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  • ‘African leaders must protect their people’

    ‘African leaders must protect their people’

    Abdul Karim Bangura, a professor of Research Methodology at Howard University, Washington D.C., the United States of America, is unarguably one of Africa’s most educated and sought-after scholars in the Diaspora. He holds doctoral degrees in five different disciplines – Linguistics, Sociology, Political Economy, Computer Science and Mathematics.  In addition, he is a polyglot with proficiency in twelve African languages and six European languages. He has authored about 66 books and contributed more than 550 scholarly articles in academic journals across the globe.  He was in Lagos last week to deliver this year’s Centre for Black and African Arts and Civilisation (CBAAC) public lecture entitled The democratic project and the human condition across the Africa continent. He raised a lot of issues that could help to bridge the yawning gap between the poor and the rich nations. In the courtyard of the University of Lagos Conference Centre  he spoke with Olayinka Oyegbile (Deputy Editor) and Edozie Udeze. Excerpts:

    How do you describe the African condition?

    The African condition, I usually say, is a mixed bag; it is a mixed picture. On one hand, we cannot dismiss the fact that for a continent that is relatively young, that is 50 years old, we need to give ourselves some credit.

    For a continent that has come this far, there must be some good things happening. But it is good for people to develop it further and build on the good things. But sometimes it is very easy to ignore the great things that have happened because we live in the world where we tend to have our ideological leanings. So that’s the good side of it.

    The bad side is equally not too bad. It is not because good people are not doing what they are doing. It is only that very few good people would raise their voices when they see bad things happening. In essence, it is to say that it is the sin of commission as opposed to the sin of omission (laughs). Not that people do not really see bad things happening, but how many voices are there to challenge the bad things that happen? Yes, I think that’s where we have problems and we need to address it seriously, and see how we can overcome it. But the bad sometimes outwit the good, and that is what we end up believing, or remembering.

    Now, there’s this talk that the dominance of the United States of America as the leading world power will soon come to an end, and China will take over. How do you see Africa in this nexus of power?

    The scenario of seeing the decline or declaring that the United States power will soon decline, I think, is a little bit premature. It is always premature because the measurement, or if you like, the yardstick with which we try to describe a hegemonic power decline may be different from that of old hegemonies. What is interesting, however, is that America has made it clear that it is not going to lose its hegemony, and not even very soon.

    They intend, and hope too, to enjoy it in the next two to three hundred years. And that means that whoever occupies the White House is going to be and remain at the game of empire building. What does that mean? It means they are going to be more militarily strong, militarily powerful; it is therefore not something they are willing to let go in a hurry.

    So the measurement may be wrong. People usually look at economics – that sort of rivalry which you’d say is where China has today become a strong issue and force. Yes, in that regard China has built its economic domain. But to be a dominant power, it is not just economic power, but it is also the ability to influence the world and effect a change four times over. There have been some other measurements people have been using to assess these power indices between America and China. But America would not let go, not that soon.

    Then where you also look at the rise of Chinese economic power, one of their major markets, interestingly, is the United States. Which means, also that the US can equally put a check into how fast China rises economically. What I have always said is that African governments should strategise in a way that they negotiate for their people.

    What has happened is that there are these very callous ways of some of our governments in which they allow the Chinese to sell the whole chaff to African people. The fact that the Chinese can even have a project or even import or bring their labourers to Africa, that project tells me that African employees, African people, will not even get some of these jobs. Is it good enough for Africa?

    But African leaders have to negotiate very well and provide those jobs for the people. This way, you also empower the people. This shows even that China is now playing a major role in African development, in African growth. To me, that’s a welcome one. For the first time, the US is giving loans, talking about infrastructural development in places where they are involved; in Africa specifically, because why, they’ve seen the Chinese do that. You know that has made them to be more competitive. What African leaders should do and say is that we have to protect our people. When the African governments begin to empower their people first, there will be no limit to how this great continent can be and that’s a fact we must face.

    The late Kwame Nkrumah noted in his days that where the working class and the peasants meet at a point in African situation, there might be a revolution. Do you foresee that given what you said in your lecture?

    Well, the interesting thing is that one of the places the great Kwame Nkrumah, whose dreams many of us are still aspiring to, that some day we will have this continent come to its senses, and realise that it is better off to be united, giving themselves a united front and then working as one unit… You see, we have tried to work as a separate entity or as separate countries all these years, and so it never worked; it has not got us anywhere. Yes the Nkrumah dream will only be realised if we all do what it takes to have a united front.

    If the workers will one day rise to have a revolution,? Well it is a little bit apprehensive, only because at the end of the day, you will still need the technocrats, you are still going to need the intelligentsia that will help to direct any development and move it away from the peasantry or the workers. Unfortunately, those who are supposed to be on the vanguard and to help the workers and the peasants, have aligned themselves with those who are the exploiters of the economy and of the people.

    It is now difficult. We need to retrain intellectuals to also retrain the minds of those who are supposed to be the technocrats, who are supposed to be the intelligentsia and so on.

    In view of the theory of the ‘Tipping Point’ you mentioned in your lecture, can you elaborate on what it means and how it will work in Africa?

