Category: Saturday Magazine

  • Chika’s top 10

    Nollywood actress, Oguine Chika, reveals her favourite things to Kehinde Oluleye

     

    Favourite shoes designer

    Christian Louboutin

     

    Favourite underwear

    Victoria secrets

     

    Favourite dinner wear

    A long sleeveless gown any colour with a pop of red lipstick and a clutch bag, it works for me anyday.

     

    Favourite perfume designer

    Fendi, Giorgio by Beverly Hills, Perry Ellis, by Gucci too

     

    Favourite bag designer

    It just has to be burberry, I’ve a whole lot of them,I also like Guess bags.

     

    Favourite drink

    Russian Vodka is very nice, its not like the ones from France and Dubai or Alaba Market, Blue label isn’t bad.

     

    Favourite musician

    Hollywood Adele,Christiana Aguleire, Wale. Kendrick Lamar. Nollywood- ASA and 2face.

     

    Favourite sunglasses Chanel, Emporio Armani.

     

    Favourite eaarings

    I like Oprah stud earings for day or round silver and gold earings and chandelier for night.

     

    Favourite car

    Acura Contour,

    BMW X6

  • Our battles with  the virus, by Benue people living   with HIV/AIDS

    Our battles with the virus, by Benue people living with HIV/AIDS

    The sea of heads, with women constituting a preponderance at the vast concourse of the AIDS Preventive Initiative of Nigeria (APIN) complex, Federal Medical Centre, Makurdi, Benue State, tells a glum story, a story of a state ambushed by a debilitating scourge.

    A conjectural estimate put the figure at well over 800 persons- men, women and children. On this day, April 9th, this gathering reportedly paled significantly against the previous days’ figure put at about 1,000 of People Living With HIV and AIDS (PLWHA), who daily throng the complex from Monday to Friday, for counselling and treatment.

    A cursory peek of the PLWHA hordes first conveyed a picture of a congregation of religious faithful waiting for their pastor’s homily. But the images became starker when this reporter eventually found himself swathed by people who were in no way out to receive a sermon on the kingdom of heaven, but on how to live normally with the pandemic of HIV/AIDS.

    This sight is not peculiar to the Federal Medical Centre, Makurdi, alone. In Otukpo, Ohimini, Okpoga and elsewhere, the spectacle mutually replicates itself, with women and children mostly, at the highest rung of the HIV/AIDS ladder. For long, the monster has been stalking the state like an incubus. Finally, it has laid a seeming terrorist siege, progressively for eight years running.

    Benue State is currently burdened not only by the high prevalence of the disease but more as the highest army of people living with HIV/AIDS in Nigeria. From the available statistics released in 2010 by the National HIV Sero-Prevalence Sentinel Survey, the state reportedly had 12.7 per cent prevalence rate, a figure considered far above the national average of 4.1 per cent.

    Additionally, Benue State is adjudged as having the highest urban and rural prevalence rate of 12.5 per cent and 13.3 per cent respectively, with prevalence as high as 21.3 per cent in wannune, 18 per cent in Ihugh and 5.3 in Okpoga, Okpokwu Council Area, all of which are rural communities.

    During the period under review, Makurdi and Otukpo (both urban centres), posted 10.3 percent and 9.1 percent respectively.

    Investigations also show that the youth population stands imperiled by the HIV prevalence in the state, with the figure reported to have been consistently higher at 5.5 than its value or projection in 2008. Transmission dynamics, according to existing data, affect both key most-at-risk populations and a strong generalised constituent driven by behavioural patterns through high-risk sexual network of the general population.

    But prior to the 2010 sentinel survey, the 2005 United Nations General Assembly Special Session (UNGASS) report had put the HIV/AIDS prevalence rate in Benue State at 10 per cent, with Otukpo Council Area ranked as one of the highest with incidence rate at 7.2 per cent. Makurdi, the state capital, was 10.3 per cent and 4.4 at the national level respectively.

    The corollary of the survey showed, therefore, that there was a geometric increase of 2.7 per cent and 2.1 per cent within the five-year period from 2005 to 2010 for state and Otukpo local council respectively.

    According to a progress report by the Otukpo Local Government Area Local Action Committee on AIDS (LACA), a copy of which was made available to The Nation by the council’s Head of Department on Health and LACA Coordinator, Mrs. Rebecca Audu, showing the result of a sentinel survey in 2010 on pregnant women, 160 sites were sampled across the country, of which 86 were urban and 74 were rural sites. A total of 36,427 pregnant women were sampled across the country.

    Similarly, in Benue State, five sites, involving the three senatorial zones, were sampled during the period under review. The outcome of the study revealed the highest incidence rate of 12.7 per cent with infections mostly in the rural areas. The age groups most affected were between 15 and 35 years.

    In summary, the study showed that there was a 20 per cent increase of HIV prevalence from 2005 to 2010, with a dire consequence of about 40 per cent projected increase if nothing was done to abate the trend by 2012. The survey further reveals that about 603,000 people are infected with HIV, while about 28, 948 pregnant women are infected yearly with HIV/AIDS, and about 10,421 children infected yearly through mother to child transmission (MTCT).

    Records from the Comprehensive Health Centre, Otukpo (Ward 2), showed that of the 178 ante-natal cases, three are positive and currently on drugs as at January 2013.

    Further check by The Nation at the Otukpo General Hospital revealed a worrying incidence of new cases in the last quarter of 2012 (October to December). For instance, in the month of October, 71 people were admitted, 22 of whom were males and 49 females. November records also indicated that out of the 75 new cases, 24 were males and 51 females. For the month of December, 2012, there were 43 new cases, 13 of whom were males and 30 females.

    Conversely, in the first quarter of 2013 (January to March), The Nation investigation at the same Otukpo General Hospital shows that of the 88 new cases of people living with HIV in the month of January, 25 were males and 63 females. February records put the figure of new cases at 43 with 10 males and 33 females. While those of March were 73, with 26 males and 47 females.

    At the Pediatric Ward of the same hospital, new cases of children admitted in October 2012 were three, in the ratio of one female to three males. in November, the figure shows that eight new cases were recorded in a disparate ratio of five males to three females. In December, it was two males to zero female.

    Similarly, in the first quarter of 2013, January to March, eight children in an equal ratio of four males to four females were recorded. In February, out of six cases, one was male and five were females. It was two males to five females in the month of March.

    A survey of death rate in the last quarter of 2012 stood at one in January and one in February, all of whom were females, while three male deaths were recorded in the month of March.

