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  • I caught my wife with her supposed brother, hubby tells court

    I caught my wife with her supposed brother, hubby tells court

    A 40-year-old man, Mr. Sunday Oladipupo, has asked an Orile Agege Customary Court in Lagos to dissolve his marriage with Bukola over alleged adulterous behaviour by his wife.

    “I caught my wife in bed with her supposed brother, I want a divorce,” Oladipupo, a driver, told the court on Thursday.

    The complainant lives at 7, Nmbosi Avenue, AIT Road, Alakuko, a suburb of Lagos told the court.

    “I caught my wife red-handed with a man she introduced to me as her brother, they were both naked and in the act.

    “She pushed me to beating her because I always feel jealous anytime I see her with another man.

    “Before I kill her and myself, it is better we part ways,” he said.

    Oladipupo claimed that Bukola did not respect him and left home at will and returned when she liked.

    He said that his wife left home since September 2015 with his children, aged four and nine years.

    “She was pregnant when she left my house but the most painful part was that her man friend called me on phone and told me to ask my wife about the paternity of our two children,” he said.

    The complainant told the court that he was tired of the union and wanted a divorce.

    However, Bukola denied the allegation but supported the dissolution of the union.

    “I am not adulterous and I was not pregnant when I left his house in 2015.

    “I left home because he beat me anyhow, I did not have peace of mind with him, I am tired of the marriage, I support the dissolution,” she said.

    The Court President, Dr Kayode Whenu, told the couple to maintain the peace and adjourned the matter to May 10 for further hearing.

     

  • Ogbemudia’s wife hits golden age

    Don’t be deceived by her tough looks; Chief Samuel Osaigbovo Ogbemudia, former governor of the defunct Mid-West and Bendel states, is romantic. He dotes on his wife and honours her whenever he gets the chance to do so. As his delectable wife, Yetunde, clocked 50, he seized the opportunity to shower her with love and attention and to thank God for His innumerable blessings on his family. However, rather than host an elaborate party to mark the event, Ogbemudia opted for a low key celebration for his wife.

    Yetunde, a bona fide member of the Lagos social circle, had a thanksgiving service at her husband’s home in Benin City, followed by a modest reception for the few family members and guests who came to share in the joyous occasion.

    Blessed with a charming and humble mien, Yetunde is loved by many for being a good motivator and pillar of support for her husband and other people. Aside helping her husband to become the man he is today, she is reputed to have catered for the wardrobe needs of many prominent society women through her fashion designing outfit, Nodoni Fashion. Under her care, Nodoni has metamorphosed into a full scale textile outfit.

    Yetunde, a graduate of the University of Ilorin, also runs other business ventures. At 50, she is far from slowing down as she is determined to build a business empire as fast as she can.

  • Molade Okoya-Thomas’ wife laid to rest

    The bond between lovers transcends the realm of the living. The saying ’till death do us part’ does not adequately capture the eternal power of love. Chief (Mrs) Olivet Abosede Okoya-Thomas proved that much with her passing away last month, barely a year after her husband and former Asoju Oba of Lagos, Chief Molade Okoya Thomas, joined his ancestors.

    It was a celebration of life well spent last week when the remains of Lady Chief Olivet Okoya Thomas, who died in Lagos early last month, was interred. The wake had taken place penultimate Wednesday at the Dorchester Event Centre. The funeral service took place at Holy Cross Cathedral Church, Lagos Island, with a reception at the Harbour Point event centre, Victoria Island. In attendance were Chief Mrs Nike Akande, Dorothy Ufot, Sunny Kuku, Chief Rasaq Akanni Okoya, Modupe Oguntade and many others. She is survived by her children, Yinka Taiwo and Deji Okoya-Thomas, Tosin Bakare, Hon. Jumoke Okoya -Thomas and many grandchildren.  Olivet was until her death a businesswoman. Her last outing was at the first year remembrance of her late husband in February. The deceased was the younger sister of Mrs. Leila Euphemia Apinke Fowler.

