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  • I tasted no food for the  five days I  spent in the  bush with  my abductors —Rescued Osun Speaker’s wife

    I tasted no food for the five days I spent in the bush with my abductors —Rescued Osun Speaker’s wife

    For five days from Tuesday, October 9 to Saturday, October 13, wife of the Speaker of the Osun State House of Assembly, Mrs. Muibat Salaam, was abducted before her release was secured by men of the Vigilante Service of Ogun State. Assistant Editor, Investigations, JOKE KUJENYA, met her at the Speaker’s official residence in Osogbo, and she recounted her ordeal.

    Wife of the Speaker of the Osun State House of Assembly, Mrs Muibat Salaam, began Tuesday October 9, 2102 on a rather busy tone. The day, according to her, was unusually eventful.

    She said: “Right from the house, I was busier than I had been on any other day. By the time I had to set out for my shop, I had to put a few things on hold. Eventually, I got to my shop in Ejigbo area and the day looked very good. Because of the so many things I had to do on that day, I closed a bit later than usual. Normally, I closed around 6 pm. But due to the business of the day, I left at about 7 pm.

    “But shortly after I got into my Honda Accord car and took off, I noticed that another car with some people in it was approaching me. The exact vicinity was around Ojugbo, which is a riverine area. They were in a car but I can’t remember the exact model now.

    “I decided to drive fast so that I could get to a busy area where I could find people to call for help. But they gave me a very hot chase. So, as they pursued me and I could not get help as I had expected, I decided to run out of the car around Union Baptist Road, Oke-Oyo area and began to run as fast as I could.

    “It was not that the people who saw me as I drove madly around the streets could not help me. The men had guns in their hands. So, I would not blame anyone for not coming to my aid at that time.

    “However, as I began to run, the men, because they were faster and stronger, caught up with me. I think they were about seven in number. Eventually, they caught me and the first thing they did was to collect my handbag. I started begging them not to hurt me but that they could take all the money and everything I had in the bag away. They collected my rings and other jewellery on me. They also took my phone. In fact, they had all my belongings on them before they forced me into their own vehicle.

    “I had told them what I said because I thought they were armed robbers. But as one of them snatched my bag, they pushed me into a car driven after them by one of their gang members. Immediately they caught me, they pushed me into the back seat of the car and pressed my face-down in the little space there. I shouted for help but no one could come near.

    “Three of them sat on the seat but pressed me down with their legs. They put my head under their feet as they drove madly around. At this point, I no longer knew where we were or where we were headed. After they had driven me around for a long time, the car suddenly stopped and they hurriedly dragged me out and forced me into a waiting trailer.

    “When we got inside the trailer, I saw two other men with their faces in masks. By this time, I could see the environment I was, where they parked their car. All the while, I was afraid but I kept calm. I didn’t know if I could think of anything. I was just watching them.

    “After driving the trailer for some time, they parked by the roadside, dragged me down again, and pulled me roughly into a thick bush. We walked for long into the thick bush before we finally stopped at a point. At first, they didn’t talk to me. They just left me and talked to themselves in low tones. And that began my five days with total strangers.”

    Asked if she was given any reason for the abduction or offered any type of food for the five days she spent in her abductors’ den, she said: “They offered me some of their can drinks and snacks but I did not collect anything from them. So, I did not eat or drink anything for those five days. They were all Igbo men, speaking a language I could not understand.

    “They had a big Ghana-must-go bag, inside which there were all sorts of drinks and snack. We sat in the bush and they seemed not to be afraid that a wild animal could appear and harm us. We all sat up the way we were all through the night till Wednesday morning. I could not close my eyes for a second throughout the whole night.

    “By the next morning, they told me that they would not kill me if only I and my husband would cooperate with them. Later, they told me that they had called my husband and made their demands from him. They also told me that they had no problem with me, but that they had to do what they were sent to do. I did not talk or ask them anything.

    “Then one of them began to say that all Nigerian politicians are failing the people that voted them into power. They said they were angry because students often go to their school authorities to collect bursaries. But instead of getting the bursaries, what often happens is that they get chased away with guns on the excuse that there was no money to give the students. In my heart, I wondered what I had to do with all that.

    “It was as if one of them read the question in my mind as he suddenly answered, ‘It is the money that students should be getting that all politicians share and stash away in foreign banks as if it is their fathers’ or mothers’ money.’ He added that if this was their own way to collect their share, it was not bad since government money is meant for every Nigerian.

    “By Wednesday evening, the rain began to fall heavily on us. But since they did not move, I did not bulge either. We were all in the rain for the most part of the night. By the early hours of Thursday, they moved us into another part of the bush. There were five of them watching over me at every point. I was left in the open without any shade. They ran shifts watching over me. Some of them would remain in the trailer while others would stay behind. Then, the ones that had been in the trailer would come and another three would go probably to take their rest.

    “We went on like that. And then they asked re[eatedly if my husband was not going to respond to their demands.

    “Thursday was particularly a sunny day. And because I had been beaten by the rain over night, I needed the sun to get warm. I still did not sleep day or night. I didn’t know what their plan was, so I could not sleep.

    “On Thursday night through the morning of Friday, we had another serious rain. By now, I had developed thick skin to my plight. But I remained prayerful, asking God to help me out. My clothes would get drenched and get dried up on me. I remained like that till Saturday morning.

    “By Saturday morning, the sun came out very early and I decided to remove my scarf and nijab to squeeze out the water and lay them on the leaves to dry off. I guess it was while I was laying the clothes on the leaves that the old man I later learnt went to alert the vigilance group saw me.

    “We were still like that and they were discussing the next line of action when suddenly, we heard voices that shouted: ‘Who are you and what are you doing there?’ It was, I think, about 3 pm or so. I wasn’t so sure. But as the vigilance men later told us, a villager who had climbed a tree had told the old man who was going to his own farm that he saw some men in the bush with a woman among them. The old man it was who later informed the vigilance group that later came for us.

    “When they got to the place, they just shouted ‘Who are you?’ My abductors took to their heels but the vigilance men shot into the air. As they did, we all ran in the same direction but I could not run as fast as they did. As I ran after them, the vigilance men were shooting.

    “At some point, I came to my senses and stopped running. Then I started asking the vigilance men to stop shooting, shouting on top of my voice that I was not their member and that I was a captive. But the vigilance shouted at me to keep quiet because they found it difficult to believe me. They later drew me back and asked me to stop at the location where we were. They then asked me to carry the bag containing my captors’ food items and other things. They also saw their guns and picked them up.

    “They were pushing me here and there, not realising that I had not eaten anything in five days. Amid the pandemonium, I spotted the trailer that brought me to the bush where it was Wife of the Speaker of the Osun State House of Assembly, Mrs Muibat Salaam, began Tuesday October 9, 2102 on a rather busy tone. The day, according to her, was unusually eventful.

