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  • For the love of the environment, mankind

    For the love of the environment, mankind

    This year’s World Environment Day (WED) presented another opportunity for stakeholders and environmentalists to set new agenda for a sustainable and liveable world. At the WED celebration in Lagos, the government, civil societies and students, among others, spoke with one voice in support of the environment, MUYIWA LUCAS reports.

    Any harm done to the environment is harm done to humanity.”

    This is a saying credited to Pope Francis in the global environmental circle. It has since become a  cliche for awakening the consciousness of man on the urgent need to protect the environment believed to be more endangered with the increasing threat of climate change.

    It was, therefore, not surprising when top government functionaries, including environmentalists, non-governmental organisations, students and other stakeholders converged on the Kanu Ndubuisi Park, Alausa, Ikeja, Lagos, on Monday, to celebrate this year’s World Environment Day (WED).

    The theme was: “Connecting people to Nature.”

    The President, Waste Management Society of Nigeria (WAMASON), Professor Oladele Osibanjo, in a lecture delivered at the event, noted that since its debut in 1973, WED has become the United Nations’ standard vehicle for motivating worldwide appreciation and plan for the protection of man’s common heritage – the environment.

    “What we are celebrating today started worldwide in 1973, arising from the decision of the United Nations Conference on Human Environment, held in Stockholm, Sweden in 1972. It has been a flagship campaign for raising awareness on emerging environmental issues such as marine pollution and global warming, tsunami of electronic waste dumping in developing countries, healthy consumption, wildlife crime and other environmental crimes,” he explained, adding that it had grown to become a global platform for public outreach.

    In a similar vein, Lagos State Commissioner for the Environment Dr. Babatunde Adejare said this year’s theme impelled Nigerians and other lovers of the environment to get outdoors and into nature; appreciate its beauty and importance, and, consequently, take forward the call to protect the Earth.

    “This theme invites us as stakeholders in the environment to think about how we are part of nature and how intimately we depend on it. It challenges us to find fun and exciting ways of experiencing, cherishing and sustaining this vital relationship with nature,” he observed, adding that most importantly, stakeholders must be sincere enough to increase awareness among the public on the importance of the country’s natural endowments.

    Adejare further noted that scientific advances and growing environmental challenges, such as global warming and wetlands encroachment, are helping to understand the countless ways in which natural systems support human prosperity and well-being.

    Therefore, he contended, there is the need to improve on the environment and for mankind to start taking responsibility for his behaviour and its impact on the environment. This, he said, is why the current administration in the state stimulates the appreciation of nature through the establishment and maintenance of gardens and parks as well as beautification of loops, open spaces and roundabouts across the state.

    He further said the commitment of the state to sustainable management of its environment was being demonstrated through various laudable plans and programmes such as the “Cleaner Lagos Initiative”, which encapsulates the ongoing broad reforms in the solid waste management sector; the annual Tree Planting Day through which over seven million trees of various species have been planted  to enrich the state’s biodiversity; the identification/tagging and enumeration of trees in the Lagos metropolis; the identification and protection of wetlands and the 10-year framework of programmes for sustainable consumption and production patterns, among others.

    The Permanent Secretary, Ministry of the Environment, Mr. Adeyemi Saliu, buttressed Adejare’s submissions. He explained that the Cleaner Lagos Initiative was embedded in many components. He listed some of them to include, but not limited to, residential waste collection and processing; commercial and industrial waste collection; primary, secondary and tertiary all-year-round drainage maintenance; manual and mechanised street sweeping; provision of engineered sanitary landfills; transfer loading stations and material recovery facilities among others. These efforts, he explained, have come to redefine environmental management in Lagos State.

    Saliu noted benefits inherent to include attainment of clean and hygienic state; sanitary disposal of hazardous waste; deployment of modernised equipment such as 600 brand new compactors and over 900,000 bins that will be electronically tracked; and the creation of over 30,000 direct and indirect jobs, plus the employment of 27,500 community sanitation workers to sweep inner streets in all the 377 wards of the state, in addition to the mechanised sweeping of  highways.

    An environmentalist and member of the Nigerian Conservation Foundation, Mr. Desmond Majekodunmi, said WED was “a celebration of mother nature”. He expressed happiness that children were being introduced to the need for sustainable environment.

