Category: Weekend Treat

  • Mykmary Fashion Awards to boost startups in the fashion industry

    Mykmary Fashion Awards to boost startups in the fashion industry

    By Olaitan Ganiu

    Organisers of Mykmary Fashion Show & Awards have announced August 28th, 2021 for this year’s event.

    The fashion event is poised to ensure that the new entrants and start-ups get the desired leverage and platform to succeed and survive in such an industry.

    According to the organisers, the registration portal is open for both designers and exhibitors to make entries via the brand’s website.

    The show is scheduled to hold at Bespoke Event Centre, Lekki, Lagos, aimed to bring the Nigerian indigenous fashion to the forefront by showcasing, fashion runway, exhibition, and mentorship.

    “The award has opened the entry for those that are desirous to succeed in the fashion industry via their online and offline platforms.

    “With a unique sense of fashion. The fashion industry globally is highly competitive, this industry takes no prisoners and this has made start-ups and new entrants find it hard to survive due to the low awareness of their brand.

    Participants in the event would have the opportunity to meet and network with established high-end Fashion retailers, fashion enthusiasts, influencers, fashion designers, and entrepreneurs. In addition to making your experience worthwhile, high-end Fashion retailers, fashion enthusiasts, influencers, fashion designers, and entrepreneurs will grace the event.”

  • Girls, don’t turn your life to a casino!

    Girls, don’t turn your life to a casino!

    By Temilolu Okeowo  

     

     

    Dear Mummy Temilolu, you are one of the important women in my life. You’ve been a great mother to me. Thank you for all you do. I’ll be 20 years old on Saturday and I know that if I had not been reading your articles since my early teens, I’d have made many sexual mistakes. Your words have formed me to be a better person. Thank you so much for your constant words of encouragement. I pray God blesses you and enlarge you more than you can imagine!

    Pelumi

     

    Dear Madam,

    I stumbled on your article “God is super-committed to Virgins” on twitter.

    I am a 28-year-old virgin, and I met a guy who said he loves me early this year. He came all the way from Anambra State to Port Harcourt to see me. I went to see him in a friend’s house and he tried all he could to have sex with me. Yes I love him but couldn’t give him what he wanted. To shorten the story, when he wanted to return to Anambra State he refused to come and see me and when I asked why, he said if he sees me that his mood will change and he will start feeling the urge to have sex with me. What do I do in a situation where I’ve fallen in love with him?

    I want to visit him in two months and he said he loves me but don’t want to date me and be having sex outside. How do I get him to understand that I don’t want to have sex till my wedding night? HOW DO I GO INTO THIS KIND OF RELATIONSHIP?

    He even asked me the day we saw to just make him “release” even if he doesn’t go all the way but I couldn’t oblige him because to me that’s impure.

    I want to keep a godly relationship. But I think he doesn’t know how to control himself when he is with me. Do you think it’s okay for me to go and visit him?

    Jennifer

    My darling, precious, golden and uncommon Jennifer,

    First, I thank God with all my heart that the guy you discussed didn’t rape you! Who would see you as beautiful as you are and ever believe you are a virgin? You’ve done so well, I’m so proud of you and sure God is mighty proud of you too! Hmm…but why are you allowing your emotions get the better of you such that you’re gambling with your life? When did you meet him? Where do you know him from? DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU CARRY AS A 28-YEAR-OLD VIRGIN??? Only a man who pays your dowry should have access to your body and your spirituality! Haaa…He doesn’t deserve you and he’s not worth troubling your soul over my dear- after all the pain, denial, hardship and temptation you’ve endured??? Do you know how you weigh and what you are before God? Please don’t let the devil finally “get you.”

    He shouldn’t even come close to kissing you because if he does and with the strange affection building up inside of you, you are the one who will eventually open up her thighs. What do you think he has that you have been looking for in a man that God cannot give you in another man 10 times over? Take a chill pill my love! Don’t let loneliness and family/societal pressure push you into the hands of someone who would mis-use you! Take it or leave it, any man who knows your value would ask for your hand in marriage and wait till your wedding night! This one will mess up with your emotions and bolt! YOU’RE TOO MUCH AND GOD IS GOING TO SEND YOU A MAN THE WORLD WILL CONSIDER TOO MUCH before the month of June in Jesus name! You don’t deserve any less.

    Please read some of my nuggets on chastity and get some more conviction!

    • God has planned “wonderful wonders” for some this year but they’ll transfer it to others through ungodly sex. May you not lose what should settle you for life! Stay chaste!
    • Girls, sexual intercourse is a risky spiritual transaction! You should take the risk with just one man! May your life attract a spouse that’ll catapult your destiny to greatness!!!
    • The more you engage in ungodly sex, the more you reduce in the spirit of God! Is there any man worth that? May the devil not kill the giant in you!
    • If you’re still a virgin, you don’t know what you carry, PLEASE DON’T LOSE IT YET! If you’re no longer one, abstain till your wedding night! May God re-organise your destiny!

