Category: Weekend Treat

  • Maintaining intimacy during pregnancy

    Sharing dates, intercourse and anticipation of parenthood should bring couples closer – with or without orgasm

    The swelling belly that punctuates the beauty of motherhood can sometimes be a speed bump to intimacy between husband and wife. It doesn’t have to be. Here’s how to navigate maternity in a way that preserves the romance and sexual chemistry.

    Mission 1: How can a husband create an atmosphere for sex without coming off as a selfish, horny, insensitive pervert?

    Emotional Foreplay! Romantic overtures like the husband bringing flowers, cooking a special dinner, caressing the stomach and even brushing the hair are signs of tenderness to remind his lady that she is still beautiful and adored. It doesn’t hurt to come right out and call her beautiful either.

    Intimacy during pregnancy is about more than sex; it is ultimately about two people feeling connected in a cloud of protective love and desire of their own making. That means intercourse, emotion, and communication are all part of the intimate package needed especially during pregnancy.

    Mission 2: As the baby grows, sex feels uncomfortable for me as a wife. What are the most comfortable positions for sexual intimacy during pregnancy?

    First of all, you won’t harm the baby. Second of all, fatigue, nausea, breast tenderness, and the increased need to urinate during sex may be so off-putting during the first trimester that sex is not feasible. But in the second-trimester when the hormones kick in and the breast grow rounder and more luscious — whoa baby! Here are tips to consider for sexual intimacy during pregnancy then: have sex sideways, or lie on your back slightly propped up on a pillow while your partner holds your legs up. Mutual oral or manual stimulation might also be comfortable and desirable.

    Mission 3: How can I think about sex when I’m fat and feeling unpretty?

    Embrace pregnancy as one of the most beautiful times in a woman’s life. It’s a cliche but it’s true. Many men actually like when the body becomes rounder, especially the bosom. Femininity is often associated with soft, fleshy curves. Remember the full-figured Rubenesque art celebrated as the epitome of womanhood during the 17th century? So, buy some clothes —including lingerie — that flaunt that incredible belly and bosom!

    Mission 4: Why do I crave MORE sex now that I’m pregnant — and what if my husband can’t keep up with my new sex drive?

    Many pregnant women, due to the increase in progesterone and estrogen, may find their libido surging! Their bodies will supply extra sensitivity of the breast and labia, as well as increased vaginal lubrication. These basics for increased sex drive, however, may go no where if the husband’s drive goes down. Sometimes husbands fear they can hurt the baby, which is rarely true. Let him know that the baby is protected by your abdominal muscles as well as the amniotic sac.

    Some husbands find maternity to be a time of pristine adoration and find sex with the mother figure inappropriate. If your husband has this reluctance, consider going to talk it out together with a therapist. If that doesn’t work, you might have to consider self-pleasure.

    In the final trimester, a lack of sexual interest might be shared by both of you as you anticipate parenthood. Husbands often exhibit lower testosterone and increased estrogen that might lower their sex drive as they near fatherhood, according to a recent report in Redbook Magazine.

    Mission 5: If I want to have sex while pregnant, during what time periods are safest?

    The first trimester is generally not recommended or even desirable if you are experiencing physical symptoms such as nausea, fatigue, breast tenderness and cramping. In the second trimester those ailments wane and that time is generally the safest and most lusty period. The final trimester is safe as well and can relieve the stress of being pregnant. However, during the final days be cautious about orgasms that squeeze the uterus and consider opting for simple intercourse without climax.

    Some reports suggest women who continue sexual intimacy while pregnant , especially during the last trimester, don’t need forced deliveries.

    Mission 6: Can I use personal satisfaction toys during intimate play with my spouse?

    According to Dr. Marjorie Greenfield of DrSpock.com, using toys, such as vibrators during pregnancy, is safe. However, some experts caution that you increase the risk of going into early labor because the more powerful orgasms could lead to contractions in the third trimester. Make sure any object inserted into the vagina is clean to avoid bacterial infections. Also, do not insert too deeply so as to avoid puncturing the placenta, according to doctors on BabyCenter.com — objects can punctuate more readily than flesh.

    As an alternative, the husband may wish to try a vibrating ring for intercourse.

    Some women report that the orgasms from electric sex actually help them fall asleep better during pregnancy.

    Mission 7: If I’m not experiencing the expected lubrication during pregnancy, what can I do?

    Try a non-irritating lubricant like AstroGlide or Slippery Stuff. If you prefer to go the organic route for intimacy during pregnancy, coconut oil is a great natural lubricant that smells good and is anti-bacterial.

    Mission 8: Instead of sex, what else can my husband and I do to feel close to each other?

    Hugging, kissing, spooning should be constant staples when a couple plans intimacy during pregnancy. Avoid massages which could be too stimulating to the uterus and baby. Going on dates might be a fun activity to look forward to — and not just for the wife. Dates would remind the husband that he’s special and that you have time for more than just the baby. This is very important psychologically as the husband undoubtedly anticipates that you and the baby, by virtue of being in the same body for nine months, will be devoted to one another in a way he can’t share. Some couples enjoy writing daily letters, notes or journals to each other about their maternity experience and anticipation — tokens that can be shared later with the child as a keepsake.

    Don’t forget the technical flirtations by text-message, email or cell phone when the spouse is working and away from home frequently. Three-way intimacies like listening to romantic music with headphones on the stomach for the baby or reading aloud together so the baby can pick up on both your voices are also overwhelmingly tender moments.

    Source: Yahoo Health

  • Eki Igbinedion on the rebound?

    One woman who is fast losing her place in the corridors of power and high octane social functions is the amiable former First Lady of Edo State, Eki Igbinedion. Even her pet project, Idia Renaissance, has gone into oblivion. The non-governmental organisation by which Eki sought to restore hope and dignity to humanity and promote the cultural values of the people of Edo State is now history.

    At inception, the project enjoyed widespread acceptance due to the twin scourge of prostitution and women trafficking that constituted major headaches to the ancient city of Benin. But in spite of the remarkable success that attended the initiative at inception, it has gone the way of many of its kind established by some other first ladies in the past.