    “If we do not take care of our environment, it will come back to haunt us,” Majekodunmi said.

     

    Reasons for WED

    Osibanjo, a professor of Analytical & Environmental Chemistry, in his lecture, disclosed that WED’s annual celebration aimed at successfully attaining carbon neutrality in the atmosphere by focusing on forest management; reduce greenhouse effects; promote bio-fuels production by planting on degraded lands; use of hydro-power to enhance electricity production; encourage the public to use solar water heaters; produce energy through solar sources; developing new drainage systems; promoting coral reefs and mangroves restoration to prevent flooding and erosion, including other ways of environmental preservation.

     

    Ecosystem

    The Ecosystem, according to the professor,  is the sum total of interacting living organisms and the non-living environment in an area e.g. forests, grasslands, rivers, coastal and deep seas water, islands, mountains, even cities. It provides mankind with vast goods and services, otherwise known as “ecological services” (e.g. Forest Ecosystem) which are rarely appreciated by mankind because no monetary values have been placed on them.

    He said values have now been assigned to the ecosystem. This explained why economists have now estimated annual values of some of these services to humans to help policy makers take them into action. It is only in recent years that economists have developed mechanisms for placing financial values on nature and natural /ecosystem services.

    Osibanjo regreted that there was no Nigerian data to deploy in the computation of the quantum of contribution from nature’s resources toward prevailing recession in the country. He blamed this on man’s connection to nature, which is being exploited  without caring to tend or nurture it in a sustainable way to enable it provide goods and services in the future.

     

    Challenges

    Osibanjo said factors affecting climate variability are a major concern for environmentalists and stakeholders as they constitute huge challenges for sustainable environment in the country. These factors include desertification, which he said is now migrating southward at about 0.5 kilometer per annum; multi-media pollution; flood disasters; erosion; poverty; climate change and global warming; environment induced social conflicts, like what is being experienced  in the Niger Delta area of the country as a result of oil spillage; devastation of the ecosystems and recently herdsmen migration from the northern parts of the country whose grazing activities are destroying farmlands in the middle belt and southern states of the country.

    Besides, are the associated risk of poor municipal solid waste management,including indiscriminate landfilling and open burning. He added that the uncontrolled emission of greenhouse gases (methane and carbon dioxide), into the atmosphere causes global warming, as well as dioxin and furan emissions.

    Stakeholder at the event expressed concern that when industries declare billions of naira profits annually, they should be taken up on the toll the effect of their operations has taken on their host communities and environs. “How many workers or communities nearby fell sick arising from unclean air or water pollution from such industry’s activities? How realistic and effective  is their Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) Programme? How many nature reserve parks  or nature conservation projects are the company sponsoring or supporting etc?” Osibanjo submitted.

    The Head, Sustainability and Corporate Brand, Lafarge Africa Plc, Mrs. Temitope Oguntokun, aptly captured the entire essence of the gathering with her parting shot. Drawing from the words of an environmental activist, Wendell Barry, she said: “the earth is all that we all have in common, so let us continue to protect it.”

    And as this year’s WED challenged mankind, stakeholders are unanimous that there is a need to continue to find fun and exciting ways to cherish the vital relationship of man with nature.

  • ‘Why I’m in love with fruities’

    ‘Why I’m in love with fruities’

    Princess Oluwabukola Ogunmokun is a graduate of Business Studies, Kwara State Polytechnic. She worked briefly with some private organisations before trying out her passion. In this short encounter with Gbenga Aderanti, she tells the story about why she ventured into private business

    Tell me your line of business and how long have you been doing it?

    My line of business is simply pure fresh fruit juice. Extractor undiluted. I do musical video shoots …and get paid for it .and I also do studio musical recording or even a back up singer. My attitude to life is if one channel is not yielding result, I switch to another .I hate  being stagnant.

    Aside this, what other things do you do?

    Aside this I make beads .and I also do movies.

    What are the challenges of doing this kind of business?

    You face challenges trying to convince people to give you the opportunity to prove yourself, especially when there are no recommendations ,you test run on free jobs at first so that you could me known.

    Tell me the edge your brand has over your competitors.