    This ‘tipping point’ is a mathematical formulation. And what we do is that we look at structures. In every structure there are major points. And like we know in life there are push and pull factors. And the push factor often tends to overwhelm the pull factors. Where it becomes like that and you cannot manage it, what do you do? This is so because you can’t stop or control everything in the universe. It is impossible to do so.

    This is just the law of nature, things are going to happen. Yes, they will happen. If you are not cognisance of where you have to put the break, then at that point you discover there is no point of return. That is a philosophical debate. The question then is: Are we experiencing, are we seeing certain natural things happening, compounded by things we cannot control? These are some of man-made effects. But we can try to avert serious disasters in future. This will give us the necessary equilibrium so that we cannot tip over.

    This is what we really mean by tipping point. In essence, we can also look at the society and say oh, this country is having too many strikes; this country is having so much poverty. This country is having so many projects, or so many disagreements. Is there a point where the system may eventually tip? I think we need to look at this so that we can develop and then say the possibilities are there that it will not happen. This is where we are if we do not put the necessary mechanisms in place to take care of our people, then we are going to tip over. And we should do well to avoid this.

    We see that especially in the area of employment. What we have discovered is that any society where you have high rate of unemployment, it means what? It means there will be more youths who are going to be more galvanised, idle; more restless and do things that are not productive. There is already a group of people who are ready to jump at anything and do anything.

    When and how will we have this calamitous outcome? Then one says, okay, do we only create jobs only when they are profitable? What about creating jobs now to save our societies? This is the area where the tipping point comes into play. And we need to do more to avert it.

    In the late 70s, the clarion call was that democracy would save Africa. Over the years, almost all countries in Africa have democratic governments in place. Has democracy really improved Africa?

    No! No! (raises his voice). Not at all. This is one of the most mysterious things I discovered because if you read what we call pedestrian literature, you think democracy is taking place. Oh, people have more to say in this democratic affair; people have more freedom, people can criticise; they can do this, they can do that. We have to give credit where credit is due. But the fundamental question is that, is there also democracy of the belly – where people have enough to eat; where people have employment and are fully engaged?

    What we are discovering is that when we look at these democratic indices, which are developmental issues there is no nexus between the two. Unfortunately, this was what all of us hoped when we had democracy. Africa went through its own problem before the Arab Spring even started. So it was sort of ironical when people said Arab Spring would spread to Africa. African Spring, to me, is what spread to those Arab people. Ours had come and gone since. But this is again how history is conjectured.

    However, for me who has been in international peace and conflict resolutions, the issue is that the most disturbing aspect is that there is really no coloration between democratic indices and peace indices. It is so discouraging because one tended to believe that this democracy is really the panacea to cure our illnesses. We should have less conflicts, less headaches, less issues to resolve. Is that not the belief we had in democracy? Today, we have the reverse which does not go too well to solving our issues. It tells us that people are able to compete for elections which is the measurement to judge democracy. But once you get to power, what do you do? That’s the ten million dollar question, as they say.

    Julius Nyerere of Tanzania once said it was only homegrown socialism that could help Africa. Looking back today, can we say that the Tanzanian situation justifies that stand?

    I think one of the most unfortunate things was that many of us, especially in the academia, have not understood much what Julius Nyerere stood for or said. We were too much in a hurry to dismiss him. Or to say that it did not grow by this economic bound or that Ujama itself did not succeed. Ujama did not fail, because the reality is that it was never allowed to grow, as it was postulated. Again, you could see the overwhelming British influence never to allow it to grow or prosper. This was the major setback. This was so, because the global economy has always been tied to capitalism. And this international capitalism tends to influence a lot. So, no matter what you have as a system, at the end of the day, you still have to work with this system. There is this belief that you have a conflicting ideology that is working against each other.

    So, we can also look at Ujama and say okay how did it succeed? We know the linguistic one is the greatest example. Today Kiswahili is very powerful and has given Tanzania the greatest asset as a nation. It has given the nation the highest literate rate which has today spread to more parts of Eastern Africa and still spreading. In these places Kiswahili is being taught and people are catching up. It is amazing really how culture and language can form the core indices for development and growth.

    Even in the United States we have courses in Kiswahili simply because they realise that in those major countries the knowledge of this language opens doors. The knowledge of it, like they know, will pay dividends later on. Therefore, they need to have people trained who are fluent in it, that will be negotiating and doing business on their behalf. And this is one of the blessings of what Julius Nyerere started.

    Again, Tanzania is one of the few African countries that no military take-over has happened there before, or a civil war. That tells us that there is something indigenous, something very good about Nyerere’s approach to governance or the economic and political ideologies that he propounded.

    In other words, if there is one central language, African communities will do better in terms of development and growth?

    Yes, check that out. As a matter of fact, African languages are just too powerful. You can see that Europe is now borrowing some of our languages, to grow their vocabularies. They are constantly growing their languages. Even the French do it a lot so that they can keep the French language alive.

    It is only we who are falling into this trap. Language is indeed a unifying factor because again if we as Yoruba, Igbo and others come together, you know how strong we can be. Even before the white man came, how did we communicate? This is again the myth they used so that they can further marginalise us. But we need to look at language as a weapon for development, for unity and togetherness.

    What those of us in the mathematics and sciences know is that there’s no theory that cannot be taught or understood in any language. It does not have to be only European languages. Even when we talk of quadratic equation or even all other mathematical tools, if you take the Yoruba language system, it is so sophisticated to handle issues there on. But if you do not even know square root, or you cannot even speak or understand the Yoruba language effectively well, how can you do that?