    Figures at other centres –Makurdi, Okpoga and elsewhere – could not be immediately gleaned owing to unavailability of data and red tapism.

    According to the National Agency for the Control of AIDS (NACA), 10 in every 100 persons are said to be living with HIV in Benus State, with ages ranging between 15 and 49.

    According to The Nation investigation, the conveyors of the epidemic in the state include high illiteracy, particularly in rural areas, high rates of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) in vulnerable groups, poverty, general apathy to condom use and carefree attitude to perceived personal risks.

    Findings also revealed that average monthly new cases in the state are put at 200 per general hospital, which brings the aggregate haul in the state to about 3,000 per month.

    Investigation by The Nation indicated that Nakar town has recently been discovered to have high prevalence of people living with HIV as records at the Federal Medical Centre, Makurdi, showed, prompting APIN and other implementing partners to contemplate the setting up of care centres in the area. At Logo in Gwue Council Area, it is the same running story as statistics at the FMC also revealed.

    The outlook cannot be any grimmer for a state famed as the ‘food basket’ of the nation. Not with its productive farming population insufferably being pillaged by the high prevalence of HIV/AIDS. It just may gradually be turning the world of the state’s agro-industry on its head.

    Factors aiding prevalence

    Considered as one of the biggest headaches in the effort at containing the scourge, is the general apathy on the part of the men folk to submit themselves to testing. According to Isaac Agbe Azor, Data Manager with the AIDS Preventive Initiative of Nigeria (APIN), FMC, Makurdi, “the men have posed the biggest challenge in combating the scourge. While their women counterparts are easily convinced to come forward for screening and testing, men have constituted our biggest obstacle. So they constitute a factor in the spread of the disease. As long as they are positive and refuse to come forward to be tested, diagnosed and managed, they will go on spreading the HIV virus.”

    He also identified logistics in the rural areas as hindering awareness campaign. “The awareness campaign has not been so vigorous as a result of logistics. Even in some of these areas, the response level is always higher with the women than the men.

    “Another challenge is poverty. There are many who cannot afford to bring their wards for testing. If, for instance, a member of the family is found to be positive and we ask them to bring the rest of their wards for testing, it is usually difficult for an individual to transport herself or himself, much more transporting the entire family from a distance of say, 50 kilometres.”

    The emergence of gay clubs in the state has also been identified as working to undermine the efforts at containing the spread of the disease, with Makurdi and Otukpo as the epicenter of the new trend in homosexual activities. According to The Nation finding, membership of these gay clubs currently stands at over 400, a figure, it is feared, is likely to snowball as youths are said to be the prime target usually recruited from some of the state’s tertiary institutions.

    High rate of promiscuity, especially in rural areas with dense illiteracy rate, an APIN official noted, is another disturbing concern. “Sexual activities in such areas are often concentrated because people do not migrate. So the spread is also concentrated, leading to a crisis proportion. In these communities, there are cases of either deceased or infected victims of HIV/AIDS in almost every household,” the official said.

    Indifference to use of condoms

    Ali Baba Emmanuel is the General Secretary of the State Coordinator of Benue People Living with HIV/AIDS (BenPlus), a network of non-governmental organisations (NGOs), which coordinates the activities of people living with HIV/AIDS across the state.

    He lamented the general apathy of the people of the state to the use of condoms. “Despite campaigns for behavioural change, people are yet to embrace the advocacy for the use of condoms. Poverty among the people has also accounted for the rapid spread of the disease, just as stigmatisation is a major hindrance to people submitting themselves to HIV screening.”

    Ali Baba further hinted: “It has also been discovered that even those on ARV have gone on to spread the virus through reckless sexual activity because their HIV status is known only to themselves. Here in Benue State, your sexual partner is likely to find it strange and will ask why you want to use a condom on him or her. He or she will demand to know why because they say sex without condom is more enjoyable. So, to avoid this embarrassing situation, an HIV person who does not want to reveal his status will go ahead and have unprotected sex with a non-HIV person. And the spread goes on and on.”

    Dr. Ali George, an anti-retroviral therapist (ART), at Saint Mary’s Catholic Hospital, Okpoga in Okpokwu Local Government Area, offers an insight into how the scourge has assumed this pandemic proportion in Benue State, culminating in its top ranking in the country’s HIV/AIDS log.

    “From my experience and from the much I have gathered as an ART at Saint Mary’s Catholic Hospital, Okpoga, the ignorance of the people is one of the factors that have facilitated the high rate of HIV/AIDS prevalence in the state.

    ‘’Oftentimes, those who are infected by the HIV virus, rather than seek medical treatment or diagnosis, resort to other means than medical. Some blame their circumstance on witchcraft or spiritual attack. Their next line of action is to go to their pastors for prayers and deliverance. This belief is also common among the enlightened ones.

    “The emergence of ‘miracle pastors’ has also been found to be one of the factors for the prevalence of HIV/AIDS, not only in Benue State, but in Nigeria as a whole. Without mentioning names, we have had cases here in Okpoga where PLWHAs abandoned treatment and sought relief in churches. Many have taken off to Lagos to get ‘cure’ from a particular church in Lagos renowned for miraculous claims in such areas. It is a major challenge in the management and prevention of HIV/AIDS in the state.

    “A particular patient was recently ripped off by a pastor who allegedly demanded for and collected N250,000 to pray for him. The same patient, who could barely afford decent meals, had to borrow to pay in order to be prayed for. A month or two later, he came back looking like a bag of bones. Before we conduct a check, the virus had seriously ravaged him because he discontinued his treatment. After much probing, he confessed and said the pastor told him to stop taking drugs as God had already healed him.

    ‘’But the sad and unfortunate thing is that the virus will begin to multiply and ravage them progressively.’’

    Pregnant women not going for ante-natal

    In many parts of the state, many pregnant women do not register for ante-natal. And when it is time to put to bed, they go to traditional birth attendants. There is also the existence of substandard maternity clinics operated by quack nurses. Pregnant women usually prefer these quack clinics because they feel they are cheaper. In these clinics, both mother and her new born child are not given quality services usually extended to pregnant women. It is very common to find mothers infecting their new born babies with the HIV virus.

    Disappearance of Support Group

    According to Mrs. Roseline Agbo, Health Line Coordinator, Otukpo Comprehensive Health Centre, “the disappearance of the Support Group has also been hampering the management and control of the spread of HIV/AIDS in the state. The Support Group deals with the welfare of PLWHAs, counselling, social wellbeing, break up of stigma which hitherto made it impossible for victims to interact socially. Paucity of funding has led to the disappearance of the Support Group. Funding used to come from both the government and donor agencies. Through the Support Group, PLWHAs are counselled to socialise sexually within the same ‘positive’ group. On a few occasions, marriages had been contracted for some members of the support group. The idea is to ensure that they do not seek sexual remedy outside the fold.”

