Category: Weekend Treat

  • Bolatito Sowunmi: If a job negates my values, I won’t take it

    Bolatito Sowunmi: If a job negates my values, I won’t take it

    Bolatito Sowunmi, aka Miss Eagle and former Miss Pepeye of the Papa Ajasco and Company Comedy series is a model, actress and entrepreneur. In this interview with Yetunde Oladeinde she takes you into her world, the things that drive her, challenges and memories.

    Tell us about your experience as a model?

    Just like a normal Nigerian model, we get opportunities to either showcase a brand and we do it. At a time, I was doing some runway modeling but in the long run when I got into acting, it took more of my time than the modeling thing. I still take some modeling jobs that have to do with adverts and TV commercials. It has been a reasonable experience; I can’t say it has been the best experience because there is a way the modeling sector is structured that is not very encouraging. I won’t say that having agents is bad but we have a lot of agents instead of modeling managers. Usually, they don’t really care about the models, they are about their own cut and I think those are the things that I don’t really appreciate as a model. There isn’t much support, encouragement and not much training that would have helped you to grow in the sector. You are at the mercy of people that just want to take advantage of you. So far, so good, we are still surviving.

    What were the initial challenges?

    There is no environment that really gives us the platform to grow in this part of the world. The way the models are treated like second class citizens, like someone doing you a favour. You get into a company and they treat you like you are here to beg for a job. I think a model should be respected and that is really lacking in this sector and in this country. They are not paid well. To be a model is not easy, you need money to be beautiful. You need someone to showcase your brand in terms of personality, carriage, poise and then you can’t pay well and when you now pay, you pay through an agent who would do a huge cut. Sometimes, you go and do your work and one year after they haven’t paid you. No platforms to build the knowledge, modeling skills. It is very discouraging.

    What was the first movie or TV role you played?

    I played one TV role but I can’t remember the name. But the one that really built my acting career is Wale Adenuga’s Production Comedy, Papa Ajasco and company where I played the role of Miss Pepeye. That is actually what gave me limelight; it launched me into the acting industry.

    What are some of the memorable moments in the sector?

    I am still in the industry. I feel that when you talk about memories you are no longer there and you are remembering. But, I am still in the industry, still working. So far it’s been awesome. It is something that I enjoy doing, the talent is there and I am inspired. The fact that the sector is growing every day is also inspiring even though every industry comes with its challenges. Also, the advent of the social media has its advantages and its disadvantages. The advantages are that it helps people to see you, see your work and don’t have to wait for people to see what you are capable of. A lot of social media platforms can showcases what you have got inside of you, your talent and that are helping us. On the other hand the disadvantages are that your privacy is worse than before, you can’t even sneeze in peace. Then they turn a lot of negative things on us. It’s been awesome, I am striving every day and I have not gotten to where I want to get to. I am not particular about fame, mine is that I have a talent and I want to showcase it. If there a job that has an identity that negates my values, then I won’t take it. I am not so desperate and if the story is empty I won’t take it. There is a thin line and if you throw your values away, you miss it. I am taking a step at a time.

    Who or what would you describe as the greatest influence in your life?

    I don’t have one particular thing that influences me, except that I am particular about my purpose in life, what God created me for. I hardly get influenced but when I see people who have got great value potentials, talents, creativity they inspire me. I understand that God has put a particular potential, talent and creativity inside of me. I am one actress that you would not see doing what everybody is doing.

    What are some of the other things that occupy your time?

    I am an actress, model and also entrepreneur.  I am also particular about people’s health as a nutritionist.  I have a Ministry to help young people to be better and they tend to come towards me a lot. I  mentor them and have  platforms where I train them on how to build their businesses. I expose them to knowledge that will help them build their brand. I have different platforms like the Bolatito showbiz show every Thursday where I showcase entrepreneurs, share knowledge on how to build businesses that are legitimate as well as enhance talents and potentials. In addition, I do handmade art and craft, beading as well as adire and Ankara styles.

    What are some of the changes that you will like to see in the sector?

    Modelling and acting are all under the entertainment industry.  I would like us to begin to portray our country positively out there. We have a lot of beautiful things around us. Also, the producers should begin to respect one another and give jobs based on merit. They should also pay us well.

    Tell us about the recent movies you have participated in?

    I did one with Ideas Plus titled, Die with you. It was a great cast and awesome movie. It is about a lady who is committed to her relationship but there is a perception. Then another is a Yoruba/ English production called Stuck produced by Victor Oyebode, Alinco. I also just participated in a movie called Ebeye by KMIKE Media. I have so many others that are coming up.

    How do you relax?

    I like to be indoor,  at the beach or any other semi environment.  I hate noise. I am more of a deep thinker and creative person.  I love the beach, the environment just has a way of that works for me and my mind. I also go to watch movies to unwind,  to support my colleagues and hang out with friends.

    What is your favorite travelling destination?

    I am not the travelling type. But, I love France and Paris, been dreaming of those places.

    What type of books do you like to read?

    I like Business books, they give inspiration about how to create things, different opportunities to build on my business, make more income.  I also like to read books on Leadership as well as motivational books.

    What won’t you do in the name of fashion?

    A lot. Firstly, I cannot bleach my skin. Never. I am 100 per cent natural and also tattoo is a no for me.

  • MicCom Golf Chairman Ponnle: Why I’m building monuments in memory of ex-Dangote GMD

    MicCom Golf Chairman Ponnle: Why I’m building monuments in memory of ex-Dangote GMD

    Prince Ayantunde Ponnle, a business mogul and Chairman of Miccom Golf and Country Club situated at Ada, a remote community in Boripe Local Government Area, Osun State, speaks with TOBA ADEDEJI on how the late Group Managing Director of Dangote Cement PLC, Engr Joseph Makoju, facilitated the establishment of the popular golf course.

    WHAT propelled your decision to establish a golf course in this rustic community?

    The passion I had to establish the golf course in Ada was influenced by the late Engr. Joseph Makoju. In fact, he was the big brain theory of the establishment.

    How did you come across each other?

    I became the Chairman of the Board of Directors of the West African Portland Cement Plc (now Lafarge-WAPCO Plc) when Makoju was the Managing Director. The week I resumed, he was talking about Golf to me and encouraged me to start the game of Golf. Later, he came to visit me in my village, Ada, and said, ‘My Chairman, you must start a Golf course here.’ I laughed scornfully.

    But despite that reaction, he kept encouraging me. He told me that I could start small and develop it gradually. Makoju encouraged me and I started. He gave me all the logistics.

    In fact, the professional who designed the golf course, Makoju sought him and paid his fees. It was after I started playing golf that I discovered it is a very good game.

    Do you consider establishing a golf course a worthwhile venture?

    It is worth it! Absolutely! One thing most people don’t know is that the golf game is awesome, especially the health benefits. It has become a part of me. I am 83 now and I still play golf. The game is very helpful to my health.

    So it didn’t even take you months before you started thinking of establishing one?

    Well, I did because I knew it would cost a lot of money. Engr Makoju continued to encourage me. He told me that I didn’t have to spend all the money at once but I could start with three holes to six, nine and then 18.

    How many holes did you then start with?

