Category: Arts & Life

  • Three-year-old needs N10million for kidney transplant

    Three-year-old needs N10million for kidney transplant

    Under normal circumstances, Anjolaoluwa Oluwole should be rolling out the drums come February 23. Friends, schoolmates and family members should be joining him to cut her fourth birthday cake. But there won’t be any such celebration, at least not this year.

    Anjola, as she is fondly called, may be undergoing dialysis on her fourth birthday. Since last January, she has been subjected to the painful procedure at least twice in a week. Each session costs N20, 000, while pre and post dialysis tests come at N6, 000 per session.

    This is the painful life the adorable three-year-old has been living in the last 11 months. When her mother noticed a tiny swelling in her abdomen exactly on March 28, 2015, she thankfully didn’t take any chances. Laboratory tests revealed that the kidneys of the innocent child were damaged.

    Since her first admission on April 1, 2015, Anjola has been practically in and out of hospital. “She is constantly on antibiotics and keeps getting blood transfusion because the ailment keeps draining her blood,” her mother, Kemi, stated.

    The constant hospitalisation has also exposed her to bacteria, virus and fungi infections, leaving her medically battered. The hitherto brilliant kid has dropped out of school in search of medical solutions to the damages to her young system.

    Her parents are emotionally and financially drained. At the last estimate, nothing less than N2million of the family’s savings have been expended on treatments. Anjola consumes the Human Serum Albumin (HSA) in less than 30 minutes at N40, 000 per drop. Over 10 drops have been injected into her system. There is also the Fresh Frozen Plasma (FFP), which helps to stabilise her during painful moments.

    Though FFP is administered free because she is a child, it costs the parents a lot to get the drip and screen her for the procedure. “We pay N5, 000 to get FFP after we must have suffered for just two weeks to get screening,” Mrs. Oluwole said.

    The medical report on her case signed by Dr A.U Solarin, a Consultant Pediatric Nephrologist at the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH) stated that she was initially diagnosed of nephritic syndrome.

    The report added: “Her renal function has progressively deteriorated and estimated glomerular filtration rate is less than 10%. Kidney is functioning at less than 10%.”

    In simple terms, her two kidneys are gone. To stand the chance of survival, Anjola has to undergo a transplant. The options open to her parents are unattractive. She needs a donor who must be a sibling from 18-65. The second of three children has no sibling that fits that bill.

    Her elder brother is six, while the younger sister is just one year, four months. That leaves the family with the other hard alternative: either of the parents must donate one of their kidneys. While both parents are most willing and have no fuss about paying the price, they are hampered by the huge financial requirements.

    The first has to do with a compatibility test that costs N307, 000 per parent. Each has to undergo the test to determine who is more compatible as a donor. Then Anjola too has to go through the test at the same amount. That practically amounts to almost N1million to cross the first hurdle.

    Next is the cost of transplant itself in either South Africa or India, estimated at N10million. While Kemi makes a little from her catering business, the husband, Olusina, a civil engineer, has been out of job for over two years.

    This leaves the family practically stranded and little Anjola at the brink. But Mrs. Oluwole is optimistic her girl will pull through. “God has kept her despite the crisis and pains associated with the health condition. We have seen Him move on our behalf and believe He will send us help again.”

    She appeals to Nigerians to come to their rescue. Little Anjola requires N10million to successfully undergo kidney transplant. To donate, kindly pay into:

    – Oluwole Victoria Anjolaoluwa 

    6150652132

    Fidelity Bank.

     

  • National Troupe: For the love of Nigeria

    With series of satires and performances based on the need to move Nigeria ahead for more effective and concerted change, the National Troupe of  Nigeria has moved to Abuja, the nation’s capital to preach the message of cultural and moral rebirth. The event tagged ‘I Love Nigeria’, took place on Valentine Day at the Unity Park, Abuja. Edozie Udeze reports

    In its guest to continuously search for a better Nigerian society, the National Troupe of Nigeria (NTN) has devised a new pattern of dance drama to capture the heart of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) Abuja. Last weekend, in collaboration with the National Orientation Agency (NOA) in what was termed “I Love Nigeria” the Troupe presented series of dances anchored on the unity and progress of Nigeria.

    Held at the Unity Park, Abuja, the dances were done on Valentine day, to show love, true love, rooted in the heart of people can help to move Nigeria to the next level where ethnicity, religious bigotry, hatred, narrow-mindedness and political thuggery would soon be flushed out in the national psyche of the Nigeria society.

    This was why the dances and dramas were performed essentially to touch on those terrible habits Nigerians display that have not encourage the society to prosper. All aspects of professional misconducts in the society were harped on, in which every body was asked to sit up to ensure that Nigeria is made a better place for all and sundry.

    Thus doctors were cajoled to be upright in their treatment of patients. It was good remind them that the head condition of the vast majority of people lay in their hands. Therefore it behooves on them to use their sound professional ethics to give the people the best medical facilities ever. In it, Sobifa Dokubo who acted Nigeria was decked in the National colours of green-white-green, designed to represent the Niger Delta symbolic designs. Dokubo, a veteran of stage, used the opportunity to scold all professionals represented in the play to do the best for the total cohesion, progress and development of Nigeria.

    Each profession has a duty, to perform to put the Nigerian society on the right track to stardom. Both doctors importers, farmers, teachers, civil servants, engineers, the youths, artisans, artists, owe it to the people to discharge their duties diligently for Nigeria to measure up with the rest of the world.

    What will it profit a farmer when he uses fake  and inferior fertilizers to produce crops, that will be harmful to millions of Nigerians? Most of the organically produced food crops pushed into the market pose serious health hazards to the people if all professionals adhered  to safety of their professions; if they truly love the Nigeria society and its teeming people, then they will have the heart to commit less atrocities in order to save the people. No society ever gets it better when its engineers keep building substandard houses that collapse at the slightest whim. No government will be happy to see its engineers do roads that do not last longer before they begin to develop potholes. This was why the drama infused with heavy dances were quite appropriate to pass the message across to teeming crowd that gathered to watch the shows.

    In their midst were soldiers, both serving and retired who saw in the plays renewed zeal to fight more to liberate to people for clutches of Boko Haram. Also present were top civil servants who were told to be more punctual to work and produce more to help the economy grow.

    Civil servants who report to duty say by 10am and register 6.30 am where admonished to desist from the habit forthwith. In his fatherly artistic way, Dokubo intoned “ Oh, it is not good when you falsify your age to remain for ever in the service. It is not good when you habitually produce ghost workers in order to cheat the system; when you make people’s files to disappear at random. And then threaten to go on strike for salary increase for works you did not do diligently. For most part, the arena was silent; people were somewhat reflective and sober. The messages hit them hard on the head. The usual clapping and acclaim that accompany such satires and hilarious place did not happen. Nigerians were told the truth in a way that was new on them.

    “Oh yes,” Akin Adejuwon, the Artistic Director of the Troupe said “it is to make the messages clearer to the people. Change has to be made concrete; people have to know what it is to make a meaningful change. It has to start from each and everyone of us. So, while the NOA uses speeches to do it, we use actions, performances, shows, plays, dances, songs, etc, to permeate the people. The beauty of artistic demonstrations or performance art is that its effect is instantaneous. You feel it as it is being released and you take the message home and chew on it. Most times, they message is addressing you in particular, noting those bad habits you have which you must shed to make progress. This is why we have adopted this method and I hope it is catching on fast.”

    In a way the project is a continuation of the vow and promise Adejuwon made at the initial beginning to take the Troupe to all the crannies of the society. “Yes, we are taking the Troupe out of the National Theatre, Lagos to other places to let Nigerians feel the impact of the Troupe. The dances, the dramas, the songs, et al must reflect on the areas of the Nigerian problems in order for us to move on ahead.”

    In his own speech, Mike Omeri of NOA reiterated the need for Nigerians to fall in love with what is their own. “On a day like this and even beyond, Nigerians need to show real love to one another. This show today is to remind us that love is in the air and it has to be a continuous habit. We need to overcome prejudices and ethnic problems in order to grow as a nation. What is right for the society is what we should do. Let us always remember to show love whether we here or somewhere else. For, to us, love is universal”

    “In other words, let love be our armour. Today Nigerian soldiers have to be celebrated for having degraded Boko Haram. No territories are in the hands of Boko Haram today because our soldiers have been diligent. It is time therefore to dedicate today to them and ask them to do more for the good of nation,” Omeri said.

    In her comment about the play, Josephine Igberease who conceived the show said, “On a search to reward true patriotic citizens in the season of love, Nigeria (a father figure) assembles all contestants from all works of life – From the teachers, to the doctors, engineers, farmers, artisans, youth groups, business tycoons, to mention but a few. Everybody gathers together in groups with the song of ‘I LOVE NGEIRA’ in their mouths, singing praises of themselves with pride. After all the merriment and boastfulness of individual group achievements, the story take a new turn when Mr. Nigeria announces no one is the winner. He goes further to show them the areas where they all fall short, and motivates them to change their ways if truly they love him, Nigeria. It is a story of CHANGE.

  • Lagos Rotary holds free blood screening at Sandgrosse Market

    In continuation of its activities for the Rotary Year 2015/2016, the Lagos Rotary Club recently carried out free blood screening for market women and men at the Sandgrosse Market, Obalende, Lagos. The screening was carried out by certified professionals under the supervision of officials of the club, led by its president, Larry Agose.

    In the end, those whose blood pressures were high were given referrals and also counselled on how to manage their blood pressures.

    The market women and men were impressed with the initiative by Rotary as many of them felt they hitherto believed nobody would count them worthy of such initiative.

    Speaking to The Nation after the event, Agose explained that during a Rotary year, one theme is tied to each month under which humanitarian activities are carried out. He said the visit to the Sandgrosse market to give free blood screening to market men and women was part of the humanitarian initiative for the month under the theme, disease prevention and control.

    He disclosed that as part of the initiative for December, they held autistic children to an end of the year party at Campus Square, also in Lagos, while they also visited the Regina Mundi Catholic Church, Mushin, Lagos, where they hosted old people in the church. He said his club had to lead the way as the oldest Rotary club in the country.

    “As you may know, Rotary is a world-wide humanitarian organisation with over 4.2 million members worldwide and 34,000 clubs. Rotary Club of Lagos is one of those 34,000 clubs and our District, 9110, has 82 clubs and we are the oldest surviving club in the country. The first one was Kano but no more functioning. This year we are 55 years old.”

