Tag: love

  • For the love of Kwara

    For the love of Kwara

    Before a capacity audience in Ikeja, within earshot of the Lagos State Secretariat, Kwara State Governor Abdulfatah Ahmed made his case. Seated to hear him in the large hall were indigenous Kwara State people living and working in Lagos. His task was to explain to them how he had managed the affairs of the state these three years, and also hear from them. He called it a consultative forum.

    The governor approached the job with calm and confidence. First, he noted that Kwarans form what he called “a critical mass” driving the economy of their host state and, by extension, that of the entire country.

    Then, he told them that his vision for the state since 2011 when he became governor was to inspire a better Kwara with improved infrastructure, healthier and happier people, having more youths going to school and upon graduation getting jobs or even becoming entrepreneurs. He seemed to speak passionately, mostly off-the-cuff, hinting of a love for the state and a bond with the people.

    At the inauguration of his administration, there were 30 unfinished road projects from previous governments, as Ahmed told the people. Eighteen of those projects have now been completed, costing the state over N7 billion. The rest are ongoing. The Ahmed plan, it has become clear, is to follow up inherited projects from past administrations provided they are for the good of the people, for, as the governor put it, they were also funded by the people.

    As he spoke, the people responded with intermittent applause.

    He proceeded with more information, announcing that his administration initiated 44 asphalted state road projects of its own covering over 128km, 23 of which have been completed while 21 were still being worked on. The state roads cost over N5 billion, he said.

    The Ahmed administration paid more attention to rural and feeder roads and also spent more money on them. Fifty-nine of such roads were initiated, 38 completed and 21 yet to be finished, the governor said. Over N16 billion was spent on them, the highest of the three categories. The reason for this was to spread development to other parts of the state, and also open up the rural areas so that farmers, for instance, can easily move their products to markets of their choice.

    The governor spoke about boreholes sunk in so many communities, electricity provided for several towns and communities, schools built or rehabilitated and equipped with modern learning tools. Under his administration, new methods of agriculture have been introduced, greatly altering the picture of drudgery and subsistence usually associated with tilling the land. More people are now raising animals and producing fresh milk, for instance. Some supply poultry products to fast food outlets. One even exports cassava chips, the governor told his audience. But his efforts in job creation and health may well top his scorecard. Under Quick-Win, the administration’s jobs scheme, over 10,000 youths have been employed either directly by the government or trained to become entrepreneurs. Some of them help in curbing road traffic infractions; some keep the roads and streets tidy. Some others have become employers after the state helped them with small interest-free loans. Before the year’s end, some 3,000 more will be added to the number, Ahmed assured.

    In health, Kwara may well have become a reference point. Five General Hospitals spread across the state have been rehabilitated. Ilorin General Hospital is a model. Once acquired by the University of Ilorin as part of its medical unit, the hospital was a virtual wreck on the departure of Unilorin to its permanent site. Ahmed and his team revisited the hospital, retooled it and brought it back to life again. Today, the General Hospital is seen as a model facility, not only in the state.

    Under the administration and in partnership with private investors, Kwara Advanced Diagnostic Centre (KADC) is touted to be among the best of its kind in the country, its staff and facilities resolving sometimes intractable medical conditions. Close attention is also said to be paid to people at the grassroots, necessitating the rehabilitation and upgrade of health centres across the state. Ahmed told his audience in Ikeja that his administration’s vision is to bring health care so close to the people that no one in the state will have to travel more than 500 metres to find a primary health centre.

    That morning, Ahmed also told his people how his technical education plan will help mop up idle youths from the streets and also boost the state’s skills profile.

    How did the people receive their governor’s scorecard? Well, from the intermittent applause and the chat as he ended his briefing, it was easy to see that Ahmed’s three years in office was worth their while.

  • For the love of their sight

    For the love of their sight

    Age was no barrier, nor was distance. From remote villages they came, one of them guided by his devoted grandson. All visually impaired, they are hoping to see again, and their source of hope is Senator Alkali Abdulkadir Jajare, the lawmaker representing Yobe South Senatorial District.

    The turnout was unprecedented as both old and young gathered at four  centres in Damagum, Fika, Nangare and Potiskum to take advantage of the free eye surgery scheme of the senator.

    The scheme, operated by the Alkali Foundation, is aimed at offering eye treatment to over 1200 constituents, irrespective of party affiliation or ethnic background.

