Category: Sunday magazine

  • Coloured shoes are back with a bang!

    Coloured shoes are back with a bang!

    GUESS what’s back in vogue after a short time off? Colourful shoes! These elegant, sexy and sophisticated shoes have made a sudden and dramatic return to the social scene. As we all know, one of the secrets of great looking legs is a fabulous pair of heels. And as you must have noticed, colourful shoes, especially, those with block heels (platforms) are the must-have-shoes of the moment. And the good thing is that they are great on both skirts and trousers. These fabulous, unique and breath-taking heels are too fantastic to be ignored.

    Since the beginning of the year, all manner of heel shoes like wedge, clog, pointed, block, peep toe, ballet and pump shoes have made a statement. But colourful platform shoes may reign more than any of them did and also stay as the rave beyond this season. Believe it; they are for women of class and style. The hottest hues are red, deep blue, pink, yellow, purple and dark or natural metallic (patent leather).

    If you want to be unique, different and stand out in a crowd, your best bet is the lousy colour platform shoes.

    You can learn to walk in heels, feel comfortable by simply following these tips:

    Choose carefully: Get the right fit, if the shoes do not fit in the store when testing, don’t buy it.

    Buy the right size: Your shoes should not be too tight that they pinch your feet and cause blisters, nor should they be big enough to slip off.

    Get used to your heels: Before you take to the streets in your new heels (especially if you have always worn flats) wear them around the house to get used to them.

    Make sure you can walk in the shoes you pick out. It’s never stylish to be wobbling about

    Driving with platforms can be hazardous.

    When buying those seven-inch patent platform shoes, think about where you are going to wear them? Will you have to walk great distances?

  • Why I’m airing my  dirty laundry

    Why I’m airing my dirty laundry

    Kelly Rowland is out with a new album that’s attracting a lot of attention because of the chilling track “Dirty Laundry.” Before playing a recent New York show, the former Destiny’s Child member opened up to NAOMI ZEICHNER about transitioning out of an abusive relationship, embracing sex in her songs and her relationships with Beyonce and The-Dream.

    IN the past couple years it has become more important for pop stars, especially female pop stars, to communicate directly with their fans. Did you make a conscious decision to be more transparent with “Dirty Laundry”?

    Well, thank god for my relationship with Dream. I didn’t feel like I had to be put together with Dream. He’s passionate and loves hard, he wouldn’t judge me. He’s very creative and I can tell him if I don’t like something. That’s a great relationship. We started hanging around the end of last year. Jay was touring for Watch the Throne and we all hung out then and I was like, He’s cool. So we all started hanging out. And then [Dream and I] finally got into the studio together. Right before we started recording he said, “Look, I want to dig deep. I want something different from you. I don’t want what’s on the surface. I want to get in the thick of it all, so I know what’s underneath.” And I was like, Ohhh shit. Because once you start doing that, it’s really real. There was just one personal conversation that led to us writing “Dirty Laundry.” And I was like, wait a minute, this is personal! He’s just like, “People go through this everyday. Everybody has their version of their dirty laundry and it allows people to get to know you more. Is that a bad thing?” You sit there and you’re wondering what people are going to say, but in that moment after I sang it I didn’t care. For me it was therapeutic. I felt lighter.

    Do you feel even lighter as you continue to sing and talk about the song now?

    I do. A couple nights ago I had a moment where I felt like it wasn’t the rest of the audience as much as it was just the spotlight on me. I was just really singing the song to myself and became really emotional. And then once the music went off, I was like Oh shit, I’m on stage, and I finished up the record. It does yank at your heart like that, though, because I remember the place I was in, I remember the space, everything that happened.

    During that time, was it difficult to balance the reality of that abusive relationship with your job being a role model of independence?

    You can sing and preach about strength, but of course you still have those moments where you’re like, I’m strong in this way, mentally and whatever, but when you get down to the heart of it all, there’s still some moments where you can grow and learn. There’s nothing wrong with that.

    On “Dirty Laundry” you sing, When you’re soaked in tears for years, it never airs out. Even if lessons from that relationship will stay with you, what was your strategy for managing its negative impact over time?