    We started with three holes. I agreed to build the golf course in March 1997. The foundation stone of the golf course was laid by the Military Administrator of Osun State, Lieutenant Colonel Anthony Obi, on May 2, 1997. The construction work started and continued non-stop, and by December 1997, the game of golf had started on the 9-hole golf course. The golf course is centred around the browns of holes 5 and 7 and tee boxes of holes 6 and 8 situated on the Alaidan farm of the late Chief Job Ponnle, my father.

    How much did it cost to establish the course?

    I cannot estimate because I didn’t put money into it in bulk. I made use of local contractors and local designers. I remember a friend of mine who also built a golf course and awarded the contract to an American at over 20 million dollars. But mine is not up to that and will never be because I engaged Nigerians to design it and the construction was by direct labour.

    MicCom Golf is the first Private golf course in Nigeria with integrated hotel. So much was spent on it. Major national events have been held at MiCom Hotel because of the singular attraction of the MicCom Golf Course.

    Engr Makojo played a vital role in establishing the golf course. Can you speak about your relationship with him?

    Yes, he did. You remember I told you I was appointed Chairman of WAPCO, I think 1993-1995 and he was the Managing Director of WAPCO. That was how we came to know and understood each other. We shared the same values about life and other things. That was how we became friends. My late wife, Comfort Ponnle and family members also played major roles in the development on the golf course.

    How did you feel when you heard that he passed on?

    I felt very bad. That was a man that worked to the very last minute of his life as influential as he was. First he was the MD of WAPCO. From there, he became the Managing-Director of the old NEPA. From there, he became a consultant to General Obasanjo on electricity before Dangote snatched him and he rose to become the Managing Director of Dangote Cement. He was always wearing his T-shirt and trousers except he was on official duties. He was a very simple man.

    Are you planning to immortalise him?

    Yes! I do not want him to be forgotten just like that, so I have built a statute to immortalise him. We have also built a hut in his name around the golf course. And to crown it all, we will continue to do memorial tournament every year in his honour so that his memory will continue to linger.

    The tournament is the first of its kind after his demise?

    Yes. He died about four months ago. This is going to be the first memorial tournament.

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    Who are the people you are expecting to take part in the tournament?

    Oh, we are expecting various golf clubs from all over the country. They will start arriving on the 12th of August, 2022 and we will have a cocktail party on that day. We have the big tournament on Saturday the 13th, and this will be followed by a very big luncheon. We are expecting about 150 golfers here, and that is going to be a lot; the biggest tournament at this time of the year in Nigeria.

    The former governor of Osun state, Prince Olagunsoye Oyinlola is a lover of golf. Will he play any role in the tournament?

    Of course, he is the co-organiser. He is an elder of this club, so we have the Board of Trustees and Oyinlola is the chairman. He comes every day. He is expected to be around too.

    What are the economic benefits of the golf course to Ada?

    I don’t think Ada will ever forget the establishment of this golf club, because on a weekly basis, there are many visitors coming in to play golf. Many of the golfers will buy food in the town, including their children. The youths in the community are also engaged as caddies; the people who carry the golf bag to follow a player. Each caddy makes up to N5,000 on weekends. The golf club has engaged the youths here. There is less yahoo yahoo in the town. Those who are selling food multiply every day because some golfers who are not satisfied with hotel food, go to the local restaurants in town.

    We even train some of these caddies to become golfers. We have produced four professionals from them in this club, and they now train amateurs. In fact, the number one professional golfer for the entire Nigeria happened to be Mr. Sunday Olapade who was trained from being a caddie to that status by MicCom Golf Course. At a point in time, a major institution like the military held its annual golf tournament at MicCom.

    How would you rate patronage, considering that golf is an elite game?

    Patronage is not as we expected because Osun is basically a civil service state and you know people think it is an elite game. Until you start the game, you won’t know that anybody can play it. The golf bag is between N60,000 and N70,000, but beyond the money, people should look at the exciting benefits including the health aspect of it. Another good thing about golf is that as you play the game, it becomes more interesting.

    Going around the golf course, I noticed that there are two tee boxes. Why so?

    The one behind is for professionals and the one in front is for amateurs. Professionals have a long drive. They are trained to do that. Amateurs just play social golf. And then you have the women take off from the front Tee Box.

    That means you are gender sensitive…

    Yes! The women play shorter distances than men.

    Do you think poor roads network is a disadvantage to your business?

    Surely, it is. We asked the government to fix it for us and luckily, the current deputy governor, Benedict Alabi, is a golfer. He promised that government would do it.

    What will now be your plea to the government on this?

    We will continue to appeal to them because golf will put the state on the map of greatness. You know golf is an international game. It attracts businessmen, industrialists and other renowned people to the state, so it is a great advantage to the government. We hope they understand more than they understand now.

    How many holes do you play daily?

    Not every day. I used to play every day before. At my age now, I play two times a week and I play 18 holes.

    Do you still find it interesting, even at 82?

    Oh yes! I will recommend golf to Nigerians, especially civil servants. It keeps them fit but most of them complain that it is expensive. Meanwhile, the money they spend playing golf is not as much as the one they spend at the bar. You drink and also go to the hospital. If you don’t play golf you will play something else. You will carry women and get unwanted children.

  • Girls, stop disfiguring your lives with ungodly s3x!

    Girls, stop disfiguring your lives with ungodly s3x!

    DEAR Evangelist Temilolu, You are an amazing woman God has sent to this generation of youth! May God bless you indeed for your consistent messages that touch even a man like me! You are wonderful! Please keep up the good work!

    Olatunji Liasu

     

    Dear Ma,

    I came across your article and couldn’t help sending you a message after all visiting your Facebook timeline! You’re amazing ma! How you preach s3xual purity doggedly moves me! This is the path I’ve been called to and seeing your passion greatly and deeply inspires me! Thanks for all you do ma!

    Victory Umoru

     

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I bless the day I saw your facebook account under “people you may know.”Hmmmmmm…I would have lost my virginity that very day but God used you as my Guardian Angel! I love you and will always follow your words of advice! Please don’t stop writing on chastity. God bless you ma!

    Michelle Lawrence

     

    Kingdom greetings Apostle,

    May God Almighty bless you real good! I thank God we still have women who stand for the truth, who still proclaim that virginity is virtue and s3xual purity is a must in a life of a believer! Glory be to God! I am learning a lot from your articles!

    Tlotlisang Mapitse (Lesotho, South Africa)

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    On a more serious note, even if God forgives you after engaging in premarital s3x over and over again, what about the evil baggage you load into your life through transference of spirits through s3xual intercourse? Or you didn’t know that s3xual intercourse is spiritual intercourse, spiritual exchange? Good and evil are transferred into one’s life and the evil comes with a legion of demons and raging spirits!

    Do you think it’s easy to get rid of them? Oh! What a pity! May you not spend 20 years grounded on one spot! Too many men and women are finished before their middle age and roaming aimlessly in cyclic problems because they slept with the wrong person(s)! Have you ever wondered why some girls/ladies would do crazy things with their boyfriends even when they know it could spell doom for them? Just like the case of the Akwa-Ibom girl whose boyfriend recorded their s3x session and it later went viral! It would be on the internet forever, even her children would see it! Imagine what she showcased to the world because of a guy whose destiny or destination she knows nothing about! Can they still be together now? NO! Can she be happy right now? NO! Can she ever be confident to come out and run for a public office? NO! Are her parents proud of her now? I very much doubt!