    Sixty-year-old Abubakar Shuaibu had never had any reason to travel outside his village in the last 10 years. But one compelling reason took him out of his hometown Ngelshagale to Damagum, headquarters of Fune Local Government Area.

    This reporter sighted him with his 10-year-old grandson named after him as the duo did their best to cross the busy Kano-Maiduguri Highway without being hit, on their way to the venue of screening.

    Little Shuaibu has never seen the four walls of a classroom, opting to   dedicate his life to guiding his grandfather who can hardly see. His sight is virtually donated to his grandfather, as it were.

    The old man is happy his grandson is willing to be of help, but the Pa Shuaibu is also traumatised by the fact that the boy’s devotion and services rob him of the opportunity to go to school.

    He said: “One of my greatest worries is not the fact that I am going blind but the fact that my little boy can’t go to school because of my condition”.

    His fear for a dark future for his grandson spurred him to make the trip to Damagum when he heard the announcement on the local radio for free eye surgery by Senator Jajare.

    “My coming here is with the hope that if I get this sight, my son will go to school. I only pray that Allah works things out for me and my son. I love him so much and I would like to see him grow into a responsible person in life.

    “Look at the senator who is doing this for us. I am sure it is education that took him to this position to turn his eyes on us. I pray Allah to reward him many more times in whatever he is looking for in life”, Shuaibu said.

    Another man, Mustapha said he has not been active at his farm due to his threatened sight. He hopes to leverage on the free surgery to restore his sight so as to resume his farm work.

    “I am hoping that my problem will be over after meeting with the doctors. I have been screened and I am due for the operation in Potiskum,” Mustapha said.

    Over 1200 patients suffering from Cataract, Glaucoma and Trachoma from different village across the four Local Government Areas were at the four centres.

    According to investigations, the beneficiaries were chosen on only one condition i.e. those with eye problems.

    “Senator Jajare corroborated the story as he said: “the only qualification for this operation is the condition itself. Those who qualified for this treatment and operation were not selected on party lines or tribal affiliations. If you have the disease, you are qualified for the operation or the treatment and you come get it free of charge.

    “I decided to embark on this programme as part of my gesture of giving back to the society and the less privileged in my position for the mandate the people have given me, the Senator said.

    The leader of the doctors team, Dr Salmanu Rabiu said the exercise will go on for three days as the screening will be done at various centres and the final operation at Potiskum General Hospital.

    Dr. Rabiu explained that a glaucoma surgery on one eye costs N50, 000, while the rest would cost between N40,000 and N30,000.

    He said that the senator also made available operational drugs and lenses for the patients, while attributing most of the eye problems to unclean water use in washing faces, as well as lack of routine medical checks.

  • ‘Peace, love panacea for nation’s woes’

    ‘Peace, love panacea for nation’s woes’

    The violence and destruction in the country have provoked a spirited reaction from a cleric in Taraba State.

    Apostle Joel Lenbang has launched a spiritual assault on all seen and unseen agents who are bent on destabilising the peace and unity of the country during one of his church sermons.

    It was during an open ground crusade at a trough that is encompassed by a range of exotic mountains at the Mambilla Plateau, Bang Sardauna Local Government Area of Taraba State.

    The Accountant-General of the state-turned cleric said:

    “We are here for a purpose; I would have been in the state capital accounting for the finances of the state. Territorial demons and evil doers must die wherever they are –in the water, on land or in the air. As I address them now. …Let the blood of Jesus flow.”

    Preaching on the theme “Who Should I Love?” he said the map of Africa is like a pistol, and Taraba State, particularly the venue (Bang) is metaphorically the spiritual trigger of a gun.

    He further said he was going to release the missile in Bang so that enemies of the establishment would be spiritually paralysed.

    The missile or projectile, which he said was from God, will start destroying the demons and evil doers in Taraba, Nigeria and the entire Africa.

    Noting that the “The Bible is my sword,” he said God sent him to clean the country of evils.

    Lenbang said he crept into Bang –his native home-at midnight and headed to a stream where God showed him all the evil places in Nigeria.

    “I will tackle the places now,” he insisted, noting that secret societies, cultisms, shrine activities and wickedness in high and low place were not good for the country.