    Agose said the month of December was for disease prevention and control and the month of January of humanitarian service. He said the disease prevention and control had spilled to this month, hence the free blood screening exercise. He said the disease prevention and control actually started in October when the club donated an incubator to General Hospital at Ifako Ijaye in Lagos. He explained that the hosting of elderly people at Regina Mundi Catholic Church, where drugs and food items were donated to them, was also part of the disease prevention and control.

    The club also bought inverters for the ophthalmology department of the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital while they also did economic empowerment for small scale traders by giving them loans free of interest. He explained that they chose Obalende because of what he termed “needs assessment”. He said they had to look at what is needed in certain areas and Sandgrosse market in Obalende is very strategic, hence the decision to do the free blood screening exercise for them there.

  • ‘Inadequate funds affecting our programmes’

    ‘Inadequate funds affecting our programmes’

    Prof Gbemisola Remi Adeoti assumed office about six months ago as Dean, Faculty of Arts, Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife, Osun State. Before the appointment, he was Director, Institute of Cultural Studies, at the university where he distinguished himself. Under him, the institute hosted the first-ever Conference of Nigerian Playwrights in collaboration with Emeritus Prof Femi Osofisan. Few days ago, Adeoti hosted the revived Faculty of Arts Guest Lecture Series with Minister of Information and Culture Alhaji Lai Mohammed as  lecturer. In this interview with SOLA BALOGUN, a lecturer at the Federal University, Oye-Ekiti in Ekiti State, Adeoti speaks on his mission and vision.

    Sometime last year, you became Dean, Faculty of Arts of the great Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife. Can you reflect on the journey so far?

    I resumed duty on  August 1, 2015. Of course, I had some preparations for that office, especially in terms of administration. From 2010-2012, I was the President of the Staff Club. In 2011, I was appointed as the Acting Director of the Institute of Cultural Studies. In 2012, I was confirmed as the substantive Director, which means effectively, I became the Head of the Institute for four years. The Institute of Cultural Studies is part of the Faculty.  I also worked with the previous Deans so I knew some of the challenges and prospects of the Faculty. Settling down was not so difficult, although by the time I got to the office, I had greater insight, especially of such challenges as funding. Funding has always been a critical problem and I was assuming office at a time when the resources were dwindling. During this period, the resources came from within. They were little and we still did not get them on time. This meant, apparently, that one was left with one’s creativity or ingenuity. So right from the beginning, I knew that we had to look outside the University to source for funds. So that was what we started with. Fortunately, we got one of our own who donated funds to improve the lighting system, and by extension the security system around the Faculty premises at night. So we started that, lit up the place, and completed the first phase of the lighting so that whenever you come to the Faculty at night, you are pleased with what you see. We are beginning the second phase very soon. The Faculty is located in three places; here, the Humanities Building, the Institute of African and Cultural Studies Building, and then the several buildings occupied by some of our staff, which were recently vacated by the Administrative staff of the University.

    What are the programmes you have in mind as the head of the faculty.

    One of the programmes that we revived was the Guest Lecture Series but we repackaged it so that whenever we invited eminent personalities to give lectures, we identified three or four alumni whom we honoured and gave awards to, in the hope that they, in turn, put in something to support their alma mater.  We did that last November. We invited Chief Bayo Akande; founder of Splash FM, who gave the guest lecture, and in support of the faculty, he promised us a bus and fulfilled his promise. So, you can see this worked. We hope to follow this up. We have reenergised the Distinguished Guest Lecture series with the aim of inviting alumni in order to raise funds from them.

    Also, the faculty had a website but after a while, it stopped functioning. When we came on board however, we revived it and it is on now and gets regular updates. We have equally inaugurated different committees. We will have the Faculty conference next May or June. Eventually, what we tried to do these past six months was to bring back some of the good things the Faculty was known for and then sustain those that are on ground, e.g. the Faculty seminar series. We are also on the lookout for other innovative ideas that would enable us to get funds.

    How does the university authority support the faculty in all of these?

    We have support from the University, led by the Vice Chancellor, but there is a general constraint about funding and also the way the system works. Between that time and now, this Single Account System was imposed on everyone and this has limited us and it became difficult for us to access even our own legitimate funds. This put much pressure on us and led us to seek funds from other sources. The funds we receive from the university, no matter how little, would help launch us to achieve our set goals. We enjoy the cooperation with the university, up till when the issue of PSA came on board.

    With the enormity of your administrative duties as Dean, do you still have time for literary and scholarly works?

    Yes, I still have time for my literary work, although this has been drastically reduced. I still teach courses at the undergraduate and postgraduate levels. I also supervise the Masters and PhD candidates. But I have not been able to attend to my creative writing which I have suspended for now till after my term in office. I still engage in a lot of academic writing. There is a monograph I am working on and I still edit books.  I serve as external examiner to other universities. My hands are full for now.

    For the remaining part of your tenure, what are your dreams for the Faculty and things you hope to realise?

    Yeah, one of it is, if the bus comes, then we have a functioning vehicle for our students. If they want to go for excursions or they want to go for research or they have things to do, you know, it would be easier to access a bus from the faculty rather than to be at the mercy of the larger ones at the university level. So that will be a dream realised. Apart from that, we have challenges with office spacing. Some of our colleagues, they don’t have conclusive offices to work in. Sometimes we have about three people sharing an office.  We were hoping that some of the people that would be involved in the Guest Lecture Series would be kind enough to build a structure that can be named after them but they should make available offices. So I am hoping that at least one structure will be realised towards settling some of the space constraints. It would also include lecture rooms for our students. So I would be happy if that is realised too. Apart from that, I want improved Internet access within the Faculty so that our colleagues can access Internet at any point in time. I want to bring back the wireless system to make it work. It has been on before but it is down now so we want to restore it. We also want to link up with the former students in Diaspora who can give us aid so that we can give them a sense of belonging. We want to create a forum whereby we can meet up with them.

    A former colleague of yours, Professor Ogunleye died recently. She was a member of your faculty and her funeral was done not too long ago in Ile-Ife and Ibadan. Can you give us your  comments about her?

    Professor Ogunleye was a wonderful colleague, sister, senior and person in all our lives. She has always been a serious source of inspiration, especially in terms of scholarship. She never thought of the constraints or impossibilities when it came to achieving goals or tasks. It was my participation in her International Paint Festival in 2008 that motivated me and gave me the courage to organise scholarly conferences, not just for your benefit but for also for others.  She was always smiling. Even if she got angry at somebody, after a short while, the smile would return. She was a fine scholar. She never placed too much on perfection. She was always concerned about the beneficiaries of scholarly work. That is why I am not surprised that all her many works are still living on after her. She also rekindled my interest in the practical aspect of the theatre. She acted and directed plays showing that it is not enough to be a critic but one can also show practically one’s criticisms. I learnt that from her; don’t just interpret other people’s works, also create. You can also act and do creative work.

  • Women journalists bemoan low coverage

    Women journalists bemoan low coverage

    Women journalists have lamented low reportage of women activities by the media. They said women involved in other developmental efforts should be showcased rather than those in entertainment and showbiz. They also said the voice of women in the rural areas should be heard as opposed to women in the urban areas. They advised that journalists should make efforts to interview rural women instead of talking to only urban women so as to give a balanced overview on the issues.

    Speaking at the review of a report titled: Mainstreaming gender reporting on affirmative action of women and girls rights issues published by Journalists for Christ (Nigeria), the Assistant Director (News) Voice of Nigeria Mrs. Ugonma Cokey said: “Women have received scarce representation in media reportage despite their contributions to development for several reasons including cultural and social norms which has resulted in stereotypes and right denials.’’

    She added that women’s voices should be heard more when writing a story that pertains to women affairs, as it was discovered that men speak for women. She said even where women’s voices are supposed to be heard, the men do the talking.

    She added that the media  should not be gender biased in their reporting, and should not treat the issues of women in isolation, but mainstream gender in all reports.

    Mrs Cokey, however, advised women to assert themselves as they are already being marginalised by nature. She said they should make extra effort to do more good stories and interview more women when writing stories that pertains to them. She stressed the need for women rights group to also make themselves available for interviews on all issues as this will foster gender neutrality in journalism profession, thereby hindering stereotypes and right denials of women and girls in media reporting.

    The occasion was a public presentation of a one- month media monitoring reports on the portrayal and reportage of women and girls rights issues held at the International Press Centre, Lagos to discuss issues of gender discrimination in journalism. The report used six newspapers – The Punch, The Nation, The Guardian, Vanguard, Daily Trust and Daily Sun – for its analysis. Other issues discussed were domestic violence, failure of men to perform their responsibility at home, among others.

    A board of  Trustees member of JFC Mrs. Betty Abbah said media organisations should imbibe the habit of gender neutrality in media reports. She also said selective reporting should be put aside when doing reports on women’s issue. Mrs Abbah cited where issues of rape are just being reported without a follow-up on how the accused is being punished to serve as a lesson to others who may also have the intention of doing such.

    The report, which focused on how women are being reported in these six national newspapers revealed that coverage of women was reported mainly in the showbiz and entertainment sections while the stories on women were highly urban-based. It was observed that spaces allocated to women were not limited to women, as men still preferred to be quoted as sources over women. Also, it was observed that reports advocating gender balance is low.

    The report by JFC, a Non-Governmental Organisation, sets to point at how women are represented in the media. The body intends to follow up its report with advocacy visits to media gate keepers and editors of monitored media to present the media monitoring report to management and other journalists in the news room, training of select journalists to serve as gender advocates to advance affirmative action of women and girls via media reportage, roundtable sessions to bring together journalists and local women groups to bring right based issues involving and affecting women such as agriculture, land rights, denials to active participation in society and governance, to mention a few.

    Present at the event were the Managing Editor, Online and Special Publications, The Nation Newspaper Mr. Lekan Otufodunrin; the Chairman of Nigerian Union of Journalists Lagos State chapter Mr. Deji Elumoye, represented by Mrs Kehinde Ajayi, the Chairperson of Nigerian Association of Women Journalists, (NAWOJ) Mrs. Dupe Olaoye-Osinkolu, among others.

  • Some acts  of Aare Arisekola Alao

    Some acts of Aare Arisekola Alao

    Veteran journalist Lekan Alabi pays tribute to the late frontline businessman Aare Azeez Arisekola Alao, who would have been 71 on Valentine’s Day.

    Last Sunday was Valentine’s Day, a day for lovers all over the world and the 71st posthumous birthday of the lovable first Aare Musulumi of Yoruba land, late Vice President – General of the Nigeria Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs (NSCIA) and Aare of Ibadanland, businessman and philanthropist, Alhaji AbdulAzeez Arisekola Alao, to be called by his popular title, Aare, in this tribute.

