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  • Man held for enticing underage girls to fondle his manhood

    A 36-year-old man (name withheld), who allegedly enticed some underage girls to pat his sexual organ affectionately for N500, was on Friday in Lagos nabbed, according to the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT).

    The suspect was apprehended by some residents of Silver Crescent Estate, Oke-Afa in Isolo area of Lagos.

    The Coordinator of the team, Mrs Titilola Vivour-Adeniyi,  told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) that the agency’s intervention followed a report by residents of the community.

    DSVRT is a collection of professional service providers and officials that respond as a group and in a timely fashion to the various needs of domestic and sexual violence survivors by providing legal, medical and emergency assistance.

    It also provides counselling and psychological and psycho-social support as well as encourage and create unprecedented level of collaboration among professionals working to end sexual and gender-based violence.

    To report domestic and sexual violence as well as other gender-based abuses, the agency has advertised the following numbers — 112, 08137960048 and 07032165181.

     Vivour-Adeniyi said:“The man was nabbed on July 27 at 8.00 a.m. in the community;  some young girls in the area said they once reported the case to a woman in the neighbourhood, who alerted other residents to watch out for such acts and strange faces in the area.

    “Luck ran out of the man on Thursday morning when one of the young girls in the area sighted him in the street and called the attention of some residents.

    “The suspect, who said he had a shop at Ladipo in Mushin, blamed it on the devil.”

    “The residents asked him to call his relatives which he did and his wife and children arrived at the scene.

    “The Divisional Police Officer, following a distress call by the community, took the suspect accompanied by his wife and children, the girl that identified him and others to the station,” she said.

    Vivour-Adeniyi said after investigation had been concluded, the agency would prosecute the suspect in court. (NAN)m

  • Social Media diverting attention of girls from studies, Sultan laments

    Social Media diverting attention of girls from studies, Sultan laments

    The Sultan of Sokoto, Alhaji Saad Abubakar III, has expressed concern at a development where social media are  diverting the attention of students in the country.

    Abubakar expressed the feeling in Sokoto on Sunday at the closing ceremony of the 6th National Edition of the Quranic Recitation Competition.

    The Sultan said:” There is a disturbing development where the attention of students is being diverted from their studies.

    “This is through the use of various social media like Facebook, Twitter,Whatsapp, 2Go and Instagram, among others,’’ he said

    The traditional ruler urged youths, particularly girls, to stop spending too much time on social media at the expense of other engagements that would add more values to their life.

    ”The rate at which girls are spending time on social network is worrisome and this poses imminent danger to our society.

    “Girls are the nerve centre of our moral and societal development and if they derail, the whole society will be in danger because they are our mothers and care givers.”

    Abubakar advised parents to ensure that their daughters spend more time on meaningful things, like reciting the Holy Qur’an.

    ”Doing so will make them better mothers and care givers’’.

    The monarch also urged Muslims to desist from doing things capable of tarnishing the image of their religion.

    The Sultan, who congratulated the winners of the competition, donated N10, 000 to each of the 89 participants ,while the overall winner,  Husna Nura from Katsina State, got N100,000.

    The sultan further promised to host the 7th edition of the competition in 2018.

    In his remarks, Gov. Aminu Tambuwal said that the competition would encourage girls to memorise the whole sixty chapters of the Holy Qur’an.

    The Secretary to the State Government, Prof. Bashir Garba, Tambuwal represented the governor at the occasion.

    Tambuwal announced a gift of hajj seat to the overall winner of the competition in addition to N150, 000 and a deep freezer, among other gifts.

    Other winners also went home with deep freezers and cash among other items.

    NAN also reports that twenty two states participated in the competition which was deducated for non-Arabic Girls’ Secondary Schools and it was hosted by Sokoto State Government.( NAN)

  • Niger warns against withdrawing girls from school for marriage

    The Niger State Government has warned parents against withdrawing female children from school, so as to give them out in marriage.

    Hajia Fatima Madugu, Commissioner for Education, gave the warning while speaking with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on Saturday in Minna.

    “A major challenge we face in Niger is that of parents withdrawing their female children from school for early marriage‎.

    “We are not going to tolerate this anymore; we have had enough of that. There is an act specially designed for that purpose and we shall apply it.

    “Any person, who attempts to withdraw a child for early marriage, will have to face the wrath of the law,” she said‎.

    She said that the Ministry of ‎Education had begun a sensitisation through radio jingles, TV talk shows and other mediums targeted at exposing the dangers of early marriage.

    “The girl-child should be allowed to explore her potential; she should be allowed to achieve her dream ‎no matter her religion.

    “If the girl-child is withdrawn from school, she would have been cheated and this is not good for the country,” she said.

    ‎The commissioner cautioned parents against citing poverty as a reason for child abuse, saying that the state was poised to take stern measures against parents involved in that.

    “Poverty should not be an excuse for child labour. No one should force a child to to hawk instead of going to school.

    “Hawking is a molestation and an abuse of the child involved. In Niger, we will not tolerate that. A task force has been set up to fish out those engaged in that,” he said.

    She explained that children forced into the streets t0 hawk were prone to many risks like rape, kidnapping and trafficking. (NAN).

