Category: Weekend Treat

  • …those whose marriages crashed

    …those whose marriages crashed

    HERE are a few of high profile Nigerians whose marriages have failed to meet the test of time:

    Pastor Kris Okotie

    The General Overseer of Household of God Ministry, Rev. Chris Okotie, tops the list of celebrities who have experienced the bitter side of marriage twice. The flamboyant preacher and three times presidential candidate of Fresh Democratic Party, whose marriage to first wife, Tina, lasted for 14 years before it broke down, surprised many when he came out to announce that his second marriage to Stephanie had also broken down.

    In his usual charismatic manner, the pastor chose the pulpit to announce the breakdown of his marriage to Stephanie, by simply saying, “Stephanie and I are separated.” His marriage to Stephanie, a mother of three from a previous marriage, generated a lot of controversy, with opinions divided over the propriety or otherwise of the decision, considering the biblical injunction on marriage. But trust him, the man of God quickly doused the tension when he came out to say that his critics do not understand the words of God. The marriage lasted for three years.

    Kate Henshaw

    Kate Henshaw is no doubt a good actress. Her ability to interpret has largely been commended by experts and movie aficionados. And for a long time, she remained one of the most respected women in the industry, with her marriage to a British man, Rodrick Nuttal, lasting 12 years before the two divorced in November 2011. The union produced a daughter named Ella. The main reason for the split, according to rumour mills, was Kate’s ever busy schedule, which often kept her from home. Unfortunately, Mr. Nuttal too was a busy man, as MD of Ledrop Nigeria Limited which is the sole distributor of Jack Daniel’s and Huedsiech Champagne.

    Fathia Balogun and Saidi Balogun

    They were dubbed the movie couple by Yoruba movie watchers. And to many, the marriage of Saidi Balogun and Fathia Balogun was a ‘marriage made in heaven’. Together, the couple starred in so many block buster movies that turned them into household stars. Unfortunately, Fathia’s screen success has not been replicated in her married life, having gone through the pains of two failed marriages. Her first marriage was to Tunde Anchor, a union that produced a son. Not one to be put down, Fathia gathered herself and moved on. She soon found comfort in the arms of fellow actor, Saidi Balogun, with whom she formed a seeming formidable union. But the marriage also hit the rocks some years later, despite several attempts by friends and family members to avoid a break up.

    Femi Kuti and Funke

    Femi Kuti’s marriage to pretty Funke was dubbed as a dream marriage by many. Soon after that, the union produced a son, Made, raising the hope of their admirers and fans that the two would make good role models. But it turned out that the optimism came too early, as the two parted ways after only a child. For a long time, the two remained separated on mutual consent, remaining as ‘good friends’. However, Femi finally came out to announce a formal dissolution of the marriage.

    Giving reasons for his actions, Femi said: “I am divorcing her to protect my side of my inheritance because I have five children. I have to protect the interest of my children. Since we are still legally married, what if I die today? The law will favour my wife. If I don’t divorce her, my children may suffer. What if I die and we have not divorced and then she comes and claims everything? The other children will not get anything and there will be a big war in my family.”

    Shan George

    This tall, light-skinned, beautiful and outspoken actress has seen it all- the sweet and bitter sides of marriage. Twice, she has tried her hands on marriage, but twice, it has failed to work out. Her first marriage, which produced two lovely boys, was contracted which was barely 15 years old. She once told the story of how her second husband walked out on her and went with another woman. But despite these heartbreaks, strong-hearted Shan is willing to try her hands on yet another marriage if the right man comes along.

    Bukky Wright

    Sultry actress, Bukky Wright, once confessed that she had not been lucky with love. Hardworking and highly industrious, Bukky Wright has tried her hands on marriage twice, failing with both. But rather than be put down, she has girded her loins each time, coming out stronger than before. The graduate of Economics believes that her failed marriages have been a lesson, which she claimed have taught her life experiences that she cannot forget even in a hurry.

    Monalisa Chinda

    Pretty and somehow daring, Monalisa is sure a dream girl for any man. The two were said to have met when Monalisa was a Theatre Arts graduate at the University of Port Harcourt. They later got married and their love seemed to be waxing stronger every day. Monalisa granted several interviews attesting to the fact that Dejo was her world. Unfortunately, that world soon came down crashing, as stories of ‘irreconcilable differences’ filtered in. Soon after that, Monalisa moved out of the house, marking the end of a marriage that had so much promise at the beginning.