    He said some people attack their neighbours. “Some eat human flesh and drink human blood.

    “Some people pick shit and pour on other people’s houses while they are sleeping. The anger and curse of God are on evil doers. We are going to destroy them today.”

    The cleric said he knows the witches would attack him after the service, but they would all die because he was only delivering the Word of God.

    On the theme, Lenbang said God has given us a new commandment, because man could not obey the first laws.

    Quoting copiously from Genesis chapter 2 verses 16 and 17, he said God created a garden in Eden and commanded man to be free to eat from any tree, except the tree of knowledge and evil, but man was unable to obey that commandment, even as he said in Exodus 20:1 to 17,  the Israelites were unable to keep the 10 commandments.

    He said: “God is wonderful and polished. The Israelites had lived in Egypt for 40 years without God’s punishment until he gave them the 10 commandments, after emancipating them from the land of slavery.

    “But they broke even the first law that bars them from having other gods. They had carved an idol and were worshiping it.

    “The commandments were written by God Himself so they are as holy as Him; no one can keep them except Him. That is why Jesus came to fulfil the laws on our behalf.

    “Is there anyone who keeps all the 10 commandments?” he asked.

    The Apostle gave example of a rich man who went to Jesus and claimed he was fulfilling all the laws. Lenbang said humorously that when Jesus asked him to go and sell all his properties and give the proceeds to the poor and follow Him, the rich man left in anger.”

    He said we are of the flesh and blood so we must fall. “But when one falls, one should not stand on one’s error. If one does that, one is condemning oneself.”

    “What would you do for Jesus who died for you, in spite of your many sins?”

    He said the new law is simple: “Love one another like you love yourself”, adding that the new law has no conditions attached.

    “If you love your neighbour, you would not judge him; after all, no man is qualified to judge another man.

    “Who and how should we love? The answer is: love everybody, anyhow,” he said.

    Continuing, he said: “If you don’t love your neighbour, you are a dead person merely living.

    “Where is it written in the Bible that Christians shouldn’t love unbelievers?

    “Where is it written that Christians shouldn’t love Muslims, or Muslims shouldn’t love Christians?

    “Where is it written that a Christian should not love his perceived enemy? And where is it written that you should love God and hate your brother? If you cannot love your brother whom you know, how can you love God?”

    He maintained that no power was comparable to the power of love. “The power of love is supreme as the supremacy of God.

    “Jesus came and displayed love. So, the power of hatred cannot stand that of love, it is too strong. Love covers everything.

    “When you are saturated with the power of love, no weapon can succeed you, and you can destroy the works of Satan.”

    He added that when God chooses anyone, he will become a territorial apostle, saying there is only one God, and the only way to reach God is through Jesus Christ. But the new law brought by Jesus is love.

    “If you love your neighbour, you will not seek demonic powers; you will not belong to secret societies or indulge in cultism,” he said. He declared that whoever persists in evil acts would be destroyed.

    Concluding, he said: “I will only speak the Word and God will do the battle. Death and life are in the power of the Lord.”

  • Love meets sacrifice and conviction

    Love meets sacrifice and conviction

    Book Title: Falsely Accused

    Author: Jide Popoola

    No of pages: 99

    Publisher: Cypress Concepts & Solutions Ltd

    Reviewer: Hannah Ojo

    Perhaps one of the most puzzling features of love is the tendency for both partners who have caught the Cupid arrow to be deaf to the sound of reason, even if it is to the detriment of both partners. They become fools to themselves and the world, following after the dictate of passion. To pay the price of addiction, they are ready to incur the wrath of their families and even break the rules of established tradition. We saw this in Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, a classical love story written in the 15th century which continues to find relevance across cultures and times.

    A peculiar love story served from the angle of a clash of culture and religion in a modern day Nigerian society is the subject matter of the novella ‘Falsely Accused’ by Jide Popoola. Although the book is more apt for the literary cravings of junior readers, adult individuals would also find it relishing as it touches on issues which at one time or the other have birth conflicts in the society.

    The evils of cultism and its irreparable damages is one of the issues addressed in the book. Taking on cultism with vivid descriptions, shown in the use of language and the presentation of the lifestyle of their practitioners, one cannot but commend the author for his firm grasp of the underpinnings of the local parlance in the occultic world. One cannot but cringe at the spat of bloodlettings and havocs wrought by acts of savagery which has become the norm in our institutions of higher learning across the country. Cultism takes a center stage in Falsely Accused as personified by the character of Bashiru Babalola aka Stone, a fellow whose bent on revenge to heal the pains of his bruised ego led to the crisis in the book.