  • 82 girls and prisoners’ swap

    After three years in Boko Haram captivity, the release of 82 of the Chibok girls a fortnight ago, no doubt, gladdened the hearts of many. The ecstasy generated by that incident was understandable given the trauma both the girls and their parents have passed through these three years.

    Because the lives of the young girls were in jeopardy, there was the general feeling that anything could be sacrificed to ensure their safety. When therefore the government announced that the release was made possible through the swapping of some Boko Haram commanders in their custody, it seemed the end had justified the means.

    So it was that those who sought to raise reservations on the propriety of the prisoners’ swap were so disparaged that they could no longer find their voice. The furore that trailed attempts by the opposition to raise questions on the swap must have silenced them such that not much was heard of any criticism on the issue. They were made to appear insensitive to the feelings of the girls and their parents in the hands of the cruel and ruthless lot.

    Parallels were swiftly drawn with the United States of America US and some other advanced countries which at the time or the other, applied that option to free their citizens taken captive in other countries. If such advanced countries could swap prisoners, what is wrong in Nigeria applying the same measure to secure the release of the Chibok girls from a deadly monster that gives scant attention to rules of engagement? – they queried.

    With high level sentiments like this, the voice of the opposition was drowned to the extent that nobody again cared to ask why there was no measure of ceasefire while the negotiations leading to the swap lasted. Nobody again cared to ask, where and to whom the freed commanders were released?  Nobody cared to ask what other commitments if any, were extracted from the group before the commanders were freed. These questions at best, remained mute or were discussed in muffled voices until the freed commanders appeared in a video armed with high calibre rifles threatening to attack Abuja and some critical institutions again.

    And as people were still guessing on the authenticity of the video, the military authorities came out to confirm that those in the video were part of the commanders released under the prisoners’ swap. The military went further to urge the public to disregard their threat describing them as people who are seeking relevance having lost touch with the realities of the war. They also spoke of the measures they have taken to guarantee public safety. The advice and assurances can as well be.

    But the episode has exposed the innate weaknesses in the arrangements leading to the swap. Besides, it has again brought to the fore the inappropriateness in shutting of the views of those who offered contrary opinions on the prisoners’ swap. If the freed commanders could so soon after, arm themselves with sophisticated weaponry, threatening the nation’s security, then the swap still leaves a sour taste in our mouths. It immediately conjures the impression that we have created monsters that will turn around to haunt us.

    Beyond that however, it raises issues about the Sambisa forest which we were told has been overrun by our military. It tends to suggest at once that the forest still remains a very stronghold of the insurgents. Or, how else do we account for the ease with which the commanders integrated themselves to their old ways with easy access to weaponry with which they now issued threats in a video recording? It gives the impression of a well fortified and organized group that is not about to capitulate.

    That is the unmistakable signals arising from the video show by the freed commanders. It speaks of minuses in the negotiations leading to their being swapped for the Chibok girls. We have been told arrangements are also afoot to get the remaining girls freed. It is hoped that this time around, the entire negotiations will centre round a comprehensive end to the insurgency since the war is said to be at its dying stages with the insurgents’ capacity for evil largely degraded.

    Continuing suicide bombs attacks since the release of the girls and swap of the commanders do not give cause for comfort. The University of Maiduguri was last week attacked with some casualties. Elsewhere, the military has foiled suicide bomb attempts. There were also video images of some of the Chibok girls that refused to leave Boko Haram den wielding dangerous weapons. All these are sources of grave concern as they do not leave even the most optimistic in the comfort of mind that the war will peter out very soon.

    Beyond these however, there are nagging questions that needed to be answered for the discerning public to get a proper perspective of the whole circumstances of the abduction, incarceration and release of the girls. This is necessary given complaints from the Chibok community on the secrecy surrounding the release and subsequent handling of those that have been freed. Chairman of the Chibok community in Abuja, Hosea Tsambido complained of the restrictions placed on the 21 girls released last year.

    Apart from their not being allowed to interact freely and answer questions freely, he said the only thing the first group is being taught is how to bake cake, sing and clap. He has therefore demanded a probe into the 2014 abduction saga. Tsambido’s frustrations are not out of place. Before now, it was widely believed that part of the difficulties in securing a quick release of the girls was due to doubts by the Jonathan regime on the veracity of the abduction.

    That doubt is yet to be reasonably cleared. Even though people have been reluctant to come public with it, references to the good health of the 82 released girls especially in the social media point to raging scepticisms on the abduction saga. With the pictures we have seen of the freed girls, it would seem the insurgents treated and fed them very well. It is not a tale of haggard-looking, emaciated and abused girls. Neither did it depict a spectacle of those who lived in a dreaded forest for good three years.

    Some of them are looking better than those of us living in the comfort of our homes. Little wonder some of the girls were reported to have refused to accept the offer of freedom but instead preferred to remain with their abductors. There is no evidence of the girls having been married off, sold into slavery or killed by their captors. With promises that the remaining girls would soon be freed, previous stories of their being used in suicide bomb attacks have turned out as speculations lacking in any iota of substance. As things have turned out, it would appear that Boko Haram has demonstrated a good record in respecting the fundamental human rights of its prisoners; an offence our military have before now, been accused of.

