Tag: marriage

  • 2face Idibia  and Annie Macaulay’s  traditional  marriage

    2face Idibia and Annie Macaulay’s traditional marriage

    THE biggest celebrity marriage happened two days back between music superstar 2face Idibia and his heartthrob of many years, Annie Macaulay. The two were joined together as man and wife in a traditional wedding ceremony which held on Friday at the Apostolic High School, Esit Urua Community, Eket-Ibeno Road, in Uyo, Akwa Ibom, the bride’s hometown.

    The celebrities who thronged the venue were seen clad in aso ebi of crème and red for the ladies while the men wore white and gold wrapper. At the event had the likes of Iyanya, Kate Henshaw, Sound Sultan and other invited guests. The after party is slated to hold in Uyo much later tonight. Meanwhile, here are some pictures from the epic event.

  • Marriage: A divine origin

    Dear Reader,

    I welcome you to another enlightening edition of Family Forum. I strongly believe that 2013 will be a period of overflowing blessings for you, in Jesus’ name.

    In the course of the month, I shall be considering the theme: Marriage: A Divine Origin. This week, I will be teaching on Marriage, A Divine Institution.

    The coming together of a man and a woman in a holy matrimony, was not born out of a man’s idea, but it has God at its foundation. After God had made Adam and put him in the garden, the Bible records in Genesis 2:18-24: The Lord God said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him… Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man… The man said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.  For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

    Marriage is not a cultural thing, neither is it a man-made programme; it came directly from the mind of God. Lack of this understanding is the cause of many troubles that many are experiencing in their marriages, today.

    Before you venture into marriage, make sure you commune with God, and let Him choose for you. Do not choose by sight or allow someone to match you with someone that you have not prayed about. It is only God that knows what is in a man, and only He can choose for you aright.

    God is a God of priorities. He set up marriage before coming down to fellowship in the cool of the day. Marital unions invite the presence of God on earth.

    God showed His interest in marriage, by personally fashioning the woman and delivering her to her husband. It is, therefore, untrue to assume that the union of a man and a woman in marriage is man’s idea, or a cultural and traditional affair.

    Therefore, to enjoy God’s best in your marriage, you must make Him the centre of your home. You must be ready to give Him priority place, recognizing Him as the foundation for a successful marriage.

    The problem with many couples is that they push God aside, and yet expect to enjoy divine benefits. They ignore the Word of God, and the Bible says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3)

    God is the foundation for success in the home. Marriage and family are the oldest institutions in the world; they must not be toyed with. The right place to begin from, is a personal relationship with God. If you want to start this relationship right now, you can say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today, I am a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today.

    Congratulations!  You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com; Tel.  No: 234-1-7747546-8; 07026385437; 07094254102

    For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work and Building a Successful Family.

  • Rotimi Makinde  gives marriage  another shot

    Rotimi Makinde gives marriage another shot

    ACTOR-CUM-POLITICIAN, Hon. Rotimi Makinde, member of the House of Representatives, representing Ife Federal Constituency, has decided to give marriage another shot.

    His new wife, Oyebanke Oyelami, we gathered, is a final year student of political science from the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Osun State and the reigning Miss Osun .

    The movie producer and auto dealer sent tongues wagging recently when he stepped out with the beautiful lady. Last week, he had a formal introduction to the family of the beauty queen.

    Makinde is a man who has his hand in many pies. The father of three started having matrimonial crisis with his former wife before he was sworn in as a federal law maker.

    Sources say the politician’s wedding to his new love will take place as soon as she is done with her academics.

  • Lessons I learnt  from my failed marriage—Kefee

    Lessons I learnt from my failed marriage—Kefee

     WHAT explains the reason behind your release of a double album some months ago?

    I am a spiritual person and in as much as I like to sing and dance I am still spiritual. So I decided to show people both sides of me; the part that loves to dance titled Beautiful and the part that is spiritual titled Chorus Leader. Without a strong spiritual life you will find it very hard to cope in the physical. Both albums are themed “The Best of Both Worlds” showcasing different sides of me.

    Are you trying to strike a balance between both sides of you?