    Benue government speaks

    When The Nation sought the comment of the Executive Secretary of the Benue State AIDS Control Agency, Mrs Grace Wendy, on the high prevalence of the HIV/AIDS in the state, she declined, claiming that she had earlier been misrepresented in the media on the issue. But the Media Officer at the state Ministry of Information, Mr. Pius Torkuma, attributed the inexorable prevalence and spread to stigmatisation, “which has prevented people from coming forward for testing, with the attendant consequence of further spread by those unwittingly living with the virus.’’ According to him, there is currently an Anti-Stigmatisation bill before the state House of Assembly.

    Similarly, the state Government had, through the former Commissioner for Health and Social Services, Dr. Oduen Abunku, expressed concern over the worrisome development when he disclosed that over 600,000 persons are currently living with the dreaded HIV/AIDS in the state.

    Speaking at the joint Memorandum of Understanding (MoU) signing ceremony between the Benue State Government, the NKST Health Services and the Nigeria Indigenous Capacity Building Project, Abunku lamented that skyrocketing figures had left the state on the top of chart of available statistics of the most endemic states in the federation.

    The commissioner regretted that HIV/AIDS infestation in the state was destroying and eroding the state’s capacity in the food and agriculture. “In Nigeria, Benue State has for many years topped the chart of the prevalence of HIV/AIDS with over 600,000 persons living with the virus in the state.

    “The virus is destroying our farms, schools and churches and that is why we will continue to partner organisations who are providing services to the infected and affected in the state.”

    Governor Gabriel Suswam, who was represented on the occasion by the Secretary to the State Government (SSG), Dr. David Salifu, had reaffirmed that his administration would continue to partner relevant agencies and international partners to ensure that the scourge of HIV/AIDS in the state was effectively checked.

    The governor urged the people of the state to put aside their socio-political differences and join forces against the virus in the state, adding: “We must put aside our socio-political differences and stand up against the virus, so that our people will be able to lead a normal life.’’

    As it stands presently, the state faces a stiff struggle. A struggle between sustaining its famed status as the ‘food basket’ of the nation by winning the battle against HIV/AIDS scourge or losing the battle and its acclaimed image as the nation’s ‘food basket’. In truth, Benue is a state under siege.

    An encounter with some of the PLWHAs

    From Makurdi, Otukpo, Ogobia to Okpoga, the story of how they came to be associated with the disease is virtually the same: infidelity and other factors as well as the attendant consequences. Except for Gertrude (real name withheld) who is single but whose HIV positive status was as a result of reported blood transfusion, many others had so much to do with untamed libido, sexual recklessness and betrayal.

    For Gertrude, “It was in 2006, while I was a student of College of Education, Katsina-Ala, Benue State, that I noticed I was having frequent fever. My uncle’s wife with whom I was staying had to take me to the university clinic where I was treated for fever and malaria. When it was discovered that the fever was a frequent occurrence, our family advised me to do HIV test. Lo and behold, the outcome was positive. That was June, 2006.

    ‘’Since then, I have been on ARV. Before I started taking the drugs, I discovered that I was emaciating and losing weight. But the drugs have been working for me. I noticed that I have gained so much weight and I am feeling much healthier.’’

    Jonathan (surname withheld) is a staff with APIN. For 17 years, he has been living with the virus. Jonathan, whose wife is also HIV positive, said: “I have been living with the disease for the past 17 years. I got to know I was HIV positive when I went for a test to know my status. That was then I discovered that I was positive.

    ‘’I might have contracted the virus from my first wife who is now late. I remember that before we went our separate ways, she was always falling sick and losing pregnancies. So there was pressure from my people to put her away and marry another woman. So, I did. But it was later I got to know that she died of AIDS.

    ‘’Despite testing positive, I did not seek treatment until four years later. I have four children, but none of them has tested positive. I have been doing regular HIV tests for them.’’

    Thessy (surname withheld) is a primary school teacher with one of the state’s primary schools. She has been on ARV for the past 10 years. She got married at the age of 16 years and had her first child at the age of 18. A mother of four, Thessy’s first child is a 25-year-old medical student. Her story is not only heart-tugging, but depressing and tears-conjuring.

    At 44 and widowed, life can only be said to be abrasive, dreadful and unkind to her. At the onset of her travail as a person living with HIV/AIDS in 2002, she said she had journeyed to the land of the dead only to be chased back to continue her now gloomy life among the living.

    She lost her husband to the dreaded AIDS scourge in 1997 and thereafter, life took a battering for her and her four HIV-negative children. But she was not so lucky as her late husband had bequeathed her the HIV virus. Reliving what has now become her life’s downward trajectory since her husband’s death, Thessy said: “My condition became very critical when my husband died. There was no remedy as there were no free drugs then when I tested positive.

    ‘’Earning below N10,000 monthly income as a primary school teacher, it was not easy accessing the drugs, hence, I had to be borrowing to stay alive and look after my four children. I am alive today by the special grace of God. When my husband died, I did not know what was responsible for his death. It was not until a doctor friend confided in me that he died of AIDS.

    ‘’It was the same doctor who advised me to do HIV test. The test was N10,000 then. I did not have the money but the doctor advised me to borrow the money anywhere I could to do the test. I resigned myself to death, because I was already a dying woman. Where would I get N10,000 to pay back as a primary school teacher? So I was waiting for death to come.

    ‘’Fortunately, some health personnel were available to carry out tests. So, the cost was later slashed to N7,000, but it was still difficult to raise the money. Eventually, I did. Nobody thought I could still be alive as my case had neared a terminal stage. Even the doctors had given up on me.’’

    Thessy’s first son is a 300-level medical student. She has been slumming life to see him through medical school. But life itself has been a sticky patch for the family, leaving her in a lurch as to how her son will graduate as a doctor. Destitute of a breadwinner, Thessy has been buffeted on all fronts: inability to feed her four children, sustaining her son in the medical school and sundry deprivations in her home.

    She bemoaned her helplessness to The Nation in Otukpo amid sobs: “In Benue State, primary school teachers are not part of the minimum wage. In order to continue to support my children, I took up a part time job with the Catholic Archdiocese of Otukpo which was also involved in HIV/AIDS programme, earning a stipend. But since their project stopped in 2010, I depend solely on the irregular income from the government. I have continued to borrow to see my son through the medical school and taking care of his siblings. today, I owe N300,000.’’