    Aare was a well-connected man in and outside Nigeria, as attested to in a book of tributes titled, “Arisekola In Our Minds”, edited by Professor Rusheed Aderinoye. It was launched by Governor Abiola Ajimobi of Oyo State at Aare’s Oluwo Kereke Basorun Area home in Ibadan, at the 70th posthumous birthday Fidau of Aare on Valentine’s Day last year. Besides writing the foreword to the book , my tribute forms part of the book.

    The life and times of the late successful businessman, best known for his charity, who started out as an apprentice ‘Gammalin’ trader under his late uncle, Alhaji Karimu Olasupo Jenrola, at Ogunpa Business District in Ibadan in the 1960s, were very open and still open vide the said book. In this wise, I shall focus on some public acts of Aare  between  1975 and 2014 when he died as witnessed  by me. In Yoruba, “Awon ise Aare ti won soju mi korokoro” (translated – Some acts of Aare Arisekola Alao before my very eyes) as the title of this piece above indicates. May the kind and noble soul of the witty dapper continue to rest in Aljannah Fridaous. Amen.

     

    Act I

     

    I started my journalism career in 1973 with the defunct Sketch Publishing Company Limited, Ibadan as a reporter/writer/reader, in addition to writing a column  in the Yoruba language weekly in the Sketch stable – “Gboungboun”. A year later in 1974, a late editor of the popular “Sunday Sketch”, Mr. Phillip Bamidele  Adedeji, did the unprecedented not only in the Sketch Group, but in the Nigerian media history by offering me a column and later a page in the weekly, thus making me Nigeria’s first bilingual (Yoruba & English) columnist (“Mo ri firii” in Gboungboun and “Its what’s happening” in the Sunday Sketch). Old  generation newspapers readers would remember that there were just three weekend (no Saturday papers) newspapers in Nigeria in the 1950s to early 1970s) – (i) the mother of them all, Sunday Times, (ii) Sunday Sketch and the then new arrival, (iii) Punch, which started as a weekly on Sundays. One day in 1975, our News Editor, the late Mr. Abiodun Famojuro, a vibrant wordsmith and tireless journalist, assigned me to go and interview the young, with due respect, Alhaji AbdulAzeez Arisekola Alao.

    I did my job, but politely turned down the kind offer of Aare – “a token for your transport fare back to Sketch”. The editor of “Sunday Sketch”, had warned us not to receive gifts in any form, with emphasis on pre-publication gifts. That interview in 1975 was my first contact with Aare.

     

    Act II

     

    Upon my graduation and return from the famous College of Journalism, Fleet Street, London, UK in 1978, I resigned from the Sketch and joined the services of the Nigerian Television Authority (NTA), Ibadan. I resigned from NTA in 1982 to join the newly-established, Television Service of Oyo State (TSOS) now called BCOS TV. I was a pioneer editorial staff member– the first reporter to appear on the channel on its first day of transmission (October 30, 1982) and the first Chairman of the station’s chapel of the Nigeria Union of Journalists (NUJ).

    In February 1983, I was seconded to the then Governor of old Oyo State (present day Oyo and Osun States) the “Cicero of Esa-Oke”, Chief ’Bola Ige, my boss and mentor, as a Press Secretary. God grant his soul repose. Amen.

    In the general elections of 1983, the defunct Federal Electoral Commission (FEDECO) declared Chief Ige of the defunct Unity Party of Nigeria (UPN) a loser in the governorship election to Dr. Victor Omololu Olunloyo of the also defunct National Party of Nigeria (NPN). Three months later, on December 31, 1983, the military staged a coup detat that toppled President Sheu Shagari – led NPN Federal Government and state governments also. Our incumbent President Muhammadu Buhari became Nigeria’s military head of state, and the then  – Colonel Oladayo Popoola (now a retired Major –General, lawyer and printer) was appointed the Military Governor of old Oyo State.

    Governor Popoola, in what I always describe as the  “eighth” wonder of the world, ordered that I resume as his Press Secretary, after my appointment had been terminated earlier in October 1983,  like some others, by Governor Olunloyo’s NPN government. I thus returned to my old desk in the Governor’s Office, Ibadan.

    One day in 1984, my friend and colleague, the resident media consultant to the Independent Corrupt Practices and other related Offences Investigation Commission (ICPC), Folu Olamiti, then a senior editoral staff of the Nigerian Tribune, Ibadan visited me in the office and told me of Aare’s urgent need for an appointment with the  Military Governor. I replied Folu, a close acquaintance of Aare, to give me some time to arrange the visit. It will be recalled that the new military government was wary of civilians. After strategic maneuverings, I succeeded in fixing the appointment for Aare which Governor Popoola graciously approved. Their meeting, at which I was present, took place in a private home (not connected to Aare) on Bodija Estate, Ibadan.

    It was about a decade after the 1984 ‘rendezvous’ that Aare got to know that I was the ‘Mr. Fix It’ of his audience  with the military governor. Of course, that further cemented our relationship.

     

    Act III

     

    Our fourth child was born in August 1987. Aare was one of my invited guests to the new baby boy’s naming ceremony. Although he could not attend, Aare sent a representative with, as usual, his trademark of a cash gift. But, the representative played a smart game with Aare’s gift, unknown to me. He slashed the cash gift, and gave me a third of it! One day, the rip-off became public.

    Not long after the naming, I visited the late Managing Director of Sketch Press Limited, Ibadan, Mr. Peter Ajayi, in his office at Dugbe on an official matter. As I was ushered into Uncle Peter’s office, I saw him and Aare (backing the door) discussing. The shouts of “Lekuze, se a se o” (Lekuze, I hope we have not offended o) by Uncle Peter made Aare to look back and say, “Lekan, Onitemi, I have offended you. I didn’t attend your son’s naming ceremony”

    I immediately greeted and replied Uncle Peter first that neither he nor the Sketch group had offended anyone. And to Aare, I said his representative had explained the reason for his absence. Moreover, his handsome cash gift of ‘x’ naira was delivered to me. On hearing the ‘x’ figure mentioned as his gift presented to me, by his representative, Aare stood up and shouted “Lahila Ilalahu! Ko seniyan gidi laye mo” (My God! Trustworthy people have become rare in the world). He requested to use the landphone on Uncle Peter’s desk, a request which was granted. Aare called the representative, “Can you please remind me of the sum I sent through you to ’Lekan Alabi on his son’s naming ceremony?”

    The receiver answered. Aare, raising his voice, then said, “Lekan is here with me in the office of the MD of Sketch. But you gave him one-third of the gift I sent to him, and that’s unfair. You know the press people, they can publish your dismeanour. You better see ’Lekan unfailingly tomorrow with the balance”. In compliance with Aare’s order, the representative visited me very early the following morning in my office within the Governor’s Office, and released the two-third balance, pleading that his earlier act “was an oversight”. I called Aare immediately I received the balance, as it were. He appealed to me to forgive the representative. I did, or didn’t I?

     

    Act IV

     

    On my last day ( March 30, 1989) in office as the Press Secretary to the fourth governor of old Oyo State that I had the good fortune of serving, the late Brigadier–General Sasaenia Oresanya, God bless his kind soul. He asked me, at the end of our long farewell chat, to make a request, any request, with a vow to grant it. I stood up, thanked him, as it was unprecedented in Nigeria, and requested for 1989 Hajj sponsorship. My request was granted on the spot.

    I visited Aare on my departure to Saudi Arabia. He prayed for me and my two professional colleagues (Alhaji Mikhail Adeogun and Alhaja Labake Adebiyi, both of the  now defunct Concord Press Nigeria) who I took along to his home on Rotimi Williams Avenue, Bodija Estate, Ibadan.

    On my return from Hajj, I paid him a thank you visit accompanied by my wife, Adetokunbo,  at his office in Lister House, Ring Road, Ibadan. He was so delighted to see us, particularly I. We went into a long, lively discussion which suddenly turned sour the moment I answered his question of “Which of your houses did you return to from Makkah?” with a  “Sorry, sir, I have not built a house”. Rising from his seat with the famous frown on his face, he retorted “Lekan, se emi loo maa pa iro fun? Sebi won ni o ko ile si Bodija ati Oluyole? O ko fe soro loju iyawo re? (‘Lekan, why will you lie to me? But, people say you have built houses in Bodija and here in Oluyole Estate. Or you don’t want to disclose the secrets before your wife?)

    He sat and requested that ’Tokunbo should please excuse us. I repeated my earlier denial of ownership of any personal house either in Bodija, Oluyole Estates or anywhere in the world. At that point, he called ’Tokunbo back into his office to join us. Facing her, he blamed her for not “pushing” me hard enough into owning  at least a house in the course of sleepless nights of running around for four governors of Oyo State for six years! I added petrol to naked fire when I interjected by saying, “Sir, my former bosses are not to blame. I didn’t ask them for favours”. Aare hissed and said something like this, “From today, ’Tokunbo, you and I have a duty of waking this my aburo up. He needs to open his eyes”, to which ’Tokunbo replied, “Yio dara fun yin, sir. Kii fe gbo otito oro (God bless you, sir. He detests the truth).

     

    Act V

     

    In 1998, Aare asked me when I would be promoted from Mogaji to the Olubadan Traditional Chieftaincy line and to let him know what the requirements were. I made enquiries and recounted to him my missed chance of  what would have been an instant appointment/promotion by the late Olubadan Yesufu Oloyede Asanke 1 in 1986, who said that he felt honoured and proud of me for acceding to his royal order to forgive two civil offenders, despite the fact that I was the press secretary to the then Military Governor of old Oyo State, Colonel Adetunji Olurin (now a retired Brig-Gen). That one–in–a–million chance was stalled then by a subsisting decree promulgated by the Buhari / Idiagbon Federal Military Government in 1984 banning civil servants / public officers from receiving traditional chieftaincy titles. Those who had been honoured before the decree, were to repudiate them or quit service.

    One day in August 2002, after closing from my office at Odu’a Investment Company Limited, Dugbe, Ibadan, where I was the pioneer General Manager Corporate Affairs, I paid a routine visit to Aare at his Oluwo Kekere home.

    On getting to the “Red Carpet” sitting room, where I met him reading newspapers amid some visitors, I paid courtesies to Aare and others. He answered with his trademark of a curt “ E kaa” (Welcome) without looking up – a sign that something was amiss. I gave him some minutes before making a statement to measure the depth of his (bad) mood. He only nodded. I immediately knew that someone or something had put the otherwise ever-jolly Aare in a bad mood. I thought to myself that since he was in such a mood, immediate departure was the best answer. This style of exit was known only to the inner caucus of  Aare’s “Oluwo Roundtable.” As if he was reading my mind, before I could say goodbye to him, Aare stood up, collected his bunch of keys on the table and walked out of the sitting room .