     

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  • God is super-committed to virgins!

    God is super-committed to virgins!

    By Temilolu Okeowo

    Dear Aunty Temilolu, I like what you stand for but then I ask myself “is it possible to keep one’s virginity till marriage in this generation?” This is a woke generation where sex is not a big deal anymore! Well, I am a virgin, and not proud of it…I decided to stay a virgin because I don’t fancy sleeping around. I am 24 years old, working and praying for a better job so I can take care of myself and my mum. I don’t know, but I feel keeping oneself these days should just be a choice…a boring choice that is! I’m hoping for a good man…and if I get one I will testify to the glory of God. Your posts make it seem like virgins will have it good in life! I am a virgin and I am not having it really good! I haven’t been enjoying life. I just hope for a good man. And if I get a good man I will preach sexual purity to girls and boys. Till then I don’t know if virgins are rewarded with good life for keeping themselves.

    I mean u see people who engage in premarital sex and they are making it big and a virgin is struggling…smh (shaking my head). It’s just grace.

    Oyinda

     

    Oyinda…Oyinda…Oyinda,

    Hmm…I’m also shaking my head at you! Under normal circumstances, I would use endearing words to start with but I can’t get over you underplaying the best thing that could happen to any young lady in this day and age! The precious gold a lot of girls are crying all over the place wishing they never lost! Whaaaat??? How can you ever look down on being obedient to God and doing things His way? Are you for real??? I salute you still for your determination and strong will because more often than not-only the presence of the Holy Spirit in a life can make one choose to remain a virgin till marriage! But the spirit speaking out of you is confusing I must say! How can you say choosing to keep one’s virginity till marriage is a boring choice??? May God forgive you!

    You are a wonderful lady still and I must say I love you! Do you know God has noted your vow to preach sexual purity to girls and boys if He gives you a good husband? Yes He has and you must be very careful now because the stupid, bad devil will do all it can to ensure you stop preserving it. And you must refuse to give in! Haa…after all the stress, temptations, painful denials, oppression, rejection, disappointment and a lot more you’ve had to contend with? Little do you know the best days of your life have just begun because we are going to table your matter before God at Girls Club. God is extra committed to those who refuse to defile His temple! You said “it is just grace” so if God grants those who disrespect His temple- their bodies- grace, what about those who present it as a living sacrifice?

    Read Also: Virgins carry what money cannot buy!

    Little did you know if you sit down properly and let God process you, you could sooner than later become what those you secretly admire can never dream of becoming even if they slept with the richest men in the world! You may study Mary the mother of Jesus, Queen Esther and Joseph in the bible. Little did you know a time could come when you’d wake up and wonder how you could ever have so much money without stress! I know what I’m talking about! If you like continue studying other people’s lifestyle instead of pursuing your destiny!

    God tells us in Leviticus 26:9 – For I will have respect unto you, and make you fruitful, and multiply you, and establish my covenant with you.”

    Imagine God respecting you because you follow His instructions. I’m sure you know I didn’t write the bible! I pray the power of God ignites your spirit, make you discover how precious you are in the hands of God and help you make demands that will transform your life forever and make you overtake those who have long gone ahead of you! You can be sure I will keep a tab on you! May God bless you and make you very great in Jesus name!

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  • Five unnecessary questions women ask men

    Five unnecessary questions women ask men

    By Chinyere Okoroafor

    Questions are asked for the sake of obtaining information that will help the person get a better understanding of something or affirmation to what they know already.

    However, in a marriage relationship, there are questions that are meant to be kept under the carpet to avoid arguments or feelings of low esteem.

    Some questions have led to the break-up of relationships.

    We are all wired differently when it comes to perceptions, ideas, knowledge and understanding.

    Here are a few selected five unnecessary questions women ask their men:

    · Do you notice any change in my appearance?

    Asking your man if he noticed anything different in your appearance is like him taking you to his car and opening the car hood and asking you what you notice.

    This kind of question is definitely going to generate a response that will insinuate a lot of things to you and thus leads to an argument.

    The way I see it, this is a setup question women bring up to psych their men mostly to know what he feels about them.

    The problem with this kind of question is that most men are likely going to say the wrong thing because he doesn’t want to demolish your own poor self-image if you constantly think negative about how you look.

    Give your husband the ability to affirm you without feeling like they are going to get in trouble if they get it wrong.

    · Do you think this dress makes me look fat?

    This is a stupid question because the man will never give you an honest answer and you don’t want to know the honest answer to this question. Men do not fall for that trap because she doesn’t want the honest truth.

    Why not check out your weight yourself? Even if you are big, he wouldn’t tell you because he doesn’t want you to feel bad so he pretends like he is not seeing it.

    Struggling with weight is something that many women will deal with at some point in their lives between pregnancy and menopause.

    This is your insecurity messing with your mind. It makes you want to be affirmed by your husbands.

    · ‘So what are you thinking?’

    Never ask a man the above question when he is watching his favorite football game. You are likely to get blank stares.

