him for eviction, but he pleaded and made a commitment that such would not happen again and was given a second chance.

    Mark had left home because he was tired of living with his uncle, a police officer and strict disciplinarian. In the process, he became more of a street urchin.

    By the time he left the FLA, however, he had become a transformed fellow. He learnt how to control his anger and settle disputes amicably. And what is more, the foundation was able to reconcile him with his family.

    For 15-year old John, an indigene of Oyo State and the only male child of his father, his case actually looked irredeemable. A product of a broken home, his mother had separated from his father while he was still at a tender age, and he later ran away from home.

    According to the FLA, “we met John at a police shelter where he was being looked after as a lost child after he had spent some time on the street working for a woman at Oshodi in Lagos. The Fair Life Africa intervened by taking him along on a home tracing excursion.

    “We located his father in Ibadan. At that time (September 2012), neither of them was ready for reconciliation. John’s father complained that it was not the first time his son would run away from home, and that he couldn’t understand his behaviour.

    “John’s initial story was that he did not intentionally leave home, but did so because he lost the money he was given to go on an errand. But when someone offered him a bus fare to go home, he chose to follow another child rather than return home. He said he was afraid that he would be flogged by his father for returning so late.

    “John became a housemate of the FLA home with the expectation that in time, he would be ready to return home to his father. He was enrolled in a primary school in spite of his age because he lacked any basic education. While at the home, he also attended group and one-on-one counselling sessions with our social worker, and he has shown significant progress emotionally.”

    John was said to have proved himself to be hard-working and generally well behaved. “He derives joy from impressing people around him and loves to be noticed and acknowledged. He has improved considerably in hygiene, as he takes care of himself and his space well. He also does chores assigned to him happily without grumbling and often offers a helping hand.

    “Academically, John was one of the top scorers in his class (third place), and showed that he had potential, but needed someone to encourage and guide him to apply himself. John was eventually reconciled with his parents.”

    Mark’s and John’s experiences are just two of the many ‘street children’s that the FLA has rehabilitated. But whatever the rehabilitated children are enjoying today came at a cost. The official launch of the foundation presented the opportunity for the volunteers to tell their stories. The Chief Executive Officer of the foundation, Mrs. Ufuoma Emerhor-Asogbon, a graduate of Social Work from the Manchester Metropolitan University, had worked with several disabled adults before she volunteered as children’s advocate.

    Emerhor-Asogbon disclosed that at the time the foundation was launched in October, it had gulped about N40 million since it started in January 2011, excluding the cost of the building being used as office and the transitory home for the “street children.”

    She said after she realised that there was inequality in the world, she decided to contribute her quota to making the world a better place.

    She said: “In Nigeria, injustice is very rife. So, it is not wise for us to continue like this. The motivation is not from an economic viewpoint, but from a spiritual position. It is from the recognition that the unbalanced way of the society is not right, where the poor are getting poorer and the rich are getting more and more affluent. It doesn’t help the world to be better.”

    She insists that if everybody is doing well, the world will get better. ”It is not good when some are doing badly and others are doing well. We won’t get better that way. We are better off when we empower people; when we have success right and left,” she said.

    But the Fair Life Africa boss sometimes gets discouraged, “because I’m a human being and not a robot. Much as I try not to make this work an emotional one, it costs so much. When you invest so much and you get little or you beg people to help somebody else, it is not as if you are going to help yourself, I feel as if I’m begging.”

    She also gets discouraged when the children she is trying to help seem not to cooperate. “I get discouraged when these children don’t understand what you are trying to do for them. And sometimes when things don’t go right with the rehabilitation, it makes you wonder, do these children really want it for themselves?”

    She is looking forward to building another respite home in places like Ajegunle (Lagos), where the foundation will be able to pick children directly from the streets in those locations. “We are looking forward to having long-stay homes which is something we’re not doing at the moment. We provide short-term accommodation because we do not have the capacity to keep children at home.”

    One of the field workers at the Fair Life Africa Foundation, Tope Abowaje, is a University of Lagos Human Kinetic and Health Education graduate. She is one of the people currently responsible for picking children from the streets. She says they do this not minding the dangers involved because some of the children are capable of doing anything. In a place like Oshodi where there is a kind of semi-government, it takes people with a lion’s heart to interact with the children, especially their bosses.

