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  • This thing called politics (2)

    Chukwu and Anthony need no soothsayer to tell them that their boss is in a very sad mood. As they look at his blood-shot eyes, all they see is sadness. His Excellency does not believe in the saying that you win some and lose some. He always wants to win all.

    After about one minute of silence, Chukwu offers some pieces of advice: “Sir, I think we should organise a church service for the flag off campaign of 2016 re-run/supplementary election at an Anglican Church. There, the governor will urge the Electoral Commission (EC) to ensure that the will of the people prevails.

    “The governor should say this election will prove whether or not the EC is ready to conduct free and fair elections. We should also use it as an opportunity to say that the UPP remains committed to violence-free elections. We should stress that we will resist any attempt to write results. We should portray the CPC as the one eager to write results.”

    Ekiw maintains his silence. Anthony jumps in: “We should also get the Waters State House of Assembly to pass a resolution  calling on the Inspector-General of Police  to immediately transfer the State Assistant Commissioner of Police ( ACP)  in charge of Operations, Asshole Stevo,  and the Commander of Special Anti-Robbery Squad  (SARS ), Ifankaleluya Akinkorede for being  partisan. The House should also pass a resolution pleading with the National Assembly to investigate the two police officers and take necessary action. The House should accuse the duo of opening fire on UPP supporters who were on peaceful procession to the Assembly and aiding the invasion of the Government House by CPC supporters who wanted to cause violent change of government in a democracy.”

    He continues: “We should add that the duo got 16 Divisional Police Officers to assist them attack our supporters who were on peaceful procession. We should let the House make it clear that this amounts to a coup against the Waters people and the government they elected freely.”

    Anthony’s bid to continue talking is interrupted by the sudden vomiting by Ekiw. His Excellency is soon swimming in his own vomit. His system has obviously had more than its share of wine for one day. Anthony and Chukwu rally round the governor; pulls his caftan and cleans him up. They make him lie down on the couch.

    “Let me go for new caftan for him,” Chuwku says and disappears through the door. Anthony stays back to monitor the boss whose eyes are now wide shut.

    Some minutes later, Chukwu returns with the caftan and Mimi, His Excellency’s daughter and conscience-in-chief.

    Mimi looks at her father and shakes her head. Anthony and Chukwu look at her and wonder why she is shaking her head. She keeps her gaze on her father for some more time feeling like waking him up and telling him that man shall not live by bread alone.

    She soon shifts her attention to Anthony and Chukwu. She shakes her head looking at them. She makes up her mind to give them a piece of her mind.

    “When will this whole charade end?” she says to no one in particular.

    Anthony and Chukwu are taken aback. They wonder what she is driving at.

    “I know my father is a strong man, a very strong man but that is a problem. We don’t need strong men. Like President Barack Obama once said, what Africa needs are strong institutions.”

    Looking at Anthony, she says: “Sir, I think you can help my father. Tell him the truth always. I know he can be stubborn but it is not all the time that you simply tell him what he wants to hear. A lot of nonsense is going on around here. I am not saying the opposition are blameless but this is a truth I can only admit in the closet like this, my father is crude. His ways baffle me. There are things he has done since he became governor that I have confirmed myself and I am ashamed of him.”

    Chukwu and Anthony are baffled at the kind of words coming from Mimi about her father. But she simply behaves as if their concern means nothing and continues airing her views: “The other day I saw on television supposed ex-militants handing over guns and all kinds of weapons all in the name of Waters State Amnesty Programme, a poor imitation of the laudable programme started by the late Yar’Adua. When I looked closely at some of the boys handing over the guns, I laughed and also felt like crying at the same time. I know some of those boys and I am sure that you also know them. They are your boys and that gives me the feeling that this whole programme is nothing but charade. I have also wondered what becomes of the guns. They are either supposed to be handed over to the security agents or destroyed publicly.”

    Mimi pauses, looks at her father once more and then shifts her attention to Chukwu and Anthony.

    “What sort of happiness comes from intrigues? I have tried to answer this question times and times again, especially since my father became governor and I have not been able to.”

    Chukwu chooses to interrupt her at this stage.

    “Mimi, the situation is not exactly like you have painted it,” he says and tries to continue but Mimi cuts him short.

    “I do not expect you to agree with me because you are not the one whose father all because of a failed political misadventure soaked himself in alcohol and vomited all over. You are not the one whose classmates ask frequently ‘why is your father described as wicked?’ You are not the one who feels bad each time her father goes to a church and makes political statements filled with malice. You are not the one who wonders what manner of a politician her father is. Are you?”

    Before anyone can say anything, Mimi drops another bombshell: “This thing called politics, especially the brand played by my father and his disciples like you, has no conscience and that is why you guys can just wake up and decide to pick on a number of political opponents and go after them for murders you have no evidence they committed.”

    Mimi soon storms out of the office but not without telling Chukwu and Anthony: “I will not forgive you if anything happens to my father because you encourage him in his politics without conscience.”

    They remain silent until Ekiw wakes up.  He makes his way to the bathroom attached to the office. Wearing only his birth clothing, he opens the shower and stays under it for the next twenty minutes. As he stays under the water, his mind wonders to those days when he first got married, those days when he used to shower with his wife together, those days when the kids had not come and they were free to pull each other’s clothes anywhere in their apartment and merge like souls jailed by passions. He also remembers his sojourn into politics; his ascension to the office of the council chairman; his stint as a minister; his time as a governor’s principal officer; and how he thought he could not be governor; and all the battles he had to fight to be governor. He also thinks about the battles he is still fighting to keep the coveted seat.

    He forces himself out of the shower after the memories begin to look as though out to kill him there. He wears the new caftan from Chukwu. He returns to the office and sits on the couch. His men say nothing. After some minutes, something comes to his mind and he asks a question: “Was Mimi here? I felt I heard her voice.”

    Both men look at each other. No one is willing to admit the truth lest he is forced to recount the gospel according to Mimi. Some things are better left unsaid, each says to himself. There is nothing left to talk about. Chukwu and Anthony take their leave.

  • Cries of slum children (2)

    Cries of slum children (2)

    The United Nations Education Science and Cultural Organisation (UNESCO) recently revealed that  there are about 10.5 million Nigerian children that are out of school. This, according to the organization, is the largest population of such Out of School Children (OSC)  anywhere on earth.  In fact, the report said Nigeria accounts for 47 percent of the world’s population of OSC. In comparison, the entire population of Libya and Liberia is 10,496,000 while the population of OSC in Nigeria is approximately 10,500,000. INNOCENT DURU in this report, examines how developments in some Lagos slums contribute to the rising number of OSC in  the country  and the implications for the attainment of the United Nations Sustainable Development Goal 4 which seeks to ensure an inclusive and quality education for all and promote lifelong learning.

    The dream of Atuku Aminat, a Senior Secondary School (SSS) 3 student  of completing her secondary education and proceeding to higher institution is hanging in the balance. For some time now, the 19-year-old has been out of school and uncertain of returning to school anytime soon to at least participate in the first term examination that is coming up in a week from the date of this publication.  “ I am in a fix. My education and future is in danger. My poor parents have laboured hard to bring me this far but is this how my academic dreams will end? Does it mean I will not complete secondary school not to talk of proceeding to higher institution?” Aminat who desires to study accountancy in the university asked rhetorically.