    I was asking the people in the sitting room what transpired before my entry, when I heard Aare calling my name from the lobby. This was echoed by visitors and bystanders in the lobby and the staircase. I answered and went out to meet Aare. By then he had descended the staircase. When I caught up with him in the car park, he held me by the hand, asking where my car was. I pointed it out to him. He literarily dragged me to the car, ordered me to get into the driver’s seat and open the front passenger’s door for him. I did.

    Aare entered my car, and asked me to drive the two of us out of his palatial home. “Turn right, turn left, go straight” were the directives given by him to me till we got to the front of Olubadan Ogundipe’s palace at Oranyan where he asked me to stop and park. By the time I  parked the car, got out and entered the palace, Aare had climbed the staircase to meet with Kabiyesi upstairs.

    After spending an hour or so with Kabiyesi, Aare came out and we departed the palace for his Oluwo home together again in my car. His convoy had since got to hear of our unceremonial departure from Oluwo and had found its way to the palace. He did not tell me his mission to Oba Ogundipe, neither did I ask him. On getting home, he said to me, “ I will teach you the secrets of success.” He bade me good night, came out of my car, shut the door and walked into his apartment. I started the engine and left for home. A few weeks after that dash by Aare and I to his palace, Olubadan Ogundipe broke the good news of his intention to promote me from Mogaji to Jagun Olubadan of Ibadanland. And this took place on December 14, 2002.Aare had initiated my promotion on that unscheduled visit to Olubadan Ogundipe.

     

    Act VI

     

    One night in 2008, Aare called me on the telephone to see him very early the following day before the usual stream of visitors would begin. I reported at Oluwo Kekere at 7.00am. I alerted him of my arrival on telephone, he then summoned me inside his bedroom. After exchanging pleasantries, Aare in a very sober mood told me of his decision to marry an Edo lady who resides with her parents at Apapa – Ajegunle area of  Lagos State. He said three of us – himself, his late uncle (Baale Abidoye Olaniyan) and I would be going for the introduction ceremony the following day. I would be his family’s representative / spokesman at the ceremony. He instructed me to keep the information to myself and  not to tell anybody.

    Very early the following morning, the three of us, accompanied by Aare’s usual retinue of bodyguards and escorts departed Oluwo Kekere for Apapa -Ajegunle, Lagos State. We arrived the young, pretty and well – mannered lady’s Ajegunle home where we were warmly received by her Christian parents, a brother and about three other family members. It was a very private family introduction ceremony.

    I performed the duties assigned to me with solemnity and brevity after which traditional rites in Edo custom were performed. We were entertained with a modest feast, after which we departed for Ibadan. The fair – skinned lady eventually moved into Aare’s home. But, after a while we did not see her again, and Aare did not tell me about her whereabouts.

     

  • Murtala: The unforgettable leader

    Murtala: The unforgettable leader

     As Head of State, the late Gen Murtala Ramat Muhammed led a simple life. He moved without a siren-blaring convoy and mixed with Nigerians in the market and other public places.Forty years after his death, his life and times were celebrated last week at a photo exhibition tagged: Our Hero Past at the National Museum in Onika, Lagos. Assistant Editor Arts OZOLUA UHAKHEME reports.

    Murtala jolted a sleeping nation into life. The vibrancy in his voice was arresting. The fire in his eyes charmed and awed the nation. …Murtala adopted a low profile policy. The 504 replaced Mercedes Benz as the official government car. Only the Head of State rode a Mercedes Benz: not bullet proof and not the 600 series type. For the 200 days Murtala was Head of State, he lived in the house he had occupied as Director of Army Signal Corps. He drove to work at the Dodan Barracks every morning from his house accompanied by his driver, his orderly and his ADC. No convoy. No sirens. No outriders. Few days after his assumption of office, Murtala shunned the sirens and convoy and rode alone with his driver from Lagos to Kano, a journey of more than 1000 kilometres in his personal car.” These were the words of former Nigeria’s High Commissioner in Namibia Ambassador Adegboyega Christopher Ariyo, guest speaker at an event organised by the National Commission of Museums and Monuments (NCMM), in collaboration with Murtala Muhammed Foundation and Ikoyi-Obalende Local Council Development Area (LCDA) to mark the fortieth anniversary of the death of former Head of State Gen Murtala Ramat Muhammed.

    He said the late general had only N70.20 in his account when he died on February 13, 1976.

    According to him, Muhammed brought activism and forthrightness into the Nigeria diplomatic enterprise in the actualsiation of the national interests of Nigeria. “Nigeria justified by the moral authority of his campaign for the total eradication of colonialism and obnoxious, dehumanising apartheid white racist regimes in South Africa and backed with strong economy and committed diplomatic and military machines, was able to influence decisively programmes, tasks and strategies that contributed significantly to the liberation of the Southern African states and restored the dignity of Africans.

    “Indeed, the activities that led to the golden era of Nigeria foreign policy were hatched under General Muhammed and his colleagues. Though geographically in West Africa, Nigeria became a member of the Frontline States of Southern Africa,” he recalled, adding that his ‘Africa has come of age’ speech at Addis Ababa,  Ethiopia was a clear signal that Nigeria had the resources to tend her future in dignity and would not take any nonsense. But, unfortunately, Nigeria lost focus as money became the god of our leaders.

    Ambassador Ariyo said competition and self-centredness took control of our living as a people while destroying our culture and values. He noted that we adopted foreign culture, uncaring and undisciplined system of governance, destroyed systems, institutions and processes for national stability and prosperity through strange political acrobatics unknown to real ideas-based democratic practices.

    Continuing, he said: “Our people lost hope and human life became worthless. Insecurity, corruption, disunity, lack of focus, joblessness, excruciating internal and foreign debts rendered us voiceless where it matters. Our military lost the steel to protect us and be relevant in power equation in Africa and the world to allegedly inept and corrupt leaderships.” The former Nigeria’s High Commissioner to Namibia asked what lessons can Nigeria learn from the life of the great legend?

    Information and Culture Minister Alhaji Lai Mohammed said the late general left an indelible mark and record that were difficult to surpass, noting that his patriotism and love for the nation and her people is certainly unquestionable.

    “As a military officer, he was a gallant, brave andpatriotic soldier. He served the nation in variuous capacoities during his military career. He was among the crop of young military officewrs that represented Nigeria as part of a Uniteed Nation’s peace keeping mission tot he then Congo (Zaire) now Congo DR in 1962. During the 30 month Nigerian civil war between 1976 and 1970, he fought gallantly to keep the unity of the nation. He was one of the heroes of the war.

    “His brief reign as head of military government witnessed several landmark achievement , the legacy of which we still have with us today.  One of these was the creation of seven additional states on February 3, 1976 among others.

    The minister who was represented by the Director-General of Centre for Black African Arts and Civilisation (CBAAC) Mr Ferdinand Anikwe said there is nothing that is done to remember the late Muhammed that is too much but rahter it is in appreciation of his great contributions to the socio-economic and political development of the nation. he described the photography exhibition as a challenge to the wide spectrum of today’s leaders to serve the nation with patriotic zeal, eschew corruption, nepotism, political thuggery and rigging, tribalism and personal aggrandisement. According to the minister, the event is a clarion call to the youths to see themselves as key players in the nation’s socio-economic and political development.

    “It is a call to the military to serve the nation with patriotism and help safeguard the unity of the country and protect our young fledging democratic process. It is a call to all Nigerians in all facets of life to love this country that we call our own so that we can individually make very meaningful patriotic contributions towards national development in tandem with the change agenda of this present democratic administration. I implore us to see ourselves as veritable tools in the change agenda and vision of the present administration and endeavour to make meaningful contributions to the socio-economic and political development,” he added.

    First daughter of the late general, Aisha Muhammed Oyebode, who is Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of Murtala Muhammed Foundation, said she was humbled by the legacy of his late father. “I am always humbled by his legacy. I also feel humbled when I see the kind of response that people have towards him 40 years after. So, I really feel it is something that makes me very proud. At times I realise that he really was a visionary because so many things that he talked about 40 years ago are the ones affecting us today,” she said.

    Aisha, who was 12 and a Form 2 pupil at Queens College, Lagos, when her father was killed in a coup spearheaded by Lt. Colonel Buka Sukar Dimka, recalled that for quite a while she did not know her father was killed. “As soon as it happened, the Head Mistress called me into her office and said  I needed to go home. The lady that came to pick me was the Principal of my former school. “It was when we got to Kano the following day which was on Sunday morning that my father’s mother told us that my father had been killed. That was after he had been buried. All this while my mother was away, maybe if she was around we would have known earlier,” Aisha recalled.

    Earlier in a message, Aisha said the event provided the foundation the platform to celebrate the contributions of her late father to the project of nation building for which he was very passionate. She added that it also allowed the foundation to highlight the very ideals eschewed by the late Muhammed on which the foundation is founded.

    “It also allows us an opportunity to remind the younger generation of the rich heritage already laid down by Hero’s Past, which ultimately will enable us all to attain the full development and scope of the potential that this country is capable of attaining. Such an endeavour will surely be the greatest tribute we could pay to the memory of our Hero Past, General Murtala Muhammed,” she said.

    Director-General NCMM, Yusuf Abdallah Usman, said despite the short rule of the late Muhamamed, he made quite some long-term contributions to the nation’s development.

    “General Muhammed ruled Nigeria for only 200 days but they were the most action filled, most dynamic and probably the most impactful 200 days on the contemporary political and social history of our nation. Three things remain indelible: His commitment to good governance, robust attempt to root out corruption and fierce battle against indiscipline,” Usman said.

    He disclosed that the late General’s tomb has been proposed as a national monument as a  reminder of the great contributions of the great man.

    Our Hero Past showcases some of the vantage photographs of the late general at different locations and events during his service in the military. It also shows some of his public pronouncements especially after the civil war. Such pronouncements are: “In the endeavour to build a strong, united and virile nation, Nigerians have shed much blood, the thought of further bloodshed, for whatever reasons, must, I am sure, be revolting to our people…”

    “It is incumbent on us not to misuse our public offices and to hold sacred and utilise in the most efficient manner, the public funds entrusted to the care of the Federal Military government,” this was made during the swearing in ceremony of 10 of the new governors on July 31, 1975.

    The exhibition is to honour a national hero whose numerous attributes are worthy of emulation by the present greneration. The show is also to encourgae young Nigerians to be deligent in service, truthful and courageous. According to the late SG Ikoku, Muhammed ‘is a martyr of the new Nigeria. What we owe General Muhammed is to work even more painstakingly for the realisation of the dynamic disciplined and self-directed nation he toiled so hard to build.’

