How much good cooking can Chioma do? For me, it is not enough that a woman can cook. Thanks to my mother, I cook better than many women. By the way, Chioma is the confirmed wife of Mr. David Adeleke, a popular Nigerian pop singer whose most popular song, arguabl, is Chioma my Love. Mr. David Adeleke’s fans and friends who number more than 56.1 million on social media, according to google, is known more by his stage name, Davido. He said at their wedding reception in Lagos on June 25, 2024 that “she sabi cook, she sabi do” – the “do” meaning that she is a fantastic Juliet. Time will tell if Chioma’s “sabi cook” was merely puffed up to make other mothers of his children green with envy. Chioma has found herself in a marriage some women may call a harem. She is the fifth woman to have any baby for Davido who has had six, one of them the over-celebrated first child, a toddler, with Chioma who has passed.
I do not trust the cooking of young wives, especially those in Chioma’s generation. For not only do they not have “the hand of the spoon” as the Yorubas say of a woman when they enjoy her cooking, these women are too artificial with and about cooking. The Yorubas call the woman with the magical hand of the spoon Olowo sibi. By this appellation, they mean that this woman can work her way into any man’s heart with her cooking even if she has no money for state-of-the-art food ingredients.
How many of them will believe that since I married in 1983, I have eaten no food at home cooked with monosodium glutamate (MSG) seasoning? How many of them will mineralise my rice with amala, Wheatgrass, or Spirulina, especially to provide essential carbohydrate meal with balancing proteins, beta-carotene, chlorophyll, and all the other accompaniments?
I do not imagine Davido at the table with a bowl of raw, edible main course and helping himself with a chunk of these leaves for every morsel he took into his mouth. Or Davido eating orange peel, banana peel, Pawpaw leaves or Chanka Piedra (ehinbisowo) with his meal? If I am wrong, I wonder about which leaves are in his salad bowl: Chanka Piedra, Dead Nettle, Bitter leaf, Basil, Papaya, Oregano, and Lettuce? These are the regulars in my salad bowl.
In the KUSA family, we are blessed with wives who understand good cooking from the raw diet perspective. I may always sound naturalist, but can I be more naturalist than my wife, Dayo? My younger brother, Tunji, an architect, is married to a State Registered Nurse (SRN) from LUTH who owns the HEALING HERBS CLINIC in Ilorin. Her husband is in tow. Another brother, Yinka, is blessed with Shade, a wildlife graduate from Lagos State University. From this background, she easily fell in line with the training Mrs. Sola Sowemimo gives upcoming women professionals in Lagos about how to manage not only their professional lives but their kitchens and the health of their families as well.
Mrs. Sowemimo is a lawyer who spent her corporate work life with the Nigeria Liquefied Natural Gas (NLNG) company and, upon her retirement, veered into herbal medicines and organic farming. She is a founding member of the KUSA GREEN PASTURES natural health forum.
Through her, Mrs. Shade Kusa planted an Oregano plant in my house, which has now become something like a mini forest. Is Chioma listening? As Davido’s wife, with certification by him that she is a good cook, a super cook, there should be something about it she ought to impact on wives of her generation and girls popping up behind them.
My sister, Mrs. Yemisi Amaku, is not left out of the family train. She has gone through the proper handling by Mrs. Sowemimo. Shade Kusa has also done well in Mrs. Amaku’s garden . In response, Mrs. Amaku has hired a chef to make for her family all sorts of healthy drinks from roots, barks, leaves, flowers, nuts, and whatever else you can imagine, which is most suitable for particular meals.
Mrs. Amaku being a school owner, I look forward to the day the children under her care will start to reject carbonated drinks and biscuits and inform their mothers about Mrs. Sowemimo. There is a lot more to say here about good cooking and good meals than I have time for. Davido may be right about Chioma’s cooking. I wonder if she can do something nutritionally for his voice outside the microphone. On the microphone, his voice is good and tempts me to believe that the microphone can upscale my rough voice as his.
Davido says Chioma “Sabi do”. I am only wondering, as a man of 74 who has hung his boots, that a wife who “Sabi do” should know she can be exhausting, and that, in line with the necessity for healthy balance between taking and giving, she should be putting something back into an account she is heavily drawing from in the prostate gland. Many men who have prostrate gland challenges today are “Sabi do” or have women who “sabi do”. Sabi do is about ejaculation all the time. Every ejaculation takes away a lot of Zinc which protects this gland, and it would take about three months to replace the energy and the seeds lost in an ejaculation.
