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  • Suspected kidnapper mentally unstable, says husband

    The eldest of two women arrested by the police on Monday for alleged kidnapping, Eno Effiong, is suspected to have mental disorder, it emerged yesterday.

    The Nation learnt that her husband and father of the three children she was suspected to have kidnapped, Effiong, was located by officials  of the Railway Police Command at the Air Force Base, Ikeja on Monday night.

    His location confirmed the address given by their four-year-old daughter, Happiness Effiong, who insisted that the woman was not her mother and that her home was at the Air Force Base.

    Policemen were dispatched on Monday evening to trace all the addresses given by the woman and the infant, before the man was located.

    Eno, alongside her teenage sister, were arrested after passengers of a Bus Rapid Transport (BRT)  vehicle suspected she must have stolen the kids she had with her.

    The passengers’ suspicion was sequel to the continuous cry of a four-month-old baby (one of the three ). Eno refused to breastfeed her.

    Worried that she turned down pleas to breastfeed the baby and could not pet her, Eno was handed over to the police at Iddo.

    At the station, Happiness who gave the second girl’s name as Pateince Effiong, two years, denied severally that Eno was her mother.

    The child’s denial as well as the inconsistencies in the story of the woman and the teenager, prompted detectives to trace all addresses mentioned by the parties.

    A police source told The Nation that Effiong had been located and that he did not know that his ‘sick’ wife took the children away.

    He said: “The man was brought to the command and the little girl  identified him as her father, Effiong. He was the one who told us that the woman has psychiatric problem and had been kept at a mental home.

    “They live at the Air Force Base. The husband said he did not know that the woman had taken the kids away and he did not also know where they were going.”

    There were no comments from the police.

  • God is your husband! (4)

    DEAR Reader, Since this month began, I have taught on: “How God Can Restore Your Hope,” “How You Can Give Thanks In Everything” and “Forget The Past.” As you read this week’s edition, I see God giving you a change of story in Jesus’ name! Today, I will be teaching on: Building a close relationship with God.

    I want you to know that being a widow is not the end of your life; it is only a passing phase. Don’t settle at this point, for it is not your destination. During your widowhood/widower days, you can serve the Lord unreservedly, your circumstances notwithstanding. The Word of God says: But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you (Matthew 6:33). Serving God should be your focus, if you want to enjoy all other things life and salvation have to offer. There are many areas in which you can render service to the Lord; thus, don’t just be a bench warmer in the church.

    FEED ON THE WORD OF GOD

    God’s Word is spiritual food for you. If you eat your earthly food three times everyday, why do you think you can go without spiritual food for one whole day? It is dangerous. This is the period to get yourself more familiar with God by knowing Him and letting Him know you. You can always have a better acquaintance with God than you have now, by taking out time to study and meditate on His Word (the Bible and Christian literatures). As you get acquainted with the Word, you get more acquainted with the Lord. God’s Word says: For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come (1 Timothy 4:8).

    CONTINUE IN PRAYER

    Without prayer there is no power. For you to be able to live out your life the way God wants, you must be a prayerful individual. The Word of God says: Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day (1 Timothy 5:5). There was a widow in the Bible called Anna; she served God with prayer and fasting. The Word of God says: And she was a widow of about fourscore and four years, which departed not from the temple, but served God with fastings and prayers night and day (Luke 2:37).

    There was another widow, who kept on coming to an unjust judge until she got what she wanted because of her importunity. The Bible say: And there was a widow in that city; and she came unto him, saying, Avenge me of mine adversary. And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, Though I fear not God, nor regard man; Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me (Luke 18:3-5).

    After being widowed, a particular lady, who was quite advanced in age, was invited to Canaanland by a member of the church. On hearing the Word of God, she was lifted out of her depression and decided to give her life to Christ. Thereafter, she forgot the pains of being a widow and her bitterness towards God.

    After her conversion, she was encouraged to keep fellowshipping in church, rather than mourning. She soon discovered that it was possible to marry again. During one of the fellowship days, she met with Bishop Oyedepo and indicated her desire to re-marry. She also confessed her anxiety of not believing she would find a suitable born-again believer, who is her age. She was rebuked immediately, for her lack of faith and prayed for, that favour would locate her. She is now happily married to a caring believer and enjoying the honour that she didn’t enjoy in her first marriage!