    Once your s3x partner’s spirit mingles with yours through s3xual intercourse- it’s another ball game entirely! If he’s spiritually-stronger than you and unfortunately for you occultic, he could turn you to his s3x slave and empty you of what God has deposited in you to settle you for life! I’m talking about your shinning, glory, stars, spiritual energy to effortlessly do what so many people cannot achieve! Be careful! Be patient! Stop messing around with your life in the name of love!!!

    May the mighty power of God uproot greed from your souls because a lot of you engage in premarital s3x in exchange for favours! Do you know that’s prostitution? You invite unnecessary trouble into your life and start crying that a force is always trying to suffocate you when sleeping; some spirit is always having s3x with you in the dream and so much more! Yet you keep defiling God’s temple! You can’t be serious!

    Nevertheless the foundation of god standout sure, having this seal; the lord knoweth them that are his. And, let everyone that Namath the name of Christ depart from iniquity. 2 Timothy 2:19

    Depart…depart…depart…from s3xual immorality and every act of unholiness! May your enemy, the devil know the bitter shame of defeat over your lives and may his everlasting shame know no end in Jesus mighty name!

    May God strengthen every virgin to remain so till her wedding night and may God give every delayed destiny fire to fly in Jesus mighty name!

     

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    FINAL WORD

    Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital s3x. Stay chaste!

    Evangelist Temilolu O. Okeowo is the founder and Head girl of The Girls Apostolic Ministry of All Nations, an apostolic ministry for girls in their teens and twenties, and Girls Club of Nigeria, an NGO for Nigerian girls aimed at influencing a positive change. She published her debut-book for girls – THE BEAUTY OF LIFE – as an undergraduate and has other books and publications. She was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2003 and is a Certified Forensics Examiner.

  • Five categories of singles

    Five categories of singles

    For some people, singlehood is a phase they can’t wait to get over while others want to relish every moment of it as it’s quite tasking finding a ‘perfect’ match.

    Below are five interesting categories of single people. And if you are a single person, you may just want to find out which you belong of the listed categories:

    The unbothered ones

    Indeed, these set of people truly don’t give a hoot about love, dating and matters of the heart generally.

    For them snuggling up next to another (a partner) and all the lovey-dovey displays exhibited by couples demands too much efforts which they don’t have to give or would rather not spare.

    These one, the happy-go-lucky fellows would rather enjoy the solitude of their spaces.

    The entangled ones often referred to as people in ‘situationships’

    Now, these people are those caught in a fix. On one hand it may seem they’re in a ‘relationship’ as do practically all the things that real couples do. But on the other hand, there’s not been an official statement or proposal from the male especially to that effect.

    Although, these happens more with the females but it doesn’t rule out the fact that men also don’t get caught up in entanglements or situationships.

    They however, continue with the hopes that what they have would sometime metamorphose to a real relationship.

    Oftentimes than not, their hopes get shattered as the one being shown more love may just have their eyes on someone else.

    And when he or she gets tired of having to play ‘partner’ to the other, they move on to something more real and definite with another.

    The dreamers

    These ones belong to another world entirely, that of fantasy. They are in a class of their own albeit single, always picture themselves in that fairytale love story.

    And for them, peradventure someone comes along for a relationship but doesn’t exude any of the fairy tale vibes they have painted in their minds; they quickly excuse themselves from such a scenario.

    For those that try to endure a little while, they are usually always full of complaints about their partners not being romantic and all sorts.

    The confused ones

    These one are torn between staying and enjoying their singlehood or hopping on to another relationship with a love interest after a breakup.
    This group of people want to enjoy love but are scared of being served ‘breakfast’ so, most times, they lean back and would rather not give in to that person who’s been on ‘their matter’ especially as a result of heartbreak(s).

    The ‘God whens’

    The catchphrase “God when” over time has become popular on social media. It’s used by social media users to basically to question God on when He intends to do for them what He has done for others, just because whatever they happened on, could be a lovely write-up, video or photo that their heart craves for.

    So, for the “God Whens” they can’t wait to be the ones being admired and hailed whenever they come across a couple doing all lovey-lovey things or even giving/ receiving gifts from their partners; or playing together and all sorts.

    They desperately want to do ‘weather for two’ with the love of their lives.

  • May your daughter not end up a disaster!

    May your daughter not end up a disaster!

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, Thank you very much for your precious advice because they are not only helping the young people of Nigeria but also helping the young Congolese. May the God you elevate in your publications remember you in Jesus name!

    Elope Julia Malundama

    Dear Madam Temilolu,

    This is just to let you know “I love you die!” I mean i love you too much! You’re are one in a million! The bitter truth that can rarely be heard or taught even by our religious leaders is what you bombard us with. Please don’t stop ma! May God bless you ma!

    Naomi Yusuf

    Dear Evangelist Temilolu,

    You are indeed an Apostle of Chastity! I just read one of your articles and I must say I’m so touched! God will bless you ma! I promise to keep my virginity till my wedding night…so help me God! But ma, it’s really hard to see a guy who will agree to wait till your wedding night but I shall keep praying to God daily to send a good guy my way! Thanks ma.

    Joy Yaba

    Dearest Parents,

    This is a very serious matter and nothing to do with sexual purity this time! An 18-year-old girl who has found it difficult for months to get over a guy who refuses to have a romantic relationship with her accuses him of raping her and he gets arrested! I’d leave out his ordeal! But for the said meeting point- the guy’s friend’s house which had CCTV cameras, this guy would probably be chilling in jail now-awaiting his trial!

    Parents…parents…mothers especially- please can you tell your daughters there’s nothing wrong in rejection and disappointment? Please can you just tell them they can make the most of such situations and get a deal 10 times better? And can you just drum it into their ears that there’s time for everything and to have the very best of life, they must prioritize it?

    You see the reason I will keep saying teenagers do not need to be in a romantic relationship! They simply lose all sense of proportion and expend too much energy and passion on inanities-much to their detriment, losing focus on laying a solid foundation for their future in a highly-competitive world where only the fittest can survive.

    Check out the imagination she should be using to acquire solid grades, invent, shatter glass ceilings and achieve what no Nigerian woman has achieved globally etc. Instead, she’s so full of bitterness to the point of totally destroying a destiny! What a wicked soul!

    Believe  me, when i was approached  to counsel her and I was wondering the type of people who raised her, I was duly informed that she was away from home for 5 days without her mother knowing her whereabouts!  My shoulders dropped! To think this same woman fiercely backed her daughter up saying her daughter wouldn’t lie about such until the evidence was produced! She then confessed that she just wanted to punish him. Haaa…

    Females more often than not turn out to become a product of what their mothers instilled in them and what they watched her do while growing up. I can also tell you that girls whose fathers suffocate with love and attention rarely feel let down by men! They will always shake off the dust of pain and rejection and aim higher because their no.1 hero already laid a solid foundation for that and I don’t need to tell you they turn out  very successful- with or without a man!