    Why don’t we use that language for our students to be the greatest Mathematicians in the world? This is so because we marginalise the Yoruba language and now resort to English. And now we are having great difficulty and we know that tracking these young ones into the sciences is not easy. This is indeed part and parcel of the leader outcome. You do not have exciting people anymore because they cannot relate to their culture or language any more. If you teach the people the counting problem in the language other than their own, soon they will begin to forget it and so on.

    You have proposed the Union of African States to be adopted by African leaders. How does that differ from African Union (AU)?

    Well, you know the AU is a continuation of Organisation of African Unity (OAU). Up till today it remains the big boys’ club. And at the end of the day it remains a talk shop. I think it is time we moved beyond the talking shop and do things more concrete to move Africa forward. It is time for action and this means you have to have leaders who say in order for us to unite, we need to give up some of our sovereignties. If you like, take this as a marriage relationship. When you marry your wife, even as powerful as the husband may be in African culture, there are things you negotiate with you wife, either you give up some certain rights or realign such to make the marriage work.

    So if there is a country that can give up some sovereignty may be because it has some economic powers, they have to do so to help others. But if that is not happening, then we will have lot of problems, because no one will make sacrifices for others. There must be room for genuine love and unity.

    If we can come to that we then know that the benefits will outweigh the disadvantages. We see it in the European Union (EU). Now we are learning from EU but we should be teaching them. You can think that the US was one nation before? They began with a few states to what we have today.

    You have your feet in both Christianity and Islam. Do you think the clash of religions can tear Africa to pieces?

    Religion can never be the end of Africa. One thing, as I tell people, they always point out the case of Nigeria. And I always have to caution people, you don’t need to generalise. Religious problems only happen in a part of Nigeria and not all. Given the size of Nigeria, it is a very small part where religious problems emanate. We still have the majority part of Nigeria living in peace, absolute peace. Here we have Moslems and Christians living peacefully together. Also, we have to be honest that most of the times it is not the average people who get caught up in these things but the leaders for their own hegemonic tendencies. They stake the fires of religious problem for their own selfish end.

    And in most parts of Africa, we already know we do not have that sort of problem. I have done a lot of research in most of these places. It does not matter whether we have more Moslems or Christians on the continent. We need to go back to our old ways; the ways Africans used to live their communal lives.

    In fact, I remember reading Professor Toyin Falola’s book (A mouth sweeter than salt) where he is so emotional about this issue. There was a time in Ibadan where Christians would pray for Ramadan to come, so that they would eat good night food. And Moslems would pray for Christmas to come so that their parents would buy new shoes and clothes for them. Then Christians would go to Moslem ceremonies and vice versa. This is the kind of thing we really have to work on right now to nip religious violence in the bud. What we have in Nigeria is that discussion is not taking place. People already hold their positions and therefore will not let so. Therefore, leaders have to emerge to take us to paradise. That means we have to be very honest about all these things.

    It is not only religion. There is also the problem of ethnicity. There is also economic issue and until these three things are tied together and resolved, and we have serious discussion, we will continue to have problems. I am not worried that religion will tear our societies to pieces. At the end of the day, the African is spiritual; one has to respect that spirituality is bigger than religion.

    If we do that, there is nothing wrong in saying that, I am an Igbo, a Christian, but I am also African, and the next person there, a Moslem, is my brother. In Europe, they can be Catholic, they can be Anglican, but in the end, they say I am European and let’s come together as one. I have no problem with these multiplicities of identities so long as we all realise we are one. I think that way it will work out. Those of us who are also interested in those things should not also keep quiet. We need to discuss it in public discussions and fora so that the message can go across. Who wants his son, her daughter or husband to be dying for a senseless thing that will not put food on his table? But again, it comes to education. The more we educate our people, the more we talk about these things to the younger ones, the better we are for it. That’s one of the ways we can go to guarantee peace in Africa and the world. But the triple issues of economy, religion and ethnicity have to be properly addressed and handled for the benefit of all.

  • Babatunde Okewale bereaved

    It took the man in the Chief Medical Director of St. Ives Specialist Hospital, Dr. Babatunde Okewale, to comprehend the death of his lovely maternal grandmother, Madam Olujimi Sobo. If status and wealth could hold death at bay, Madam Olujimi would have cheated death, considering Okewale’s high standing.

    Although Madam Sobo died at a very old age, Dr. Okewale would have spared no expenses to get her on her feet. But death defied all measures and claimed the life of the lovable woman. Dr. Okewale has been inconsolable since the woman passed on, because he maintained a very special bond with her during her life time.

    Madam Olujimi was buried in Abeokuta, Ogun State, a few days ago, after an elaborate funeral at the Abeokuta Sports Complex. Lest we forget, St. Ives Hospital, which also has an IVF unit, successfully delivered a 54-year old woman, Mrs Mojisola Bello, of a set of twins recently. The feat, we learnt, was achieved through the IVF unit of the hospital.

    According to Okewale, Bello was one of the oldest women he had delivered of babies since he began the fertility unit of the hospital. A fellow of the prestigious Royal College of Obstetrics and Gynaecology in the UK, Okewale relocated to Nigeria some years ago after a successful practice that spanned more than a decade in the UK.