    Funke Akindele

    Funke Akindele first captured the attention of television enthusiasts when she featured in popular television drama, I need to know. From that point, the University of Lagos law graduate has gone ahead to wow the world with her rare talent. And so it was fanfare that her fans received the news that she was finally getting married. Her husband-to-be, Kehinde Almaroof Oloyede, son of a Lagos popular market leader, is himself a socialite and politician. The wedding was the talk of the town for a long time, with photographs splashed in national dailies and social media.

    Unfortunately, the marriage went the way of several others before it when her husband came out to announce on his Facebook page that the marriage had packed up. After the confirmation that the marriage has indeed broken down, Funke quickly removed her husband’s last name from her social network IDs.

    Chika Ike

    This actress sure got a body that can make a man take a second look. And to her credit, she has been able to combine her beauty with talent to make a huge success of her acting career. However, the beauty has not been able to replicate this in her marriage. Chika’s marriage to Tony Eberiri hit the rocks with the actress filing for divorce. In a recent interview, the award-winning actress said there are some things in marriage that a person might not be able to stand.

    Kingsley Ogoro and Esse Agesse

    The two were music icons who later became movie icons. For Kingsley, he was a successful music producer. He met and married the then up and coming musician, Esse Agesse. Together, they formed what many believed was a marriage that would stand the test of time. To their credit, they both dedicated so much to building their careers. But with success came another thing. Esse had to relocate to Ireland, as part of the efforts to further boost her burgeoning movie career. But shortly after that move, the union ran into trouble. Esse was said to have fought tooth and nail to save her marriage. But the marriage had gone beyond redemption at the time, and finally came down crashing.

    Soul E & Queen Ure

    They were both young and dashing. And they went round telling whoever cared to listen to them that their union was made in heaven. But one man seemed to have noticed what these two young love birds could not see. Their pastor, Pastor Chris Okotie of The Household of God, expelled them from his church in 2006, after they announced plans to get married. The man of God insisted that the union was founded on fantasy. Don’t forget that Soul E was only 24, while his wife was 38. However, the age difference seemed inconsequential to the two, who later went on to found their own church, Da Luv Villa, at Omole Estate. The marriage appeared lovely to many until Soul E packed his bags and ran away from home.

    Eucharia Anunobi and Mr. Ekwu

    Eucharia has severally been described as an actresses’ actress. Her forte is acting bitchy roles in movies, roles she clinically delivered to the letter. While she made huge success of her acting career, same could not be said of her marriage to Mr. Ekwu. Rumours had it that the husband dumped his matrimonial home, abandoning his wife and child.

    Steph Nora Okereke and Mr. Falana

    Cross-over actress, Steph-Nora and her fellow Nollywood practitioner, Falana, seemed had it all wrapped up to make a success of their union. And to this day, it is not clear what happened to the marriage, as husband and wife publicly professed so much love for each other. Many prayed for the success of the marriage, because they believed it would go a long way to cement the relationship between two major tribes in Nigeria. But wishes were not enough to save the marriage, as it soon packed up even before it was properly consummated.

    Alec Godwin & Kefee

    They hooked up when Branama girl, Keffe, was just 16 at Alec’s dad’s church in Sapele. But the age difference did not stop Alec from toasting the girl who would later become Kefee, one of Nigeria’s most successful gospel acts. Theirs too seemed a perfect match. While Keffe did the singing, Alec did the production and management. And before you could say Jack, Keffe had been transformed into a household name. However, cracks soon appeared on the wall of the marriage, and they separated on a very acrimonious note.

  • Cheering moment for Peter Obafemi

    Cheering moment for Peter Obafemi

    Celebrated businessman and socialite, Dr. Peter Obafemi, is over the moon at the moment. He is savouring his new conjugal attachment with his new wife, Lolade Iruka. Tall and beautiful Lolade had a bouncing baby boy for Obafemi, the owner of the defunct Rite Time Airways, a few days ago.

    Until he relocated a few years ago, Peter was based in the United States where he stayed with his estranged wife, Maureen. The marriage had crashed for undisclosed reasons. Interestingly, Peter was hopeful of reconciliation. He even approached some of their family friends and pleaded with them to settle the marital rift but Maureen reportedly rebuffed the moves.