    Since 2007 when Lucky igbinedion finished his two terms as governor with virtually nothing to show for it, Eki seemed to have also disappeared from the social radar. And so has her Idia Renaissance project, with all the money invested in it going down the drain. But those who are close to her told Happenstances that she is planning to revive the moribund project. How true? Well, time will tell.

  • Marriage not on the card for Omasan Buwa

    Omasan Buwa is having a rollicking time at the moment. The one time beauty queen is happy with her new lease of life. She has decided to shed her toga of shyness to wear the garb of courage and make the best of this season. Hardly would you see Omasan now without smiles on her face.

    Happenstances gathered that the former London-based BEN TV presenter came about this new mood when she secured an appointment as the Executive Assistant on the Physically Challenged to Governor Emmanuel Uduaghan of Delta State. According to an insider, her happiness has nothing to do with any pecuniary gains associated with political appointment. She is still single after divorcing her husband of 13 years.

    Rather, her cheery posture has to do with the fulfillment she is deriving from putting smiles on the faces of the less-privileged who are the focus of her appointment and in whom she has found companionship. Omasan came into national consciousness after winning the second edition of the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria pageant in 1987. She later represented Nigeria at the Miss Universe, Miss World and Miss Intercontinental.

  • Hadiza Okoya comes of age

    Hadiza Okoya, the gorgeous 25-year-old lady who recently relocated to Nigerian from England, was honoured by his billionaire father penultimate Sunday. The Aare of Lagos welcomed his love child, who a Sierra-Leonean woman had for him in London 25 years ago, with a soiree held inside the banquet hall of his Oluwa ‘Ni ‘ Sola Estate, Ajah, Lagos.

    It was a two-in-one shindig as the welcome party coincided with Hadiza’s 25th birthday. Aare Okoya’s wife, Shade, was more like the chief hostess. Also at the event were Chief Demola Seriki and his wife, Wosilat, and other Okoya’s children. They included Tunde, Aina and Taofiq. There were many other guests in attendance and it was fun Hadiza’s step-mother ensured that every guest was treated to a nice time.

    Hadiza attended the University of Hertfordshire, London, England, where she studied Advertising and Media. She will be going for her national youth service programme any time soon. Those who should know told Happenstances that she has blossomed into a beauty reminiscent of her mother’s attractive looks.

  • Anxiety over Akeem  Shodeinde’s health

    Anxiety over Akeem Shodeinde’s health

    For those who have been wondering about the whereabouts of Akeem Shodeinde, owner of Movada Night Club, one of the biggest night clubs in Nigeria located in Ikoyi, Lagos, Happenstances has gathered that he has been under the weather in the past few months. One of his close friends told Happenstances that the night club owner had been battling with a certain ailment in the last few years.

    He was said to have travelled to India for treatment last year and actually seemed to have recovered only for the sickness to relapse a few months ago. An inside source said: “Akeem is very ill and has been advised by his doctors to stay off alcohol and smoking.” At the moment, his health is said to have deteriorated and he has lost weight. He is also said to be undergoing treatment at one of the private hospitals on Victoria Island, Lagos.

    He no longer appears and has left the club business for his brother to run. The story of his illness provides an explanation for his sudden and continued disappearance from the social scene.

  • Kema Chikwe set  to become grandmother

    Kema Chikwe set to become grandmother

    She has sown the seeds and her time to reap is here. Any moment from now, there will be the cry of a new baby to signal the arrival of former Minister of Aviation, Mrs Kema Chikwe, into the world of grandmothers.

    Nicole, wife of her musician son, Naeto C, is heavily pregnant. And with the way she paraded her protruding tummy last Saturday when computer guru, Leo Stan Ekeh, gave her daughters hand out to Tolu Ijogun in an elaborate wedding ceremony, it was evident that she might be delivered of a baby at any time.

    Nicole and her husband were the cynosure of all eyes at Ekeh’s daughter’s wedding at the Eko Hotel & Suites, Victoria Island, Lagos last Saturday. All things being equal, the couple will contribute their quota to the nation’s population any time from now and Chikwe will proudly become a grandmother.

  • From you to me

    •Adeola, my dear, the lady after my heart. God bless you. You don’t know how many lives you touch every Saturday. Your articles make my day. As I was reading your article of 26 Jan 2012, I read the story of Dami. It is not only the women but some men too are fraudsters too.

    Most of them call telling you that they are in the EFCC cell, that you should send recharge cards. Some call telling that their divorce case is in court that he you should provide money for the divorce case and that once that is over then he gets married to you. Further investigations, you discover there is no divorce and the person is happily married. You find someone you have not seen telling you I love you.

     

    •Adeola, I don’t know what the world is turning into. I remember days of pen pals. I have seen people get married through this. There are genuine ones out there also the ones who are fraudsters and more. All you do is if your profile is published be on alert, be careful, be warned, that is just the truth. Most of the men calling may not have genuine interest, all they are looking for is bed partners or to dupe one. Please keep it up. Don’t let these fraudsters kill your vision.

    God bless you. Have a great day. – Onyi, 08028260208.

     

    •Hi Deola, more power to your elbow. My name is Adeyinka Olowoniyi, I’m a reader of your articles because I’m also in matchmaking business and I want to react to the guy who said a girl duped him. Maybe the guy is impotent or how can someone be so foolish that you are in love with someone you have never seen before. I beg continue with your good work. God will crown your efforts.

     

     

  • One mistake my father  made which I’ll avoid- Rotimi Williams’ eldest son Ladi

    One mistake my father made which I’ll avoid- Rotimi Williams’ eldest son Ladi

    Chief Ladi Williams needs no introduction. He is not only a Senior Advocate of Nigeria, he is the eldest son of the late legal luminary, Chief FRA Williams, popularly called Timi the Law during his lifetime. In this interview with INNOCENT DURU, he speaks about the challenges facing the judiciary in the country and the mistake he said his father made in his career as a lawyer which he would never repeat, among other issues. Excerpts:

    Kindly tell us more about yourself?