    Hauwa Nagogo, a clever teenager who is the daughter of a devout Muslim and a hardline conservative, is the heroine of the story. Her choice of a lover from Igboland led to an unprecedented crisis. Hauwa met Austin Achebe at the Polytechnic, Ibadan where they were both students and became enamoured with affection. “He reached out with his left hand and gently placed it on hers. She shivered visibly at his touch. It was at once sweet, warm and electrifying! She knew that feeling. It plainly told her she was smitten (page 22)”. It was an affection she would have to pay heavily for thereafter as upcoming events in the novel would later show.

    Angered by the turn of events and in order to detach her from her Iyanmiri lover, her father hurriedly gave her out in marriage to Alhaji Mai-Rabo, a wealthy business partner of his. Her strong will and love for Austin, which propelled her to refuse to be ‘touched’ resulted in her becoming a victim of mutilation. This aspect of tensions in the novella alluded to the dehumanising act some women have been subjected to in this part of the world. The case of Mallam Mai-Cindoya who mutilated his wife’s foot because of alleged infidelity in the year 2002 serves a bitter reminder.

    Falsely Accused is such a good story but one tends to wonder why the author did not translate the meaning of some Yoruba words such as gbana and didn’t leave a foot note for explanation. This may not help non Yoruba speakers. All in all, Popoola should be credited for a great effort. His deep penetrations dished out with brevity would hold the interest of impressionable minds.

  • To switch gear or make an abrupt exit

    WHEN a young guy and a young girl fall in love, it is indeed a dream come true. However, it is not the falling and tripping that matter; usually the most important thing is where there are heading to. Would it be a forever-happy ending, would it make disastrous headlines later or are they likely to want to take each other’s pound of flesh when cupid’s arrow makes an abrupt exit.

    One interesting story is that of a young man whose heart sank as soon as he saw the girl he loved. Unfortunately for them, there was this social disparity and for a while it looked like they couldn’t go far. The young man was from a very wealthy background while the girl who caught his fancy was from a very poor home.

    For him, it wasn’t really an issue but somehow our dear friend was swimming with conflict over this complex. The girl’s parents weren’t also comfortable with the whole idea. So, the young man decided not only to court the girl but to court her parents as well. In time, the parents saw that he was a good man and was worthy of their daughter’s hand.

    But there was another problem: his parents had not been converted in this love arrangement and they stood against it. Then the man at the centre of the love story was given an assignment in the office and he had to travel for a year and half. Well, there was nothing they could do about it and he just had to go. Sadly, a few days after he left, the girl had a major accident. It was a head-on collision which left her really in a bad shape.

    When she woke up in the hospital, she saw her parents and friends crying. Immediately, she knew there was something wrong. She later found out that she suffered brain injury. The part of her brain that controlled her face muscles was damaged. Her once lovely face was now disfigured. She cried as she saw herself in the mirror.

    No, this was not what he fell in love with and so there was no point short changing Mr. Right. Right there and then, she decided to release her fiancé from their promise. She knew he wouldn’t want her anymore. She would forget about him and never see him again. However, he was faithful and wrote so many letters. He tried to phone her but she just wouldn’t return his calls.

    Then a friend told him what had happened to his darling and he took the next flight just to see the only heart that he cherished. As soon as he saw her he reassured her that what he felt was not physical; it was not the face that had changed but a heart that was filled with love and warmth.

    A beautiful face with a wicked heart cannot compare with what she had given him over the years. That assurance healed her wounds in a very short while and they were united once more in love. Interestingly, not all love stories end this way. A lot of times lovebirds get carried away with the things they see and not what they feel. Love is defined as what is sweet, tasty, rich and attractive. Once the person you claim to cherish is affected by the vicissitudes of life it would be time to take off and run into the arms of someone who possesses the quality that they once had. A fair-weather friend, indeed.

    Most times, love is actually a gamble with the ‘To be or not to be ‘ question hanging in the balance. For the unlucky ones, the gambler may have to run at a certain point. Running may take place almost immediately halfway through the storm or just towards the end of the love game.