    I went through a process of getting to know myself. A process of being by myself. Learning what I like and what I don’t like. Just that in itself is quite the featsometimes it takes people years to do that. When you walk around for so long and you’re just existing, it starts to wear on you. A little part of you dies. I got tired of walking around with all that crap and decided it was time to make a change. I looked at it back then like, I’m about to be 30 and every morning that I wake up I want to truly, genuinely be happy. If god is allowing me to open my eyes, why wouldn’t I live each day and every day like I’m grateful for that? I’m just in a place in my life right now, to where I’m just like, You are with this or you ain’t. I used to hear my grandmother say that about anything. You either are with it or you’re not. You’re either happy or you’re not. You either like somebody or you don’t. They either like you or they don’t. So it’s like, Who cares? I’m here to live and I’m going to live my life the best way that I can as a human being and I’m gonna die. But before I do I just want to be happy. I want to be known as a good person and I want to be known as somebody who gives great music. I don’t want to just exist. You can’t just exist in the music industry. Destiny’s Child set such a high bar. I wanna do that on my own, but on my own level. The only person I can be is me. And for so long I remember people saying “Oh, Kelly, that’s a round-the-way chick. You feel like you can just know her and you can be cool.” I’m like, Okay! I’m in a place where I’m a woman and I’m proud of who I am as a woman, and just being real and genuine.

    During that transition, was it difficult to spend time alone?

    Yes. Working, you’re always surrounded by people. The noise becomes comfort, instead of silence being comforting. The sound of your own self breathing should be more than enough. You need that meditation time. At least I do. When I start not meditating in the mornings, I’m scatterbrained, and that starts infiltrating into my work, my relationships, my business. I don’t want that. I’m a control freak. Ask my team! I just want things a certain way or done a certain way. Actually, I’ve slacked off on the reins a little bit, but for a moment there I really felt like I had to take the reins. If prayer and meditation are the ways I can control everything, so be it.

    What qualities do you look for in a romantic partner?

    I need to laugh. Just make me laugh. If you can make me laugh and you can cook and you have great conversation and you are smart, we’re going to have a good time. There’s barely time for me to date really. It’s a very slim amount of time. But I can please myself.

    Why’d you title the album Talk a Good Game?

    It’s just about asking someone to be honest with you. In the album’s title song I’m talking to somebody: I don’t think I can take another broken promise/ Why do things the hard way when you can just be honest. I’ma do what I’m supposed to do, if you tell me you gotta, why do things the hard way, if you give me your love, I’ma give you mine back. If you get to acting up, I’ma cut you off, like that. I don’t think I can take another broken promise, why do things the hard way. You talk a good game is just you talking all of this smack, and I’m just trying to understand where the truth lies. I really value honesty.

    Will Destiny’s Child grow old and perform in Vegas together?

    Well, we’ll never be old, honey! I don’t know. We’ll see. I love what we have right now. The best thing about being with Destiny’s Child is our friendship. I can call the girls, email themit doesn’t matter what time it is. I’m so blessed. I’ve been knowing B since we were 9, 10 years old. Michelle came onto a moving train and now she’s one of the closest people to me in my life. I trust her and I trust B. What we have is very special. And it’s something that some people, not even women, don’t have: genuine friendship and love.

    What’s particularly significant about your relationships with other women?

    I learn something from a woman every single day. From each woman in my lifeI don’t care where she’s from, if I’ve met her for a second. I might learn from how intelligent she is, or the way she speaks, or the way she dresses, or her point of view and her perspective, or her business sense. I love that. It can be the saleswoman at freaking Marshall’s. The other day I was shopping with my mother and niece, and the way the saleswoman said something to my niece made my niece pull up her chest and feel better and walk taller. Women know when we know something that another woman could benefit from. That’s how we empower each other.