    St. Ives Specialist Hospital has brought relief to many fertility-challenged women through cost-effective fertility treatments.

  • How to heal after infidelity

    Surviving doesn’t always mean saving your marriage. Surviving can mean building a more honest marriage after the infidelity. Or, divorcing and leaving the marriage more aware and prepared for your next relationship.

    Your thinking during times of emotional stress is distorted. Be sure your reaction to your spouse’s infidelity is measured and sensible and not out of anger and pain.

    Infidelity is not the end of your world. It is the end of your world as you know it but there is life after infidelity and accepting that can play a major role in how well and how quickly you heal.

    If you engage in doomsday thinking, the idea that infidelity is the worst thing that could have happened you will continually live with the belief that he/she will do it again, that another marital disaster is right around the corner. The trick is to remember that as a result of the infidelity you have the opportunity to strengthen your marriage or move on to a new life as a stronger person.

    There are different paths to healing after infidelity. You may choose to work together as a couple and rebuild your marriage. You may decide, after much thought that it is in your best interest to leave the marriage. Whether you stay in the marriage or leave, your attitude toward what happened is the single most important predictor of how well you heal from the adversity.

    Bottom line, if you are negative, hostile and angry you will be in pain for a long time. If you are emotionally resilient, are able to accept that the infidelity is nothing more than a blip on your life path you will heal more quickly.

  • ‘How I came about  the name Flower Girl’

    ‘How I came about the name Flower Girl’

    Wedding and Event Décor expert, Funmibi Adebayo Oduwole needs no introduction in the field of event decoration. The CEO of Rostal Flowers who’s married to an architect has built a clientele among the rich and mighty in the society. Some of the exclusive social events and outstanding weddings include Felix Ohiwere’s 70th Birthday; High Chief Raymond Dokpesi son’s and daughter’s wedding (2008/2009) , Major General Adebayo’s 80th birthday (2008), among many others. In this interview with MERCY MICHAEL, Fumbi speaks of how she and her husband have been able to manage their business over the past eight years.

    You run one of the reputable decoration companies in Nigeria, Rostal Flowers; how did it all begin?

    Rostal Flowers started some years ago, about seven or eight years ago. But I’ve always been a flower person because I love decorations. And I love beautiful environment and that’s what made me to start doing it.

    So, how did you come about the name Rostal Flowers?

    Well, I loved my father so much and he died when he was really young. He died at 49. So, because of my love for him, I planned that anything I want to do in my life, I will always put my father’s name into naming the company. But unfortunately, when I was trying to put the name, it wasn’t easy. And that is why I now mixed the initials of my name with my father’s. ROS is Roseline which is my English name, while T is for Tunde, my father’s name and AL for Albert which is still my father’s name.

    How were you able to build Rostal Flowers from the scratch into the big decoration brand it is today?

    It wasn’t easy. It’s been really, really stressful, but I just give glory to God because God has always been with us. And he has never made anything difficult for us. We have never been failures at anything we decide to do. So, it’s been God all the way.

    You operate in an industry that has become very competitive. How have you been able to remain in the league of top decorators?

    Yeah, the thing is we have a brand name we have been able to build over the years and it came on the heel of our perfectionist philosophy. Anything below perfect is not ours. And creativity is our watchword. We are not out to copy people, so, we don’t have problems. Our business is still going on smoothly in spite of the growing competition in the industry.

    What inspires you?

    Well, decoration is all about you. Once you know it, you know it. Once it’s alright, it’s alright. In decoration, you have to have a sound grip of colour combination. Because if the colour combination is not right, there is nothing you’ll do that will come out well. And it’s always good for you to know what you are doing and be able to advise your client, if their colour combination is really bad and be able to tell them how to put it together. And naturally I believe in simplicity. And do you know why? Simplicity is the utmost sophistication. So, I believe in simplicity in anything I do. When things are simple, elegant and beautiful, that is the identity of my company. In Rostal Flowers, we exceed your expectation. The way, we pack things together. It exceeds just packing rubbish together and all about the creativity in us.

    You are married to an architect who is also a politician in Ogun State, Mr. Gbolade Ola Oduwole. Is there any way his profession is impacting on your own business?

    Of course! He has really helped the company in many ways. He is a good source of inspiration. Because he is an architect, I’m a decorator; we always sit together, do things, share ideas and so on. He has really improved the business.

    You recently expanded your business; can you say a little about that?

    Okay. We have a school now in Rostal Flowers at our new office that we are about to open at Ogba, Ikeja. We have a corporate school that people can come and learn how to decorate. The current session is about to end and we are starting a new session soon. And we now import fresh flowers for people to buy for any kind of use; be it for their houses, offices or events.

    Can you say a little about your educational background?

    Well, I have a BSC in Geology from the University of Ilorin, Kwara State.

    You said that you’ve always been a flower person from time. Why did you end up studying Geology? Or is there a correlation between the two?

    Well, in a way, I can say yes. The truth is my father advised me to do Geology when I finished my secondary education and I was about to fill my JAMB form. He said as a geologist, you could work in an oil company, you could work with Portland Cement and so on. But it was that prospect of oil company that triggered my interest because I know that is somewhere one could make it quick in life. So I told myself: ‘If my father wants me to be a geologist, why not?’ And I said: ‘Dad, I’m going to study Geology which I did. Meanwhile, Geology is the scientific study of the earth, including the origin and history of the rocks and soil of which the earth is made. And the natural flowers are planted on the soil based on the type of soil that is most suitable for the planting of the flowers. So to that extent, you can say there is a correlation between Geology and flowers.