    Who do you want your daughter to become in future? An emotionally-unstable lady, a nervous wreck, a satanic manipulator, a weapon in the hands of the devil or an empire, an institution, a fortress, an amazon, a spiritual house, a power house of glory which the world including  PATRIARCHY will salute till Jesus comes? You’d have to choose 1 and it’s really up to you ma! According to my high school Yoruba teacher- “kosi r’eje n’nu photo, bo ba se joko lo se ma ba ‘ra e!” As you lay your bed, so you lie on it!

    May our children not make us cry in regret in future! May they turn out to be great signs and wonders in Jesus name!

     

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  • Girls…girls…ladies….stop violating your destiny!!!

    Girls…girls…ladies….stop violating your destiny!!!

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu, I’ve just read your post on virginity and I want to say thank you. Though it looks like we lack pleasures, not current, not trending, stupid etc, I am certain, just as you are that the latter shall be glorious! Thank you for your invaluable preachings on sexual purity!

    Pat

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I just want you to know I agree with your priceless teachings and I am a witness to the rewards of living a chaste life! I waited till 34 to get married and my fiancé and i never compromised. I clearly understood where I was coming from, I wanted to change some patterns and I never wanted to walk anyone’s path. I have tasted suffering, rejection, loneliness in life because of my refusal to engage in sex before marriage! I have been offered to be laid on several occasions just to get a job even with a 1st Class and a Master’s degree but I would always say to myself, “it’s too late to compromise…” The long and short of it is that I never regretted my decision and God rewarded me! Please keep up the good work. May God continue to increase in you in Jesus mighty name!

    Anita Ogbonna

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I am a 25-year-old graduate.I graduated from the University 2 years ago. I met a guy after my service year around April last year. As I write this right now I  still feel so ashamed of my self. I can’t stop regretting everything that happened between this guy and I. After five months of our relationship, he asked for sex. I didn’t want to accept at first. Then he began disturbing me and giving me the cold shoulder! I was so blind I never knew that was a red flag. After so much persuasion, I finally accepted we should have sex. After the sexual intercourse, he stopped picking my calls, he blocked my number on this phone and blocked me on all his social media handles. Truly, guys change drastically after sex. I feel so ashamed right now especially when I learnt from someone that he is makes jest of me when having a conversation with his friends. I learnt my lesson in a very hard way. One of my friends counseled that a man that truly loves you will wait till your  wedding night,not asking for sex in a relationship. A few months ago, I started following your articles. Though i am not a virgin, i feel so ashamed of myself. Because I allowed myself to be deceived by an ordinary man, a mere mortal! Truly, chastity is the best and the word of God is the truth! Now i understand why the scripture says we should flee from all forms of fleshly lust. I cry a lot especially at night because the pain is still deep in my heart. In fact, I’m crying as i write and I pray God forgives me and sends the right man destined for me. Right now

    I will wait patiently till my wedding night. Please let other girls see this and learn from my experience. Also, please remember me in your prayers. Thanks ma.

    Girls…girls…girls,

    Hmmm…I’ve responded appropriately to the above lady and I’m sure she would be fine!!! But what do you expect from a guy who has no serious lifetime commitment/contract with you (like marriage) to do when he’s surrounded by too many girls/ladies who are in fact chasing him to get laid by him? I’m so sorry about what happened to the lady above but quite frankly what do you expect when you choose the devil over God? Of course, you get nothing but shame, reproach and agony!!! I keep saying because your pastors don’t emphasize on ungodly sex doesn’t mean it’s okay for you to engage in it! Some of you are unfortunately so bland and blind in spirit such that you place your entire existence on guys and go about like life wouldn’t be worth living if you don’t have one boyfriend you’re sleeping with! What in the world has come over you??? Some of you feel if a guy promises to marry you like most of them do- you might as well let him have carnal knowledge of of you! May you not sleep with 50 men before age 22 and end up with none of them in marriage! YES!!! I know what I’m talking about! Can you please have some shame? It’s absolutely wrong for a guy who’s not your husband to see your nakedness! Some ladies have even forgotten the number of guys they’ve slept with all in the name of having a relationship! May your destiny not be scattered to pieces!!!

    • To Be Continued

     

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    FINAL WORD

    Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. Stay chaste!

    Evangelist Temilolu O. Okeowo is the founder and Head girl of The Girls Apostolic Ministry of All Nations, an apostolic ministry for girls in their teens and twenties, and Girls Club of Nigeria, an NGO for Nigerian girls aimed at influencing a positive change. She published her debut-book for girls – THE BEAUTY OF LIFE – as an undergraduate and has other books and publications. She was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2003 and is a Certified Forensics Examiner.

  • QUEENSLY OMOGBAI: My turning point was covering a story and getting injured

    QUEENSLY OMOGBAI: My turning point was covering a story and getting injured

    Queensly Omogbai is a qualified UX/UI Designer who is currently working at one of Nigeria’s leading FinTech Companies, Jostpay Limited. She started off as a journalist before delving into the digital world.
    In this interview with Olaitan Ganiu, Queensly talks about why she left the newsroom for web technologies, her turning point as well as her strong passion for the girl-child.

    WHAT inspires the things you do?

    The inspiration started from secondary school when I was the Vice President of the Press Club. Then, when l was in the university, I was a production assistant for a program called, Campus life. This was a turning point in my career. It was a groundbreaking experience. I did my National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) in the Public Relations Unit of Lagos State Emergency Management Agency (LASEMA). At the same time, l was a presenter in Eko FM. After the completion of my service year, I was employed as a Communication Officer at a Law Firm, Astrea Partners.  I am currently working at a fintech company, JostPay as a Senior User Experience (UX) designer.

    You studied Mass Communication, what inspired you to go into UX design?

    Communication is a universal language which facilitates services to every establishment. The idea of information sharing will enable me to explain my work clearly and convincingly. One of the things that inspired me was the fact that UX design is concerned and deals with users, which allows me to make use of my experience and qualifications in communication. Also, I understand how crucial, communication of ideas and thought processes is key for any organization or with the end-users.

    How has Mass Communication helped you as a UX designer?

    To make a product successful, its requires effective communication with end-users. Each product through its interface design needs to tell users what it can do for them, how they can use it and why they should really care about using that product.  UX design is basically creating user-friendly intangible products. This can only be done effectively by gathering adequate and effective information about the user which is a similar rule in journalism ‘knowing your audience’. This and so much more of my skill acquired in the field of mass communication has proven effective in UX design

    How would you compare both sectors?

    In comparison, I do believe that they are two different sectors. However, digital technology has a

    solid background in communications. So many founding rules adopted by the tech industry are embedded in communications. While mass communication will not be effective without digital technology. I will say they are different but strongly interwoven.

    What was the turning point in your career?

    The turning point for me was when I had to a cover story that got me injured during my internship in a media house. Then I started having doubts about the risk for journalists in Nigeria. I started doing research on a modern career that could be rewarding. There is no better time to become a UX designer, here you find global demand, countless job opportunities and low barriers to entry.

    How were you able to secure a job as a qualified UX designer?