    When we juxtapose the seeming good health of the girls with the renewed threat by the swapped commanders, the impression we get is that of a confused situation. Such confusion can only be resolved through more information on the saga. People (especially journalists) should seriously be interested in knowing whether the girls we have seen were in the dreaded Sambisa forest all these years? They should be interested in their experiences while they were held captive. What occupied their time during the period and how they related with the insurgents are of public interest.

    But we cannot have any of these now. The alibi is that allowing them to disclose such information would jeopardize the release of the remaining girls. We are told that they are serious security information that the public does not need now. Plausible as this seems, there is the other dimension that the excuse could be a convenient subterfuge to cover up the real story behind the abduction saga. That is the uncanny dilemma we have to contend with for now. Someday, the real story will emerge.

  • CHIKA IKE INSPIRES MOROCCAN GIRLS ON EDUCATION

    CHIKA IKE INSPIRES MOROCCAN GIRLS ON EDUCATION

    IN continuation of her reality show, ‘African Diva’, which is about to enter Season 3, Nollywood actress/producer, Chika Ike, is presently in Morocco, on a tour meeting with Moroccan girls on the importance of education.

    “I had a wonderful time speaking to the young girls in Asni, Morocco on the Importance of Education,” disclosed the actress when she visited ‘Education for all’ Asni 3.

    “It’s always a great experience traveling around Africa, women.”

    The African Diva Reality Show, (ADRS), is an interactive competition that focuses on the search for the ideal African woman.

    Born on November 8, 1985, Chika ‘Nancy’ Ike, apart from acting, is a television personality, producer, businesswoman, philanthropist and ex model.

  • Imo community where pregnant girls are BANISHED for life

    Imo community where pregnant girls are BANISHED for life

    Maidens must walk to the market with bare breasts for initiation into womanhood

    Young female indigenes protest practice, say it’s initiation into marine kingdom

    Osu (caste system) is an ancient Igbo traditional practice that is well known within and outside the country but often condemned because of its perceived infringement on the fundamental rights of the affected people. But not many people are aware of Ikwe-ezi, a traditional festival in Mgbidi area of Imo State, which requires young girls to maintain a high level of morality before they perform the rites which are compulsory for every female indigene of the area. From the stone-age when the practice began till date, hordes of young girls who failed to keep to the rules of the tradition were said to have been publicly humiliated and banished from the community. INNOCENT DURU reports.

     

    THIS, obviously, is a season of celebration and anxiety for many families in Mgbidi, the headquarters of Oru Local Government Area, Imo State. It is a joyous moment for the entire community because it is the period when the people celebrate the Ikwe-ezi, a ceremony that is akin to what is commonly known as rite of passage. It is a huge celebration that draws indigenes of the community in other parts of the country and beyond home to take part, just the way many Igbo people travel home during the Yuletide season.

    The Ikwe-ezi is, however, a period of anxiety for many families whose daughters are ripe for the ceremony, because they have seen and heard of how many families in the land have had their daughters publicly embarrassed and even banished from the community for not being faithful to the rules of the tradition. The Nation gathered that the thought of the grave consequence sends shivers down the spines of parents whose daughters are old enough to take part in the ceremony.

    The Principal Palace Secretary to the traditional ruler, Chief Festus Orji Achonu, who spoke with our correspondent, said: “When a girl has attained maturity but has not performed the rites, her parents must guard her jealously to prevent her from becoming pregnant. If she becomes pregnant before performing the rites, she will be banished from Mgbidi and certain cleansing rites will be done for the family she comes from. The banished girl will never step into the community again. If for any reason she enters the community, the male children in the family will have to perform some cleansing rites in order not to attract the wrath of the gods of the land.”

    Some other respondents said the girl in question risks being lynched if she steps into the community after she has been banished.

    “When a girl has been banished from the community, on no account must she return. She can pass through the land in a vehicle, but she must not step on the soil. If she attempts it, she will be lynched and the family will pay dearly for it,“ a respondent said.

    Giving background information about the ceremony, Chief Achonu said: “Ikwe-ezi is a unique culture in Mgbidi which has not been affected by civilisation or Christianity. A young girl must have reached maturity age to qualify for participation. If you have not reached the age, you are not qualified to do it. It is a sort of check and balance on our young girls. It begins from January and ends in June annually.

    “The practice started from time immemorial with the daughter of a peasant. She was so beautiful that people became jealous of her. She eventually became pregnant, making the elders to gather and declare the development as a taboo. They consequently said she should be banished from the town. The helpless, poor father cried and swore that nothing would ever put an end to the practice in the land. That is why nothing has been able to stop this since then.

    “Every girl that performs the tradition will go to a river we call Nmiri nwata oma (water of a beautiful child) with a small yam that is thrown inside the shrine of the goddess of the river called Obana. That is the tradition we got from our forefathers. When she does this, it means she has done the Ikwe-ezi ceremony, and that signifies that she is now pure.

    “Every girl going through the rites makes use of large quantities of coconut and fish which she distributes to the guests that come to celebrate with her. There are two nights that they will come and perform the ceremony. The first is done on the Orie market day called Ikpoba ali udu ego. The second ceremony is done on Eke market day and it is called ibu oyo. On these two days, a coconut and a fish is given by the celebrant to as many people as come to congratulate her. In appreciation, you can give her money.