    As per my brand having an edge, it is all about being classy in all your endeavours . By doing that with little or no effort, you stand out . I started the fruities by making some for myself &,friends at home that was how I got the inspiration. If you have passion for something you will do well. I put passion into this, and it is working well for me.

    Where do you see your business in the next ten years?

    In the next 10 years, Im sure I will grow big and I trust God for a massive achievement.

    What was the initial capital you invested in the business?

    The capital I invested was just a token. but the zeal has grown the business. Apart from that the hunger for a better life.in the midst of recession has really buoyed me on.

    Would you say you are satisfied with your achievement so far?

    I’m not satisfied..but I thank God for He always at my back. I’m double sure it can only get better for me.

    Where do you think government can help you?

    By making the environment condusive for small and private.

  • Making up with your ex

    Making up with your ex

    IT’S over. You’ve broken up, hired attorneys, filed or are already divorced. You thought that you were successfully moving on, and you’re facing what feels like another long, lonely weekend alone. Sure, you’ve been dating, but you haven’t met anyone of enduring significance. When you first separated you felt confident and justified, even hopeful about meeting someone new, but now you’re feeling miserable.

    You’re laying on the couch, obsessing over what could have or should have been with your ex. You’re wondering what they’re doing and whom they’re with. Are they thinking about and missing you too? Maybe they’re your Great Love after all, and you screwed up in letting them go!

    So when they text you with an “I miss you. Can we talk?”, you’re beside yourself with hopefulness and glee. You feel like this is the miraculous moment you’ve been praying for. Here’s your chance to make it right and get back together.

    Not so fast!

    In my work with divorcing couples, and being the veteran of two divorces myself, I’ve learned personally and professionally that no matter what your lonesome heart is telling you in this moment of vulnerability, it’s critical to remain rational, take it slow, and most of all, keep your eyes open. I can promise you those unresolved problems will rise again, once the hormones and excitement settles down and you’re back in your comfort zone.

    If you both truly want to use this as a second chance at creating a happier, more successful and secure relationship, make sure you can both clearly answer a resounding “yes” to the following relationship well-being stabilizers before calling your attorneys and jumping back in. Please note that the operative word here is “both.”

    1. We have a plan of action in place to deal with disappointments that may occur. It is important to have a “rough waters, this is shaky territory” game plan for how to handle your responses differently this time around. Discuss the problem areas that you had in the past and the needed changes. Having some strategies in place will eliminate some of the shock and disappointment that occurs when you realize not much has magically changed during the time apart.
    2. We have no secrets, no masks and are willing to speak our truth. Many times we hide our true selves in order to keep the peace and win approval, attention and love. But then, we never feel completely known or seen. To make it work, you need to have the following agreement: No secrets. No masks. I am really me. You are really you. No lies, no games.
    3. We won’t bail when things get tough. There has to be a firm commitment to stay together while you are making new and permanent changes. Create a love contract that declares your willingness to hang in there and hold hands when the inevitable problems, fears and regressions arise.
    4. We are prepared to take it slow and rebuild again. This is a second chance for love. Take it slow. Don’t fall prey to the lure of ex-sex. While the desire to jump into bed may be strong, give yourself the time to learn about each other anew and see each other with fresh eyes. Go on dates, talk and build trust. Become friends. Be gentle and nurturing with yourself and your partner. Notice how safe it feels to really be you. Are your needs being met? How loved and accepted do you each feel?
    5. We have the same goals for the relationship. It’s problematic if one person wants to move quickly and the other wants to take it slow. Or one of you wants children and the other doesn’t. Don’t reunite before you are sure the timing is right and a mutual commitment of goals is agreed upon.
    6. We are ready and willing to forgive the past. If you truly want to repair and rejuvenate your relationship, you’ll have to resolve the negative feelings and come to a place of forgiveness and understanding with yourself and each other. As the barriers melt and a renewed sense of safety and relief replaces hurt, your hearts will be free to truly love again.

    Let’s face it, no relationship is problem or disappointment free. The real strength and cohesion between you is often revealed in how you deal with the problems and frustrations that arise. This time around, make sure you have a plan in place, especially for your hot button issues. Decide in advance how you’ll solve problems as a team, not make issues exclusively a “me” problem or a “you” problem. When problems do arise, the best question to ask is “How would love respond?” Loving actions brings caring solutions.