    DEVELOP NEW SKILLS

    Use your time productively in developing new skills. There are opportunities for you to develop new skills without additional financial responsibilities attached. Widowhood/widower are opportunities to discover the right purpose for living and the right career path to follow. Recently, a brother who I counselled testified saying: “Thank you for your advice that has done great things in my life. I gained admission to study Architecture at Lagos State polytechnic; it was a dream come true for me. Like what you said, it has really affected my social life and has added more colour to my testimonies. Also, it is the right course of study and career path or me”.

    You cannot amount to anything in life without pursuing a purpose for living. It’s not too late; therefore, wake up and get going just like this lady shared in her testimony:

    “You inspired me with a testimony of an elderly woman abroad, who despite her age, returned to school. I don’t know what others around me heard, but I heard you admonishing me. I heard you say exactly: ‘You must be formally educated.” So, I knew it was time I woke up from my sleep. I was a disappointment to my family because I got pregnant and had two sons between 1994 & 1996 instead of studying. At that time I felt ashamed because all my mates were graduates and professionals in their fields. However, your words hit me when you said, ‘I have the mind of Christ’ and so I can do all things through Christ Jesus, Who strengthens me.’ Immediately, an unusual excitement came upon me and the following day, I left for LASU.

    I had always wanted to be a lawyer, so I went to find out if the Diploma in Law forms were available, while I waited for JAMB. They were not available; instead, a form titled Diploma in Theatre Arts, TV & Film production was on sale. I decided to take it, believing that God had not blessed me with only one talent. That was how the journey began. The programme came to a successful end last year, where I was even distinguished with two awards out of the ten available. In the course of the programme, I put in for JAMB and I am now studying for BA in English. Thanks a lot Mama, I acknowledged your insight in my project.” – D. E.

    The first step to take if you desire to spend your widowhood/widower days wisely is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. If you desire to do so, say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today, I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me my sins, cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for making me a child of God. Now, I know I am born again. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Ex-minister loses husband

    Ex-minister loses husband

    A retired Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of the National Orthopaedic Hospital, Igbobi, Lagos, Dr Jerry Grange is dead.

    Dr Grange, who retired in 1995 after many years of distinguished service as an orthopaedic surgeon died on Monday in a hospital in Chicago, United States (U.S).

    He was trained at the St. Mary’s Hospital, Paddington, London  in 1964.

    The late surgeon  qualified as a Fellow of the Royal College of Surgeons and returned to the United Kingdom (UK) after working in Lagos for a couple of years.

    He is survived by wife, Prof Adenike, three children and grandchildren.

  • God is your husband!(3)

    HELLO Reader, I count it a rare privilege to share God’s Word with you today. I began this series by showing you how God can restore your lost hope. Last week, I told you that in everything you should give thanks because according to scriptures, God is not the cause of your problem. Today, I shall be teaching on: Forgetting the past.

    Although, it may feel as though the world has come to an end, it will interest you to know that God can re-write your story. He has done it for others in the past; He will do it for you. The Word of God says: Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert (Isaiah 43:18-19). God is always in the business of doing new things. All you need to do is to forget the past, no matter how difficult it might be. Learn to forget your negative past and refuse to dress the grave. As my husband will always say, “If you don’t allow your past to be past, you will pass away with it”. That shall not be your portion in the mighty name of Jesus!’

    I want you to read the testimony below; it will help you to appreciate God more and forget completely your past and unpalatable experiences:

    Pastor Biodun Pasida has this testimony: His first wife passed on to glory in 1998 on her way back from a business trip in Dubai. Blessed with four wonderful children, he suddenly found himself ‘in the dark’. Though a shattering experience, Biodun remarked: “Right in the midst of the shock, I began to experience joy, and this made me to understand that Christianity is real. There was then a strong inspiration in my spirit not to murmur, grumble or complain. This was such a source of succour to my soul that I ended up preaching to every person who came to console me.