  • Man to court: I caught my wife in our neighbour’s room

    Man to court: I caught my wife in our neighbour’s room

    A 59-year-old physically challenged man, Mr Olaiya Adeagbo, has pleaded with an Igando Customary Court in Lagos to dissolve his 23-year-old marriage, accusing his wife of infidelity.

    He told the court on Monday that that his wife with whom he had four children, was having an affair with his neighbour.

    “I always received a tip-off from our neighbours that my wife is having an affair with one of our neighbours who was a bachelor.

    “That fateful day, I came back home earlier and could not find her in our room, two of my neighbours told me that they sighted her when she sneaked into her lover’s room.

    “I went to knock on his door but he refused to open after hearing my voice.

    “I continued knocking and he later opened his door, and I saw my wife hiding behind his door sweating and panting, I greeted her and left.

    “After some days, her lover died and my wife disappeared from the house without taking anything and refused to come back.

    “My wife later went to marry another man, who also died after some months of their marriage,” he said.

    The petitioner also told the court that his wife fights a lot with their neighbours.

    “My wife fights a lot, she fought with our pregnant neighbour but the woman died the following morning.

    “Every house we rented, we are always evicted because of her frequent fighting with me and neighbours; she once stabbed me with a knife,” he said.

    He urged the court to terminate the marriage as his life was not safe and that he was no longer interested in the union.

    In her submission, the wife, Mrs Taiwo Adeagbo, 46, also accused her husband of committing adultery.

    She told the court that man her husband saw her with was her benefactor not her lover.

    “I am not having any affair with that our neighbour, he was only my benefactor who always meet my needs as my husband is not responsible, but unfortunately he is no more,” she said.

    The mother of four said her husband had at one point eloped with her best friend.

    “My husband always bring home different women claiming they have one problem or another; he once ran away with my best friend to unknown destination for three-months,” she added.

    She begged the court to grant her husband’s wish and terminate the marriage as she too was no longer interested in the union.

    The President of the court, Mr Adegboyega Omilola, after listening to the couple, adjourned the case to May 10 for further hearing

     

  • My wife always tears my boxers to rape me, man tells court

    “My wife has turned my boxers to rags as she always tears them to rape me,” a retired soldier, Gafaru Rodoye, told an Igando Customary court in Lagos.

    He told the court on Tuesday that his wife, Idiat, with whom he had five children in their 20-year old marriage, always raped him.

    “My wife always rape me; she had turned all my boxers to rags to achieve her selfish aim,” he said.

    The petitioner said that his wife was in the habit of threatening his life through beating and that he was afraid she might kill him one day.

    “I had to run away from my 16-flat building to rent an apartment elsewhere just to avoid her frequent beatings, but she trailed me to my new apartment to fight me.

    “I have reported her severally to different police stations, but it did not yield any positive result,” he said.

    Gafaru said that his wife poured hot water on the new wife that was brought for him from the village by his family.

    He begged the court to end their 20-year old marriage, saying he was no longer in love as his life was in danger.

    “Please, separate us before my wife kills me, my life is not safe with her, I am a pensioner, I need to enjoy the fruit of my labour,” he said.

    However, Mrs Idiat Rodoye, 44, business woman, denied all the allegations, saying her husband was a womaniser.

    “My husband runs after anything in skirt; he always sends me packing from the house whenever he wants to bring in another woman.

    “He once sent me out with the children for three years.

    “After sending me out, he had married six different women, but none stayed long with him. He will always come back to beg me to pack back,’’ she said.

    The mother of five said she never raped her husband, that it was normal for husband and wife to make love.

    The respondent said that she did not beat her husband, but it was her husband that was always beating her.

    Idiat said that her husband removed the plasma television, air conditioner and disconnected the electricity supply from her flat, leaving her and the children in darkness.

    She urged the court to grant her husband’s wish that she too was tired of the marriage and no longer in love.

    The Court President, Mr. Adegboyega Omilola, adjourned the case to April 5 for further hearing.