    A breakup isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes it can give a relationship the healthy shake up it needs. Like a brush with death, splitting up can breathe new life and love back into a relationship that has lost its luster, grown lonely, built up a shopping cart of unexpressed resentments, or got caught up in the spin of too many distractions. Suddenly, in the midst of this rebirth, you value being together more and realize how much you really do love each other.

    This could be a second chance to have that great and enduring relationship your heart desires, or it could be the necessary completion you need to fully move on. Whatever the outcome, the willingness to choose love over fear is a worthy journey no matter how the relationship ultimately ends up.

     

    Sheri Meyers, Psy.D is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA, and author of Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship.

     

    Source: huffingtonpost.com

  • Rekindling the fire of love in your Marriage! (5)

    Rekindling the fire of love in your Marriage! (5)

    Dear Reader,

    You are welcome to another exciting time in the presence of the Lord. Love, like I said last week, is the key factor that sustains a Christian marriage. But could it still be, considering the fact that the hot romance in your relationship is fading away, and it’s becoming a concern to you?

    That is why, this week, it is necessary for me to share with you the basic idea that will help you to rekindle that “fire of love” in your marriage. That is what I call Good and Healthy Romance!

    A healthy romance between a husband and wife makes for a healthy marriage relationship. Romance is a great facilitator of a successful marriage. When marriage stops being romantic, it starts to suffer devastation. The moment you stop desiring your spouse, you are already falling apart from each other. At that point, there is the need for a rekindling. Unfortunately, however, this is where many Christians run into problems.

    Paul speaking in the Book of 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 says: Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

    From the above verses of the Bible, “rendering due benevolence” means to give one another the benefit of marriage, which is your body. God placed in man a sexual desire, which should only be satisfied in marriage. That way, the desire will not be destructive.

    But the big question is: why have so many couples denied themselves of this truth? This is where, I believe, some Christians have opened the door to trouble in their marriages.  The man is not available for his wife, so she looks somewhere else. The wife is not available for the man, so he goes somewhere else, because the burning must be satisfied.

    The Bible says you mustn’t allow your abstinence go beyond a time. Nobody fasts for one year.  Even Jesus, the Messiah of the world, only fasted 40 days.  The significance of this is that you are not permitted, under whatever reason, to separate from each other for more than 40 days maximum, lest satan tempts you.

    To tell your wife today, “I am waiting on the Lord”, tomorrow, “I am waiting on the Lord”, next week, “I am waiting on the Lord.” When you finish ‘waiting’, you may not find her there again. That is why most crises in marriages, today, develop out of sexual tension.

    Romance in marriage is one of the areas you must intelligibly manage, because it reinforces the marriage covenant. Take time out with your spouse to go for a dinner date or a picnic in a secluded area away from home. Catch some fun with each other occasionally, like going to the beach or watching programmes of choice alone together. Create time for each other to reminisce happy moments; this will help to spice up a lukewarm marriage.

    Having the fear of God resident will also help you spice up your marriage with good romance, instead of finding satisfaction outside the marriage. You can operate in the fear of God cheaply, if you have accepted Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour. Peradventure you haven’t, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship(John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Reminisce shows love to graffiti artist, Osa Seven

    Reminisce shows love to graffiti artist, Osa Seven

    A graffiti artist who has been commissioned to paint walls across Lagos State on Wednesday was visited by singer Reminisce, the self-acclaimed ‘Alaga Ibile’.

    The artist who has been the cynosure of Lagos motorists and pedestrians around the Ozumba Mbadiwe section by Nigeria Law School, Victoria Island, took time off his busy schedule to catch a photo shot with Reminisce.

    Taking to his Instagram account, Reminisce shared the picture and wrote: “Earlier today to support the bro @osa_seven.”

    Osa Seven is among artists commissioned by the Lagos State government to create art pieces across the state as part of activities marking the 50th anniversary of the creation of the South-West Lagos State.

  • Rekindling the fire of love in your Marriage! (4)

    Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Dear Reader,

    You are welcome to another exciting time in the presence of the Lord. Love, like I said last week, is the key factor that sustains a Christian marriage. But could it still be, considering the fact that the hot romance in your relationship is fading away, and it’s becoming a concern to you?

