Category: Weekend Treat

  • Senator Daisy Danjuma buries mum in style

    Penultimate Friday, the bigwigs gathered in Benin, Edo State capital, for the burial of Senator Daisy Danjuma’s mother, Dame Merry Oritsetimeyin Ehanire. To say the burial of the senator’s mother, who passed away on Tuesday, April 30, 2013, was befitting would amount to stating the obvious.

    Before the burial, the wake keep for Daisy’s mother had taken place on Thursday, May 23, 2013 at Our Saviour’s Anglican Church, G.R.A, Benin, Edo State. In attendance were the late woman’s children: Osagie, Iyayi, Edugie, Andy, Yawa and Isiah, as well as her in-laws and grandchildren.

    The body of the senator’s mother was kept in a N5 million gold and metallic casket. Those who graced the burial included the Governor of Edo State, Comrade Adams Oshiomhole; his Delta State counterpart, Dr. Emmanuel Uduaghan; the Senate President, Senator David Mark; Chief Gabriel Igbinedion and his pretty wife, Cherry; Grace Egbagbe and former Aviation Minister, Senator Kema Chikwe, among other dignitaries.

    Daisy’s husband, Gen. T.Y. Danjuma, co-hosted the event.

  • Fifi  Ejindu acquires N30m Rolls Royce

    Fifi Ejindu acquires N30m Rolls Royce

    Not many people would hurriedly forget Fifi Ejindu’s earth shaking birthday shindig at the world’s renowned seven-star hotel, Burj-Al-Arab, in the United Araba Emirates a few years ago. The 50th birthday show saw the gathering of highly influential Nigerians to celebrate with of their own.

    She recently capped that with the acquisition of a Rolls Royce car valued at N30 million. Ejindu was said to have placed an order for the expensive vehicle last year, and many who have attested to her attribute as a hardworking woman believe that she deserves nothing less.

    The newly acquired car is said to stretch about 212.6 inches from the bonnet to the boot. The model of Rolls Royce known as Ghost boasts an expansive front grille.

    Ejindu, a top fashion designer and proprietress of Fifi Ejindu Foundation, among other ventures, is reputed for spending most of her time outside the shores of the country. As the life patron of the African Fashion Week London, she has used her influence to shine more light on emerging African designers.

  • Bode Akindele celebrates 80 in style

    Bode Akindele celebrates 80 in style

    One of Nigeria’s most enduring billionaires, Chief Bode Akindele, celebrated his 80th birthday in Ibadan, Oyo State, last Sunday. Although he has witnessed many memorable days, the one of that day was a different ball game. The party was not much about any gaudy merriment or outlandish display of wealth, it was more about popular exaltation of the businessman by many of his friends and business associates.

    The choicest pack of Nigeria’s high society made the birthday party a meeting point, and the celebrant reveled in ecstasy as guests took turns to voice out his good deeds. Whenever Chief Akindele, the colossus behind Modandola Group, Fair Gate Investments Limited and Nigeria Biscuit Company, steps into any big social event, even the captains of industry constitute themselves into a guard of honour.

    Colourful and amiable, Akindele relishes the good things of life.

  • What public office has taught me

    What public office has taught me

    When Louis Odion turned 40 two months ago, the media buzz was quite estatic. Fondly known as Mr. Capacity, among many ways that he was celebrated was an exclusive party at Oriental Hotel, Lekki, Victoria Island Lagos, that was put together by celebrities in the entertainment and fashion world. The event was attended by his choice friends. A young man with a quiet outlook, it was easy to understand why Odion readily appeals to the fashion world; he maybe a successful writer, he is also a peculiar man of style. The Edo State Commissioner for Information, says he is proud to have worked to get to his present position. “I started from the rung of the ladder and paid my dues.” He spoke to PAUL UKPABIO at his residence in Lekki, Lagos.

    Quite an achievement you’ve made of your life at 40! What does being 40 mean to you?