    Aminat,  a resident of Otodogbame slum in Lekki area of Lagos State, had had a smooth academic life until  the community was allegedly invaded by touts suspected to be land grabbers and armed security men recently.

    In the process, the buildings made of bamboo, wood and roofing sheets were reportedly set ablaze by the invaders leaving the people homeless.  At the end of the day, Aminat and her colleagues had their school uniforms, notebooks, textbooks, sandals and other valuables  burnt to ashes making it impossible for them to go to school.

    “I was planning to write my final exams but there is no hope for me as we speak now because of the condition that my parents have found themselves.  All the materials I was gathering to prepare for WAEC and NECO exams were burnt during the attack. My academic future is in danger right now because my parents have lost their means of livelihood.  They have no means of providing money for us to go to school again.

    “It has been pretty difficult for my siblings and I as our parents can hardly put food on the table for us.  Different humanitarian groups have been bringing relief materials for us. They bring snacks and medical supplies for us but the snacks don’t go round. Many of us always go about in empty stomach if the ration doesn’t get to us.  We are really dying of hunger and unsure of what the future holds in stock for us,”  Aminat said.

    Aside from the agony of being out of school, Aminat relived an ugly experience she had while escaping through  a river in the community.

    “Before the invaders set our houses on fire, they shot from time to time into the air forcing us to scamper to safety. The nearest and safest place we could run to was the river. We all ran into it and started using boats to escape from the looming danger.

    “When we were struggling with the boat, we saw the dead bodies of some of our neighbours and friends floating on the river. They also tried to escape through the river but their boats capsized and they died in the river. Many of them were not used to life on water. The sight haunts most of us till date. We will never forget that day.”

    Aminat’s case and that of her peers in Otodogbame unarguably account for the rising incident of OSC in the land.  According to the UNESCO, over the last decade, Nigeria’s exponential growth in population has put immense pressure on the country’s resources and already overstretched public services and infrastructure. With children under 15 years of age accounting for about 45 per cent of the country’s population, the burden on education and other sectors has become overwhelming.

    “Forty per cent of Nigerian children aged 6-11 do not attend any primary school with the Northern region recording the lowest school attendance rate in the country, particularly for girls. Despite a significant increase in net enrollment rates in recent years, it is estimated that about 4.7 million children of primary school age are still not in school.

    “Increased enrollment rates have also created challenges in ensuring quality education and satisfactory learning achievement as resources are spread more thinly across a growing number of students. It is not rare to see cases of 100 pupils per teacher or students sitting under trees outside the school building because of the lack of classrooms,” the organisation said.

    Similar to Aminat’s case is that of 15-year-old Peace Whefoude  whose hope of taking part in the forthcoming   Junior Secondary School (JSS) 3 examination is dicey.

    The visibly worried girl said: “ I have been out of school since our building was set ablaze. All my textbooks, notebooks, uniforms and other things that I was using in school were burnt. I did not bring out an ordinary pen from the house because the attack was sudden and severe.

    “The fire moved with the speed of wind forcing all of us to run into a nearby river. We jumped into a boat and started paddling in a disorganised manner because we were not coordinated. At a point, the boat wanted to capsize as it was being tossed around by the wave. I was scared and thought my end had come. Luckily I escaped unscathed but several others were not so lucky.”

    The story was not different when The Nation met Nasu Coleth, a 15-year-old SS1 pupil. She said: “I am worried that I am out of school for no just reason. The fact that exams are going to be starting soon gives me nightmare. I can’t imagine missing exams or dropping out of school. I am eager to go to school every morning but I don’t have school uniform,  and books again. They were all burnt during the attack.  I also have two brothers who are also out of school.

    “This has put our academic dreams in danger. I am also yet to overcome the psychological trauma that I suffered after seeing the dead bodies of some of our neighbours that drowned in the river while trying to escape from the raging fire and sporadic gunshots by security operatives.”

    For Kpose Juliet another  SSS 1 pupil, the feeling of being a refugee continuously gives her headache. “We have become refugees in our land. We have been sleeping in the open since they burnt our houses. This has opened us up to unhindered mosquito bites and harsh weather conditions. Unfortunately, there is no hospital that we can go to for treatment.

    “It is only when humanitarian groups come here with doctors that we get medical help. They check and give us drugs free of charge. We don’t have shelter, we don’t have access to medical services and above all, can’t go to school. It is disheartening. Our psyche is daily affected by all this,” she said.

    The youth leader of the community, Ahisu Celestine, claimed that they have been living in the community for more than 100 years before the invasion. He said: “Some people aided by security operatives invaded the community and killed two of our members. Thereafter, they came back one night and started setting fire on the buildings. A woman that was carrying a few days old baby had to abandon her child in the house and run away. Luckily, security operatives saw the child when he was crying and brought him out before fire could reach him.  Thereafter, they went to the press to claim that they rescued a baby from fire incident. Whereas, they were the ones that set the house on fire and forced the mother to run away.

    “It was not only the woman that ran away. Everybody started to run for his dear life and the only safe place that people could run to was the river.  As people that are used to doing our daily activities on water, we didn’t find it difficult to cope with the turbulence of the  river. But some people from other parts of the country and neighbouring countries that were not used to life on the river did  not find it convenient escaping through the river.  Many of them drowned in the river and were later brought out by some people from neighbouring communities who came with boats to rescue the rest of us.”

    Ahisu described the invasion as  war-like “because the security operatives were shooting sporadically.  The children were seriously traumatised because they had never witnessed such a ferocious attack in their lives. Many of them fell ill thereafter and are yet to overcome the shock till today.  I have taken my wife and my children out of Lagos State to where their security is guaranteed.”

    Like the other children, Ahisu said: “My children have also not been going to school since then. They can’t go to school because their uniforms, textbooks, notebooks, results and everything about their education were burnt during the attack. Besides, the parents’ means of livelihood have been destroyed and as a result, they lack the resources to provide new ones for them.  Hardworking men and women have been turned to indolent people. The primary concern is how the children would have something to eat and survive. Education can come thereafter.”

    Members of the Nigeria Slum/Informal Settlement Initiative who were seen giving snacks  to the disoriented children expressed disappointment about the children’s predicament.

    One of them, who did not want his name in print, said: “We are an international organisation providing assistance to poor people in slums. We have been coming here to give food and medical support to the children and their parents because the condition they are in presently is condemnable. As you can see, they have no shelter anymore and have to sleep in the open where mosquitoes feast on their bodies that have been deprived of good food. I find it disappointing that the education of the children is not even considered in all these. This is why some children get derailed in life. Something should be done about this.”

    Aside from the Otodogbame where all the children are out of school, findings also showed that the number of OSC  in Makoko, a sprawling slum in Yaba area of the state, is also high.

    When The Nation visited the area, a  large number of half naked school age children were found moving about the riverine community when their mates were in school. While some were hawking different ware on the rivers using wooden boats, some others vivaciously frolicked around.

    One of them, Segun, said he has never gone to school because his parents never enrolled him.

    The 10 year old said: “I don’t go to school. I do see some of my mates going to school but I have never gone to school. My parents have never taken me to school. The only place my mother takes me to is the market where we hawk food. When we come back from the market, the only thing I do is to play around the community and eat.”

