Category: Weekend Treat

  • Sherif Shagaya’s new vocation

    Sherif Shagaya’s new vocation

    The number of silver-spoon aspirants in line for the 2015 general elections is growing by the day. The news currently making the rounds in the socio-political milieu is that Sherif, son of billionaire businesswoman, Hajia Bola Shagaya, is about to register his presence in the nation’s political landscape. Rumour is rife about Sherif’s plans to contest for a seat in the lower chamber of the National Assembly come 2015.

    Already, he is said to be mobilising support for his ambition, and he is reportedly being encouraged by some political forces in his home state in Kwara as well as in Abuja as their candidate for the election. Many political observers believe his background as son of a very rich and influential mother will be a plus for his aspiration. Sherif is also a son-in-law to Alhaji Bamanga Tukur, the national chairman of the PDP. He got married to Tukur’s daughter in an elaborate ceremony a few years ago.

    Happenstances gathered that Sherif has been making secret moves and wide consultations with people that matter in his constituency and state. We gathered that the arrival of Sherif Shagaya on the political scene is causing jitters in the camp of the incumbent House of Reps member, Hon. Moshood Mustapha, who is nursing a second-term ambition.

  • Leo Stan-Ekeh  becomes father-in-law

    Leo Stan-Ekeh becomes father-in-law

    Popular IT guru and chairman of Zinox Group, Leo Stan-Ekeh, was all smiles last Sunday when the high and mighty in the nation’s socio-economic hub gathered to honour his daughter, Gozy, and her husband, Tolu Ijogun, in a traditional wedding ceremony. Stan-Ekeh had every cause to wear a cheerful look on the day because it marked his advent into the world of fathers-in-law. It was the first time the man would give the hands of any of his daughters out in marriage.

    The traditional ceremony took place in Ubomiri, Mbaitoli Local Government Area, Imo State, where Stan-Ekeh recently built a Catholic church for his community. The white wedding, it was gathered, will take place in Lagos today with a reception following at the prestigious Eko Hotel, Lagos.

    Leo seeks to usher his daughter into marital bliss in the grandest way as he has planned for her the wedding of a lifetime.

  • My sister insists on getting me a wife and says my preferred wife would fold me in her laps and beat me up from time to time!

    Hello, am Ebube, 35 years, an Economist from Imo State. I’ve never been in love (I am a virgin). My elder sister whom I cherish so much asked me to let her get me a suitable wife otherwise my preferred wife would fold me in her laps and beat me up from time to time! How true is my sister’s talk regarding my interest in marriage? What’s your advice? Don’t publish please.

     

    Ebube, I’m publishing despite your plea that I shouldn’t. Sometimes, some of the mails I get from some of you are so plain funny, unbelievable or rash or all or all-in-one. Ebube, at 35, a sister of yours is telling you that if she doesn’t get you a wife then the woman you get for yourself would fold you in her laps and beat you. If she wasn’t joking with you and you’re the one taking it seriously, then she must take you to too soft to handle a woman. In fact, for you to have even asked me if she was right at this age of yours means your sister must have seen something in you that makes her fear for you.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re a virgin at 35. What with do with our sex lives are purely our own personal decisions. But if at 35, your sister can still engage you in this kind of discussion and you’re taking it so serious that you’re asking a counselor if your sister was right, then you need counseling.

    If you’re not diminutive and so pocket-sized and easy to fold in one’s laps truly, then you must cut the picture of a pitiable man. Wake up and mix with the right people. Build your confidence and stop letting people look down on you. You claim to be an Economist, carry yourself well and tell yourself you can do all things, including getting a wife whom you will put on your in her laps and love and who will love you in return.

  • For Funke Adejumo, life begins at 50

    For Funke Adejumo, life begins at 50

    For Funke Felix-Adejumo, the beautiful wife of the founder of Agape Christian Ministries, Bishop Felix Adejumo, life truly begins at 50. Mummy Funke Adejumo, as she is fondly called, clocked 50 a couple of days ago and, as learnt, her husband and the entire family of Agape Christian Ministries did not spare anything to usher her into the golden age.

    Funke has stood beside her husband for more than two decades. Together, they have rekindled faith in the institution of marriage, standing as one its role models. The mother of three children is also a pastor at Agape, and she has juggled marriage, priesthood and motherhood well. She even sometimes breezes into town, making appearances at very important events. Funke and Felix are lucky to be rewarded with many things some have come to accept as elusive.