    Like someone once said, age is a matter of the mind, if you don’t mind, then it does not matter. I believe that it is a number, I’m thankful that God has preserved my life to be 40. Looking back, I’ll say I have every cause to thank God. I started very early, I didn’t have a background in journalism, the career line I pursued. It was by the grace of God I was able to rise through the rank to the top. I am grateful to God that I was able to manage a national newspaper, before going to Edo State to accept a political appointment as the Commissioner for Information.

    You will expect that somebody who was a reporter, became a line editor, and then an editor before becoming an editor-in-chief, must have been somebody who read journalism in school. I didn’t study journalism formally. I started as a reporter. I did Secretariat Administration (OND) at the Federal Polytechnic, Ado Ekiti. Afterwards, I came to Lagos where I got employed at the National Concord Newspapers as a confidential secretary. Along the line, my passion, my talent for writing took over. To the extent that I later got invited to the editorial. So while working as a reporter at the age of 19, I took JAMB afresh, and enrolled at the University of Lagos to study English Education and Guidance/Counselling Combined Honours. I was studying full time as well as working. For my Masters, I did International Law/Diplomacy at same institution.

    When I look back, I sort of thank God, for the opportunity. It’s good to be talented but talent alone does not necessarily translate to everything.

    What has experience thought you?

    I am a little wiser; there are certain decisions I took 10 years ago which, given the same opportunity, I won’t make same again. I believe that I used to be very impatient, that was one of my vices, my shortcomings. That must have been caused by the fact that I was always in a hurry. When I was at UNILAG, I was always in a hurry to catch up with my lectures, in a hurry to resume work and I did that for four years non stop. So it became my character. Now I’m learning to be more patient.

    If there is anything my outing in Edo State has done, it is that the system has taught me to be patient. In public office, you are dealing with civil service, it has it own logic. As MD of National Life newspaper, when I gave a reporter an assignment and he did not deliver, he might get sacked. But in civil service, it doesn’t work that way.

    You conceive an idea, you want it implemented and you call the civil servants, usually they will tell you it is good. If you call them after a week and ask them about it, they will tell you that they are working on it. Often time, that’s a lie!

    We as political appointees or ‘contract staff’ as Governor Adam Oshiomole calls us, are usually in a hurry. But the civil servants are not. They have always been there. They have seen commissioners come and go, they have seen governors come and go. So my outing in Edo State has taught me to be patient. In journalism, you have a deadline, a story is breaking, you go, report it against deadline. You can do a good story but if it does not meet deadline, your effort will be wasted. But civil servants work 8 to 4pm. As a matter of fact, once it is 4 pm, they give you the signal to close. That is the time journalists start the day. This has been an illuminating experience.

    What were your childhood dreams?

    Funny enough, I had a lot of dreams depending on the age grade I was. I remember as a boy of 10, watching a musician on television performing, and I told my mom: ‘When I grow up, I want to be a musician’. I was fascinated by the glamour of being a music star. In my later years, my passion shifted to boxing and that was largely influenced by Mohammed Ali. My dad is a boxing fan. I used to sit with him and watch. That fascinated me. In secondary school, I was into amateur boxing. I was involved in it till class 5. I was the leader of my weight category in school. We participated in many inter-school competitions and I performed well because whatever I put my mind to, I give it my best.

    Then, along the line, the writing passion came. That was inspired by Dele Giwa. I was about 13 when Dele Giwa died, the uproar it generated drifted my mind from boxing. What prepared me for writing was that my dad used to buy two newspapers daily. They were The Concord and Daily Times or Concord and Sketch. And on a weekly basis, he would buy American Time Magazine and later Newswatch. In our own time, we prided ourselves in reading voraciously, it was a status symbol to say that you have finished all Charles Dickens collection or you’ve finished all books on African Writers Series or all Pacesetters series. That was how we used to boast then. Reading widely prepared me for writing. When it came to current affairs, I was always on top, that sharpened my political awareness and knowledge of foreign affairs.

    Why didn’t you just study Mass Communication from the beginning?

    When I wrote the entrance examination to Federal Polytecnic, Ado Ekiti, it was my dad who said Accountancy would be nice for me. That was what I was admitted to study. But my maths was not good at the school. I was forced to either withdraw or change course. The school was not offering Mass Comm, so the only option I was opened to was Secretariat Administration, which was where mathematics was not required. My dad was afraid that returning home would dampen my spirit because I finished school and the following month I got the admission. There I got involved in campus journalism and my fame was all over the campus.