    I am the eldest son of late Chief FRA Williams. I have my law firm here in Victoria Island where I practise with my daughter and son. I have been in practice for 40 years. This is my 41st year and I have been a member of the inner bar, that is the body of senior advocates for approximately 18 years .

    Your father was a lawyer, you are a lawyer and your children are lawyers. What is in this profession that has been attracting your whole family into it?

    My grandfather was also a lawyer. Well, my grandfather was a lawyer because his own father who was a businessman wanted him to be a lawyer because he found that in business, he needed a good lawyer. The businessman’s best friend is his lawyer. These days, I dare say that lawyers are best friends of civil servants and politicians. To that extent, he must have felt that the best thing to do was to ensure that his own son read Law so that he could assist in furthering his business. He was a shipping magnate in those days. So he went to read Law in London that time and I think he was called in 1927. My father naturally took after him. I believe that he could have done Engineering or Mathematics but somehow, he chose to follow his father’s footstep.

    In my own case, I started following my father to court when I was age 12. I recall one occasion in Ibadan soon after he was made a Queen’s counsel, I put on his gown, which was very long as you can imagine and his wig, which was too big for my head and I was admiring myself in the mirror in his dressing room only for my mother and my father to come in suddenly into the dressing room and they saw me. Immediately they saw me, I got scared and I quickly removed the wig and the gown but my father said I should put it back on, that he had blessed that day and that by the special grace of God, that I would wear the wig and the silk gown on my own merit and I have done just that.

    When I was called to the inner bar, it was indeed the first time ever in the legal history of Nigeria that father and son who are SANs would appear in court together. Thereafter, my two children started following me to court as teenagers whenever they came home on vacation. They are qualified now. My eldest child is about 15 or 16 years at the bar and my son is about 12 years at the bar. It has been a family tradition. Already, when I look at my grandson, I used to tell his father, who is a lawyer, that the shape of his head looks like that somebody who is going to study Law (general laughter). On one occasion when I came back from the court, I put my wig on his head and he was looking at the mirror and I said to myself that history is repeating itself.

    Your father was a very successful lawyer no doubt. What are the virtues you took from him and what were the mistakes he made that you would not want to venture into in life?

    I think the major mistake he made was to have gone into politics. I think that you should either be 100 percent a politician or 100 percent a lawyer. I don’t see myself going into politics. That was the major mistake that he made that I don’t intend to make. He was a very intelligent man; an intellectual. Anytime he prepared a document, let it be 30 or 50 years, he would remember. He didn’t forget faces, events or documents that he prepared himself. He remembered everything to the letter and to the very end, he was never senile. A few months before he died, myself and Mr Eddy Chukwurah had to go to England to seek his opinion on a matter that was to come up in the Supreme Court, which I had to take because he was too ill to take it. Then on another occasion, the former Attorney-General of Lagos State, my learned colleague in the inner bar, Prof. Osibajo, also had cause to fly to London to see him on this local government matter between former Lagos State Governor, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, and former President Olusegun Obasanjo, over certain areas which were designated as local government areas and the withholding of funds. Again, this was a few months before he died. It all happened while he was receiving treatment in London and was able to attend to Prof. Osibajo adequately.

    The matter that Mr Chukwurah and myself went for was a case involving Ikeja Hotels and Mask, a shipping company. These were complicated matters and as at that time, he was 84, going to 85 years and he had the mental agility of a 30 year- old in terms of grasping problems and giving us illuminating suggestions and ideas. He looked at the briefs we wrote and gave us his suggestions, which we incorporated. Those were the qualities that he had but those qualities were ill-suited to being a politician. These were the qualities that were needed to be a good lawyer. That was why even when he was in the Western Nigeria as the first ever attorney-general, he never used to contest elections. He entered the Lower House through the House of Chiefs. The chieftaincy title that he had at that time, the Apesin of Itoko in Abeokuta, was what enabled him to enter into the Western Regional House of Assembly. He did not get in by election and that was why when there was campaign in those days, the famous Ibadan leader, the late irrepressible Adegoke Adelabu, used to refer to him as a ‘minister without constituency’. He was in the house but he did not contest elections. To that extent, I would say he ought not to have gone into politics at all.

    If you look at it now, many lawyers are venturing into politics; so why would you say it was a mistake for him to have ventured into it?

    That is not quite correct. Lawyers appear for politicians but it does not mean that they belong to their parties. For example, I have appeared for ACN before when I appeared for Mrs Abike Dabiri-Arewa. I have appeared for PDP before when I appeared for Engineer Segun Oni. I have appeared for ANPP in Sokoto State when I appeared for Alhaji Mohammed Ishau. These are major political parties. Once you mention ACN, PDP, ANPP, CPC is relatively new, so you have more or less covered the ground. That does not make me a member of those three parties. I am in a position to take brief from any one of them without being a part of them. Senior lawyers today are not really politicians. They are states men and they will take cases from anybody. Take my very good brother, Wole Olanipekun (SAN), he appeared for President Goodluck Jonathan in one of the elections. Prior to that, he appeared for the late President Umaru Yar’Adua in an election petition; yet he appeared for my good brother, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, when he was arraigned by the Code of Conduct Bureau. If there is any opposition that PDP has today, it is the ACN. I know that he is not a card-carrying member of the PDP or the ACN, he takes cases as they come irrespective of the parties they belong to and gives his best to all of them. I do the same too.

    You have a very tight schedule as a legal practitioner. How do you relax ?

    I start work by 7.30 am and I close at 7.30pm from Monday to Friday. On weekends, I take it a bit more leisurely by starting at 9am and by noon, I close. Thereafter, I watch the English Premier League matches, if there is any. I watch the African plays and read a few non- legal books. If I am feeling a bit energetic, I call my grandchildren to come and trouble me a bit. When their trouble becomes too much, I would call their parents to come and take them away (general laughter). That is how I spend my weekend. Then, I like taking trips abroad on vacation twice a year. I support Manchester United because I like their pattern of play. The coach, Sir Alex Ferguson, will take a player from another club and mould him in such a way that he would fit into the pattern of play of the club. Take someone like Van Persie, who he picked from Arsenal and brought him to Manchester United and he is now doing far better with Man U than when he was at Arsenal. I don’t know what would happen to Man U when Ferguson leaves.