    As a florist, is there a connection between love and flowers?

    Yes, it gives love. When you see fresh flowers, it makes you happy. And today, people believe so much in flowers. When you give someone a flower, it carries the significance that you really love the person. You can’t compare the effect created when you give somebody a dress, shoe or bag to when you give them flower. Mind you, I’m not talking about the value here, but the emotional effect that comes with it. The feeling is very strong. And naturally, when I see flower, it gives me life, it makes me happy. So I think love and flowers go together.

    Be honest, did you marry your husband because you thought as an architect he will be able to help your business grow? Like you rightly said that he has really improved your business?

    No, no, no, no! Ola is a very gentle person, and I’m a very tough person. And somebody that would marry someone like me has to really understand my nature, so he brought in the balancing into it with his gentility. I didn’t marry because of wealth or money. I wanted someone that would add value to my life and would understand me very well. And he is a very, very loving person. I wanted love because I lost my father when I was very young and I said to myself any time I wanted to marry, I would want somebody that would love me like my father did. We dated for eight years, but God was just there in spite of all the devil did to set us apart. God knows that’s where I would meet my joy and he stood by us. Ola is very calm, calculative and intelligent, and above all, he is very caring. And, of course, he has added value to my business. I wanted my friend as a husband, and God gave Ola to me.

    What is it like doing business together; do you sometimes disagree?

    Yeah, some times. You see, I know my job very well, and Ola is very good as far as his own area is concerned. So, some times when he tells me Fumbi, why don’t you mix this colour with this? I’ll say no, you can’t tell me that, this is not drawing. Well, he has a master’s degree in Designing from a university in Florida, so he knows about designing things, but some times I tell him no. Because I know another colour would merge better with the colour I’m dealing with. But most times, we both agree on it. So, let me say we sometime disagree to agree.

    What were some of the challenges you faced before you became a brand? And what are some of the challenges you still face if any?

    I didn’t really face many challenges because when the foundation is right, everything would work out for you. For the first two years of my coming into this business, I was not concerned with profit making. My concern was to build a strong brand and creating awareness about it. And that really helped me. So, I can’t say there weren’t challenges and I can’t say there were because I started with my sight fully set on where I wanted to be. As a matter of fact, there was a time my workers were behaving funny, and I sacked everybody. Meanwhile, I had a lot of events on my hand. But to God be the glory, everything still went on smoothly because I was able to find a way out. So, God has always been my pillar and He says He would make way where there is no way. In Rostal Flowers, we have never disappointed anybody.

    What do you do for pastime or other activities you pursue in your spare time?

    Well, I’m a simple person. I’m not too social. When I’m not at church, I’ll be at home with my family and some of my very close friends would come around. Even when I go on vacation, I work. When I’m in London, I’m always moving around trying to see new things that are coming up in my industry and other things I can adapt into my business from there. I don’t sit back and browse through the internet. I go there physically to have a natural feel of it.

    Have you ever taken a 95 job in your life?

    Yes, with the Department of Petroleum Resources (DPR), a subsidiary of the NNPC in Lagos, when I was on my NYSC. And I was there for a year. But while I was there, I realised that I was not cut out for that kind of job because I’m a restless person. I needed a job that would keep me on my toes always. So when I realised doing a job that would keep me sitting in a place for long wouldn’t work, that was when I decided I was going to do my own kind of business. So, all I ever did for anyone was during my NYSC year.

    Tell us a little about growing up?

    Well, I’m from a very lovely family. My father was a very lovely person that believed he had to give the best to his family. He worked as a non-academic staffer with the University of Ibadan. And I think because of the environment he was, he believed he had to give the best to his family. I went to the University Staff School, UI. And from there, I went to Abadina College in Ibadan and he spent so much on tutorials for us and he taught us to have the fear of God. So the foundation was so right. He made us know that we need to love the people around us. My father loved his family so well that there was nothing he wouldn’t do for them. And that was the same thing he passed on to his children. So, from secondary school, I went to The Polytechnic, Ibadan where I bagged my National Diploma before gaining admission to study Geology at the University of Ilorin.

    What were your childhood dreams or did you dream to become who you are today?

    Well, when I was younger, I started with making things and selling in school. I started with making stickers that you could stick on books. The daughter of one of the top shots in Orheptal Tonic then happened to be my friend, Funke Ayodele. So, I just went to their house one day and I said Funke, all these stickers, please give me. And she gave me. She knew what I was going to do with them. So when I got home, I drew stars at the back and cut out those stars. And I used a perforator to make designs around them, sealed them with candle and packed them neatly. That was during our holidays, and when we resumed, I took them to school and students were buying at a high price. I also made beads and sold to students in school.

    And there was a time my mother’s friend, Mrs. Foluke Oyemade, came to our house and said she imported I.V.Y. relaxer and she was looking for someone to market it. Then, I had left secondary school and I said she should bring the relaxers and she brought a lot and I took them around to sell. So, I have always been an enterprising person. And when I was in the university, I was already going to Dubai to bring in dresses to sell. So, I have always sold one thing or the other. But I started flowers when I was doing my NYSC in the DPR and they even gave me a nickname: Flower Girl. Up till today, when I go to the DPR, they call me Flower Lady.