     

  • Socialites, celebrities gather for Pastor Paul Adefarasin’s 50th birthday

    Socialites, celebrities gather for Pastor Paul Adefarasin’s 50th birthday

    Leader of elite Lagos Church, House on the Rock, Pastor Paul Adefarasin, added another year to clock the golden age of 50 penultimate Friday. And the clergyman did not fail to show gratitude to his Creator as family and friends joined him for a thanksgiving service.

    In appreciation of their spiritual leader, members of House on the Rock also joined Adefarasin’s family and friends to engage in a horde of activities aimed at making the birthday a memorable one. These included a holy communion service held at the church’s cathedral and on the Lekki-Epe Expressway that Friday. There was also an exclusive dinner later in the day at Eko Hotels, Victoria Island, Lagos, as well as a thanksgiving service held at the church on Sunday January 27.

    Eyewitnesses said the birthday dinner was not an all-comers affair because it was style and class incorporated. The tables were said to have been tagged with colour codes, and right at the entrance was a board indicating the sitting arrangement vis-a-vis the guest list placed at the entrance. There were polite bouncers to keep off uninvited guests, just as courteous ushers stood guard to welcome those that were invited.

    The occasion was graced by eminent persons, including Aigboje Aig-Imoukhuede and Segun Agbaje of Access and GT banks respectively; fashion designers Folake Akindele and Charles Toye; controversial businessman, Terry Waya; Central Bank top shot, Chike Moghalu; Guardian Newspapers boss, Maiden Ibru; oil magnate, Tonye Cole and his wife Sylva; musician Sammy Okposo; Koffi Sagoe; Yemi and Bimbo Cardoso; Ernest and Lizzy Ebi, among others.

  • She wants to use our daughter to get a second chance at marriage, but that could be deadly

    You’re doing a good job on your page; keep it up. Women can be irrational! How do you react to this? A woman leaves her hubby’s home in Kaduna, visits her mom in Port Harcourt, without the consent of her hubby.

    She was away for a month and barely two weeks of her return, she wanted to go back and she actually did. She was away again for one month.

    In the third week of her second trip, she sent an SMS- “Give me a divorce & I’ll send my siblings to pack my things.”

    I replied: “You only know what’s yours, not your siblings. be bold and pack by yourself. Before you finish packing, divorce note will be ready!”

    Eventually, she came back and I waited for her to pack. One month after, she returned. I was on the phone at about 8pm when she entered our bedroom and attacked me physically because I was talking to another zwoman. It took the man in me to free myself. In my life and 18 years of previous marriage, I never hit a woman, but in this attack, I had no other option. I taught her a lesson. After the attack, I divorced her after three years plus of marriage with a daughter. Now she wantsto use our daughter as a reason to come back. A second chance could be deadly. I want my daughter to have a dad!

     

    Dear brother, issues like this are delicate and I must be very objective in my response to you. Let’s take a look at all the intricate parts of your story before we sum them all up and arrive at a conclusion. I must however call your attention to the fact that this is a one-sided story and full of holes. It may take us knowing the other side to do justice to this problem. But since there is no other side of the story (yet), let me attempt to ask some questions and answer them at the same time.

    Question: What would make a married woman pack her things and go to her mother’s place so far away in Port-Harcourt all the way from Kaduna and stay for a whole month without her husband’s consent?

    Answer: It could be that the marriage has broken down so much that the woman doesn’t care about what the husband thinks anymore. They might have been having arguments over money or other such issues, keeping malice in the house or have stopped enjoying each other’s company.

    Question: What would make that same woman come back home and pack almost immediately back to her mother’s house and the husband is still not making an issue out of that? Meanwhile, she’s a Nigerian and the family members who should know about family and marriage values in the Nigerian context are aware of her frequent movements away from her husband’s house and none could call the man to speak with him on what was going on.Why would the mother for instance not even call the man to say hello and to announce that her daughter and granddaughter were with her on the two occasions that the daughter went home?

    Answer: It could mean only one thing, the wife’s family are well aware of the problems in the marriage. After all, the wife would have regaled them with different tales and they may have been biased. Let us not forget that that is their daughter and they would want to protect her by all means even if she is wrong.