  • Jameel Disu  gets busy

    Jameel Disu gets busy

    JAMEEL Disu, son in-law of Dr. Mike Adenuga, is currently out of the social radar. The fairy tale wedding of Jameel and Bella Disu will linger in the memories of Nigerians for a very long time. It was an event to be accorded the tag of success, whichever perspective it is viewed from. Few years after, Jameel has literally given the social scene a wide berth. Gone are the days of socialising with the big boys. Prior to his wedding to the daughter of one of Nigeria’s most successful businessmen with vast business interests, Jameel was a permanent fixture in the chic scene. However, marriage seems to have tempered him as he’s no longer visible in the social firmament. Insiders informed Social Circuit that Jameel prefers to stay at home with his wife and kid after work. Nothing is stopping him. Nothing is holding him back when the matter is strictly business. Distractions and small talk don’t get to him. The very handsome dude is focused and single-minded.

  • Obadare for burial in  multi-million naira casket

    Obadare for burial in multi-million naira casket

    • Goes home on August 17

    Renowned evangelist and founder of World Soul Winning Evangelical Ministry (WOSEM), Prophet Timothy Obadare, who died on March 21 at 85, will be buried in a casket with the same design as the ones used for popular American musicians, Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston.

    This was disclosed last week by his eldest child, Dr Paul Obadare, during an interaction with reporters.

    The younger Obadare said nothing was too much or glamorous to celebrate the deceased preacher who touched many lives worldwide.

    He said: “If carnal men are given the best burials, I see nothing wrong in celebrating a man who gave God and humanity his best through soul-winning.”

    Describing the late preacher as a global citizen with international impact, Obadare said arrangements are in top gear to host dignitaries for the funeral programme.

    The programme commences on August 15 with services of songs in Ilesha, Akure, Ibadan and Lagos.

    On August 16, there will be a lying-in-state at Ilesha and wake service.

    An interdenominational service holds on August 17th before his burial at a mausoleum at the WOSEM conference ground at Ilesha-Ife Expressway, Ilesha, Ogun State.

    Obadare said there will also be documentaries on the several powerful crusades of the renowned evangelist with testimonies of about 500 people.

    No fewer than six governors, royal fathers and church leaders across the globe are expected at the funeral events, he added.

    Obadare further stated that Osun State Governor, Ogbeni Rauf Aregbesola, has agreed to support the funeral programmes, stating that the governor has begun the construction of Bolorunduro Road leading to the late evangelist’s residence.

    The mausoleum, he stated, will become a Mecca of sort for those willing to offer prayers and seek the face of God.

    Speaking on WOSEM after its founder, Obadare, who is the general overseer of the ministry in America and Europe, said the senior Obadare laid solid structures that would see the ministry through.

    Obadare said: “Baba instructed us to stick to soul-winning and never be involved in church politics.

    “He said if we do this, we would be fine, but if not, we would be in trouble.”

    He said WOSEM’s leaders would meet after the funeral to chart the way forward and define the leadership structure of the organisation.

  • ‘My life at 50’

    ‘My life at 50’

    The Senior Pastor of Life Changers Assembly Lagos, Pastor Gbolahan Dada, clocked 50 recently. He spoke with Sunday Oguntola on his life, the church and the nation. Excerpts:

    For those who are not yet 50, how does it feel at that age?

    Well, it is a good feeling. At 50, you are consolidating. At 50, you are no longer looking at who to marry. At 50, you are looking back and thanking God for what He has done for you over the years. At 50, you are thinking of how to do much more for God. At 50, there is no cause for anxiety. You are only looking ahead to a brighter future.

    How will you assess your life at 50?

    I would be more comfortable if you had asked people to do that. But with all sense of modesty, I will say God has been faithful, especially since He came into my life. One has been able to do so much through His help. I have been able to transform lives, by His grace, in Nigeria and abroad. The changed lives and testimonies are there. So far, it’s been wonderful and we can only pray for more grace and strength to accomplish more for Him.

    At 50, there must be new goals to pursue. What would that be for you?

    Well, one of the things I did just when I knew I was nearing 50 was to review my relationship with God. It is possible to have a thriving ministry without a thriving relationship with God. It is a dangerous stage to get to and I do not want that. So, I want a more thriving and robust relationship with God now. That was the decision I have taken after the celebration and euphoria were over. I have gone back to seek the face of God in this direction.