    She said: “Right from the house, I was busier than I had been on any other day. By the time I had to set out for my shop, I had to put a few things on hold. Eventually, I got to my shop in Ejigbo area and the day looked very good. Because of the so many things I had to do on that day, I closed a bit later than usual. Normally, I closed around 6 pm. But due to the business of the day, I left at about 7 pm.

    “But shortly after I got into my Honda Accord car and took off, I noticed that another car with some people in it was approaching me. The exact vicinity was around Ojugbo, which is a riverine area. They were in a car but I can’t remember the exact model now.

    “I decided to drive fast so that I could get to a busy area where I could find people to call for help. But they gave me a very hot chase. So, as they pursued me and I could not get help as I had expected, I decided to run out of the car around Union Baptist Road, Oke-Oyo area and began to run as fast as I could.

    “It was not that the people who saw me as I drove madly around the streets could not help me. The men had guns in their hands. So, I would not blame anyone for not coming to my aid at that time.

    “However, as I began to run, the men, because they were faster and stronger, caught up with me. I think they were about seven in number. Eventually, they caught me and the first thing they did was to collect my handbag. I started begging them not to hurt me but that they could take all the money and everything I had in the bag away. They collected my rings and other jewellery on me. They also took my phone. In fact, they had all my belongings on them before they forced me into their own vehicle.

    “I had told them what I said because I thought they were armed robbers. But as one of them snatched my bag, they pushed me into a car driven after them by one of their gang members. Immediately they caught me, they pushed me into the back seat of the car and pressed my face-down in the little space there. I shouted for help but no one could come near.

    “Three of them sat on the seat but pressed me down with their legs. They put my head under their feet as they drove madly around. At this point, I no longer knew where we were or where we were headed. After they had driven me around for a long time, the car suddenly stopped and they hurriedly dragged me out and forced me into a waiting trailer.

    “When we got inside the trailer, I saw two other men with their faces in masks. By this time, I could see the environment I was, where they parked their car. All the while, I was afraid but I kept calm. I didn’t know if I could think of anything. I was just watching them.

    “After driving the trailer for some time, they parked by the roadside, dragged me down again, and pulled me roughly into a thick bush. We walked for long into the thick bush before we finally stopped at a point. At first, they didn’t talk to me. They just left me and talked to themselves in low tones. And that began my five days with total strangers.”

    Asked if she was given any reason for the abduction or offered any type of food for the five days she spent in her abductors’ den, she said: “They offered me some of their can drinks and snacks but I did not collect anything from them. So, I did not eat or drink anything for those five days. They were all Igbo men, speaking a language I could not understand.

    “They had a big Ghana-must-go bag, inside which there were all sorts of drinks and snack. We sat in the bush and they seemed not to be afraid that a wild animal could appear and harm us. We all sat up the way we were all through the night till Wednesday morning. I could not close my eyes for a second throughout the whole night.

    “By the next morning, they told me that they would not kill me if only I and my husband would cooperate with them. Later, they told me that they had called my husband and made their demands from him. They also told me that they had no problem with me, but that they had to do what they were sent to do. I did not talk or ask them anything.

    “Then one of them began to say that all Nigerian politicians are failing the people that voted them into power. They said they were angry because students often go to their school authorities to collect bursaries. But instead of getting the bursaries, what often happens is that they get chased away with guns on the excuse that there was no money to give the students. In my heart, I wondered what I had to do with all that.

    “It was as if one of them read the question in my mind as he suddenly answered, ‘It is the money that students should be getting that all politicians share and stash away in foreign banks as if it is their fathers’ or mothers’ money.’ He added that if this was their own way to collect their share, it was not bad since government money is meant for every Nigerian.

    “By Wednesday evening, the rain began to fall heavily on us. But since they did not move, I did not bulge either. We were all in the rain for the most part of the night. By the early hours of Thursday, they moved us into another part of the bush. There were five of them watching over me at every point. I was left in the open without any shade. They ran shifts watching over me. Some of them would remain in the trailer while others would stay behind. Then, the ones that had been in the trailer would come and another three would go probably to take their rest.

    “We went on like that. And then they asked re[eatedly if my husband was not going to respond to their demands.

    “Thursday was particularly a sunny day. And because I had been beaten by the rain over night, I needed the sun to get warm. I still did not sleep day or night. I didn’t know what their plan was, so I could not sleep.

    “On Thursday night through the morning of Friday, we had another serious rain. By now, I had developed thick skin to my plight. But I remained prayerful, asking God to help me out. My clothes would get drenched and get dried up on me. I remained like that till Saturday morning.

    “By Saturday morning, the sun came out very early and I decided to remove my scarf and nijab to squeeze out the water and lay them on the leaves to dry off. I guess it was while I was laying the clothes on the leaves that the old man I later learnt went to alert the vigilance group saw me.

    “We were still like that and they were discussing the next line of action when suddenly, we heard voices that shouted: ‘Who are you and what are you doing there?’ It was, I think, about 3 pm or so. I wasn’t so sure. But as the vigilance men later told us, a villager who had climbed a tree had told the old man who was going to his own farm that he saw some men in the bush with a woman among them. The old man it was who later informed the vigilance group that later came for us.

    “When they got to the place, they just shouted ‘Who are you?’ My abductors took to their heels but the vigilance men shot into the air. As they did, we all ran in the same direction but I could not run as fast as they did. As I ran after them, the vigilance men were shooting.

    “At some point, I came to my senses and stopped running. Then I started asking the vigilance men to stop shooting, shouting on top of my voice that I was not their member and that I was a captive. But the vigilance shouted at me to keep quiet because they found it difficult to believe me. They later drew me back and asked me to stop at the location where we were. They then asked me to carry the bag containing my captors’ food items and other things. They also saw their guns and picked them up.

    “They were pushing me here and there, not realising that I had not eaten anything in five days. Amid the pandemonium, I spotted the trailer that brought me to the bush where it was parked. I quickly pointed the attention of the vigilance men to it. As we got closer to the trailer, one of the vigilance men who had not seen his other colleagues suddenly pointed his gun to shoot me. I begged him not to kill me.

    “By the time we got to the trailer where it had been parked since we got there, the vigilance men stormed it and found three of the kidnappers who were still resting there without knowing that their colleagues were being pursued. The vigilance men disarmed and brought them out of the trailer. And because the trailer was parked by a the roadside, some passers-by had surrounded us to watch the unfolding drama.

    “About the same time, a police patrol vehicle, which was just going on its own, saw the growing crowd. They turned and came to meet us. When they got there, they jumped out of their vehicle and some of the spectators ran for dear lives, but others stayed behind. The vigilance men told the police that they had caught a gang of robbers and their female accomplice in the bush.

    “I quickly shouted and told the policemen that I was not the gang’s member but a victim. One of the policemen said if I was not a thief, I should identify myself. It was then I disclosed my identity and told them that I am the wife of the Speaker of the Osun State House of Assembly. The policemen. who seemed to be aware of my predicament probably through the media, became alarmed and asked me to be real with them. I told them it was me and that they could call my husband or any other person in our state to confirm. Then the police began to parade the men before the people and everything began to work out as God must have planned it.