     

  • Sex problems that your wife may have

    Once in a while or recurrently, a wife might tell her husband or show her husband that she is not in the mood.  A pastor recently told me that if a woman gives her husband great cuisine routinely, runs a beautiful home, takes great care of the kids, and she helps to bring in income from her career, but does not give him sex to his satisfaction, she may not be able to keep him bound to his home and marriage.  He may not think twice about an occasional prostitute. Yes, the man is an ingrate but this reflects the “sexual sinfulness” of mankind.

    Can he practice sexual continence?  Yes, if he wants to be a saintly husband.   Such species are on the brink of extinction.  “Not in the mood” is dangerous premise coming from feminine gender with its various physical, functional, and psychological realities.  A woman may have trouble becoming aroused.  She may be functionally incapable of producing secretions and “too dry” making sexual intercourse painful and undesirable.

    She may have hormonal deficiencies and may be unable to have orgasms.  If these experiences are persistent, they may throw an intolerant man off balance.  How much each man can endure or cope with depends on communication between the man and wife, sex education, and appropriate interventions acceptable to both partners.

    A man should never have to look beyond his marriage for satisfaction and at the same time a woman should never regret her femininity.

    Infections, particularly yeast infections or vaginal thrush, are not uncommon.  A man should ask after these things, with care rather than concern, to make sure his wife is comfortable.  A woman may have a chronic disease such as diabetes that may affect her sexual capacity. A man should know the times his wife may be going through a phase: e.g. after childbirth or around menopause and be supportive and know what kind of demand he could make of her sexually.  Seeking medical help together and achieving the therapy together will result in mutual satisfaction sooner or later.

    Men may always remember that a woman is not a mere possession, she is a person and an independent biological being and men need to pay due and healthy attention to both aspects of their wives.  Men are easily egoistic and un-attentive to a woman’s detailsor may treat things that matter to her with callousness or indifference.  A man may be absorbed by job, finance, and male concerns and forget marital intimacy or put it aside just when it happens to be important for the wife.  Women tend to beemotionally labile and may inadvertently respond to male chauvinisms with asexuality. If a wife is acting “NO”, a man needs to first examine if he has done something wrong and make amends.  Communication – correct communication, timely communication, respectful communication – is important for women.  It is a woman’s prerogative to be taken care of by her husband, and that includes emotionally.

    Once acquitted, a husband needs to know what could be affecting his wife.  Psychological and physical blocks to sex can occur if a woman is overloaded or overwhelmed:  too much housework, keeping up with caring for the children, career and midlife concerns, emerging health issues, extended family problems, financial constraints, inimical neighbors and strife, etc.  Poor habits such as lack of sleep, lack of exercise, lack of hygieneand such matters may hide behind the “NO”.  Dissatisfaction with the family’s lifestyle, social status, and a mental projection of a bleak futurewith her husband can make a woman become mentally unfit for sex.  It is popularly said that there is no graduation in marriage and it requires work, mental, physical, and spiritual effort.  Restoring happiness restores sex.  What can help a wife relax, ease up, see the brighter side of life, be optimistic and trusting, be her better self or her best self?  That is the husband’s work and the result should definitely include his own sexual satisfaction.  Before a man goes after a prostitute, he should examine if his homework is complete, because even after the prostitute, he is coming back to that responsibility. The sooner he faces it, the better.

    Dr. ‘Bola John is a biomedical scientist based in Nigeria and in the USA.   For any comments or questions on this column, please email bolajohnwritings@yahoo.com or call 08160944635

  • Sex problems that your wife may have

    Once in a while or recurrently, a wife might tell her husband or show her husband that she is not in the mood.  A pastor recently told me that if a woman gives her husband great cuisine routinely, runs a beautiful home, takes great care of the kids, and she helps to bring in income from her career, but does not give him sex to his satisfaction, she may not be able to keep him bound to his home and marriage.  He may not think twice about an occasional prostitute. Yes, the man is an ingrate but this reflects the “sexual sinfulness” of mankind.

    Can he practice sexual continence?  Yes, if he wants to be a saintly husband.   Such species are on the brink of extinction.  “Not in the mood” is dangerous premise coming from feminine gender with its various physical, functional, and psychological realities.  A woman may have trouble becoming aroused.  She may be functionally incapable of producing secretions and “too dry” making sexual intercourse painful and undesirable.