    Kona, a 14-year-old boy who paddles boat to earn a living also said: “ I  stopped going to school after completing primary six. The simple reason for this is because my parents couldn’t pay my school fees again.  I wasn’t even going to school every day when I was in the primary school because the money wasn’t there for my parents to pay my bills.  This was why I decided to take to the job of paddling boats to earn a living.  I would have loved to continue with my education if my parents had the means. As it is now, I don’t see myself going back to school.”

    Ajara, a teenage fish seller, told The Nation that she lost interest in education when the parents always failed to pay her fees.

    She said: “I was tired of a situation where one would go to school today and stay back at home for another two or three days before the parents would have money to pay. Instead of wasting my time at home, I decided to be hawking fish. I don’t have to wait for when my parents would bring money before I eat again. Education is good but I don’t think it is meant for poor people like us.”

    Some of the school owners in the community also attested to the fact that a large number of the children are still out of school in spite of their intervention. The proprietor of Holy Ghost Primary School, Joseph Omni said, even though schools are springing up in the area, many children are still out of school. He noted that many who are even in school don’t come to school all the time because of their parents’ inability to pay the paltry sum of N50 that he charges every day.

    “ The pupils here don’t pay school fees per term as you have it in other places. If you ask them to pay every term, they will not come to school again. Here, I charge N50 per day and as little as this money is, many parents still find it difficult to pay.  From time to time, you will find some of the children not coming to school because the parents didn’t have money to give them.

    “In spite of this, we still urge them to come to school.  If you don’t encourage them to come, they will relax and not come to school again.  It will even surprise you to know that I am the one that goes to their homes to bring them to school in the morning  and take them back after closing hours.  I have a boat and a driver that goes to their homes to bring them. If you don’t do that, they will not come to school because the cost of  boarding boats to school and going back home is even more than what they would pay in school.”

    He added: “The same thing applies in the secondary school where   I charge each pupil a paltry sum of N1,500 a month.  Most of their parents can’t afford this. All that their parents  do at the end of every month is to send the sum of N500  instead of the N1,500 that they are supposed to pay. Instead of sending them away, we still accommodate them just to make sure that they do not drop out of school.  I have four teachers working in the primary section.  At the end of some months, we may not generate more than N20,000. This is what I will share among the teachers and myself.”

    The story took an amusing but a more pathetic note when The Nation met  a teacher  of another school in the community.  The encounter opened up the depth of poverty in the environment and the sordid darkness surrounding the academic lives of the children. The teacher in EPP Halleluyah Agbojedo Nursery and Primary School, Joseph Godonu, sadly noted that many parents who have many children in the school often come to beg that two of the  children should be allowed to pay N70 a day instead of the N100 for both.

    “Many parents can’t send their kids to school because they have many children. What they do is to send one or two of the children to school and leave the others at home until they are old enough to become apprentices.

    “Some of these parents can’t afford to pay the sum of N50 that we charge as daily fee. There are some that would even plead that we should be taking N70 for their two children because they can’t afford N50 for each child. We don’t turn such parents away because if we do, their education will crash. We are here to help arrest the incidence of having children dropping out of school.”

    Decrying the plight of the children, a rights activist and Executive Director, Centre for Children’s Health, Education, Orientation and Protection (CEE-HOPE), Betty Abba, blamed the rising cases of OSC on the state of the economy. She said: ‘’The number of OSC is on  a sharp increase due to the general recession in the country. It’s a hard time for children generally and for many economically hard-hit parents, education is no longer a priority. It’s sad because that means Nigeria will yet retain the unenviable position as having the highest number of out-of-school children globally. It’s sadder still because I don’t see any serious or concerted effort by the government in terms of providing palliatives towards boosting school retention for affected children and families.”

    She regretted that some government policies and exercises have thrown thousands of children out of school. “Schools have been demolished in the informal housing, which government likes to call shanties; meanwhile it is not providing alternatives or boosting the grossing housing deficit. It’s naturally not possible for families sleeping outside or under the bridges to contemplate education for their children when they have no idea where their next meals would be coming from.  It’s a terrible time for so many children in Lagos,” she said.

    Speaking on the free education policy of various government’s in the country, Abba said:  “As far as I know, there is no such thing as free education. In the public schools across the country laying claim to free universal education, the fact is that parents still pay heavily for school materials such as uniforms, exercise books, text books and of course the ubiquitous school levies. Many parents grappling with inability to feed their children do not have the luxury of such expenses. It’s not the ideal, but that is the reality.

    “If government, corporate bodies, and ngos can help with the supply of these things, it will make a lot of difference in school enrolment. “We have seen the difference that N1,000 can make in the realisation of an indigent child’s educational dream, and in setting him/her on the path to greatness. The more children we are able and willing to put in school, the better for those children and the better and safer for all of us as a society. Again, that is the reality.

    “My ngo has  provided scholarship to about 50 children in four states in this new school year and hope to increase it with time. We also organise summer classes for both in-school and out-of-school or pre-school children in addition to several educational and developmental programmes. We provided summer classes for one month for about 200 children in two Lagos slums (Makoko and Monkey Village) last holiday season and hope to increase it this year.”

    She regretted that the country may not attain the SDG  goal 4 of the United Nation with the present situation. “We need to rake up the state of our education. Education is not yet for all in Nigeria, and that way, we cannot have prosperity for all.

    ‘’When children drop out of school, their lives slide down the sloppy road to destruction: drugs, crimes, teenage pregnancy, child marriage, teenage prostitution or a regression to plain under-performing life as an illiterate or semi-illiterate. Nothing equates education and no words can truly equate the loss of it in a modern, complex and competitive world. A country that doesn’t prioritise education and human capacity development is simply dead on arrival in our times.

    “Therefore, governments at all levels should make education compulsory for every child, enforce free universal basic education and ensure that every child is in school. Boost school retention by subsiding school fees and levies, very importantly, provide school meals. Our governments must not only live by rhetorics but must march words with action.”

    The Lagos State Government has however restated its commitment to the total upgrading of schools in the state, especially those  in the slums.

    Rising from an intensive three-day retreat for members of the State Executive Council and legislators from the Senate, House of Representatives and State House of Assembly, held at the Eko Hotels and Suites in Victoria Island, with the theme, “Good Governance In A Recession”, the state government said there was need to upgrade the quality of schools through training and re-training of teachers, as well as improving the infrastructure.

    In another breath, the state government, through the Ministry of Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation (WAPA), said it has been paying the school fees of many vulnerable children in the state and also dealing with people who take pleasure in abusing children.

    The Commissioner of WAPA,  Hon. Lola Akande, made the remark during the celebration of this year’s World Orphans Day held at Alausa,  Ikeja. Akande, who was represented by the Director Child Development,  Mrs Alaba Fadairo, said: “We became focused upon the enactment of Child’s Rights Law and embarked on various initiatives over the years to make the Lagos child abuse-free by creating awareness distributing child’s rights law, Yellow cards to offenders, distributing suggestion boxes in various public primary and secondary schools, daily reports  through the ministry’s help-lines, interventions on reported cases, rescue  of abused children and payment of school fees and hostel fees for orphans and vulnerable children\abused children. Our ministry is about family and child development while helping to preserve families. We  work to aid families of widows, families with single mothers and other families at the risk of disintegration.”