    With men, this question is about timing. Part of learning to tolerate one another is learning to embrace what is important to the opposite sex. We need to learn to ask better questions with better timing.

    · ‘Do you think that woman is prettier than me?’

    Never ask your man if another woman is prettier than you, he will give you the wrong answer.

    He will never give you an honest answer to that question so that he doesn’t hurt your feelings which will likely make you feel insecure.

    Comparing the beauty of another woman who you already think is prettier than you will only put your man on the spot.

    The only way he can answer it and not get in trouble with you is to say ‘what woman?’ Every woman has been woven together by her maker in heaven.

    We have all made to be beautiful, no matter what our present cultural norms say.

    Don’t ask your man what is wrong in a not relaxed mood?

    A man walks into his house obviously looking stressed or worried. You don’t approach him immediately when he hasn’t yet taken off his clothes, bath and relaxed. You will not get a good response.

    Communication and intimacy is something that women and men both value. Again, this question is about timing.

    When you noticed such a situation, keep calm; it is not the best time for a deep conversation. Allow him to process, pray, and at least unwind from the day.

  • Parents, your children become who/what you expose them to!

    Parents, your children become who/what you expose them to!

    By Temilolu Okeowo

    DEAREST Mummy Temilolu, Although, I’m a Muslim, I love you so much because your articles always touch my heart. Since I began reading your articles in my grandfather’s newspaper, my life has never been the same again! I feel so free of the weight my friends succeeded in placing on my heart because I want to keep my virginity till my wedding night. Please don’t stop writing as I look forward to reading you every weekend! Thank God for you!

    Misturat Alao

    Dearest Parents,

    In the last 2 months, the black community especially Nigerians all over the world have been applauding the first African, first black and the first woman in the world to head the World Trade Organisation- Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala who is unarguably a worthy role-model for any female the world over. Her rising and focus in life makes her a priceless gem, an enigma and a global wonder which any female should aspire to be like. Sadly, the role-model of an average Nigerian girl today is one with a questionable character who appears to have more vices than virtues. Please feel free to correct me if I’m wrong! However, I deal with girls on a daily basis and I know those they gravitate towards and those they wish to be like! But can one really blame them? We are all a product of our background, pedigree and what we were exposed to in our impressionable years/the values our parents handed us.

    Parents…parents…parents, please may I ask what you are exposing your children to and how you’re preparing them for the future? Are you intentional about your parenting or overwhelmed by the storms of life? This is a very serious matter! The average Nigerian girl is completely lost in guys/romance to start with, most of those with smart phones are mostly interested in what’s trending on the social media and what would make the world notice them so soon even when it doesn’t makes sense and comes with a price that could completely scatter their life’s settings!  These girls carry much more than you can ever imagine! They carry what can settle you in future and give you a life of your dreams! You need to monitor their focus, their friends, their role-models and prayerfully guide them to where their potentials can place them in life. I bet Dr. Okonjo-Iweala’s parents must have ensured all her potentials were put into good use! You can’t just mind your business saying you want them to follow the path their feet want to go! Haaa…may they not have fatal accidents on the highway of life!

    Girls…girls…girls, show me your friends and I will tell you who you are! Show me your role-models and I will show you your future!!!

    I pray your lack of foresight, impatience and inability to delay gratification will not kill your stars! I pray your concentration on the flash and glamour and those trending on social media today would not derail your destinies completely when you should be studying hard and developing yourself to have the best of life and become what no one in your generation can boast of! Do you even care to know God’s plan for your life?

    Enough of following makeup, Fashion, Art of Seduction & Dream Life Styles on Instagram! you can build yourself to become a great dream, an envy of nations like this global phenomenon- Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala -Nigeria’s first female Finance Minister, first female Minister of Foreign Affairs, Managing director of the World Bank and now the first African and the first female Director-General of the World Trade Organization!

    Lord have mercy!!! What a wonderful wonder! A fortress, an institution! The real eternal Excellency described in Isaiah 60! Now, nations would be clamouring for her attention!

    When she was your age, there was no internet, she didn’t have as much access as you have to acquire all the knowledge needed to be everything she is today! DO YOU KNOW YOU CAN BE MORE???Can you please in God’s name try and have excellent grades to start with and not be contented with being an average student and see where it can take you?

    Stop fantasising and sleeping on social media! Who says your star is destined to shine with modelling or singing or blogging or you know what? That may not be God’s plan for you! May the social media not derail your destiny! May your hard-work, consistency, diligence, excellence, dignity and integrity stand you out in the world and may you not end up with a man that’ll scatter your destiny in Jesus mighty name!!!

    I invite you to follow me on Facebook –TEMILOLU OKEOWO Instagram @ Okeowo Temilolu.

    FINAL WORD

    Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. Stay chaste!