    “The Ikwe-ezi ceremony starts after a ceremony we call Chioha here in Mgbidi. Every parent whose daughter is ready will fire two gunshots on Eke day to inform the entire community that their child is ready for the ceremony. On the second day, which is Orie, they will perform the ikpoba ali udu ego. They will come to congratulate the family and take part in the ceremony.

    “There would be traditional folk music for the celebrant to dance to on these two days. On those days, the celebrant gets a lot of gifts. The ceremony lasts for two weeks during which she will not do anything. For a period of time, the celebrant will be in a hut grinding local chalk that she would rub on her body. During this period, they would be cooking delicious meals for her to eat.

    “On the final day, she would go to Eke Mgbidi Market to do izu ahia ezi, tying only wrapper and leaving their breasts open to go to the market. They will go round the market and people will see her that she did it without any blemish. If she is pregnant before entering the fat room, on the day she goes to the market with her breasts open, some old women will notice it and drive her out of the market. She would then be banished from the community.”

     

    Concerned parents

    The fear of falling victim of the unpleasant picture painted by Chief Achonu and other respondents was apparent when our correspondent visited the community. A mother, who gave her name simply as Elizabeth, said she had been seriously troubled since last year when her daughter started seeing her menstrual period. She said she had to keep a close watch on her to prevent her from getting into sexual relationships that could lead to pregnancy.

    Elizabeth said: “I have never kept a close watch on my daughter the way I have been doing since she started seeing her menstrual cycle late last year. I developed goose pimples the very day she told me that she had seen her period. Frightened, I exclaimed, ‘isi gini’ (what did you just say)? Have you been seeing any man?

    “Confused, she said, ‘Mummy, what do you mean? I see men everywhere.’

    “Mba (no)! I mean has any man ever touched you?

    “She looked more confused and said yes. Many males touch me now.

    “At that point, I said you seem not to understand. Has any man made love to you before?

    “She looked astounded as I bombarded her with unusual questions that thoroughly embarrassed the young girl.

    “I have never stopped asking the same question every day, no matter how embarrassed she feels. I will not rest until she has performed the ceremony and come out clean. The devil is always bringing temptations to the girls when they are approaching the time, just to humiliate them and their families. I pray that, that will never be my portion. During our time, there was no need for such because you could be naked and no man would touch you. But now, a baby that wears diaper is not spared by sexual perverts.”

    If Elizabeth was worried because of her only girl, Ada has more reasons to be worried as a good number of her children are females.

    She said: “I constantly suffer serious headache policing my daughters so that they don’t have anything to do with men, especially before they perform the ceremony. As a parent, I cherish and preach morality to my children. But the Ikwe-ezi ceremony requires one to be more than just a morality preacher.

    “I follow my daughters, especially the matured ones, bumper to bumper, because any slight mistake may lead to a lifetime regret. If I see any male around them, you will see me barking like a mad dog. If they go to school and have not returned at the time they are supposed to, my heart will be up.

    “At times, I kneel to beg my daughters to keep themselves pure. I would take time to narrate the consequence of not doing so and ask them if they would want to be banished to an unknown place where they would not see me again. It is tasking, especially for mothers, because if anything goes wrong, it is the women that would be at the receiving end.”

    Equally worried is Nneamaka, who is greatly haunted by stories of girls that have been banished. The fair-complexioned woman said apart from hearing that people were banished, she had seen it happen. The experience, according to her, reverberates in her memory, especially now that one of her daughters is getting ready to perform the rite.

    She said: “I enjoyed the ceremony before now and had no reason to be scared because I hadn’t any child old enough to take part in it. I am feeling the heat now that my child is ready for it. I am tensed up because I don’t want any unpalatable story. It could be entertaining to watch another woman’s child banished, but one would never pray to be a victim.

    “I know of a woman whose child was banished, and I can tell you that her life has never been the same since then. I don’t want to experience that, and that is why I would not sleep or slumber until my daughter has scaled the hurdle.

    “The shame and stigmatisation that come with one’s daughter being banished is too much. When a girl goes to the market half naked, some old women will conduct a check on her to see if she has violated the rules. If she has, they will make her sit down and paint her with charcoal. After that, she will be banished. As they are sending her out of the town, some people will be flogging her, others will be spitting on her, while some others will use brooms to sweep her feet away as she leaves. Immediately they drive her out, you will see men from other communities coming to take her as a wife without paying any bride price to the family.

    “There are so many of them in places like Izombe, Otulu and and neighbouring communities. When a young girl is taken away like that, anything can happen to her. She can be maltreated, used for rituals or any other terrible thing. I will not live for another 24 hours if such fate befalls my daughter. That is why I am doing everything possible to monitor them.”

     

    Young girls kick

    Some young girls who spoke with our correspondent expressed reservations with the practice, which they said is a subtle way of initiating them into occultism.

    One of them, who identified herself simply as Amarachi, said: “I have not done it because it is against my religious belief. I don’t need to do the ceremony to live a chaste life. What is my connection with the lady from which the problem began and why would I have to go to the river to dip my leg into the water and also drop yam and fowl in the shrine? It is nothing but an initiation and I will never take part in it.”