    Question: What kind of man would just keep mute and allow his wife to stay just like that after she had threatened on the phone to come and pack her things without raising it with her and setting rules about such irresponsible movements between Kaduna and Port-Harcourt. And what kind of man would just take her back like that without ironing things out with her parents?

    Answer: You may think you’re a strong man by remaining calm in the midst of a storm, but you’re not that strong, I’m sorry to say. Even if within you, you’re aware that some of the problems in the marriage are pushing your wife away from you, one would have expected you to use the opportunity of her irrational movements to tackle it once and for all.

    Conclusion

    Two rights don’t make a wrong, so, there must be a frank roundtable discussion between you and this woman to identify where you both went wrong. You both must be able to come out truthfully about the factors that led to your separation and divorce in the first place. If you think you can take her back just like that, it would be like covering a bad wound without treating it; it will fester and cause worse damage. Be real about the emotional pains and the things that went wrong or got right when you were apart. NEVER come back to a bad marriage for the sake of children. If the underlying factors leading to problems are still visible, the children would be affected psychologically and may blame you for coming back.

    It’s a hard fact that some people are just not compatible and you cannot force that. More than anything pray about it and ask God for directions. Shun sentiments and don’t rush into going back together. Start afresh and go for dates as if you were meeting each other for the first time. Inject romance into the whole show and be truthful about finances. If she doesn’t have a job, get her something doing. Respect each other’s need for privacy and don’t go calling other women in her presence. God help you.

  • About  Dangote’s new addition

    About Dangote’s new addition

    Alhaji Aliko Dangote, Nigeria’s acclaimed wealthiest businessman, appears to be dashing ahead of his peers with the speed of light. The Kano-born business mogul recently consolidated his reputation as Africa’s richest man as he took delivery of a new yacht worth $23 million. The custom-made luxury yacht arrived in Nigeria a few days ago and currently sits in front of Femi Otedola’s Zenon Place on Walter Carrington Crescent, Victoria Island, Lagos.

    Named Mariya, the yacht is a 2013 edition. His company, Dangote Group, has become a giant with sculptured physique and boundless energy. It enjoys the front seat in many sectors, and business experts say its assets can only be calculated with the aid of the most sophisticated adding machine. He was rated Africa’s richest man 2012 by Forbes magazine last year, with a net worth of $11.2 billion.

  • Gbemi Saraki charts fresh course

    Gbemi Saraki charts fresh course

    Senator Gbemi Saraki, the delectable daughter of the late godfather of Kwara politics, Dr. Olusola Saraki, is currently enjoying life to the fullest even though she is said to be missing her late father and confidant.

    She had recoiled into her shell after losing the 2011 governorship election. The election was said to have taken a lot out of her, but the affable young woman is also said to be content that she gave a good account of herself in the contest.

    While the campaigns lasted, she had made not a few enemies from those who at some point wanted her silenced. Family sources informed Happenstances that she has finally settled the political tiff between her and her elder brother and former governor of Kwara State, Senator Bukola Saraki. At the moment, the duo are said to be working together towards reviving their family bank.

    We gathered that the former Societe Generale Bank Nigeria (SGBN) owned by the late Olushola Saraki, which had its licence revoked by the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) some years ago, resumed operations last Tuesday with a new trade name, Heritage Bank. Happenstances gathered that the bank has already poached many of the top bankers in the industry from the existing banks.

  • The real secret of my success – Olanipekun

    The real secret of my success – Olanipekun

    Former President, Nigerian Bar Association (NBA), Chief Wole Olanipekun, a Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN) is not happy that Nigeria, despite its endowments, is still tottering. He bares his mind in this interview with Assistant Editor DADA ALADELOKUN. He also clears the air on some insinuations around his philanthropic gestures as well as his professional practice. Excerpts:

    Keen watchers of Nigeria ‘s democratic odyssey are quick to give the judiciary knocks over its role so far. What is your view as a stakeholder?