    Evangelist Temilolu O. Okeowo is the founder and Head girl of The Girls Apostolic Ministry of All Nations, an apostolic ministry for girls in their teens and twenties, and Girls Club of Nigeria, an NGO for Nigerian girls aimed at influencing a positive change. She published her debut-book for girls – THE BEAUTY OF LIFE – as an undergraduate and has other books and publications. She was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2003 and is a Certified Forensics Examiner.

  • OLANIKE SHODUNKE: I built my self esteem on the job

    OLANIKE SHODUNKE: I built my self esteem on the job

    Olanike Shodunke is a woman with so many parts. A caterer, farmer, health advocate and entrepreneur. Interestingly, she tells you that the secret of her success is making sure that all the different parts are given attention. In this interview with Yetunde Oladeinde, she talked about her passion, memorable moments, challenges, future plans and more.

    What was the inspiration at the beginning?

    This is something that I am very passionate about and I would say that the inspiration to go into the sector was a calling.  In addition, I got inspiration from food Networks, top bakers in the industry and most importantly the feedback from my clients keeps me going.

    There are so many opportunities in the sector.  Man needs food to survive on a daily basis. In addition, my craving for a good meal, balanced diet inspired me to monetise this need. Personally, I love good food.

    What are some of the memorable moments in the sector?

    I have quite a number and they motivate me to do more and put in my best. One of such moments  was when I was invited by one of my clients for an event.  It was a catering job and I catered  for Kings, politicians and a number of celebrities.  It was an awesome experience  and my presentation was satisfactory and they all testified to it.

    What do you consider as the turning point in your life and career?

    The turning point in my life and career  was attending Leading Ladies Business Institute.  It is Nigeria’s foremost Business Institute for  female entrepreneurs . It was a wonderful  phase and the  exposure gave me a better  perspective and new orientation about the ease of doing  business.  It also broadened my knowledge in my field of expertise.

    What are the challenges?

    There are so many challenges.  This includes the current state of the economy, high cost of raw materials and so many other factors.  Unfortunately, this is not making the client to get the treats that they deserve or want.

    How has doing this influenced your personality?

    Working in the sector is very interesting  because you meet a lot of people on the job. It has therefore helped me to build  my self esteem and understand people  very  well. Now, I have great confidence in myself I believe that I can  achieve any goal that I set for myself.

    What advice do you have for Nigerian youths?

    I would tell them to maximize the opportunities around them and discover  their talents. Going to school  is good  but I will advise any youth today to look inward and get a trade. The crux of the matter is that  being financially independent and successful is very  important.

    There are no jobs out there and so must know your Onions, work hard and be determined.  Always remember that personal development is critical.

    What  are some of the other things that occupy your time?

    I am into network marketing and it’s been very worthwhile experience. Here I promote particularly health products. In addition, I am also a real estate consultant and poultry farming. I did a little bit of cucumber farming and right now, I am fully into poultry farming. And most importantly, my family occupies a big chunk of my time .

    What are some of the developments that you will like to see in the sector?

    The sector is a gold mine and there are so many opportunities  that need to be explored and developed.

    So, basically the changes that I would like to see in the sector are many. One of such is that I want to see Nigerian Menu being embraced all over the world. Our food is rich and it would be great to see our caterers making a mark and generating good revenue for themselves and the nation.

    What are you looking forward to in the next few years?

    There is so many things and aspect of the business that would have developed in unique ways. By God’s grace, I would love to see  my brand, Taste Imaginations become a household name and having branches in different parts of the world.

    Who or what do you consider as the greatest influence in your life?

    I have quite a number of people that I have worked with and they have influenced and impacted on my career greatly. However, I would just want to mention two of them here. The first is Mrs. Ibukun Awosika  and secondly, there is Mrs. Ayodeji Megbope. They have been a great source of inspiration and I admire them for the passion, hard work and dedication.

    How would you describe the impact of COVID-19? 

    We all know that COVID-19 impact my sector and it affected businesses and social gathering tremendously. Of course, we know that this   is actually the bedrock of outdoor catering,  events, parties and all this were all put on hold because of social distancing. So, basically  businesses  were affected including mine. However, I used that opportunity to work on the other aspect of my business and that gave me the ability to be innovative in different ways. I also spent more time on farming which is something that I am also very passionate about.

    What are some of the changes that you would like to see in Nigeria today?

    Nigeria is a very great nation and there are so many untapped opportunities and potentials. I have lived here for four decades and unfortunately, I am still looking forward to great things. I am yet to experience the greatness the way I would have loved to in different areas. So, I strongly believe that it is time for our youths to actively  participate in creating the  future that they want for themselves and for posterity.

    Tell us about your experience as a farmer?

    My experience as a farmer has been very interesting and impactful. As a poultry farmer we deal pure layers and the experience has been interesting and demanding as well. You need to be timely especially when it comes to feeding the birds. You have to be sure that the weather is perfect for the birds, not too hot and not too cold. It is also good to have very good and faithful staff. It is an asset to have trustworthy staff around the farm. They would make sure that nothing goes wrong any time or at all times.

    What are the challenges in farming?