  • Marriage: A lifetime covenant (2)

    Dear Reader,

    Greetings in Jesus’ precious Name! Our God is forever faithful. Praise to our Omnipotent God, the Maker of all things. The Word of God encourages us to ‘pursue after knowledge and search wisdom out’. As you continue to read and apply yourself to the demands of the Word of God, every plan of the enemy to frustrate your family life shall be annulled in Jesus’ Mighty Name!

    I discussed the origin of marriage last week. Today, I will be looking at what I have titled: Marriage Covenant Responsibilities.

    The Word of God makes it clear that marriage is a covenant, and this is expounded in my book: Marriage Covenant. What is a Covenant? The dictionary defines it as ‘a binding agreement; or a contract’ usually between two people.

    The Word of God says: Marriage is Honourable … (Hebrews 13:4). It goes to say, therefore, that the agreement of marriage between two people is seen as a good thing in the sight of God, which eventually leads to honour and dignity for the parties involved. I want to let you know, therefore, that it is a good thing for you to desire marriage, if you are not yet married. For those already married, it is a good step you have taken in life. You shall have no cause to regret it.

    However, as good as marriage is, there are covenant responsibilities that must be operated in order for it to produce the desired good. The Word says: If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land (Isaiah 1:19). There is good in marriage, but you must be willing and obedient to operate the covenant.

    My husband, Dr. David Oyedepo will always say, “A life without responsibilities is a liability”. Furthermore, a wise man once said: “Responsibility is the price for greatness”. Do you desire good in your marriage? Are you longing for peace, harmony and serenity in your marital life? Then apply yourself to the demands of a good home. If you are yet to enact the covenant of marriage, begin to ask for grace to comply with the demands. If it is in your heart to obey God, it shall be easy for you to do so.

    Greatness and fulfilment don’t come by magic; neither are they meant for a specific group of people, but for as many as would fear God and work righteousness. If people are having great testimonies concerning their family relationships, why not you? Greatness and fulfilment are meant for you, if you care to walk in the covenant.

    What are these Covenant Responsibilities?

    For the man:

    1. As a Husband
    2. He is the head of the woman, the leader and not a dictator. He must lead spiritually, because God will hold him accountable (Genesis 3:9).
    3. He must love his wife unconditionally as a brother, friend and as a lover, sexually (Ephesians 5:25-29).
    4. He must honour his wife and not treat her as a lesser being or a slave (1 Peter 3:7)
    5. He must dwell with her according to knowledge. He must know her likes and dislikes. She is an individual too, who has a mind of her own. Never compare her to your mother or anyone! It is foolishness to do so, says God (2 Corinthians 10:12). Women expect to be fulfilled in the following areas: companionship, compassion, romance and passion. Never treat her as an old cargo; instead, renew your love for her on daily basis.
    6. As a father

    The man has the responsibility of raising his children in the nature and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4; Deuteronomy 6:6-7), not by bullying and beating. Instead, apply the rod of the Word of God, and as you mould them in the fear of the Lord, you are raising godly children, who will in turn call you blessed.

    1. As a provider

    A French proverb says, “A father is a banker provided by nature”. You are responsible for the needs of your home. Meeting the needs of the home is the primary responsibility of the man. The woman is only your help meet. Never shift your responsibility to your wife; it is anti-covenant to do so. To shy away from this responsibility makes you worse than an infidel [an unbeliever] (1 Timothy 5:8). This shall not be your portion.

    For the woman:

    1. As a wife

    She has the power of influence, while her husband has the power of authority. She must be a positive influence. Her responsibility, however, as far as God is concerned is that of submission.

    1. She willingly allows herself to be ruled by her husband, obeying him in love (Ephesians 5:22-24).
    2. She must reverence him (Ephesians 5:33).
    3. She must cook to please him.
    4. She must dress to please him (1 Peter 3:2).
    5. She must love him (Titus 2:4; Proverbs 31:26).
    6. Sshe must learn to go to God in prayer, rather than arguing.
    7. As a mother

    She must train her children both spiritually and physically, bringing them up to become arrows in the hands of God. A mother’s role in the life of a child is a non-transferable responsibility. Mothers, don’t push your children to another person to train for you. Whatever “means” God gives you, use it to bring up your children. God will hold you accountable for failing in your role as a mother. Prepare your children for life ahead. It is your covenant responsibility.

    1. As a home maker

    Seeing to the general welfare of the home, planning and managing resources provided are your covenant responsibilities (Titus 2:5). You are the homemaker, not house-help. You are to see to the welfare of every member of your household. This is your primary assignment before your career or business.

    You need the grace of God to carry out your covenant responsibilities. But you need to surrender your life to Christ before that grace can be given to you.  You can say this prayer and receive that grace. “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Now that history is on the table (2)

    It is not accidental that a typical American and British child in elementary/basic school knows a lot about his country. A deliberate effort is made to ensure they know why things are the way they are in present day. It is therefore not surprising that they grow up patriotic. History is compulsory up to the age of 14 in state schools, some have gone ahead to make it compulsory until 18 years for students.

    Now that history will most definitely be on the table in Nigeria, emphasis should now focus on how to teach it. In doing this, teachers have to know history to actually teach it. One of the major reasons why some students find history “boring” and a callous exercise in regurgitation and rote memorisation is the method of approach and the level of comprehension of teachers.

    But as we go farther into the 21st century, there are certainly lots of tools to ensure the subject isn’t “boring.” For deeper insight into the teaching of history, I find Bruce Lesh’s book “Why Won’t You Just Tell Us the Answer?: Teaching Historical Thinking in Grades 7-12″ quite instructive.

    Lesh offers an array of lessons and case studies, like how to introduce historical thinking through Nat Turner’s Rebellion, chronological thinking and causality through the Railroad Strike of 1877, and historical empathy through the Truman-MacArthur Debate. Throughout, Lesh places a premium not on one’s ability to recall cold facts, but on whether students can read critically, reference appropriate sources, and support an argument with evidence. Over the last fifteen years, Lesh has refined a method of teaching history that mirrors the process used by historians, where students are taught to ask questions of evidence and develop historical explanations.

    “I’m not preparing you to go work in the archives,” Lesh wrote, “I’m preparing you to make a presentation to a client as to why your proposal to build their building is the best one. My job is to teach you how to make arguments. Arguments are based on the application of evidence, and evidence is gained through analysis of information. That’s what we do. We look at historical problems. We build arguments about the questions that we created. We teach you ways to use evidence to support your argument.”

    In a 2014 article written for ‘The Atlantic,’ David Cutler said he starts teaching American history breaking down each unit by making obvious the connections to today. He uses present day events to assist students in understanding the past. Some of these experiences even come from movies the students may have watched. This becomes necessary because it may be challenging for some students to remember anything for long that has little to no direct relevance in their daily lives.

    “In my experience, nothing grabs student interest like pointing out not only human folly, but also how, to varying degrees, history repeats itself. For instance, before teaching about European conquistadores like Hernán Cortés, who in the early 1500s conquered Mexico and the Aztec Empire for riches and glory, I play my favorite scene from the 1987 film ‘Wall Street,’ where Gordon Gekko, an inside trader played by Michael Douglas, delivers his iconic “greed is good” monologue. I then assign students to investigate America’s recent financial troubles, and the role greed played in causing the recession.”