    The event also witnessed the presentation of a collection of postage stamps by representatives of Nigerian Postal Services as memorabila in commemoration of Muhammed ‘s 40 years anniversary.

     

  • Between Olumo and Aso  (II)

    Between Olumo and Aso (II)

    •Reminiscences from Ogun at 40

    It proved a sham. The newly discovered fissure in the sides of Zuma Rock in Abuja was from the peripatetic Aso incumbent splitting his sides with laughter – ke, ke,ke!

    That Olumo/Aso combine attempted a similar crushing strategy in Lagos, but failed to roll over that city. First was the ominous withdrawal of security detail of the sitting governor – on “orders from above” of course. By the time Aso’s goons went for him however, he had disappeared. Even his own supporters, rushing to secure his safety, could not find the highly prized but elusive bird.  He had shifted his operations deep underground among one’s ultimate security – own people!  Aso Rock, in desperation, decided to ‘go for broke’. It ordered the posting of false, victory results, confident that the public would swallow them supinely – ‘for the sake of peace’. I know for a fact that the generalissimo was quietly warned that Lagos would terminally explode if he persisted. He quietly beat a tactical retreat, transferred his supervisory energy to other designated “must-wins”, Edo at the forefront.

    In Edo, it was indeed a case of Aso/Olumo Strikes Again! The mastermind took over the functions of a supposedly neutral Electoral body and raised “Federal might” to its personalised apogee, dictating orders to the Edo State Electoral officer. Edo was one of our ‘special interest’ states and we followed that contest in real live time.

    “I said, declare those results.” Aso Rock bellowed down the line “Announce   them!”

    That officer fled to Abuja rather than announce falsehood. Distraught that they had been unable to capture the main prize – Lagos – Edo at least would not elude them.  But the opposition already had the authentic results.  The folder was rushed to me by Oshiomole’s aides as I was seated in a plane, virtually as the gates were about to close. I was able to present the truthful picture at the Congressional Hearing in Washington D.C. where a position that endorsed a fictitious election was already holding sway. There I met Kenneth Nnamani, former Senate president, seemingly in an unvoiced, genteel quandary, I felt. No matter, I fulfilled my mission,  silenced the misled lobbyists for democratic injustice with authentic facts – and figures! It was a totally unexpected intervention.

    And so, today?  The toes of the corpse that had been confidently buried have kept pushing up – a recording here, a confession there, threatened arrests, plots to silence witnesses and whistle-blowers. Where it will all end? Perhaps in nothing. But then, it only means that the corpses will remain restless. The undertakers of democracy – as they proudly, indeed contemptuously deemed themselves – are scampering for cover, but not without releasing toxic jets of distraction. But these protruding toes are only forerunners of more skeletons to be unearthed – or more accurately – tens of thousands of corpses – and millions of the displaced and traumatized, on account of those misapplied funds that were meant to keep society secure. For now, we shall spare the festivities stressful thoughts of abducted school pupils, trapped in an eternal nightmare.

    Yes, the disciples are exposed. They are being arraigned before both public and formal tribunals. But their mentors? The originators? Those who facilitated their emergence in the first place, by the same dastardly, egotistically unprincipled means. The real concrete mixers for the foundation of the home of electoral fakery?  Basking in the glow of impunity.‘Gracing’ commemorations. Milking gerontocratic toleration at milikis. The grimace that contorts our faces when we watch the architects of a nation’s democratic retrogression gleefully cavorting under the generosity of amnesia or forgiveness from an abused people, is neither wished for nor enjoyed. Few of us are willing masochists. It is simply the intrusiveness of that hard taskmaster – memory – essential for the protective – and survival armoury,  even of peoples who already boast a historic tradition of resistance – such as Ogun, the people of ise ab’ojumu. Tolerating the intolerable is not tolerated by a culture that was formative of the growth of some of us. Upholding the principles of such formation or accidental acquisition through life experience enables any people to say, with pride – we have never succumbed to tyranny, not even when it wears the diversionary mask of buffoonery.

    So many mixed recollections and emotions as one’s gaze flitted across the faces of converging celebrants – the inspirational, the superfluous, and the best forgotten. Crowned heads and ancient regalia on call, radiating lustre through a white tent marooned atop the new plowed festive grounds whose name, Kobape, (May the crown endure)  suddenly acquired an aura of fulfilled prophesy – yes, the crown has endured. Time has however rendered the fortunes of those monarchs precarious, and the ‘unkindest cut of all” has been inflicted, more often than not, by their scions. Custodians of culture, they are trapped in the power play of their progenies. Yet Culture is never on terminal leave even in the domain of power.  Even some of the greatest culture reprobates and denigrators know it – witness how ostentatiously they have taken to prostrating full length before, and acknowledging “the source of all Yoruba”,  for the testamental delight of media cameras!

    ‘How long ago did the obverse obtain?  Take your minds back to early months of the Sanni Abacha era. You may recall a certain gathering of the Council of Obas who had met to fashion a common ground to answer the truncation of democracy in the nation, and the amoral deprivation of an Ogun state indigene of a hard won victory. Who else but a son of Olumo would break into that meeting of crowned heads of Yoruba land, snatch the microphone from a royal contributor and proceed to deliver an insolent tirade at the assemblage. Not always the fault of Olumo, but that stoic rock sometimes discovers that it is landed with dubious exponents of its values.

    ‘Where we come from’ – to borrow a common preamble – you do not, even in a fit of power possession – intrude on a gathering of a people’s venerated custodians of cultural mores in their search for justice and equity. Such conduct defeats all behavioral norms, but of course it usefully serves to remind us of one of my favourite motor lorry inscriptions – No Condition is Permanent.  An even sterner rebuke would be the Yoruba  ‘ti won ba ran ni’se eru, aa fi t’omo je – if we are sent on a slave’s errand, we perform that errand it in the manner of a free born.  But why marvel at such anomalies! Conducting oneself in this uncultured manner boasts both precedents and emulations galore.  An even more senior member of the fraternity of the “managers of violence”, one who once notoriously mocked the Owelle of Onitsha for supposedly reducing his stature from ‘Zik of Africa’ to the ‘Owelle of Onitsha’, would later seek membership of his own local conclave of traditional rule, same as his earlier target of ridicule.  After which – Aso Strikes Again! – even his middling rank sufficed to enable him to browbeat the entire chieftaincy structure of Olumo by shredding the findings of kingmakers in one Olumo domain, flinging the confetti in their faces, before proceeding to install his own nominee.  He would top this feat also by pulling out a gun in his church – albeit intoning ‘Praise the Lord’ –  to settle a disagreement. The late Chief Simeon Adebo, doyen of the Nigerian civil service, was so distraught by the latter event that he sent for me, simply to discuss it. Somehow, that grand old man felt that, as a writer, I had an explanation for all forms of human aberrations.  I told him quite simply, “You can take Olumo out of Aso, but you cannot take Aso out of Olumo”.

    Should one have expressed astonishment when his civilian protégé in Olumo – before their terminal fallout – commenced proceedings to dethrone one of the revered monarchs of Olumo – and over what? For praying the government not to forget the promised completion of a minor bridge on a rural road in his domain!  That constituted an unpardonable criticism of government, said the Lord! I listened to the tape of that ‘improper interference’ in governance affairs and could only recall the recommendation of the late psychiatrist, another son of Olumo, Professor Thomas Lambo. He it was who once recommended an annual check-up for the mental state of African rulers!

    Each reminiscence triggers off another.  Here is one in an edifying mode, one that enables us – indeed reminds us in timely manner – to abandon the immediate locus of Olumo Rock for its expanse.  Contrast much of the foregoing with an outsider visitation, following the demise of the Olumo national sage, Obafemi Awolowo.  The Grand Impresario of Aso electoral culture, the Iwuruwuru chieftain, paid a condolence visit to the Awo home, which I have described elsewhere as the nation’s Inspirational Shrine of Democratic Culture, located – where else? Ogun State, specifically the town of Ikenne. The august visitor was reported to have declared:

    “My visit to Ikene and the home of Chief Obafemi Awolowo is quite  symbolic, because this is one great leader who had shown how things should be done in this country.”

    Thus spoke Iwuruwuru. He went on to laud Obafemi Awolowo as having laid a sound foundation for the development of Western Nigeria and the whole country by his contribution. Wuru also paid homage at Awolowo’s grave, where he prayed that his  ‘labour for a great Nigeria would not be in vain.’  How Awolowo’s body was responding to this untoward visit by an institutionalized scourge of democracy we can only conjecture, but the mind of the living may be forgiven for fastening onto that image of a body turning in its grave.

    What we do know however, is that his widow, the grand matriarch herself matched Wuruwuru culture for ‘culture’. She received him with characteristic Yoruba courtesies, only permitting herself to remark, and I quote:

    “ I am so happy you are here. I never thought you could visit Ikenne, not to talk of Awolowo’s house,” and she directed that Iwu and his entourage be taken on a tour of the house.”

    You or I would have sent a child to ‘accidentally’ empty a pail of slop on him, but then, when you look for exemplars in the culture of ib’ojumu, there she reposes, unflappable on her marble plinth. Such rarities diffuse a glow of matriarchal magnanimity that rebukes one’s inclination towards ‘just deserving’ as opposed to ‘just conduct’ – ise ab’ojumu  against wuruwuru, jankariwo and janduku etc.  Concerning her late partner, he was, very simply, a lifelong quester for, and expositor of a democratic culture, theory reinforced by praxis, for its unvarnished establishment on earth as an existential imperative.  Awolowo’s home remains, till this day, the acknowledged shrine for true pilgrims committed to that democratic vision, and the finest, unmatched ‘solid mineral’ that this nation can claim to have mined from her unlimited resources. Those who dispute this are urged: simply read his prodigious political treatises, and make informed comparisons. Bring on your ‘solid’ mineral of that generation and let us have an independent assayer.

