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  • 4 steps to saving your marriage after an affair

    Your marriage doesn’t have to end if you or your spouse were caught cheating. But you will have to work hard. Even newlyweds have cheated, says Janis Abrahms Spring, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Westport, Conn. and author of ‘After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding the Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful’ . If one of you has cheated, you can still save your marriage. Here are tips for saving your marriage after an affair –

    •End the affair – The unfaithful spouse must have a funeral for the extramarital relationship, says Spring. Essentially, he or she must kill the affair by ending it in no uncertain terms. In other words, the cheating spouse must agree to never contact or accept contact from his or her lover again.

    •Understand why the affair happened -“The affair tells a story that must be understood,” says Spring. “Otherwise, why wouldn’t it happen again?” There are many reasons why people cheat. A few examples of the type who might cheat include someone who always followed the rules and never deviated from the pack, someone who felt his parent’s favored his siblings and seeks attention, and someone who is jealous of the time and affection his wife is now sharing with their children. The point is, however, that you have to get to the bottom of what led your spouse to cheat and try to address whatever needs addressing internally and in your relationship.

    •Turn to each other – After an affair, couples might have a lot of anger and resentment toward one another. They should not dwell on those emotions. Instead, they should look to the future. “Treat each other they way you would like to feel and not the way you actually feel at the moment,” says Spring. “Treat each other with respect, tenderness, and care.” Don’t take each other for granted either. “The after glow wears off, and people lose consciousness of how they treat each other,” says Spring.

    •Re-build trust – Those who have cheated must earn the trust of their spouses again. You’re starting from scratch, so it won’t be easy. Spring suggests you regularly check in, commit to therapy and working on the relationship, answer phone calls from your spouse, be where you say you are going to be, and tell the truth. If you lie or seem like you’re hiding something, your spouse will be brought back to the affair and your behavior during that time. Honesty could save your marriage.

    Those who heal after adversity focus on finding a solution to the problem instead of focusing on the problem. In other words, if you are someone who can’t let go of the idea that your spouse was unfaithful you will have a harder time healing.

    If you are someone who focuses on rebuilding the lost trust and stay open minded about finding solutions you are more likely to save your marriage and heal. The good news is, we can all be solution oriented folks. We can all develop the insight needed to work through marital infidelity and either save a marriage or move on to rebuild and be productive in life.

    The first place to start is with empathy for yourself and your spouse. I truly believe that the first step to healing from any kind of betrayal is an understanding of not only our own feelings but the feelings of the one who betrayed us.

    People who are empathetic are sensitive to their experiences and the experiences of others. You’ve heard the old saying, “walk a mile in my shoes?” This can’t be truer than when attempting to find solutions to marital problems that damage the trust we have in a partner.

    So, I urge you to not only be gentle with yourself but to put effort toward empathizing with the spouse who has hurt you. Doing so leaves little room for anger to take hold, anger that can keep you focused on the problem instead of solutions to the problem.

     

  • What not to do when deciding whether or not to divorce

    There are wrong ways and right ways to go about taking that first step.

    Below are things I believe no one should do when trying to decide if divorce is right for them.

    Don’t give up on your marriage until you’ve done everything in your power to solve the problems in your marriage. Solving problems means letting your spouse know that the problems in the marriage have become so stressful that you are considering divorce. Nine times out of ten you both play a role in the problems in your marriage. It is only fair that you both have the opportunity to work toward solutions to the problems together or with a marriage counselor.

    Don’t become involved with another man or woman due to the unhappiness in your marriage. New relationships are for after you are divorced. Introducing a third party into an already bad situation only makes the situation worse. If you have an affair out of fear of being alone once you separate then you need to deal with your fear of being alone instead attaching yourself to someone new just to keep from having to face your fear.

    Don’t allow anger or an argument to drive you to the point of filing for a divorce. The decision to divorce should be made when you are level headed and free of emotions. This is especially true if you have children. For the children’s sake it is important that whoever decides to leave the marriage is able to do so in a civil and respectful manner.

    Don’t leave an unhappy marriage, one in which you are treated respectfully if you do not have the ability to take care of yourself financially. Alimony is not guaranteed these days and even if it were, child support and alimony will not provide a sufficient lifestyle for you and your children should you divorce. Think about building a career of your own before thinking about divorce.