    Why is it that the law is hard on poor criminals and lenient with rich criminals? Does it have to do with the age of the Penal Code?

    The law has to be reviewed but it does not have to do with common man or no common man. At the time the Penal Code which is the law that is operational in the North was promulgated I doubt if anybody used to talk about billions in our judicial lexicon. When you can hardly count N100, 000, you are now talking of billions. You don’t talk about such kind of money before independence or shortly after independence. It came into being with the discovery of oil which is now turning to be a curse on us. Nobody can ever have the foresight at the time that the law was promulgated, that there would be people that would be in position to manipulate the system and take this amount of money. The man confessed and it is not a matter of ‘you are innocent until proven guilty’. There has to be special legislation and the EFCC statute is a good starting point. This is not really money laundering per se. I don’t think he was charged for money laundering. I think he was charged for conversion of police pension fund to his own use. That was what the EFCC charged him with. The judge I believe can amend the charge in some cases and say that no, conversion carries a relatively more lenient punishment, I will regard the charge as a theft because you have taken money which does not belong to you with the intention of permanently depriving another of it. That will now bring the charges to the arena of theft which is very serious. That one can carry seven years, I believe. The judge can do that but he did not do that. If he did not do so, you can’t blame him because he had the discretion not to do so. That is why I have said ‘go to the Court of Appeal and make your complaint there’. There is no point lambasting the judge in the media.

    Let us look at the issue of plea bargaining, which has become a quick way out for people indicted for corruption. Is it in our laws and are we doing it the right way?

    Plea bargaining is really an invention of the United States and Britain, to some extent. It is meant to shorten trial, save public funds and make the administration of justice less cumbersome when you don’t go the whole hog of the trial. If you take the cases of Mrs Ibru, she simply gave up fighting and threw in the towel. She was given about six months or one year and a lot of properties were taken from her. She was sentenced and regrettably, that made her an ex-convict. If she had fought the case, may she would have had a chance, I don’t know. Compare it with the case of Akingbola who is being tried presently, he may or may not get off. That is why it is said that the law is an ass. If he gets off in the High Court it is left to the EFCC to appeal.

    These are two scenarios and you can see how long it has taken for the trial and it is still very much on. By the time it is fought in the Court of Appeal, the Supreme Court, even the present administration would have been history. The cost to the public is phenomenal. We don’t have a formal provision for plea bargaining in our criminal procedure. The National Assembly is yet to make a legislation prescribing plea bargaining in our criminal proceedings. Until that is done, I am a little bit uncomfortable that we are actually doing it before it is formalised. Well it is up to the discretion of the prosecutor and the accused person to negotiate. The judge can only go by what presented before him. He is to determine the issue of liability, issues of crime and punishment. He cannot meddle in the negotiation between the accused and the prosecutor.

    Many Nigerians obviously have lost confidence in the judiciary. Do you subscribe to the fact that the judiciary has not helped in the fight against corruption?

    The bulk of our judicial personnel are doing a very good job in an atmosphere that is not too conducive. So, I will not make a blanket statement condemning all judges. The problem is that the bad ones are giving the good ones a very bad name. The public perception of the judiciary today is very embarrassing to many of us who are legal practitioners. There is no point trying to convince ordinary men and women in the public that the judiciary is not that bad because they have a mind set of justices. These bad eggs have given the majority bad reputation and we now have a new Chief Justice of the Federation who has come into that seat on a very strong perception of a good moral and judicial character. The nation is looking at her. The first three months was honeymoon in the sense that it was nice to see a woman as the head of the judiciary.

    I too have a daughter, so I am on the side of women. She now has to show that what a man can do, a woman can do better. Let her go back to the days of Justice Muhammed Uwais when if you misbehave as a judge you are out. If you go beyond your code of conduct, you are out. Since Justice Uwais left office, I can’t remember really of any judge being disciplined by way of removal from office whether by retirement or by expulsion. I don’t recall any of the succeeding Chief Justices doing that. Certainly the last Chief Justice did nothing about disciplining of judges. He did absolutely nothing. The one before him was Justice Katsina-Alu, I don’t recall any judge being disciplined for anything whatsoever. Before then was Justice Kutigi, a perfect gentleman, again I don’t recall any judge being disciplined. Before him was Justice Belgore. He did not stay for too long so presumably you can say that had he stayed longer, maybe he would have followed the foot step of his predecessor. But Justice Uwais did a lot when he was there for the judiciary.

    Unfortunately, successive chief justices have not taken step whatsoever to clamp down on the few bad eggs that are destroying the judiciary. We are waiting to see what the Chief Justice Aloma Muktar will do. The public is watching, the entire nation is watching. We (the general public) still hold the belief that when she gets the rhythm of movement, we should be able to see a very serious decision being taken about justices who misbehave. For those that are doing their work well, you don’t hear about them, because they are quiet, they follow the law without fear or favour. Even amongst us lawyers that are in practice, we know when a case goes before justice XYZ, we would say ‘that judge, he is as straight as a ruler. You can’t compromise him or her. If you dare to compromise him or her, she might throw the Bible at you or something like that’. Again we also have some that we would say ‘ah that one make we go settle am o (go and settle him)’ because he is very flexible. Lawyers are only afraid to speak out because they believe that if they do speak out, judges would gang up against them and they would be losing all their cases and nobody would want to brief them because they would say that lawyer is not popular with judges because he has been criticising them. This is why majority of senior lawyers don’t want to talk. That is why it now behooves the leaders of the judiciary to do something.

    When you talk about judicial reforms, what changes would you effect if given the opportunity?