    Can you see the connection? A good Nigerian history teacher can also use this method to look at our economic history and draw a strong nexus between our profligate system and the current recession we are passing through.

    Cutler believes “from there on I have most students hooked. They want to learn more about Cortés, and why and how he went to such lengths. And because students want to learn, they care about retaining and building upon their understanding.”

    He also used this same approach while teaching European history to students about the millions of lives lost in the Belgian Congo under King Leopold II. After cataloguing the long list of horrors students wanted to make a difference. To do that, they created websites dedicated to raising awareness of crimes against humanity. By researching and voicing how to stop violence in Darfur, Uganda, Syria, and Venezuela, students took ownership of the learning – and they didn’t learn for the mere sake of learning. They produced something with their newfound knowledge, all while harnessing essential 21st-century communications skills.

    This – to me – should be the new history, the application of hard theory. History should serve as a conduit to teach important modern competencies like writing, critical thinking, reasoning, and technology skills. This makes the content more relatable, useful, and engaging.

    I’m not suggesting this is the only way to teach the subject; in essence, there’s no ‘best’ way to teach history. Researches have suggested that good history teachers know the content, use a variety of approaches, explicitly teach the skills of historical inquiry and analysis, tailor learning opportunities to suit their students’ stage of development, and encourage deep understanding.

    There will always be room for a range of teaching and learning activities in the history classroom: a story well-told by the teacher, a museum display – actual or digital -, model-making, the construction of timelines, comprehension and source analysis activities, oral history, site studies, simulated excavations, problem-solving exercises, role plays and debates. Activities like these can be tailored to suit students’ stage of development.

    A variety of resources should be used in the history classroom, including documents, photographs, artefacts and even people. Historical places make great resources: museums, monuments and heritage sites – actual or virtual,- particularly in the local area. Film, historical fiction, works of art, history textbooks and history websites offer a wonderful range of resources.

    To teach for historical understanding, teachers need to become familiar with the historical content and concepts they need to teach, understand the skills and methods of historical inquiry, be clear about the learning goal – knowledge and understanding and skills, – plan a coherent learning sequence to enable students to achieve the learning goal, include a variety of activities and resources appropriate for the learning goal, learning styles and the stage of development of students.

    Enthusiasm is the first and most important way to bring life to any classroom. The teacher’s enthusiasm for the topic and teaching is the key to success. Teachers need to be inspired and they need to inspire their students. To be inspired, they must love what they teach. They need to know their subject and learn something more about it each day. And they must make what they teach a part of them. When students see and understand these qualities, they should be inspired and enthusiastic about learning Nigerian history.

    We need to stop thinking of history as battles and wars, kings and presidents and start thinking in terms of tribal coexistence, crime, corruption, class, and gender. Today, these things matter very much in our lives. If we are going to teach tolerance, we are going to have to teach respect for different ethnic groups, classes, genders, and even sexualities.

    Teachers should not rigidly rely on too many history textbooks as the sole authority. The textbook should guide the outline for the course, but teachers should rely on other sources, especially primary sources, as well. Secondary sources are critical for contextualizing and making sense of those rich firsthand sources.

    Finally, some historical development may make a lot more sense to a student if he or she can see a local manifestation of it. Teachers would thus have an onerous task of assessing students on what they can do with what they know, rather than how much they know at any given time. This was the mistake of the past that should not be replicated

  • NOLLYWOOD: DISPELLING OLD VS. NEW SENTIMENT (2)

    I received some calls after last week’s edition on the above subject, mostly from the younger Nollywood artistes, debunking perception that they started such campaign of calumny that appears to be dividing the industry along a demographic/year of entry line.

    “Young Nollywood is not attacking anyone. It’s the older people that started this divide and attacking and tearing down,” one of them said to me.

    “There’s no new or old Nollywood. It’s even more of the older people who started calling the younger ones new Nollywood,” said another.

    Your article sounds like we think we have arrived and are attacking; that’s not true o,” another one said. They said the latest onslaught started after an older colleague referred to OC Ukeje and Blossom Chukwujekwu as Instagram actors on air.

    Without sounding judgmental, I want to disagree that these two actors do not deserve that description. It seems that when we quarrel among ourselves in this manner, we are merely venting our anger on the sensations of a given time. Yet, we cannot stop the world from evolving, because, like I said in the previous piece, life is a journey of new discoveries.

    The Instagram vogue does not exclude anyone who is upwardly mobile. It is the kind of business strategy or marketing platform that drives a fan base, if you like. And it does not in any way define who these artistes are.

    Toronto International Film Festival (TIFF) did not see Ukeje merely as an Instagram actor to have invited him to lead a conversation at the last edition.

    In case the guy does not know OC Ukeje, here is how TIFF described him: “a Lagos-born actor, singer and performer. Winner of the 2006 Amstel Malta Box Office reality TV show for actors, he later trained at the New York Film Academy. He has won several Best Actor awards, including the Africa Magic Viewers’ Choice Award, a Nigeria Entertainment Award, an Africa Movie Academy Award, and a Best of Nollywood Award.”

    His films include Teco Benson’s Two Brides and a Baby (2011); Jeta Amata’s Black November (2012); Half of a Yellow Sun (2013), based on Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s bestselling novel; Destiny Ekaragha’s Gone too Far!(2013); Kenneth Gyang’s Confusion Na Wa (2013); Seyi Babatope’s When Love Happens (2014); the television series Gidi Up; Remi Vaughan-Richards’ The Department (2015); Sara Blecher’s Ayanda (2015); and Niyi Akinmolayan’s The Arbitration (2016), which plays at the Festival.

    For Chukwujekwu who made his professional acting debut in 2009 and won the Best Supporting Actor Award at last year’s edition of Africa Magic Viewers Choice Award, here is what Wikipedia has to say: “In 2009, after several auditions Chukwujekwu landed the lead role in the yet to be released Nigeria soap opera; Portrait Of Passion. That same year he was cast in his first feature film, Vivian Ejike’s Private Storm alongside Omotola Jalade Ekeinde and Ramsey Nouah.

    Blossom was profiled on Africa Magic’s Nollywood show, Jara, as one of the top 5 actors to watch out for in 2013. He was number 4 on ace Nollywood director, Charles Novia’s, list of the best actors of 2013. In 2012, Chukwujekwu landed a role in Flower Girl which was his breakout movie.

    Released in 2013, it achieved critical and commercial success in Nigeria, Ghana, the United Kingdom and film festivals in the USA and Canada. Chukwujekwu’s next block buster feature film, Finding Mercy, was one of the most anticipated and successful movies of 2013. It was the closing film at the African International Film Festival (AFRIFF 2013).

    In 2014 Knocking on Heaven’s Door opened in cinemas nationwide on April 18. Chukwujekwu’s performance as the abusive and emotionally volatile “Moses” earned him the Africa Magic Viewers’ Choice 2015 Best Supporting Actor award.

    He has featured in a handful of TV dramas & series, such as Tinsel on MNET, where he played Mr. Akinlolu Hart, MTVBASE’s HIV themed Shuga, CATWALQ by Emem Isong and Monalisa Chinda, Greg Odutayo’s My Mum and I, About to Wed and Married.