    Choose wisely who you share your wish to divorce with. Find a trusted confidant or therapist but don’t talk about your unhappiness with anyone willing to listen. Should you decide not to divorce you will then be known in your social circle as the person who is unhappy in their marriage. And, you will have a lot of explaining to do.

    I don’t have to tell you how painful the decision to divorce can be. If you are reading this article, you are fully aware. You need to know that your decision will have a lasting impact on yourself, your spouse and your children for years to come. Take your time, use a level head and take into consideration not only what divorce will mean for you but, for all involved in your decision.

     

  • Court dissolves ‘lazy’ man’s four-year marriage

    An Igando Customary Court in Lagos on Tuesday dissolved the four-year-old marriage of a businesswoman, Mrs Lydia Nwaru and Daniel, her husband.

    The petitioner told the court that Daniel, with whom she had a daughter, wanted to be “househusband”.

    The court’s President, Mr Adeniyi Koledoye, held that the husband’s repeated refusal to appear in court would not stop the proceedings.

    “Throughout the duration of this case, the respondent refused to honour court processes, in spite of being served with all court processes. Therefore, the court has no other choice than to dissolve the marriage.

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    “The court pronounced the marriage between Lydia and Mr Daniel Nwaru dissolved. Both parties, henceforth, cease to be husband and wife.

    “Each of you should go on his or her separate way. The court wishes both of you well in your future endeavour,” he said.

    Koledoye said the only child of the marriage should be in the petitioner’s custody.

    He ordered Daniel to be responsible for the child’s upkeep and education, whenever the need arises, and when he is gainfully employed.

    Earlier, the petitioner said: “my husband is not ready to work. He prefers to stay at home. Whenever I complain about his idleness, he turns it to fight.

    “I have been responsible for the upkeep of the family, including school fees and rent.”

    She said she raised N120,000 for him to start a business but two weeks after she gave him the money, he did not do or say anything concerning the money.

    “I gave him another N86,000 to register for a job; the money went into nothing.

    “Thereafter, he started complaining that Nigeria was not suitable for progress; that he wanted to travel abroad to hustle,” she added.

  • Communication: A must in Marriage (4)

    Dear Reader, I count it a great privilege to share a few thoughts with you today. All along, I’ve talked extensively on communication, its components and ways to enhance it.

    This week, even as we round off the teaching for this month, I shall be speaking on “Benefits of Effective Communication!”

    The place of understanding is very crucial to establishing a successful family. That is why God’s Word says: Good understanding giveth favour: but the way of transgressors is hard (Proverbs 13:15). This truth was, again, emphasized in Proverbs 24:3: Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established.

    This connotes that peace, joy, love, and favour can be established on a permanent basis in your family. It also means you can secure your relationship with your household by possessing good understanding.

    When you possess good understanding, you will correctly interpret what your spouse or family members say, rather than read negative meanings to every statement and action. Understanding helps you to read between the lines.

    Benefits of Effective Communication

    The benefits of effective communication include, but are not limited to the following:

    • Intimacy: this is never lacking in any home, where there is effective communication. Intimacy, here, is likened to closeness. This is because the more you learn to communicate, the closer you become; and the closer you are, the more difficult it is for the devil to find access into your relationship. It is a clear assertion that when husband and wife stick together, they stay together.
    • Friendship: is another benefit of effective communication. Friendship is based on familiarity and emotional attachment. The more you communicate the more familiar you become with each other. This, in turn, gets you attached emotionally to each other. Emotional attachment is what makes you start feeling for each other. My husband has said that when couples stop feeling for each other, danger is at the door.
    • Self Awareness: is another benefit of effective communication. This helps you to know yourself better. Your spouse and family members serve as human mirrors that help you locate the “saints on your back”, so a better you can emerge. You are able to discover yourself through your spouse or children only when the communication lines are opened.This helps you to discover and correct certain flaws in your life and character, which may not be obvious to you before.
    • Triggers Love and Submission: When communication between husband and wife is effective, it provokes love from the husband and submission from the wife. For instance, when a woman does not obey the instruction of her husband, it may not necessarily be rebellion or trying to be difficult, but could be because she lacks understanding. When the communication strategy is constantly improved upon, it stirs up love. If a man finds it difficult to love his wife, it is a sign that he has difficulty communicating with her. But when the communication lines are open, rather than holding grudges, both of them can freely discuss issues and arrive at favourable conclusions. Personally, I can testify that it is a thing of joy for me to submit to my husband in everything! He doesn’t have to coerce me to; I do so willingly and with ease. It is not because of his titles, but because the communication lines are open. Effective communication keeps compelling his love in my direction and my submission in his. So then, he confidently looks at me and says: “I just love you.”