    I returned to Lagos for industrial programme at Concord. There I was mentored by Mr. Tunji Bello, current Commissioner for the Environment, Lagos State; Mr. Victor Ifijey, now the Managing Director of The Nation newspapers; Mr. Sam Omatseye, Chairman Editorial Board of The Nation; Lanre Arogundade; Taiwo Ogundipe and Mrs. Osanhenren, she was the Features Editor then. They were already in Concord. They saw that the little boy was writing well and started offering me advice. The average editor needs a script that gives him less stress. They noticed that when I wrote, they more or less may not need to do corrections. So I was getting published almost immediately I wrote. That motivated me.

    It was Nsikak Essien who suggested that I should go and get admission in UNILAG, that he would ask management to offer me scholarship. But when I got the admission, he had left. Mr. Tunji Bello was my editor. He offered me all the support I needed. He became my brother as he protected me in the newsroom. When Concord was not able to pay salary, he was supporting me financially. I can’t thank him enough.

    By 1999 when Mr. Dele Alake, who was also one of my mentors too, left to take up appointment as the Lagos State Commissioner for Information, Mr. Tunji Bello became Editor of the Daily paper, his deputy then, Kayode Komolafe, had moved to become the Editor, Sunday paper. I was told that at the management meeting, my name popped up for who to become the deputy. The argument that arose was that I was too young to be a deputy editor and not a graduate. There were others who were there and far above me in terms of experience.

    That was when it was revealed that I had since gone to UNILAG and came out with a 2.1 result. I had just finished the course. The MD, Dr. Doyin Abiola at that time, announced that I should take up the position. That was how I got the job. It was like a fairy tale, a boy who got into Concord as Confidential Secretary seven years earlier, who was typing scripts for the editors, had become an editor. It was a turning point in my career. So in a nutshell, writing has always been my passion.

    Now in Edo State, I miss writing but I also realise that I also needed to face life, so that when I get back to news room, I’ll be a better commentator. Now I can see why things don’t work. The political leader comes, he has good intentions, he makes a pronouncement, but when it comes to execution, people he relies on fail him.

    Why did you take the commissioner job?

    Before this, I had received others, from Edo State and at the national level.

    My standard then was that I wasn’t interested, writing gives me joy. But having witnessed what the governor did in 2008 and 2011, I knew this man is different. That was what made me accept and sincerely, I don’t regret it. Edo State used to be teased as a basket state, a place that had been condemned to a state of penury. That was the impression past governors created.

    For 10 years, PDP was there, nothing moved. They were telling people that the state is very poor and has nothing, that what they got from the federation account could only pay salaries. People had resigned themselves to fate, but Oshiomhole has shown a difference. Within the first tenure, he constructed more than 400 kilometres of brand new roads, quality roads like those found in Abuja. In PDP days, only asphalt will be poured. Now we do proper soil tests, proper road design and so on.

    Education sector has been transformed. Before now, the poorest of the poor paid through their noses to put their children in private schools, now the governor has transformed public schools and people are removing their children and wards from private schools to public schools. The schools are more beautiful and the teachers more competent, dedicated and motivated.

    What challenges do you come across as an Information Commissioner?

    Challenge is not what I will describe my peculiar experience in Edo State because I have a governor who is working ahead and people see him as performing. That has already lightened my job. If he were not working, I would have run into problems. People would have been asking questions. But today when I say Governor Oshiomhole is working, people say yes, we can see. That has helped me. I have also been lucky because I can’t imagine myself coming out to lie because of my professional background. I used to hold people in public officials by standards when I used to be a commentator. That’s the standard I still keep. I can’t imagine myself being in a position where I would be forced to lie that somebody is performing when he is not.

    That Governor Oshiomhole is working, has helped me. That has been my secret.

