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  • ‘Help! I’m like a stranger in my husband’s house’

    “I’m a young lady of 23. I got married to my husband at the age of 20 while still in the university and i don’t have kids yet.

    As a young girl i grew up with the mindset that all i needed in life was to get married to a rich man and I’m good.

    However, as i grew older i realized that i wanted more out of life than to be a rich man’s wife.

    I want to pursue my dreams and career. My marriage on the other hand is just full of one issue or another.

    I’m not happy 95% of the time. The only advantage in my marriage is that i have comfort.

    My hubby does not support my ambitions, he feels my only ambition in life should be to help him achieve he’s.

    He doesn’t let me in on whatever plans or decisions he makes.

    I’m like a stranger in my home because most times i usually hear things about him from outsiders or when he’s on the phone.

    He doesn’t even trust me. He is very insecure and it scares me because he’s violent.

    He used to hit me although I’m not totally convinced that he has changed for good. He always wants to make trouble when things don’t go his way.

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    He’s very controlling and abusive so much so that he made me believe that I’m nothing without him and i became depressed and suicidal at some point.

    My hubby is very rich yet we haven’t had any sort of wedding whether traditional, legal or religious.

    The only thing he did was just traditional rites and payment of dowry. And not a single document has my name on it, not even the cars i drive. He cheats and never takes responsibility for his actions. Oh! And he has a son with another woman. We have totally different views on almost everything.

    Despite being married to a rich man I’m poor. He’d rather provide whatever i need than give me the money.

    There’s a whole lot to talk about but let me stop here.

    Here’s the issue, I’ve left this guy three times in d past and he comes back begging with a truckload of promises which he hardly fulfills, and every time i go back to him because i love him and I’m willing to make it work and also because I don’t believe in myself enough to succeed on my own.

    I’m so confused .”

     

     

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  • Husband to be caned for divorcing wife

    A Sharia Court at Magajin Gari in Kaduna yesterday ordered that Idris Sai’du be given five strokes of the cane for violating Islamic Law on divorce.

    The judge, Mallam Dahiru Lawal, also ordered the man to pay N5,000 to Hauwa Abdullah, his wife, for abandoning her and wasting her time.

    The judge, who was irked at the respondent’s pronouncement of “I divorce my wife three times,” said it was not in line with Islamic practice.

    He ordered the respondent to be given five strokes of the cane.

    The complainant, Hauwa, had told the court that her husband chased her out of her matrimonial home since last year.

    “He asked me to leave his house since last Ramadan, saying I should pack my belongings and leave. It is almost a year now and he has never checked me,” the complainant said.

  • Wife to court: my husband beats me daily

    A middle age woman, Mrs Grace Okunwa, yesterday told a Customary Court sitting in Agege that her husbands, Macaulay Okunwa, beats her every day.

    Grace spoke while reacting to the petition filed against her by her husband seeking dissolution of their marriage.

    Grace, who also urged the court to dissolve her marriage to Macaulay for alleged domestic violence, told the court that she was fed up with the respondent’s attitude towards her.

    “My husband is adulterous, not trustworthy and dangerous; he beats me at every slight opportunity, even in front of our children and neighbours to the extent that I got injured on my legs My husband deceived me. He is dating one Theresa who lives not too far from our house but keeps denying it,” she said.

    Grace also raided her shop and destroyed expensive goods.

    “I want peace and l don’t want any problem in my life,” she said.

    She urged the court to end the marriage as she was no longer in love with him.

    The petitioner was absent in court.

    Grace said she moved out of their matrimonial home with three of her grown up children.

    The President of the court, Ibironke Elabor, adjourned the case till May 15.

     

  • ‘My husband always asks for anal sex’

    A housewife, Asma’u Sulaiman, yesterday prayed a Sharia Court in Magajin Gari, Kaduna to dissolve her marriage because her husband usually asked for anal sex.

    She said her man, Nura Ahmad, assaulted and accused her of infidelity.

    “There was a time I packed to my parents’ home, following a misunderstanding I had with my husband. When I returned, he accused me of aborting my pregnancy, which was not true,” Asma’u said.

    She said she came to court to get justice, as she could no longer endure pains and was scared of contracting disease from anal sex.

    Ahmad denied the allegations, saying they were untrue.

    The judge, Malam Musa Sa’ad, adjourned the case till April 18 for the complainant to present her witnesses.

     

  • Woman ‘splashes hot water mixed with pepper on husband’

    A housewife, Mrs. Janet Mohammed, of Mandela, Minna, Niger State capital, has allegedly poured hot water mixed with pepper on her husband, Mr. Alaska Mohammed, after a brawl.