    Without, first, enjoying a sweet communication with Jesus, it will be impossible to effectively communicate with your spouse and children. That is, effective communication is triggered by a life in Christ. A life in Christ demands confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. To do this, please say this prayer of faith with me: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today acknowledging that I am a sinner who needs Your forgiveness. I believe You died for me and rose again on the third day. Forgive me my sins, wash me with Your Blood and write my name in the Lamb’s Book of life. Thank You Lord for saving me.”

    Congratulations, you are now born again! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

  • 15 year old marriage on the verge of collapse due to constant beating and alcoholism

    A 40 year-old businesswoman, Aderoju Funmilola, has dragged her husband Aderoju Adeolu, a carpenter, whom she married 15 years ago before the Meiran Customary Court, Lagos. She is seeking dissolution of the union.

    Funmilola, in her divorce suit, accused her husband of constantly beating her, drunkenness and irresponsible acts.

    The respondent, Adeolu, did not show up in court. President of the court, Odunlami Olatunji stated that although the respondent received the court summon, he did not give any reason for his absence. He however ruled that the court would go ahead with the proceeding.

    Funmilola said, “I moved into his house 15 years ago when I got pregnant for him. He promised to pay my dowry after the delivery of our first child but he is yet to fulfil that promise as we speak. The union is blessed with three teenagers. He beats me constantly and troubles me a lot. He also drinks a lot and once he drinks, I can’t escape beating. I left our matrimonial home for my father’s house last year November due to constant beating from him.

    “We courted for eight years but I didn’t know he drank or womanised. He also beats our first daughter on the reason that she doesn’t like him. He doesn’t care for me and my children; no upkeep allowance and he doesn’t pay the children’s school fees.”

    She said the situation was so bad that in 2017, she took her husband to human rights commission and to Meiran Police Station, all to no avail.

    “He disgraces me publicly. Being a carpenter, whenever clients give him job, he would spend their money and not do the job; and when I try to intervene, he warnes me to mind my business. At a point, he ran away from home due to his inability to pay house rent and even threatened to take our children to his hometown. Please I want the children to be in my custody because he doesn’t have the money to take care of them. Apart from his drinking habit, he also steals my money. Most times, I lend him money which he never refunds it. So I stopped lending him money, and he started stealing my money.

    Funmilola therefore prayed the court to dissolve the marriage. “I love him no more,” she said.

    President of the court, Odunlami Olatunji adjourned the case till 21st May.

  • My wife is a pickpocket and drug addict – Traditional doctor tells court

    A traditional medicine practitioner and Basegun General of Merian, Agbado, Lagos, Awofemi Ogunsakin has approached a Meiran customary court in Lagos, seeking the dissolution of his marriage to his wife on the ground of constant argument, public disgrace, alcoholism and extra marital affairs .

    The petitioner, Awofemi, said, ‘We fight everyday because she is quarrelsome. She also sells drugs and as a chief in my area, it was something unheard of. I begged her to stop but she refused. On one occasion, she left home for five days; when I reported her to her mother, she pleaded that since I’m her third husband, I should bear with her. She already had four children from two different men before I married her, yet I take care of her children. She has a senior wife, yet she fights everybody in the neighbourhood. I went to report her at Meiran Police Station, all to no avail.

    “Though she is yet to have any child for me, she brings men into our matrimonial home. She is also a thief and wanted to put me to shame in the community when she stole handsets at a party. Any little argument, she would take a broken bottle and threaten to kill me. My family members have abandoned me because of her.” “

    Awofemi lamented that though they got married four years ago, he has never had a moment of peace ever since. “I even reported her at Meiran Police Station; she was charged for assault but she did not change. She takes tramadol and cocaine. I married her to change her life but she is not willing to change. Please, I love her no more,” he said.