    That is a very good question because it is a question that has agitated the minds of those of us who are in practice. The first thing I will do is to address the jurisdiction of the Supreme Court. I will limit their jurisdiction to constitutional cases, criminal cases that carry death penalties or criminal cases that carry more than five years imprisonment. A matter such as divorce has no business with the Supreme Court. A matter such as probate has no business with the Supreme Court. It should suffice at the Court of Appeal because how many personnel do we have at the Supreme Court? I think the maximum is 15, 16 or 17 and they are taking appeals from all over the country. Today when you file an appeal in the Supreme Court, before it gets to be heard, I may be wrong but I am generally right, it cannot take less than six or seven years. There is a case which we filed, my father handled it, I handled it, thank God I am still alive but my daughter was the one that eventually went to argue it in the Supreme Court. Three generations. Meanwhile, virtually all the parties are dead.

    The case was started by a business man, Alhaji Tijani Yagasua, he died in the course of the case. Then Chief TS Benson was a party in the case. He is dead, Chief and Mrs Ayida were parties in the case, Mrs Ayida is no more. Chief Williams died seven years ago. The case is about 15 years old and we are still having court judgment at the Supreme Court as at now. The Supreme Court may in its wisdom send it back for retrial. Which means we would start all over again. Let’s say the case is won, what benefit would have accrued to these claimants who are now dead? There is not need for procedural matters to go to the Supreme Court. Interlocutory appeals should stop at the Court of Appeal. Stay of proceedings should be given sparingly not for the asking. This is based on my experience.

    Now to the Court of Appeals, the country for administrative purposes is divided into six zones as you know. Each zone should have its own Court of Appeal so that all the matters in the zone will go to the Court of Appeal in capital of the zone. For example, if Enugu is the capital of the south east, Ibadan capital of the south west, Jos capital of north central (I am just giving you examples), etc, before I go on, it does not mean that no matter would go to the Supreme Court, for example, cases between two states, Federal Government and a state should go the Supreme Court. Another thing I will suggest is that for criminal cases carrying death penalties, we should use the jury system. For other cases, three justices should sit at the court so that the views expressed by members of the public that the judge is scared of the government will not be popular again because you have three of them; when you have three of them may be two of them would not be scared of government and it would carry more weight. At the regional Court of Appeal there should be five justices sitting at a time not three. As to the personnel anybody can sit anywhere in the Court of Appeal because of our constitution that says that there shall be no discrimination against anybody on account of where you come from. You can have a judge from Sokoto, a judge from Calabar, and another from Minna sitting in the regional Court of Appeal in the south eastern state, it doesn’t matter. What you don’t want to do is to man the Court of Appeal with justices from that state or zone alone.

  • Many sides of a scholar and an activist

    Many sides of a scholar and an activist

    At 33, Prof. Akinwande Bolaji Akinyemi was appointed Director-General of the Nigerian Institute for International Affairs (NIIA). It was a rare feat then for a young person to be given such a plum job. Cynics thought he could not stay long in that office, but he ended up spending eight years at the NIIA. He subsequently became External Affairs Minister. Akinyemi has come a long way – from the classroom to governance, politics, diplomacy and activism. Last week in Lagos, he was honoured with two books written by his colleagues, Precious IGBONWELUNDU reports.

     

    It was an impressive gathering. The movers and shakers were there. They all came to honour a man to whom honour is due; Prof Akinwande Bolaji Akinyemi, former External Affairs Minister. Two books: Perpectives on Nigeria’s National and External Relations: Essays in Honour of Prof. A.Bolaji Akinyemi and Nigeria and the World: A Bolaji Akinyemi Revisited were presented in his honour at the Bolaji Akinyemi Hall of the Nigerian Institute of International Affairs (NIIA), Lagos last week.

    Akinyemi was Director-General of NIIA before he became Minister under former Military President Gen. Ibrahim Babaginda.

    Akinyemi was described as “a man who not only talks the talk but also walks the walk.”

    Some called him a hero of diplomacy, who left his mark in the academia and socio-political spheres. Others called him an astute scholar; a colossus of knowledge and more.

    Babangida described Akinyemi as “an enduring factor in Nigeria’s foreign policy”. His presence at the event, he said, was a demonstration of the services Akinyemi rendered to the nation.

    “That he was my first External Affairs Minister is an established fact. That before then he was the director-general of this Institute for eight years is also an established fact. The fact that as part of today’s programme, there is a symposium on the Technical Aid Corps (TAC) scheme, one of Akinyemi’s enduring legacies in government, is ample demonstration of the relevance of Prof Akinyemi to Nigeria’s foreign policy, a relevance that has lasted for over 40 years.

    “That it is not just one but two books that are being launched in honour of Bolaji Akinyemi is a testament to him being an enduring factor in Nigeria’s foreign policy. If I say that he is often controversial in his views, I am only stating the obvious. He is controversial because he is years ahead of his time in the ideas he articulates. Some people pass through offices and leave nothing but their portraits on the wall. Akinyemi passed through this Institute and the ministry and we are witnesses to his achievements. My presence here and I am sure that your presence here is a demonstration of a grateful nation for services well rendered,” he said.

    Ondo State Governor Olusegun Mimiko described Akinyemi as his hero. He noted that Akinyemi is among the few Nigerians who left academia for governance and exited both with his integrity intact. He said his first encounter with Akinyemi gave him a different view of life entirely, noting that his respect for Prof. Akinyemi cut across all spheres as he remained one of the “true heroes of the country”. He said the prof’s perspective on issues which he canvassed over 40 years ago were needed in today’s Nigeria. Mimiko praised the authors “for honouring a great man in his life time”.

    Mimiko said: “The first time I ever met Prof. Akinyemi was when he was DG of NIIA. I came to interview him as an undergraduate and he offered me a stick of cigarette which I rejected. Talking of dialogue and not revolution like the people from the other blocks we were used to, you made an impression of someone moderate in his thoughts. My encounter with him that day changed my perception of issues.

    “Prof Akinyemi is cerebrally engaging. For him, dialogue is a religion. Even at that time when the rest of us thought revolution was the solution, he believed and still believes there is nothing that cannot be achieved with dialogue.”