    Chukwujekwu plays the lead role of Kelechi Pepple in Nigeria’s first indigenous Telenovella; Taste of Love (2015).

    If you described the two actors profiled above as Instagram stars, that was a careless talk. And indeed, you don’t expect the younger filmmakers to sit back and not set the records straight by correcting wrong impressions.

    The fact that you are old school does not mean you should not be in vogue. Not when someone like my grandmother is on Facebook. People should make use of the tools available to them to rule every moment of their lives.

    I am a witness to how Tunde Kelani and Tade Ogidan have celebrated Kunle Afolayan. Those are elders who mean well for the industry and are not afraid of competition. Afterall, don’t we pray that our kids should surpass our achievements in Life?

    Respect is reciprocal. And this is not just for the guy who denigrated the above actors but for other older folks with similar mind. Call some other younger actors Instagram stars and you’d be fine, but not OC Ukeje and Blossom Chukwujekwu.

  • Enjoying marital harmony (2)

    Dear Reader,

    You are welcome to another time of refreshing. In this week’s edition of your favourite column, we shall be looking at the topic: ‘Understanding’.

    Understanding is a very important factor if you must enjoy marital harmony. The Bible says: …And with all thy getting get understanding (Proverbs 4:7).

    First, you need an understanding of yourself. You must know who you are and why you are here on earth. You must understand that God sent you to earth for a purpose; thus, you are not an accidental creature. Also, understand that you were not born to the family you belong to by mistake. This is because God is the perfect Organiser of man’s destiny. Furthermore, you must understand that God, Who made you, can never mismanage your life or your marriage.

    However, until you are in harmony with yourself, you can never enjoy marital harmony. If you don’t have a good understanding of yourself, there is no way harmony can be your portion in marriage. The question then is: How much of yourself do you understand?

    You must understand what marriage is and what it is not.

    There are several people who are married, but lack the understanding of what marriage is all about. On the other hand, there are other people who desire to get married but also lack the understanding of what marriage truly is.

    What then is marriage?

    It is a union of a man and a woman in an exclusive, God-ordained, lifetime relationship. If you have this understanding no matter the challenge you face in your marriage, you will know that you and God are up to it. Marriage is a perfect union with imperfect practitioners; when you understanding this, it will help you to enjoy harmony in your marriage.

    A wise man once said, “Because God is the Author of marriage, there is nothing you can add to it. All you need is to believe it and practice it”. As you practice it, it will begin to work for you. Remember, marriage is a perfect union because God makes no mistakes; however, the practitioners of marriage are imperfect. This will help you to relate effectively with your spouse and enjoy harmony in marriage.

    Marriage is not just a means of getting what you desire; but also a means to meeting the needs of your spouse in the union. The Bible says: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth (Genesis 1:28). The scripture further says that one will chase a thousand, and two will not just put a thousand, but ten thousand to flight (Deuteronomy 32:30). This is God’s mystery for earthly dominion. That means when you get married, you have a potential of being minimum ten times better in all areas of your life. That shall become your testimony!

    Marriage is not the source of joy and contentment, God is. Therefore, as you walk with God in your family, He will begin to unfold deep things to you via His Word and manifest Himself in your home like never before.

    Your must understand your spouse

    For you to have harmony in your home, you need to understand your spouse. You must understand that everything about God is unique. There are no two people on planet earth that are exactly the same.

    You are unique and peculiar; so is your spouse. Your children are peculiar; so is everyone God has created. You are not a carbon-copy of anyone; you are an original and so is your spouse. Therefore, you must understand your spouse if you desire marital harmony. You must understand his or her background, likes and dislikes, what makes him or her happy and what affects his or her mood.

    For those who are yet to be married, before you say, ‘Yes I do’ to any man or lady at the altar, ask yourself: “How much of him or her do I really know?” A lady met me some years back; she had been married for just three months then but was already fed up of the marriage and ready for a divorce. So, I asked a simple question, “How much of your spouse did you know before you got married?” Your guess is as good as mine. She knew close to nothing about him.

    To be able to understand your spouse effectively, two things must be in place:

    1. You must me sensitive: Never walk around with your eyes closed. Your mind is a sound mind; so, be sensitive.
    2. Communicate effectively: Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. Learn to communicate effectively with your spouse; when you know how to do this, it will help you to understand who your spouse is. You need to ask questions. The disciples of Jesus were around Him but they didn’t only listen to His teachings; whatever they didn’t understand, they always asked and Jesus never told them to shut up. Instead, He always answered their questions.

    So, rather than assuming, why not ask questions to know your spouse better? Communicate effectively to have a better understanding of who he or she is. When communication between you and your spouse becomes effective, you are laying a solid foundation for marital harmony. Understanding is a pivotal requirement to having an outstanding marriage; however, having a relationship with God is the foundation that guarantees harmony in marriage. Jesus Christ is knocking at the door of your heart, today, for you to accept Him as your Saviour and Lord. That is what being born again is all about. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer of faith: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom”.

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • NANS again! (2)

    To fully comprehend why the 31st convention of the National Association of Nigerian Students’ (NANS) held in Gombe, Gombe State failed is to understand the history and dynamics of the association from the mid-1990s to date. It was during this period that its visionless leadership dragged it into the murky waters of Nigerian politics. This brought the leaders “face to face” with the intrigues of “how to make money” in Nigeria by utilising your position. In later years, it became so brazen and so much “in your face” with all consequences damned.

    A classic example happened only last week when the “Acting president/convention chairman,” Prince Miaphen and four zonal coordinators – Usman Baba Kankia, Pedro Chibuzor Obi, Habib Salau Enesi and Okikiola Ogunsola in a statement they signed – pledged their support for Hon. Yakubu Dogara, the Speaker of the House of Representatives over allegation of budget padding. They pledged their loyalty during a “world press conference” because “the speaker has engaged students and young people in a way that no other speaker had.”

    I guess readers would be wondering why these students who were not able to put their own house in order by conducting a simple and transparent election would choose to dabble into a political issue that is still unfolding; an issue no one knows where the pendulum would swing. Some may be wondering if pecuniary interest is the case here.

    For those who may not know, since there are little or no jobs out there NANS has, for some time now, become a veritable platform where we have a group of perpetual students and their cronies in leadership. Some of these “leaders” have Masters’ degree but would rather choose to apply for a diploma programme in any discipline so that they can remain “relevant” in NANS politics. This is the sorry state of student unionism in the country. When last did you hear them raising an alarm over even issues that bother on their own welfare?

    Instead of commenting on the falling standard of education, the excruciating poverty and inequality in the land, the insurgency in the northeast, the Niger Delta crises and other critical challenges facing the nation these visionless “students” are busy dragging the entire Nigerian students in the mud.

    It is really difficult situating student unionism of the past with the sham we now have in place today. It had a cherished and glorious history that started with the emergence of West African Student Union (WASU) pioneered by some Nigerian students in London in 1925. WASU took the mandate of fighting for the rights of Africans during colonial rule and their impact was visible.

