Tag: dad

  • Abductors demand $10m for Dariye’s dad

    Abductors demand $10m for Dariye’s dad

    The gunmen who kidnapped Mr Dariye Dafweng, father of former Plateau State Govermor Joshua Dariye, at his home in Mushere village, Bokkos Local Government Area on Saturday, have asked for $10 million ransom.

    “We have just confirmed that the kidnappers dropped a letter in which they asked for $10 million,” Maj.-Gen. Dave Enetie, Commander of the Special Task Force (STF), said yesterday.

    The STF chief said the kidnappers also left their telephone numbers.

    He said: “We are trying to get a copy of the letter and the phone numbers in our efforts to rescue Dariye’s father.”

    Enetie said the STF’s personnel had been dispatched to parts of the state to locate the kidnappers, besides the efforts of the search teams combing neighbouring states.

    Police Commissioner Abu Emmanuel said the command had visited the site of the incident and picked up shells of bullets shot by the gunmen.

    He said: “There is already a search-and-rescue team. We hope we should be able to arrive at something as soon as possible.”

    NAN reports that Dafweng was kidnapped by gunmen, who invaded the Dariye family’s compound, shooting sporadically to scare away people.

    The gunmen took the old man, dressed him in women’s clothes, and sped off with him on a motorcycle.

  • Coping as a single dad

    Single parenthood may happen because of death, divorce, separation, abandonment, among others. In spite of the circumstances surrounding the family situation, being a single dad can be very stressful and challenging. By nature, men are different from women in dealing with the issue of raising children.  Therefore, some men find it very difficult to take up the full responsibility of raising their children alone.

    Single dads face a lot of challenges, and their children also encounter problems. Bringing up children can be difficult under any situation and without a partner, the stakes are even higher. Now, the issue is how should single dads deal with the challenges of single parenting?

    Have a good structure in place: Create a daily routine for every member of your family to follow, such as regular time for food, study time, play time and bed time.

    Religion: Get them involved in your religion. Pray with them and make them participate fully in all religious activities. When they grow up, they will not depart from the values you have imparted to them. This will help your children and other members of the family to know what to expect. It will also give you room to have time for other things. In a situation where you have domestic workers or family members assisting you, assign duties and supervise them properly.

    Communication: Maintain a good relationship with your children. Talk with them, not at them, and listen to them when they are talking to you. Interact with them. Be their best friend; let them see you as a dad that they can tell everything, and the only way you can achieve this is by being free with them.  In the case of divorce or separation, always let them understand that it has nothing to do with them because children in dealing with divorce cases always feel that the separation or divorce is as a result of their faults.

    Create family time: Set time aside everyday to have quality dealing with your children. Bonding with your children as a single dad is very important and the only way you can achieve it is by spending time doing things together as family. This will  give you the opportunity to know your children’s individual personalities, their strengths and weaknesses in other areas like academics and so on. Remember to set boundaries as well as consequences involved, if not obeyed. Ensure you follow up, otherwise they will not take you or the boundaries seriously. A law-abiding adult is one who has been taught to have boundaries as a child. Word of caution: set realistic boundaries.

    Role model: Being the only parent makes you their number one role model. Be a good example to your children in every way.  Don’t do anything you don’t want them to do in their presence. Practise what you preach. Children copy their parents because they see them as their role models. If you find yourself, exhibiting behaviour that you don’t want your children to copy , it’s a sign that you should change how you react in certain situations.

    Show affection:  Some know how to express love, while some don’t. Don’t let a day go by without you saying “I love you” to your children. Hug and kiss them to show emotion. A hug for a child often makes him feel loved, safe and able to count on you.

    Make birthdays special: Children are God’s greatest gift to us. Each child is different in how they see themselves and the world around them. All children are gifted- each in his special way. Celebrate their uniqueness and make their birthdays special with affordable resource.

    Praise and reward:  Don’t forget to praise good behaviour because it is as important as discipline. Don’t underestimate the positive effect that your praise can have on your children. Again, be specific when doing your praise. Let them know why you are praising them. Appreciate their efforts and successes, especially in areas where they have struggled.

    Keep yourself healthy: For some dads, separation or divorce, for example, is one of the most stressful life events they ever go through. That pressure may be amplified by custody and financial issues which can bring out the worst in people. So discovering ways to manage your own stress is very essential. Keeping yourself  physically and emotionally healthy  can help combat the effects of stress. You will then be in the best shape to take care of your family.

    Create time for yourself:  Have moments of relaxation, meaning time to do what you enjoy doing. Make out time to kick back and relax.  Rest is very important, especially as a single dad. A good rest will make you feel refreshed.