    So, my decision is to know more of God. I believe I can do much for God when I am more with Him. That is my objective. I want to walk more with God to be able to do more with Him. It is good to make projections but one needs God to do everything.

    With the benefits of hindsight, are there things that you would have done differently if you were to do them again now?

    I am somebody that is very slow in taking decisions. I’d rather wait for God rather than going ahead of Him. Walking in steps with God keeps away from mistakes and regrets. Once I am sure I heard from Him, there is no stopping me. So, I hardly have regrets because I take my time to get directions from Him.

    You have been outside the country recently. What has been occupying you over there?

    I never had any desire to be junketing about. One of our senior ministers told me several years ago to stay in my primary place of calling and watch over the sheep. He said I should seek to know and not to be known. So, I concentrated on working based on what God called me to do and as the works begin to speak for themselves, people began to call me for ministrations outside the country. I have been to places like Estonia, Finland, India and the former Soviet Union. I found out what I have are needed over there. So, the apostolic ministry has taken off. I also travel a lot within Nigeria for revival services and leadership conferences.

    You also clocked 25 years in ministry…

    Yes, 25 years of impact, God’s faithfulness and witnessing transformation of lives among people. I get to places where people will come and say, ‘Pastor, bless you. Do you still remember my daughter?’ and I will say ‘no’. And they are like ‘you did the christening 23 years ago and now she is a graduate’. Such encounters make one feel fulfilled.

    You started quite early, did you feel short-changed back then especially when your contemporaries were pursuing careers and you left for ministry?

    I was practising as an architect back then and ministry was not something I went out for. I was a Muslim and did not have any relationship with Christianity. I happen to be the first generation Christian in my family. I was in my room one day when God showed up and asked me to serve Him. So, I was left with no choice than to follow Him. So, I have no regret at all.

    The best way to live is to contribute. If I were to continue with my career, I would be seeking of what to grab and all that with no fulfillment. But I have found fulfillment serving God. Most of my colleagues are pursuing careers but I have been making impact and fulfilling destiny. By the grace of God, looking back now, I am not a pushover in their midst.

    Was there ever a time in your life you felt God was far away?

    You know when I gave my life to Christ, I had a relationship with convictions with God. I had a deep encounter that made Him more real to me. I don’t ever doubt Him despite the challenges that I have had to go through. I just believe that every challenge gives me an opportunity to know Him more. Every challenge has been an inspiration and not a discouragement.

    The issue of succession has been a challenge in the Nigerian church. Why is this so?

    I believe, like the Bible says, that two cannot walk together except they be agree. If you have new converts, they will soon become disciples if you follow them up enough. With their loyalty and integrity proven, one should be able to open up to them. They no longer relate as boys but partners because they now have direct access to your ministerial exploits. But I found out that a lot of our church leaders have things to hide.

    For me, I have nothing to hide. I try to trust people easily until they give me reasons not to. But once you don’t betray a trust and we are on the same page, I don’t have any issue with you at all.

    What will people find in Life Changers that might be difficult to find elsewhere?

    In Life Changers, we do not adulterate the word at all. I was raised by Dr Tunde Joda, who preaches the word of God with integrity. In this place, we do not have to impress anybody or embellish the word. We deliver the word unadulterated. People don’t have to go through me to access God. They can reach Him on their own and get the same results that we got. So, we make the word people-friendly and the atmosphere too so that people’s hunger for God can be met.

    Personally, my wife and I have gone through challenges especially in the delay for children, but we stood on the word and got results.

    How many years did you have to wait?

    We waited for eight years to have our children and I will tell you it was not funny at all. You should ask my wife how it was like. God, however, has used our testimonies to challenge people within and outside our church.

    What do you have to say on the nation?