    For me, the major challenge is getting staff that is trustworthy. This is very important when it comes to handling finance, sales of eggs, feeds. At some point, for close monitoring we had to install CCTV camera and another major challenge is that you need to avoid staff that are smoking and drinking alcohol. This can cause high bird mortality rate and we thank God that we have been able to manage all this challenges with wisdom.

    What are some of the changes that you would like to see in the sector?

    The price of a crate of egg for example has almost doubled within the last two years. The increasing insecurity challenge in the country has led to shortfall of the raw materials needed for chicken feed. If the government can help us solve the issue of insecurity in the country, then our produce would be available.

    How does this help to boost your catering business?

    The best way it can help me as a caterer or caterers generally is if government can solve the issue of insecurity in different parts of the country. Farmers would be encouraged to work or farm if insecurity is resolved. Then you would find that the prices of food stuff, vegetables, fruits and others would be affordable. That way aterers can serve or deliver their services at prices that are reasonable.

    Do you have young people who you mentor?

    Yes, I have people that I mentor. I actually mentor people in different aspects and the most important for me is being self employed and having good morals. All this help you to develop your personality as well as help to grow and sustain the business.

    You just clocked 40, what does this mean to you?

    To the glory of God, I believe that this is a new phase in my life. A new phase has started and I also believe that it is a phase of increase and responsibilities, leadership and mentorship. The past few years have afforded me some responsibilities that I carry. I want to use this to help others to thread safely in their endeavors. I would also want to make deliberate efforts to impact positive in lives and make it a life worth emulating.

  • Virgins carry what money cannot buy!

    Virgins carry what money cannot buy!

    By Temilolu Okeowo  

     

    DEAR Ma, “Why is it that those who are single and sexually-active are doing great all round and those who choose to keep their virginity till marriage look like God is not with them?”

    Mary Iye

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian daughters,

    I know a lot of you would remain virgins but for lack of even your basic necessities and societal influence to use your body to get what you want and then greed on the part of a larger percentage of you! Now, this is for virgins in great lack!

    Dearest, precious, uncommon virgins (in-lack),

    If only you could endure your hardship and ignore all the flash and glamour your promiscuous friends appear to be enjoying and look at Jesus on the cross of Calvary, believe me the earlier your glory will appear! the earlier you will not only become an envy of those you once envied, the earlier you will become a force to be reckoned with in the world such that kings & queens would claim you as theirs! I know what I’m talking about! ISAIAH 49:23

    Do you have the faintest idea of your scores before God? Can you ever imagine how God feels each time you turn down sexual advances because you fear Him? Haa…in this time and age??? Do you think he’d let that pass without rewarding you??? I pray your spiritual dullness and impatience won’t let you lose out! Yes! Because if you were spiritually-intelligent you’d clearly see God’s WONDROUS PLANS for you and joyfully wait even if it means not having enough to eat for some time!

    Even if you don’t believe so much in my articles, could you please borrow a leaf from 3 classical examples of the rewards of a chaste life in the bible? Was Mary the mother of Jesus recorded to be rich? No! But the angel Gabriel saluted her and gave her a full picture of what God said she was- “Hail Mary, Full of Grace, The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women…” God saw her fit to bring Him into the world. Though she birthed Jesus in a manger, she EFFORTLESSLY remains the MOST FAMOUS AND BLESSED WOMAN IN CREATION!

    Was Esther from a rich home? NO! She was an orphan, a slave girl taken care of by her uncle- a man who merely sat at the king’s gate! Yet she carried so much power and grace such that she displaced a whole queen in a foreign land! Hmm…. girls… girls…girls….could you please give me a break and let God happen in your life?

    What about Joseph? He was sold to slavery, he suffered a lot and had every reason to succumb to Mrs. Portiphar but for the fear of God, he gladly refused! Did God forget him? No! He not only made his dreams come true, he made him king over those who punished him!

    You may not have enough clothes today, you may be begging for food to eat but believe me if you saw your ORIGINAL in the spirit realm, you’d love God the more and be useful to Him while waiting for your glorification!

    I don’t care what the world thinks but I know for a fact that virgins, who are pure in spirit, untouched, uncontaminated are carriers of the supernal power of God, containers of glory, a light in every home, walking wonders, an authority in motion, a warehouse of incredible spiritual gifts money can’t buy and that’s if they discover themselves! If you’re one, I congratulate you! If you’re not one and single, how nice would it be to surrender to God AND STOP CHEATING YOURSELF, SUPPRESSING YOUR DESTINY!

    For every virgin going through hardship, may your testimony and glorification shake the world and for everyone who’s going to turn a new leaf after reading this, may God decorate your life and show you off to the world this very year in Jesus mighty name!!!

     

    Temilolu Okeowo

    E-mail: temiloluokeowo@gmail.com.  07086620576 (sms only)

  • May your daughter not be used as a “wealth-booster?”

    May your daughter not be used as a “wealth-booster?”