    The victim told News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on his hospital bed at Minna General Hospital that the quarrel was about their 11-month-old son’s health.

    He said his wife became nonchalant about the boy’s running temperature.

    Mohammed said his refusal to allow his wife take their son to church led to a brawl, which was subsequently settled by his mother.

    “After my mother reconciled us, she told me that I would regret for laying my hands on her, but I ignored the threat. As I was watching television and taking my breakfast, she splashed the mixture on me,’’ he alleged.

    The victim said before relations and neighbours could rescue him, his wife disappeared.

    He said the incident had been reported at Tudunwada Police Division.

    NAN observed that Mohammed, who spoke in pains, had burns on his face and body and was placed on drip.

    Confirming the incident, police spokesman Muhammad Abubakar said although the issue was between a husband and wife, it was still a criminal case.

    “We have begun investigation into the matter, although the woman is on the run. Whenever we arrest her, we will arraign her,’’ he said.

  • Husband and wife

    Husband and wife

    Ekiti State Governor Ayo Fayose is a newsmaker.  Interestingly, his wife, Mrs. Feyisetan Fayose, is also interested in making news. Indeed, she grabbed the headlines as the New Year began.

    According to a statement issued by her Special Assistant (Media), Gbenga Ariyibi, she made remarkable remarks in Ado-Ekiti during the New Year thanksgiving service. Mrs. Fayose was quoted as saying: “I want to plead with everyone, don’t hunt for the downfall of this government; don’t even try it. God is looking at you, and God is watching. Don’t hunt for the failure of continuity. Why? Because our God is a God of continuity, our leader is carrying the unusual grace, if you don’t want to be disgraced, don’t hunt for the downfall of this government, don’t hunt for the failure of continuity, I have said my own.”

    Although she did not clarify what she meant by “continuity,” it was clear she meant that her husband and his ideas should not be challenged or opposed.  It is noteworthy that Governor Fayose had caused a stir last year when he named his deputy, Prof. Kolapo Olusola, as his successor. The state is expected to elect a new governor this year. Justifying his choice, he had said during a thanksgiving service to mark his third year in office:  “I wanted Kayode Osho, but the Lord said it is Kolapo Olusola and I had no choice but to obey.”

    Could this be the continuity his wife spoke about?  Well, that may well be the case. But there is another matter, which may also matter. Last year, Fayose had declared his intention to run for president in 2019, boasting, “I can say expressly that I am well equipped in terms of knowledge, experience as well as physical and mental capacities to hit the ground running as soon as I assume office as President of Nigeria in 2019.”

    Husband and wife seem to be on the same page.  The statement also quoted Mrs. Fayose as saying:  “God told me expressly years back that he needed Ayo Fayose in Nigeria. What brought about this is, I was praying that the trouble of this man was too much, that I want God to take politics away from his heart, to separate him from politics, that I have had too much, but God said leave him to me, he is in the hollow of my palm, I need him in Nigeria, it is not only Ekiti, that he is just passing through Ekiti State.”

    What a couple!  They are together in the business of using God’s name to promote their interest.

  • Rivers bloodbath: My husband, kids brought out of house, shot dead

    Rivers bloodbath: My husband, kids brought out of house, shot dead

    The horror of the New Year’s Day killings in Omoku, Rivers State was relived yesterday.

    A woman, Prophetess Comfort Ordu, recounted how her husband and three children were shot to death. She said the gunmen invited them out of their home and shot them.

    Governor Nyesom Wike, during a visit to the community, was told that 17 people were killed by the gunmen.

    Caretaker Chairman of Ogba/Egbema/Ndoni Local Government Area, where Omoku is located,  Mr. Osi Olisa, received the governor and his delegation. He confirmed the number of the dead as 17.

    The names of some of those murdered were given as: Favour Odili, Saviour Amirinze, Augustine Ordu, Precious Ordu, Wisdom Ordu, Jennifer Ohia, Innocent Ohia, Reuben Idogu, Baby Idogu, Ngozi Ogbuanukwu, Oyi Ogadinma, Nwagaego Ogadinma and Uche Onige.

    With the governor were Brig.-Gen. A.A Bande; Col. M.N Madi; Deputy Police Commissioner Ahmed Magaji, and Department of State Services (DSS) Director-General Mr. Tosin Ajayi.

    Wike said anybody connected to the killings would have his property forfeited to the government.

    Wike announced N200 million reward for information that could lead to the arrest of the killers.