    At a stage, I determined never to marry again as the well being of my children was my primary concern. I was never convinced that another woman could take care of them. I love my kids so much and I did not want anything or anyone to hurt them.

    On what tape(s) or teachings that were of particular benefit to his soul during the trial, he says:

    I cannot pinpoint any book that had a definite impact on my life, but the Word of faith I heard in church never allowed me to feel down. On a particular day, Bishop David Oyedepo said, ‘The devil had a plan to kill your entire family and only one of them went. Give thanks to God, because all of them did not go; and if all of them went, you are here.’

    These are statements that to an ordinary person may not have meant anything but to someone like me, they were pregnant with meaning. I eventually met my new wife in church; her charming nature endeared her to me and we got married in November 2, 2002.

    For men and women passing through such a challenge, Pastor Pasida has this to say: “Watch your company as only faith-filled words will heal your emotions.”

    What are the things that affect your faith?

    1. What you hear: Mind what you hear. Anywhere you notice that the people there are talking negatively, leave such vicinity or turn a deaf ear to such bad news. If God says that something is good for you; believe it, say it and stand by it; don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
    2. What you read: Stuff

    your mind with only

    Positive reports and stop

    Reading negative

    materials. Don’t live

    your life by what others

    write.

    Instead, let only the Word of

    God be your guide. Fill your

    heart by the more sure Word

    of prophecy – the Bible (2

    Peter 1: 19-21).

    3.The friends you keep: Keep away from bad

    friends. An

    associate that does not lift up

    but complains and murmurs

    all the time, is a trap for you.

    The Bible says that the companion of fools

    shall be destroyed (Proverbs 13:20). You will

    not destroy your destiny in Jesus name!

    However, you need to give your life to Christ to have a new beginning. If you are ready to give your life to do so, you can say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today, I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me my sins, cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for making me a child of God. Now, I know I am born again. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Woman to court: I no longer feel connected to my husband

    Woman to court: I no longer feel connected to my husband

    A 29-year-old housewife, Maryam Aliyu, has prayed a Mararaba Grade 1 Area Court, to dissolve her 9-year-old marriage to her husband, Abubakar Ja’afaru, for lack of care.

    The marriage, contracted in 2006 according to the Islamic rites, has not produced any issue.

    The petitioner accused her husband of not taking good care of her.

    “My husband does not provide me with food or good clothes; I am the one who always look after myself as if am single.

    ”We have been married for nine years, but no child though our sex life is good, but I don’t feel connected to my husband,

    ”I want the court not to waste time on this case because I don’t want to stay under the same roof with him as my husband anymore,” she said

    Defending the allegations, Ja’afaru said he still loves his wife.
    ”We don’t have children, but I still love her as my wife, I pray the court not to grant her the divorce.

    ”Children comes from Allah and I have faith we will have our children someday.

    ”There is food at home, things had not been easy for me that is why I can’t afford to buy her clothes always, but I do my best as a husband,” Ja’afaru said.

    The Judge, Mr Owuna Musa advised the couples to go home and try to settle.

    He adjourned the case till Aug. 24, to hear the outcome of the settlement or give his judgment.

     

  • Husband seeks dissolution of 11-year-old marriage

    A 47-year-old businessman, Valentine Emetosin, has sought the dissolution of his 11-year-old marriage to his wife, Clementina, before an Agege Customary Court in Lagos, over lack of care for their children.

    The petitioner, who lives at Oba Falabi Street, Ojodu Berger, a Lagos suburb, said his wife’s attitude changed few months after their wedding.

    “I married her four months after I met her in an eatery during a trip to Onitsha. I would say I never really enjoyed the moments we spent together as a couple,” he said.

    The petitioner also said they treated each other like strangers in the house and that she saw his relations as her enemies.

    He said: “Whenever my wife looks at me, I am always scared because I don’t know what she is ready to say or her intentions. She looks at me with disgust. Few years after our marriage, when I couldn’t tolerate her, I travelled to her home town on several occasions to report to her family.