    Going to serve in Edo State personally amounted to a massive pay cut. I was the MD and Editor in Chief of a national newspaper. This is the same house I was living in Lagos, but had to leave to where I was not based, and operate in a totally different situation. However, when I leave this appointment, I will be sure to hold my head anywhere and say that I was part of the Oshiomhole revolution. Money is not everything.

    What determines your personal style?

    Style to me is an expression of the totality of a person and it reflects in my colours. I am not a loud person, so I have affinity with conservative colours. That is probably why you will not see me ordinarily wearing red attire in public. Some dress to impress but I dress according to my mood. My style reflects in how I talk, the company I keep, how I carry myself. Writing is a loneliness job so I find myself to be an intensive private person.

     

  • Ndidi Obioha launches initiative for aspiring couples

    Ndidi Obioha of Enthyst Event has launched a new initiative for would-be couples. Tagged ‘The 2013 Lucky Bride’, Enthyst will partner FinaTrust Microfinance Bank to sponsor weddings at affordable cost. Obioha disclosed this at a press briefing, which had Mr. Deji Popola, the MD of Fina Trust Microfinance Bank, among other staff of the bank in attendance.

    The exciting package, according to Obioha, was borne out of the desire to see young people get married. “There have been people who come for us to plan their wedding but would not come back because of funding. So, we thought, let’s make weddings a lot more affordable. Enthyst has emerged three times as the Event Planning Company of The Year. So, obviously when we come on board any event, we are coming with our expertise, professionalism and the fact that we are in all modesty one of the best in the industry.

    “We said to ourselves, let’s all bring in other vendors who have this same vision and mission like we do, provide an amazing wedding at very affordable cost; as in a wedding that you would come to and you probably assume roughly a three-hundred-man wedding. It is just the normal wedding that we plan. It would probably go for between N6 million and N9 million, depending on all the works that are being thrown in. But we are giving you the very same wedding at N3 million, everything inclusive.

    “And also, when you have parents determining everything to do with the wedding because they are funding it, what this does is that it also gives the groom a bit of confidence and power to determine what he wants at his wedding. Because where a groom has just started work and decides he really wants to marry but doesn’t have the funds yet, if he is from a family that is well-to-do, the moment the family wants to fund the wedding, it calls the shots. The groom and the bride are not happy a lot of time. So, these are things that informed the

  • Ozobuwa twins: Brilliant, beautiful, yet single

    Among friends, colleagues and associates, Patricia and Felicia Obozuwa are a set of abundantly blessed twins whose profile has since assumed the dimension of folklore. While Patricia, an accounting graduate of the Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), works at Procter and Gamble, Felicia, also an OAU alumnus, is a top manager at First City Monument Bank.

    Both of them are doing well. They live large and hobnob with the rich and mighty. They are endowed with everything that would make any young man fall in love. Talk about pleasant looks that could charm even a bad-tempered gorilla and lovely figures that could draw tears to the eyes of a eunuch. Add to these their professional accomplishments and what you have is two sisters on top of their game.

    However, to the consternation of their friends who have held them in awe since their school days where their beauty and brilliance always stood them out, the two sisters are yet to add any suffix to their names. This, we learnt, might not be unconnected with their elitist disposition, which tends to scare many men away.

    In spite of this, the Obozuwa twins are not obviously daunted. They have preferred to consolidate on their individual successes and enjoy themselves while their single status lasts.

  • Ex-Chief Dehinde Fernadez’s wife, Aduke, succumbs to cancer

    Cancer, that notorious ailment that seems to have become the albatross of the rich, has struck once again. Its wrath this time was targeted at Aduke Olufunmilayo, a former wife of one of Nigeria’s billionaires, Chief Antonio Dehinde Fernandez. Aduke succumbed to the cold hands of death a few days ago.

    While Aduke and her estranged husband had ended their marriage as a result of ‘irreconcilable differences’, the billionaire is nonetheless touched by the loss of a woman that was once so dear to his heart.

    Aduke would be remembered by many for her involvement in one of the most celebrated divorce cases. She had filed her papers in the court in Edinburg, claiming that her marriage to Fernandez had broken down as a result of the billionaire’s domineering attitude. The reclusive billionaire later moved out of their Georgian town home in Edinburgh.