    After a few years in the cold, Obafemi, a governorship aspirant, got romantically involved with a number of celebrity ladies but nothing concrete came out of his friendship with them.

  • Double celebrations for Kemi Nelson

    Double celebrations for Kemi Nelson

    Gaiety and jollity are berthing once again in the home of the Yeye Sewa of Lagos and former Commissioner for Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation in Lagos State, Mrs. Kemi Nelson. After two marriages, her daughter, Adetoun Nelson, was recently delivered of her first child in the United States of America.

    Beautiful Adetoun got married to Adewole Popoola two years ago and the arrival of their bouncing baby boy penultimate week threw the family into a massive celebration mood. And their joy will be enhanced in the next couple of weeks as Anreti, the first son of Mrs. Nelson, gears up for his wedding to beautiful Tolulope Abayomi Lawal.

    The event will take place at the Archbishop Vinning Memorial Cathedral Church and the Haven event centre in November.

  • The only son(1)

    I’m at a crossroads in my life, caught between the proverbial ‘devil and the deep blue sea’. It’s a choice I have to make as quickly as possible as there’s so much at stake.

    The journey to this critical point in my life began over a decade ago. It was when Kari, my bestie, (best friend) and I first met at the University. We were both freshers then, having just resumed for the new academic session. I was on the staircase of my department after one of my classes late one morning when someone behind me said:

    “I like your top.”

    I turned to see a girl of about my age. She was carrying several books in her right hand while a large black bag dangled from her shoulder. She smiled up at me then placing her books and

    bag on the ground, unwound the scarf she had used to tie up her braided hair. I looked at her surprised as she tied the black headscarf round my hips at the same time stating:

    “And there’s a big, red stain on your skirt at the back.”

    I nearly collapsed with embarrassment on hearing that. My ‘monthly visitor’ seemed to have arrived early, messing up my skirt without my knowing. And to think that I was on my way to another lecture!

    “You are well covered now and the stain is no longer showing. You will have to go to the hostel and change though,” she noted.

    I nodded and thanked her, feeling really grateful to her for saving me from an embarrassing situation.

    “I’m Kari,” she introduced herself, a broad smile on her smooth, roundish face. I told her my name before hurrying down the stairs to make my way to my hostel to change out of my stained skirt.

    A few days later, I saw Kari again. She was in the midst of a group of girls and they were all talking and laughing. I walked up to her and thanked her again for what she did the other day.

    We stood chatting for a while. That day, she invited me to her room which was in the same hall where I lived but I told her I had to go to the library to prepare for a test.

    “You can come and see me anytime,” she stated as she left with her friends.

    After that day, Kari and I became friends. Within a short time I found out we were direct opposites personality-wise. Kari was bubbly, cheerful and outgoing while I was on the quiet side and did not like going out much. After classes, I preferred staying in my room reading or gisting with my roommates.

    Not Kari. She liked going out especially to town to shop and just, ‘look around’ as she put it. “Staying in school all the time can be boring. One needs to catch fun now,” she often said. Kari was very popular especially with guys. She was always getting invited to one party, show or the other. Most times, she would drag me along to these events, often stating, “the books won’t die if you leave them alone for some hours!”

    Kari and I grew closer as the years went by. We often quarreled and had disagreements like most friends but we always made up and continued as before. Then an incident in our final year nearly ruined our friendship for good.

    It was all because of a guy. His name was Dan and he was the son of a top politician and businessman in town. We met at a party and as soon as I set my eyes on him, I liked him instantly. Which was strange because it took me a while before I usually got to like a guy much less date him. So, that night Dan and I got chatting and from the way he was acting, I knew he liked me too. I left the party early as I had to do an assignment and he offered to drop me at school. Kari had not attended the party as she was down with malaria.

    A week later, Dan came to visit me in school and I introduced him to Kari. She had recovered by then and was her usual bubbly self, cracking jokes and making him laugh. He later left, after promising to take both of us out the following weekend.

    On the date, I noticed he spent more time chatting with Kari than me. I was a bit uneasy and I must say jealous that he was paying more attention to my friend. But I did not read any meaning into it then and just decided to enjoy the outing.