    The judiciary in Nigeria has fared fairly well. However, I must confess that we could have done better, but when you consider all the extenuating factors, one cannot but say that the judiciary has fared considerably well. In governmental nomenclature, we have the executive, the legislature and the judiciary. Without any fear of contradiction, of all the three, the judiciary is the best. Our judiciary is overwhelmed and afflicted by the problems it did not initiate. For now, there will be political lull in the United States of America for two and a half years or more, except when you go to the Capitol where there will be debates on national issues. But here, right from the day Jonathan and the other governors were sworn in on May 29, 2011 , the struggle for 2015 started and at the end of it all, the unfortunate victim is the judiciary.

    But let me say this as a lawyer; the person we have as the Chief Justice of Nigeria (CJN) now, I think, we are lucky to have her there. I don’t go to her office because I don’t patronise people. But I know that she is not bendable; she is not a woman that will take dictations from anybody. She is not politically inclined and she is not a respecter of any person, powers or principality. So, having her at the helm of affairs strengthens people’s hope in the judiciary.

    Practitioners in the echelon must not hobnob with the bad eggs in the society because you and I have transferred our independence and sovereignty to them. Ultimate justice is of God but they represent Him on earth. And for anybody who will occupy the seat of a judge, he must not make conscious mistakes.

    By your assessment, is that all about the ills plaguing the arm?

    There must be precedents and that is where I have reservations about the judiciary in the country. There must be certainty in law to some extent. More often than not, now, precedents seem to have no place in judicial decisions and this is worrisome. But I am happy that the Supreme Court is trying to address it.

    Another worrisome trend is the way our judges are being appointed as if they are state commissioners. These are people who will be invested with the power of life and death over fellow human beings. Lobbying should not be a factor. The Supreme Court should open its doors and windows to the very best in the profession in order to give room for a confluence of ideas that with strengthen the sector, all in the overall interest of the people. There are a lot of issues to be addressed. When a client brings his case to a lawyer, it is unethical for the latter to say, ‘you will win this case.’ I will always study your case and if I have a positive feeling, I would say, ‘your case is not frivolous; we will try our best.’

    But the issue of corruption is still there…

    When you talk of corruption, you talk of bad eggs; you talk of people who should not be there. Such a situation ought not to have arisen at all because it is a very delicate position vested with enormous power and authority over you and I. The President of Nigeria will say he is the Commanded-in-Chief of the Armed Forces of Nigeria. But he cannot say that I have contravened the laws of the land and therefore, I must be killed; he cannot say that.

    But the Constitution has invested somebody with that power to say, ‘with the evidence before me, you have been found guilty; therefore, you are sentenced to death.’ I therefore won’t buy the argument in some quarters that because our judges live within the Nigerian environment, automatically, they must be inflicted with the virus of corruption; it is nonsensical. The judiciary must be independent.

    Is it the same picture both at the federal and state levels of the arm?

    Let me say this that the judiciary at the federal level is by far freer than the judiciary at the lower levels, especially the state. A good number of the governors see the High Courts in their states as appendages of their offices; that is not good enough. Sadly, we keep on talking about the Federal Government to our own peril when we are talking of the judiciary. Nobody makes a microscopic foray into what happens at the states.

    Look at what happened in Kwara; the state House of Assembly and the executive removed a Chief Judge and nobody raised an eyebrow. The Chief Judge was already booted out, though she later went to the Supreme Court for justice. Nobody sympathised with her. Everyday is always awash with what happens at the federal level when worst things happen at the state level.

    On corruption, we focus on what happens at the federal level without considering what goes on at the state and local government levels because our federalism is an aberration.

    So, whether it is about corruption, education, judiciary and what have you, we must consider things globally and generally without a biased focus on the federal level. I am from Ekiti; the state used to be the bastion of cocoa production when we were growing up. I had my education through proceeds from cocoa; my father did not borrow a dime from anybody to train me. But where are the cocoa trees not in our country? When we were growing up till mid-60s, there was only one Federal Government school in the Western Region-Government College and Queens College , both in Ibadan .

    We all attended public and mission schools; where are they today? In our life time, where are the virtues that we keyed into while growing up? Where are the teachers? Where are the role models? Where are the politicians? Many youths today may not know how great people like Enahoro and Akintola were. To some, Akintola was only versatile in Yoruba language. Go through the archives and see how Awolowo, as the leader of opposition, would marshal his research-rooted points. Are we improving? No. Shakespeare would say that ‘the fault is not in our stars but in our selves.’