  • Debbie Ogunjobi savours marital bliss

    Debbie Ogunjobi savours marital bliss

    For a long time, top clothier, Debbie Ogunjobi, owner of Everywoman, closed her eyes to the things she did not want to see. But she could not close her heart to the things she did not want to feel. Hence, she is happily married to a widower, Pastor Jide Ojo, who lost his wife in July 2011.

    The celebrity lady, you would recall, had gone through two relationships that produced two kids before then, but both relationships ended on a sour note. There are indications that she has consigned the events of her broken relationships to the dustbin of history and embraced a new chapter of her life.

    Her loved ones can heave a sigh of relief as she has decided to open her heart again to the man of God. Since they got married, she has considerably got over the failure of her previous relationships. There are rumours that she will soon add to the population of Nigeria.

  • Patricia Etteh gears up for 2015

    Patricia Etteh is, no doubt, one of the major casualties of Nigeria’s stuttering democracy. The beautician-turned-politician had become the Speaker of the House of Representatives in June 2007. It was the first time a woman would be the Speaker of the lower chamber of the National Assembly. But less than three months into her tenure, she was accused of authorising a whopping N628 million for the renovation of her official residence and that of her deputy, as well as the purchase of 12 official cars meant for the House.

    The uproar that followed led to her exit from the exalted position. She has since returned to the drawing board. And if you thought that Patricia would lie low perpetually, then you are undermining the power of a woman. Already, the 59-year-old woman is gearing up for a top elective post in 2015. She is said to be working in tandem with top politicians from her state and beyond to ensure that her 2015 ambition is realised.

     

  • Take Ibori  hugs limelight again

    Take Ibori hugs limelight again

    After a long hiatus from the social radar, Take, the fun-loving daughter of former Delta State Governor, Chief James Onanefe Ibori, has finally returned to the social space. At the moment, things are really looking good for her.

    Her outlook at a recent function belied all that had been said about her since her sudden disappearance from the social scene. She was not only full of life, she was also generous with courtesies, dishing out pleasantries freely.

    Prior to her appearance at the event, her whereabouts had been a subject of speculations, following the collapse of her planned marriage to Abisoye Suenu.

  • We were in the midst of a three-day  fasting when our mother was killed

    We were in the midst of a three-day fasting when our mother was killed

    AGAIN, like the ubiquitous tortoise in African folklore, the Ogun State Command of Nigeria Customs Service (NCS) is in the news for the wrong reason. Last Thursday, the relative peace of Ilashe village in Ipokia Local Government Area snapped following the killing of a 45-year-old trader, Fausat Bankole, allegedly by a Customs man.

    Investigations revealed that the late mother of five was travelling in a car to a nearby market in the early hours of the day when her vehicle was stopped by the Customs men on patrol at Ilashe village, along Idiroko-Owode Road. The vehicle was searched for possible smuggled or contraband goods and nothing was allegedly found. The vehicle, it was learnt, had barely left the spot when one of the Customs men fired shots that pierced through Fausat’s abdomen spilling the food she had earlier eaten on the corner of the seat where she sat in the vehicle.

    According to an eyewitness, who spoke in confidence, the deceased was taken to a Customs hospital where she was confirmed dead.

    “The incident happened at about 6 am. The driver of the vehicle was flagged down and he complied with the Customs men. After a search was carried out on his vehicle and nothing incriminating was found on it, it was released. But within a twinkle of an eye, one of the Customs men called Tunde fired shots at the vehicle’s front windscreen and rear doors. The woman who was seated in the back seat was hit in the abdomen, while the driver sustained gunshot injury on his arm.

    Outraged locals later ‘sacked’ Customs men from all the checkpoints in the community, while a traditional seal of palm leaves was placed at the entrance of a Customs base at the scene of the incident.

    It took the combined effort of the police and men of the 192 Battalion of the Nigeria Army, Owode, to douse the tension caused by the furious residents who took to the streets to protest the unfortunate incident.

    There was a pin-drop silence at the residence of the bereaved parents of the deceased trader in Okere, an outskirt of the community. A horde of sympathisers were on hand to commiserate with her aged parents. Many shook their heads in pity, while the aged parents of the deceased woman now cut a pitiable sight.

    “She told me that she would be going to market and I asked her to get some vegetable and pepper, so I can prepare some soup. I never knew that I would taste tears and sorrow instead of tasty soup. She had been the breadwinner of her family following her husband’s lack of stable job. She was also responsible for our welfare and she had been a very hardworking person and generous,” recalled Fausat’s mother, Madam Adijat Oyede.

    Father of the deceased, Alhaji Abu Oyede, could not hide his anger at the brutal killing of her daughter. He blamed the Customs authorities for displaying indifference to the misconduct of its men and the reckless killing of innocent residents.

    The 89-year-old retired headmaster said: “The mandate given to the Customs men does not include the killing of innocent people. My daughter is not a smuggler neither am I. Indeed, none of my family members is involved in smuggling business or any illegal endeavour. She sold fire woods, vegetables, fruits, pepper and condiments. Why then will Customs men kill my daughter gruesomely? My wife(the deceased’s mother) had asked her to bring vegetable and pepper when she was returning from the market, so she could prepare soup not knowing that she would soon mourn her death.