    “In 2008, she left with our children on the pretext of going to her shop. I searched every nook and cranny but I couldn’t find her even her siblings were not aware of her whereabouts. It was when she couldn’t cater for them anymore, she returned them to me.”

    Emetosin said he took her back to her family seven years ago to nullify the union, saying he was shocked when she showed up four months ago that she had come to stay.

    “I don’t want her anymore. I have another woman and my children attend one of the best schools. She is homeless and has nothing. Please if she wants to see our children, she is free to come to court. I don’t want her close to my house because my current wife is scared,” he said.

    The marriage produced two children between the ages three and 10.

    The court’s President, Pa Adekunle Williams, said since the petitioner presented evidence, the case will continue with or without the respondent. He adjourned the matter till August 24 for judgment.

  • Trader stabs woman for ‘dating’ husband

    A 22-year-old trader, Kuburat Sanni, has been arraigned before an Ikeja Magistrate’s Court in Lagos for allegedly stabbing a woman accused of dating her husband.

    Mrs Sanni, who lives at Akindia Street, Agege, Lagos, is being tried for breach of peace, assault and conspiracy.

    Prosecuting officer Kehinde Olatunde, said that the accused and others still at large allegedly committed the offences on July 9 at her residence.

    He said the accused and the others assaulted one Miss Mariam Bala, 20, by stabbing her with “a broken bottle, scissors and knife.”

    Olatunde said Mrs Sanni accused the complainant of having an affair with her husband and that she had had series of abortions for him.

    Olatunde said: “The complainant was sent by her mother to deliver a message to her elder sister who lives in the same house with the accused. When she got there, the accused, who claimed that the complainant was having an affair with her husband locked her in a room and called some hoodlums. They tore Miss Bala’s clothes and stabbed her with knives, bottles and scissors all over her body.”

    According to the prosecutor, the Miss Bala fainted due to the profuse loss of blood.

    “If not for the quick intervention of neighbours who rushed her to the hospital, the complainant would have been dead,” Olatunde said.

    He said in the process of assaulting the complainant, her phone, valued at N20,000 and N30,000 cash which was to be deliver to her sister was stolen from her.

    The offence, Olatunde said contravened Sections 166, 171 and 410 of the Criminal Laws.

    The accused pleaded innocence and was granted N50, 000 bail with one surety in the like sum.

    Magistrate Aka Bashorun adjourned the case till September 1.

  • Widow demands death penalty for husband’s killer

    Widow demands death penalty for husband’s killer

    A widow, Bose Azees, is  demanding the death penalty for the man alleged to have beaten her husband, Ahmed Azees, to death.

    Kola Adegbite, a local  official of the  Amalgamation of Motorcycle Operators and Riders Association of Nigeria (AMORAN), allegedly beat Azees to death with charm penultimate Sunday at Bank Bus stop, Ifo, Ogun State.

    An argument had ensued between Adegbite, described as AMORAN ticketing officer, and the deceased over ticketing.

    What followed, according to eye witnesses, was that Adegbite struck Azees with a ring. The victim  slumped immediately.

    Bystanders rushed to his aid and were in the process of taking him to the hospital  when he gave up the ghost.

    Bose, who is still shocked by the incident, says all she wants is justice.

    “My  husband’s killer should be given the  death penalty,” she told The Nation as she recalled the circumstances surrounding his death.

    She said: “my husband was not into Okada business full time. He was a bricklayer and only used his motorcycle to carry passengers in order to complement his income.

    “He told Adegbite that he had no money to buy ticket, promising to do so as soon as he made some money later in the day.

    “My husband pleaded with Adegbite, but he won’t listen. It was in the middle of an altercation that the man (Adegbite) invited his colleagues to beat up my husband before hitting him with a deadly charm. He fell  down with his tongue stretching out. He  died on the spot.

    “My husband and I did not plan it this way. All I want is justice.”

    A close relation who does not want to be named  described the late Azees “as unassuming and hardworking.”

    A resident who asked for anonymity asked  security agencies and local government authorities to monitor  Okada riders in the community close to  prevent a recurrence.

    He recalled how three other commercial motorcycle riders were beaten up by AMORAN ticketing officials at Coker area of the town  a month ago.