    The latter experience is the saddest because it comes at a point when almost everyone is certain that the lovebirds have crossed the Rubicon. At that point, they would have spent precious time, energy and resources to make this love project work. Now, instead of getting kudos for a job well done, all you get in return for your investments are knocks; knocks that pierce through the heart like poisonous arrows.

    In order to save yourself from being an emotional wreck, it is better to run away with the ‘wretched remains’, because you have come to the realisation that you are on the brink. To enjoy a relationship, you must share a number of things in common.

    In addition, the couple must be ready to make sacrifices, the fifty-fifty love kind of thing. But if she is giving 70 and you are giving a miserly 30 per cent, then it isn’t going to work at all. Maureen is actually in a faulty relationship she has had to endure for about 18 months but now she just can’t carry on again. Having been a victim thrice, Maureen decided to stoop to conquer this time around.

    Throughout the courtship period, the lovebirds schemed to achieve their individual goals and you wonder if they could ever emerge as one. Everyone wants financial and emotional security, but striking a good balance comes when you are ready to give so much for the one you love.

    Agree? Not everyone would agree with that view. The truth of the matter is that we always look around for partners that can help perpetuate our brand of love. When they resist, then it would be time to abandon this love canoe for a better love boat, one that would accommodate our whims and caprices.

  • We have a child between us but  we don’t love each other

    We have a child between us but we don’t love each other

    Dear Aunty, please I want you to advise me about a man that I have a child for. I didn’t know that he doesn’t love me until now. What can I do as I don’t also love him again.

     

    It’s important for you to know that being a parent is very important but not as important as being a good parent. You do not have to be with this man if you know that without love, there cannot be true happiness between you. Even in most loving relationships, there are bound to be conflicts, so I wonder how two people who do not love each other can stay together for the sake of the child and not have serious conflicts. But if you can work to manage strong emotions and model how to work through some of it, you may just be able to manage the situation and live together for the sake of the child.

    Are you on a very strong level to provide economically for the child? If so, you may opt for single parenthood. You can however arrange for time for the child’s dad to hang out with him/her to play, enjoy time with the child and show him/her that he enjoy being with you and him/her.

  • Cruising above the clouds

    LOVE and friendship brighten up your day. They are the oil that keeps your emotional wheel going, especially when things are tough. It is better to cultivate an emotional balance from the onset. It helps you to maintain the elasticity of the heart which is imperative as a future investment. All relationships have positive or negative influence. These skills focus on building positive relationships through managing reactions in all circumstances.

    Interestingly, a lot of people take our emotions for granted, especially in our youth. Why not! Naturally, this is a time when emotional concerns are few and it is a time we just want to play to the emotional gallery not minding whose ox is gored in the process. Hearts, hearts and more hearts are broken, leaving tales of sorrow, tears and blood.

    After all, other people have broken hearts before and so why should your own case be different? Another school of thought argues that hearts get stronger when they have been broken, crushed and shattered. So it must be a part of the emotional process.

    After criss-crossing the emotional landscape in tears, it looked like there was an emotional light in the tunnel. It was at this point that she met Kunmbi at a shopping mall when she went to pick her laundry. He looked calm and nice and almost like an emotional saint. But the phrase, ‘Men cannot be trusted’ registered vividly in the background.

    Four months along the emotional corridors, and the smart Alec succeeded in pulling her off balance and putting her heart in a state of turmoil. It was indeed a time to sing a new song: “Should I say yes, or should I say no?”

    Finally, the weaker part of the heart caved in and she decided to take the plunge; after all, nothing ventured, nothing gained. A few dates rolled pleasantly by and it looked like it was going to be the happy-ending type which you often read about in story books. They also recorded a couple of romantic outings in some popular restaurants and it looked like her emotional dreams were falling perfectly into place.

    But deep down, her instincts kept on warning her not to get too excited. She could smell deception but just could not lay her finger on what it was. Was it a problem she could fix? Time certainly would tell. First, the most important thing was to make the best of this emotional opportunity. At the moment, she was lost on the emotional Island and in her heart was that inescapable tingling every time Kunmbi was around her.