    “Let the Federal Government and Customs authorities caution their men in Idiroko against the cruel use of fire arms on innocent residents. Only last week, a boy was almost killed by some Customs men who were on the trail of some smugglers in the neighbourhood. They had approached the boy for direction and he told them that the road they had mistakenly taken while chasing the smugglers led to nowhere. Thinking that he was misleading them, they fired shots but the bullets missed the boy’s legs by whiskers.

    “About two months ago, a man travelling on a motorbike was killed by some Customs men; there are several cases like that involving Customs men who displayed lack of respect or value for human lives that Customs authorities had covered up lately. Please, tell them to face smugglers and not to turn their gun on innocent people.”

    Battling tears as he spoke further, he lamented the aftermath of her daughter’s death and its consequences on the five children left behind by the deceased trader.

    “Since I retired as a school headmaster many years ago, Fausat had been responsible for my upkeep. She would come to check on how her mother and I were fairing and would ensure that we fed well. The same daughter of mine, who had been responsible for my wellbeing is the one that the heartless Customs men have now killed.

    “Now, who will take care of me and my late daughter’s children, especially her first son who is currently seeking admission into the university since she was the only breadwinner of the family? Her husband had lost his job and has been struggling to eke out a living as a commercial motorcyclist in Lagos for sometime now until the Lagos State government clamped down on their operations in the metropolis,”the distraught father said.

    Fausat’s younger sister, Monsurat Oyede, recalled the last encounter she had with her sister whom she described as unassuming.

    “Although I live in Ibadan, Oyo State but I saw her last on May 20, 2013 during a family outing in this community (Okere). However I still spoke with her on the telephone about five days ago for a few minutes. I was shocked to receive the news of her death in the hands of heartless Customs men while on her way to Ihunbo market. She was such a gentle person and law-abiding and could not have engaged in smuggling.”

    The head of Oyede family, Chief Gafar Oyede, blamed the killing on the indiscretions of the Customs men who he said were in the habit of shooting innocent residents instead of going after real smugglers.

    “The killing of Fausat was the height of reckless use of fire arms by a para-military officer against a harmless woman who was going out to earn her daily bread. I was returning from an early morning prayers at the mosque when words got to me that Fausat had been killed by a Customs man and I quickly went to the scene. The driver of the vehicle in which the deceased was travelling before she was killed explained that he had only two passengers (including Fausat) in the vehicle at the time he was asked by Customs men to pull up for checks. The man was also hit by bullets on one of his hands.

    “When I got to the scene, I was told that Fausat was injured and had been taken to a Customs hospital in the community. It was later that a senior Customs officer broke the news of her death to me. I left for Idiroko Police Station where I saw the bullet-riddled car inside which Fausat was shot dead. And contrary to the remarks by Customs authorities that she was a victim of stray bullets, the car’s front windscreen was perforated with bullets, same with the rear door close to where Fausat was seated.

    “As a matter of fact, the food she ate in the morning was spilled on the spot where she sat in the car as a result of the bullets which pierced her stomach. We were, however, not allowed to see the Customs man who shot her dead who was being held in police cell at the time of our visit. Police feared that the Customs man identified as Tunde could be mobbed if he was brought out of the cell to see us. Fausat was buried with blood gushing out of her stomach. She was the breadwinner of her family and is survived by five children, the eldest of which is currently seeking university admission. But the question is, if her son’s university admission sails through, who will fund his education?”

    At the residence of the deceased, her crestfallen children and husband amid tears recalled the last moments they shared together.

    The eldest son of the deceased, Ridwan, 21, recounted their last rendezvous shortly before she was killed.

    “We were asked to do a three-day general fasting in our mosque for protection against evil and we did the fasting together. We prayed till the midnight on Wednesday and woke up at 5 am on Thursday to break our fast. After she finished her meal, she told me that she was going to the market to buy some goods and that she would flash me so that I could wake the children up in case they slept again so that they could prepare for school.

    “I became worried that she did not flash nor call, but I went ahead to prepare my siblings for school. It was only my sister, Semiat, who was writing her NECO examinations that was left with me at home. A few minutes later, I heard people shouting near our residence and one of our neighbours later broke the news of my mother’s death to me. I slumped but I was later held up by sympathisers. My mother had promised to fund my university education and I promised that I would in turn sponsor my siblings’ education. The last child of the family is barely four years old and we don’t have anybody to help us now,” Ridwan said.

    The husband of the deceased, Mr. Moruf Bankole, 47, with teary eyes, recalled fond memories of his beloved wife, saying: “My wife and I have been married for 23 years and she stood by me and can be described as a pillar of support. We have weathered many challenges to raise our children and with her gruesome death, I don’t know where and when my help would come from; I am perplexed and devastated…”

    A community leader, Chief Israel Osanyibi, warned the Nigeria Customs Service (NCS) authorities to caution its men against killing innocent residents.

    “While we are not saying that Customs men should not operate or carry out their statutory duties in our community, we want to urge their relocation to the outskirts of the community. Besides, they should carry out operations with civility and ensure restraint when using fire arms.”