    Wow! Far easier than I expected, there is no need for a degree, in any field in tech, as long as you can prove that you are good at what you do. Nobody is disturbing or asking for long years of experience. This  makes it a sector that you can grow in. The demand for UX designers is steadily increasing. LinkedIn even ranked UX design as one of the Top 5 in-demand skills as of 2020.

    What dreams did you have while growing up?

    I have always wanted to be a restaurateur and a media practitioner as far as secondary school. I actually wanted to be like Amanpour after seeing her covering one of the ‘Jos Crisis’ then . I also love experimenting with food and trying new recipes. I am the only female in my family. So, I always want to feed everyone in the family.

    So far, tell us about some of your achievements?

    This include consulting with clients to understand their goals, explaining user research results to internal and external stakeholders, developing personas and usage scenarios, conducting usability testing, creating product prototypes. We have also been teaching young adults about personal development and counselling them on challenging life issues as well as educating young pupil of prospective careers in tech.

    What are some of the challenges encountered?

    Some of the challenges is that most people do not have a good understanding of the Technology Industry, which in turn discourages people from venturing into it. Another challenge is poor electricity supply and internet accessibility, which is a constant struggle compared to our counterparts abroad. You will be able to solve most of the challenges, but some will really stress you.

    So, what has been your greatest motivation throughout your journey?

    The need to always want to create some apps that make people’s life much better. The smile that comes when you have given people satisfaction from your little innovation has been a great motivation. As UX designers’ problem-solving skills become even more valuable when they need to find a way to not only help the average user but also identify and solve the usability difficulties that come with other demographics.

    With the recently Female Bills rejected by the government, do you think Nigerian women are given enough opportunities to grow?

    Today, gender bias continues to create huge barriers for many women in Nigeria. Ongoing struggles include ensuring equal economic opportunities, educational equity, and an end to gender-based violence in Nigeria. I do believe the chances for women are better than what it was before, but we still have a long way to go.

    What advice do you have for the girl-child who wants to go into the sector?

    My advice is that if a girl-child wants to go into the Tech sector, it is important to sensitize parents and wards. Sometimes after mentoring, I have teenage girls come to me, to counsel them on how to speak to their parents on choosing a career in tech. Most female children are not encouraged or given the necessary support in such decisions. Also they can join clubs or groups (physically or online) that can foster their ambition.

    What lessons has life taught you?

    Life lesson which I always preach is to have principles, no matter the situation or circumstance you find yourself you will be able to overcome it.  ‘It’s never too late to be what you might’ve been.’ – George Eliot.

    What are some of the things that you would like to do in future?

    I will like to establish a brand that mentors and give opportunities for a career in tech, a facility that helps shape young minds, especially in Africa. Also have innovative product designs that will help make human life much better.

  • KEMI OGUNKOYA: Let’s play value card, enough of gender card

    KEMI OGUNKOYA: Let’s play value card, enough of gender card

    All over the world, there is a major problem of leadership, there are several misconceptions and many in the corridors of power are overwhelmed with challenges.
    Kemi Ogunkoya is the founder and CEO of LeaderX. A leadership strategist who has been in sector for about three decades; she worked with many phenomenal leaders as a trainer, advisor and consultant. In this interview with Yetunde Oladeinde she opens up on her experiences, challenges, need to fill the gaps and how the idea to create an app called LeaderX started.

    WHAT is unique about the Leadership you unveiled?

    With LeaderX people don’t have to break the bank anymore to access Leadership. Short term development interventions may cost between 10,000 to 15,000 dollars or even more. If you spend 10 minutes every day in a year, you would have spent over 60 hours developing your Leadership skills. As against, planning to go for a four hour programme that never happened. Access is easy because it is in the pocket, very close to you on your mobile device. It is also good for Organisations; they have a pathway on the app. We call it the enterprise plan and Organisations are able to enroll their people on the App, such that they can develop their leadership skills. I believe that there is a pathway for Leadership development. For people to become better leaders at work, to develop personal leadership because it begins with self. Until, they begin to develop personal Leadership, they would struggle to develop business leadership. They cannot go to work and become magicians and can’t give what they do not have. So, it definitely it begins with self. LeaderX is that solution, that intervention that makes Leadership development more sustainable.  It is the first of its kind in Nigeria and Africa. I would also say that this was proudly done by Nigerians, the entire app is 100 per cent Nigerian and I am so proud of what we have been able to accomplish.

    What were the challenges encountered in the process of putting this together?

    Top on the challenge was finding people within. We definitely are experiencing a huge talent drain. So, finding people who had the right skills, the right competence, right mind set was a challenge.  But, we were able to overcome this. A number of people has asked, is it Indians that developed it, but it is proudly Nigerian.

    What motivated the idea?

    As a Leadership development strategist, I get to move around a lot. Sometimes, I am in Lagos, Kano, Abuja and then the demands keep piling and I realised that there is a need and this need is bigger than just me. There is no way that I can be in a thousand and one places at the same time. But, if you are able to reach more people, be able to deal with the Leadership gap and remove the barrier to accessing Leadership development and create more opportunities.

    Would this replace Mentoring?

    I don’t think anything would replace the place of mentorship. But, we score this as a personal trainer that helps you get focus, achieve your dreams and also help you get better.

    How do you feel unveiling this?

    Oh my goodness! I am so honored and delighted doing this. It’s been a long journey getting into the tech space. It has been an Honour and I am grateful that we are doing this.  I am grateful that we are going beyond barriers’, going beyond stereotypes and we are able to do this. I am also proud that enough of importing everything from outside Nigeria and Africa. Now, we also get to export a resource from Nigeria to the rest of the world.

    The night has been very long, the day also has been very long but it has been a very worthwhile course. Right from the very first moment that the idea was dropped in my spirit and through all the various transitions, the twists and turns as well as the victories and road blocks.

    For over a decade, I have worked with phenomenal leaders in various walks of life, industry, countries and continent as a trainer, advisor and consultant. I have different proffered solution to their leadership development need. I have seen firsthand some of their pains, joys, victories, transformations, frustrations, desires and it pretty much cut across different areas of life. Whether they are trying to live a more fulfilling life, becoming better versions of themselves, leading and growing their organizations or looking for ways to accelerate their competence. Taking their leadership to the next level or maybe they are young leaders trying to find their path.

    There are definitely numerous stories to tell, stories that can never be fully exhausted. These stories live with me; they inspire me to keep pushing on the agenda of demystifying and democratizing leadership.

    As we look around us, there is obviously a leadership gap and one thing is obviously, leadership development can no longer be treated as a one night stand.

    It’s coming shortly after COVID, when everyone went to the Digital space. Can we say that COVID inspired the idea?

    Well, when we look at the changes that happened in the course of COVID, they were changes that would still come. But COVID was like a seed that made it ripen, thinking of how we have been able to adapt to the Digital world. It has influenced, but beyond that is a need to demystify and democratise Leadership.

    What advice do you have for Women who like to avoid the tech space?

    There is nothing that you put your mind to that you cannot surmount. Value for me comes first. So, we have to look at it based on the value we have and that should be the focus.

    Where do you see LeaderX in the next few months?