MSG, milk, sugar, bread, margarine, butter, corn beef, and fries are not the right replenishments. The right ones are raw, edible leaves. We are not animals when we relish them. Nevertheless, our bodies are descended from the animal kingdom. We, who dwell in these animal bodies, are human spirits or human beings, if you prefer, while our bodies are animal beings. Watch what animals eat – largely raw vegetation. Hasn’t the World Health Organisation (WHO) study recognised this and advised that our meals should be about 70 percent raw food and 30 per cent cooked?
Davido is an intensely busy musician. His brain and nerves are ever busy. His mind must be uncluttered, clear, and his instincts sharp or acute. More profiting to his music and to his followers should be his work if it stems from intuition. However, much of what I have encountered about them stems largely not from the spirit or the Being that is the man but from the fresh, essentially from the First Chakra and Second Chakra at best, of the seven chakras. Let’s seek an expert opinion on what nutrients should suffice the diet of musicians such as Davido and wonder if Chioma is meeting the bill.
“As a creative and busy international musician, it’s essential to fuel your body with the right nutrients to maintain energy, focus, and overall well-being. Here are some nutritional supplements that may benefit you:
• Omega-3 fatty acids: Supports brain function, heart health, and reduces inflammation.
•Vitamin D: Boosts mood, energy, and immune system.
•Magnesium: Enhances energy production, nerve function, and relaxation.
• Coenzyme Q10 (CoQ10): Supports energy production, heart health, and antioxidant functions.
• Iron: Essential for healthy red blood cells, energy, and cognitive function.
• Adaptogenic herbs (Ashwagandha, Rhodiola, kyolic stress and fatigue, Ginseng): Helps manage stress, anxiety, and fatigue.
• Probiotics: Supports gut health, immune system, and digestion.
• Vitamin B complex: Essential for energy production, nerve function, and heart health.
• Antioxidants (Vitamin C, E, beta-carotene): Protects against oxidative stress, inflammation, and cell damage.
• Branched-Chain Amino Acids (BCAAs): Supports muscle health, recovery, and energy production.
Remember to consult a healthcare professional before adding any supplements to your diet. A balanced diet, regular exercise, and sufficient sleep are also crucial for maintaining your overall health and well-being.
In addition to these supplements, consider incorporating foods rich in these nutrients into your diet, such as:
– Fatty fish (salmon, sardines) for omega-3s
– Leafy greens (spinach, kale) for magnesium and iron
– Nuts and seeds (almonds, sunflower seeds) for vitamin E and magnesium
– Whole grains (brown rice, quinoa) for vitamin B complex and fiber
– Fermented foods (kimchi, sauerkraut) for probiotics”…
In my days as a 27 years old Youth Corps member in Calabar, I suggested Pasuma Strong for Sabi do men which they obtained down town in Watt Market. In the 1990s in Lagos, the reigning stars were Libido Max, Libido Tonight, Steel Libido and Iron and Steel. I understand they are difficult to find now and that incoming brands like Long Jack, Robust Root, African Blsck Ant, and Re-fire and D-man. I often suggests to aging widowed or divorced men who are in the secondary marriage industry with booting girls or women to combine D-Man which is far cheaper, with Robust Root with Regenerating Drinks which bring back what goes out.
People like me will consider as unfortunate the certification in public and on a wedding day of a wife’s sexual performance. The young ones who cheaply follow and ape so-called celebrities will see nothing wrong in it. I adopt the words “so-called celebrities”advisedly. Davido and Chioma are celebrities in their own right. Millions of people adore, if not worship them. That’s because they are in the same world, that is, a homogeneous folks. Persons who have risen beyond this world look up to different values and different persons as celebrities to inspire them. We evolve, so do not blame me if I believe and say certain things are better said and done in the bedroom and not outdoor.
At the Ikoyi Marriage Registry in 1983, I declined three times to say the words… ”With my body I thee worship”. Weren’t we told that the human body is the housing for the Temple of worship? So, what other word should take place therein when there ought to be no other god after him? In those days, my spirit was flaming. Back at the wedding reception in the YWCA Hall in Ikoyi, Lagos, the reception chairman, Chief Omolade Okoya-Thomas, and the Master of Ceremony, Olu Falomo, both iconic members of the Island Club, could not get me to kiss my bride on the lips right before an eagerly watchful audience. What was their business with that? Each time the chairman called for a kiss, he saw only a light peck on the cheek. In the end, he gave up. So, you should understand my problem with “She sabi do” and Chioma excitingly flaunting her buttocks for Davido to touch and to pat.
Some people say celebrities need to do such things to keep themselves in the public mind, to get people talking about them. At what cost? Do we ask? Society is literally sexually upside down today because the so-called celebrities have stripped morality naked. I say “so-called celebrities” because, in my own world, not every person passed off as a celebrity is one.