    Reacting to the incident during a telephone conversation with our correspondent, spokesman of the Ogun State Command of Nigeria Customs Service (NCS), Mr. Chike Ngige, said the officer that killed the late Fausat had faced an orderly room trial and had been handed over to police for thorough investigation.

    “In the early hours of Thursday, June 20, 2013, 6am to be precise, our patrol team acting on information along Ilashe axis of Idiroko-Owode Road, Ipokia Local Government Area accosted a suspected vehicle. The driver of the vehicle tried to escape to avoid proper Customs checks and that prompted one of the patrol officers to aim the tyre of the vehicle in order to demobilise it. The bullet rebounded on the hard surface and hit the woman (late Fausat) who was inside another vehicle. He has since faced orderly room trial and have been handed to police for trial,” Ngige said.

    He further said that men of Ogun State Customs Command are being periodically trained on the use of fire arms and civil conduct in the discharge of duty.

    He said: “If you are familiar with AK-47 Rifle, you will know that it could sometimes caused a lot of havoc as a result of a little mistake. In view of this, we have been ensuring that our men undergo regular training on the use of fire arms as well as discharging their functions with common civility.”

    However, the Customs Area Controller of Ogun State Command, Mr. Ade Dosunmu, has been in touch with the family of the late woman.

    As for the demand for in compensation by the family of the deceased trader, Mr Dosunmu said “such decision is the responsibility of the apex authority of the NCS, Abuja.”

    The Public Relations Officer (PRO) of Ogun State Police Command, Mr. Muyiwa Adejobi, a Deputy Superintendent of Police (DSP), confirmed the arrest of the killer-Customs man.

    He said: “It is true that the Customs officer who allegedly killed the late Fausat Bankole has been handed over to the police. The case is currently being handled by the Homicide Section of the State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID), Eleweran, Abeokuta, for proper investigation.”

    The killing of Fausat happened barely one year after the killing of a 21-year-old tailor, Elijah Aiyelade, in the Idiroko area of the Ipokia Local Government Area by some Customs men while chasing some smugglers. He was killed on the eve of his graduation and a few days to the anniversary of his brother’s death who was also killed in similar circumstances by Customs men. While the family of Aiyelade insisted their son was not a smuggler, the Customs authority had claimed that he was shot during a shoot out with some hoodlums who seized a Customs man’s rifle.

  • Elvina  Ibru’s best  kept secret

    Elvina Ibru’s best kept secret

    Elvina Ibru is easily the most visible of the Ibru sisters. Regal and charming, she has had her fair share of the klieg lights. But she is not in any way losing her appeal among her peers and contemporaries.

    But Elvina, sired by Oloorogun Micheal Ibru, confuses a lot of her friends, admirers and prospective suitors about her marital status. Many of them do not know that the big chic already has a child for a dude who is said to be head over heels in love with her.

    What has been a matter of conjecture is whether the dude is ready to settle down with her. Elvina has been keeping his identity a closely guarded secret.

  • How to prevent infidelity

    Just because you’re married now does not mean you’re going to stop feeling attracted to other people – or jealous when your spouse’s eye wanders. The important thing is how you and your spouse handle your attractions and jealousyand what you do to prevent infidelity in your marriage.

    Although researchers have a hard time getting people to be honest about infidelity and extramarital affairs, studies have shown that about 25 percent of men and 10 to 15 percent of women report having had sex with someone other than their spouse, according to healthymarriageinfo.org. There have also been separate reports indicating that most infidelity – and divorce – happens before a couple’s seventh wedding anniversary. Whether that’s true or not is difficult to prove. What is certain is that infidelity is among the leading causes of divorce. And newlyweds should take the necessary steps to protect their marriage and prevent infidelity. Here is what you can do to affair-proof your marriage:

    Make your marriage your top priority

    Making your marriage your top priority means that your spouse comes before everyone else. Friends and family are important, too, but they should not interfere with your relationship. In other words, if your friend just split up with her boyfriend of two months and wants to hang out with you, but you had plans with your husband, you should tell your friend that you’ll have to talk at some other time. If you’ve spent the last week working late and spending more time with your colleagues at work than you have with your spouse, carve out some family time, shut off your cell phone and computer, and make the most of the moments, hour, day, whatever you could get for your love. Make decisions together and put the needs of your spouse and you above all others.

    Set boundaries

    Some people are naturally friendly and/or flirtatious, and this can get them into trouble when they marry. Certain behaviour might give others the wrong ideas about your relationship with them, which can cause awkward situations. The last thing a married person should want to do is send signals to others that he or she is available or interested in a romantic relationship. Become aware of your behaviour and change it. Keep working relationships professional, for example, by limiting conversations to work and small talk. Inappropriate behaviours like touching or revealing intimate details of your marriage or sex life should never happen with others, especially those at work. Those kinds of conversations should be reserved for your spouse. You risk stepping over the line when you start sharing intimate thoughts or personal feelings with someone who is not your spouse. Keep in mind that this is true also of strangers you meet on the Internet and not just colleagues or friends you know in your offline life. Your spouse should be the person with whom you share your personal life.

    Do not keep secrets from your spouse.

    Short of that surprise party you’re planning for your spouse, you should be able to tell him or her anything and everything. If you feel as though you have to lie about where you’ve been, who you’ve been with, or what you’ve been doing, then you know you have stepped over the line into betrayal.