    I wouldn’t say it is about me trying to strike a balance between both sides of me; it is just about me trying to do what I want to do. I am just being expressive with my talent; I am Kefee, I don’t have to copy what other people are doing. I have to be creative, I have a lot to write about and I have a lot to talk about too. My burden is to continue to inspire people with my songs and when I get positive comments from people on my works it encourages me to do more.

    Did music start for you in Church?

    Yes! Music started for me in the Church; I started singing and dancing in Church and I used to go with my late aunt. She also took me out for social events too and always enjoyed myself singing and dancing at every occasion we went to. I am usually the centre of attraction back then and people sprayed me with money. That was how it all started for me…

    You started out as a duo some years back. Why did you part ways with your other partner?

    It was only necessary that our individual goals and ambitions defined our co existence. As we grew up in life our values changed and the things we held so dear in the past no longer commanded primary attention. So, we had to move on; we did not part ways, we only moved on to greater fulfillment for the purpose our creation.

    As a young girl from the Niger Delta, were you not scared you were going to face stiff competition as an artiste when you went pro?

    I am not scared of competition; I believe everybody has a place under the sun. Everyone has equal opportunities and it also depends on how well you use the opportunities that come your way. I never worried about competition because I was sure about my talent and the strength of my songs.

    How have you been able to stay relevant in an industry where most people listen to hip hop?

    I do a bit of hip hop too but most people know me as a gospel artiste. I try to work with a lot of people and that keeps me relevant. I like experimenting with music; I love hip hop and my husband is a big fan of that music genre. I love rap too and I draw a lot of inspiration from rap greats like Rakeem. I try to do anything that music allows me to do and I don’t just dwell on waxing traditional songs which has come to be my trademark on the music scene.

    Have your works been anyway affected by piracy?

    Yes! Piracy is a painful reality that confronts musicians, actors, writers and all others that have one form of intellectual property or the other. The presence of piracy and its very debilitating and traumatising effect has diminished us all. I see mix tapes of my songs and videos with no royalty coming to me. However, I am positive that things will soon change for good.

    Your debut song Branama brought you so much fame when you started. How were you able to hold your own at the time?

    Having been brought up by my parents in a home where love, humility and discipline were the hallmark of growing up, it was only natural for those values to still be part and parcel of me. I never lost touch of where I was coming from. I never forgot the fact that I am a child of God and the fact that all that we have today was truly given by Him. So, the fact that I was devoted to God helped me handle the fame that came with the success of my debut single Branama.

    What inspired you into writing that song?

    Branama was inspired by a grateful heart; I was just thanking God for all he had done in my life at the time. God gave me a reason to celebrate and Branama means shakara; I had reasons to show people what God has done for me. I wasn’t really known at the time and I was just a girl who was relatively popular in Sapele, Delta State before I came to Lagos.

    Most people seem not to be able to balance your extravagant outlook with your spiritual life. What is your opinion on that?

    People should not try to balance other people’s lives because I am not like every other person. Everybody cannot be the same because life has no manual; I try to do everything I can with my talent and that makes me who I am. I try to get the best out of whatever talent that I have because everybody cannot encourage you, but at least there are people who value what I do.

    The tempo of your songs seems to be on the rise; Branama was a mid-tempo tune and Kokoroko is a high tempo song. Are you moving with the current trend?

    For the song Kokoroko, I would say I was just doing good music except you want us to do a remix. Branama is a danceable song and so is the song Kokoroko, like I said earlier, I try different things because that is what creativity is all about. I cannot do everything the same way; variety is the spice of life and that makes the whole thing interesting.

    What’s ‘Branama Afrique’ all about?

    Branama Afrique (which means show off Africa) is a brand that is involved in aggressively redefining the African persona. It is the definition of our expressions, our strength, panache, beauty and values. It is more like cultural reloading.

    What’s your greatest desire as a married woman?

    I have already told God what I want from Him; if I tell you what I want you will not be able to do it for me (laughs). Whatever I want God to do for me has been tabled with the most high and I know He will do it in His time. Whenever I call on God, He always answers me.