    “One of the men who had parked his car nearby began to call one ‘Honourable’ in Oyo State to tell him about the development. Later, I learnt it was the ‘Honourable’ that was called in Oyo who later called the Speaker of the Oyo State House of Assembly. By then, some of the policemen took me and the three arrested men to their station. Then, the remaining policemen followed the vigilance men into the bush to look for the fleeing men.”

    “Another thing I have to thank God for is the fact that the men did not know that the girl they saw in my car was my daughter. On one of the days, they asked me how long I had been married to my husband. I lied to them that we had only been married for about six years. They also asked if I was the one that gave birth to a son for the Speaker. I told them no, that I only gave birth to just a girl. They asked who the girl in my car was at the time they were pursuing me. I told them it was a little girl that loved to go out with me. They said if she was my daughter, they would have taken her with me to get my husband to respond quickly to their demand.

    “Today, I am in my husband’s custody and I thank God. I don’t know where they were taking me to and what they actually planned to do with me, and I don’t know who it was that they said had sent them. But I want to ask the government to please provide security for the families of politicians because what I had gone through in the five days that I was with those men was too inhuman to pray that even one’s enemy should go through.”

  • Bride of winter (4)

    I closed early from work that day, pleading a headache as the excuse. The headache was for real because after the things Shelly told me, a massive headache came upon me and I sat glued to my chair as if paralyzed. I managed to get home, however and I went straight to bed as soon as I entered the house. My usual routine after work was to do some chores and prepare dinner for my husband. But that evening, I had no energy to do any work. I laid, curled up in bed, all kinds of thoughts going round and round in my head.

    “How could this have happened?” I kept thinking. ‘And what was I supposed to do?’

    At that moment, I wished I was back home in Nigeria with my family and close friends. But I was all alone in this cold city with no one to talk to or seek advice from. I felt so miserable and sorry for myself, I broke down in tears.

    “How could Henry do this to me, after all we’ve been through?” I said to myself, remembering Shelly’s words.

    “When he came to the country newly, he got married to Milly. It was an arranged marriage, done to enable him get his papers so he could remain in the country to avoid deportation as his visa was about to expire. They were supposed to stay together for a while before filing for divorce and going their separate ways. But the ‘business’ arrangement turned to something else when Milly got pregnant with Henry’s baby. You must have seen the little boy- she brings him to work once in a while. Anyway, some of us who knew about the arrangement thought perhaps, they had decided to make the ‘arrangee’ marriage real and remain together. But it wasn’t to be. They still got divorced after the baby was born. And sometime later, you arrived on the scene.” At this point, she paused to take a sip of water before continuing.

    Drawing close to me, she said softly:

    “I thought with your arrival, whatever they had together would end. But from the look of things, they are definitely back together- they are surely dating. He goes home with her most evenings after closing from work and people have seen them at different spots in the city acting very cosily like a couple in love. I know he’s supposed to visit her once in a while because of the child but this is different. I’m telling you all this because I like you and I feel bad that all these things are happening right under your nose and you are completely ignorant about it. What Milly is doing is bad. Since Henry is married to you now, she should lay off. And you need to do something fast to get your husband out of her clutches…”

    But what could I do? I thought. Confront him and give him an ultimatum? Tell him to stop seeing the woman? Would that work? What if he denied everything? Could he do that with the child’s existence? I had seen the little boy named Ray a couple of times and each time, he often reminded me of someone. Back then, I couldn’t really make the connection, but with what Shelly had told me, I now knew who he reminded me of. My father-in-law! The boy bore an uncanny resemblance to Henrys father whom he resembled as well. So, the family resemblance was there. What explanation would Henry have for that if he said the boy wasn’t his?

    Feeling suddenly thirsty, I went downstairs to the kitchen to get some water. I was drinking it when I heard the key in the door. Henry was back.

    “Sweetheart, I’m home! Where are you?” he called out.

    “In the kitchen,” I said calmly

    He came up to me and held me by the waist.

    “How are you feeling now? Shelly told me you came home early as you weren’t feeling too fine. I tried calling but your phone was switched off. Is the battery dead or what? he stated, as he turned me round.

    “I’m fine,” I said, averting my eyes and slipping out of his arms.

    “You don’t look ok. And your eyes are red. Have you been crying? Is everything alright?” he asked in a worried voice.

    “I said I’m fine. Just leave me alone, ok?” I said harshly. I left him and went upstairs to my room, locking the door after me.

    He came up and started knocking.

    “Abby, what’s the matter? Is it something I’ve done? Open the door, let’s talk about it,” he stated.

    “Just go away! And leave me alone!” I nearly screamed at him.

    “Why are you behaving like this? I come home from work and you refuse to talk to me! What have I done this time?” he said, knocking repeatedly all the while.

    It was at this point that I opened the door and he came in. I stood with my arms crossed on my chest, ready to do battle with him.

    “You are asking me what you’ve done? Ok, I’ll tell you. You are nothing but a cheat and a liar! You’ve betrayed our love and I will never forgive you for that,” I declared, glaring at him.

    He looked at me, puzzled.

    “What on earth are you talking about? Now, you are really beginning to piss me off!” he stated in an angry tone.

    “You pretend not to know what I’m talking about, isn’t it? Ok, let me tell you. About your mistress or lover, Milly, the son she had for you and how you have been cheating on me all this while and I didn’t know! Henry, how could you do this to me?” I cried.

    “Oh, that!” he stated quietly before going to sit on the bed. “Shelly must have been opening her big mouth again,” he noted.

    That got me incensed even more.

    “Is that all you can say? After I have caught you in the act? I now understand why you are always too tired to make love,” I said angrily.

    He looked up warily at me.

    “Look, Abby, calm down and let’s talk about this like adults. It’s not what you think…” he began but I cut him short.

    “What am I expected to think? Just tell me!” I demanded, glaring at him.

    He sighed before he began to speak.

    “My involvement with Milly was due to the situation I found myself in when I got to this country newly. It’s tough being an immigrant here, with no job, no papers and the fear of deportation hanging over one all the time. My friend, Syl who invited me over disappointed me. It wasn’t really his fault as the business he was planning to do could not take off; he could not get the necessary funding from the bank. So, it was like I was on my own,” he disclosed.

    Continuing, he added that it was at this point that Milly came to his rescue. “She really helped me a lot. She agreed to the ‘arranged’ marriage without collecting much money from me and also got me the job at the care home,” he said.

    “So, how come she had a baby for you when it was meant to be an ‘arrangee’ marriage?” I asked sarcastically.

    He explained that it was a mistake; that they had gone to a party one day and had returned home drunk. “One thing led to another and we ended up in bed together. She insisted on keeping the baby when she found out she was pregnant though we were supposed to get divorced some time later. I had told her about you, that I had a fiancée back home and there was no way I could remain with her,” he explained.

    I was silent for a while as his words sank in.