    Alas for Olumo, her fated, twisted partnership with Aso seems interminable. Here is an excerpt from my 2007 lecture, when Olumo had virtually become an extension of Aso, jettisoned all restraining culture from the former and ‘returned to sender’ – that is, returned to infect Olumo with the – not simply uncultured, but – uncouth face of power. I quote:

    “Aso – let us continue to stress – is not just a static symbol of Power, but embraces both the exercise of, and the manners, and affectations of power even after an individual’s departure from office. It signals an active essence that percolates through to individuals and coteries, affects agencies and satellites of power throughout a nation, including, alas, here in Ogun state.  Traversing Ogun state at this time, a visitor cannot but remark a phenomenon that triggers off memory of that phase of Abacha’s desperation for self-perpetuation, one that resulted in the sprouting of sycophantic excrescences on the landscape and air waves of the most stomach-churning kind, the unbridled praise-singing that seeks to conjure up universal approbation even from trees, rocks, hills and valleys – extending even to infants! At least, Sanni Abacha had a purpose, however sinister and warped. To what end is the present inundation of such fulsome choruses in Ogun State? Is governance no longer supposed to be by performance and example?  Or have we settled for a culture of governance by billboards?” End of Quote

    Today, at the very least, one can claim that the sordid implantations of “governance by billboards”, noisome phrase-mongering for non-existent achievements, have vanished off the Olumo landscape.  For nearly eight years of dubious claims they were once inescapable, sprouting up every few yards along the streets, fouling up urban centres, desecrating villages with the ego-driven advertisements of non-achievement, and the patronizing exhortations to the people to give praise to  “the giver of all good things”.  Even infants were pictured singing praises of the colossus who brought them education! How many thousands of billboards, I would ask myself, would Awolowo have deserved by comparison for his seminal educational policy, and its execution? In my bush forays, I had become accustomed to encountering these displays fighting for survival beside dilapidated buildings that were supposed to be schools, and nondescript shacks that denoted abandoned projects.  Billboards where our biblical eponym fought and vanquished illusory monsters while trapped “in the lion’s den”!

    All vainglories sooner or later pass away, leaving nothing but the transience of power and the corruptibility of birds of passage with human heads.  And, to bring us down to earth, down to objective assessment of how we have augmented  the bequest of sound foundations, what greater mortification could possibly befall the people of Ogun, than to see this pioneer beneficiary of Awolowo’s vision fall to an abysmal low in the annual scholastic contest called WAEC! When and how did the rot commence?  These are hard, soul-searching questions that do not brook evasion.

     

    Enough of reminiscences, sweet and sour. Let us make room for a final narrative of immodesty.  After all, others have not been niggardly of late in praise of their own corners of the nation, even to the extent of dubbing us (among others) envious of their own achievements. I read one lately whose catalogue of Firsts in virtually every human undertaking checked me in stride. True or false, I have not bothered to check, but it all sounded authentic. Fortunately, one remains blissfully self-sufficient and content in the uniqueness of one’s own collective attainments. It goes beyond chauvinism or sentiment therefore that I designate our own historic landmark, Olumo, as the critical touchstone for assessing Ogun’s fidelity to her own history.  Its significations – as instructive contrast to other representative rocks, rivers, waterfalls – indeed any landmarks – may be read, admittedly, more as an act of faith or a case of selective history. My response is simple: let us take it as a provocation to the potentials of a people, an attempt to recall all, to whom Olumo is home, to their finest values, bring them to a recognition of the need to re-configure and re-furbish what is not merely symbol but also history.  Olumo – let us recollect – was a site of resistance, and it was impregnable in its time!

    The culture of ise ab’ojumu – just conduct – leads to Justice, which remains one of the ineradicable intangibles of human heritage. No culture that the world has ever produced can surpass a culture that is founded on justice – and this includes the culture of resistance to injustice, one that may manifest itself through modes of overt activism and militancy to those of passive resistance.  Now, why do I so righteously attribute to Ogun state an exemplary status within that culture of justice and fair play?

    The obvious answer lies in that immediate and vivid history that should be taught all children, right from infancy.   Even more grievous than the act of deprivation of Olumo by Aso Rock of the harvest of a universally acclaimed contest, was the assault on her dignity and entitlement to equity and undiscriminating regard! A disdainful attempt was made to shove down the people’s throats a whimsical substitute for a nationally evolved leader, violating the expressed will of millions. With near total unanimity, this surrogate was rejected. This is not an attempt to open old wounds, but what is history good for, if not to act as our pointer and teacher? Once made, history cannot be effaced.

    Rejection of that proxy was widespread within the nation, among Yoruba and non-Yoruba, but was naturally lodged at its deepest among his own people in Ogun state: they reacted with contempt for that substitute, inducing almost total social ostracism.  All known human communities will always harbour the negative exceptions, the collaborators and time-servers – I believe that Christian history records one among twelve. Well, the proportion was far, far lower among the people of Olumo where, in fact, the spearheads of resistance to that offered insult were most resolutely entrenched. That is the culture to which I refer, the culture that looks Power in the face and rejects its culture of dictation and imposition, guided by the faith of ise or iwa ab’ojumu.  It is also known as the democratic culture. Unabashedly, I hold this history enshrined as the finest hour of the people of Ogun state! If nothing else, this moral triumph remains well worth celebrating.

    But now, is this perhaps a new opportunity to redress that past? Aso Rock came down physically to Olumo this past week, decked in its cultural outfit, adorned by the idiosyncratic ‘steeple’ cap of the host, and decked in national colours. This was the occasion when the wheel seemed to have come full circle, and closure appeared to be within grasp. Here is the explication.

    The historic results of Olumo’s bid for power – as already emphasized – may have been annulled by Aso Rock – they were never discredited, never challenged.  It is the annulment that stands discredited, even treasonable! The 2015 election that brought the present Aso incumbent to power was also not disputed, the votes were overwhelmingly and freely given, defeat conceded by the opponent – the first ever such national unanimity since that watershed election of June 12th 1993.  In that respect, both Visitor and the martyred president are two of a kind – authentic products of the democratic venture, leaving all intervening occupants – that is, for over two decades – mere impostors.  Power holders they were, indisputably, but examined through a truthful democratic prism – a succession of  fidi hee, without exception.

    Viewed from an accommodating mind, the vicious cycle of denial appears to be moving – symbolically – towards terminus. If it is claimed that this visit was a birthday gift from Aso to Olumo however, then it is still a paltry handout, incomplete, since Olumo has stood at the vanguard of democracy and paid a heavy price. She won gold, but was offered pewter.

    Still missing is a final rectification that remains overdue to the festering wound of injustice, scabbed over – yes – but raw and pulsating for all that! The beneficiaries of that dogged pursuit are many, including the current incumbent of Aso Rock, himself an exemplar of the rare breed of persistence in the ambiguous face of justice, one whose name, in gargantuan letters now dominates the final approach to Abeokuta, home to Olumo.  The lettering hits you in the face! I could not help conceding – yes, a tribute so typical of the ise ab’ojumu of his hosts, children of Olumo, to name this ultra-modern housing project after the Aso Rock visitor. Musing across faces of Ogun State worthies at the rites of commemoration, among them those who had the opportunity but failed to overcome guilt, envy, personal inadequacy, and deep character warp to make their peace with history, it struck me as an opportunity for a historic but welcome irony, were Aso Rock itself, the originator of the infamous democratic disjunct, to confront the terms of a moral debt incurred by that Aso promontory, and bring to closure an unruly chapter in a nation’s history.  Now, how may this be effected?

    First – and here we come to my final act of anniversary reminiscences – a wedge of history that is both instructive and – puzzling! After the brutal curtailment of a military occupancy of Aso Rock – ‘Dodan Camp’ more accurately at the time – his successor, our same surviving spawn but suspect growth of Olumo at that first coming – ordered that the portrait of the murdered ruler be hung in all government and public offices for a full calendar year afterwards. It was, in effect, a diarchy of the living and the dead under whose shade he negotiated survival. That macabre display of fearful deference was eased out only when the departed was further immortalized on the nation’s postage stamp. Was it however  Olumo’s  ise ab’ojumu – just conduct – that had yet to thin out in the veins of that incumbent through time and power? Or was it wise inner promptings that his anointment was a mere forerunner of future power contrivances that would be known as  f’idi hee, the appeasement of, indeed pandering to, forces of which he was then mortally in awe?  It should not matter to us. The demands of Olumo today are actually far more modest, less bizarre, eminently doable and of positive augury:

    Honour this democratic flag-bearer and martyr with a postage stamp or currency bill, AND inscribe that name – MOSHOOD ABIOLA – in the scroll of Nigeria’s past presidents, that the restless ghosts of Aso and Olumo may retreat, and settle back, hand in hand, in their primordial caves!

    Abundant Anniversary Returns of this Fortieth to the people of Ogun and other celebrant states across the nation!

    Wole SOYINKA

  • When love sees no blemish

    When love sees no blemish

    It’s the season of love and Gboyega Alaka in this piece,  chronicles the inspiring love stories of three physically challenged persons: Olayinka Ogunke-yede, Obianuju Osajie and Yusuf Sanni;  who found love despite their peculiar situations. 

    It was Saturday February 6 and the gathering was a meeting of the Society for the Welfare of the Blind holding at Isheri-Oshun, off Isolo, a suburb of Lagos. Present at the meeting were president of the society, Mr. Tade Ladipo, vice president of the society, old and new members of the society, most of them students of the University of Lagos and volunteers. Amongst them were Yinka Ogunkeyede a visually-impaired final year Political Science student and Obianuju Osajie, a Year II Guidance and Counselling student also of the University of Lagos. Yinka has been blind since age nine, as a result of a brain tumour surgery, while Uju says she has been blind from birth, but both nevertheless are involved in sizzling love relationships. Their stories alongside Yusuf Sanni’s, who has been crippled from childhood, not only inspire, but underline the age-long adage that love is indeed blind. 

    Olayinka Ogunkeyede and Oyindamola’s story is one for the movie. Deep, emotional and inspiring. Yinka though visually impaired, was discerning enough to recognise what providence had placed at his disposal, and wasted no time in catching in on a lifetime opportunity. That ‘sharpness’ like he described it, has gone a long way in making life more meaningful for the young man, who lost his sight at age nine. In fact, he says life has been ‘perfect’.

    Olayinka’s story

    Really handsome and full of confidence, Yinka is the sort of guy you’d never miss in a crowd, his disability notwithstanding . Except you saw him being led into a place, you really would never know he is blind. Everything about him: his dress sense, ‘swag’, hairstyle and well-maintained beared, sun-shade and earphones smacked class, choice and fun. This surely is a young man who has chosen to live life to the fullest, regardless.

    He’s in a relationship, he declared with a huge smile, as this reporter settled for a brief chat with him. But he’d not like to disclose her identity because he had no permission to do so and would not like to be seen to be taking a loved one for granted.  “Can we leave her name out for now?” He politely requested. “I don’t have her permission. At the moment, our relationship is not yet in the open, although guys on campus know us as a pair.”

    Both Olayinka and his heartthrob, who later gave her name simply as Oyindamola (although she wouldn’t like her photos printed) are final year students of the University of Lagos, Political Science department. He revealed that the relationship started on a platonic friendship note, back in their Year One. Like some God-sent helper, Oyindamola became friendly with him and soon became his regular companion, helping him get around the campus, helping him do several other things his physical disability would not allow him and generally keeping him company.