    How did the cooking part of you take shape?

    My mum loves to cook and I learnt everything about cooking from her; she was always cooking and I was always standing in the kitchen trying to monitor things. I used to enjoy her cooking too and that somewhat prepared me for the business I am involved in at the moment which is called Branama Kitchen. That was how I got interested in the area of cooking before I thought of making money off it.

    At what time did it occur to you that you could make money out of cooking?

    I decided to get a restaurant after I was totally convinced about my cooking skills in 2005. I remember I just released Branama 2 at the time. I was actually going around looking for a place, but I couldn’t get a suitable place. I was still searching for a place until 2011 when I finally got a place. I started thinking about having a restaurant where I could further display my cooking skills and get paid for it.

    You have three full-time jobs as a wife, an artiste and a business woman. How do you manage your time because you don’t look stressed in anyway?

    I don’t work alone; I have people working for me and I have a husband that understands what I do. That makes it easier on the home front. I also try to live up to my expectations as a housewife. I have people who love my music and who try to contribute their own quota to ensure that I get the best out of my music. At work, I also have people who take care of things too and that makes it possible for me to be able to balance all the activities I get myself involved in on a daily basis.

    Very few people would resign from a lucrative banking career for the uncertain. This, Irikefe Obareki did when she plunged headlong into the murky waters of the music industry 11 years ago, and today the Delta State-born artiste is enjoying wide acceptance in Nigeria and around Africa. In this interview with AHMED BOULOR, the Branama exponent bared her mind on a range of issues such as her first marriage, her current album and Branama Kitchen, among other sundry issues.

     

    What major lessons did you learn from your last marriage with Alec Godwin?

    It only opened my eyes more to what life is all about; if you don’t go through challenges you never become a stronger person. That was a chapter in my life that was meant to make me stronger as a person. People go through challenges and that was my story and when we couldn’t carry on any longer, we had to part ways.

    What have been the gains of your current marriage to Teddy Esosa?

    My husband is a very nice guy and I am actually writing a book about my first marriage. The bottom line is that I am happy and if you ask me, this is the first time I am getting married.

    How did you meet your husband?

    We’ve known each other for a long time, and when he felt it was time, he proposed to me. The rest is now history, like they say…

    How often does he rush home to eat your meals?

    He comes home straight to eat my meals; he doesn’t really eat outside the house. He also comes to Branama Kitchen to unwind too.

  • Marriage not on the card for Omasan Buwa

    Omasan Buwa is having a rollicking time at the moment. The one time beauty queen is happy with her new lease of life. She has decided to shed her toga of shyness to wear the garb of courage and make the best of this season. Hardly would you see Omasan now without smiles on her face.

    Happenstances gathered that the former London-based BEN TV presenter came about this new mood when she secured an appointment as the Executive Assistant on the Physically Challenged to Governor Emmanuel Uduaghan of Delta State. According to an insider, her happiness has nothing to do with any pecuniary gains associated with political appointment. She is still single after divorcing her husband of 13 years.

    Rather, her cheery posture has to do with the fulfillment she is deriving from putting smiles on the faces of the less-privileged who are the focus of her appointment and in whom she has found companionship. Omasan came into national consciousness after winning the second edition of the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria pageant in 1987. She later represented Nigeria at the Miss Universe, Miss World and Miss Intercontinental.

  • She wants to use our daughter to get a second chance at marriage, but that could be deadly

    You’re doing a good job on your page; keep it up. Women can be irrational! How do you react to this? A woman leaves her hubby’s home in Kaduna, visits her mom in Port Harcourt, without the consent of her hubby.

    She was away for a month and barely two weeks of her return, she wanted to go back and she actually did. She was away again for one month.

    In the third week of her second trip, she sent an SMS- “Give me a divorce & I’ll send my siblings to pack my things.”

    I replied: “You only know what’s yours, not your siblings. be bold and pack by yourself. Before you finish packing, divorce note will be ready!”