    For Onyinye, the practice has outlived its usefulness. She said: “Of what relevance is the ceremony in the modern time? I wonder why our people are holding on to the practice when many other communities have long jettisoned such primitive practices.

    “Some of my friends and I have vowed that we would not take part in it. There are some men of God that are also kicking against it. They have been organising prayers for young girls like us to break the curses and other evils attached to performing or not performing the ceremony. We say no to barbaric traditional practices that humiliate the female folk. All you have are cultural practices about females. Why are there none for males?”

     

    Different strokes for different folks

    It was, however, a different story with some people who had undergone the rite. Some of them said they actually relished the occasion and wish they could do it all over.

    Franca Ekwueme, who was filled with joy when our correspondent asked her about the practice, said: “This is a big festival here in Mgbidi. It is done in the Christmas period. I did mine and I was very happy about it. I feel like doing it again because it is a thing of pride.

    “It is always fun because many people will come and celebrate with you. When you are in the hut grinding the local chalk that you rub on your body, your skin will be glowing and you will come out looking robust. If you do it without any blemish, your parents are proud of you for not bringing them shame.

    “If you don’t perform the ceremony, nobody will marry you because you will be seen as a cursed person. Many people have been banished for not keeping to the rules of the rites.

    “When going to the river, you will go with a yam and a fowl. When you get to the river, you will put your toes in the river. There are some changes that will happen to the river if you are not pure. After dipping your toes in the river, you will take the fowl and fling it across your neck three times and throw the yam at a designated place.”

    Franca also shared the shocking fate that befell a girl who performed the rites while she was pregnant. She said: “There are grave consequences for those that succeed in doing it while they are pregnant. I know of somebody who succeeded in doing it while she was pregnant. But when she later got married, the husband developed mental challenges. She later remarried and stayed for a very long time before she got pregnant again.

    “When it was time for her to give birth, it was a bunch of hair attachment that came out of her instead of a baby. She died and later on, the husband died too.

    “It is better for one to keep herself pure and honourably observe the rites instead of trying to be smart and ending up in shame and lifetime regrets. The tradition is not treated with levity by our people. Even if you are resident in other states or outside the country, when the time comes, you must come and do it. Once the time to do it is announced, you will see many parents rushing back home with their qualified daughters from different parts of the country and beyond to observe the rites. Once a girl is banished, she would not be allowed to come back to the community again.”

    Another lover of the practice, Ngozi Emmanuel, says she wants her children to observe it without leaving out any aspect.

    She said: “I did full Ikwe-ezi and I will gladly want my children to do same. I enjoyed it so much because it was one moment in my life that people celebrated with me. There was no reason for me to be shy for leaving my breasts open. It was a thing of pride to show that you are pure and that your breasts are standing firmly.

    “When you are walking from your house to the market, your breasts will be bouncing in confirmation of your purity. I wish I could do it all over again. The distance you will trek could be far or short. It all depends on the distance from your house to the market. It is always fun.”

    Ngozi noted that there had always been attempts by Christians to put an end to the practice but the efforts always failed.

    “There was a time a Catholic priest tried to abolish it, but before you know it, many people started dying or having mental challenges. It later became a legal issue because the custodians of the tradition didn’t want it abolished. The priest eventually left the community,” she recalled.

     

    For the men, a piece of entertainment

    It is, however, not only the females that enjoy the ceremony. Chats with some males showed that it serves as a piece of entertainment for them too.

    One of the men who gave his name as Uzoma said: “We eagerly look forward to the ceremony. It entertains us very well as it gives you the opportunity of seeing maidens in their natural state. Apart from that, it gives us the opportunity of eating free coconut and fish provided by the celebrants. We don’t joke with the ceremony here. There was a pastor that vowed that he would not do it for his children. But the mother who knows the implication secretly did it for them.”

    Enumerating the benefits of the ceremony to the community, Chief Achonu said the elders had modified the ceremony to some extent.

    According to him: “The benefit is that it is a sort of checks and balances for our young girls. Anyone that has not performed it must be very careful to avoid the grave consequences. Nobody will like herself or her family members to be sent out of the community. That is why they need to be very careful so that such a nasty story does not come up. Many people have been banished.

    “The modification we have done is that they don’t go to the market anymore leaving their breasts open.  Some people don’t even go to the market again. The ceremony can even be performed now by proxy, especially for those who are abroad, as long as the person is pure.

    “Those who fail the test are forever banished and will never step into the community again. If for any reason she enters the community, the male members of the family will be affected. They will have to perform the cleansing again to be free from attracting the wrath of the gods of the land.”

    His assertion was, however, denied by some of the community members who claimed that some groups still go to the market with their breasts totally open.

    “It is not true that no one goes half naked to the market anymore. Some groups, especially those who are devotees of the water goddess, still do it. There was a family that did that recently and we all saw it,” a community member said.

     

    Knocks for practice

    The practice, like the Osu (caste system), has also attracted severe condemnation from religious leaders and gender activists. In a chat with our correspondent, the General Overseer of Living Souls Pentecostal Ministry, in Mgbidi, Bishop Paul Chukwu, said he does not support the Ikwe -ezi ceremony because “it causes the girls to be messed up.”