     

    Lost love

    Two weeks later, when I had not heard from Dan, I was not worried because I knew he would eventually come to see me. Then, a classmate of mine who attends classes from home, told me she had seen Kari and Dan at a shopping mall in town.

    I questioned her closely about what she saw.

    “They seemed to be shopping. It looked as if he bought a lot of stuff for her for she was carrying many shopping bags,” she disclosed. I found that difficult to believe. Why would Dan, my supposed boyfriend be shopping with my best friend, I thought. I shrugged the incident off, believing it was just a co-incidence, that they had met at the mall by chance.

    I called Dan on phone but it was an Assistant who answered, informing me that Dan had travelled out of town and would be away for sometime. You can therefore imagine my surprise when I had gone one evening to visit Kari in her room a few days later, to see him with Kari on the verandah of her room. They were standing close, talking quietly and looked really cosy together.

    “When did you come back from your trip?” I asked him when I met up with them. He shrugged and gave me a vague answer.

    Later, as I saw him off at the car park, I asked him if we could see that weekend. He shook his head, saying he would be busy. As I watched him drive off, I had this feeling that something was not quite right.

    When I called him later that week, he told me bluntly that I should stop calling him, that he was no longer interested in seeing me. I was shocked, wondering what I had done. Though we had been seeing for a short time, I really liked him a lot and I didn’t want to lose him. So, I pleaded with him to rescind his decision and remain with me. He said it was not possible as he was in love with someone else.

    “Is it Kari?” I asked bluntly. He was silent for a while before he said:

    “Yes.”

    I felt as if I had been struck by a big blow. It was bad enough losing my boyfriend; it was a double blow losing him to my best friend. The following day, I confronted Kari on the matter, calling her a boyfriend snatcher and other names. This caused a big quarrel and rift between us. For the rest of that semester, we were not on speaking terms and we went our separate ways…

     

    To be continued

    Preview of next week’s episode

     

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    In all the years I had known her, I had never seen Kari look so miserable. My heart went out to her and feeling sorry for her said:

    “It’s ok. Everything will be alright.”

    “How can it be alright when he has left me!” she said in a mournful tone.

     

    Names have been changed to protect the identities of the narrator and other individuals in the story.

     

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  • 7 Secrets to make your relationship last

    Every long-term relationship has its bumps, and they can pop up at any time. Learn to navigate them smoothly — before they send your relationship into a ditch.

    No matter how long you’ve been together, there are some simple, fundamental rules of the road. Putting them into practice isn’t always easy, but it is critical. Make your relationship stronger, and the good stuff — fun, sex, trust, affection — will be better than ever.

    1. Be Vocal About Things You Like: Boredom, frustration and everyday irritations can douse the spark between you and your partner — and more of the same certainly won’t feed the flame. Making the good stuff your top priority will. Here’s how to do it: First, consider that it takes up to 20 positive statements to outweigh the harm done by one negative one. So compliment your girlfriend on her new shoes, or your boyfriend on his new blue shirt. Thank him for helping around the house. Dial her office for a quick “thinking of you” check-in. Be sure these compliments and thank-yous are heartfelt and specific, and make eye contact when you smile.

    Once you take this approach, you’ll realize that, in addition to knowing how to push your partner’s hot buttons, you know how to push his or her joy buttons too (and we don’t just mean sex). After all, that’s how this whole thing started. It won’t be long before you appreciate that it’s always the right time for small acts of love, like sharing a long kiss before you turn in each night.

    2. Touch Each Other: Human touch aids the release of feel-good endorphins, for giver and receiver. So hold hands when you’re walking,

    and brush her cheek when you smooch good morning. Revive the ways you touched in the early days — a kiss on the back of the ear, a hand through her hair. Adding more of this kind of touch will help you build a fortress of love. That’s important, because a couple who form a tight unit can weather any storm (and are better able to stave off infidelity).

    How do you build this bond? First, support your partner. Take his or her side whenever possible if trouble arises in the “outside world.”

    Keep their secrets to yourself, even when everyone at work spills theirs. Except in a true emergency, don’t let anything interrupt “us” time. That’s what voice mail and bedroom-door locks are for.