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    Awofemi was in court with his 23 year-old son, Samuel Ogunsakin, as witness. The younger Ogunsakin said, “Though, we never supported our father marrying his new wife but we had no choice. My father likes her a lot and was ready to change her lifestyle for good. It was true that she broke all the house glass windows when there was a misunderstanding between the two of them. There was a day she poured petrol on my dad and wanted to set him ablaze. It was our timely intervention that saved the day. The Oba of Meiran intervened then, instructing my dad to send his new wife away but he refused, claiming that he love her.”

    The respondent Basirat Ogunsakin said all the claims were not true. She said “He has married four wives before me; his family members did not like me. I paid for the land which he built for me but he never gave me the receipt. I broke his house windows when he destroyed my own building. He drinks a lot despite the fact that he is a chief. He also beats me a lot and the senior wife. He cannot control two wives even as a Chief. I also don’t love him any longer, but the land and the house in question, I want this court to ask him to sell it so that we can share the money,” she said.

    The vice-president of the court, Mr. Sonoiki Samuel adjourned the case till 21st of May.

  • Communication: A must in marriage! (3)

    Dear Reader, welcome to today’s edition of your usual column in Jesus’ name!  Without any doubt, I know that you have really taken time to decipher the truth of God’s Word regarding communication.

    This week, I will yet be unveiling to you what I subtitled “Ways of Enhancing Communication!”

    Communication is a two-way process that involves talking and listening. The better couple and children communicate; the closer they become. Communication can be enhanced better than you may envisage, by paying strict attention to the following:

    1. Learning to Listen!

    Listening is a crucial prerequisite for an effective communication. Since it involves talking and listening as seen in Proverbs 18:13. A wise man once said, “Good listeners are good lovers.”  Some women tend to talk too much that they don’t give room for their husband to say anything. Hence, such husbands keep hearing what the woman says without listening. Meanwhile, communication goes beyond hearing, to being attentive. This enables one to be able to make sound decisions and pass good judgment on various issues.

    1. Truthfulness!

    Ordinarily, truthfulness means constancy or sincerity in action or character.  Truthfulness is also an attribute of God.  God detests lies and exaggeration. Husbands, wives and children must be very truthful in their communication to one another. My husband often says, “When Christianity lacks character there is nothing more to it.”

    iii.       Correct Timing!

    Words, we know, can be likened to eggs.  They are fragile and delicate. God’s Word says: …A word spoken in due season, how good is it! (Proverbs 15:23). That is, you must know your spouse so well that you know when to say what and how to say it. Important issues should be wisely but thoroughly discussed. Even when you feel so overwhelmed by a matter, you can always compose yourself to wait for an appropriate time to speak.

    1. Pleasing Each Other!

    One of the essences of effective communication is to enhance intimacy, unity and love.  Remember, motive is the main focus here.  It is important for you to be willing to admit when you are wrong; don’t be too proud to say so. Before engaging in heartfelt discussions, especially when crucial issues are to be ironed out, you may need to ask yourself questions like:  What is my motive?  Will it destroy our intimacy or make my spouse lose respect for me? Why am I saying this? Will it make us a better couple? Finding sincere answers to these questions will go a long way in enhancing your communication skill, thereby presenting to both your spouse and you better way of pleasing each other.

    It is a fact that the longer you live together with someone, the more you are able to read his or her body language. For example, a look from your husband can send a clear message to you, which no one else may understand.

    In concluding this segment, let me say here that communication is not only vital for husbands and wives, but for all members of the family. Both verbal and non-verbal types of communication are required and should, therefore, be employed by members for a fruitful family relationship.

    Keep the communication lines open; don’t allow the enemy to tamper with it. This can only be achieved by surrendering your life to Jesus. It starts by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. To do this, please say this prayer of faith with me: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today acknowledging that I am a sinner who needs Your forgiveness. I believe You died for me and rose again on the third day. Forgive me my sins, wash me with Your Blood and write my name in the Lamb’s Book of life. Thank You Lord for saving me.”