    The cleric, who did not hide his disdain for the practice, said: “They are always asked to go to the river to place their legs there and perform some rituals. They will strip themselves naked along the road and do all sorts of things in the public glare. After the whole exercise, the young girls would be told to go and have the freedom to fornicate. It is hard to bring the indigenes of this place into Pentecostal churches.

    “I have been speaking to the custodians of the tradition on the need to abolish it, but they are tightly holding on to it. At times, when you mention it to them, they will be harassing you. When you dare say anything that is against the practice, they will tell you it is a no-go area.”

    He dismissed the claims that the ceremony attracts a lot of benefits to the community, saying: “Forget their argument that the practice is aimed at making the girls to keep their virginity. We are here seeing everything that is happening. All the people that have gone through the ritual that I know of become promiscuous after doing it. Look around and you will see that this particular city is filled with touts and prostitutes even in residential buildings.

    “The name of the community is one of its undoing. Mgbidi means barrier, and everywhere you go and say that you are from Mgbidi, the next thing people will do is to scream. I have seen many girls that were banished because they became pregnant before going through the ritual. It is an abomination for anybody to banish fellow human beings. Did God ask us to kill or destroy another person? There are many things that I have seen here that are reprehensible.”

    On her part, the Executive Director of Project Alert, a non-governmental organisation based in Lagos, Dr Josephine Effah Chukwuma, said: “It is a discriminatory practice and very much out of line with the UN Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women. It is discriminatory because they do not banish the boys/men who impregnate them. Did the young girls get pregnant on their own? Why do we keep holding on to cultural practices that are harmful and discriminatory to women and girls?

    In her remark, the Executive Director, Centre for Children’s Health Education, Orientation and Protection (CEE-HOPE), Betty Abah, said: “My view of it is that this is a cultural thing and cultures, traditions and norms should have a place in our society. That is what gives colour, candour and character to a society or a micro-society in this instance. We can’t throw the baby away with the bath water.

    “I suspect that this is a sort of rite of passage or coming of age ceremony, which applies in many indigenous societies with the various rites and ceremonies. What we should examine is the crude aspect of it so as to do away with it. And typically, as I can glean from this, the odds are against the womenfolk. First, does she really have to go half-naked in this age? To prove what point exactly?

    “Again, very importantly, what are the methods of ascertaining whether she is pregnant or not? Are those methods medically ethical or healthy? Are they done by a medical professional or a crude method that may pose the risk of infection or contamination all in the name of sustaining a tradition?

    “Ultimately, I would like to ask the elders, the custodians of this age-long tradition a quiet question: why should the girl be the only one to be banished? Does it no longer take two to tangle or did she somehow impregnate herself? What happens to her partner in crime? Leave him to continue impregnating more girls and then getting those girls banished?

    “While I do not condone extra-marital sex, I believe it will be great if both are punished. It can only be fair that way. Generally, I think the practice should be scrutinised and ‘polished’ in light of modern realities.”

    Taking a legal look at the practice, a Senior Advocate of Nigeria, Chief Ladi Williams, said the idea of banishing defaulters is out of place.

    He said: “Freedom of movement in any part of the country is a constitutional right which cannot be abrogated. The community has no right to do that. Any customary law that says that they have such powers to the extent that it is consistent with the constitution is null and void. If a customary court supports that, then it is nonsense.

    “The affected persons should proceed to the magistrate court. Such case can even go on up to the Supreme Court. The banished persons can sue for enforcement of human rights and also claim damages for preventing them from going to her primary place of abode.”

  • GIRLS AND THEIR NUDE PICTURES

    GIRLS AND THEIR NUDE PICTURES

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu, I have always wanted to keep my virginity till my wedding night but never had anyone to convince me I am toeing the right path. However, God, in His miraculous way, made me read your article. Keep it up sister. You are God-send and I know He’ll never let you down. Thank you so much aunty Temilolu.

    Lauretta, 17

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    Thank you for your prayers and text messages. They’ve helped me a lot and your column keeps encouraging me to stay chaste.

    Ivie, 18

     

    Dear Temilolu,

    I was just reading your article and I just thought in my mind “I love this woman.” You are amazing. Your articles are spot on and very encouraging and I admire your level of spirituality and hope to attain that in future. Keep up the good work and God bless you sooo much.

    Anonymous

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I met this guy in school and we began dating. We love each other but the problem is that he wants sex and my nude pictures. I keep saying NO but right now he says he won’t chat or call me unless I’m ready to grant his wishes. What should I do please? I really love him.