    By Temilolu Okeowo 

    Dearest Parents, Whenever I write that a lot of girls don’t know what they carry neither do their parents know, I know what I’m talking about. Also, haven’t you ever wondered why the African traditional practices which are deep in the supernatural and fetish attach so much value to a girl’s virginity?

    The female folk have been created by God with amazing spiritual gifts he hasn’t bestowed upon men. Also, an average woman can almost be likened to a deity as empowered by God. Any wonder why we have the sole privilege of incubating a human in our wombs for 9 months. An average woman is a harbinger of everything good and in particular- wealth! And yet they could also be unbelievably destructive! Haven’t you ever come across men who were once impoverished becoming so rich shortly after getting married? Unfortunately, a lot of “wise men” are taking advantage of this and emptying thousands of girls/ladies daily of what God has deposited in them to make them very comfortable and prosperous in life!

    A lot of girls are already finished even before they are age 20 and that’s why you find some women who enjoyed a wealthy lifestyle in their early 20’s while dating rich men who in their 40’s/50’s have nothing good to show for their days on earth and are practically living from hand to mouth. This is a very serious matter!

    About 2 months ago, a 16-year-old virgin came out to tell the world how a public servant invited her into his home and room and sexually-harassed her while he chanted incantations. Believe me, if that man had his way with the girl, there’s the probability that he would be settled for life from just one intercourse as a result of a transference of spirits/virtues. Yes! And the girl would become a complete shadow of her “original” as he would have invoked her positive aura, her prosperity, her stars, her glory and a lot more! The world is highly-occultic and these men don’t even have to sleep with these girls anymore before tapping from their virtues or practically draining them of it!

    Parents…parents…parents, with due respect to the boys who have their individual gifts and sterling qualities, spiritually- every girl-child is the light in your home! Her presence can bring you what a lifetime of hard-work cannot fetch you! Her simple supplication to God can fight for you and give you what powers you can’t deal with have deprived your generation for years! She can turn you from a pauper to a rich man if you raise her intentionally and allow the power of God work in her! I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT!

    Is it good for a total stranger to empty her of what God has deposited in her to become one of world’s most influential women/build you a mansion and fly you all over the world and give you a most beautiful life God has designed to compensate you with some day?

    Sirs and mas, may I announce to you that the world is going to get worse! 2 Tim.3:13 could you please plead with your daughters to be contented and stay away from promiscuous friends? Could you please remind them every morning of what they stand to gain if only they could shut the world away and face God with all their heart? Could you please tell them the world’s most beautiful and highly-sought after women are those who are sexually-pure and godly and not those a materialistic society celebrate on social media? Could you please tell them a lot of glittering ladies are spiritually-ragged? Could you please constantly remind them of Mary, Esther and Joseph in the bible?

    May I announce to you that more people are going to reap where they didn’t sow this decade and more men are going to use the unsuspecting and innocent girls out there to boost their wealth? Now, can you imagine the lot of ladies who foolishly go all out to sleep with men in exchange for money? They have done themselves in and might as well say a permanent goodbye to their glorious virtues because they traded it! Hmm…I can tell you one is better off dead than alive while another person is thriving with one’s virtues! MAY WE NOT BECOME A LIVING-DEAD!

    More of my nuggets on chastity

    Girls, too many women are being knocked down by life when they should be TITANS! Concentrate on God now not guys! May love poems not scatter your dreams!

    You’re still struggling for an admission into the university at 22 and you are engaging in ungodly sex! Hmm…may we not lose our mind and brain to the devil!

    I know some ladies who have been emptied of what should make them billionaires now begging to feed! Close your thighs! May you not become a victim in Jesus name!

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  • DEBOLA KURUNMI: Mentoring talents in the Commonwealth inspiring

    DEBOLA KURUNMI: Mentoring talents in the Commonwealth inspiring

    Debola Deji-Kurunmi is a coach who is passionate about equipping a new breed of African leaders.
    Over the years, she has been recognized for her leadership impact and this includes the being a two-time mentor at the Queen’s Young Leader Awards, 2018 Mandela Washington Fellow, 100 Most Inspiring Nigerian Women 2019 and currently serves as a Youth Representative at the Nigerian Economic Summit Group. In this interview with Yetunde Oladeinde, she takes you into her world.

    Tell us how you got into life as a coach?

    I got into coaching by accident literally, because I had always been the go-to counselor for friends and colleagues as far as 2002 while on campus. In 2003, I started a mindset empowerment community on Obafemi Awolowo University, which grew into a movement of young ladies who were awakened to a sense of purpose and personal power.

    Also because of my passion to transfer knowledge and show others whatever I find to be working for me, I naturally found myself in the coaching context from my early twenties.

    By 2010, my desire to create transformation for people and help them fulfil their higher potential had become a full-blown passion; thus, leading me to create safe spaces for people, especially women, to meet up, learn and connect with the insights they needed to improve their lives. Back then, I led what we called Life Academy for Women and freely produced Introspective Journals to aid personal reflection and journaling.