    “But why didn’t you tell me all this earlier? And why are you still going to her house, spending time with her when your so-called ‘arranged’ marriage has ended?” I wanted to know.

    “I planned telling you but I wasn’t sure how you would react. And it’s because of my son that I visit her,” Henry stated.

    I looked at him coldly.

    “And you expect me to believe that?” I queried.

    He didn’t answer but sat staring at the floor.

    After his explanation, I calmed down a little though I was still angry with him. What annoyed me most was the fact that he did not tell me about what happened between him and Milly earlier and I had to hear it from someone else. As my husband, I felt he should have confided in me and even told me about the baby she had for him. Now, he was using the child as an excuse to keep seeing her. I didn’t feel very comfortable with that as I did not trust the woman.

    So, a few days later, I suggested to him that he should get custody of the boy; that I was even ready to look after him- that way his dealings with Milly will be on official basis only. He said it would be difficult as the courts usually gave custody of children to the mothers.

    Then, one Saturday morning, Milly came to our house to pick up my husband for a day outing with his son as it was the boy’s birthday. I was angry that she was acting as if she had a right to my husband and I told Henry he could not go with her.

    But he defied me and still went, stating that he needed to spend some time with his son.

    “Don’t bother coming back to this house! You can stay with her if you want!” I screamed at him as he was entering her car.

    It’s been over a month now and I’ve not seen or heard from my husband. He has not been at work either. Worse still, I heard Milly was on vacation and she had travelled outside the country. My fear is that they’ve gone together with their son as a family, leaving me behind. I’m very confused right now as I still love my husband very much and I don’t want to lose him. Or my marriage. Have I, with my attitude driven him into the arms of the other woman? What should I do? I’m thinking of calling his family members back home especially his dad so they can talk to him to return home as I miss him so much. I want him back. Please I need your advice. Thanks.

     

    Concluded

    Names have been changed to protect the identity of the narrator and other individuals.

    Send advice/suggestions to 08023201831 or psaduwa@yahoo.com.

  • Married women love me more than single ladies

    All through my love life, it has been disturbing as married women admire me and show love to me more than single ladies. I am a bachelor and I’ve been willing to engage a lady for marriage but always I make attempt in keeping a relationship, I could not find love. But wherever I go and have contact with married women, they tend to admire me much and wish to keep me away from having relationship with any other woman. I don’t want to commit adultery but the pressure on me has been too much. How can I escape this since most of these married women are caring?

    My brother, any married woman that tries to get you in her bed is digging a grave for not only herself, but you too. Once a woman gets married, she belongs body and soul to her man. So all these women showing interest in you are silly. If they’re tired of their marriages, they should leave rather than cutting corners.

    I really wouldn’t know why single girls would not find you good enough. Could it be that you’re so handsome girls feel insecure around you, or you’re so matured they can’t handle you? Whatever the problem may be, try to ask those who know you well what they think your problem is. It’s also possible that you love older women and so, you’re free around them and they show you the green light as a result of that. If that is the case, get the attention of an older woman who is single (she could be a divorcee or a widow) and try to start a relationship. But married women? Don’t go there.

  • Nigeria shines at World Travel Market

    Nigeria shines at World Travel Market

    Annually, the world gathers in Custom House, ExCel, London for the  biggest travel and tourism event, the World Travel Market (WTM). It has in attendance more than 180 countries.

    Almost 48,000 senior travel industry professionals, government ministers and international journalists attend the event in London to network, negotiate and discover the latest industry opinion. The WTM, now in its 33rd year, is the event where the travel industry conducts and concludes its deals.

    The fair in 2011 generated £1,653 million of travel industry contracts. Countries, airlines, international hospitality chains, IT solution providers in the tourism industry, resorts, top travel agencies, tour operators all come together under one roof to do business.  That is why it is catastrophic for any country interested in its tourism growth to miss this annual event.

    For a country like Nigeria seeking to create an identity for itself and build its profile as an emerging destination, the need to put up a very strong presence and also articulate and market its products was imperative.

    Slowly over the last few years, due to Nigeria’s strong presence and visibility in WTM and some other key travel fairs, the travel world is now conscious of the country as an emerging destination in Africa and is also taking a look at some of the things that are making Nigeria tick. The African Section of the fair came to a standstill as people trooped  to listen to Nigerian music, watch dancers and have a thirst of the nation’s cuisines. They had it so good that most refused to go and had to when the music stopped.

    The high point of this year’s event was the Nigeria Day.

    The Nigerian tourism drive  was given a boost by the 2012 Industry Report  of the WTM  which in addition to steady progress the country is making stated that: “The Nigerian film industry dubbed Nollywood has made the country the highlight of the African tourist industry with Africans making use of the increase no-frills airline routes to visit the country made famous in the movies.”

    However, it must be added here that one of the strong areas for inbound tourists to Nigeria is religious tourism. The annual convention of the Living Faith Church Worldwide (Winners’ Chapel), the Redeemed Christian Church of God Holy Ghost convention and Pastor T.B. Joshua’s  Synagogue Church of All Nations are all building the market for pilgrimage and religious tourism.

    The Nigerian Tourism Development Corporation (NTDC) boss, Otunba Segun Runsewe, assessed the impact of Nigeria at the this year WTM: “ Nigeria had its bold and imposing  stand at the African section of the market, showing remarkable improvement in not articulating its presence in the market, but being able to create a platform for states and  private sector operators to showcase what Nigeria has to offer in tourism.

    “While the Nigerian Tourism Development Corporation (NTDC) co-coordinated the Nigeria ’s participation,  key private sector operators in the tourism industry had the opportunity to market and network with their counterparts from all over the world. It was an encouraging participation by the Nigerian private sector practitioners.

    “States like Cross River State , Rivers and the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) had a strong presence. The umbrella tourism  body for Nigeria, the Federation of Tourism Associations of Nigeria (FTAN), led by its President, Chief Samuel Alabi, led the private sector operators, including the National Association of Nigerian Travel Agencies (NANTA), National Association of Tour Operators (NATOP), Arik Airline,  Remlord Group, Naija Seven Wonders, Eko Hotel and Suites, Tarzan Balogun Marine Services Limited and many others. “In the 2012 World Travel market, we have seen that more countries are coming to the WTM and with the World Travel and Tourism Council (WTTC) also opening their windows and bringing in their members, we have seen that it is an opportunity to bring a very strong inbound tourists traffic to Nigeria . So, we are using the opportunity to showcase the strength of Nigeria basically in terms of our history  which is also part of the history of the African-Americans. We are also looking at our craft, festival, waterfalls, rocks and so on. So for us, it is an opportunity to invite more foreigners to Nigeria to come and see for themselves.