    Let us look at the whole noise about the absentee governors that is causing uproar in the country today…

    It is the height of irresponsibility. In the Book of Isaiah, God asked, ‘Who should I send?’ Prophet Isaiah said, ‘Here I am, send me.’ But in our own country, you see people saying they had a dream or heard a voice to serve as governor, forcing themselves on the people, begging them. Some would say, ‘oh, God has told me to contest,’ as if He is their fiefdom. So, if you volunteer to throw your heart into the ring in a bid to serve your people, it is, unequivocally, irresponsible for you not to be at your seat for four months.

    And sad enough, the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) is urging us to sympathise with them. Why did they not say that during the case of Yar’Adua? And in any event, the constitution does not want anybody to sympathise with it. The constitution makes it clear that for any political office, especially, there shall not be a vacancy for a split second! Yakowa, the late Kaduna State governor died in that unfortunate crash. Even before his remains were taken to Kaduna , his deputy was sworn in because political offices, like nature, abhor a vacuum.

    Look at the case of Chime in Enugu . The position of Chime is not peculiar to him. He is a colleague of mine but we must say the truth in the interest of our nation. It is only a monarch that says, ‘this position is ours until we die.’ I had been out of the country for some days; so, I would not know if his deputy whom he purportedly handed over to, has presented a budget. The entire state has been held to ransom because of an individual. See what the state has been suffering and we are all looking as if nothing has happened.

    But if it were to happen at the federal level, the whole country would have literally been on fire. It is worrisome that Nigeria does not have a system; we are running people’s affairs like a game of chess. You practise whatever catches your fancy and impose it on the people. We in Africa always say ‘yes, a black man is the President of America; who told you? Yes, Obama may be, but his orientation and character are American; his focus is American; his conscience is American because there is an enduring system there. Anybody can live in America and be President because you cannot change the system. The same Bible with which the first President of America took his oath is still there. The seat of power is still there. Nobody will sell it off and say they are monetising.

    But the Enugu Assembly should have acted appropriately; don’t you think so?

    Oh yes; but they are not doing their job. The National Assembly is far more independent than all the state Houses of Assembly combined. They are lily-livered. Many go into the Assembly without any idea or ideology. All they need is a sponsor whose bidding they will get there to do. Now, people are talking about 2015; it is going to be the same old story. I am not an incurable pessimist; I am a realist.

    You sound not too comfortable with the situation of things in the country…

    Oh, yes! We are running an unhealthy system. And bad enough, the constitution is in a terrible state of health. It is amusingly worsened by the ongoing attempt by the National Assembly to revamp it; but the effort will take us nowhere. We have to sit down to chart a new course for our future. Let us forget about the contentious word, ‘sovereign’ and let us sit down to talk. We must not allow the disintegration of this polity. Look at the argument about state police. Some would say the governors will use it to haunt their enemies or opponents; is the President using it against his perceived enemies now? Who says my home town, Ikere, does not deserve its own police? This is the surest way to ensure security of lives and property in the country. Do we have political parties? All we have are groups without ideologies. I respect personalities but the general run of the dramatis personae in our political arena today is there to capture power without any clear-cut intention to serve the people.

    The Federal Government would say they want to ‘capture’ Lagos. Party ‘A’ would say ‘we want to capture this ‘state’. Rather than argue based on facts and criticise, our politicians would be cursing themselves; and this is among why people like us run away from politics. It is disheartening the word, ‘capture’ has assumed pre-eminence in our political lexicon. These are among the issues that have coalesced into an Albatross on our neck.

    Based on your experience as a lawyer, has it been happening in your professional constituency?

    Woe betides any lawyer that would tell a client, ‘give me some money to give a judge.’ I cannot say I have not heard it; but it is alien to our practice in my chambers. A lawyer must be sure-footed and creative. He must be a doctor, a psychologist; he must be the melting pot of all the professions. Above all, he must be close to God and always ask for the wisdom of the Holy Spirit. If God gives you wisdom, your opponents and adversaries will say you are cutting corners of using juju. Here, we employ knowledge and fidelity to law and what is good. And in any event, we don’t win all our cases; we lose some.