    This was followed by the National Union of Nigerian Students, (NUNS) whose last leader was the late Segun Okeowo. The NUNS was proscribed by the regime of General Olusegun Obasanjo. But with the advent of democratic rule, Nigerian students converged at the Yaba College of Technology, Lagos to establish NANS. NANS thus inherited the same idealism from WASU and NUNS and the student union marched on as a platform of change and informed activism.

    I still vividly recollect how NANS served as an active resistance group during the era of military regimes in Nigeria. It was part of the movement that fought for a return to civil rule in the country. By 1990 however, NANS was at the peak of its glory, having played a significant role in rousing Nigerians to protest the Structural Adjustment Program (SAP) imposed by the General Ibrahim Babangida’s regime in line with recommendations from the World Bank and the International Monetary Fund (IMF).

    The year also marked the beginning of what would be a split within the association later. The NANS annual convention for the year had been fixed for November 30, 1990 at Auchi Polytechnic, Auchi Edo State, but because of disagreements it was moved to the University of Benin (UNIBEN).

    After the controversial and heated convention, NANS – for the first time – witnessed a split along ethno-religious lines when undergraduates from Usman Dan Fodio University, Sokoto (UDU), announced a “Northern NANS.” This almost tore the union apart, but the students eventually came together after finding common grounds of agreement.

    However, that split fostered deeper ideological conflicts and schisms between different interest groups and weakened the broad platform of the body which unfortunately has continued to date. This compelled a delegate to the convention to later allege that: “Student unionism has been infiltrated by dirty money politics as well as brigandage by members of some confraternities and cult groups.”

    But some analysts strike more sympathetic notes as they see the new developments as not simply evidence of student leaders’ “degeneration,” but as a symptom of broader problems in the larger society. They point to the 2005 case when the then NANS president Orkuma Hembe used the platform to campaign for Obasanjo’s third term gambit and even went further to award him “Defender of Democracy” award.

    This was against the backdrop of a groundswell of opposition that this same defender of democracy proscribed NUNS, expelled and rusticated several of its leaders from their various university campuses across the country.

    To try to understand the situation in today’s NANS is to also understand the larger political and societal malaise plaguing the nation. For instance, the principle of zoning of offices is a creation of the Federal Character Commission and our political parties; but it also found its way into the constitution of NANS as well.

    While this is on a broader level, the students did not take proactive measures to address issues where they can be taken serious. It will surprise most readers that for a student body in the 21st century NANS website and twitter handle are all dormant; in fact, it has been dormant for some time now. It is shameful that while the leadership is busy endorsing politicians it could not activate a common website! So what have all the undergraduates of computer science been doing?

    What would be my recommendations if the students, by some miracle, can put their shattered house together? The association must first be rebranded and repositioned. But this can only be carried out by a purposeful and vision oriented leadership. Again, where will this leadership come from?

    If it does emerge, it should go back to history and study the ideals of both WASU and NUNS. I’m aware that some past leaders of the association are still active in some sectors of the economy; they can still play a positive role in repositioning the association away from brigandage and pecuniary gains.

    Since no convention comes without allegation of rigging, I will recommend that the process of electing its president and other officials be completely overhauled. The solution will be to adopt the Nigerian Bar Association (NBA) e-voting model adopted for its 2016 General Election where Mr. Abubakar Mahmoud (SAN) was elected the 33rd president of the umbrella association of professional lawyers. The Nigerian Society of Engineers (NSE) also adopted the model in electing its leaders.

    Previously, the NBA elected its leadership by a system of delegates drawn from the 100 branches of the Bar with each branch entitled to 10 delegates. If a branch has 100 members or more, it gets an additional delegate for every one hundred members. Also entitled to vote as delegates are the elected officers of the NBA (13 of them), all living lawyers (excluding judges) who are members of the Body of Benchers, Senior Advocates of Nigeria (SANs) and all members of the expanded National Executive Committee (NEC) of the Association.

    Former NBA President, Augustine Alegeh, SAN, initiated the change on Friday, August 29 2014, in Owerri, Imo State where he pressed for e-voting within the electoral system in the NBA. The association rightly reasoned that it does not have the moral right to criticise the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) for its well-advertised inefficiencies if it too cannot conduct a rancor free election.

    The e-voting was widely adjudged as successful and if adopted by NANS it will go a long way in repositioning the association to play its role in the country.

  • The Missing Government Papers (2)

    ‘But, do I want to teach again?’ She was now talking to herself. I carried on with my tasks while giving her only one ear. ‘At this point, it isn’t a matter of wanting to but having to. God knows, soul and body are soon parted when nothing keeps them together. I must see someone who knows someone who knows someone about getting a teaching position in this new university. The problem is that there is often a long gap between intention and execution when the government embarks on a project…’

    ‘Mummy said I should come and check on you before I resume for next session in school,’ was my explanation as I sat down in the sitting room.

    I knew that my mum, Aunt Deline’s sister, always felt responsible for her, even though that one was at least five years younger than her. Perhaps because Aunt Deline never married and never had a child, her sister felt obliged to share her daughter with her, and would often send me across the states to stay with her. It was the African blood in them, I guess. Luckily for us both, we got on quite well and Aunt Deline had contributed many times to my school fees and general maintenance. And, being the very smart, appreciative and cheerful girl that I was, Aunt Deline had developed a special love for me and I for my ‘acada’ aunt. And so, I found myself spending as much of my holidays as possible with Aunt Deline.

    ‘Enny, I need your perspective on this’, replied Aunt Deline as if she had not heard me. Whenever I heard that sentence, I always felt somewhat elated. It meant a great deal to me.

    For one thing, it meant Aunt Deline was working on something interesting. Her prodigious brain was never idle; it was constantly moving from one scheme to another. Many of them consumed money and brought in nothing. That explained why she didn’t appear to have any substantial savings in spite of so many years of working. But she never seemed to bother, because she always said she was a child of providence. ‘My sister and I were nearly not born’, she always explained. ‘My mother had given up having more children after five boys. But we came along, very happy accidents she called us. So, I believe in the principle of taking no thought for tomorrow. It usually takes care of itself.’

    ‘Let me guess. You need my perspective on another venture or case’, I said smiling.

    ‘Who told you I’m working on a case? Must your perspective always be needed on a case? Can’t I need it on a …dress or …shoes or something?’

    ‘Aunt Deline’, I screamed, leaning forward a little on my chair, ‘Your dresses are at least ten years old, your shoes are even older, and you never buy any such things yourself.’

    ‘Yes, yes,’ said she quickly, if not a little touchily, ‘I’m grateful that your mum sends me some things now and then.’

    I sighed. I had anticipated that result. ‘Aunt Deline, you know that is not what I meant. I only wanted to remind you that needs have to be met and bills have to be paid. Look at the NEPA bill I saw on the table…’

    She snapped. ‘Since when did you begin to think like a typical Nigerian, that one must work because of money? You did not use to think this way. What happened to you? Never, ever work only for money, you hear me?’

    I smiled. ‘But Aunty, why else would one work if not for money?’

    ‘For the pleasure of the work, my dear, for the pleasure of the work,’ replied Aunt Deline.