    Help: Learn to interact with other single dads who have gone through the same situation.  Learn from their experiences. You can also seek the help of a counsellor, therapist, or  friend, if need be.

    Financial struggle and well-being of the children: Because most dads are the breadwinners of their families, the financial responsibility falls mainly on them with little or no assistance from anybody. A  single dad must learn to be able to balance his career or job and the affairs of the children in order to maintain a healthy home.

    Harriet Ogbobine is a counsellor and  motivational speaker. Send in your questions and suggestions to her on bineharriet@gmail.com. You can also follow her on twitter@bineharrietj or txt messages only to 08023058805.

  • Prayers for governor’s dad

    Prayers for governor’s dad

    The one year remembrance prayers for Alhaji Ibrahim Ademola Fashola, father of Lagos State Governor Babatunde Fashola,  holds tomorrow at the Surulere Secondary School, Ladipo Labinjo Crescent (Off Bode Thomas Street), Surulere, at 12 noon.

    Alhaji Fashola died on August 5, last year, at 80. He was buried according to Islamic rites the following day.

  • Man loses dad, wife, maid in Kano bombing as 30 die in Adamawa

    Man loses dad, wife, maid in Kano bombing as 30 die in Adamawa

    Five persons died yesterday in Kano when suspected insurgents  hurled explosives from the window of a school at a church building as worshippers were leaving after a mass.

    Eight others were injured in the attack on St. Charles Catholic Church on Zungeru Road in the ancient city.

    The dead, according to sources, include Mr. Ugochukwu Okoli (32), his wife, father and his maid. They were said to have gone for the mass for thanksgikving and were leaving after the service when they were hit by the explosives.

    Kano State Commissioner of Police Aderenle Shinaba, said the suspects had gone to a church on Zungeru Road, where they hid themselves at a primary school, close to the church and threw explosives at the unsuspecting  worshippers. He said no fewer than five people died and eight were injured. Three suspects were arrested.

    The police said in Abuja that five suspects were arrested in total.

    An sms message from police spokesman Frank Mba said two of the suspects were arrested in connection with the failed attack on the Isyaku Rabiu Mosque. Three were held in connection with the attack at St. Charles Church.

    The statement said: “All the suspects are currently undergoing interrogation at different police facilities in the state.

    “The police have stepped up patrols and surveillance in the city and other major cities across the nation. Police operatives are carrying out overt and covert operations nationwide, while special teams are carrying out sweeping raids in suspected terrorist hideouts.

    “Citizens are enjoined to remain vigilant and continue to support the security agencies during the operations.”

    The Catholic Bishop of Kano, Bishop John Namanza, said the community protected itself beyond imagination.

    Rev. Namanza described the attack as uncalled for, saying those who threw the bomb were unholy.

    Although the Bishop praised the security operatives for their response, he lamented that it was belated despite the early information passed to them that the church was a target.

    He called on security agents and the state government to strengthen security around the vicinity.

    Also yesterday, suspected terrorists attempted a suicide attack at Kofar Nasarawa in Kano. A woman bomber tried to lure some security men, who were stationed by the North West  gate with Sallah food but she blew up herself.

    The bomber, who arrived at the scene under the newly built flyover at about 12:30 pm, reportedly  made an attempt to deceive the security operatives that she brought sallah food for them, but the security men suspected foul play.

    The security men, it was learnt, took to their heels when they noticed that the woman was advancing towards them. They threatened to gun her down.

    However, luck ran out for the bomber, who secretly concealed the explosives under her hijab, when the bomb suddenly exploded and killed her.

    The Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN) condemned the blast.

    The religious body also expressed sadness at the “unfortunate” incident in Zaria, which led to the killing of some people, including the sons of a renowned Islamic scholar El-Zakzaky.

    CAN said it was saddened by the implication of the incident as it is capable of throwing the community into more crises.

    In a statement signed by CAN National President Pastor Ayo Oritsejafor, the clergy urged the people to exercise restrain and live peacefully as the security is up the task of bringing perpetrators to book.

    “CAN commiserates with Islamic scholar El-Zakzaky over the loss of his sons, appealing to him to take solace in God. CAN says the demise of the scholar’s sons is most unfortunate and regrettable, particularly at a time when the energy and wise counsel of all in the society is needed to tame insecurity.

    “CAN appealed to Nigerians to live peacefully irrespective of religious, ethnic and political difference in the quest for new national re birth.