    Abia Governor Theodore Orji, who was represented by Secretary to State Government, Mpa Mpa, said he has always admired and respected “Akinyemi’s enthusiasm, commitment to public service, keen intellect and never-ending drive for new ideas that made the difference”.

    Akinyemi’s ideas, he said, helped in building the many legacies the prof is known for. He listed these to be Akinyemi’s idea and intellectual thoughts on Nigeria’s global and regional policies as a middle power.

    He said: “Akinyemi’s legacies have also been evident in the number and quality of his scholar disciples and the human capital that he raised in the area of scholarship in our nation and beyond; his ability to build durable and dependable support institutions for the country’s foreign policy-making and participant elites; and his giving of vibrant life to such institutions, including this great centre – NIIA, where he once held sway.

    “He has proven to be a colossus in more than half a century of Nigeria’s academic history as a leading scholar, teacher, technocrat and philosopher in the study and practice of Nigeria’s international relations and domestic politics. These books’ presentation is a worthy and eloquent testimony to the world that Akinyemi’s legacy will continue to propel our foreign policy elites and scholars-modelling their thoughts and writings and those of the younger generation of scholars. We can through his works, further confirm the creative force of bold and relentless ideas in changing this nation and the world for good.”

    He described Akinyemi as an inspiration, adding that the occasion was a celebration of the power of knowledge and investment in human resources. “For me in particular, I have always been inspired by Prof Akinyemi to know that in leadership and public service, there is no greater attainment we can make in life that is worthier than building memorable foundation legacies that make the difference; legacies that seek to introduce meaningful and sustainable changes and legacies that focus on changing lives. It is a celebration of one man’s resilience to make a difference and of the value of staying strong to the end in defence of knowledge and excellence in public service,” Orji said.

    The books were edited by Thomas Imobighe and Warisu Alli; and Akinterinwa.

    Perpectives on Nigeria’s National and External Relations: Essays in Honour of Prof. A.Bolaji Akinyemiwas reviewed by Ambassador Mark Egbe, Nigeria and the World: A Bolaji Akinyemi Revisited was reviewed by Sokoto State University Vice-Chancellor, Prof Nuhu Yaqub.

    The books were published last year. The former, which is a collection of 22 essays by cerebral Nigerian scholars in honour of Akinyemi, was initially meant to celebrate the prof during his 70th birthday…; the latter comprises 391 pages with 17 chapters, arranged in four parts.

    In his review, Egbe said the book gave some insights into Akinyemi’s personality, scholarship, diplomatic exploits and political activism. He said issues ranging from the role of Nigeria in the United Nations, including its quest for a permanent seat on the UN Security Council to regional matters within the context of the African Union and the Economic Community of West African States (ECOWAS) were discussed.

    Egbe described the “Akinyemi Dream” as that of a greater Nigeria able to deploy its clearly enormous economic, political, socio-cultural and diplomatic resources, to advance its own interest and those of the African nations and the black community globally. He recommended the book to the political class, practitioners of foreign policy and the Nigerian intelligentsia.

    In his own review, Yaqub saidAkinterinwa focuses on Akinyemi’s many revolutionary ideas on foreign policy making and its implementation which include the concept of the Concert of Medium Power; Balance of Power; Nigeria’s Africa Centre-piece Foreign Policy; TAC; the necessity of Reciprocity in the relationship of nation-states; Black Bomb; Consultation Doctrine, among others. “All in all, the book is a very solid contribution to scholarship. There are few errors the authors would have to look at, in case there shall be an opportunity to have a new edition of the work in the years ahead,” he said.

    Akinyemi said he was humbled by the honour done him by his colleagues. He attributed his success as NIIA’s DG and minister to Babangida’s support.

    He said: “I feel very humbled at the same time honoured. In a country like this, it is unusual to be honoured by one’s colleagues. Usually, what you get is jealousy and envy. So, that my colleagues decided to honour me this way, is something I am proud of and it is a trait in our character we should learn to emulate.

    “I am also overwhelmed by the presence of President Ibrahim Babangida who was my boss, whom I served, because it has been over 30 years since I served in his government yet, the bond that bounds us together is still there. It is now stale news that I was appointed in 1975 as DG of this Institute at the age of 33 years after several years of turbulent existence of the Institute. I was not expected to last in the post. I was supposed to go the way of the previous DGs. Well, I lasted for eight years…Today, I can reveal that one of the people responsible for that survival is President Ibrahim Babangida. Of course he was not the president then. He was a Lt-Colonel and Commander of the Armoured Corps. More importantly, he was a member of the Supreme Military Council.”

    On the state of the nation, Akinyemi said the poor have out of hopelessness, declared war on the middle class and the rich. “The poor cannot sleep because they are hungry and the rich cannot sleep because the poor are awake. The poor feel that their own country has declared war against them. I would have thought this is the time for a robust debate about how to build a more just, equitable and egalitarian society where there will be a safety economic and social net below which no one will be allowed to fall, where the needs of the poor, orphans and widows will command the attention of government; but what I hear, what we all hear, is a raucous debate about whose turn is it to rule Nigeria in 2015. What will it benefit anyone to rule a house whose roof is about to be blown off and whose foundation is in danger of collapse? Zoning, federal character, rotation, marginalisation of the brightest and the best will only make the much prophesied collapse of Nigeria in 2014 a self-fulfilling prophecy. We cannot build a nation on a system that takes care of the few while condemning the many to penury. A system that cannot take care of the many who are poor cannot save the few who are rich,” Akinyemi said.

    Among those in attendance were Jigawa State Governor Sule Lamido; former Ogun State Governor Segun Osoba; former Ekiti State Governor Niyi Adebayo; former Foreign Affairs Minister Gen. Ike Nwachukwu; former Federal High Court Chief Judge Rose Ukeje; former Inspector-General of Police Musilu Smith; Air Vice Marshall Hamza Abdullahi (rtd.); renowned political scientist, Prof. Adele Jinadu; Professors Jide Osintokun, Ben Iwogie and Bolanle Iyinla; late Moshood Abiola’s wife, Dr Doyin; former Director-General NIIA, Prof. George Obiozor; Director-General, Technical Aid Corps Directorate, Mamman Daura, Senior Special Assistant to the President on International Relations Daniel Hart and former Edo State Commissioner for Information, Louis Odion.