    Eventually, she came back and I waited for her to pack. One month after, she returned. I was on the phone at about 8pm when she entered our bedroom and attacked me physically because I was talking to another zwoman. It took the man in me to free myself. In my life and 18 years of previous marriage, I never hit a woman, but in this attack, I had no other option. I taught her a lesson. After the attack, I divorced her after three years plus of marriage with a daughter. Now she wantsto use our daughter as a reason to come back. A second chance could be deadly. I want my daughter to have a dad!

     

    Dear brother, issues like this are delicate and I must be very objective in my response to you. Let’s take a look at all the intricate parts of your story before we sum them all up and arrive at a conclusion. I must however call your attention to the fact that this is a one-sided story and full of holes. It may take us knowing the other side to do justice to this problem. But since there is no other side of the story (yet), let me attempt to ask some questions and answer them at the same time.

    Question: What would make a married woman pack her things and go to her mother’s place so far away in Port-Harcourt all the way from Kaduna and stay for a whole month without her husband’s consent?

    Answer: It could be that the marriage has broken down so much that the woman doesn’t care about what the husband thinks anymore. They might have been having arguments over money or other such issues, keeping malice in the house or have stopped enjoying each other’s company.

    Question: What would make that same woman come back home and pack almost immediately back to her mother’s house and the husband is still not making an issue out of that? Meanwhile, she’s a Nigerian and the family members who should know about family and marriage values in the Nigerian context are aware of her frequent movements away from her husband’s house and none could call the man to speak with him on what was going on.Why would the mother for instance not even call the man to say hello and to announce that her daughter and granddaughter were with her on the two occasions that the daughter went home?

    Answer: It could mean only one thing, the wife’s family are well aware of the problems in the marriage. After all, the wife would have regaled them with different tales and they may have been biased. Let us not forget that that is their daughter and they would want to protect her by all means even if she is wrong.

    Question: What kind of man would just keep mute and allow his wife to stay just like that after she had threatened on the phone to come and pack her things without raising it with her and setting rules about such irresponsible movements between Kaduna and Port-Harcourt. And what kind of man would just take her back like that without ironing things out with her parents?

    Answer: You may think you’re a strong man by remaining calm in the midst of a storm, but you’re not that strong, I’m sorry to say. Even if within you, you’re aware that some of the problems in the marriage are pushing your wife away from you, one would have expected you to use the opportunity of her irrational movements to tackle it once and for all.

    Conclusion

    Two rights don’t make a wrong, so, there must be a frank roundtable discussion between you and this woman to identify where you both went wrong. You both must be able to come out truthfully about the factors that led to your separation and divorce in the first place. If you think you can take her back just like that, it would be like covering a bad wound without treating it; it will fester and cause worse damage. Be real about the emotional pains and the things that went wrong or got right when you were apart. NEVER come back to a bad marriage for the sake of children. If the underlying factors leading to problems are still visible, the children would be affected psychologically and may blame you for coming back.

    It’s a hard fact that some people are just not compatible and you cannot force that. More than anything pray about it and ask God for directions. Shun sentiments and don’t rush into going back together. Start afresh and go for dates as if you were meeting each other for the first time. Inject romance into the whole show and be truthful about finances. If she doesn’t have a job, get her something doing. Respect each other’s need for privacy and don’t go calling other women in her presence. God help you.

  • Mark: Bill against same sex marriage stands

    Senate President David Mark has said the Bill prohibiting same sex marriage is irrevocable.

    The lawmaker, who spoke when he addressed Catholic faithful and guests at the civic reception in honour of Cardinal John Olorunfemi Onaiyekan in Abuja, said the Bill would be passed into law irrespective of pressures from some sections of the international community and human rights activists demanding the legalisation of same sex marriage in the country.

    Besides banning same sex marriage, Mark said it is a criminal offence punishable by imprisonment of not less than 14 years.

    He added that despite pressures from some quarters, the law has come to stay.

    Said he: “We will not compromise on this. I want you to join the crusade of decency in our society.

    “There are many good values we can copy from other societies, but not this one (same sex marriage).

    “We have to prove to the rest of the world, who are advocates of this unnatural way that we Nigerians promote and respect sanity, morality and humanity.