    In 2012, the rumour broke that the billionaire was reuniting with his estranged wife, but he fiercely denied it. “It is a big lie. It will not happen in a million years,” he thundered. However, those who should know said must have felt the loss of Aduke.

    An American by birth, Aduke died in a New York hospital after battling with the illness for ages. As expected, she sought a permanent cure for her ailment in several countries to no avail.

    Fernandez is presently married to Halima, a former beauty queen from Kano.

  • Charity home battles  to save 15-yr-old TV commercial  model struck with  strange illness

    Charity home battles to save 15-yr-old TV commercial model struck with strange illness

    HOW could caring parents have abandoned their bed-ridden 15-year-old daughter for God knows where? The poser has become a refrain on the lips of residents of Agbado Road, Ijaiye-Ojokoro, Lagos State, ever since one Lateef, an auto technician and his wife abandoned their daughter, Kaosarat, who is laid back with a strange illness at home.

    The burden of caring for Kaosarat is currently being shouldered by neighbours and a social worker, Mrs. Titilola Adesida of Charity of Peace for Idle Hands and Gender Equity, Ikeja, Lagos State.

    The landlord of the building where Kaosarat is currently holed up, Mr. Idowu Ogunbanwo, explained that the couple may have fled their home following their daughter’s worsening sickness.

    “They moved into this house about seven years ago with Kaosarat but her condition was not as bad as it is now. She used to talk very well but she suddenly lost her speech and could no longer walk properly, probably as a result of being kept indoors. They told us that she was struck by a strange illness when she was barely five.

    “They claimed to have done their best to salvage her from the debilitating sickness and instead of seeking further medical solution to her problem, they abandoned her at home without a trace, leaving their eight-year old son, Augustine, behind to take care of her.

    “They had been owing rents for about three years now and all the efforts at persuading them to pay up have yielded no fruit. It was only three days ago that I was able to lure her father to come around so that we can settle the matter amicably. But I was smart to have invited the police as soon as he came around. He was taken to Ojokoro Police Station where he wrote an undertaking to pay up or move out of this building.

    “Kaosarat’s case is not getting any better as she has been infested with bed sores after being kept in the room for many months”.

    Findings revealed that Kaosarat had once featured as a baby model in a television commercial for a notable brand of multivitamin syrup manufactured by a leading pharmaceutical company when she was barely two years old.

    “Kaosarat’s parents said that she was used as a model for a television advertisement of multivitamin syrup when she was just one year and few months old. They even showed us the promo pack of the drug and other location shots. They claimed to have been paid about N10,000 as her participation fee then,” recalled Ogunbanwo.

    Our correspondent saw Kaosarat in a corner of the room, on a clothe spread on the floor with scars of bed sores all over her body. She had shrinked so much that she could be passed for a two-year-old. She muttered in Yoruba “ebi npa mi”( I am hungry). Her looks give a feeling that she is living on a borrowed time as medical help eludes her.

    In her words, Adesida said:”I was alerted by the landlord of the building, Mr. Ogunbanwo in 2012 and my organisation has since been responsible for her treatment at home. After her initial treatment, her conditions were stabilised only to relapse a few days ago. We have been carrying out periodic checks on her but her worsening condition has made us to cry out for support, so she won’t die. Last year, we took her to the Ikeja General Hospital but we were told that there was no bed space. It was at a private hospital that doctors gave some prescriptions that helped in stabilising her condition; otherwise, she would have died.

    “Since we took over Kaosarat’s case, I have not seen her parents and efforts to convince them to show up during our telephone conversations have failed.”

    Speaking with our correspondent, Kaosarat’s younger brother, Augustine, recalled how he was asked by his parents to keep watch over his sister.

    “I was formerly a student of Above Glory Nursery and Primary School, Ojokoro, but I stopped in Primary Six because of my sister. My eight-year-old younger sister, Aminat, now lives with one of my mother’s friends. My parents stopped me from schooling so as to take care of my elder sister and because they said there was no money to fund my education.”