     

  • If Yar’Adua was ‘Baba go slow’, Jonathan is ‘Baba slumber’

    If Yar’Adua was ‘Baba go slow’, Jonathan is ‘Baba slumber’

    Senator Rufai Hanga was pioneer National Chairman of the Congress for Progress Change (CPC). He represented Kano Central Senatorial Zone from 2003 to 2007. A businessman and administrator with over 25 years in the corporate world, Hanga talks of the commitment and determination of his party to ensure that the proposed merger plan with the Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN), All Nigeria Peoples Party (ANPP), among other parties, becomes a reality ahead of 2015. In this interview with Assistant Editor, LINUS OBOGO, he also faults President Goodluck Jonathan’s performance, describing him as ‘Baba Slumber’.

    The Sultan of Sokoto, Muhammed Sa’ad Abubakar III, has blamed the Boko Haram and other security challenges ravaging the North on the region itself. What do you make of this open indictment of the region by the Islamic leader?

    The Sultan was absolutely right about what has become a source of embarrassment to the region. It is the result of long years of bad leadership and injustice in the region and at the centre. The region has not done enough to bring the scourge to an end. It is a result of long years of deprivations and exploitation by the leadership.

    The Boko Haram sect proposed a dialogue with the Federal Government and it has yet remained unrelenting in its attacks on both the security agencies and Christian institutions. Do you think the militant sect is desirous of peace to warrant the Federal Government to take their dialogue overtures seriously?

    I recall that the sect had proposed a dialogue with the Federal Government, but surprisingly, it was rejected. The position of the government then was that the dialogue option by the Boko Haram was in bad faith.

    On the other hand, the sect was equally suspicious of the government. But whether the sect was sincere or not, I cannot say because I do not even know them. I do not have much knowledge about the character and composition of the militant group. The only thing I know of them is what I read in the papers like any other Nigerian. I cannot lay claim to have sufficient knowledge of the Boko Haram and their motives as to arrive at a judgment on their insincerity or otherwise.

    We are being taken along the path similar to what we witnessed during the late President Umaru Yar’Adua’s era when he disappeared from governance radar for months without transferring power to his vice-president. Some governors have been out of office for months on the ground of ill health, yet without their deputies functioning in an acting capacity. What does this say about our brand of democracy?

    Today, the governors have become part of Nigeria’s problems. They are selfish and wicked. They are no longer in office for their people but for themselves. That explains why they seem to be afraid of the unknown. They do not trust anybody, not even their deputies who are supposed to be their closest allies. They are self-centered and selfish. They are more concerned about themselves and their families alone. That is why they would rather guard their office so jealously.

    With that being said, I want to say that what is happening to them is not of their own making, but an act of God. They did not swear an oath to fall sick. Illness is something that comes naturally.

    However, the culture of not wanting to delegate or transfer power under a situation of ill health is undemocratic and unfair.

    When this similar scenario played out during the late President Umaru Yar’Adua, some of us made our position known that it was not the best practice in a democracy. So, it will not make a difference if I maintain the same position now because I had said it before and I am saying it now that it is wrong and unfair for not wanting deputy governors to hold the fort when they are sick.

    When you say that the governors are Nigerian’s problem, how exactly do you mean?

    I say it with all sense of responsibility that the governors are our problem because they always want things their own way. It is rather unfortunate and unfair. Whenever there is an issue that should agitate their minds, that is when you will hear of the Governors’ Forum. I have not seen or heard of this anywhere in the world where governors have a forum and constitute themselves into a cabal. They constitute themselves into a forum in order to manipulate the system and serve their selfish interest. There are so many issues like unemployment, insecurity and corruption confronting the country which the governors ought to concentrate their energies on tackling. They are not doing that, but rather, forming a forum to protect their interest. They are busy fighting for the control and pillaging of local government fund. That is why I said the governors are our problem.

    Could this be the reason why they are alleged to be working hard to frustrate the aspect of the autonomy of the local councils in the ongoing Constitution Review exercise?

    This is one of the ills that the governors have become, which is why I said they are part of the problems of the country. They control the local governments and House of Assemblies of their states. The governors know that they are part of the two-third requirement for any constitution review or amendment to be effected, that is why they will have a forum to arm-twist any process that will bring about the autonomy of the local governments. They will want to see that this does not happen.

    The local governments should be autonomous. If the federal government is not controlling the resources of the sates after the sharing exercise, why should the states control that of the councils? Are they doing it simply because they are the senior partners in the state/local government relationship? Why should the state control the joint account of the councils?

    The constitution provides for the autonomy of the federal, state and council tiers of government. They are supposed to be independent of one another. Today, as we speak, there are states that have not held local government election in the country. What happens is that they will constitute a caretaker arrangement for six months as allowed by the constitution and dissolve them and reconstitute them after two months. This is part of the manipulation that goes on at the state level, which is why no election has been conducted in some of the states. It is in bad faith and it is rather unfortunate.

    How can the governors’ overbearing control of the councils be checkmated?

    The only way is to ensure that there is an intense pressure from concerned stakeholders and civil society groups on the governors to give in to the demand for the autonomy of the local councils in the ongoing constitution review by the National Assembly. We must stand up as a people and ensure that there is a provision in the reviewed or amended constitution for the autonomy of the local councils in Nigeria.

    Governors, including those who are serving their second term, must be told in clear terms that they cannot aspire to be the next president or senators when it is not in their interest to allow local government councils to be autonomous of the state governors. We must fight the governors and wrest the independence of the councils from their vice grip.

     

    After your first term in the Senate on the platform of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), you could not make it back for obvious reasons. Was it that you were edged out or the excitement was no longer there?