    The suspect  was arrested by policemen from the  Ifo Police Station and has since been transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID), Eleweran, Abeokuta.

  • God is your husband!(2)

    DEAR Reader,You are welcome to another wonderful time in God’s presence. I believe you were mightily blessed last week. As you pay attention to God’s Word, believe God for a miracle in your life and you shall have a testimony!

    Last week, I began this teaching by looking at a topic: There is hope for you. I said in that teaching that God is not through with you yet, and we saw the testimony of that woman, whom God restored her hope, joy and happiness. You are the next person to share your own testimony. Today, I want to talk on a topic: In Everything, Give Thanks.

    The only way God can intervene in your situation is if you would be thankful to Him. Remember, God is not the cause of your problem(s). The Word of God says: In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you (1 Thessalonians 5:18). Therefore, in every situation you find yourself, give thanks to God. By so doing, you invoke His presence and concerning God’s presence the Word of God says: Tremble, thou earth, at the presence of the Lord, at the presence of the God of Jacob; Which turned the rock into a standing water, the flint into a fountain of waters (Psalm 114:7). Therefore, always maintain an attitude of thanksgiving unto God for He is the one that can solve all your problems. Also, it is important for you to know that God is the reason you are still breathing.  The Bible says: Let every thing that hath breath praise the Lord. Praise ye the Lord (Psalm 150:6). As long as you have the breath of God in you, you owe Him thanks. For you to be alive, you have every reason to praise God. The Word of God says: I will bless the Lord at all times: his praise shall continually be in my mouth. My soul shall make her boast in the LORD: the humble shall hear thereof, and be glad. O magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt his name together (Psalm 34:1-3).

    No matter your condition or circumstance, ensure that you give God praise! This is because God knows your situation and when you praise Him, He steps in and makes you to walk upon your high places. Furthermore, the Word of God says: Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: Yet I will rejoice in the Lord, I will joy in the God of my salvation. The Lord God is my strength, and he will make my feet like hinds’ feet, and he will make me to walk upon mine high places. To the chief singer on my stringed instruments (Habakkuk 3:17-19).

    Be joyful no matter the situation. Remember, the Word of God says: Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation (Isaiah 12:3). There are so many things stored up for you in the wells of salvation. However, without joy in your heart, you can’t access them. I want you to take time to read the testimony below; it will further boost your faith and hope in God.

    “I married my first wife on August 20, 1988 and the union was blessed with two children. However, on April 18, 2000, as she delivered our third child, my wife developed Pregnancy Induced Hypertension. This led to her passing on to glory. Though the news hit me like a thunderbolt, and I was shocked to the bones, the Holy Ghost inspired me to write, there and then, 10 reasons to give God thanks, even in that situation and I obeyed.

    During the home-going of my mother in 1981, the Holy Ghost dropped a verse of scripture in my mind. He spoke distinctly that fateful day saying: All things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28). This was the verse that kept my hope alive all through that trial. But, in spite of encouraging words from everyone, I would not say that my late wife’s departure did not hurt. At the time she passed on to glory, I felt it would not be necessary to remarry, bearing in mind that we had been married for almost twenty years. As a result, I deemed marrying another person virtually impossible. But, the more I pondered on the issue of remarriage, the more the Holy Ghost assured me that He would see me through.

    Though friends tried to introduce eligible spinsters to me, I waited strictly on the Holy Ghost until He gave me the go-ahead to propose to another sister in church. At this point in time, my emotions had been healed, and God assured me time and again that my late wife was resting in glory. By the time I finally asked for my new wife’s hand in marriage, she consented and we were gloriously married in August 31, 2002. While my children settled down in their new home, my wife and I are enjoying perpetual honeymoon. God is no doubt a restorer of years”. – Alade O.

    I see God giving you your own testimony in the name of Jesus! However, it is important to know that the restoration of your life begins when you surrender your life to Christ. This is because only Christ can restore all you have lost. You can say this prayer in faith, if you desire to do so: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today, I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me my sins, cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for making me a child of God. Now, I know I am born again. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • God is your husband!