    I found out that Nigerian people are one of the easiest to lead in the whole world in the sense that we are obedient and we respect authorities. If our leaders will value the trust and confidence that followers have in them, Nigeria will be a better place. Ironically, our leaders take us for granted. They think we are fools and docile. We are not fools, but as Africans we have natural respect for authorities and leadership. But if you push Nigerians to be wall, they will react. So, our leaders should remember God and have Nigerians in mind because with what we are seeing now, posterity may not forgive some of them based on their attitude to leadership and power.

  • Red: 2013’s  queen of colour

    Red: 2013’s queen of colour

    DO you know the queen of colours at the moment? It is no other than red. Red is the rave of the moment. Colours are synonymous with fashion. Specific colours of fabrics rule per season and the trendiest colour for both night gigs and daytime events at the moment is red. Thanks to the ingenuity of our designers, many attention-grabbing dresses are in red. Red is everywhere, in every imaginable style.

    The popular ones are feminine flirty eyelets, well-tailored crisp cotton, velvet and chiffon.

    Depending on your choice, you can choose fabrics in deep red, light red and sunset red,

    One interesting thing about red is that it comes out best when it is used to add quality or beauty to any fabric of any other colour. From time immemorial, red has been combined with white, black and almost all shades of fabrics. Depending on the skill of the designer, red fabrics can make you look elegant, bold and tasteful. On its own, red is actually a very bold and lousy colour that some may not want to wear alone.

    By the way, you should never make it an all round red affair; for instance, you may go for gold shoes and bag or better still another popular colour that blends with all red, blackr. This is certain to give you the gorgeous effect

     

  • Adeboye to business owners: Draw close to God

    The General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Pastor Enoch Adeboye, has advised business executives to draw closer to God for lasting success without sorrow.

    He spoke last Sunday during a special service for business executives and owners.

    Adeboye said they will experience unusual breakthrough in life and business by dedicating their lives to God and following His pathways.

    X-raying the committed life of King Solomon despite his adulterous background, Adeboye noted that he showed appreciation to God for the past and expressed gratefulness for the present.

    He told the business owners: “Thank God for the present so that your future can be glorious.”

    The cleric said the wisdom of God stood Solomon out, asking the business owners to also seek for divine direction that will make them outstanding.

    Adeboye challenged the congregation not to relent in seeking for wisdom that will bring about promotion in their chosen careers.

    He pointed out that all Solomon requested for was not for selfish interest but “to serve God”.

    This, he said, should be the ultimate of all Christians in business.

    Speaking to reporters after the service, the chairman/chief executive officer, Shebah Oil Services Ltd, Joseph Adenuga, said only business men with the fear of God can deliver quality services and resist the temptation of cutting corners.

    According to him: “When we get it right in the spiritual angle, we can do better in the physical things.

    “The services we render must be done in a friendly manner such that they add value for the exchange.

    “Quality service should be rendered to those who demand for it, with the fear of God as guideline because whatever we do unto fellow human beings is directly unto God.”

    He added: “If we are going to succeed in anything in the world, we must have an ally. And the greatest ally is God and doing things in God’s way will definitely bring an impact.”

  • Niki Ogbuefi’s  fresh moves

    Niki Ogbuefi’s fresh moves

    LIKE an insatiable sot, Nikky Ogbuefi lusts after excellence and the best knowledge flawless beauty can buy. Little wonder clients keep frequenting her new beauty place called ‘Niki O’, with intending brides gleefully trooping to the fattening room. And the reasons are hardly farfetched: she fosters an exotic tradition that keeps her outfit stocked full and a charming dependability cum resourcefulness that has seen her evolve from an ambitious salon owner to a seasoned beautician. A visit to the new place is, indeed, a lifting experience as most patrons earnestly affirm. Located on Victoria Arobieke Street, Lekki Phase 1, Lagos, Niki’s outfit betrays her love for class and sophistication. It indulges its patrons with luxury services and provides a personalised experience that registers well on them long after they pass through the exit door of the much-talked about ‘Niki O’. Perhaps it’s her steely determination or infectious bearing that’s responsible for her progress but she has indisputably redefined high society and is now set to make her mark in the challenging world of beauty.