    She may have hormonal deficiencies and may be unable to have orgasms.  If these experiences are persistent, they may throw an intolerant man off balance.  How much each man can endure or cope with depends on communication between the man and wife, sex education, and appropriate interventions acceptable to both partners.

    A man should never have to look beyond his marriage for satisfaction and at the same time a woman should never regret her femininity.

    Infections, particularly yeast infections or vaginal thrush, are not uncommon.  A man should ask after these things, with care rather than concern, to make sure his wife is comfortable.  A woman may have a chronic disease such as diabetes that may affect her sexual capacity. A man should know the times his wife may be going through a phase: e.g. after childbirth or around menopause and be supportive and know what kind of demand he could make of her sexually.  Seeking medical help together and achieving the therapy together will result in mutual satisfaction sooner or later.

    Men may always remember that a woman is not a mere possession, she is a person and an independent biological being and men need to pay due and healthy attention to both aspects of their wives.  Men are easily egoistic and un-attentive to a woman’s detailsor may treat things that matter to her with callousness or indifference.  A man may be absorbed by job, finance, and male concerns and forget marital intimacy or put it aside just when it happens to be important for the wife.  Women tend to beemotionally labile and may inadvertently respond to male chauvinisms with asexuality. If a wife is acting “NO”, a man needs to first examine if he has done something wrong and make amends.  Communication – correct communication, timely communication, respectful communication – is important for women.  It is a woman’s prerogative to be taken care of by her husband, and that includes emotionally.

    Once acquitted, a husband needs to know what could be affecting his wife.  Psychological and physical blocks to sex can occur if a woman is overloaded or overwhelmed:  too much housework, keeping up with caring for the children, career and midlife concerns, emerging health issues, extended family problems, financial constraints, inimical neighbors and strife, etc.  Poor habits such as lack of sleep, lack of exercise, lack of hygieneand such matters may hide behind the “NO”.  Dissatisfaction with the family’s lifestyle, social status, and a mental projection of a bleak futurewith her husband can make a woman become mentally unfit for sex.  It is popularly said that there is no graduation in marriage and it requires work, mental, physical, and spiritual effort.  Restoring happiness restores sex.  What can help a wife relax, ease up, see the brighter side of life, be optimistic and trusting, be her better self or her best self?  That is the husband’s work and the result should definitely include his own sexual satisfaction.  Before a man goes after a prostitute, he should examine if his homework is complete, because even after the prostitute, he is coming back to that responsibility. The sooner he faces it, the better.

    Dr. ‘Bola John is a biomedical scientist based in Nigeria and in the USA.   For any comments or questions on this column, please email bolajohnwritings@yahoo.com or call 08160944635

  • Autopsy conducted on Ocholi, wife, son as Nigerians mourn

    Autopsy conducted on Ocholi, wife, son as Nigerians mourn

    •Buhari’s wife, others pay  tributes

    Tears were still flowing yesterday for Minister of State (Labour and Employment) James Ocholi, who died on Sunday along with his wife and son in an accident on the Kaduna-Abuja highway.

    The National Hospital in Abuja has conducted an autopsy on the bodies. One of the survivors of the crash has been declared stable in hospital.

    The driver, the orderly, the chief detail and the minister’s personal assistant were injured in the crash.

    Ocholi’s son, Joshua, a Youth Corps member who graduated from Salem University in Abuja, also died in the crash. This is contrary to the information that it was Aaron who died. Aaron was, in fact, one of those receiving visitors at the Ocholis’ home yesterday.

    Among the visitors were the President’s wife Mrs Aisha Buhari and the Vice President’s wife, Mrs Dolapo Osinbajo.

    Governors, ministers, top lawyers, government officials and friends of the late minister were at the residence.

    National Hospital spokesman Dr. Tayo Haaastrup said:  ”We have done postmortem on the bodies. We have remained proactive in attending to the survivors. One of those who survived is stable and we are still keeping him around. Some of the survivors are in Kaduna and we are expecting them here today.”