    I did not attempt to go back to the Senate this time around because I am the National Chairman of the Congress for Progressive Change (CPC). I may still go back to the Senate. After all, I am still in politics. It is not the end of me yet, so, anything can happen. I will never be tired of lending my voice to issues of national concern. Tomorrow is still pregnant and we cannot tell what it will bring.

    Your party, the Congress for Progressive Change, is about going into a merger discussion with some political parties, how optimistic are you?

    I am highly optimistic because all the parties to the merger are ready to surrender their certificates to INEC and fuse into one party. The ANPP is willing to surrender its certificate, same as the ACN, the CPC.

    It is just a matter of time and we will all surrender our certificates and come out on one platform and as a new party. The last time the alliance did not work because we were in the eve of an election, but it is not going to be like that again as we are going to collapse into one big party.

    Nothing is going to stop me from surrendering the certificate of CPC to INEC in a bid to forge a successful merger. As I speak, the certificate is deposited in a bank and I have written a Will stating that if I die, my children should collect it and hand it over to INEC for the purpose of a merger.

    In Nigeria today, we know that the strongest opposition party is the ACN, which is why I told my son that if I die any moment, he should give the certificate to Asiwaju Bola Tinubu to surrender to INEC for the purpose of forming a merger. The merger is already a reality and nobody can stop it now, not even the PDP.

    Do you think that with parties merely surrendering their certificates of registration, it guarantees the presidency or ensure a defeat of the PDP in 2015?

    We are going to have a single candidate as soon as we fuse into one party. And what that means is that all the supporters of the three or four political parties will yield their votes and support to a single candidate to emerge from the merger exercise. There will be a strong synergy as all the different candidates that hitherto contested on their individual platform will pool their followers for a single and strong candidate.

    The whole North will never vote for the PDP this time around. When the entire South West, South East, vote for a single candidate, you can only imagine the kind of landslide that will be witnessed. Come 2015, the PDP will become the smallest minority party in Nigeria, you just wait and see. From their claim of being the biggest party in Africa, they will become the smallest party in Nigeria.

    With most of the parties being deregistered, PDP will crash from being the biggest to the smallest party in Nigeria.

    Some section of the North and particularly their leaders, have in recent times, been in virulent opposition to certain issues that affect some other regions in the country, like state creation, derivation formula, the Petroleum Industry Bill, among others. What do you think is often at the heart of such leaders like Governor Rabiu Kwankwaso of Kano State and his ilk?

    On state creation, the argument of the likes of Governor Kwankwaso has been that you just do not create states for the sake of it or on the basis of regions or zones simply because you want to satisfy some people.

    There must be criteria for creating these states such as population and land mass. Let me give you an instance, while you can traverse the entire South East and South South in just one day, you cannot traverse one state in the North West in one day.

    Secondly, a state like Akwa Ibom has 31 council areas, yet the entire population of the state is not more than two million people. And if you put the population of the entire South South zone together, it is not up to that of Kano State. Again, the entire land mass is not up to Kano State. That is just the simple argument and so, you cannot go about creating states on the basis of regions, ethnicity or zones.

    You will also agree with me that it is grossly unfair to have one senator representing just two local governments, while one senator will represent about 16 local governments in the North. The same also holds for one senator representing one million people while elsewhere, five million people have one senator representing them. That is the argument Kwankwaso seems to be making. Sincerely, I think there is a sense in it.

    You cited land mass as one of the criteria for creating either state or council area. Would you or Kwankwaso be comfortable to have desert with no human beings mapped out as states and council areas, when the so called land mass is just a vast stretch of sand dunes with no human habitation? And have you forgotten that the so called population you touted has for years been manipulated in favour of the North by Northern officials in charge of census?

    Well, I am not arguing in support of his position, but that is what I perceive him to be saying. However, I agree with you on the issues contained in your questions and the fact that nobody is living in the desert and it is a vast stretch of sand dunes. But let me remind you of some of the censuses conducted from 1960 to date. I am from Kano and I will speak from that perspective. 80 per cent of people from Kano have three or four wives and their wives bear a lot of children for them. Each wife is capable of bearing ten or more children. So, if one woman has ten children, multiply ten by four wives. That gives you 40 children.

    Meanwhile, my university mates from the south of Nigeria, who got married to one wife, would end up with either three or four children. Yet he is a husband of one wife. Will his practice of one wife and three or four children help in increasing the population of his zone? The answer is capital NO! We met after about 30 years of graduation as ‘Old boys’ and I asked them how about their families? Some of them told me they were married with three kids and others with two.

    For some of us from the North, we have four wives with each of the wives have eight to ten children. This is very logical to me as a sound argument. However, I do not intend this argument to generate bad blood. I remember telling a senator colleague of mine back then when argument like this came up.

    So, you are correct on the issue of desert with no human being but when you come to Kano, you will understand what I am talking about.

    Well, having said this, I want to make it clear that that is just the governor’s argument and not mine. What I am interested in is the unity of this country and the common good of Nigerians as a whole. I believe in justice, equality and equity for all.

    How would you rate the performance of the PDP government in Kano and at the centre?

    As a matter of fact, there is no PDP government in Kano. He does not believe in PDP. He merely contested on the platform of the PDP, but he is not of the PDP. What we have is ‘Kwankwasiya’ government. Even the PDP members in the state know that as much. ‘Kwankwasiya’ is a philosophy or a movement and he acts as the group head. He runs the state as ‘Kwankwasiya’ and he does not believe in the PDP anymore.

    He is executing a lot of projects for the people and at the same time stepping on toes. He is taking on the ‘big men’ in the state, the aristocrat and the rich. But he is doing a lot for the masses.

    As for President Goodluck Jonathan’s government, while people said Yar’Adua was ‘Baba go slow’, I will describe Jonathan as an abysmal failure. It is true that Yar’Adua was ‘Baba go slow’, Jonathan is ‘Baba slumber’. For me, Jonathan’s scorecard will definitely read as ‘poverty, unemployment, hunger and insecurity’. That is Jonathan’s performance index in his three years as President.