    Augustine’s explanation was reinforced by his mother’s friend, Mrs.Eniola Shotunde, who explained why the couple had to abandon their daughter, Kaosarat.

    She said: “I warned Kaosarat’s mother against abandoning her daughter on the excuse of not having enough money to take care of her treatment. She had spent so much on Kaosarat’s illness to the extent that she sold her property in Ikorodu after her business collapsed. One of her sisters who works in a Lagos- based aviation company had also assisted her financially on a number of occasions. Koasarat’s parents claimed that she was hit by a strange illness called Apeta (an evil arrow) in Yoruba. They have been moving from one church to another and visited several spiritual healing homes to no avail.

    “I only took in the couple’s youngest daughter called Aminat on humanitarian grounds. At times, I would beg her on the telephone to come home and take care of Kaosarat but she would turn down my plea. I have not seen her for some time now. It is sad that Kaosarat’s parents are nowhere to be found because their innocent daughter had once given them joy as a baby when she featured in a television commercial of a multivitamin drugs.”

    In a telephone conversation, Kaosarat’s father, Lateef, said he left home to look for money to take care of his daughter but hung up when our correspondent queried his long absence from home.

    “I did not run away from home and I have not abandoned my daughter. I travelled out of town to look for money to take care of her and I cannot tell you when I will be back.”

     

  • She is 18 years old with no O’level so I don’t know why marriage is her priority

    I am a guy of 23 years old and in my third year in the university. My girl of 18 years old jilted me. I called her on the phone to confirm from her if she would still make it on a date that I fixed with her, but to my surprise, she told me that her husband’s people will be coming to their family house to ask for her hand in marriage. I was flabbergasted because she didn’t even give me the sign of her marriage the last time I met her, the worst is that she has changed her line. I only contact her with her sister’s number. She promised me that she will see me on 27th of last month, but she didn’t keep her promise.

    She is 18 years old with no O’level so I don’t know why marriage is her priority. I’m Gaza by name.

    Dear Gaza, why is her life your own priority? I don’t seem to get why the fact that she’s getting married is bothering you. If she were to be available for you to play with and dump later, I’m sure you wouldn’t be bothered. Her parents are involved in her marriage plans and to me that is fine. At 18, she’s ripe enough for marriage. She can go back to school and get her degree and doctorate at the appropriate time in her husband’s house. If you wanted to marry her, I’m sure she wouldn’t have slipped by your hands. I support young girls getting married and going to school from their husbands’ houses. I’m tired of seeing the troubles old maidens go through in the name of getting Mr. Right.

  • Will i remarry? Hmm…… -Toto Abuga’s widow biola

    Will i remarry? Hmm…… -Toto Abuga’s widow biola

    How has life treated you years after you lost your husband, what has been your toughest experience?

    I will say that the most interesting challenge I’ve faced is the rare experience of witnessing the drama of a mother fighting over the estate of her son. An aged mother laying claims to the property of her late son. That came as a big surprise to me and it was something I never envisaged could be my lot. That is a big challenge to me, I don’t need to tell you much about that episode, it is already a story in the public glare. That is one challenge that really surprised me and it still baffles me till this very moment.

    What has all these taught you about life generally?

    It has not changed my perception about life, it only gives me more knowledge and understanding. The experience has allowed me to understand the anatomy of man and what can make man to lose his sense of humanity or gratitude, the crave for material wealth. I will also tell you that the whole scenerio has not slowed me down. I have always been a very busy person; I never raised an issue with my mother-in-law and his brothers. So the whole thing is not an issue to me because they are the ones that raised an issue. So, that issue belongs to the person that raised the issue. It is a headache to them, it is not my headache, I don’t feel it. In Lagos, I have more than 10 properties that belong to me personally. So, why should I be bothered with their headache? I am not fighting because it is Abuga’s estate, I am just concerned about justice. I am concerned about the right thing. The need to set a good precedence. If you as a mother need your son’s estate, you don’t need to drag your daughter in-law to court. It is a simple case because we brought nothing to this world and we won’t take anything away. Even the owner of the mansion this woman is fighting for died and we didn’t bury him with the mansion. Even if you own the whole world, no one will give you the privilege to carry it to your grave. The only thing that my husband took away with him was his good name. He died a great man. That is the only legacy we can hold unto.