    In 2014, I officially founded IMMERSE Coaching Company as a personal transformation coaching firm for men and women seeking life clarity, intentional growth, elite productivity and visionary execution.

    What was the experience like at the beginning?

    Actually, I am always fascinated by the memory of how we started. We have been well received by our audience from the beginning. I started out providing coaching to 20 women at a time over a 30-day period, helping them clarify their goals, craft a commitment to healing and create their Life Plan.

    Every woman who went through the IMMERSE Academy as we called it at the time, would go and invite others. We quickly grew our clientele base simply by the power of crusadership. Our impact was significant and undeniable. We witnessed women starting businesses, stepping out domestic abuse, focusing on their goals and solving real problems in their communities.

    As our audience grew, we also started to expand our courses and programs, as well as began to recruit other Coaches, whom we trained and certified, to join the organization, so we could reach even more women. The journey has been amazing! What started as a community of 20 women, has grown into a global community of over 45, 000 members in 99 countries including men and women.

    What are some of your recent activities?

    IMMERSE Coaching Company has three distinct arms. We’ve got IMMERSE Inner Circle which is our women-only coaching membership with thousands of super-achieving and leading women who use our courses, programs, and resources as tools for their growth and personal transformation. Within this membership, we have served over 3, 000 women since we launched it in 2019 and we’ve built over 80 courses, accessible to our members.

    What inspires me the most about IMMERSE Inner Circle is our Changemaking Projects. Every 90 days, our members adopt a community, orphanage, hospital, school and others to provide charitable support and directly impact the vulnerable persons there.

    The second arm at IMMERSE is Men’s Arcade, which is our men-only coaching practice helping men attain real success and elite performance through mentorship, game-changing courses and valuable support systems for the work they do. We are excited about the partnerships we have with father-figures, male mentors and inspirational leaders who provide guidance to men on their path to elite performance and true success.

    The third arm is Visionary Compass, a 40-week high-tier coaching and mentorship system that helps visionaries and leaders elevate their income, impact and influence through their life’s work.

    You are also an author of 20 books, what is the inspiration?

    Well, I believe that books are a powerful way to store transgenerational wisdom and preserve legacy. Books are a way to remind the next generation of the mysteries you uncovered in your time. Books are gateways into realms where men lived and wisdom they discovered. I write books because I want to connect with people in intentional ways, and allow them to experience mental awakenings at their own pace.

    I love writing, and I have so many more books within me which would be released in the days ahead by the grace of God. Some of my most loved and widely read books are the 4 books in the FIRERBAND Series, My Life is Full of Encounters, and Kingdom of Words.

    What does being a two time mentor at the Queen’s Young Leaders’ Award in the UK mean to you?

    It is completely humbling to mentor some of the most outstanding young leaders in the Commonwealth. First of all, I am so proud of the Queen’s commitment to highlight the extraordinary work and achievements of young outstanding visionaries across the Commonwealth and to invest in a program that equips them for even greater effectiveness.

    Being a two-time mentor is an honor that afforded me the opportunity to directly impact those building solutions particularly for Africa, and creating change for vulnerable communities. This is at the heart of the work I’ve done in the last ten years, and I found it a source of great joy to provide guidance, support, and practical advice to these young leaders during their time at the Queen’s Young Leaders’ Program.

    What are the challenges you encountered with the COVID-19 pandemic?

    The COVID19 pandemic definitely hit the world in profound ways and highlighted to us some important lessons which continue to shape how we live, work and interact.

    As a Coaching Firm, we had so many clients and members of our global communities who were badly hit with severe financial and health challenges. We thus had to become merchants of hope and quickly pivot our coaching approach to provide resources on coping, resilience, mental health and inner strength.

    On the other hand, COVID-19 met us prepared as far as our work at IMMERSE Coaching Company is concerned. We had fully built out a virtual learning platform to host our interventions including fully online courses, virtual conferences and non-residential programs. We significantly grew our audience during the Pandemic, and became the go-to resource center for founders, executives and leaders seeking coaching, training and human capital management.

    What are some of the memorable moments in your life and career?

    Well, my career has been an adventurous journey of personal discovery and self expression! I found early that I am a multi-dimensional woman with many gifts and many sides to me. So I generally took a path of discovering my passions, testing different waters without falling into stereotypes or fixating on labels; and I embraced the principles of stewardship and value creation as navigation tools for a life of purpose.

    I started out as a HR professional, working across recruitment, training and development, compensation and benefits as well as performance management. And totally loved my experience! After a few years, I moved into consulting and specialized in learning and development because from the beginning till now, I have always been a firm believer in the power of knowledge to transform people.

    When I couldn’t contain my passion for social innovation and public policy, I moved into the international development arena, working on projects by the World Bank, United Nations and Crans Montana Forum. During this time, I also took on a job with an ASPEN-mandated Foundation in Nigeria focused on female entrepreneurship.