    “The most recent thing that happened was the Americans that we invited to Nigeria who were pleasantly surprised.  They were surprised by the number of tourism opportunities and tourist destinations we have in Nigeria . So, we want to use the opportunity of the WTM to reassure every tourist coming to Nigeria of their safety and security. Let me use this opportunity to also explain one very important issue. There is no country in the world that has total security. We would have some challenges. What is more important is how to overcome them. That is what we are working on. So, the World Travel Market is a total opportunity for us to showcase our strength as a people and invite more inbound tourists to Nigeria, considering the fact that two major factors are not a problem in Nigeria, in fact three, one language, two accommodation, all the major hotels in the world now have facilities in Nigeria, all the major airlines in the world fly to Nigeria. So, the language, accommodation and transportation are not problems. We have also created an advantage to make Nigeria a preferred destination.”

    The NTDC boss explained that every country in the world has its challenges, especially in the area of security, but the most important thing is the efforts the country is making to combat it and also ensuring the safety of tourists that visit the country.

    Commenting on the WTM Global Trends report, Runswe said: “The report we are getting from the WTM is the sixth in the world in the recent past. That means Nigeria is making major impact in terms of tourism development. I want to be very grateful to the organizers for bringing out the real fact that Nigeria has made concerted efforts and still making until tourism becomes a major income earner for the country.”

     

  • Otunba Lekan Osifeso plans mother of all parties

    Come Saturday December 22 , top socialite and executive Director of Bulletin Construction Company, Otunba Lekan Osifeso, will give his late father, mother and step-mother, Chief Oluwamuyiwa Adeyemo Osifeso, Mrs Olufadebo Osifeso and Mrs Olayinka Osifeso a befitting remembrance party and special prayer.

    Happenstances gathered that Chief Olumuyiwa Osifeso and his wives, who died many years ago, were enviable parents deserving of Lekan and siblings’decision to stage a special remembrance party and prayer for their departed souls.

    Lekan, also the Chairman of Lekai Construction Company, possesses the financial clout and influence needed to pull the creme-de-la-creme of high society to the event. As part of the bid to immortalise his parents, Lekan and family will launch a foundation in Ijebu Ode, Ogun State. It was also gathered that in order to make the party a grand one, a committee has been constituted to make sure the A-list party goes according to plan.

    The committee members include the Chairman of Bulletin Construction, Chief Faysal Harb; Hon. Sade Bent; Chief Jide Odekunle; Alhaji Bashy Kuti; Hon. Leo Awoyemi; Gbenga Akinbobola and Shina Abiola Peller. Those who should know say the December 21 party will feature fuji music maestro, K-1 the Ultimate, on the bandstand while a popular comedian will anchor the event. After the church service, a reception party will follow at the Ijebu Ode township stadium.

  • Nigeria becomes ICPT member

    The innovations and aggressive promotion of Nigeria’s tourist destinations have earned the country a place on the International Council for the Promotion of Tourism (ICPT).

    President of the ICTP, Professor Geoffrey Lipman, who conducted the ceremony at the Seychelles’ stand at the ongoing World Travel Market in London, disclosed that the council’s search for right-minded members led it to Nigeria and her apex tourism promotion agency, the Nigerian Tourism Development Corporation.

    Nigeria, according to Lipman, “has huge tourism potential, and we on the council know how lucky we are to have the NTDC DG Otunba Segun Runsewe as a council member.”

    He said the plan of the ICTP  is to put the tourism sector of its over 500 member countries on the path of growth.

    In his acceptance speech, Runsewe expressed his gratitude to the council for noticing the humble work the agency was doing in Nigeria and pledged his commitment to the goals of the council.

    Issues discussed at the ICTP meeting were the improvement of services to help members strengthen their own commitment to Green Growth and Quality,rebranding the organisation as a “coalition” supporting grassroots engagement in the sector’s contribution to a low carbon inclusive and environmentally-responsible world with a proactive leadership council.

    They also announced a strengthening of advocacy programmes through collaboration with industry organisations and business partners in co-sponsored events to promote: Sustainable aviation growth, streamlined travel, fair coherent taxation and  investments for jobs.

    They reiterated their commitment to work with international travel and tourism organisations in their efforts to advance these strategies.

    President Geoffrey Lipman said: “We firmly expect that in 2013, which is going to be a very difficult year, our coalition will be a new force to help destinations and their stakeholders to focus on Green Growth and Quality in a creative way that enhances their competitiveness, attracts new investments, creates jobs, and helps build happier communities.”

    Both Minister Alain St.Ange of the Seychelles and Mr. Thomas Steinmetz, the Chairman of the ICTP, also addressed the gathered members at the Seychelles Stand at WTM 2012 in the presence of Mr. David Aherne of the EURO Congress, the European Convention Bureau.

  • It’s either Achebe twisting the facts interpreting the to serve his own —Ex-Arewa chair IBM Haruna

    It’s either Achebe twisting the facts interpreting the to serve his own —Ex-Arewa chair IBM Haruna

    Maj-Gen. Ibrahim Bata Malgwi (IBM) Haruna was two-time Federal Commissioner for Communication and Information during the military era. He was also the General Officer Commanding (GOC) Two Division of the Nigerian Army during the civil war. He was also Principal Officer to Gen. Yakubu Gowon. After a glittering military career, he was appointed Chairman of the Governing body of the Nigerian Institute Policy and Strategic Studies (NIPSS) in Kuru, Jos, Plateau State, from 1985 to 1993.

    In this no holds-barred interview, Gen. Haruna lamented the gruesome murder of Gen. Muhammadu Shuwa, whom he described as his bosom friend and contemporary in the Army, insisting that the only way for his memory to be preserved is for the Federal Government to fish out his killers and bring them to justice. He also admonished those he said are still parochially clinging on to the concept of North as a political entity to wake up to the reality that it is long dead as a political grouping. He speaks more on sundry issues with the ASSISTANT EDITOR, LINUS OBOGO. Excerpts:

     

    ONE of Nigeria’s war veterans, Gen. Muhammed Shuwa, who staked his life for the unity of Nigeria, was last week killed in cold blood by unknown gunmen in his house. How did the news of his death come to you, at a time peace is about to be negotiated between the government and the Islamic fundamental sect, Boko Haram?

    It was rather unfortunate. The late Muhammed Shuwa was my bosom friend and a contemporary in the Nigerian Army. We were cadets at the Ghana officer cadet school in 1958. Since then we remained friends and colleagues and served gallantly in the Nigerian Army as well as during the civil war. It was the most shocking and painful revelation to hear that he died in the manner the papers had reported. I feel very aggrieved and I wonder how this kind of death could come to a civil war veteran officer from unknown persons and they are not fished out and dealt with. It is the greatest shame of a nation.

    The one thing the Federal Government can do for his memory is to uncover the characters behind the act. And it is also the only way the government can reassure those of us who staked our lives and fought for the unity of Nigeria. I pray for his soul to rest in peace. Death will come to all of us. It is just the manner it comes that makes it the more worrisome.

     

    With the Boko Haram denying complicity in the death of Gen. Shuwa, where does this leave the government in tracking down those behind the killing and does this in anyway suggest the existence of a group other than Boko Haram?