    “Every individual is a product of the union of a man and woman.”

    Senator Mark acknowledged the cordial relationship between Nigeria and the Church and pledged that the National Assembly would ensure religious freedom and peaceful co-existence.

    He added that it would support religious programmes that have positive bearing on Nigerians, condemning religious intolerance and extremism.

    Mark enjoined spiritual leaders to pray for good governance, peace and security.

    “We are doing our best to ensure the safety of life and property,” he said.

    Cardinal Onaiyekan thanked Pope Benedict X11, the government and people of Nigeria for their prayers and support, especially since his elevation to the Collage of Cardinals.

    He said he would be a crusader for peace and unity in Nigeria.

    The Chairman of the Reception Organising Committee, Rev. Father Innocent Jooji, noted that Onaiyekan, as a soldier of Christ, has brought honour to the nation with his elevation to the Collage of Cardinals.

     

     

  • Mark insists on Bill against same sex marriage

    Mark insists on Bill against same sex marriage

    President of the Senate, David Mark, has insisted that the Bill prohibiting same sex marriage is irrevocable.

    Mark spoke while addressing Catholic faithful and guests at the civic reception in honour of the Cardinal John Olorunfemi Onaiyekan in Abuja at the weekend.

    He said the Bill would be passed into law irrespective of pressures from some sections of the international community and human rights activists demanding the legalization of same sex marriage in the country.

    Besides banning the same sex marriage, Mark said it is now a criminal offence punishable by imprisonment of not less than 14 years.

    He added that in spite of the pressures from some quarters, the law has come to stay.

    He said: “We will not compromise on this. I want to invite you all to join the crusade of decency in our society.

    “There are many good values we can copy from other societies but certainly not this one (same sex marriage).

    “We have to prove to the rest of the world, who are advocates of this unnatural way that we Nigerians promote and respect sanity, morality and humanity.

    “Every individual is a product of the union of a man and woman.”

    He acknowledged the cordial relationship between the Nigerian State and the Church and pledged that the National Assembly would continue to do all within the law to ensure religious freedom and peaceful co-existence in the country.

    He added that the National Assembly would continue to support religious programmes that have positive bearing on Nigerians but was quick to condemn religious intolerance or extremism.

    He enjoined spiritual leaders to continue to pray for good governance, peace and security which are major challenges in the country today.

     

  • I’ve learnt  a lot about  marriage—Saheed  Balogun

    I’ve learnt a lot about marriage—Saheed Balogun

    Star actor, Saheed Balogun, is still very much busy with what he loves to do most- producing movies. The producer cum actor, just last December, dropped his latest work Alami Ayemi (My Dream My Life). In this interview with DANIEL POPOOLA, Saidi, hinted that he has finished work on yet another movie. He also talked about his experience on marriage, divorce and other sundry issues. Excerpts:

    WHAT have you been to up? We are still in the business of producing movies. After Eti-Keta, I’ve done Alami-Ayemi, which I released last December. The movie centres on a child’s dream. Every child has a dream of becoming somebody in life. But the kind of training we give our children can actually make or mar the dream. Some parents even abandon their children. Parents can ruin their children’s future with the kind of training we give to them. We need to nurture our kids. The training you give a child can make him or her become a great leader of tomorrow. So that is the message we are trying to pass across in the movie.

    What inspired the movie?

    Ayemi means my life. I just discovered that you cannot blame most problems on the person suffering from such problems. The guy who found his way to the top, and was accused of embezzling funds, have you found out how he was brought up? Do you know who he was before he came into power? What are those things parents should have done to help that kind of child to become a better person? That is the picture we are trying to paint in this movie.

    It is a simple Yoruba movie. Alami-Ayemi is just to tell the way our future can be ruined. We should please reshape it now and we should believe that the kids who are coming up have a lot to contribute to the society. We should watch the way we talk to them. The big guy goes to the bank, collects loan to buy a car and nobody questions him. There are paupers out there struggling to get themselves educated, yet there is no one to help them.