    For Okpanachi (surname withheld), his plight was self-inflicted. It is the comeuppance for his unbridled libido. With bloodshot and sunken eyes, burrowed deep into their sockets and a long woozy neck completely receding into his collar bones, Okpanachi cuts the image of a man whose life hangs in the balance. Pithily, he relived his stigmatisation ordeal: ‘’Even my own biological brother who was serving in the military and with whom I used to share food, started keeping me at a distance. This discrimination became unbearable for me. I felt that the only thing left for me was suicide.”

    A once-upon-a-Sunday school teacher with the Assemblies of God Church, Otukpo, Okpanachi would soon discover that the stigma he experienced at the hands of his own brother was also waiting for him in the house of God where he conflated with the brethren and taught the scriptural tenets of love, compassion and meekness.

    A father of eight, Okpanachi told this reporter at Otukpo Comprehensive Health Centre, where this dialogue took place, that he married his wife as a virgin and vouched for her fidelity, but admitted amid penitence that he brought the faggot to his home as a result of his philandering.

    His wife, now separated, and their last child, 7, are plagued by the scourge. His other seven children, he said, are, however, all negative.

     

  • Kola Ayanwale bounces back

    Whenever the story of leading advertising companies which have worked with top companies in Nigeria and carved a niche for themselves is told, Centerspread, an advertising agency owned by Kola Ayanwale, will enjoy a mention. Without an iota of doubt, Ayanwale etched his name in gold in the advertising sector as an active player for decades.

    In the last few years, his company has handled the accounts of many leading banks. One of the biggest accounts it handled was that of Skye Bank. While his childhood friend, Akinsola Akinfenwa, remained the managing director of the bank, Centerspread handled all the bank’s campaigns. He was so close to Akinfenwa that he only needed to ask and it would be given.

    But after a CBN policy sent Akinsola on compulsory retirement, Kehinde Durosimi-Etti took over and immediately terminated Centerspread’s contract with the bank. The move made by the new Skye Bank MD was said to have caused some financial setback for Ayanwale and his company. Consequently, he went on low profile.

    But Celeb Watch gathered that the dark and handsome man has bounced back with his friend now the chairman of the new Heritage Bank. Kola Ayawanle’s Centerspread Advertising Agency is now said to be in charge of Heritage Bank’s accounts. Things, certainly, are looking up for Ayanwale again.

  • Consequences of defiling the marriage bed (IV)

    Dear reader,

    Welcome to the concluding part of this month’s series. I strongly believe that you have been blessed and edified. Today, I shall be looking into Ways Out Of Marital Infidelity.

    We live in modern times, where a lot of virtues our parents upheld are pushed aside as being old-fashioned. Liberality appears to be the password of the new generation. Thank God, the Bible was not inspired by man’s customs and ideologies, else, several updates would have become mandatory. What is contained therein was inspired by the Holy Spirit, Who is eternal. The Word of God in 2 Timothy 3:16 says: All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.

    Renew Your Mind: For anyone to be free from today’s pollution, renewal of the mind is inevitable. The Bible says: And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God (Romans 12:2). God’s Word cannot become obsolete; His Word cannot become old-fashioned. The potency of God’s Word is as ever. It is the best ‘water’ that can wash away every contamination.

    If you discover that you have a weakness towards the opposite sex, do not fold your hands, fight spiritually and overcome the devil. Lay hold on the Word of God, read, study and meditate on it. Get materials like books, tapes, etc. These will help your mind from wandering about. Be careful not to watch or read materials that can prompt you into your old ways.

    Be Open: Keeping secrets could be dangerous, especially with the opposite sex. Sending text messages that you would not want your spouse to know about, is like sitting on a gun powder. Any relationship that your spouse is not comfortable about should be dropped. If you are a single person, be careful not to stay alone in secluded places with the opposite sex.

    The Bible says: …for we are not ignorant of his devices (2 Corinthians 2:11). I receive mails on a daily basis of wives suspecting their husbands and men not trusting their wives, because of secret calls and text messages. The truth is: there is nothing secret that shall not be made manifest; neither anything hid, that shall not be known and come abroad (Luke 8:17).

    Marriage is founded upon a very delicate material called trust. One cannot afford to get caught in the web of adultery. When trust is broken, suspicion sets in and eventually the marriage breaks. By committing adultery, you literally take the honour God bestows upon you and cast it before swine: Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you. (Matthew 7:6).

    When your honour is trampled upon, nothing remains of it. Another dimension to this is that the respect or value which your spouse has for or placed upon you is shattered. There are many out there, who are ready to play on your emotions and get at you; do not give them room.

    No one can overcome this nature except by the power that is in the Blood of Jesus Christ. Are you ready to be saved? If you are ready, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today, I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today.

     

    Congratulations!  You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com; Tel.  No: 234-1-7747546-8; 07026385437; 07094254102

     

    For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work and Building a Successful Family.

  • Patience  Jonathan  dumps FFLN

    Patience Jonathan dumps FFLN

    Nigeria’ s First Lady, Mrs. Patience Jonathan, must be enjoying a new lease of life since she returned to the country after series of surgical operations abroad. The woman who once liked to be measured by the number of high networth individuals she had around her appears to have made a volte-face, preferring to stay all by herself and without some fussy groups of friends.

    And she makes no pretence about her preference for the company of her husband to friends that would only gossip and take undue advantage of her office. Her decision to shed many of her friends’ companionship might not be unconnected with her perception that many of them were behind some ugly stories that made the rounds about her ill-health.

    A group known as Friends of the First Lady of Nigeria (FFLN) had been formed few months after her husband became the President. Made up mainly of self-acclaimed society women, the association’s objective was believed to be nothing more than ‘reaping’ bountifully from Jonathan’s presidency. The same women had formed an impregnable ring around Hajia Turai Yar’Adua, wife of the late President Umar Musa Yar’Adua, but shifted their allegiance to Dame Patience Jonathan after Yar’Adua’s death.

  • PDP crisis is exaggerated -Senate Majority Leader Ndoma-Egba

    PDP crisis is exaggerated -Senate Majority Leader Ndoma-Egba

    Victor Ndoma-Egba (SAN) is the Senate Majority Leader and a three-term Senator representing Cross River State Central Senatorial Zone in the upper chamber. Senator Ndoma-Egba was at various times a member of Senate Committees on Upstream Petroleum Resources, Human Rights and Legal Matters, Information and Media, as well as Deputy Chairman of the Judiciary Committee of the Senate. In this interview with Assistant Editor, LINUS OBOGO, in his office, he spoke on state creation, crisis in the PDP, zero allocation to SEC saga and sundry issues. Excerpts:

     

    There was a seeming helplessness on the part of the Senate to compel the Inspector-General of Police (IG) to arrest and produce the former Assistant Director with the Nigeria Pension Fund, Abdulrasheed Maina, over alleged monumental corruption in the agency, leading to his eventual disappearance. Was that the last Nigerians may have heard on the matter?