    19-year-old 200L medical student

     

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    When I tell you it is safer not to be romantically involved with a boy in your teens when you should be laying a solid foundation for your life at times as perilous as this, you think I am too hard while some adults think I’m being unrealistic. Don’t forget, “as you lay your bed so you lie on it.” Too many adults are having a very hard time in life today because of the wrong choices they made when they were young and in love. It’s absolutely normal to fall in love, want to be loved and enjoy being fussed over. However, you need to pursue your destiny and guard it with all your heart so you don’t get into a fatal accident which could divert the course of your destiny. When you begin to put your love for a guy above all things, you lose all sense of proportion and the devil cashes in on this to steal God’s beautiful plans for your destiny. What on earth does a guy need your nude photos for? And why in the world do you have to supply those pictures or succumb to his sexual overtures just to prove your love for him? Why would you even spare him a thought if he refuses to respect your feelings? A guy who truly loves you would not threaten to leave you if you refuse to sleep with him. Besides, I know a number of girls and even an adulterous married woman whose lives have never been the same again and are yet to recover from the shame their stupid act brought them after their nude pictures went viral. Why would you want to set up yourself on a grand scale of disgrace? Have you ever considered the fact that he may use those pictures to blackmail you into having sex with him for many years down the line?

     

    “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”  Jeremiah 17:9

    How would you feel if some day you find yourself in a glorious public office or in an enviable position and someone decides the world must see your nude pictures? Have you ever considered what God would think?

    “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Matthew 5:28

    Why would you want to get God against you by encouraging someone else to sin through a silly act of love? If God be for us, who can be against us? But if God is against you, your life would be open up to evil attacks and oppression. Please beware and be wise! Run, run, run away from any guy that asks for your nude pictures. You will never experience shame or ridicule in Jesus name. AMEN!

     

    For more inspiring articles and prayers against sexual perversion (masturbation, lesbianism, addiction to pornography and immoral thoughts etc.) please visit my blog  www.temiloluokeowo.com   www.girlsapostolicministry.org

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    Are you still engaging in pre-marital sex? Each act devalues you! Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a Secondary virgin! You are most welcome on board the chastity campaign train and Girls Club is open for all girls and ladies. Please text your name, age, school or occupation and State of domicile to 07086620576.

  • NGO for women’s, girls’ empowerment unveiled

    NGO for women’s, girls’ empowerment unveiled

    As a fall-out of global events commemorating the ‘International Women’s Day’, indigent women and girls in Nigeria now have a cause to smile. A new non-governmental organisation (NGO) has been established to ameliorate their sufferings.

    The new non-governmental organisation known as Save Our Women and Girls Foundation (SOW & G) is the brainchild of writer, entrepreneur and philanthropist, Ambassador Unyime- Ivy King, a volunteer for the United Nations.

    The unveiling of the organisation took place on March 10 at Oakwood Park Hotels, Lekki Lagos and attracted numerous people from various spheres of life.

    The event, organised by her media and communication consultancy company, HTT Communications also marked the IWD with the theme “I Am the Change”, derived from the IWD’s global theme of “e Bold for Change”.

    For many of the participants, it was an occasion when they came face-to-face with the reality of the current mass suffering in the country, especially among women and girls in impoverished communities. It was a time to be inspired for action.

    Husband of the organiser, Mr. Ubon King, a businessman/motivational speaker and chairman of Protection Plus Services Limited, was also present to give support for his wife and encourage the women folk to keep dreaming and accomplishing, and lending helping hands to one another.

    For Mrs. Unyime-Ivy, SOW & G was borne out of the need to serve as a structural support for work she has been doing informally for many years.

    According to her, it is a not-for-profit organisation, which was incorporated late last year and is focused on creating social developmental awareness on issues that concern women and girls. It will focus on training, mentoring, educating and building the capacity of women and girls in Nigeria and also raising funds to support credible NGOs that are into gender advocacy, by deploying the method of crowd-funding and strategic partnerships, with a team of respectable men and women to oversee its activities.

    Last year, over a 100 women received two-week training in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, via a project tagged Women Empowerment Skills Training (WEST). It was borne out of her belief that individuals must be the change they hope to see in our society. The Women and girls were empowered with soft skills in different areas such as catering, ankara bags/ankara accessories, soap making/house cleaning products, makeup/gele, and jewellery making.

    As a result of the success of the pilot event, a lot of women and young girls were able to set up their own cottage businesses, which are still running today. Second and third editions of Project WEST are being planned for this year.

  • What are you doing to support girls?

    What are you doing to support girls?

    I recently stumbled on an inspiring article online by a young lady about what she is doing to support girls in her community. I was interested in the piece because I have a girl child and know many girls who should be supported to maximise their potential.

    The piece which is reproduced below is a confirmation of the fact that the task of development is not that of the government alone but for everyone to contribute his or her own quota.

    We can blame governments at all levels for not doing one thing or the other, but the question we should ask ourselves is what I am doing to make my community better.

    It doesn’t matter how little your contribution may be, but the aggregation of the efforts of all will go a long way in improving the standard of living of not only girls, but everyone that deserves our support.

    Read on the account by Jennifer Umeh, a social entrepreneur and student empowering girls in rural communities:

    I shouldn’t be shamed for sharing my pains, struggles and life experiences. No girl deserves to be slammed or termed ‘attention-seeking’ or ‘too sensitive’ for sharing her story. Our stories need to be told because in them is the hope for survival for every young woman.

    My life’s journey epitomises, to a great extent, the challenges faced by the African girl child. I have been through most of the issues plaguing young women, from domestic abuse , low self-esteem and everything else in between. Walking young women through their ordeals is a mutual healing process as it helps me as much as it does them.