    He literarily swept her off her feet, and, one by one, she told her friends about the emotional star who had stolen her heart. They were also very eager to meet this knight in shining armour and a small get-together was organised for everyone to meet our dear Kunmbi. Unfortunately, it turned out to be a disaster. Reason: “He came late and there was a lot of suspense in the air. Then when he finally came to the venue the mood changed, they all knew him. The man I was going to show off to them had been a serial cheater. He had left bitter emotional tales different from the side he had been showing to me.”

    Empty allegations, or could they be the usual mistakes that men make? Well, Kunmbi just refused to give any explanation. He took off and since that encounter did not think he owed his ‘Juliet” any explanation. It was obvious that he just wanted to take her for an emotional ride and did not imagine that he would run into friends who had some nasty experience exposing the side he had covered up for too long.

    Well, that certainly is one of those things. The ball certainly is in her court and she needs to make her up mind whether she wants to pull out or pretend that nothing has really happened. Every decision comes with consequences because the affectionate road is filled with bumps and it could just be a nasty road all the way through.

    It is indeed a case of different strokes for different folks. Most times, what you need to forge ahead in the emotional arena is inspiration. This skill focuses on using other people’s experience in previous and current relationships to connect with your buddy. You acquire this by listening to the person you treasure as well as making the other person feel important.

    One other important skill for relationship management is developing others. Developing your partner occurs when you focus on acknowledging his or her accomplishments and strong points, then offering feedback to them. This skill is important because it helps the growth of relationships and businesses. Like employees who feel valuable and appreciated, the love of your life is likely to do so much once the person knows that you appreciate the effort that is being put into the love process. Conversely, things are likely to work negatively when all you do is to shout at the person you claim you adore and desperately look out for shortcomings and mistakes that are imagined.

    Relationship management skills include the ability to manage conflict in a constructive way. It also means that you are willing to accept different perspectives, as well as demonstrate self-control and respect for everyone.

  • Love turns money spinner at Valentine

    Love turns money spinner at Valentine

    Valentine’s Day is a memorable event all over the world.  Today, a lot of  people, both old and young, will ‘storm’all the shopping places around them to pick one unique item or the other for their loved ones. While some will make  purchases online, others will visit the big  shopping malls.  TONIA ‘DIYAN  writes that in  preparation for  today’s celebration, open market shop owners and big malls have stocked their stores with wares and promised good pricing .

    Are you looking for gifts that are cheap but unique? Are you searching for a gift that will outlive the rush of this season? If your answer is in the affirmative, then take a trip to both the virtual and physical shopping stores. Operators of these shopping centres have, over the last two weeks, been paying hosts to people who are prepared to mark the Valentine day.

    Retailers, particularly in Lagos, have succeeded in turning the occasion to a huge cash cow.

    One strange thing about this year’s celebration is that the open markets have taken the lead as they commenced stock-piling gift items earlier than the malls and online stores.

    According to them, the malls and high street stores have prompted them to start sales early. They said this is one of their strategies for making sales this year.

    One open shop owner in Lagos, Alhaja Bashirat Abeni said open shop owners are taking the right steps to get a bite of the season’s market share.

    She said: “We are only taking the bull by the horn, catching our competitors unaware. Ordinarily, no one would have thought we will stock valentine items earlier than the big stores and malls. They tend to look down on us most of the time, but we are stepping up our game, re-enforcing and re-packaging. It is simply one of our strategies.”

    They have all promised to make today’s shopping more convenient and exciting. They have also promised good prices for their customers.

    Proprietor of Delightsome Gift Concept, Gbagada-Lagos, Mrs Modupe Shopeju said valentine has graduated from being an event for lovers to being an event for people to take advantage of its business side.

    She said: “Valentine’s Day is less about love and more about the business of love for retailers, particularly those in Lagos.

    “ Shopping, spending, giving gifts and more is the tradition for many people on Valentine’s Day, as such, retailers will always take advantage of the celebrations.”

    According to her, the spending, shopping provide a light-hearted view of all the common Valentine’s Day traditions.

    Retailers say Valentine’s Day is among the top three holidays in terms of sales as each year, they put in their best to make it worthwhile.

    A greeting card seller in Ikeja, Mr Kelechukwu Maduka, agrees with Shopeju. According to him, the occasion usually provides an opportunity for traders to make money after the Yuletide. “Valentine’s Day may mean flowers, dinner, a sentimental card or a special date night to some people, but to us, it means an opportunity to get busy again following the lull of post-Christmas rush.”