    I see LeaderX as the resource that is being absorbed all over the world as the go to Leadership resource. I know for sure that when people become better at who they are, they also become better at what they do. Research also states that globally about 90 per cent of people believe that developing their leadership skills would help them live more fulfilling and successful lives personally and professionally.

    On the business scene, about 83 per cent of businesses say that it is important to develop leaders at every level. More than 77 per cent of organizations report that leadership is lacking and less than five per cent of companies need leadership development at all levels. We definitely see the gaps, we see the effect of the shortfalls, the cracks are beginning to show and they are widening. We cannot afford to continue to see the effect of this lacuna.

    Today’s world demand a world for leadership to be a 24/7 activity. Therefore the traditional approaches alone do not seem to provide the adequate level of intervention needed. We started by understanding why this gaps exist, and its widening despite the awareness of leadership development. We went digging, conducted lots of interviews, did questionnaires, collated, analysed and reviewed. In the end, we identified 3 major constraints as time, finance and access.

    How would you assess women’s leadership and the small representatives on boards?

    I think sometimes, the reason why we have been able to see some form of representation has been because of the numbers and percentages dedicated to women. But I think the conversation has to go beyond that. For me, I say enough of the gender card. We need to play the value card. We should ask whoever has value to bring it to the table. I remember when we started; a particular client looked at me and asked, do women think leadership. And, I genuinely saw his thoughts and it was until value was being displayed that he said wow. So, I think we have to step away from that gender card; we have played that for way too long. Even as women, we have internalized it for way too long and even when the opportunities come, we feel that do, we deserve it. We need to develop that level of self awareness and come from that place where we genuinely see and receive people in the place of value irrespective of diversity, be it gender, nationality or age.

    Tell us about the feedback from the research done?

    We carried out a survey last year and we asked over 2000 professionals how much time they spend currently developing their leadership skills. Over 67 per cent fell between 0- 3 hours weekly. Yet, they desire to invest more of their human capital in developing their leadership skills. Then we have access. Finding more class leadership interventions can be nerve racking and finding interventions that provide sustainable access is almost no-existent. Let’s not forget the changes in the demography of the work space today. We saw these huge challenges; we understood the peculiarities and the implications of letting the statuesque remain. We had to do something and that quest to find solutions and consistently help leaders develop speed, agile effective and sustainable leadership to fulfill their dreams and achieve their goals berth LeaderX. It is an innovative 360 degrees, end to end on the go leadership development intervention

  • My encounter with bandits who attacked Buhari’s convoy — Katsina resident

    My encounter with bandits who attacked Buhari’s convoy — Katsina resident

    Bandits’ attack on President Muhammadu Buhari’s convoy in Katisna State on Tuesday came as a rude shock to many Nigerians who are thankful that there was no life lost in the incident. But an indigene of the community where the attack took place said it was not only the people on the President’s convoy that were lucky to escape death from the attack as he and a few other residents had encountered the gunmen moments before they launched the deadly attack. AUGUSTINE OKEZIE writes on the twin attacks carried out by terrorists in that particular area the same day, culminating in the death of two policemen, including an Assistant Commissioner of Police.

    THE nation was jolted on Tuesday by the news of an attack by bandits around Dutsin-ma community on the advance team of President Muhammadu Buhari’s convoy including security guards as well as protocol and media officers ahead of the President’s Sallah trip to Daura, Katsina State.

    A statement from the President’s Senior Special Assistant on Media and Publicity, Mallam Garba Shehu, said the hoodlums ambushed and opened fire on the approaching convoy at Kun Kana, a village in Safana Local Government Area, but were repelled by the military and DSS men escorting the convoy.

    The statement said the President was not in the convoy and that two people were injured during the attack.

    A resident of Kun Kana community, Jamilu Aliyu Charanci, who witnessed the incident, told our correspondent that he and a few other people were going to Dutsin-ma from nearby Kankara village when they saw the bandits crossing the road on motorcycles in droves and causing everyone to scamper into safety.

    Charanci said that while some of them ran to nearby Turare village, others hid in the bush. Shortly after, he said, the advanced convoy of the President passed and ran into the bandits, who immediately opened fire.

    Charanci said: “We were all terrified as we had the sound of gunshots. I was practically freezing where I hid myself because we feared that a lot of lives must have been lost.

    “It turned out, however, that no life was lost in that particular incident. I was also able to make my journey to Dutsin-ma because a military convoy cleared the way.”

    But it was not all uhuru as on the same day, Aminu Umar, an Assistant Commissioner of Police (ACP) and Area Commander of the Nigeria Police Force, was killed together with one other police officer by bandits in Zakka Forest, also close to Dutsin-ma.

    Spokesperson of the Katsina State Police Command, Gambo Isah, who confirmed the killing in a statement issued late Tuesday night, said the terrorists numbering about 300 ambushed ACP Umar and his team.

    He said: “At about 11.30hrs, a distress call was received that terrorists numbering over 300, on motorcycles, shooting sporadically with AK 47 rifles and General Purpose Machine Guns (GPMG), ambushed ACP Aminu Umar, Area Commander, Dutsin-ma, and his team, while on clearance operation of recalcitrant bandits/terrorists, in Zakka forest, Safana LGA of Katsina State.

    “Consequently, the Area Commander and one other gallantly lost their lives during an exchange of gunfire.”

    He added that the Commissioner of Police, CP Idrisu Dabban Dauda, on behalf of the officers and men of the Command, expressed deep sympathy for the families of the deceased and prayed God for the repose of their souls.

    He reaffirmed the Command’s commitment to the ongoing onslaught against terrorism in the state until it is completely routed out.

     

    Residents endorse cancellation of Durba

    Katsina residents have endorsed the cancellation of the annual Sallah festival, Durba, over rising security challenges in the state which peaked with Tuesday’s attack on Buhari’s convoy.

    Announcing the suspension of the Durba festival in a statement issued by its Assistant Secretary, Alhaji Sule Mamman-Dee, the Katsina Emirate’s Council’s said the decision was taken in view of the current security situation in the state.

    According to Mamman-Dee, the Emir, Alhaji Abdulmumini Kabir-Usman, expressed deep concern over the security situation in parts of the emirate, saying that he would only attend the Eid prayers on Saturday.

    He explained that the Emir advised Muslims to continue to pray for the return of peace to the state and country in general.

    The spokesperson of Daura Emirate Council in the state, Alhaji Usman Ibrahim, told newsmen in Daura that the council had also suspended the durbar across the emirate.

    According to Ibrahim, the Emir, Alhaji Faruk Umar-Faruk, directed all the district heads under the emirate to perform their Eid-El Kabir prayers in their domains.

    Ibrahim said that the Emir had also called on prospective pilgrims to pray for the peace and well-being of the state and the country.

    The Nation investigation revealed that the durbar festival dates back to hundreds of years and involves the display of horse riding skills by districts and nobility households, who pay homage to the Emir on Eid day, known in Katsina as `Hawan Daushe’.

    During the Durba, the emir usually leads a contingent of members of the Emirate Council, district and village heads in a procession of horses known as `Hawan Bariki’ to pay homage to the state governor a day after the Eid.

    Mamman Dee told The Nation that the Durbar festival is an annual religious and equestrian celebration in several cities of Nigeria including Kano, Katsina, Sokoto, Zazzau and Bida. The festival, he said, marks the end of Ramadan and also coincides with the Muslim festivities of Eid al-Adha and Eid al-Fitri.