    While visiting the motherless babies home in my community, I considered it my duty to mentor them, put smiles on their faces and help them make the right life choices. Gradually, this mentoring circle grew to become a house hold name in humanitarian sector.

    Our programmes inspire girls to have an independent voice, confidence and problem-solving capacity to speak up, be decision makers and create social change. To address this, the Hope for African Girls Initiative has a conference for young girls as well as outreach programmes for primary and secondary schools.

    In addition, to debunk the myth that young women are naturally faced with Inferiority Complex, we created a platform for all the volunteers. Here, we come together in an informal setting to discuss issues relevant to girls, share opportunities, advertise and have meaningful debates about girl issues in Africa.

    Our approach is the first of its kind. Our structure includes a board, a committee, and volunteers. Our diversity reveals the implicit beauty of our differences and we are determined to do much more.

    Through our several social media platforms, we invite volunteers to contribute to our planned projects. Most times, our outreach programmes were carried out by the volunteers and our growing membership increases the need to incorporate a wide range of issues facing every young girl. We work closely with other NGOs while monitoring progress through the appropriate authorities.

    I am that strong girl that everyone knew would make it through the worst. I am that fearless girl, the one who would dare to do anything. I am that girl who never backs down.

    I am Jennifer Umeh

    I am bold for change

  • Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse can scuttle your destiny! (II)

    Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse can scuttle your destiny! (II)

    MADAM, God will bless you and your children. I am a minister of God but I have never experienced a preacher like you. May God increase your knowledge and wisdom.

    Anonymous

     

    Dear Temilolu,

    In the world of today where there’s so much sexual permissiveness, it’s amazing that we still have girls your type who can impact positively on the lives of our girls and the unborn. May your days be long. You are from God. May the almighty keep you to accomplish your mission on earth.

    Mr. A.

     

    Dear Temilolu,

    I read your article- Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse can scuttle your destiny! It is a timely write up for our damsels. May the God of heaven keep your home safe in Jesus name. Keep writing and keep salvaging and redeeming the life of our young girls from destiny destroyers. Every lady should take caution and remember that in Genesis 34:1-2, Dinah was raped in just one single outing she embarked upon.

    Pastor Sunday

     

    Dear Temilolu,

    Whenever I get to read your articles, I am gladdened by your words of advice and encouragement to the younger generation.

    Why not include occasionally some pieces of advice to our young men as well. They are not left out of your outreach.

    God be with you in Jesus name.

    Bolaji Ajai

     

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    One major problem of humanity today is that too many destinies are sick. Asides the scriptures telling us the whole world lies in darkness (1 John 5:19), you will agree with me that our situation in the black race/Africa is deeply concentrated in great mystery and darkness. No matter your social status or background, there’s some darkness in your background raging wildly to sink your destiny if not fiercely resisted. That alone is enough to sink a glorious destiny and stop it from manifesting. Can you now imagine the combination of darkness in a 17-year-old who had slept with 25 men? And right under the nose of her parents. Her parents could afford to send her to school but she had become so dull and couldn’t assimilate much and eventually school was simply out of it and she had to be enrolled in a hair-dressing salon. A lot of you have super-duper destinies such that if God opened your eyes to see the wonder He has created you to be, you probably would be out of human reach and be alone with God so as not to be desecrated. Unknown to you, the devil has informed his cohorts around you probably before you came out of your mother’s womb and they have strategically master-minded some fatal and comprehensive mishaps that would befall your destiny in future. Funny thing is even if your pastor took over from biblical Elisha, he may never see these mishaps. What more? What you have to contend with is commensurate to the magnitude of your greatness. That is the greater your star/destiny, the greater your battles! When the scriptures also tell us that in these days- the last days, evil men and seducers will wax stronger (2 Timothy 3:13) i.e. will go from bad to worse, which power do you have to confront them? Your Brazilian hair, pink pouts, sexy dress or numerous poses on instagram and face book? Hmmm….sigh! To worsen matters, engaging in ungodly sex which not only places too many baggages on your destiny and could paralyse it but which also makes you spiritually dull. It practically destroys your spiritual connectivity with God and opens up your life to demonic invasion.

    Sadly, more often than not, the female folk are at the receiving end. Right from the garden of Eden when Eve was put into trouble by the devil. In the scriptures we are told that a time will come when seven women would beg a man to allow them bear his name without having to provide their needs so their shame can be taken away! (Isaiah 4:1) When an unwanted pregnancy happens, the girl is on the receiving end whether she keeps it or terminates it-which is even worse. When you get married to the wrong person as a result of confusion arising from pre-marital sex, spiritual blindness etc. and you begin to experience hell on earth, become a punching bag and get abused in all forms when you are God’s royal diadem and meant to be the best thing that happened to a man, you bear the brunt and would be lectured by those who have no idea of what your destiny entails to fix perhaps the devil re-incarnate or a home that was never meant to be yours! Who sent you there? How’s that possible? What a big, big waste of time and destiny?

    As merciful as God is I am sure a lot of times He looks down at humanity and laughs at our foolish folly for not following Him implicitly! May He arise for your sake today and set you free from every bondage in Jesus mighty name. Amen!

    To be continued.

     

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