    Our constitutional responsibilities are carried out within constitutional bounds. The powers to investigate also include the powers to recommend. We do not have any constitutional obligation to implement or execute our recommendations. The responsibility to implement or execute those recommendations lies with the executive arm of the government.

    That is why if you look at Section 88 of the Constitution which empowers us to carry out oversights, it also empowers us to carry out oversights with the purpose of exposing or minimising corruption. So the moment we have succeeded in exposing corruption, we have carried out our constitutional mandate. What happens thereafter is for the executive arm. We have done our bit. So, we cannot, having done our bit and exhausted our constitutional mandate, be said to be helpless. So, the issue of helplessness does not arise in this situation at all.

    Implementing our recommendation is entirely that of the executive.

    So, while the executive glosses over this serious issue of corruption in the Pension Fund administration, will it be right to conclude that the matter is dead and buried as it seems?

    Well, it is for Nigerians to demand action from the executive arm. The legislature has done its bit. So the ball is now in the court of the executive. It is for Nigerians to insist that something be done. I want to believe that the matter is squarely being pursued by those who have the responsibility to do so. The matter is before the Federal Civil Service Commission. Remember also that the police had also declared him wanted.

    Does the Constitution also circumscribe the Senate from reining in the IG of Police or any other head of federal agencies who flagrantly flouts your resolution?

    The IG appeared before the Senate Committee on Police Affairs to give an explanation on the challenges or difficulties they were having. The committee is yet to bring its report to the plenary of its interaction with the IG. When the committee submits its report, we will proceed from there.

    Following the debate in the Senate on the Petroleum Industry Bill and subsequent revelations that a section of the country controls 83 per cent of the oil blocs, what is the position of the Senate on the disclosure?

    The Senate, like the executive, is a creation of the Constitution that also created the three arms of government. Every arm has its responsibility, limitations and powers. The granting of oil blocs is exclusively the preserve of the executive and not that of the legislature. Let us assume without conceding that the allegations made by Senator Ita Enang are true, it is now left for the executive to make sure that, that is corrected. Correcting a balance in the allocation of oil blocs is an executive function and not a legislative function, but I think that there is this mindset out there that the legislature has the powers to do everything, it is not true. There is a clear separation of powers. Ours is to expose inefficiency and corruption. The moment we have done that, it will be left for the relevant arms to take the necessary actions to redress it.

    Some people have called on the Senate to be scrapped while others have called for a part time legislature. As a Senator who is serving his third term, how do the recommendations strike you?

    Let us first of all look at the issue of the National Assembly or the Senate being the drain pipe. This year, we have a budget of almost N5trillion and the budget of the Senate, the House of Representatives, the bureaucracy, the National Assembly Service Commission, the Legislative Institute and our subscription to international bodies is N150 billion. The percentage of this N5 trillion is a little over two per cent. So are they saying that this percentage is the problem of Nigeria? If you have two percent of the budget, it means that you have two percent opportunity for corruption and if you have 98 percent of the budget, it means that you have 98 percent opportunity for corruption. How come the fixation is with the two percent and not the 98 percent? Now, we are talking about the N150 billion and the OPEC fuel subsidy scheme which is just one of the small programmes of the government costs almost N2 trillion. Even the pension fund that you mentioned earlier is far in excess of the N150 billion of the National Assembly budget. Using the figures that I have mentioned, it goes to prove that the National Assembly cannot be responsible for the wastage in the system. It definitely is not.

    Let us now come back to the issue of the National Assembly being part time or full time. As a child growing up, when we had the parliamentary system, we had part time legislators and I remember that the headmaster of my primary school was a member of the House of Representatives. He went to Lagos where they used to have their sittings and after that, he resumed his work as headmaster. But it was the same Nigerians who clamoured for a full time legislature. Today, we operate a presidential system of government. Tell me, in which other presidential system anywhere in the world do we have a part time legislature? Again, if the reason for the clamour is cost, I have told you that what we spend in the legislature is two point something percent of our total national budget.

    Out of the N150 billion, the Senate takes a part which is totally inconsequential when you place it side by side with the billions in the pension funds. So the issue of cost cannot be the argument because you would be looking at the wrong place to save cost. When people talk about scrapping the Senate, I wonder what the logic is in having a bicameral legislature. In the world over, you have a bicameral legislature when you have a diverse heterogeneous polity because if you check the representation of the House of Representatives all over the world, you will see that it is based on population. Now, the Senate is based on the equality of the states, so if you scrap the Senate, it means that you have taken care of only the major tribes. So what happens to the minorities who are also Nigerians?

    The minorities are accommodated on the basis of representation through equality of states. It is a bicameral legislature in a multicultural heterogeneous like we have in Nigeria that can address the fears of every Nigerian whether you are from the majority or minority tribe. If you now remove the Senate, you are leaving people like me who are the minority of the minorities to be virtually unprotected. The only people that would be protected would be my colleagues from the major tribes. Would it now be that it is because you want to save cost that you would be denying protection to minorities who are Nigerians? As far as I am concerned, the call for scrapping the Senate has no basis either in fact or in logic.

    Aside the cost which the National Assembly seemingly represents, is it not within the powers of the national legislature to recommend an alternative system of government to cut cost as people say the presidential system we are operating is very expensive?

    Did we not try the parliamentary system before? Why did we abandon it? That answers your question.

    Wasn’t the system not truncated by the military, and not abandoned?

    But when you had an opportunity to choose, you chose a presidential system. So it is not as if you are coming from a situation where you had not tried the other one. We tried it and at that time, the complaint was that it did not work for Nigeria. Now we are operating the presidential system, you say we should go back to the parliamentary. The mindset of the average Nigerian is very curious. I remember in the past when everyone was saying we should liberalise the political space by registering more political parties.

    The argument then was that if you registered more political parties, it would weaken the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), then INEC went ahead to register almost 60 parties, but the PDP got even stronger. Now they are saying that we should go back to a two party system. I think we should investigate the reasons why the parliamentary system was abandoned. Under that system, we kept slipping into one crisis after another and the belief was that we needed a presidential system where the chief executive would be strong enough to hold the country together. I do not think that anything has happened to that logic.