    Congratulations, you are now born again! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

  • Kano to conduct mass wedding for 1,500 couples

    The Kano State Government says it has concluded arrangements to conduct mass wedding for 1,500 prospective couples across the 44 local government areas of the state.

    This was announced in a statement by Mr Abba Anwar, the Chief Press Secretary to Gov. Abdullahi Ganduje in Kano.

    The exercise is slated for Sunday in Kano.

    Anwar said the couples passed through different stages of screening before they got to the final wedding stage.

    He said N20,000 would be given by the state government as  dowry for every bride, amounting to N30 million for the 1,500 couples.

    “While dowry would be paid, it is also part of the magnanimous engagement by the state government that complete sets of beds, side mirrors, wardrobes and mattresses would all be provided to each couple.

    “A complete set of cushion chairs would also be given to each and every couple, which includes 3-Seater chair and other side chairs. Window blinds and plastic carpet will also be provided.

    “New clothing materials, popularly called ‘Shadda’ would be provided for all the would-be husbands, so that they appear as happily wedded grooms, showcasing their happiness to families, friends and well wishers,’’ he said.

    Anwar said it was the hope of the government that what is provided the couples would go a long way in serving as relief for them after the marriage.

    The state government in 2018, set up a 23-member committee on state-sponsored mass wedding under the leadership of Prof. Sani Zaharaddeen.

  • Communication: A must in marriage! (1)

    Dear Reader, Congratulations and Happy New Month! It is my prayer that this month brings lots of joy, blessings and fulfilment to your life and home. Today, as you take practical steps to apply the Word of God that is coming your way, your home shall be heaven on earth indeed, in Jesus’ Name!

    This month, via God’s Word, I will be looking at the topic: “Communication: A must in Marriage!”

    Today, many marriages break down as a result of faulty communication. Couples talk and nag until they become weary of each other. Why?  Because there is no effective communication.

    Communication is very vital in marriage. You may not enjoy your marriage, if you and your spouse don’t know how to communicate effectively. It is like having gold in a garden, but not knowing how to dig it out. The gold is there, but as long as it is not dug out, you cannot be enriched by it.

    That is why the basis of any fruitful and lasting relationship is effective communication. God, our Father and our ultimate example, proved this to us by communicating His plans and intentions to those whom He trusted. He spoke clearly to Moses, Samuel, David, right through to Jesus and beyond Him, to those of us who love and serve Him.

    Marriage without effective communication can never work! In times past, particularly in African societies, women were regarded as mere objects and a part of a man’s possessions. They were not consulted on major issues, neither were their views regarded as important.

    In those days, women stayed married because they had no choice; but that has never been God’s plan. He made marriage as an avenue for both husband and wife to find fulfillment, and this comes when there is effective communication.

    Remember, it takes deliberate efforts to build an enviable home.  Thus, effective communication is one of the requirements for building a successful marriage and family. Note that the need to constantly improve your communication skills and strategy cannot be over-emphasized.

    However, no matter how effectively you communicate with your spouse and family members right now, it can still be improved upon;  because, there is always a better way of doing things.  As someone rightly said ‘the largest room in the world is the room for improvement.’

    Don’t ever believe that you are communicating the best way.  The truth is: You can communicate better than you have been doing before, if you care to constantly improve on the strategies you engage.

    Communication is the key to success in marriage. A wise man said, “If you talk together, you stay together,” and I believe it is very true. Marriage is about living lives together!

    Adam’s family, for example, will help you appreciate the importance of effective communication. God commanded Adam not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Adam, I suppose, believed, but failed to effectively communicate the seriousness of this command to Eve; and she took it lightly.  If you read the account carefully, you will find that in Eve’s dialogue with the serpent, she mentioned that God “said”, not “commanded” (Genesis 3:3). But God did not just say, He commanded.

    So, communication must first be one-on-one, between the man and his wife, and then other members of the family. That responsibility cannot be shifted to God. He will not leave heaven to come to your home and speak to your wife or your children on your behalf. It is a non-transferable responsibility.