    Tomorrow, the Federal Executive Council (FEC) will hold a valedictory session for the late minister, Presidential spokesman Femi Adesina said yesterday.

    All roads around the Dagash M. Street residence were taken over by heavy vehicular traffic as dignitaries trooped to the place.

    Reporters were barred from the living room of the Ocholis as Mrs Buhari visited. She was received by a member of the family, Paul Audu and Minister of Labour and Employment, Senator Chris Ngige.

    Hajia Buhari simply wrote in the condolence register: “It is a terrible shock to us, we pray for the soul of the departed to rest in peace. May the Almighty God condole the family.” Mrs Osinbajo wrote: “May their souls rest in perfect peace.”

    A course mate of the late minister at the Nigeria Law School, Chief Adeniyi Akintola (SAN), recalled with nostalgia, their relationship.  ”I have known James Ocholi since 1985. We were called to the Bar the same day. I took the seat before him, but James was very consistent.

    “He was a man of principle and a Christian to the core who practised what he preached and he was a gentleman. I knew James to be very consistent, hardworking, diligent on the job and a man of integrity.

    “I was in Ibadan when the news came yesterday. The news was so devastating that I could not believe it because he was a pillar of our class. He belonged to that famous Class ‘86 of the Nigeria Law School and those of us who are colleagues know the Class ‘86. They call us all sorts of names but that is the class to be.

    “When James believed in a cause, he will fight it to the last. He was a man of principle and we are going to miss him. My last discussion with him was on Wednesday.

    “There is a matter we are handling for members of the House of Representatives over defection and I was leading him and some other SANs and he suggested that since we have now come to power, we should withdraw the matter. He sent somebody to me and the matter is to come up on Thursday and I promised him that I was going to send somebody to the Court of Appeal here in Abuja”.

    Minister of Youth and Sport Solomon Dalung wrote: “My brother, you left me without a word. What a surprise. Death, you are a great thief. You will always leave sorrows. Rest in peace.”

    Dalung recalled that the last Federal Executive Council meeting held about two weeks ago, was when they last met.

    Others, who were at the late Minister’s residence include Inspector General of Police Solomon Arase, FCT Minister Muhammad Bello, a delegation of the Body of Senior Advocates of Nigeria, former Deputy Governor of Plateau state, Pauline Tallen, Deputy National Chairman, (North) of the APC, Senator Lawal Shuaibu, among others.

    The Ministry of Labour and Employment declared yesterday a day of mourning.

    The. Minister said: “We have lost a legal luminary and community mobilizer with exceptional and visionary leadership skills, who has brought his wealth of experience to bear in discharge of his responsibilities as the Honourable Minister of State in the ministry as evident in the complementary role he played in the on-going efforts at resolving industrial crisis in the Oil and Gas including the Health Sectors.

    Ngige said Ocholi left the labour sector at a time when the nation greatly needed his deep experience as an arbitrator and international negotiator, while the vacuum created by his demise will remain difficult to fill

    The Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC) has sent a message of condolence to President Muhammadu Buhari, the governor of a Kogi state, Alhaji Yahaya Bello and the family of the late Ocholi over the death of the Minister.

    President of the Congress, Comrade Ayuba Wabba said in separate condolence letters that the death of the Minister is a great loss to all Nigerians.

    The letter to the President reads: “On behalf of the Nigeria Labour Congress, I wish to condole you on the tragic death of the Honourable Minister of State for Labour and Employment, Mr. James Ocholi (SAN) and members of his family.

    “In the brief moment we have worked together, I found Mr Ocholi earthy, humble, lively and knowledgeable. I had no doubt in my mind he was an asset in government-labour relations and certainly, he was going to play a more critical role in the future. His death is therefore a big loss to all of us.

    “Mr. Ocholi was a civil, decent and humble man; a legal luminary; and an illustrious son of Kogi State, who brought to bear on his job, clinical efficiency and humanity. He was a trusted ally of Labour

    “It is a shame, death has robbed us of this irreplaceable and priceless gem.”