    “In the end,” Yinka says, “I became emotionally attached to her and I made my feelings known to her.”

    The trepidation

    Naturally, it wasn’t an easy task professing his love to Oyindamola, for several reasons, Yinka confessed. “To tell the truth, it wasn’t an easy task ‘toasting’ her because here was somebody who had become my companion and helper. She helped me get around the campus and was always there for me. So naturally, I was scared and thinking that if I should tell her how I felt, she might leave me and go away forever. So many questions played in my mind: Will she give me a favourable response? Will she shout at me? Or will she just walk away and never come back?”

    But Yinka needed not worry much, as Oyindamola isn’t the haughty type, except that she politely rebuffed his overture.

    “She was like ‘This request you’re making of me is very strong o,’ and that she didn’t know how to respond. But what will be, will be. As a sharp man, I knew I had to be strong, persist and never give up. Finally she gave me a ‘yes’ for an answer. Our relationship proper started during our 200-Level in 2013 and since then, we have been together. As I speak, we have become an inseparable pair on campus.”

    What about the arguments and quarrels? How have they managed?

    Yinka says, “No, we rarely argue or quarrel. We understand each other well enough, so arguments and quarrels hardly come up. One thing I can say about Oyindamola is that she is a girl with a deep fear of God. So she doesn’t even bother about my condition or relate with me based on that. What she would do for a blind person, she would also do for a sighted person.”

    How he lost his sight

    Yinka lost his sight at age nine in 1995, but he said it wasn’t due to any kind of accident or glaucoma.  “It was as a result of a brain tumour which threatened my life. It came up suddenly and was already affecting my sight. The solution, doctors’ said was a surgery. It was after the surgery that I suddenly found that I could not see again.”

    Naturally, he was disillusioned and afraid of the future, he intimated. “I started thinking all over again; how to live my life without an organ as vital as my eyes, how to relate with people, friends, move around, achieve my dreams and manage relationships. But as time went by, God has been there for me and everything has been easy. In fact, let me not use the word easy, everything has been perfect. God has really done it for me.” Petit Yinka rounded off.

    Oyindamola’s story

    The interview with Oyindamola was conducted over the phone, but it nevertheless revealed a lot about the young lady. Although she insisted that her picture could not be used, one could tell from her voice that this is probably because she’s not yet ready for the publicity, and not because she is ashamed of Yinka in anyway.

    She spared no word in describing her love for her ‘Romeo’, saying categorically that “I love Yinka. My love for him is deep, very deep…. Yinka is caring, he is understanding, he is everything a woman would want. In fact, Yinka is 100 percent better than the so-called able guys out there.”

    Corroborating Yinka’s story of how they met, Oyindamola said: “We met in school at the University of Lagos during our first year and then we became friends. I was basically drawn to him because of his situation. I felt he needed someone to be by his side, so I volunteered myself. Soon, we got close and did things together. And then we became friends. And then, one day in 2013 while we were in 200-Level, he ‘toasted’ me.

    “My initial reaction was surprise. I never expected it, so I apologised and declined. But I didn’t desert him. I couldn’t, because we had come to know each other over the years and become used to each other. I guess that gave him the courage and further opportunity to keep pestering me until I accepted.”

    Were there pressures on her not to accept?

    No, not really. Maybe a few people, but their opinion really didn’t matter. My parents live in Ibadan and they already know about our relationship; they also know about the fact that he is visually impaired, although they are yet to meet him. They understand that it is my choice to make. He is however constantly in communication with my siblings on the social media.

    “Interestingly, while some people didn’t seem to like the idea of me dating him, some others encouraged me.” She said.

    On challenges, Oyindmola said, keeping the relationship going is not so challenging, despite overtures from other guys. “I simply tell them that I’m in a relationship.”

    For the first time, she negates Yinka’s statement in the course of this conversation, when she said “Yeah, we have issues and we quarrel; but that’s like every relationship. In every relationship, there are ups and downs.

    “And when we quarrel, it’s never because of his condition or because he is venting any kind of frustration. It’s usually just the normal quarrels.”

    Her advice to people who might be nursing emotions for people in Yinka’s condition, but are not able to give vent to it is: “There is ability in disability. People should not look down on other people, whatever their circumstances, because we’re all human beings, created by God and born of parents, and there isn’t any difference between people like him and the so-called able-bodied people.

    As if to add a dose of convenience to their relationship, Oyindamola said they both live in Ibadan, hence the two lovebirds are able to continue seeing each other and fostering their love even while on holidays.

    Obianuju Osajie and

    Kelechi Nwagugu

    Uju’s story

    Obianuju Osajie has been blind since birth, but her chirpy and playful nature gives you an impression she has no worry whatsoever in life. Maybe not exactly, but a few minutes with Uju definitely endears her to you, what with her sharp voice and tendency to swing one prank or the other at her friends. At intervals, she is the one tapping her visually-impaired colleagues playfully, screaming or laughing out loudest. As this reporter watched the light-skinned Guidance and Counseling student of the University of Lagos, both from afar and at a close range, one thing became clear – she has risen above her disability.

    She puts it succinctly when she said: “It’s not that I’m happy about my situation, but life goes on.”

    However, Uju has one more reason to be happy. She’s in love. She is in love with Kelechi Nwagugu, a Mass Communication student of Enugu State Polytechnic, whom she says is also deeply in love with her.

    “I met him through a friend. No, we didn’t even meet. We actually spoke through a friend’s phone. Then he said he had a crush on me, came to our house in Aguda, Lagos, and we started dating. In 2012, we had a rift and both parted ways. But we came together again last year. If you ask me, I’d say last year marked the beginning of our love relationship proper.”

    Is she happy in love?

    “Very happy” she replied. “Kelechi is somebody I am able to open my heart to. With him, my life is an open book and I hardly keep any secrets from him. Even when another guy asks me out, he is the first to know about it. He also advises me and we’re each other’s best friend.

    Is she afraid she could be dumped someday?

    “No. I don’t have any such fear. He is not that kind of person. Besides, he has proven that several times. I’m confident our love will go places. As a matter of fact, I feel great being in love with him. It makes me feel loved and wanted and that my disability is not the end of good life for me.”

    Blind from birth

    At this point, Uju revealed that quite unlike her other friends like Kemi, Esther and co, her colleagues in school, who lost their sight at some point in their lives, she has been blind from birth. “Yes, I’ve never experience sight. I don’t know how beautiful the world around me is. Of course, that feels really sad, but life goes on. With time, I started adjusting to the reality of my situation; and here I am.”

    Never a lonely girl

    Even before Kelechi came into her life, Uju revealed that she has never felt lonely, because she’s surrounded by friends and family who keep her company and are eager to be of help. Besides, she said: “I’ve come to understand there’s nothing I can do about it; so feeling lonely or sad is never going to be of any help. In fact, I don’t entertain such feelings.”

    With the help of the loving people around me, I’ve never believed I should give up on life. In fact, during my secondary school days, I developed interest in sports and became a runner. When I got into the university, I wanted to drop it, but a friend of mine, a graduating student of Guidance and Counseling, advised me not to. So right now, I’m still an active runner and I specialise in the sprints, 100metres and 200metres. Who knows? Someday, I could end up in the UNILAG sports team and maybe the National Team and perhaps at the Para-Olympics.”

    She also looks forward to getting married to Kelechi someday, if God wills it. She revealed that Kelechi is partially sighted, but that that does not change anything. He would still have loved her if he were fully sighted. Something about the way they’ve shared and expressed their love to each other tells her that.

    What if someone who is fully sighted comes professing their love to her? “No way!” She said with a note of finality, shaking her head for emphasis. “I’m not likely to even consider.”

    Kelechi’s story

    Kelechi Nwagugu is back in school at the Enugu State Polytechnic and so this interview inevitably had to be on phone. He corroborated virtually everything Uju had said about him and their relationship, except the part where he claimed that Uju is not totally devoid of sight.

    “We met in 2009 while both of us were still in secondary school, although we were not in the same school. I was actually talking to her through a friend’s phone. Then we exchanged numbers and started relating. You may call it love made in heaven, because I never set my eyes on her before falling in love with her. For me, it was more about the spirit leading me rather than her voice being attractive, as many may want to think.

    “What actually endeared her to me was the way she talks. I like people who are articulate, and Uju has that ability to communicate very well and speak good English. More importantly, she does not speak as if she owns the world or talk down at people.”

    Asked what his reaction was when he finally discovered that Uju was visually impaired, Kelechi said, “As for me, I don’t see that as anything. Besides, I’d seen her several times after that first conversation before our relationship took roots, but it does not matter to me.

    Kelechi admitted that he is partially sighted, but said “I see well enough, though not that sharp.”

    When asked if he would still have loved Uju, if he wasn’t partially sighted, Kelechi said “Love goes with everything.”

    On his parent’s reaction to their relationship, he said, “My parents know her and they’re okay with her. They have no complain whatsoever. My mother speaks with her on phone. In fact, she was to come visiting me at home the last time I came home, but she had gone back to school.”

    When reminded that Uju is a pretty and pleasant girl and that she must be receiving overtures from other guys, regardless of her condition, Kelechi said, “Yes she tells me that some guys come after her. I even know some of the boys, because most times, before they go to her, they’d have told me their intentions – probably to taunt me. So whenever she tells me about them, I just tell her, we’re not married yet, so it’s up to you to make your final choice. If you love me, you know what to do; and if you don’t anymore, you know what to do as well.”

    Asked if he isn’t afraid that they could have children with sight issues, since both of them have sight problems, Kelechi said, “I’m not afraid of that because I’ve seen totally blind people getting married, yet having healthy children. Besides, she’s not totally blind. She can see a little.

    27 year-old Kelechi is a Manchester United fan, and he says he hopes to become a sports analyst when he leaves school.

    Yusuf Sanni and Rukayat

    Yusuf’s story

    Yusuf Sanni, 35 wasn’t born cripple, but today, he literally crawls on all-four, when he’s not on his wheelchair. He told this reporter, how he was hit with a mysterious affliction that left him crippled ever since. “Mum told me it all began one night after I screamed back to life from my sleep. Thereafter, all efforts by my parents to make me walk again failed and as I grew up, I came to realise this is my cross that I have to carry.