    What would you say about the crises in the Governors’ Forum, the leadership of the party and even the presidency?

    It is an exaggeration and I can give you an example. I was in Port Harcourt some time ago to receive the National Chairman. The next day, all the newspapers reported that Governors Rotimi Amaechi and Emmanuel Uduaghan walked out on the party, but it is not true because that didn’t happen. They refuted it because it was not true. I was there. What happened was that we were already in the bus leaving for the venue when we got information that Governor Uduaghan was nearby and we agreed to wait for him. When he came in, after exchanging pleasantries with everybody, he made it clear that he would have to rush back because he would be travelling. The Asaba Airport, as you may be aware, closes at 6:00pm. So we went to the venue and at a point he had to leave. He went to the National Chairman and took permission from him to leave. Governor Amaechi was the host, so he had to see his guest off. The next thing we heard was that they walked out on the party. If you are walking out, do you seek permission? So all these talks about face-off are exaggerations and imaginations of some sections of the public and media. These governors are PDP governors as well as so many of us. We have our forums for resolving our issues. So people should stop dramatising and creating situations just because they want to paint a particular picture.

    The country has lost millions of dollars through subsidy payments for imported petroleum products. Is it not part of your oversight as lawmakers to put an end to this through an act of parliament by compelling local refining of the products?

    If one part of your body causes you to sin, what do you do? Why are you avoiding the answer? The Bible says that if your left hand leads you to sin, cut it off. If subsidy has become the major source of corruption in this country, then do away with it. Let us not beat around the bush. What act of parliament will you make to force people to invest their money in an environment where they are not sure? People invest money where market forces are at play. You tell somebody to come and invest in a refinery and you are subsidising products, who would invest in such an environment? My take is that if subsidy has become the bedrock of corruption in the country, then we should do away with it.

    You were quoted as blaming the backwardness of the country on the creation of more states. But I want to ask that if Cross River State, where you come from was not created out of the old Eastern Region, would it have given you the opportunity to be in the Senate?

    How many states did we have in 1979 when Dr. Joseph Wayas who is from a minority group emerged as Senate President? Coming from a minority group has nothing to do with state creation. Let us not be emotional about this and let us use facts in our arguments. As at 1965, the economy of the then Eastern Region was the fastest growing economy in the world. By that time also, Nigeria was at par with countries like Singapore, Malaysia, Brazil and Indonesia. There are certain political developments that we have shared in common with those countries, especially in military intervention. Indonesia had its fair share of military rule. One thing we did not share with them and which we must investigate is that their federating units remained the same while ours kept multiplying. Could that be the reason why they left us behind? It is something we have to think about.

    How does state creation undermine development?

    The question you should be asking is how has multiplication of states aided development?

    But people argue that the creation of more states and local governments has brought development or better still, government closer to the people. Do you also differ on this?

    As a child growing up when we still had three regions before the Midwest Region was created, you could open a tap in my remote village and water would gush out. In those days, we had what became known as county secondary schools, but during the civil war when the government took over, they became government secondary schools. Those secondary schools were built by local governments, and then they were called county councils. Local governments built hospitals, water works and tarred roads. Today when a local government pays its members of staff, it becomes news and it is celebrated. Is that development?

    I remember when I wanted to write my first Common Entrance exam in Government College, Afikpo, I was put like a parcel in a vehicle that conveyed mails for the post office. Do we still have that today? And we are talking about development.

    I went to school at a time when we were two in a room in the University of Lagos, when our law library was reputed to be the biggest and the best in the whole of Africa. Those days, when you left your room in the morning for lectures, potters came to your room, dressed your bed and picked your laundry. During meal times, you had a hall mistress that went round and ensured that your meal combination was healthy. By the time we were in our second year, we were being interviewed for jobs. Today, people tell me about development when students graduate without even knowing what a library is. I was discussing with my colleague the lowering standards of education and he told me that there were people who spend four years in school without seeing a proper toilet. These days, when you graduate, you have to wait for 10 years to get a job, is that the development that has been brought about by state creation?

    We should learn to separate emotions from reality. My training as a lawyer is to keep emotions aside and look at facts and I have been looking at these facts. State creation has served its purpose. I was a commissioner when we had 19 states and things were still working. In those days, the states were feasible and there was a lot of development then. A lot of positive things were happening. As we now multiplied the states, bureaucracy bloated, so we are now paying more on salaries than capital development. Is that development? What happened to our economy? What happened to those plantations that we used to have?

    As a child growing up, we had rich people in places like Ikom and Ogoja who made their money by being in Ikom and Ogoja. Today, with state creation, if you are not living in the state capital, you do not have any chance and they tell me it is development. It has gotten to a point when, if you are not in Abuja, you have no chance and they say it is development. It is not about saying that if there was no Cross Rives State, would I have made it to the Senate? There were people who were nowhere and still succeeded. I gave an instance with Dr. Joseph Wayas who was Senate President in 1999, so it has nothing to do with state creation.

  • Airlines are hurting our business, says NANTA

    The National Association of Nigerian Travel Agencies has decried the unfair treatment being meted out to them by airlines.

    According to the association’s national president, Alhaji Aminu Agoha, despite the huge amount money the NANTA is making for the airlines, S1.03bn, the airlines still go ahead to undercut the travel agency operators.

    He said: “Although NANTA enjoys a good relationship with some of the airlines, most of them are still operating in direct competition with travel agencies and all efforts to get them relocate their sales offices to the airports have proved abortive. Most of the airlines even sell tickets direct to corporate bodies which is a violation of the standard practice. All airlines on BSP should be compelled to close their city sales offices and move to the airports as it is the practice all over the world.

    “The airlines have continued to post cheaper fares on the internet than the ones on the travel agencies’ booking platform. This means that as the accredited agents of the airlines, our fares tend to be more expensive than those of the airlines. The airlines charge the Nigerian travellers taxes which have no basis. We appeal to this distinguished committee to compel the airlines to desist from these sharp practices.”

    He continued: “With a workforce of over 5000 Nigerians, the travel agencies account for 75 per cent of the capital sales revenue of about $1.5b for the year 2011. But regrettably enough, the major airlines do not pay our members commissions on tickets sales; rather they remit all the money to their home countries. This is capital flight and an attempt to kill the downstream sector of the aviation industry.

    “Most of the airlines do not give our members withholding tax receipts for taxes collected on their behalf. This is partly because most of them trade with the money instead of remitting it to the FIRS.