    Strengthened by my desire to equip NGOs and nonprofits in Africa to better deliver social impact, I founded Ideation Hub Africa in 2015, which has grown into a 12, 000+ member-strong ecosystem of nation builders, social innovators and nonprofit professionals building Africa through their development efforts.

    All the while, I never stopped investing in my passion for people’s development and after I left consulting in 2014, I also founded IMMERSE Coaching Company. At IMMERSE, we help people actualize their higher potentials and achieve their goals through personal transformation. Our biggest proofs are the over 45, 000 people across 99 countries of the world who have taken our courses and joined our coaching programs. Today, we have many of our members creating change within their industries and countries.

    What is your experience as a Mandela Washington Fellow?

    Oh! That was actually a significant experience for me. In 2018, I was selected by the US Government as one of the most outstanding young leaders in Africa alongside other brothers and sisters of mine on the continent. It was definitely validating to be recognized for my commitment to build Africa by building its people. This has always been my desire and dedication.

    Being selected as a Mandela Washington Fellow took me to the United States, touring exceptional businesses, charities and government parastatals across the State of Minnesota, as well as undertaking an Executive Education Program at University of Minnesota’s Humphrey School of Public Affairs. At the end of the fellowship, I was selected to deliver an IGNITE Talk to my colleagues at the Summit in Washington DC. That IGNITE Talk “how to fry fish to solve a wicked problem” became a source of inspiration to many visionaries home and abroad.

  • You need the power of God to remain a virgin till marriage!

    You need the power of God to remain a virgin till marriage!

    By Temilolu Okeowo

    Dear Aunty Temilolu, I am 26 years old. When I was growing up I made up my mind to remain a virgin till my wedding night. I have 3 elder sisters and none is married. I have been so scared that I am not going to get married as well.  I kept up the fight till my 25th birthday last year. I began having doubts that if I stayed without a boyfriend I’d never get married and I needed someone that will be helping me financially and all the men coming wanted sex, so I decided to have a boyfriend and then deflowered myself.

    Ma, I am ashamed of myself now because from November 2019 to October 2020, I have slept with six men and none of them have proposed marriage to me, the issue now is that they only want my body and nothing else!

    I have become a shadow of myself, I am depressed and ashamed of myself. Each time I go through your articles especially the one you wrote about a 25-yr- old virgin that is getting married very soon, I cry in regret wondering why I didn’t wait for God’s time! God’s time is the best my brethren, please pray for me to stay chaste and wait for the right man. I am now waiting for God’s will on my matter. God will bless you ma!

    C.

    Girls…girls…girls,

    Wow! Just wow!!! How can you preserve your virginity till 26 and then sleep with 6 guys in 11 months after all that painful endurance, all forms of embarrassments and refusal to fall into temptation even in great lack? I tell you, it’s pointless wanting to subdue your flesh and preserve your virginity if you’re not possessed by the Spirit of God. Which power do you have to fight sexual urges when they come? “Sitting on” facebook, Instagram, ticktok or your false lashes, wig, make-up…certainly not! You need a higher power to be able to tame your flesh because fleshly lust is a spirit and your sexual urge even though normal- if not tamed could eventually control you and direct your life! Yes! And the earlier you get fired up in the Holy Spirit, the easier you will find it to preserve your virginity till your wedding night. The bible even confirms this in Acts 1:8 “But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you…”

    You have to be very determined and shut the world away!  You have to act as though you’re only in this world to please God otherwise, the world would get not only into your head but into your eyes, ears, heart and every sense of reasoning you have and influence you wrongly! This is a very serious matter!

    You have to make the conscious efforts especially when your parents haven’t laid a solid spiritual background for you! Even as we speak, a lot of parents don’t emphasise sexual purity to most of you, they just say it passively. What then can anyone do? And to think your sexual purity can enable you amass enormous power to fight the ancestral battles that conquered your parents and made a mess of some lives. Unfortunately, before an average girl even discovers herself, her life is open to demonic invasion through sex. And sadly, a lot of churches you’d rather attend would tell you, you don’t need the fire of deliverance as old things have passed away after you got born-again! Hmm…may the devil not sit permanently on your life and drive it as it likes! Just check out the Miss C’s experience! I pray you would be massively, richly and entirely sorted out in life by God by the time you are her age! Yes because under normal circumstances, a glorious and a wonderfully-wonderful life should be an outcome of a chaste life!

    Miss C is on a spiritual reformation and God is going to make a spectacular showcase of her to the world. Here are more of my nuggets which would encourage you to stay chaste till your wedding night.

    Girls, too many beautiful women are spiritually-ragged! Of what good is a rag? BY ALL MEANS STAY CHASTE!

    Girls, you’re better off wearing rags than clothes gotten in exchange for sex! May God clothe you with unending, overwhelming, global honour in Jesus name!

    It’s not enough to abstain from ungodly sex, you must be in the spirit always and guard your privacy! May our flesh not disgrace us in Jesus name!

    Defiling your body- God’s temple is utter disregard for the Holy Spirit! May God not turn His back on you when you need Him most!

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