  • Minister, wife, son die as SUV somersaults

    Minister, wife, son die as SUV somersaults

    Driver, Chief Detail, orderly, PA injured

    Buhari, APC, Atiku, others mourn

    Minister of State for Labour and Employment James Ocholi (SAN) died yesterday in an accident on the Kaduna-Abuja road. He was 55.

    The accident in which Ocholi’s wife, Blessing and son, Aaron also died, occurred at Rijana, Kilometre 57 on the highway.

    Ocholi and his wife were married for 27 years.

    Kaduna State sector commander of the Federal Road Safety Commission (FRSC) Mr. Francis Udoma said: “The minister and his son died on the spot; the wife died in the government hospital in Doka, Kaduna State.

    “The driver, the chief detail, the orderly and the P.A (Personal Assistant ) were injured.”

    Kaduna Police spokesman Zubairu Abubakar confirmed the accident, which he said occurred because the Lexus Sport Utility Vehicle (SUV) the family was travelling in lost a tyre while on speed.

    A source said the Minister was on his way back to Abuja after attending a thanksgiving church service in Kaduna.

    Federal Road Safety Commission (FRSC) Kaduna Sector Command ACM Victor Nwokolo told The Nation on telephone that three persons were confirmed dead.

    He said the accident occurred when the tyre of the Lexus SUV they were traveling in got bust, causing the vehicle to somersault.

    He said bodies of the dead and those injured were taken to the National Hospital.

    He said: “There is an accident involving the minister’s convoy. Our men are on ground at the scene of the accident, but I am not the one to disclose what has happened now since he is a serving minister.

    “It happened at Doka village and I am not on ground there. We have a unit at Kateri and the ambulance is there. I am talking with them on telephone.”

    Residents of Kogi State, where the late minister hailed from, were yesterday thrown into shock.

    The eminent lawyer, who hailed from Ogbabede/Abocho in Dekina Local Government Area, was one of President Mohammadu Buhari’s nominees.

    Kogi State Governor Yahaya Bello was shocked by the minister’s death.

    Bello described the late Ocholi as a pragmatic, dynamic, humane and brilliant law officer, who was known around the world for his dexterous approach to legal and political issues and  one of the most unwavering constitutional lawyers Nigeria has ever produced.

    The governor recollected how the late Senior Advocate of Nigeria joined other progressive-minded individuals around the country to drive the intellectual pillars of the All Progressives Congress (APC), just as he described the late Ocholi as a complete gentleman who was irrevocably committed to the advancement of Nigeria.

    He described his death as an irreparable loss to Kogi State, Nigeria, the APC and the legal profession, praying for the repose of the soul of the departed.

    The APC Kogi State chapter, described Ocholi’s death as a great loss.

    Treasurer Ismail Yahaya Adesayo described the death “very unfortunate”.

    He remembered the late Ocholi as a fine leader who meant well for state and Nigeria.

    He lamented that Ocholi died when his service was most needed in the state, praying to God to grant him eternal rest and give his family the fortitude to bear the loss.

    He prayed to God not to take away the state’s leaders again, adding that the party is mourning.

    Ocholi was the defunct Congress for Progressives Change (CPC) governorship candidate during the December 2011 governorship election in Kogi State.

     

  • Man arrested for killing wife’s lover

    Man arrested for killing wife’s lover

    A middle aged man, Moses Alugo has been arrested by men of the Ondo state police command over the alleged murder of his wife’s lover.

    Alugo was said to have warned the deceased to desist from sleeping with his wife, before he finally took law into his hands.

    The incident which occurred in Ode Aye in Okitipupa local government area of Ondo State threw the community in pandemonium.

    It was gathered that the deceased had been buried by some villagers at Akinpelu camp, Ode-Aye before the information got to the police.

    The state Police Public Relations Officer (PPRO), Mr. Femi Joseph who confirmed the incident said members of the community quickly buried the deceased before the police could get to the place.

    The Police Image-maker said the case has been transferred to the state CID for further investigation.

    He described the incident as unfortunate and warned the people against taken laws into their hands.