    Yusuf has indeed carried his ‘cross’ well and with dignity. He has not been disillusioned and has remained very active, engaging in several sporting activities. He declared with pride, “I’m a cobbler, and I’m also into disable sports. I play basketball, do wheelchair race and also play table tennis. As we speak, he is a member of the Lagos State Sports Council team and has participated in a number of National Sports Festivals, including the Kaduna Games, Rivers Games and Ogun Games. He also has two bronze medals in table tennis to his credit, one an individual medal won at the Ogun Games, and another, a team medal, won at the Rivers Games.

    Most importantly, Yusuf has a life partner, with whom he is living life to the fullest. He is married to pretty and able-bodied Rukayat and it goes without saying that that is probably his greatest achievement so far. Together, they also have a three-year old girl, Nafisah, whom he says runs around with vigour and excitement. Yusuf got married to Rukayat at a colourful Nikkai (Muslim wedding) ceremony attended by friends and family in Ijedodo, a suburb of Lagos in April, 2012. That was barely a year after they met, Rukayyat, who was present at this interview, volunteered.

    Their meeting

    We met normally. She was working as a domestic staff in Dolphin Estate, Lagos, in the neighbourhood, where I also lived. The first thing that struck me about her was her humility and her dedication to work. I also noticed that she was always at home, which to me meant she was someone to be trusted. This attracted me to her and made me summon the courage to approach her.

    The hard task

    To tell the truth, I was scared she would snub me and put me down because of my condition. But as God would have it, I was able to gather courage and tell her my mind.

    To confirm my fears, she first turned me down. She was like ‘What do you mean?’ But I had come to realise that that’s the way women behave. So I persisted, and one day, two weeks after, she called me back and said she had accepted.

    “Next our big challenge was warding off friends who thought she shouldn’t have accepted to go out with me. Even her mother tried to stop her and battled her over it, but she stood her ground. Let me say here that I didn’t do much in that regard. She it was who fought off all the oppositions. I must however say here that even her mother has now accepted out relationship and we’re now one big family.”

    Three years plus after, Yusuf says marriage has been an up and down journey. Sometimes they have disagreements and even quarrel, but they have always found ways of settling it.

    Yusuf holds an Ordinary National Diploma (OND) from friends of the Disabled School, Isale-Eko, Lagos, a special school for the disabled. He says the school trains disabled children right from primary school through to polytechnic level. It was at Friends of the Disabled School that he learnt to be a shoe cobbler, which now serves as his vocation and which helps him put food on the table, whenever he is not doing sports.

    Rukayat’s story

    Rukayat confesses that even she cannot tell what attracted her to Yusuf in those courtship days. “Let me just say it was God’s doing. Of course, I was surprised when he first approached me, but after sometime, I considered his proposal and accepted.

    “To tell the truth, I had already liked him as a human being even before he approached me. That’s why it didn’t take long before I accepted. It was more like love at first sight, because we hadn’t seen each other more than twice before he professed his love. But of course I waited for him  to make the first move.”

    Fighting the oppositions

    Frankly, I never thought about what anybody would say because this was my life. And since I was not bothered about his condition, I couldn’t see why any other person should. Amongst my family, it was just my mum that objected initially, but later she understood that it’s my choice to make and she gave her blessing. In fact, she played a big part during our Nikkai  Ceremony. As for friends, I really didn’t give a damn about what they thought or still think.”

    Rukayat who says she assists her husband in maintaining the home with her hairdresser business, confessed that marriage has not been a bed of roses, but she is happy nevertheless. “Like every other couple, we quarrel and then we settle.”

    Her advice to anybody who finds him/herself in her situation is to be “courageous and take a decision on their own, so long as they are sure of their feeling. At the end of the day, it’s about you and nobody else.”

  • ‘You must marry your wife’s corpse’

    ‘You must marry your wife’s corpse’

    Hours after the birth of her twin girls, Margaret Emmanuel gave up the ghost, leaving her husband with the twins and their three grown-up siblings. To make matters worse, Margaret’s family in Ebonyin are demanding that Emmanuel fulfils a vital aspect of their culture before the burial ceremonies even commence. Taiwo Abiodun reports.

    At first it was congratulations and celebration galore as Madam Margaret Emmanuel was delivered of a set of beautiful twin girls.  But few hours after, the joyful mood turned sour and mourning took over, as news filtered in that mother of the twins had passed on. She gave up the ghost on her way to the hospital, living the twins behind without the very vital motherly care. It also marked the beginning of the trauma of her husband and father of the twins, Mr. Adejo Emmanuel. Aside being shattered by the news, he was suddenly faced with a somewhat insurmountable challenge of weaning two infants alone. But the trauma did not end there, only Emmanuel didn’t know at this point in time.

    While lamenting his predicament, Emmanuel said, “My life is like a balloon that was punctured with a pin, which immediately deflated it of all the joy. When a woman is pregnant the prayer is to hear the babies’ cries and that of the mother’s joy; but now the mother is gone, leaving the babies,” Emmanuel said, sobbing.

    That was the story of the Emmanuel family last December 21. As if the agony was not enough, the deceased’s family members sent a message to the husband that he has to obey their custom and tradition by performing certain rituals and rites. Chief amongst these rights includes performing the mandatory marriage ceremonies with the deceased wife, an activity the couple had failed to perform while the late Margaret was alive. Without that, they told him that he is barred from coming to his wife’s village in Akenze, Ebonyin State, let alone, burying the corpse.

    Emmanuel, a peasant farmer in his mid-50s is thus being called upon to go through wedding ceremonies with his late wife’s corpse. Coming from Emmanuel’s Igala ethnic background, this is rather bizarre and unimaginable. He lamented, “I don’t know what went wrong and I don’t know my sin. Like any other fellow Christian, when everybody was preparing for Christmas, I was preparing as well, both for a merry Christmas, safe delivery for my wife and a successful naming ceremony for the babies; not knowing that I had another thing coming.”

    Late Margaret’s last moment

    Narrating his wife’s last moment, Emmanuel said he suddenly saw his wife at Ugbagbo farm in Owo, where he was working unannounced. “When I saw her, I scolded her and asked why she came all the way to the farm, because she was already heavy and ready to deliver. I also asked why she did not go to the hospital instead of coming to the farm to meet me. Of course, this was not her first pregnancy, as she had previously had four children before this pregnancy. To compound matters, there was no vehicle to take her back to town that evening. We therefore waited till the second day. However she went into labour in between and was delivered of the twin girls. She was attended to by Traditional Birth Attendants, but the placenta did not come out. We quickly got her into a vehicle and headed for the General Hospital at Oke-Ogun in Owo. Unfortunately she did not make it, as she gave up the ghost at the entrance of the hospital. I noticed that her condition had worsened and she was getting dizzy. She thus got to the hospital, dead. To say the least, I was devastated. I became confused and almost ran mad. The nurses, who knew her, were surprised that she went to the farm instead of the hospital. She was well known at the hospital, because that was where she had all her children. She had also attended antenatal there.”

    Twins under custody

    Honourable Segun Obasekola, a Councillorship aspirant in Igboroko Nla Street, Owo and landlord of No 44, Igboroko Nla Street, where the family resides, said he pitied the man, Emmanuel for losing his wife at childbirth: “When they approached me for a room and I discovered they had no money, I have no choice but to allow them use the room free-of-charge. I did not know anyone of them, but as a community leader and a man with milk of kindness, I think this is one way I can render help. Here a Good Samaritan, Mrs. Femisola Akilamilo is taking care of the twins. Mrs. Akinlamilo, a prophetess who is also called Mother of Children (Iya Ewe) in her Cherubim and Seraphim Church.”

    When The Nation got to 44, Igboroko Nla Street, the woman and the babies were found in a room, where she takes care of them.

    Speaking, the twins’ guardian Madam Akinlamilo said she was called by a church member to come and assist the motherless children who had just been delivered. She said: “My cell phone just rang last December 23 (2015), and a friend broke the news that a mother of twins had just died and there was nobody to take care of them. She added that since I am a mother of kids in the church, I should try and assist in taking care of the babies. He also said I would be given stipends. So I obliged. I am a widow, I have four children and my last child is 11 years old. Since I am not under any man’s roof, I gladly accepted the role of a guardian, as God sent me.”

    Asked if she breast-feeds the babies, the woman declared in a touching voice, “There is no milk in my breasts anymore, but the nurses and doctors have recommended their food (SMA). They consume a tin of the baby food within three days, but their father is a poor farmer; so when I ran out of their food, I went to Alhaji Jamiu Ekungba, a gubernatorial aspirant in Ondo State and narrated the story to him in order to solicit his to assistance. I also met one Mr. Jide Tububo, who advised me to go to the press and do the necessary legal papers, for I was ignorant of all such stuff. As I speak, we have no food to give them today, because they have exhausted what we had in stock.”

    Asked whether she had intimated the welfare office or the police that she is in custody of the babies, Mrs. Akinlamilo became a bit jittery and said, “I am ignorant of that. I am just acting as a Good Samaritan; I don’t know that I should report to the Welfare Office or the police. Please can you enlighten me more to avoid any problems,” she pleaded with this reporter.  Mrs. Akinlamilo said she is appealing to the state government and NGOs to come to the twins’ aide.”

    In the course of this discussion, Emmanuel, father of the twins came in with a tin of SMA baby food. He announced with relish that he just bought one tin from the money given to him.

    Many rivers to cross

    Now the corpse of the late Margaret has been deposited at the mortuary while preparation is on the way to go to Akenze in Ebonyi State to officially announce the news of his wife’s demise and also perform the necessary rituals and rites. But there still is a snag. Emmanuel has no money.

    He said: “The family of my late wife have asked me to come and do marriage ceremonies h my wife and come up with the sum of 350,000 naira before anything could even take off. Where would I get the money from? I am confused. They should pity my condition and understand that I’m still taking care of her four children. Three of them are in secondary school, not to talk of the twins,” he said.

    So while Margaret’s corpse lies in the mortuary, Emmanuel is confused and disturbed, as he is facing three hurdles: “I have no money to pay for the mortuary; I also have no money to feed the children; and my in-laws are demanding for the death certificate of their daughter, which they say I must bring along whenever I am coming. They also say it is compulsory for me to come over and do a compulsory marriage with her before she could be buried. They say some rituals must be performed and 350,000 naira must be paid to her family as part of her bride-price, before talking about the burial at all. Where do I get the money from? Am I not in trouble now?”

    According to Emmanuel, his in-laws don’t even want to entertain or listen to any excuse or explanation; all they care about is for him to fulfil all the necessary requirements.

    Asked how he met his wife, Emmanuel replied that, “You can meet your wife anywhere, so far there is love and the woman agrees to marry you. I am from Idah in Igala, Kogi State, and we met here in Owo, Ondo State. I never knew this is what I would face.”