  • For Isaac  Fayose,  good  times  are here

    For Isaac Fayose, good times are here

    THE rumour mongers may catch a break now. Like snow which melts away in the winter sunshine, the spikes of controversy that so beset his life style have receded considerably. Grillz and Wheelz boss and chairman of Anis Guards, Isaac Fayose, has delved into the hospitality business as he opened a multi-million naira lounge known as Alibi in Lekki, Lagos. The younger brother of former Ekiti State Governor, Ayo Fayose, has put finishing touches to the exotic lounge which we learnt will commence operation in the next few weeks. The new lounge is located on the top floor of Lush Mall, opposite Domino Pizza, Admiralty Road, Lekki Phase 1, Lagos, where it is expected to square up with various reputable hangouts on the island. The lounge boasts an Arabia ambience with a grills corner, cage-bar that would all be lined with daily activities. Isaac Fayose has temporarily relocated to Lagos from his base in Abuja, where he has the headquarters of his security outfits. He’s said to have been dreaming of opening a hangout in Lagos.

  • Engaging the breakthrough power of faith!

    RecogniSe that faith is a personal responsibility! For your faith to work, it has to be operated by you. It’s only your faith that will make you become what God says.

    God has vowed, yet it takes your own faith to become what He has declared (Isaiah 14:27).

    Two things brought about the fulfillment of the prophetic word in Sarah’s life: her faith got the job done, and she did not only believe that it would be done, she also believed in the set time (Gen 21:1-2). Every prophecy is ordained to be fulfilled at the set time, because we serve a God of appointed time (Habakkuk 2:3).

    God is committed to His timing. When you are in line with the appointed time, your next levels will come. And of the children of Issachar, which were men that had understanding of the times, to know what Israel ought to do…(1 Chronicles 12:32). If you don’t have an understanding of the time, you stand to be messed up.

    God’s nature in the

    prophetic

    • God speaks according to Himself (Genesis 22:17-18): He speaks according to His power to deliver, His wisdom to create solution, and His unlimited resources to make happen anything He says. God speaks according to what He can do. Without faith, God cannot move on your behalf (Hebrews 11:6). Whosoever wants to see God work in his/her favour, must believe that God is what He says He is, and will do what He says He will do.

    • God speaks according to His strength, and strength is the trigger for exploit (Psalm 24:7-8). His strength means that no gate can be shut against Him. His strength is for your conquest, which forces every door open.

    The Breakthrough

    Nature of Faith:

    • Faith is sharing responsibility with God in the face of scriptures, so as to commit Him to make good His promise: Any faith that seeks to make God absolutely responsible for the outcome of your life, is an irresponsible faith. Real faith makes you take responsibility to see God in action. Until your part is played, God is not committed.

    • Faith is the spiritual virtue that establishes partnership with the invincible God, thereby empowering us to do the impossible: Every time your faith comes alive, God’s partnership with you on that issue of concern is established. So, it is your faith that establishes your partnership with God in dealing with the issues of your life. Every time you believe God, you commit his partnership with you, which empowers you to do the impossible.

    • Faith is not just reaching out to God who is in heaven; faith is bringing God down to where you are: You are both on the battlefield. His name is called the Omnipotent God, and with the breath of His nostrils, He will slay His enemies.

    • Faith is putting God’s word to work, believing (Proverbs 23:7): You must maintain a thought pattern that is in line with what you believe.

    • Faith converts the Word into flesh (John 1:14): It converts the spiritual to physical and the immaterial into material.

    • Faith is not just getting God to do something; it is securing God’s partnership in getting things done: Faith brings you into partnership that makes you dare the undareable, speak the unspeakable and deliver the impossible (1 Corinthians 3:9).

    Friend, the power to see prophecies fulfilled is the privilege of those saved. You get saved as you confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are set for it, please say this prayer: Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. Today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You, for saving me! Now I know, I am born again! I will continue with this teaching next week.

    I know this teaching has blessed you. Write and share your testimony with me through: Faith Tabernacle, Canaan Land, Ota, P.M.B. 21688, Ikeja, Lagos, Nigeria; or call 7747546-8; or E-mail: feedback@lfcww.org