    Then she straightened the regimental faded, three-quarter length black skirt and long-sleeved shirt that was her uniform. I looked at her with both fondness and admiration. If there was anyone in both of my parents’ families that I admired and loved, it was Aunt Deline. She was so intelligent yet guileless. Nothing missed her; no innuendo passed her by, yet even if not for necessity, she would not hurt a mosquito. She would gently explain to the air the reason why before she sprayed any insecticide  it was either the mosquitoes died or she did; and the choice was obvious.

    The fact that she never married nor had any child did not make her less busy than a mother with ten children. She always found something to do.

    But I did wonder where the money would come from to offset the N50, 000 bill the electricity company had dropped. That is quite apart from the one that came from the Water Works, sorry Utility Board, which I was sure Aunt Deline was keeping in one drawer or the other.

    ‘Are you going to get paid this time if you help the police solve this case?’, I asked. Aunt Deline looked at me through a small slit of her eyes and said nothing. That was another favourite scheme of hers  helping to solve crimes that puzzled the police.

    ‘Aunty,’ I persisted, ‘are you going to be paid this time if you solve this case?’

    ‘I have been able to help the police with my opinion on only one occasion on a matter of a criminal’s style of writing, and I am sure they could have solved the crime anyway without my help.’ That was not true; she had helped many times before which went unrecorded.

    ‘That was why they did not appreciate it?’

    ‘Well,’ replied Aunt Deline, ‘I don’t know if they did or not. What is important is that my knowledge of linguistics came in useful at that point in time. That is all that matters.’

    She did not tell me what really transpired but I heard it from Inspector Gogo. When the Assistant Inspector-General in charge of the Force Headquarters, AIG Tamire, had learnt about her involvement, he had been furious. He had been particularly caustic and loud in his instruction to his subordinates never to allow ‘that woman’ at the HQ again except to turn herself in for a crime, whether she had committed it or not. As far as he was concerned, he often said, a woman should not come to the world with any intelligence. Give a woman a little intelligence, he fumed, and what do they do with it? Get in the way of real men’s work. Aunt Deline was said to have fumed and thrown back at him before marching out of his office: ‘One of these days, sir, you will wake up and find that your wife is a woman!’

    ‘I only wish your interest in helping people could be translated to money,’ I said dejectedly.

    Aunt Deline gave me a small smile. ‘Darling, if there is anything I have taught you in all the years you have been with me, it is that even in Nigeria, it is possible to live without money, because, as you may soon find out, money does not necessarily solve every problem. Besides,’ she finished, ‘miracles happen every day if you will only open your eyes to see them’.

    I could not see any miracle coming our way but I refrained from saying so. Instead, I sat silent and contemplated Aunt Deline’s visage as she sat frowning at the newspaper she was reading. The face before me looked every second of the sixty-five years of the owner. It was a bit long and wide, with a slightly wide and protruding forehead, which tended to make the rest of the face a little bent inward at the eyes. The eyes were deep and set a bit far apart; the nose was a little too small for the total square area the face covered and her cheeks were long rather than full or high.

    Her greying hair, though not very long but permed straight (the only modern ‘frivolity’ she allowed herself) was neatly rolled into a bun behind while a few, whitish tufts persisted in standing straight up on her crown.

  • Don’t give up! (2)

    Dear Reader,

    Last week, I showed you how you can win your spouse and loved ones for Christ through prayers. This week, I will teach you another effective way to win them to Christ, which is by Living a Life That Speaks. Do you remember that old proverb which says, “Action speaks louder than words?”  There is a life that speaks!  Its voice is louder than the sound from the vocal cavity of man. It gets an unbelieving husband or wife saved. It ministers and brings glory to God. It is the kind of life that every believer must live in the home, at work, at the market place and everywhere, so that sinners can be magnetised into the Kingdom of God.

    Your life is the greatest witness, especially to your spouse.  Your unbelieving spouse will always consciously or unconsciously watch to see what you preach in your actions. Your actions should speak louder than your words.

    Your Christian life must be one of good example that portrays the fruits of the Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23 says: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.  If you live a Christian life having these characteristics, it will influence your spouse and even other relations, to the extent that without opening your mouth to witness to them (even though it is scriptural to witness to them), they will be attracted to the Kingdom of God.

    Your spouse will be easily won to Christ when you do it using the fruit of the Spirit mentioned above. These characteristics must replace every other negative attitude. They must be clearly seen by him, her and everyone around you. Jesus, our role model for winning souls, expects us to live a life worthy of emulation. God’s Word in Matthew 5:16 says: Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your father which is in heaven. I have had opportunities to counsel people, who have unsaved loved ones, and discovered that quite a number of them do not live lives that speak right in their homes.

    I once met a woman who was having problems with the salvation of her husband. I, later, discovered from my discussion with her that the way she used her tongue in the home had constituted the major obstacle to the man’s salvation. Brethren, be chaste in your conversation!  Women are usually guilty of this. As long as you keep nagging your unsaved husband, after a while, he will not even like you to be around him. This may even lead to a divorce in a home. Do not let your tongue be a trap to your loved ones; instead, let it be an asset!

    Living a Christian life is not as convenient; rather, it must be compulsory. Therefore, you have a job to do. So, a woman who has a husband, who is an unbeliever and probably a drunkard, would need to fall on her knees and take the situation to God in prayers. She would also need to follow up on her prayers with the practice of the fruit of the Spirit. Nagging, insulting, abusing or cursing the man will only push him deeper into his sins. Remember, whatever happens to him, will also affect you in the long run.

    Therefore, let your life be a living proof of the characteristics of the fruit of the Spirit. Let love, gentleness and meekness be your stronghold. Let it move you to prayers, watching out for your unbelieving spouse even in a terrible drunken state. Let your actions speak patience, temperance, faith and very shortly, God will touch your spouse’s heart by His power as written in John 6:44 which says: No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.

    Here is a testimony that will inspire you: “When we started preparing for the Women’s Convention, I prayed to God and told Him that I wanted my own family renewed. I did not like the names I was being called, (I was called the wife of an unbeliever). But I told God I didn’t want to be called that anymore.

    God did a great thing, even before the convention began! He changed my husband!

    On the day of the last Breakthrough Night, my husband said by himself, “We have to go to church’.  We came to church together and he gave his life to Christ that day. He has now stopped smoking and everything has changed in his life. He is now a new person!  Efemuaye L.

    I see God do the same for you in Jesus’ name! With Him, ALL things are possible. Embrace Him today and turn the life of your spouse and loved ones around for good. To embrace God through His Son, Jesus Christ, and become born again, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Avengers claim responsibility for Bayelsa pipeline attacks

    Avengers claim responsibility for Bayelsa pipeline attacks

    The Niger Delta Avengers (NDA), Friday, claimed responsibility for attacks on Agip pipelines.

    The group in a statement on its website by its Spokesman, Gen. Murdock Aginibo, said its fighters attacked the pipelines between 3am to 5am.

    It identified the attacked pipelines as the Nembe 1, 2, 3 and Tebedaba-Brass trunkline in Bayelsa/River States.

    The group warned the general public of impostors Facebook accounts adding that the Niger Delta Avenger is not on Social network anymore.

    It said: “At about the of 3am to 5am the Niger Delta Avengers blew up Nembe 1, 2, 3 and Tebedaba brass trunk-line in Bayelsa/River States.

    “We are still using this medium to warn the general public of impostors Facebook accounts. Niger Delta Avenger is not on Social network anymore.”