    Make a commitment to spend up to 30 minutes a day chatting with each other about everyday plans, goals and, yes, dreams. This is time to build a friendship. Studies show that being friends pays off over time, ensuring a closer, sexier union. And don’t forget to make time for intimacy, even if you must log it in your day planner.

    3. Stop Blaming Your Partner For Everything That’s Wrong: It’s tempting to blame your partner when you feel angry, disappointed, bored, betrayed or stressed out about your relationship. The next step is seeing your mate as the one who must change for the relationship to improve.

    That’s a cop-out. Trying to improve your partner puts him or her on the defensive and casts you in a negative light. The result? Nobody changes. Nobody takes responsibility. Everyone is unhappy. And making your partner the bad guy means ignoring the 90 percent of him or her that’s good.

    The true fix: Change yourself. When you address your own flaws and seek the best in your companion, magic happens. Optimism increases.

    Your partner feels better because he or she feels appreciated, not chastised. And you both feel motivated to change in ways that lead to even more joy.

    4. Improve Your Relationship by Relaxing: The classic advice experts give to singles seeking a perfect match: Be “the one” to attract “the one.” Same goes in a long-term relationship. The happier you feel, the happier your relationship will be, and the easier it will be to manage conflicts. If 15 minutes of morning yoga, a switch to decaf, or a new hobby help you relax, the good feelings can’t help but lead to happier, richer moments together.

    Meanwhile, admit it: You used to fuss over your hair and obsess over the sexiest item to wear to bed. Now, it’s stained sweats and a ratty

    old T-shirt. Time to spruce up your look. Comb that mane, brush those teeth and throw on a new robe. Feeling good about the way you look makes your eyes sparkle. You’re more likely to make eye contact. That sends a spark to your partner. You know what to do next!

    5. Fight Fair: Conflict is a normal, even healthy, part of any relationship. What’s important is how you handle it. In a Florida study of longtime couples, joint problem-solving ability was cited as a key factor for 70 percent of satisfied pairs. With the right tools and attitude, conflict becomes a gateway to deeper intimacy — the chance to be seen and loved for who you truly are, to accept your mate’s adorable, vulnerable real self, and to build a strong union without silently seething.

    First, steer clear of criticism, confrontation and hostility. They’re like gas on a fire. University of California researchers who followed 79 couples for more than a decade found that early divorcers fought long and loud and were always on the attack — or the defensive. Happy couples, on the other hand, avoid verbalizing critical thoughts, keep discussions from escalating, and don’t use absolutes like “never” and “always.”

    If a fight does start, try to change the subject, inject gentle humour, empathize or show your partner extra appreciation. Too late?

    Call a truce, walk away and cool off for a while.

    6. Pick the Right Time to Argue: Don’t start potentially tough talks if you’re not well rested and well fed. Hunger and fatigue can unleash nasty remarks and dark thoughts. Ban booze for the same reason. Save it for when you’ve achieved detente. That’s worth a toast.

    Don’t ever try to deal with serious marital issues if you’ve got one eye on something else. Turn off the TV, the phone, the laptop. If you’re distracted or going out the door, pick another time to talk.

    You can’t resolve conflicts on the fly.

    7. Learn to Listen: The single most powerful step you can take to keep a relationship solid? Speak less and listen more. Blame, insults,criticism and bullying predict a bad end, or at least a living hell.

    When talk turns combative, don’t interrupt, offer a solution or defend yourself too soon.

    When feelings are at issue, they need to be heard. So nod, rephrase or provide a soft “um-hum” to show you honour the emotions behind the words. Sometimes, all we really need to do to feel closer to someone is pay closer attention to what it is that they’re saying.

  • Chris Erondu set to re-open multi-million naira night club

    What else would debonair man of means and proprietor of upscale Page Nite Club, Opebi, Lagos, not do to make sure that Lagos becomes the reference point in hospitality business? A few years ago, he established Page Nite Club, which soon became the choice hangout for people with high taste.

    From time to time, he reinvents the dynamics of night life in Lagos through various innovations that separate his club from the other ones around. And fun lovers need little or no prompting to troop there in their hundreds every night. Now, they would have more reasons to keep going back.

    A few months ago, Erondu shut down Page Nite club, a decision he said became expedient because he wanted to rebrand and renovate in the interest of his clients who desired a world class standard for the club. This explains the renovation currently going on at the club.