    HELLO reader, It’s a great pleasure for me to bring you God’s Word today. All through this month, I shall be teaching on, God is Your Husband. This week, I shall be exploring the topic: There is hope for you.

    Probably, you may be wondering as a widow, “Is there still hope for me?” I am glad to let you know that there is still hope for you. God is not through with you yet. He is a God of restoration! If you are a widow, there is hope for you in Christ Jesus. The Word of God says: For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease (Job 14:7). I want you to know that God has not forgotten you, He created you in the first place and He cannot mismanage your life.

    The Word of God says: But Zion said, The Lord hath forsaken me, and my Lord hath forgotten me. Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me (Isaiah 49:14-16). I am glad to let you know that God has not forgotten you. This month, the Lord shall remember you!

    Widowhood is a very painful experience! No one wants to think about it, let alone read an article about it. One may have felt forcefully stripped of the honour, pleasure and joy of marriage. However, God Who is a Restorer can restore any honour lost. Not only can God restore such honour, He is willing and can do so right now. However, I want you to know that no matter the torments and pain you might have experienced, God is always right! As you read the testimony below, I see God changing your situation!

    This is a testimony every widow looking forward to restoration must read: “Mrs. Remi O. Paseda, a teacher by profession, saw her first husband pass on to glory on October 9, 1993 after a brutal armed robbery attack. She got married in 1991 at St. Matthew’s Anglican Church, Ijebu Ijesha, Osun State and their union was blessed with a son. At the news of the passing away of her husband, she was thrown into a state of disarray; it was a tough bone for her to swallow. Though she was often beclouded by fear and depression, Mrs. Remi enjoyed regular inspiration from friends who stock closer than a brother. In her words, she said, “I knew I needed help which I could not give myself, so I started talking to brethren around me. Some would come to my house and we would pray, and worship God together. I also made it a point of duty never to miss church services.

    I can never forget a statement the servant of God, Bishop David Oyedepo made during one of the services. He said, ‘If you have lost anything, God is the reason you have not lost everything. He is always right. If you don’t allow your past to be past, you will pass away with it.’ These sayings really got to me and it dawned on me strongly that I had a reason to thank God. I then made it a point of duty to appreciate the Lord for what I had left. I thanked God for my son and many a time, I would list reasons why I must praise Him. Bearing in mind that my child was very young at the time, I decided not to remarry immediately. I felt I owed God an obligation to take proper care of him so that he would not feel rejected. However, I was very sure that I would remarry one day. Miraculously, God in His faithfulness granted my heart desire and I remarried in November 2, 2002.”

    This is her advice to those, who are currently passing through such trial: “You may feel like God has abandoned you, but you must realize at all times that God is God. No matter what you are facing, the more you ruminate on the truth, the faster your emotions will heal. At a stage, I would think about my late husband and smile. I decided to forget about him as I know that he has gone to be with the Lord. When you hold on to God’s Word, He always shows Himself faithful.”

    It is appropriate to mention at this point that remarriage is in line with God’s Word, if a widow so desires. This is because scripturally, every widow is permitted to remarry. However, you can only marry a born again child of God. Remember the Word of God says: The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:39). I am glad to let you know that you are the next in line for a miracle. The God Who did it for that sister will surely visit you.

    I also want you to know that there is hope in the Word of God. This is because God’s Word (The Bible) is a book of hope. The Bible says: Remember the word unto thy servant, upon which thou hast caused me to hope (Psalm 119:49). Also, in Psalm 119:81, the Word of God says: My soul fainteth for thy salvation: but I hope in thy word. Furthermore, the Bible says in Psalm 119:114: Thou art my hiding place and my shield: I hope in thy word. There is hope for you because you are joined to the living! Again, the Bible says: For to him that is joined to all the living there is hope: for a living dog is better than a dead lion (Ecclesiastes 9:4).

    God is the only source of hope and knowing Him will bring restoration to your life. Do you want to be born again so that you will have a new life altogether? If your answer is, “yes,” please say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today, I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me my sins, cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for making me a child of God. Now, I know I am born again. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).