    There is really no room for speculation. A crime has been committed and it is the duty of the state and the security agencies to ensure that people who commit crimes do not get away with them. It was such a heinous crime committed in that kind of way and it must not be allowed to go unresolved. We cannot begin to speculate about where the responsibility lies. But we know definitely that there was a victim of an act of murder. It is such a shameful thing to have gone to kill an old man who had served this country with all his life.

    As a nation-state, the responsibility lies with the various institutions of government to uncover a crime and bring the perpetrators to book. Even if we were living in an uncivilised, backward and barbaric state, it would not be possible that a stranger would just come into your living room and kill you without anyone knowing where the killer came from. But we are now in a community of people where people must not be allowed to terminate others’ lives. And this is where the government has a responsibility to ensure that society does not degenerate to a state of lawlessness and criminality.

    A lot of Nigerians have been forced to conclude that given the manner the lives of citizens are being snuffed out as if we were in a war situation, the government appears helpless and has not done enough to tackle insecurity and stem the orgy of violence in the country, particularly in the North. What’s your comment on this?

    Security has always been a serious challenge, even to the most organised and sophisticated country in the world. Insecurity can manifest itself in any manner of ways. Do not forget that as sophisticated as America was, President JF Kennedy was killed. Yet it is the most powerful and the most organised nation in the world.

    So, the proof of maturity and responsibility of a nation is being able to withstand the threat to the security of lives and property of its people as well as of the state. So, to demonstrate that we can indeed tackle this kind of challenge as a nation, we must respond not only because a very important life has been terminated, but because every life is sacred and every life is important and must be protected and every human being has the right to live. So, if there are some mad people around who do not appreciate the value of life and the right to life, they must be uncovered and brought to book. And if that means that they must be put in an asylum so that other people can enjoy the right to life, they can jolly well be put in an asylum. The issue of security is not that of the government alone. It is the duty of everyone to ensure security in the community that he or she lives.

    As former Chairman of Arewa Consultative Forum, ACF, would you say the body has done enough in assisting the government by engaging the Boko Haram sect to cease fire?

    I cannot pass judgment on a forum that is neither a state organisation nor an executive arm of government. It is a socio-cultural organisation and we cannot hold it accountable for the failings of the state or its institutions. So, the ACF should be left out of it. It is not a police force or the army. To begin to ask questions about the role of ACF is to look for a scapegoat. What about the political parties? Are they not the ones who form the government? Are they not the ones appointing people into offices? A socio-cultural organisation cannot take over the functions of government that has the governors, the police and ministers. The ACF is not a federal, state or local government.

    Why will anybody want to blame the ineptitude of the state on Arewa, Ohanaeze Indigbo or the Afenifere? There are institutions and agencies of government meant to exercise the powers of investigation and suppression of crimes and lawlessness in the society. So, we should learn to situate responsibility squarely where it belongs. Leave ACF, Ohanaeze Indigbo and Afenifere out of it. If these organisations should become criminals tomorrow, will the state not deal with them accordingly if they decide to criminalise themselves? Will the state spare them simply because they are socio-cultural bodies? The state has a responsibility to fight them if their activities become inimical to the smooth running of the state. So, the same principle should be applied in the handling of Boko Haram.

    The Boko Haram sect has finally agreed to dialogue with the government by going ahead to name those who to represent them in the proposed talks. How much faith do you have in the talks and those they have chosen and should government be negotiating with terrorist groups?

    You are asking me a very difficult question, my friend. As a military man, I know that the initiative, militarily, should not be left to the adversary. What is happening now goes against the grain of my own thinking as a trained military officer. I can only situate the unfolding scenario within the realm of politics. But I am not a politician. However, whatever will bring peace deserves some test.

    As to whether the Federal Government should enter into a dialogue with Boko Haram, I will say that the logic to finding a political solution to peace is in the realm of negotiation. And every negotiation has its objectives and merits. So, we cannot conclude that every terrorist group that may emerge should take the initiative to determine how it intends to bring about peace.

    The government should devise various means of achieving solutions which can be negotiated. And if any means is acceptable to the parties in negotiation, what matters in the end is peace.

    After All, we have adopted a regional development paradigm for the Niger Delta region. But the solutions may not go on forever because it is a political and not a constitutional arrangement. However, peace among communities and people must be pursued through any means that security of lives and property is guaranteed. If the government comes up with a peace process that is not acceptable by the people, do you think that the conflict can be resolved? So, every conflict that comes to the forefront should be dealt with. And if it is like the Boko Haram challenge, it should be dealt with as well. After all, after every war and conflict, there is always some negotiation. Recall that after the First World War, there was some negotiation which brought about the League of Nations. And after the Second World War came the United Nations Organisation, which was also a product of negotiation. So, there are so many instances and precedents which could help in the establishment of structures for negotiation.

    Some people are often quick to blame the menace of Boko Haram on poverty. Would you say it is poverty and if so, when did this poverty scourge begin and why is it imploding now that Dr. Goodluck Jonathan is in office as President?

    Let me tell you something my dear brother. At the foundation of every conflict, there is a phenomenon called poverty. It could be poverty of the stomach, poverty of ideas, poverty of knowledge and poverty of trust. There is also poverty caused by alienation from civilised organisations.

    So, underlining all the terrorist conflicts in the world, there is a feeling in the people of a lack of sense of belonging, not being a constituent of civilisation in a manner that it is perceived as inequitable. In a country like ours, from independence till date, we have been unable to resolve the issue of the wide and ever expanding gap between the haves and the haves-not in terms of not only wealth but also opportunity. The challenge of opportunity to climb the scale of economic and social ladder of the society, as well as opportunity to live long and be allowed to express your talent. So, these are all forms of poverty. That you cannot go to school, or that you cannot learn what will be useful to you and your society or that you are not allowed access to opportunities owing to discrimination, and you have no income because you are not employed and you are confronted with hunger, lack of access to basic healthcare. Given all these deprivations in a developing society, people are quick to resort to violence. They will turn to the consumption of psychotropic substances like Indian hemp and other vegetables and in turn refuse to imbibe the Ten Commandments. They will begin to see the non-existing lines in different religions and forget the civilisation and beliefs that God has revealed to us over the years. The principles of God also encourage us to uplift the low, the needy and the downtrodden and the poor. This is where government has a responsibility to provide some form of reliefs to those at the lower rungs of the ladder.

    So, buffeted by all these, is what people will like to call poverty. Of course, poverty in inverted commas. It is in inverted commas because you have to examine the content of this poverty and what is in it that makes people poor.

    Are you aware that there was violence in 1966 in the South West? And there was also violence by the military in 1983, which led to the overthrow of President Shehu Shagari and after that, the military continued to overturn itself. This was all violence manifested in various ways. What is happening today is not because of President Jonathan or whether it is directed at a certain region of the country. What we are witnessing today is not new. It is just because it is now being carried out by the very poor people whose identity cannot be ascertained or what their organisations are that is why people are saying it is poverty. The common factor is that there have been various forms of revolt. The revolt has not been against one particular government as against the other. It is a revolt against the lack of organisations and structures within the Nigerian state at various levels.