    “In order to force down prices in the interim, airlines should be compelled to immediately abolish the fuel tax surcharge and a technical committee set up by government to review the cost components of the airfares.”

  • Inspiring  street style

    Inspiring street style

    Ankara jacket, crazy wedge booties, ankara maxi dress and skirts, animal prints and more are incredibly what fashionistas are wearing right now.

    One stylish black blazer- It goes with most things in your wardrobe and transcends the trends. A great tailored and well-fitted jacket can be paired with everything from work trousers to jeans.

    Turtleneck sweater- Neckline trends come and go like weather, but a turtleneck sweater has earned its place as a classic.

    Multiple-strands beads or pearls necklace- Feminine pearls and beads are the perfect trend-proof accessory to complement your look. Wear gray pearls with black for a sexy tonal look, or choose layers of creamy white pearls worn with a simple black sheath dress for a perfect cocktail dress look.

    Large handbags- The bigger the bag, the better, and they all work under everything from cardigans to jackets or gowns.

    Pumps, crazy wedge soles and stilettos shoes- They are a great choice when it comes to looking kinky.

  • Another lucky survivor of Edo tanker  fire recalls miraculous escape:I smashed the bus’  window and jumped out

    Another lucky survivor of Edo tanker fire recalls miraculous escape:I smashed the bus’ window and jumped out

    Scores of families were sent into mourning on April 5 when a fuel tanker collided with a luxury bus on the Benin-Ore Expressway and no fewer than 60 people were burnt to death. Mr. Chinenye Ozoekwe, an indigene of Anambra State and one of the two survivors of the tragic incident, recalls his lucky escape in a chat with ODOGWU EMEKA ODOGWU. Excerpts:

     

    MY name is Chinenye Ozoekwe. I am from Amudo Awka in Anambra State. I was coming back from Lagos. On getting to Ugboji Junction in Benin, Edo State, a tanker that was coming behind us collided with the Young Shall Grow luxury bus we boarded from Lagos and it went up in flames.

     

    Saving grace

    “Out of the over 100 passengers on board, only two of us survived. Some people don’t even believe that any of the people in the bus survived the tragedy. But God’s grace was sufficient and the risk I took turned out to be my saving grace in the accident. I forcefully hit something on the window at the side of the bus where I sat and jumped out. That also was where the second survivor followed. The rage of the fire was too much, and you can see the result.

    “My brothers and sisters who were on the trip are no more, but I am alive to tell the story. It is enough reason to thank God Almighty even as I pray for God’s enabling grace for the families who lost their love ones to have the fortitude to bear the irreparable loss.”

     

    Mission to Lagos

    “I had gone to look for job in Lagos. My parents are no more and I am a commercial motorcycle rider here in Awka. I went to look for job because I am tired of riding okada (commercial motorcycle), coupled with the rumour that Anambra State wants to ban it. On getting to one Construction Company in Lagos, they asked me to bring my credentials, but my WAEC certificate is here in Awka and that was what I was coming back to take to Lagos before the incident occurred.

    “I don’t know the identity of the other survivor, but it seems he is from Enugu State. My late mother’s elder sister, Mrs. Obiageli and I thank God for the grace He gave me to take the step that made me to survive to tell the story. A dead man tells no tale. Any assistance given to me would be highly appreciated because my condition is not laughable. “

    Ozoekwe’s aunt, Mrs Obiageli Enekwechi, also recalled the steps that were taken to bring him from Benin to Anambra State for treatment.

    She said: “I was the one that went to Benin to bring him back after settling the bills. We had all told him that we didn’t like the okada job he was doing and that he should look for a better job. That was why he went to Lagos to look for a job.

    “When the accident happened on that Friday, we didn’t know. But he had a girl’s number off hand and through the girl, we were contacted. I called the doctor and he told us to come to Benin; that he survived but was unconscious.

    “That was how we brought him back to the Anambra State University Teaching Hospital, Awka, known before now as Amaku General Hospital, Awka. Since then, we have been spending money to buy drugs. Any day we don’t buy drugs because of money, he will not be attended to. And now I don’t have money to spend and they have not even given us the bill for the bed. So, we need assistance from public spirited individuals to save his life.”Enekwechi said she had returned from Zamfara State because of the Boko Haram insurgency. “We came back in December 2012 and up till now, I have not engaged in anything meaningful before this incident occurred, and I have spent the little money I came back with. So, we need government’s assistance in this matter. I am appealing to Governor Peter Obi and all the good people of Anambra State to come to our aid now that it matters most.”

  • Before I met  my husband, I  had vowed not  to marry a  man with  tribal marks   -Wife of Kwara monarch Olofa of Offa   Misturat Gbadamosi

    Before I met my husband, I had vowed not to marry a man with tribal marks -Wife of Kwara monarch Olofa of Offa Misturat Gbadamosi

    Olori Misturat Sobaloju Gbadamosi, wife of the traditional ruler of Offa, Kwara State, recently marked her 40th birthday. On the occasion , she spoke with OKORIE UGURU about her experiences, the challenges that come with being the wife of a monarch and the secrets that have sustained her marriage with the Olofa. Excerpts:

     

    Most people see the age of 40 as very significant. How would you describe your experiences so far?

    From my personal experience, life is not easy. From what was read in my biography during the celebration, you would see that I did not come from a wealthy family. Life is not easy generally. But I thank God that we are alive today and witnessing everything.

    Could you talk about your growing-up years?

    I am from Ede, Osun State, but I was born in Kaduna State. My father was very gentle and nice. Almost all Ede people in Kaduna State were brought to the state by my father. His name was Alhaji Abdukareem Amolegbe. He was a tailor. My mother is a very quiet person. My father is late now, but my mum is still alive. She is a quiet woman and I think much of my character as a person is derived from them.

    Let me just say that I was my mum’s pet. Yoruba people believe in the concept of abiku (changeling). They said I was born about four times because my sister is 10 years older than I am. She will be 50 by June, while I am just 40. You can see the age difference.

    While I was growing up, things were rough. But if I were to choose between my mum and my dad, I would choose my mum because she is a wonderful mother, always there for me.

    You could be said to have seen both sides of life. Is there any difference between the ordinary woman you were before and being a queen now?

    For me, there is no difference. I am just an ordinary person. I am just called olori and everybody accords me respect. But there is nowhere I would see those who are older than me and I would not accord them their due respect. I will be on the ground before they say ‘olori, get up!’

    You said you had your early education in Kaduna. How was it like?

    It was easy for me because my school was not far from our house. I attended L.E.A. Samaru Primary School, Kakuri. I later went to Government Girls’ Secondary School, Barnawa, Kaduna also. That was where I did my SSCE.