    He said: “It begins with prayers, followed by a colourful parade of the Emir and his entourage on horses, accompanied by musicians, and ending at the Emir’s palace.

    ”Durbar festivals are organised in almost all cities of northern Nigeria and has become a major tourist attraction.

     

    Concerns over possible loss of revenue

    The suspension of the Durba celebration in Katsina State due to insecurity though welcomed by many indigenes of the state because of what they have been passing through, there is a sizeable concern also about the possible loss of revenue and several other economic benefits derivable from foreign visitors who throng the palace every year to grace the occasion

    Spokesperson of Daura Emirate Council in the state, Alhaji Usman Ibrahim, while admitting the loss of revenue from tourism and sale of artifacts, insisted that security concerns supercede every other worry because, according to him, it is only in a stable and safe environment that Durba can thrive.

    He said: “Peace and harmony is greater than any other thing. Our state has been engrossed in security challenges and banditry attacks.

    “Just imagine the recent attacks on Buhari’s convoy and the killing of the Police Area commander. Who is it that would not feel the pains?”

    The Nation recalls that over 15,000 internally displaced persons (IDPs), who were victims of banditry attacks, are camped in Jibia Local Government Area of Katsina State and have been appealing to the state government to come to their aid by deploying adequate security personnel to their respective communities so they could return to their ancestral homes to resume farming activities.

    These displaced persons who are mostly farmers from over seven villages of Kwari, Zango, Shimfida, Tsauni, Far Faru, Tsambe and Gurbin Magariya, had their communities invaded by gunmen otherwise known as bandits.

    Scores of them, mostly children, took refuge in Government Girls Secondary School, Jibia Local Government, with over 22 persons reportedly dying from hypertension, starvation and non-availability of medical services in the camps.

    The Chairman of the Camp, Sa’ad Salisu, expressed worries over the absence of security personnel around the camps, stating that they have been taking refuge at the primary school since early this year following a surge of attacks on their communities by gunmen suspected to be herdsmen.

    He added that over 3,000 children who are currently in the camp could not have access to learning facilities following the inability of the state government to provide a makeshift school in the camp.

     

    Kunkuna residents task government on security

    Welcoming the suspension of the Durba, residents of Kunkuna community in Safana Local Government Area said their security is more important than the festival.

    They, however, called on the Federal Government to take the war against terrorism to the terrorists’ enclaves located on the fringes of the forests around the communities The residents, who spoke to The Nation correspondent during his visit to the area, also condemned the recent attack by gunmen on the advance convoy of President Muhammadu Buhari.

    The residents said the attack launched by the terrorists were designed to test the capacity of the Nigerian security architecture, adding that the Federal Government had failed to tackle them squarely hence the escalation of the attacks

    amilu Aliyu Charanchi and Ambassador Umar Ahmad Jibril, both residents of the area, described the attack on the President’s advance convoy as the latest in the series of criminal activities by the outlaws who have continued to terrorise communities in the Northwest and parts of the Northentral region of the country.

     

    Civil society organisations in Katsina react to attacks

    The twin attacks in the state on the same day has sparked reactions from different quarters, especially with the blames pouring in on lapses by the state and federal governments as well as lack of synergy amongst the various security agencies that are operating in the state

    The Coalition of Civil Society Organisations (CSOs) in Katsina State on Wednesday called on the Federal Government to justify the money spent on security by ensuring safety of lives and property in Nigeria.

    The Coalition made the demand while reacting to Tuesday’s death of ACP Umar in a gun duel with terrorists and the attack on Buhari’s advanced convoy.

    The coalition in a statement by its state chairman, Abdulrahman Abdullahi, lamented the death of the Police Area Commander, insisting that the incident spoke volume of the inadequacies in the nation’s security system.

    The statement reads: “It is disturbing that government’s inability to provide our security men with working tools and chase bandits to their enclaves is continually resulting in loss of gallant officers like ACP Aminu Umar and other innocent Nigerians.

    “The bandits are becoming stronger and bolder by the day. The fight should be taken to their enclaves, using land and air forces. But unfortunately, the Air Force and army are not striking with the needed force.

    “You would see fighter jets flying the sky, but when you ask for casualties, you can’t see any. Bandits are attacking innocent people few miles away from military bases but no intervention.

    “Money is spent on a daily basis for security but the situation is worsening every day. It is high time the President and the National Assembly began to query why there are no commensurate results to security investment. These senseless killings must stop.

    “The attack on President Muhammadu Buhari’s advance team by audacious bandits in Katsina State confirms our rotten security architecture and testifies that no one else is safe in this country.

    “Although the temerity of the attacks seems to be astonishing, we all saw it coming.”

    The coalition further called on government to review the present security architecture with a view to containing the incessant terrorist attacks and killing of innocent Nigerians.

    They further insisted that the huge amount of money spent by government on the security sector has also made no positive impact.

    The coalition opined that the bandits are no longer confronting only hapless villagers and farmers, having crippled their dwindling economy and taxed the rural communities, the people are getting kidnapped silently without gunshots.

    Another civil society activist, Dr Bashir Ruwagodia, told The Nation that the Federal Government is never serious about dealing with the security challenges facing Katsina State

    He said: “The President is from Katsina State, yet no concerted effort is being made to tackle the state’s security challenges. Wit jus less than a year to leave office and as a retired army general, it is his last chance to salvage the state from the present security mess.

    “The President should call the service chiefs to order or even rejig the security architecture in the state and country. We in Katsina State are increasingly becoming hopeless about improved security situation as provided by governments.”

    The activist also flayed the lack of synergy among the various security agencies in the state and called for simultaneous security operations against bandits in the Northwest using a combined operation by the various agencies

    Special Adviser to Governor Aminu Bello Masari, Ibrahim Ahmad Katsina, at a two-day security awareness workshop for local government administrators held at Local Government Commission Headquarters Katsina, said the state government is committed to securing the lives and property of the people and their standard of living.

    He said: “In this fight against insecurity, no retreat, no surrender”

    Katsina further described the security awareness workshop for local government administrators as part of the Katsina State Government’s efforts to contain the myriad of security challenges facing not only Katsina but in the nation generally.

    He maintained that the security challenges arising from banditry, terrorism and other associated organised crimes are not peculiar to Katsina State but has become a national phenomenon requiring multi-dimensional approach to contain them.

    “Capacity building is a knowledge-driven approach towards problem solving, especially when problems and challenges seem complicated and overwhelming,” he said.

  • Why our father committed suicide, by children of deceased Nasarawa church worker

    Why our father committed suicide, by children of deceased Nasarawa church worker

    THE children and relatives of Danladi Anva, a 55-year-old indigene of Sabon Peggi Shabu, Lafia Local Government Area, Nasarawa State, are left to mourn his demise after he committed suicide.

    Anva, who until his death worked as a security guard with ERCC Church in Shabu, was said to have gone into depression, which eventually culminated in suicide, because of the pressure he suffered from selling a plot of land to two different buyers.