    It seems there’s a breath of fresh air in the entertainment industry…

    I am so happy now that things are changing. For a long time, the international media have portrayed us in bad light. When they want to shoot Nigerian film, you will see them standing by the bush, they will leave the beautiful part in Ikeja, Victoria Island, Abuja. All this is in a bid to portray us in bad light. If that is what they want to continue doing, we are not happy. Creativity is being killed. Abroad, if you spend $200million on a movie, if you make $100million in a cinema, you will make $300million in your sales.

    But in the cinema in Nigeria, once you cannot make your money in the cinema, you are dead, because those law makers who have been there for more than 12 years, they have not passed a single law on piracy. Instead, they are busy jumping from one place to another, busy looking for money that was stolen. The same set of people who stole money are looking for people to arrest. I’m looking forward to the day the dream to eradicate piracy will come through. As you can see, they have not passed any law on piracy.

    Are you saying that there is no law against piracy?

    If you steal my movie now, it is a minor offence. Lagos State and Ondo State governments are trying to do something about it. There is a law in Lagos State that if you are caught in the act, you will pay a sum of fifty thousand naira. In Ondo State, if you are caught selling film, you will be fined. When I went to the judge during the period I was talking to Lagos State Government, he said to me that, ‘Saidi, I can go on N10 million fine because I respect people’s intellectual properties.’

    But I wonder what our law makers are doing on this issue. We go through a lot to produce our movies and instead of smiling to the banks, some people who think they are above the law are the ones smiling to the banks. Why do we have lawmakers in this country? We didn’t elect the lawmakers to go and be dancing Palongo or even travelling from one nation to another. I don’t blame most of them, how can somebody who cannot manage his family, a person involved in the controversy of na mi get bele, no bi you lead a society? Moving with somebody’s wife, having extra marital affair with another woman is not a quality of a leader. Do I blame them? The problem lies with entertainers. We do a lot of rubbish. There are three categories of people who have case before God- the entertainer, the politicians and pastors.

    Are you saying you didn’t smile to the bank after Eti-Keta?

    We thank GOD. Eti-Keta did well, but the pirates did theirs too. Truth is I didn’t make money from the movie the way people thought I did. But I thank God for Governor Mimiko, he was the one who made me smile. I’m a straight forward person. I don’t need to lie to the public in order to impress them. If I lie that I made N200 million and the same car I’ve being driving is still the same car I use, won’t you ask me questions? If I made so much money, I should change my car. You see, the entertainment industry will grow if the lawmakers should make the right laws.

    Any entertainer campaigning for lawmakers should be executed. You can campaign for governors, chairmen of councils, even councillors. But those people that refuse to pass laws must not be voted for. Truth is they are not the culprits. The real culprits are those who vote them into office. He who steals is worse than those who receive it from them. If you don’t vote for them or encourage them, they will go back.

    How would you rate the entertainment industry?

    I will say that we are improving, at least from 10 percent to 13 percent. So you can see that we are improving.

    What is the solution to piracy?

    Artistes in Nigeria have been to Mimiko’s office and when we got there, he was just smiling, and some people challenged him on why he was smiling. And he said, ‘you came to me and you are talking about piracy, I am only a State governor, go to Abuja and talk to them.

    I cannot attend to you as a politician. You think am not bad? The lawmakers are ready for you guys. They are good people, may be you have not stood up to them like you are standing up to me.’ I know that Fashola too is good, but we cannot do anything in Lagos, so why are we troubling Fashola and Mimiko? Instead, we should face the federal lawmakers. When they pass the right law, the standard of everything will improve.

    Why do most Yoruba actors claim they are not part of Nollywood?

    Like I always tell you, I don’t like the name Nollyhood because it makes us look like second fiddle. There are people who have been doing films before the young generation of producers came in and coined Nollywood, which, of course, is gotten from Hollywood. I don’t want to go into that. But for me, when the right law is passed, we will know the boys from the men. When you get to Idumota, you will see a lot of movies that were produced within two weeks.