    Did you have any inkling then that things would turn out the way they are?

    No. I am not God. They say if you are going to be rich in this world, you don’t know; so also if you will be poor. It is only God that controls our destiny. They say even if you work from morning to night, if you are not destined to be rich, you will not become rich.

    So, I always believe that if you wake up today and find something to eat, you have to thank God. As we were growing up, things were turning out for the better, but I never dreamt of becoming an olori, even though I knew my husband was a prince.

    What values and lessons did you pick from your parents?

    One of my mum’s common admonitions was that we should not steal or covet what other people have. She said we should pray to God to give us our own. She always told us to have endurance and patience. When we were in school, if they asked us to bring anything, I knew my parents were not rich, so I would have to inform them well ahead of time. If you were asked to bring anything, and you did not tell my mum ahead of time, she would not give it to you. She would tell us that she had to work to get it.

    I have tried to instil that in my children. I warn them to inform me ahead of time when they are told to bring something. I also tell them not to take something that does not belong to them.

    Many of your friends describe you as a humble woman. Where did you get that from?

    I can’t talk about my qualities. But I think my parents were humble too. For example, if I had any little misunderstanding with my husband, he would not talk to me; he would call my mum. For example, if he wants something from me and he knows if he tells me I will not agree, he will call my mum and tell her to talk to me. Once I see her call, I already know. And she too knows that once she talks to me, it is over, She doesn’t want me to leave my husband’s house. She tells me that in a husband’s house, anything good or bad, you have to take it. So, I think the humility comes from my parents. Also, I try not to offend anybody. You know we are like water. We can meet anywhere again.

    How did you meet your husband?

    I met my husband in Sokoto through his uncle who is now late. My husband lived with him for so many years. I used to go to their house, but I didn’t know him from Adam. I used to go with my brother’s wife. I would sit with her in the car and she would drive to Alhaji Mohammed Gbadamosi’s house. He used to see me and we exchanged peasantries.

    One morning, the man called my brother’s wife and said she should branch to his house when bringing the children back from school. She was there and the man told her that he would want her sister-in-law for his son who was based in Lagos. When my brother’s wife came back, she told me ‘Baba says he wants to marry you’. I said which Baba?

    I was imagining how Baba would say he wanted to marry me with two wives at home. So, I said I would not greet the man again. She then explained that actually, he was not the one who wanted to marry me but his son in Lagos. I told her I would have to see the son and then we would talk before I would take a decision.

    Fortunately, maybe he called and his uncle told him what I said. I think some days after, he came around. The uncle then called my sister-in-law and told her that his son was around. She brought him to our house. We saw each other and talked at length. Along the line, everything worked out. I think it was love at first sight.

    Love at first sight?

    Yes, it was love at first sight because the moment I saw him, my mind told me this was the man I was going to live the rest of my life with.

    Was there any particular quality in him that attracted him to you?

    No. Because even when I was young, I always said I could not marry anybody with tribal marks.

    But the Olofa has tribal marks…

    Yes. Even when I took him to my parents that I wanted to marry him, my mum called me aside and asked me, ‘Are you sure you want to marry this man?’ I said yes and asked why she asked. She answered that I used to say that I would not marry any man with tribal marks. I said ‘yes, that is how God wants it.’

    Do you say it was love that covered whatever perceived minuses?

    Yes oh!

    Let’s talk about your fashion sense.

    I would not call myself a very fashionable person. At times, if my husband is on the bed and watching society programmes on the TV and sees, maybe, something on a lady’s neck, he would call me to come and see it. He would ask, ‘Why can’t you buy this kind of jewellery?’ I would tell him I don’t have the money. He would then tell me that if I see it, he would buy it for me.

    From there, I started thinking that this man who would see things on people’s necks and would call me. I also started buying some of these things myself. I don’t follow fashion too much, but I admire those who do.

    What kind of fabrics are you comfortable in?

    I wear anything I like. Any material that I see is beautiful, I buy and sew to my taste. I don’t wear short dresses.

    How about your choice of colour?

    I love the red colour.

    How about perfumes?

    I wear different types of perfumes, but my best is Oganza.

    What would you tell the young ones if they come to you for advice?

    I would always tell them to be patient and tolerant. All that glitters is not gold. Marriage is not an easy thing, but with patience and tolerance, they will excel.

    Anyone listening to you could think you talk like this because things are okay for you. Has it all been rosy since you got married?

    We got married in 1993. He was in Lagos and I was in Sokoto State. When I was pregnant, I lived with his parents and there was nothing in terms of wealth. When I gave birth to my first son, it was almost a year before we joined him in Lagos. Every time I would tell him, ‘Please, I want to come and be with you.’ He would tell me, ‘Where I am working, I cannot rent an apartment where we would stay. You should just stay here.’

    When I saw people with their husbands, I would be downcast and told myself I wished I was the one living with my husband like this. Sometimes, he used to come once in three months. Because there was no money, my husband would come and anything he had, he would drop and go.

    And you would not complain?

    How would I complain? I know that was what she had. I know the type of person he is. If he had more, he would have given. So, when I joined him in Lagos, we lived in the Ijora area. We lived there for about three or four years. I was working. We didn’t have much. Sometimes he would go and would not come back for one week. His family members would come and I would feed them. When they asked, I would tell them he travelled because I knew he did not have.

    Whenever my mum came around, she would only see him twice or thrice. My mum would keep asking, ‘When will your husband come back?’ And he did not have anything to give her. So, he would just stay back. Sometimes my mother would say, ‘This is midnight, when will your husband come back?’ I would tell her he would soon come back. Sometimes she would wake up early in the morning and ask when my husband would come back. I would say he came back around 1 am and had already gone to work. ‘When does he rest?’ she would ask, and I would say Sundays. She would ask it was likely my husband did not want her to come to our house and I would tell her it was not like that; that he was always busy.

    The day he came back and said we had to pack from where we were to Yaba because armed robbers used to disturb us, I asked him where he got money from. He told me I should not worry and that he just did some rice business. That was when he delved into rice business. I told him ‘are you sure we are going to cope with the rent, if we move into the new house?’ He said I should not worry. And if he says I should not worry, I know it will be okay.

    That time, I used to do kunun-zaki (a local delicacy) and took it to different compounds to sell. I was known for that. People would come around to patronise me. I also engaged in other petty trades. That was part of what kept us going. It was when we got to Yaba that things started getting better. I then went into other businesses that were better than selling kunu. It is not an easy journey, but we thank God.