    Realising that he would have to refund the money to at least one of the buyers and seeing that he had no way of refunding the sum involved, he hit on the idea of taking his own life by drinking herbicide.

    Anva’s immediate younger brother, Mr Useni Usman, told our correspondent that his sudden death came as a rude shock to him and the entire family.

    “His sudden death is indeed worrisome to me and the family,” he said.

    “The day he was to die, we were together till at about 5 pm. He came and told me that he needed N2,000, saying that was his only problem.

    “I gave the money to him and left, but he never told me the purpose for which he needed the money urgently.

    “He never told me anything, but I know that he sold one plot of land to two different people. I was aware of it and it was resolved at the police station that he should refund the money to the last person who bought the land.

    “Whether he didn’t have the money to refund and that made him to kill himself, I don’t know.

    “Whether he used the N2,000 he collected from me to buy the herbicide with which he killed himself, I also don’t know. But we saw the herbicide container in the corner of his bed.

    “By the time we realised that he had taken something to take his own life, he was already affected to the level that he could not even talk or tell us what led to his decision.”

    Entering Anva’s residence at Sabon Peggi Shabu on the evening of June 29, one could easily read the pensive mood of family members. Their sad disposition made it difficult to get them to talk about the ugly incident.

    Anva’s eldest son, Yohana, sat on a long bench in the compound, tears rolling uncontrollably down his cheeks. His mind was probably occupied with the thought of shouldering the burden left behind by his father.

    He sat back on the bench, cleared his throat and narrated the misfortune that had befallen the family.

    According to him, the 5th of June began like any normal day for the Anva family as everyone woke up without any inkling of the tragic incident.

    He added: “The whole thing is still like a dream to me. It is still hard for me to believe that my own father committed suicide. I’m shocked because he was a very healthy and lovely man.

    “It happened that he sold a particular plot of land to two different people. He first sold the land for N150,000 to a woman living in our neighborhood in the year 2021, then he later sold the same land for N230,000 to another person early this year.

    “When he told me that he wanted to sell the same land in January 2022 to another person, I warned him and told him the implications of his actions, but he said nothing.

    “When he eventually sold the land, I expected him to return the first buyer’s money to her to avoid trouble.

    “At the end of May, the first buyer came to our house and angrily told us that somebody was farming on the land she bought from our father

    “The woman said she went to inspect the land only to find that an unknown person had planted crops on the land.

    “At that time, my father was not at home so I pleaded with her to come back later and meet my father so they could sort out the matter.”

    Yohana, however, said the next thing the woman did was to invite the police who arrested his father and detained him at their station.

    “I can tell you that we really suffered before he was released from detention,” he said.

    He recalled that when his father was released after four days in detention, “I noticed that he was always moody and I asked him what was wrong but he didn’t say anything.

    “He was a very quiet man; he hardly talked to us about his challenges.”

    Yohana added: “On the 5th of June, 2022, after we returned from church, he was at home with us until 3pm when he had his bath and went out.

    “Although he did not tell us where he was going, we knew he was not going far because he wore a casual dress.

    “It was on a Sunday, so my siblings and I did not go anywhere throughout that day. We were all at home doing our domestic chores.

    “To our surprise, our father who went out healthy returned home as someone who was very sick. He had no strength.

    “I told my younger ones to take him to his room to rest, so could find out what was wrong with him.

    “After a while, I went into his room to be sure that he was stable, but to my greatest surprise, I noticed that his mouth was foaming and I sensed the odour of the herbicide (Gramoxone) used for killing grasses.

    “I then searched and found an empty container of the chemical by the corner of his bed. At that point, he could not talk to us because he was very weak and almost lifeless.

    “We rushed him to the hospital where he was admitted and he died the next day.”

    Giving details about the family’s condition, Yohana said: “I am 27 years old and a secondary school dropout. I am married and I work with a block industry to eke out a living.

    “My parents had six children made up of three males and three females. But we lost one, so we are now five.

    “My late father was working as a security guard at the Evangelical Reformed Church of Christ (ERCC) located here in Sabon Peggi Shabu.

    “He also engaged in petty farming to augment his meagre salary at ERCC in order to feed us his children.

    “I watched helplessly as he groaned at home and in the hospital before he died

    “His sudden death has robbed us of everything. We are finished. We need divine intervention. God, show us mercy.”

    Asked about their mother’s whereabouts, Yohana said she died during labour about  seven years ago. “Now our father has joined her.

    “He left our hopes shattered. How would I take care of the younger ones he left behind?

    “He was managing with his job at ERCC on a salary of N10,000 to feed us his children.

    “The money was never enough. We are all not in school due to lack of money. Our future is bleak and without any hope.”

    Yohana regretted that his father did not tell any member of the family about his worries and did not confide in anyone his plan to take his own life.

    stopped him at all cost.

    “The only known challenge we knew about was that of the land issue, and we did not imagine that he could take his own life because he sold one plot of land to two different people.

    “We are still shocked. Accepting the reality that he killed himself was not easy for me, but my siblings and I have accepted our fate.

    “He is gone now. Although it is painful, we have to move on with life.”

    Recalling the death of their mother, Cecilia, Yohana said: “Her death was very shocking for my father and the entire family because she really supported our family while she was alive. We missed her.

    “I have spoken to the pastor of ERCC about my desire to take over my father’s job and they assured us that after we must have finished mourning, either me or my brother can resume work.

    “It has not been easy for us since our father died. My siblings have been crying since that day.

    “We are still very young but we have become orphans in this difficult world. At my age, I have suddenly become their father and mother.

    “But I believe that God Almighty will always come to our rescue whenever we call on Him.”

    A daughter of the deceased, Ruth (15), told our correspondent amid sobs that “It has been three weeks since my father took his life but we are still grieving. We are fighting long and hard not to let his suicide diminish or weigh us down.

    “On many days, it is a battle. We are still grieving. On some days, it is anger. On other days, it is sadness that we indeed lost a breadwinner.”

    According to her, the late Anva was “an amazing father who loved us all. He may have left us abruptly, but he will always be our best friend.

    “Whenever I miss him, I close my eyes and reminisce about my favorite memories of him.  He always made his family the centre of his attention.

    “Any time he went out, he brought some food for us from eateries and he was always jovial. These cherished memories help me to savour the good moments we had with him.

    “What came over him to take his own life, he never told any of us.  If he was suffering from depression, he should have shared his problem with us.

    “He quietly planned his exit from this world and left. It is painful and we will miss him.” Another of Anva’s daughters, 19-year-old Stella, said “his death will always remain a scar in my life.

    “Some things in life will change you forever; my father’s suicide will do just that.

    “I have come into terms with it. Accepting it gave me the ability to savour the life I had with him before his death and move forward to create a reality that he is no more and there is time to think ahead.”

    Yet another of the deceased, Lydia (17), said: “What my father’s suicide taught me is the strength in asking for help. I wish he never isolated himself from us. I wish he told us he needed help to solve his problem.

    “My father carried too much burden and I wish he knew he didn’t have to move through moments of darkness alone.

    “He was my father and best friend. But first and foremost, he was a human being who needed a hand to guide him back to light in a sea of dark hopelessness.

    “But he left without a goodbye. We will miss him, and may his soul find peace wherever he is.”