    However, until you are born again, you cannot successfully communicate with God, which is the basis of effective communication with spouse and family members. Being born again entails confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are set for this awesome experience, please say this prayer of faith with me: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today acknowledging that I am a sinner who needs Your forgiveness. I believe You died for me and rose again on the third day. Forgive me my sins, wash me with Your Blood and write my name in the Lamb’s Book of life. Thank You Lord for saving me.”

    Congratulations, you are now born again! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

  • Marriage: A garden of treasures (4)

    The family is God’s delight.      When God delights in you and you delight in Him, He makes your life and your home a delightful place. If it is joy you need, He gives it to you. If it is money that is in short supply, God releases it. If it is peace that is required, He brings peace. Everything it takes for your family to succeed is made available. When God delights in your family, everyone against your family progress is silenced and you enjoy all-round security and speedy answers to your prayers.

    Furthermore, when your delight is in Him, your life will always be on the increase (Psalm 18:19); God will promote you and you will enjoy abundance in every area of your life. God’s Word says: Thou shalt no more be termed forsaken; neither shall thy land anymore be termed desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzibah, and thy land Beulah: for the Lord DELIGHTETH in thee, and thy land shall be married (Isaiah 62:4). This is God Word’s for you right now.

    Every successful home is a threat to satan’s kingdom, which is why he would do anything to destroy it.  Unfortunately, he gains entrance to many homes often through the woman. Remember, he gained access into the first home through Eve, and history always repeats itself. God’s Word says: But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ (2 Corinthians 11:3).

    For this reason, men should protect their wives spiritually, to ensure that they do not engage in private discussions with hell, which can send them out of their “garden”.  Once the woman is effectively shielded from satan, he will have difficulty in trying to penetrate the home.

    Women are more susceptible to the attacks of satan, because of their roles in the home.  She is usually more at home than the man; so, she is more available to satan. He creeps in on her and tells her, “What makes you different from the man? Are you a slave? Have you forgotten that you too are educated as he (husband) is? Have you forgotten your placement in your office? There is no Jew nor Greek, male or female; the same Lord is rich over all.” If unguarded, the woman would be tempted to agree with him.

    Somehow, satan is able to easily secure the attention of women, particularly when they are idle.  He barrages them with all sorts of negative information, which in turn makes them unhappy. He often arrests them by painting a deadly picture of calamity and woe, which they readily accept. But unfortunately, some women claim that it was God that revealed such information to them, not recognizing that it came through “the prince of the power of the air.”

    Woman, please learn to prove the source of the information that comes to you.  Find things out for yourself from the Word of God, because nothing anybody says can make the Word of no effect.  The destruction many families have experienced today came from information that had satanic sources.

    Man, it is time to awake and chase satan out of your garden! Until you say, “Get thee behind this family, satan”, he will keep hanging around. As man’s eternal enemy, satan has vowed to pull down the family unit.  God’s Word says: How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the Lord had shut them up? (Deuteronomy 32:30). He wants to stop you from destroying his kingdom.

    In the covenant, one can deal with 1,000, two, especially in marriage, are empowered to put 10,000 to flight!  Satan knows this and wants to keep his kingdom; so, he launches attacks on the family, to prevent them from destroying his kingdom.  Since one family can destroy 10,000 demons, Satan aims at destroying the 10,000 capacity destroyers.  If he succeeds, he has preserved more demons to run errands for him.

    Another reason the devil wants to gain entrance into families is found in I Peter 3:7; Likewise, ye husband, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

    When a man and his wife are at variance with each other, their prayers are hindered, and they are disconnected from God.  They may pray all the time, but there will be no response from heaven.  Heaven will be shut, making it impossible for them to enjoy the harvest of whatever seed they may have sown.

    The man, who opens up his home to malice or discord, has blocked his access to God’s blessing.  Satan knows this, so he does all he can to see that there is rancour and strife between a man and his wife.  Anytime you sense any animosity rising within you against your spouse, know that satan is seeking an entrance.  Therefore, resist him steadfastly in the faith.  Tell yourself that since you have no intention of having another home, you will not give satan a foothold in your family!

                In case you are not yet born again, this is another opportunity for you to do so today. If you want to overcome satanic loopholes in your family this year, don’t miss this golden opportunity. You can become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).