    She said: “These children are forced to live in unhealthy environment where they hardly have their baths. They always look dirty. They have raw eczema, rotten teeth, twisted hair and eyes dulled by substance abuse. It’s astonishing to imagine the effects of such exposure on these children. They can quickly degenerate into a life of violence, sexual exploitation, trafficking and emotional instability.”

    According to Abowaje, initial familiarity with these kids is met with resentment because “they are really not sure about whom they are talking to, hence they do not want to let out information. Also, they are habitually on the move and always on the look-out for opportunities and dangers.”

    Would she blame the children for thinking this way? The street provides an ephemeral freedom and is like father, mother, school and home to them. To this, Abowaje says the initial familiarisation effort is always difficult.

    She said: “Most people often ask how I have been able to get the boys to trust and talk to me and I generally answer that every child wants a friend who appears to understand him and doesn’t condemn his action, and that is who I show myself to be to them. With little effort, we begin to play and communicate.”

    If she had succeeded in sweet-talking some of the ‘street children’ into reconciling with their parents, she still feels pained that she was unable to get Daniel from Ibadan to the home.

    She said: “One of the striking situations I recall was a visit we made to the beach on a particular Easter day where my colleagues and I found this wonderful, vibrant, cheerful street child named Daniel. We soon discovered that he ran from CCC, Ibadan, Oyo State.

    “After much persuasion to be part of CCC Initiative programme in our Respite Home, he said that he needed more time to make money and then he might consider the idea. About three days later, we made another trip to the same location only to find that he was involved in an accident while swimming at the beach which led to a fatal injury. And since he was all by himself on the street, rushing him to a nearby hospital was a challenge, and he died.”

    Nishola Akinyera, also a field worker at the foundation, is a Mass Communication graduate from the Olabisi Onabanjo University. Akinyera, who joined the FLA two years ago, is constantly on the move, especially when it comes to meeting the material needs of the children. She also supports them through rehabilitation, reconciliation and reintegration process until they are ready to go back to their families at the end of their stay at the Fair Life Africa Foundation home.

    Home tracing for these children has been challenging. According to her, the pranks the children play could be frustrating. “Some have also been quite hilarious. For instance, when children who had confidently told you that they know their way back home and are ready to go back after being on the streets for a long period, they suddenly develop ‘amnesia’ and decide not to know the way anymore when you are almost there! Often, this is because they fear you might abandon them at home without a solution to the problem they ran away from in the first place. It could be frustrating when things like that happen,” she said.

     

  • Flat sandals

    Flat sandals

    SANDALS are trendy and danny foot wear for ladies. They make them stand out and feel comfortable all day. Sandals are lovely when worn with suit gowns, pencil skirts, jean trousers and even corporate wear. As a working class lady, you can wear sandals to your work place and feel relax all day. Apart from you feeling comfortable, they help you take in fresh air unlike shoes that covered your feet. There are different sandals, but you can wear your flat sandals with any dress.

  • UNWTO to support Libya’s tourism development

    The United Nation’s World Tourism Organisation (UNWTO) has signed the agreement with the Libya to help promote the country’s tourism. Under the agreement, signed last week during the 2013 World Travel Market (WTM) in London, UNWTO will provide support to Libya´s Ministry of Tourism in its strategic tourism development through institutional building and governance, sustainable development, marketing and human resource development.

    Priority will be given to institutional building and governance, with technical support focused on developing a cohesive tourism policy, strategy and action plan, as well as updating the sector´s legislative and regulatory frameworks and strengthening its organizational structure.

    “This agreement is a very positive step in reviving Libya´s tourism sector and affirms UNWTO´s commitment to Libya during this time of national rebuilding. Tourism will enhance the country´s global image and contribute to its sustainable economic growth and development,” said UNWTO Secretary-General, Taleb Rifai.

    “Libya has great potential for tourism. It was a tourism destination in the 60s and we want to prioritize rebuilding the country´s tourism sector. Tourism provides great opportunity for investment and employment and will give a better face for Libya,” said Libya´s Tourism Minister Ikram Bash Imam.

    “By joining hands with UNWTO, we will work to implement our plan for sustainable tourism development”, he added.

    The cooperation agreement will build on Libya´s Ministry of Tourism action plan towards sustainable tourism development with the support of the public and private sector.

    The agreement was the result of the UNWTO mission to Tripoli in June 2013 to assess the specific needs of Libya’s tourism sector.