    You will recall that when the colonial overlords were ruling, it was not as if we were any better, richer or poorer than we are today, but the fact is that they were organised. That was why they were able to harness our raw materials like groundnut, cotton, cocoa for their factories in the UK. They were very organised in exploiting our economy. So, essentially, it is all about economic and social organisation. We have had different development plans without realising their goals, whether it was Operation Feed the Nation or the Green Revolution. And what happened to leaders who enunciated these development plans? Nothing! But they approved monies and disappeared with them.

    All the various revolts- military, Boko Haram, MEND, OPC, MASSOB etc, are culminations of frustrations built overtime. Why people choose to die is because there is nothing for them to look forward to and so they do not care about the value for life. But if they know there is good reason to be alive, they will not accept to be used as suicide bombers to strap improvised explosive devices on themselves. They will have good reason to want to be alive and enjoy the value of being alive.

    Having witnessed various governments since Nigeria’s Independence, with the benefit of hindsight, how will you score each successive regime from 1960 till date?

    Honestly, my brother, there is no standard by which you can score any regime that has ruled this country since Independence. There is absolutely no standard. All regimes have been adjudged to be corrupt. Right from Major Kaduna Nzeogwu’s attempted revolution to other rebellions, all the regimes have been more than corrupt. How do I score the various regimes when the very institutions that should make governance accountable to the people are themselves more corrupt? These same corrupt institutions are enjoying robust headlines in the media. The judiciary has equally written itself into Nigeria’s corruption folklore.

    When property and money are confiscated from those accused of corruption, there is no account of the forfeiture and in the end, you do not know who are the beneficiaries of the seizures. So, what are we talking about? Please do not ask me to score or assess any government when there is no standard. Are you asking me to assess our development against those of Hon Kong, Singapore, China, Malaysia, Brazil or the US? Will you in all sincerity say that we are a developing democracy or developing economy when there is no confidence in our investment market?

    When you turn to religion, there are a few religious leaders who are working for the salvation of mankind. But again, there many more religious leaders whose main preoccupation is to make money. While they are busy making money from their flock, the same flock is wallowing in abject poverty and want. The pastors continue to ask money from their congregation so that their faith can be strengthened.

    There must be standard and the standard is the rule of law and the equality before the law. We must ask ourselves, what is our perception of leadership and duty? Is it to ourselves as individuals or to the citizens? Is the leadership motivated by duty and responsibility to its subjects or is it attracted by the sweet aroma of oil wealth? The gospel truth is that we are suffering from inept and maladjusted leadership, leadership that is neck-deep in stealing.

    The former governor of the old Kaduna State, Alhaji Muhammadu Lawal Kaita, was recently quoted as saying that the North no longer has a leader, so sad that nobody is today respected enough to command leadership. Do you share his sentiment and if yes, how did the region arrive at this dissonance?

    My simple answer is that in the North, we are living in huge contradiction. And we have always been in this contradiction. Why can’t people take this kind of statement from Lawal Kaita with a pinch of salt?

    Are we really organised as North and South? Is it lawful? For somebody to start classifying us as North and South is it right and lawful? That was a dishonest statement from Kaita because we are not North and South. It is a statement from people who continuously want us to remain divided. Some people are still living in the past to continue to hold on to such geographical deceit as the North. I know of the North, East, West, Mid-West, but not North and South. There are some people who want to be seen as the new Sardaunas, but unfortunately, we cannot have another Sardauna again and we cannot go back to Northern region any longer. It now belongs in the past to talk about a political leader from the North because we cannot have that arrangement again. Why do they want to see an individual promoted and celebrated as Sardauna? Is the North now an emirate?

    People need to be educated to understand the context in which things are said and applied. The way you media report some of these things sometimes said by these people is not helpful. You guys need to educate them. We cannot continue in illiteracy, else, we will continue to cling on to our conscience on the basis of illiteracy. I do not have the concept of Northern leaders in my own worldview. So do not talk to me about Northern leaders. I only know of leaders in governance, bureaucracy and in the three tiers of government.

    I also know that we have cultural leaders called Igwe or Obi, the Oba and the emir. They fall within the context of cultural leadership. They have their place in the society and they also have their limit. But outside that, I do not look at leadership within the context and parameters of tribe or the North, South, East. There was never a time we were socially organised as tribes. So, people are contextualising it so that they can exploit it. I do not share in the classification and I do not see the human person in this context. I see the human person as free to learn, free to move about, free to socialise and integrate with others and be responsible to God. I see people first as human beings, not on the basis of where he or she was born or what language he or she speaks.

    Forty two years after the end of the Nigerian Civil war, a new controversy has emerged over the roles played by Gen. Yakubu Gowon (rtd) and the late Chief Obafemi Awolowo with accusations of genocide and the use of starvation as a weapon of war by Prof. Chinua Achebe, against the Igbo in his memoir, There was a Country. What’s your perspective to the controversy as a participant in the 30 months civil war?

    Controversies are human creations. Having said that, I must add that there are certain things in history that you cannot controvert if you accept the facts. It is either Prof. Achebe is twisting the facts or he is interpreting the context to serve his own purpose. But this is an unwarranted controversy because the facts are there for all to see. Will he deny that there were killings in the North, which culminated in counter-killings? Or is Achebe going to deny that there was a conflict of leadership and seniority between Gowon and Ojukwu? In what context is he perpetuating the view of genocide? Those who want to promote controversy should first of all state the facts. Above all, what were the objectives of the civil war? Was it to kill the Igbo? The war would not have come about until the county was divided into states. When people want to talk about the past, they should strive to put it in proper context.

    Ahead of 2015, there are already agitations that the Presidency should move to the North, despite that it is within the law for the incumbency to aspire for a second term. Do you also subscribe to the presidency shifting to the North?

    I have told you earlier that I do not uphold nor subscribe to the concept of North. This is a vocabulary that has since lost its meaning. It has no place in my vocabulary. If it is a political thinking or movement or the exercise of political right, I think we should leave them to their theory. But my outlook does not tally or coincide with others’ notion of the North. Mine is not consistent with somebody thinking of North or South. I do not see the leader of either my state or local government as one geographical entity or tribal person. I see him as being there to perform a function.

  • Keeping your teenagers pure (2)

    Dear Reader

    I welcome you to another exciting edition of this week. As you read and pay attention to God’s Word, I see God giving you the grace to know and understand your teenagers.

    This week, we shall be looking at, how to understand your Teenager. Some people lay up money, houses, clothes, cars and other possessions as an inheritance for their children. But the greatest inheritance you can leave behind for your children, is a good Christian upbringing.

    A child is a gift from God, a blessing to the family and a unique blend of husband and wife. The Bible says:

    Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. ( Psalm 127:3).

    God ‘s purpose for giving you children is not only for replenishing and filling up the earth, but because He is seeking a godly seed.