    CAN reiterates its earlier call for Nigerians to give useful information to security agents as they try their best to tackle the insurgency.”

    Pastor Oritsejafor described the blast as barbaric and inhuman. While commiserating with families of the deceased, he called on Nigerians to be security conscious.

    Thirty people were killed in attacks at the weekend on communities in Hong local government area of Adamawa State.

    Gunmen believed to be Boko Haram fighters attacked Zar Mubeng and Lubeng villages.

    The village head of Zar community, Wing Commander, Dauda Daniel (rtd), is still missing in the aftermath of the attacks.

    The attacks led to the death of nine people in Zar, the source said.

    Some relatives of the community leader said he is yet to be found. There are concerns that he might have been abducted by the gunmen.

    The worst-affected community is Mubeng where it was gathered that 20 people were killed.

    The number of those killed in Lube could not be ascertained yet, said one of the villagers who fled the community as a result of the attacks.

    The eye witness, who identified himself as Lazarus, said most of the people in his community scampered to safety before the rampaging gunmen got there.

    The Adamawa State police could not speak on the development. Haa Micheal, the spokesman, has just been appointed.

    Micheal said he is only privy to a rumoured attack in the Hong area but didn’t have details of the attack.

    Last night, Garkida town in Gombi Local Government Area of the state was under attack by gunmen suspected to be Boko Haram members.

    Sources speaking from the town on telephone said they heard heavy gunfire and cries of helpless residents.

    They also noticed that many houses were on fire.

  • Ibukun Ojo loses dad

    Nigeria National League side, Prime Football Club, have lined up grade A build up matches in the quest to ensure that the team approaches the new season in top form.

    According to the media officer of the club, Tunde Shamsudeen, the top friendly matches will help to prepare the team ahead of the 2013/2014 NNL season. The team is hoping to play against FC Ebedei, Crown, Sunshine Stars among other teams.

    “We have prepared the team for the top flight friendly matches, we will use the games to know our strenght and weaknesses,” he said.

    “We are yet to play against stronger opposition since we are in camp, but I hope we will start doing that from this week. The proposed matches will help the team have match fitness and for the players to have match form mentality.”

    The former spokesman of Anambra United Football Club of Onitsha, said if the friendly matches materialise, it would assist the technical crew of the Omoluabi Giants a chance to assess the newly assembled squad.

    However, the team’s camp was thrown into mourning when newly recruited attacking midfielder, Ibukun Ojo, lost his father, Gbenga Adeboye Ojo.

    He passed on after a brief illness; he was 62-year-old .

     

  • The Nation man loses dad

    Pa Michael Olatunji Aderibigbe, father of Mr Yinka Aderibigbe, Head of the CityBeats desk of The Nation, is dead. He was 84.

    A retired school teacher, community leader and frontline member of the Anglican Church, Pa Aderibigbe (aka Baba Enire) was for many years a church warden and Treasurer of the St. Stephen’s Church, Itaasin, Modakeke, Osun State (now Cathedral of St. Stephen’s). He was as a selfless and forthright man.

    A disciplinarian and committed educationist, the late Pa Aderibigbe is survived by a younger sister, two wives, children and grandchildren.

     

  • Moses, a dad at 21

    Moses, a dad at 21

    Two days after he scored his first goal for his new club, Chelsea FC, Super Eagles forward, Victor Moses became a proud father at 21.

    Moses, Thursday, broke the news to his more than 45,000 Twitter followers through his account, expressing delight at his status.

    “I am really proud to announce I’m now a dad! Brentley Moses born this morning 3.960kg all healthy thank God! fanx 4 ur support” he tweeted.

    The former Wigan attacker, who only completed his dream move to Chelsea this summer for nine million pounds, has also been impressive for his London team.

    On Tuesday evening, the Nigerian was handed his first start at Chelsea in a Capital One League Cup game with Wolverhampton. He rewarded his Coach, Roberto Di Matteo, with a goal for the confidence reposed in him.

    Chelsea won the game by 6-1.

    Already Moses’ fans have been praising the young Nigerian for his ability to be able to score on and off the pitch.

    Many people, including Dare Art Alade, award-winning musician, have been sending greetings to Moses on the delivery of the baby.

    Alade, who confessed to not being a fan of Chelsea, said he was happy with news of the arrival of the daughter already named Bentley.

    “Congrats man. 1st goal though I hate ya club and a big welcome to your daughter. Bless,” Alade tweeted.

    Chelsea face a tough test this weekend as they travel to the Emirates to play Arsenal, and it is likely that Moses will be gunning for a goal for his new daughter.