    You will see 36 films in two weeks, 70 films in two weeks. When you get abroad, you will see a producer come out with a single film and he will make it big. Thank God for African Magic, otherwise, some guys producing films would not have been known. The rebranding they are shouting in Abuja, let them rebrand their law first and they will see me portraying Nigeria well. Tade Ogidan, who took all of us to London, spent millions. Is he smiling now? Go and ask. That is what I’m saying that you kill people’s dream by not passing the right laws. You don’t see Tade Ogidan producing many movies. The legends are getting tired.

    With all what you have stated, can stage drama be the alternative?

    Stage is good, but by the time we have so many casts, how much do you want to pay them. You don’t attempt to solve a problem from the top. First check its root cause. Let every entertainer in Nigeria be under one umbrella so that we can create a single name. Let us know what to do and what not to do.

    There are new faces in the industry. What does it portend?

    The advice I have for the new entrants into the industry is that they should learn and know the new trend and try to follow it. I did a movie recently, You or I. I got some white people who speak Yoruba fluently, that is the movie for 2013. Everybody in the movie is white, except me. There are always new things to learn if you want to learn. For up-and-coming, they should be serious and not see acting as a short-cut to fame.

    What should we expect from your You and I?

    You and I is a story that centres on why marriages crash. It’s a marital story that seeks to solve questions bordering on why marriages crash. Some of the questions that will be emanating from the story include who is to blame when a marriage crashes? Are the two parties involved or the people surrounding them that are to blame? I have learnt a lot about marriage, so much that I know that the reason why a white woman says it is over is the same reason why a black woman marriage fails. But it is the presentation that differs.

    In Africa, if the black man wants to leave his wife, the wife will go and call the members of the family, thereby prolonging the doom’s day. It may be prolonged, but it will eventually happen. But in the white man’s case, it doesn’t take a long process. The same way a white woman feels jealous, is the same way the black woman feels jealous. It is the presentation that differs. When a white woman is displeased with her marriage, she calls it quit. But a black woman, when she’s displeased with her marriage she keeps going round from pillar to post. But the point is she will eventually leave if she is no longer happy with the marriage. This is what You and I is all about.

  • Bill to prohibit same sex marriage passes second reading

    A bill for an Act to prohibit marriage or a civil union between persons of same sex yesterday passed through the second reading in the House of Representatives.

    Leading the debate, Mulikat Akande-Adeola (PDP-Oyo), said the proposed legislation would ensure that the institution of marriage is respected.

    Ms Akande-Adeola, who is the Leader of the House, said the bill would also protect and preserve the Nigerian culture.

    She urged members to support the second reading, saying marriage between same sex “is foreign to the culture and traditions of Nigerians.”

    “This same sex marriage is alien to our culture and not ordained by God; same sex or gender marriage is completely alien to our society and culture.

    “This practice has no place in our culture, religion, Nigeria or anywhere in Africa.

    “It is immorality and debasement of our culture; we condemn it in totality,’’ the lawmaker said.

    Adams Jagaba (PDP-Kaduna) aligned himself with the submission of the Majority Leader and said no religion supported gay marriage.

    “We are a cultured people; we cannot carry everything from other cultures.’’

    Abike Dabiri-Erewa (ACN-Lagos)said solemnisation of same sex marriage had no place in Nigerian culture.

    “It is repulsive,” she said.

    Nnenna Ukeje (PDP-Abia) condemned gay marriage.

    According to her, marriage is a union between a man and a woman.

    She said marriage between same sex “diminishes the symbol of what we are and procreation.’’

    Femi Gbajabiamila (ACN-Lagos), the Minority Leader, described the act as immoral.

    “In this marriage, the third party is affected, these people go ahead and adopt children, thereby affecting the child, and in the process the child becomes dysfunctional.

    “We are not seeking to promote a dysfunctional society.’’

    Aminu Suleiman (PDP-Kano) lauded the Senate for taking the initiative in rejecting gay marriage in Nigeria.

    There was no dissenting voice and the bill scaled through the second reading after being put to vote by Speaker Aminu Tambuwal.

    Tambuwal referred it to the committee of the Huse for consideration.

    The Senate had last November passed a bill banning same sex marriages in the country.