    The biggest lesson is for me to be closer to God and keep my relation strong with Him because, everything I have been doing is not by my might at all, it is by the glory of God, and only Him is responsible for my battles. I am sure that even my adversaries themselves would be wondering how is this girl doing it? I can tell you that it is not by my might. What I will just advise is that anybody that finds herself in my shoe should just move very close to God; be closer to God and be focused. Know what you are doing. I have gone through a whole lot of things that I cannot even share publicly. If you are very close to me, you will know what I am talking about but the struggle continues. I will never give up in prayer.

    How did you feel about the judgment?

    I felt so bad because I never expected such a judgment. I never expected that we could get such judgment because we gave them all available facts. Her Lordship saw all the facts. My father-in-law who is a principal actor in the whole case was there, even a renowned legal practitioner like Chief B.O Benson was there to say the property in question belongs to my husband and that he (Chief B.O. Benson) was the one that advised my father-in-law to put my mother-in-law’s name on the purchase ledger of that land. We also tendered a video coverage of the opening of the property which showed all invited guests that came for the opening of the property with other incontestable evidences.

    At the end of the day, I was so embarrassed with the whole thing. People kept calling me, that the court said they should throw me out of the house and everybody just kept calling me because immediately after the judgment was delivered, I had to go back to school in London and my kids also school abroad. I had to fix their school fees and all that. So, I was a bit embarrassed. I never liked the portion that said I was asked to move out of the property. I was never living there in the first place. The last time I was there was after my husband’s death. I was really angry.

    I moved out of the property a year after my husband died (2009) because we were both living in a flat in that property. We had nine flats in that property and rented out eight flats and lived in just one. It was after his demise that I completed the Magodo house and moved in, because it was our plan to move into the Magodo house, before his death. So, I was never thrown out, nobody can throw me out of where I live. This is Abuga’s house; this is where I live (Magodo) and this is where I am going to live for the rest of my life. I am raising my kids up here and I am going to be here for good.

    We hear that you are currently studying Theology in the United Kingdom, is it these problems that led you to seeking the spiritual?

    I am studying Theology and Biblical Studies at the Middlesex University. So, I am partly there and partly here. I have businesses here in Nigeria and I have my children’s education going on over there. I have been in the United Kingdom in the past 27 years; so, UK is more or less like my home. Not just a second home. In my whole life, the time I have spent in the United Kingdom is more than what I have spent in Nigeria. So, London is my home, Nigeria is my home.

    The reason why I chose to study Theology is because I wanted to move closer to God because it is very good for someone to have the fear of God. There are so many things a lot of people do not understand about the Holy Bible. I didn’t understand a lot of things before, I thought the world was a very simple place where you can accommodate everyone based on love and pure heartedness. But going to the seminary has shown me new things in Christ and how one can use the grace of God to relate with men. So, it is basically for me to be closer to God. To seek His face and let every other thing be added unto me.

    When my husband was alive, I was just a nominal Christian. Though I used to go to church, I read my Bible but not to this extent. You know it is something that pushes you into certain things in life. I think God used that challenge to take me out of my comfort zone. It is not that I wasn’t spiritual or deep when my husband was alive but you know, I was a ‘rocker,’ a happy party-loving fellow’ and my husband was a socialite and I always wanted to tag along with him. Me, too, I wanted to be on the same lane with him. But when God decides to pull you off that track, there is little you can do to stop Him.

    After five years of his demise, we learnt that you are trying to start a foundation in his name, how far have you gone with that?

    That is still on track but I can tell you that I remember my husband everyday. I remember him by praying, I pray for him every time. Despite the fact that I am a Christian, I call in Imams to do prayers on his behalf. I try to respect his beliefs just as he does mine. So, he lives on in my mind.

    How is the home front?

    God has been so generous to us and unto Him I return the gratitude. I am giving the children the best they could ever get, even when their dad is not around. So, there is no challenge concerning taking care of my children. They are the only legacy of our union and to God be the glory, He is taking care of our briefs. My kids are okay.