    The best environment, therefore, to raise a godly seed unto the Lord is the home.

    When I discovered this truth some years ago, I made up my mind not to fail God in my responsibility towards my children. From then onward, after every church service, I returned home to break into smaller pieces the message preached in the church. I asked God to teach me how to break the principles in His Word down to my children’s level of understanding. I then began to ensure that hardly a day passed by, without a time spent sitting down with them, opening scriptures and ministering to them.

    I have found out that even when the children leave home and are in places where we as parent cannot be physically, the fear of the Lord implanted in their hearts and the knowledge of the Word of God keep them intact.

    The teens years are the most demanding years for many children and parents alike. A lot of the prevalent challenges stems from a basic lack of understanding of this phase of life. The children are wondering, “What’s going on here? Why is my body changing so rapidly? Do I have a disease? Why is my voice cracking? Why is my breast hurting? Can I talk about it with anyone?”

    But the teens years need not to be frustrating; all that is actually required is knowledge and understanding.

    Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: (Proverbs 24:3).

    Clearly understanding the transformation that takes place in the lives of your teenagers, will help you to offer relevant guidance, besides, it will equip you with the patience you need to go through the period.

    Children are alarmed about such changes; the comfort and reassurance of their parents, make them to know they are normal and that everything is alright. Go beyond being their parent to being their friend, so they can open up and confide in you.

    Therefore, in this phase, we believe to explain certain terminologies that may have sounded like Greek to you, and describe what happens at various stages of your teenage children’s development

    PUBERTY

    The first phase children pass through is known as puberty. Puberty is a phase of sexual awakening in the life of a child. This is when the sexual organs and reproductive system of a child begin to develop, in preparation for adulthood, reproduction and childbirth.

    The age it begins differs from on child to another.

    For boys, puberty starts from the age of 12. Rapid growth begins to take place in their bodies. At this stage the pituitary gland (also known as the “big boss”) attached to the base of the brain of man, is activated. It produces hormones, which bring about changes in the body and the ability to produce a child.

    Some other notable changes occur in the girl during menstruation. Her body becomes more rounded and curvy, her breasts begin to enlarge, and may become sore or slightly painful.

    What is Adolescence?

    Adolescence is a term used to describe the period of life between childhood and adulthood. It is usually between age 14 and19. It is the final stage of childhood, before adulthood sets in. It is similar to the “pupal stage” of growth in a butterfly before the cocoon finally breaks forth into a beautiful butterfly.

    As parents, for you to understand your children or your teenager, you need to be in good relationship with God? Are you born again? Do you want to accept Him as your Lord and saviour? If you are ready, please say with me. Dear Lord, I come to you today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins.  Cleanse me with your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!

    Congratulations! Until I come your way next week, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com; Tel. No: 234-1-7747546-8, 0702638543,707094254102

    For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches, and other leading Christian Bookstores: Singles With A Difference and A Living Witness.

     

  • When did we become a nation of such unhappy people?(1)

    Recently, the results of the ranking of the happiest countries in the world, was released. According to a new global happiness measurement, the Happy Planet Index (HPI), Costa Rica (in Central America), has become the happiest country in the world. The criteria used were namely life expectancy, experienced well-being and ecological footprint.

    With this new ranking, Nigeria has lost her prime position as the happiest country in the world. It was an unsolicited title bestowed on us about seven years ago by another happiness index group. Back then, the news was received with mixed reactions by many citizens. Some, seeing the dire situation in the country then, disagreed with the ranking, wondering the criteria used in judging us so highly in the happiness stakes.

    “How can we be the happiest people in the world with so much poverty, disease, hunger, unemployment and other indices of underdevelopment confronting us?” they wondered. Others, however, incurable optimists supported the ranking, buttressing their stand with this argument:

    “Agreed we have all these problems, but you still see people looking happy and smiling everywhere you turn even in the midst of all these problems. What does that tell you? That we are a happy people!”

    Between that time and today, a lot has happened and our happiness rating has fallen drastically. We are now number 135 in a ranking of 151 countries in the happiness index (with

    Botswana at the bottom of the table as the saddest country in the world).

    What could have happened to make us fall so low, from being the happiest to become one of the saddest countries in the world? Too much, I believe. And more is happening daily to wipe the smiles off our collective faces.

    The causes of misery in the land are obvious and some have been cited above. But above all these, is the death of hope. And optimism.

    Even in the midst of so much poverty, what kept most people, living truly miserable lives, going was the belief, the hope that there is a greater tomorrow- ‘e go better’ as we like to say in local parlance. That is the spirit that moves the market woman sitting under the scorching sun all day selling wares with a street value of less than a N1000, the teenage street hawker risking his young life dashing through the traffic to sell a few bags of ‘pure water’, the danfo driver who leaves home by 4 am to take commuters to their places of work, the unemployed graduate who left school when Abacha was still in power and has not worked for a single day but is praying and hoping that a good job, perhaps in an oil company will materialize soon…the list is endless.

    It’s this Nigerian spirit, a never say die one, that baffles foreigners who can’t understand why we seem to be so happy despite all the ills in our society. What they fail to grasp is our love of life. The average Nigerian will hang on to life no matter how wretched his condition is. That perhaps explains why we have such a low suicide rate compared to other countries, even more affluent societies with higher standards of living. It must take something really terrible for a Nigerian to take his own life. This is unlike in a country like Japan for instance when a man can jump off a bridge to his death just because he feels his name, image and reputation have been affected by a scandal or allegation.

    Not so in this country where some one will be caught stealing billions from the public treasury but will feel no sense of shame. Instead, when taken to court, even with his battered reputation, he will be seen smiling, in hand cuffs and waving to his supporters who are often dressed in aso-ebi, singing and dancing as if in a street carnival.

    Anyway, as I was saying, it’s our zest for life, a belief in a better future that made us rank very highly in the happiness scale in the past. But in the past couple of years, the tables have turned and something seems to have happened to our indomitable spirit…

     

    To be continued

  • Pastor Odukoya’s daughter in marital bliss

    A wedding ceremony that boasts A -list guests, sumptuous local and international meals, choice drinks and impressive gifts for new couple is nothing but a huge success. So it was for Tolu, the amiable daughter of Pastor Taiwo Odukoya, the Senior Pastor of the Fountain of Life Church, Ilupeju, Lagos and her heartthrob, Olumide Ijogun. The two exchanged marital vows at the church last Saturday.

    The reception, which held at the upscale events place, Haven, drew a perfect blend of guests ranging from clergymen and technocrats to industrialists and young professionals who see the bride’s father as a role model. The couple’s love story spans close to 10 years. They were high school lovers and were very close all through. Olumide later studied a computer-related course while Toluwani did business-related courses in the United States of America and Nigeria. Both are currently doing well in their respective fields. Olumide works at Honeywell Group, a company owned by popular industrialist, Oba Otudeko. Toluwani is the brand manager for Lucozade Sport.