    The governor led the State Security Council on a fact-finding/sympathy visit to the families of the victims of the Omoku massacre.

    He also visited the injured in the hospital as well as the home of a former militant leader. He visited  the scene of the crime, where he received briefings from Police Area Commander Mike Nwafor  and the home of wanted cultist, Mr. Igwedibia Johnson, aka Don Waney, where he (the governor) lauded the security agencies for working hard to improve security.

    “We have placed a N200 million bounty for relevant information  that will lead to the arrest of all those involved in the unfortunate act of violence.

    “Anybody who is connected to the crime in any way will have his/her houses forfeited to the government. This place (Omoku) has been peaceful before this unfortunate mayhem.

    “We will not allow another case of this violence. We have mobilised the security agencies to take the battle to the perpetrators.”

    Wike also insisted that all the persons linked to the Omoku violence would face the law.

    He said: “You cannot shed innocent blood and go free. We are working with all the security agencies to do everything  possible to arrest the perpetrators. They must pay for this.”

    The governor also commiserated with the families of the deceased. He said the government would support them in burying their loved ones, promising that his administration would settle the medical bills of the injured.

    Wike said: “I am pained by this unfortunate mayhem. Enough is enough.”

    Abe, who is a former Secretary to the State Government (SSG), yesterday in a press statement by his spokesperson, Parry Benson, also condoled with the families of the victims, the Orashi region and the entire people of the state.

    He is worried  over the resurfacing of violent crimes in Omoku and its environs. He urged the government to assist security agencies with the tools to tackle the state’s challenges.

    The senator said: “The killings in Omoku are an indication that all is not well with the security network of the state. The Rivers government should assist security agencies with the needed tools to tackle the rising state of insecurity.

    “The incident (Omoku massacre) is condemnable and should be condemned by every right-thinking resident of the state. Rivers communities should not be allowed to become haven for blood-thirsty hoodlums.

    “Rivers government must drastically re-engineer the security architecture and funding, to fight crime and stop the endless waste of human lives.”

     

  • Expectant mum, husband, kids burnt to death

    Expectant mum, husband, kids burnt to death

    An expectant mother, her husband and two children were yesterday burnt to death in their Lagos home.

    The incident occurred at 13, Buraimoh Street, Bariga at the wee hours of the day.

    Forty-one-year-old Kenneth Eze, his wife, Favour and their daughters Miracle and Marvellous were sleeping in their shop when the fire broke out.

    Kenneth, who ran a drug outlet, resided in his aluminium shop with his family.

    Besides, the wife reportedly went into force labour and delivered still birth which  the fire.

    Two other shops, a tailoring centre and a provision store attached to the chemist’s store were also razed by the inferno.

    Neighbours who were alarmed by their screaming said the metallic component of the burglary secured shop made it difficult to render timely assistance.

    They were said to have died from burns and suffocation from the fire.

    While some residents blamed the outbreak on electric surge, others claimed it was caused by a lit candle that was left unattended.

    The Nation learnt Eze, an Imo state indigene, was set to spend the Christmas holiday at his newly built home in Ikorodu before the incident.

    While a crowd of sympathisers gathered before the shops, hoodlums besieged the heap of ruins, scavenging useful materials.

    However, the fire did not affect the main bungalow building situated in the same compound with the shops.

    Eze’s former boss, who didn’t want her name, disclosed said he was an honest and diligent man, who gave his time to the service of God.

    She said: “When we spoke, he told me he had issues with his Landlord. So he said he would move to his new house by the 27th of this month. The next thing was that I was called about his death. When I asked people, they said the electric sparks was the cause. Kenneth was a very good boy. He made me happy. He never lied and he never stole from me. He was passionate about God because I encouraged him to be born-again. In fact, he was already a pastor before I settled him. Even after he left my control, I still narrate his case to my children because of his good records. The person who made me stay in Lagos. When you call him, he would respond and you could take his word.”

    The deceased’s relative said: “When the fire broke out, it displaced all of them in different parts of the shop. People who heard him crying for help could not assist. They couldn’t near him because of naked wire. They just watched the family die helplessly. It was just few days to settling in his home. “

    A member of the World Harvest Church where Eze pastored, Ndukwu said: “My wife called me this morning around 11:30 asking if I learnt about the incident. I was shocked as she said the whole family died. We are only here to help gather any necessary remnants from the ruins. I honestly don’t know how I feel about the incident. According to people, he struggled to escape the fire but the electric surge held him back.”

    The remains of the deceased have been taken to Imo State for burial.

    Director, Lagos State Fire Service, Rasaq Fadipe said the fire would have wreaked more havoc but for quick response from emergency workers.