    Shopeju is particularly excited that this year, Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday because it will allow offers to be extended into the weekend.

    “Valentine this year falls on a weekend. For us, this is perfect because it gives lovers time to plan the whole romantic package and we are ready for them,” she added.

    According to her, there are more offers for women as they are the biggest shoppers always. “Women tend to buy for their husbands, kids, their mothers and everybody around them. I know today is specially for them and I am looking forawrd to an exciting time,” she said.

    Branch Manager at Shoprite, Mr Linus Okon, said he is expecting a huge crowd, adding that he has made provision for twice the number of customers he receives on ordinary days.

    He said: “At Shoprite, there is going to be an overflow tomorrow of the people who could not make it here today after work. Our offer still extends till after valentine.”

    Valentine is the shortest holiday season because it lasts for only one day. Men are notorious for shopping at the last minute and stores are prepared for this.

    For this reason, retailers are eager to help people find something special for their loved ones today and they look forward to seeing people come out in the spirit of the season. For them, each Valentine’s Day brings a little uptick in sales.

    Therefore, while you are frantically searching for the perfect gift to give to a special someone; don’t forget to check your neighbourhood stores to make sure your search doesn’t go too far because what you are searching for may just be right there at the back of your compound.

    A rose seller, Mrs Babajide Sumbo said shoppers buy roses on occasions like this. She is optimistic that today’s will not be an exception. “Roses always will be our show stopper. We sell a lot more roses on Valentine’s Day than any other day of the year,” she said.

    Today’s offers

    Jumia.com.ng top five Valentine’s Day gifts for him & her

    For him

    Men’s gifts are more difficult to pick especially these days when they are more fashion forward and tech savvy. However, nothing says ‘I love you’ more for a man like the latest Samsung Smartphone, a dolce & Gabbana perfume, the latest PlayStation 4 game console, Rotary wristwatch and a bottle of the finest Veuve clicquot la Grande dame brut champagne.

    For Her

    Women’s Valentine’s gifts are different from everyday gifts. They have to make her feel unique and special. Gifts like; Handmade Jewelry from Le Reve pieces for the elegant and stylish woman or Coco Chanel perfume to spray love all over her is not a bad idea. She can be coloured in a red-hot dress to make dinner look complete. She should be allowed to walk in style in killer shoes, pro-founding her new found self with her love.

    For Couple

    For those who have found the right one, they can seal their love with the diamond engagement ring Jumia is giving away this valentine to one lucky couple.

    However, with every valentine item bought on Jumia.com.ng with a Paga account, there is 10 per cent cash back in the ‘Paga Give love get love promotion’, there will also be free shipping within Lagos.

    Konga.com.ng

    Konga.com.ng has opened its Valentines store with plenty of special treats for everyone. From sweet daily timed deals to discount codes to help people enjoy amazing discounts to E-Gift vouchers, people can pick gifts for them and loved ones.

    Gifts for Him

    Fragrances, Apparel, Shoes & lovely men’s suits.

    Gifts for Her

    Fragrances, Jewellery, Watches & Accessories, Lingerie, Shoes & Bags and Beauty Products.

    Gifts for His & Hers

    Teddy Bears, Chocolate, Wine , Love Baskets ,Gadgets ,Home Essentials ,Intimate Gifts ,Books ,Music & Movies ,Gifts for Kids.

    BuyolOgy.com.ng is giving out Blackberry Bold 7 for N20, 100, Techno Phantom A+ for N20, 700, Samsung Galaxy S4 for N52, 800, Sony Play Station 4 console for N64.800 , Iphone 5c 16gigabyte (GB) for N94,995.

    For Valentine, the store is also offering amazing Blackberry deals under N25,000, Curve 6 for N 18,200 and curve 7 for N24,700 and a Samsung Galaxy Grand Duos Touch Screen phone for N44,495 .

  • Sorting out a serial cheater

    WHAT do you do with love that has gone sour? Usually, it is better to throw it into the trash can before it runs the tummy. That is exactly the way Teju is feeling at the moment. She had just survived an emotional hurricane and just could not fathom where and how she was going to move on.

    Until recently, it looked like what she wanted and hoped for. But along the line, she came to the realisation that the relationship which lasted for two years and four months was filled with ’emotional errors’. The guy she wanted to donate her heart to was a serial cheater.