    I thank God because this is what I prayed for when I was going into this profession. The only Congress for Progressive Change (CPC) governor in Nigeria , I led the team for his defence in Nasarawa, from the Tribunal up to the Supreme Court. Yet, I was counsel to Jonathan against CPC. Despite that, CPC had confidence in me. I’m happy; I’m enjoying my profession.

    The Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN) and PDP are not the best of friends. On November 21, 2011 , the Federal Government charged Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, the ACN national leader before the Code of Conduct Tribunal. Three months before the charge was served on Tinubu – a brilliant, very sagacious man – he had called me and Yemi Osinbajo and put us into confidence. He said, ‘Wole, my friend, you will handle the situation.’ I led his very formidable team to ask the Tribunal to discharge and acquit him. I finished my submission around 12.30 pm that day. By 2.30 pm same day, I was in the courtroom of the Court of Appeal in the same Abuja to join my colleagues on the leadership of the defence team of the Jonathan election petition. It was the same day; defending Tinubu in the morning and Jonathan in the afternoon. That is the joy of the profession. I heard from the rumour mill that some people went to tell Jonathan that Wole is Tinubu’s friend and so on, but Jonathan reportedly told them: ‘Leave Wole; I have implicit confidence in him; the man will never compromise your case.’ If you know your onions, research well, conduct yourself well, refrain from abusing judges but not necessarily patronising him, with solid facts, your case is sure.

    Of recent, I have been lucky to lead very formidable teams of equally good, if not better lawyers than myself. But the defence would say, ‘come and lead the team.’ And they have been cooperating with me. I am a triangular person from my house, to my office and back home. I’m a member of the Island Club and many others, but the time is not there for me to club. The earliest time I leave office daily is 8 pm . I go to bed earliest by 11 pm . With the help of the Holy Spirit, I naturally wake up by 2 am everyday to read for three hours after fervent prayers and meditation. When I was young, I had dreamt of becoming a workaholic and successful practitioner like Chief FRA William. This has remained part of me and a secret of my modest accomplishment.

    Many still wonder how you cope, defending clients of opposing political leanings…

    Although I work for President Jonathan, I don’t go to Aso Rock; I’m not a contractor. Tinubu respects me and I respect him too. That would not have anything to do with my defence of Mimiko (Ondo State governor) in any electoral dispute. Apart from being my friend, he is my soul-mate. When my mother was alive, I would be in Ilorin ; he would leave his town, Ondo, for my house at Ikere and my mother would cook for him. He is one of my few friends who have shared same bed with me. The process of Mimiko becoming governor started when both of us were commissioners in the old Ondo State in 1992/93. I constituted and led the team of his election petition four years ago. We have been that close. He respects me and he will dare not ask me about my association with Tinubu or others. I don’t do the politics of my clients; I handle my job uncompromisingly. For me, my career is a covenant. If I have chosen to handle a

  • He says the other girl will go with time

    Good evening, I am in a relationship with a guy who has another girl.

    Though last year he asked me to be his girlfriend and I refused but I had feelings for him. It was after that, that he started dating the girl. Now we are together he says it is not for him to tell the girl it is over and he says the girl will go with time. He is always saying he loves me. I don’t know if he really loves me but I love him very much that anytime I think of breaking up with him I feel like I will lose my heart. What should I do? I do not want to share my guy anymore. – Destiny.

     

    My Yoruba people have a saying that what you will eventually put in your mouth should not first be smelled dispassionately. While you were still trying to perceive the guy’s smell, someone else took him away. Too bad!

    I don’t know how old you are and how old the boyfriend is because age matters when we’re advising people on matters of this nature. If you’re both adults and at that age when one should start thinking seriously about marriage, then you have to decide now whether you want to play along with this game the guy is playing. It’s obvious he finds the other girl too interesting, if not, she would have left the moment she has a whiff of you, and if she is not one to give up easily, she would have started causing the guy enough trouble to make him either leave her or reduce the time he spends with you in order to satisfy her.

    The guy might be telling her he loves her too, after all, they started before you made up your mind. And if there’s no reason to send her away, he might just be bidding his time before he chooses one of you or even another girl you’re not aware of; that is if he’s ripe enough for marriage. That is the world of men – they are polygamous in nature.

    You can’t afford to blackmail him that you will leave. If you really want to, simply walk away without making any fuss about it. If you want to stay on, it is your own decision. Only time will tell what happens to you in this relationship.