    He said investigations would be conducted into the cause of the outbreak.

  • Ex-PDP chair’s son’s wife remanded for allegedly stabbing husband to death

    A High Court of the Federal Capital Territory sitting in Jabi, Abuja, yesterday remanded Mrs Maryam Sanda in Suleja Prison for allegedly stabbing her husband, Bilyaminu Bello Haliru, to death.

    The late Bilyaminu was the son of former National Chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), Mohammed Bello Haliru, who is being prosecuted by the Federal Government over fraud allegations.

    Haliru Bello, who was Minister of Communications from June 2001 to May 2003 and Defense Minister from July 2011 until June 2012, was indicted in a bribery scandal involving the German telecommunications company, Siemens AG.

    His daughter in-law, Maryam Sanda, a nursing mother, was said to have stabbed her late husband on the chest and neck region with broken bottle on November 19, 2017 in their Abuja residence, leading to Bilyaminu’s death.

    Maryam’s mother, Hajia Maimuna Aliyu, was recently nominated and surprisingly dropped from being appointed to the Board of the Independent Corrupt Practices and other Related Offences Commission (ICPC) – a development which she blamed on unidentified forces.

    Her daughter’s arraignment was sequel to a two-count charge dated November 20, and filed same day by the Commissioner of Police, FCT.

    The prosecution counsel, Mr James Idachaba, pleaded that the charge be read to the defendant to enable her take plea .

    However, when the two-count charge marked CV/15/17 was read to Maryam Sanda, she pleaded not guilty to the offence .

    Having taken a “not guilty” plea, the prosecution counsel requested for a date for the commencement of the trial.

    Reacting, Useni Musa, counsel for the defendant, did not oppose the adjournment, but made an attempt to persuade the court to release Maryam Sanda on bail to enable her attend to her six-month old daughter.

    But the oral plea was rebuffed by the court as Justice Halilu Yusuf noted the application was improper before him in the eyes of the law.

    Consequently, definite hearing of the case has been fixed for December 7.

    The charge reads, “That you, Maryam Sanda, female, adult of No.4 Pakali Close , Wuse 2 Abuja, on 19/11/2017 at about 0350hours at No.4 Pakali Close, Wuse 2 Abuja within the Abuja Judicial Division, did commit the offence of culpable homicide punishable with death in that you caused the death of one Bilyaminu Bello Haliru, male adult of No. 40 Pakali Close, Wuse 2 Abuja by stabbing him on the chest with a broken bottle which eventually led to his death and you did so with the knowledge that your act is likely to cause his death.

    “You thereby committed an offence   punishable under Section 221 of the Penal Code Law.

    “That you, Maryam Sanda, female, adult of No.4 Pakali Close , Wuse 2 Abuja, on 19/11/2017 at about 0350hours at No.4 Pakali Close, Wuse 2 Abuja within the Abuja Judicial Division, did commit the offence of causing grievous hurt in that you stabbed one Bilyaminu Bello Haliru, male adult of No. 40 Pakali Close, Wuse 2 Abuja with a broken bottle on the neck thereby endangering his life.

    “You thereby committed an offence contrary to Section 240 (g) and punishable under Section 247 of Penal Code .

  • ‘My husband tied me to tree’

    A housewife, Fausat Akinola, has told a Grade `C’ Customary Court in Agodi, Ibadan that her husband of 15 years, Mr. Sarafa Akinola, tied her to a tree in front of their home.

    The woman, a mother of three, was giving evidence in a divorce suit filed by her husband.

    “My lord, I support the dissolution of our marriage because my husband tied me to a tree in our house.

    “There was a day he threw me inside a cesspit. I was rescued by a neighbour.

    “He treated me like a slave and was fond of beating me up whenever we quarrelled.

    “Dissolution of the marriage is a freedom from brutality. It will save me from untimely death. I’ve packed out of his home,” the respondent said.

    Sarafa told the court that Fausat was stubborn and disobedient.

    He said the respondent and his three children packed out of his home to an unknown destination without informing him.

    The petitioner implored the court to order the respondent to bring back the children so that he could take care of them.

    He denied tying her to a tree.

    “I did not throw her inside a cesspit,” Sarafa added.

    Delivering judgment, the President, Chief Mukaila Balogun, said there was no basis to deny the divorce request, since both parties had agreed to end the union.

    He dissolved the marriage and gave custody of the three children to the petitioner.

    Balogun said the evidence of the respondent showed she will not be able to take care of the children.

    He ordered the petitioner to take care of the children.