    Sadly, Teju just had to move on, hoping to find a better heart, one that would not contaminate whatever was left. On her heart, she felt it may just be too hard to start over on a clean slate. The other option, therefore, was to avoid any emotional entanglements for now.

    The emotional pressure she was going through started to affect her work and so she thought of different ways to recover herself.

    A few weeks after, she just could not take her mind off and there was also tension at work. Teju decided to take a break from work and the restaurant in the neighbourhood looked like a great arrangement. A few minutes’ walk down the road and she was in the right place, relaxed in the serene environment, feeling different. The meal was also great and she waited a little just to get refreshed before going back to work.

    Two jolly good fellows walked in looking as famished as she was and they also had lunch. Once the stomach was sorted out, they talked about some of their recent conquests and escapades. Midway into the conversations, they remembered a third friend, Lanre, and the exploits he made when he was part of this team of emotional ‘musketeers’.

    Unfortunately for them, Lanre recently found love and amended his ways. “I just don’t know what is wrong with that guy. How can he lose all his head for one woman? I thought he was stronger than this but he has really disappointed me. Sometimes, when I remember his matter I get really upset. That is why I have stopped thinking about him,” Adamu lamented.

    The bone of contention is the fact that their good friend has ‘repented’. Old things and ’emotions’ have simply passed away. “One other thing that he does is that he actually keeps all the money he makes into a joint account with this woman. To make matters worse is the fact that the alert actually goes to the woman’s phone number. He just cannot do anything without her. Is that really what they call love? Humh….. I am sure that something fishy is going on.”

    The question here is: what is wrong with being faithful a hundred per cent? Our friends, however, feel differently and believe that it is better to have a plan B in every arrangement. “That is not how to be faithful at all. I think he is just being a mugun and I am very sorry for him. I just hope that it won’t be too late before he realises what’s going on.”

    Humorously, Mr. B goes on to talk about a similar experience and how a smarter Alec survived the emotional struggle. “Muyiwa had always been smart from our schooldays. Then about three years ago, he met this lady and he became very cool and calm. The first time I met the lady in question, I just did not like her at all. She was very rude and domineering and I told him that he was not likely to go far with that kind of lady.”

    He continued: “For the first time, Muyiwa was visibly angry with me and he told me not to interfere with the relationship because he was in charge. So I left him with this emotional cross and thought this was another lost case. We met at a friend’s party about six months after and we reconciled. It was there that he made me realise that he was not as foolish as I thought. ‘We have a joint account and we use this account to service whatever we need to run the home. I pretend to put all my resources in the account but I have a secret account where all the extras that I make is kept. The strategy, however, is to look and feel helpless financially, so that I can continually draw from the joint account .This way I have a robust savings account that she doesn’t know exist.’”

    Can you beat that? Well, a lot of women actually get stuck on the road to an amazing relationship, and most times it has to do with a fear of the unknown.

    Lots of women who are afraid of being alone also end up picking the same kind of men over and over who just don’t “get it”.

    So you need to identify what you want and if it isn’t there, then there is no point hanging on. If you’re afraid of being alone, you’re likely to put up with a behaviour you aren’t comfortable with just for the sake of being in a relationship.

  • Funke Kuti finds  love again?

    Funke Kuti finds love again?

    Funke Kuti is one woman who exudes grace and beauty as she ages. With a figure that qualifies her for a beauty contest and a gainful career after leaving the dancing stage of Femi Kuti’s Positive Force Band, Funke remains a subject of discussion among the men folk.

    Many years after her marriage to Afro Beats icon, Femi, gave way, Funke is yet to consider another shot at marriage. Nor has she reverted to her maiden name, Brimo-Yusuf in spite of the fact that their divorce request was granted by a court of competent jurisdiction.

    There have been speculations about her dating one guy or the other, but none of them has been gone beyond rumour. Not a few men were said to have sought her hands in marriage but the beautiful mother of Made Kuti prefers to stick to her single status.

    The latest in the rumour mill is that she has been looking in the direction of a Lagos big boy who has been paying frequent visits to her Victoria-Island office. The guy, who has never been married, is a big player in the oil and gas sector and is said to be only in his late 30s.

    Funke, who is in her early 40s, might be settling for a younger man if the latest rumour is anything to go by.