    According to Erondu, the place will soon be re-opened with every amenity that makes life bright and beautiful. “The Page, as far as I am concerned, will be the best thing to happen to those who want to enjoy impressive facilities that are not common place when it re-opens. More so because our service are very affordable and yet not for every Dick and Harry because we have a standard to maintain,” he said. He said the re-opening of Page would be delayed till the festive season to coincide with the club’s anniversary.

  • Rasaq Okoya  ups the tempo

    Rasaq Okoya ups the tempo

    From an early age, he had always wanted to make a difference. He knew that distinguishing himself would come at a price. And instead of taking the well beaten path of mediocrity, he craved and followed the narrow path of seriousness, dedication and diligence.

    Popular Lagos-based billionaire businessman and Aare of Lagos, Chief Rasaq Akanni Okoya, knows just the right time to raise the stakes by a notch and keep others on their toes. This unique ability is something that has kept him going for more than four decades in the Nigerian business environment.

    After many years as one of the leading lights in the business sector, many would think the time has come for the chairman of Eleganza Group to take the back seat. But whoever is nursing such a thought must be sorely mistaken. Rather than slow down, the veteran socialite is set to open a mega branch of his companies soon.

    The Eleganza Group is one of the top homegrown businesses in Nigeria today, with more than six factories. He has completed the huge structure housing the factory at Ibeju-Lekki, Lagos, and is due for commissioning in the next few weeks.

    Celeb Watch gathered that Aare Okoya is pulling all the strings to ensure a grand opening ceremony. At the moment, the excitement in his household can easily be felt by a first-time visitor.

  • Red Carpet spreads out in style

    Red Carpet spreads out in style

    Red Carpet TV, the events show on television, has unveiled a new television programme known as Grandstyle… the Amazing Glitz. Conceived as a super show of special moments, Grandstyle is a weekly 30-minute television programme. It is a show that is intended to bring well packaged, breezy event scenes to the screen.

    According to Yemi Olowolabi, Red Carpet’s CEO, the new programme “is a wholesome social diary distinguished by decent motion pictures and distinct notion of merry features.”

    Olowolabi, a former editor with TELL magazine and former Chief Press Secretary to the late former Governor of Ondo State, Chief Olusegun Agagu, says “Grandstyle is made up of strictly social and corporate events. It is an awesome tour of social circuits, with special emphasis on style, strides and spectacles. It employs a simple narrative technique and supple entertaining language, amply illustrated with appealing visuals.”

    Unlike Red Carpet TV, which runs on satellite and terrestrial channels, Grandstyle will be aired on Sundays on BCOS Ibadan, OSRC, Akure, and a host of other state TV channels.

  • Femi Babalola set for big birthday bash

    Femi Babalola set for big birthday bash

    Popular Ibadan socialite and Chairman of Pentagon Engineering, Femi Babalola, will be 50 in a few days. The founder of the first indoor event centre, Jogor Centre in Ibadan, is set to shake the Ibadan social space with celebration.

    Prominent socialites will gather together for Femi Babalola on October 19. The social pulse is already quivering because it is meant to be an unprecedented occasion befitting the compelling personality of the socialite.

    At his home at the moment, there is a potpourri of jollity and gaiety. A special birthday thanksgiving service will hold at new reservation area Baptist Church, Iyaganku G. R. A. while the reception will be at the Jogor Centre.

  • Mohammed Babangida’s latest moves

    Mohammed Babangida’s latest moves

    If the story making the rounds is anything to go by, Mohammed Babangida, son of former military president, Gen. Ibrahim Babangida, is cooking something new. At the moment, he is one of the new faces dotting the political landscape in the North and there are serious speculations about his quest to occupy the number one position in Niger State.

    Celeb Watch gathered that he is trying to be very careful because of the current crisis in the PDP, the party on whose platform he intends to realise his ambition. He said to have surprised his friends with the seriousness with which he has been pursuing his ambition. Mohammed has allegedly been moving round the homes of political bigwigs to seek their endorsement of his ambition.

    The polo-loving dude and erstwhile director in Unity Bank plc is also the executive director of El-Amin International Schools, founded by his late mother, Maryam Babangida. He is also the executive chairman of Profile Group of Companies, which comprises companies in the oil and gas industry, security services and estate development.