    And how are you coping with running the businesses?

    I have a couple a businesses I do in Nigeria right now. I have a hotel business running in Ajao estate and I have an estate management outfit. I build and sell properties. I develop properties for people. That was the business I was doing with my husband before he died. The hotel business is a new thing, I was building it when he died and today I have raised it up. I have interests in tourism, estate development and general business.

    What do you recall about your husband?

    During his life time, my husband used to celebrate, host my birthday every year. He would call in musicians and we would celebrate it as if we were doing wedding. So, I have missed that aspect of my life. Don’t even go there, don’t let me think about it, don’t let me cry. I have already vowed that I am not going to cry any more in my life. Happiness is my portion.

    It seems you are getting more and more trendy and sexy…how about re-marriage?

    Thanks for the commendation. Re-marriage is not in my dictionary. I am married to my kids. I have a long way to go with those children. Do you know my first boy Mazeed was two years old when his father passed away and the first year birthday of the second boy (Mazourq) was the second day of his demise? I wanted him to wait till June 9 but he said the call was very urgent from Lagos and that was how he left us and never returned.

    So, what marriage would I do again? I am passionately close to my children. I have four children, four happy children—two boys, two girls, Mojadesola, Jolaoluwa, Marzeed and Mazourq. So, what do I need more than happiness? I am contented with what God has given unto me. I am not ready for any marriage again.

    You now seem so deep in faith, you quote lines from the Bible and say things off head. How are you now able to do this?

    Maybe because I went in for a theological education and I am a theologian at the moment.

    Are you thinking of working for God as a pastor or church leader?

    That is not my priority, I am going to go into counselling afterwards. I am also having the theological knowledge as a person in order to help my faith life. Talking about being a church leader, if the Lord permits, I can be going around to minister to souls, especially widows and young couples on how to sustain a happy home with Christ. I don’t have a plan to have a church of my own except God says so. If there is a call, I won’t be able to run from it. But right now, I can’t say I have that calling. I will rather use the experience and my new knowledge as a theologian to develop people in terms of their marriage and spiritual life.

    Between being religious and being spiritual, which one is the best?

    With my new knowledge as a theologian, I think it is good to be spiritual. The Bible says some call me Lord but their heart is very far from me. If you are religious, you can add so many things to it. Your heart may be very far from God and yet you go to church every Sunday and to mosque every Friday. But if you are spiritual, then you can easily connect with your God. However, spirituality is in two ways as well. You know, some people are spiritual for the pure reason of serving God, while some are spiritual for the reason of serving their father-the devil. Here I am talking about being spiritual for God and serving Him righteously.

    It is said that it is when you are in trouble that you discover your true friends, did you experience anything like that?

    Quite a lot. They know themselves because at times, you think you have a friend and that friend is not just your friend. Until certain things crop up that reality hits you, that is when you know who is your friend. I have left everything for God, everybody that has disappointed me I have left for God because there is no way you will plant okro and reap corn. Whatever you sow, you will reap. I have left all my adversaries for God because I am not in a position to judge anybody.

    So, I don’t have enemies. Everyone is a friend; even my mother-in-law is not my enemy because I really loved my husband and she was the one who gave birth to him. so, she is my friend; she is not my enemy.

    Can you ever forgive your mother-in-law for all she did to you and befriend her again?

    Ah, ah, sebi mama will forever be alive. Of course I can always forgive. You know I love my husband and I can do anything for his sake. Apart from that, I have lovely children for them and we are such a big family. We are still one family, so forgiveness is an understatement. I have forgiven her as a Christian.

    You sound so philosophical and mature about life, is that the new you?

    No, I have always been like this o. If you are very close to me, you will know that I have always been like this. You know a lot of people that didn’t know me, once they come closer to me, they do say ‘oh, you are really different from the Biola we often hear about’. So, you are this nice, you are this generous, you are this spiritual and all that. I counsel young couples, even though I have not completed the course, I counsel people. That is me. I will be completing my course next year October by God’s grace. It is a three year programme. It a B.A. Theology and Biblical Studies.