In my twenties, I followed footballers Pele and boxer Mohammed Ali. Later, I grew up to discover what they were hoisting on humanity was not the reasons humanity was on earth. Are we are here, for example, to damage through wrestling or boxing the human physical body given to each one of us as a most precious gift by the Almighty Creator for our experiencing on earth. Meticulous work was done by elemental beings in the Will of the Creator to design and create this earth body. Till today, all the professors of medicine and physiologists among earth men, wise as they believe they have come, always stand in awe before every new revelation about how the human body works.
In this connection, the man or woman who passes as a celebrity before me is that one who stands in the weaving of this wonderful universe, receiving ideas from higher spheres of existence and turning them into actions which make existence on Earth more sublime for earth dwellers so they can find it more comfortably fulfilling the purpose of their earthly existence. Michael Faraday, one of the founders of electricity, is one of them. Among them also are the Wright brothers who signaled to man that he could make an airplane. What about those ones who converted canoes to sea-faring ocean liners or the men who brought about the motor car? I remember these ones in particular whenever, in those days, my grandmother told me stories of how she and her colleagues spent three days and three nights, palm oil or garri loads on their heads and shoulders, some pregnant and others with babies on their backs, travelling from our village in Ijebuland to Lagos just to earn a living! What about the transformation from firewood cooking to gas cooking or from mud huts to concrete houses? Who, today, would not prefer mechanised farming to hoe and cutlass farming? The men and women who change our lives are, for me, the real celebrities, not the ones who are dragging us down into the abyss, exposing three quarters of their bodies in public in the guise of fashion and celebrating aping. Do not forget the internet and Onpassive which is coming to turn the internet aright in our generation, and bring real celebrities on board.
Mistakes
Again, the following are merely my views, which may be wrong or correct. Davido showed he was well brought up by Yoruba parents when, in Igbo land, he prostrated as a Yoruba boy before his father-in-law, which is no less than simply because he is your father-in-law, and his culture does not demand prostration from you.
We may not blame Davido and Chioma for the rain of U.S. Dollars. It was well beyond their control. However, they should have bottled the extravagance of a very expensive motor car for Chioma as a wedding gift.
Davido and Chioma learned a lesson from the departure of their first son. They over-flaunted him, ignoring the spiritual admonition to ‘Let children be children’. By this, children are to be kept away from the world of adults. But what did we observe? The poor boy, 24/7, was flaunted to the world. Chioma probably thought this was telling other women who had children for Davido before or after her that she had him in her grips. She probably did not realise the enormity of pain each such flaunt may cause Davido’s children who had no easy access to their father, or their mothers who had no access to the father of their children.
The lessons of their experience with the first child should inform the way their twins children are to be brought up. But it would appear that caution was again thrown to the wind in the matter of “She sabi cook, she sabi do.” Even if a woman would like to fight the star wars of the women in the life of her husband, shouldn’t the man be a man and disable certain “war” plans?
Davido’s life with women and children is a complex one, young as he is. When a man knows a woman, or rather when a man and a woman know each other in the procreative act, all they have done is say a prayer to the Almighty Creator to send to them a human soul He has created for them to nurture him or her on earth in ways most pleasing to Him. In His Goodness, He sends to them one or more souls as their situation permits. Each parent must, therefore, stand at his or her duty post to fulfill the promises made in the procreative act.
Nowadays, however, procreation is irresponsibly carried out. We may say that, in the lawfulness of all events in Creation, the souls who approach the irresponsible petitioners deserve parents of no better sense of responsibility. However, this does not take away the pains in the heart of a woman who has a baby for a man who does not make himself available as her husband and full-time father of the child. Nor does it remove the pain also from a child who grows up one-sidedly without a full-time father in his or her life.
Davido is said to be taking care of these children and even demanding custody of one or two. As I am told, he has been told, the “settlement” should be with the mothers. Yoruba culture says, Obirin t’o b’mo fun ni ti kuro eni ale eni (The woman who has a child for us is no longer our concubine but our wife). In Yorubaland, there is no bastard child. Give the child all the money you can on earth, he or she will see in his or her heart only the picture which his or her mother paints for him or her. If she rejects your settlement money, she is saying it is you and not your money she want.
Chioma should wisen up. There are many wives in the life of Davido. There is no need for “Star Wars” of wives. The money for that wedding car gift could have been better spent on agriculture in Osun State. For example, what about a rabbit farm that would produce millions of rabbits every year and create jobs for thousands in this era of hunger protest?
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