    That is why, this week, it is necessary for me to share with you the basic idea that will help you to rekindle that “fire of love” in your marriage. That is what I call Good and Healthy Romance!

    A healthy romance between a husband and wife makes for a healthy marriage relationship. Romance is a great facilitator of a successful marriage. When marriage stops being romantic, it starts to suffer devastation. The moment you stop desiring your spouse, you are already falling apart from each other. At that point, there is the need for a rekindling. Unfortunately, however, this is where many Christians run into problems.

    Paul speaking in the Book of 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 says: Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

    From the above verses of the Bible, “rendering due benevolence” means to give one another the benefit of marriage, which is your body. God placed in man a sexual desire, which should only be satisfied in marriage. That way, the desire will not be destructive.

    But the big question is: why have so many couples denied themselves of this truth? This is where, I believe, some Christians have opened the door to trouble in their marriages.  The man is not available for his wife, so she looks somewhere else. The wife is not available for the man, so he goes somewhere else, because the burning must be satisfied.

    The Bible says you mustn’t allow your abstinence go beyond a time. Nobody fasts for one year.  Even Jesus, the Messiah of the world, only fasted 40 days.  The significance of this is that you are not permitted, under whatever reason, to separate from each other for more than 40 days maximum, lest satan tempts you.

    To tell your wife today, “I am waiting on the Lord”, tomorrow, “I am waiting on the Lord”, next week, “I am waiting on the Lord.” When you finish ‘waiting’, you may not find her there again. That is why most crises in marriages, today, develop out of sexual tension.

    Romance in marriage is one of the areas you must intelligibly manage, because it reinforces the marriage covenant. Take time out with your spouse to go for a dinner date or a picnic in a secluded area away from home. Catch some fun with each other occasionally, like going to the beach or watching programmes of choice alone together. Create time for each other to reminisce happy moments; this will help to spice up a lukewarm marriage.

    Having the fear of God resident will also help you spice up your marriage with good romance, instead of finding satisfaction outside the marriage. You can operate in the fear of God cheaply, if you have accepted Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour. Peradventure you haven’t, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship(John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Show love to all, Osinbajo urges Nigerians

    Show love to all, Osinbajo urges Nigerians

    Vice President Yemi Osinbajo on Sunday urged Nigerians to emulate the sacrificial love that Jesus Christ showed to all generations by preaching and showing love to all.

    Osinbajo gave the advice while speaking to newsmen shortly after the Easter Service at the Aso Villa Chapel.

    The VP had at the service preached on love to one another and said it was the foundation of the nation’s development.

    The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that Osinbajo’s sermon is entitled: `Revelations on the Resurrection of Jesus Christ.’

    “It is a message for love for all; there is no tribe, no religion; regardless of faith, Jesus loves us. This is how we should relate with ourselves.

    “It is a pure love and I think that it is what everyone should bear in mind at this time,” he said.

    He reminded Nigerians to serve God faithfully to earn forgiveness and salvation in the hereafter.

    Osinbajo noted that spiritually, Jesus stood between hell and heaven, and serves as an intercessor for mankind.

    “All that is required is to believe in Him by acceptance of the commitment he made on the cross,” he said.

    The service had in attendance, Mr Femi Adesina, the Special Adviser to the President on Media and Publicity and Sen. Ita Enang, Senior Special Assistant to the President on National Assembly Matters. (NAN)

  • Senator Adeola preaches peace, love at Easter

    Senator Adeola preaches peace, love at Easter

    Senator Solomon Adeola (APC, Lagos West) has called on the people of Lagos West Senatorial district and Nigerians to remain peaceful and exhibit the Christian virtues of sacrifice, love and abiding faith in a better tomorrow as exemplified in the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.
    In his 2017 Easter message, Senator Adeola said the season symbolizes a new beginning of hope and redemption for all mankind adding that for all true Christians the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ means that all challenges confronting individuals and mankind are ultimately surmountable by a fervent believe in God Almighty.
    The senator said that the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ give all mankind hope of a new beginning and a better future stressing that in spite of the enormous challenges confronting the nation, Nigeria is at the threshold of a better tomorrow.

  • Ambode preaches  love, sacrifice at Easter

    Ambode preaches love, sacrifice at Easter

    As Christians in the country join their counterparts across the world to celebrate Easter, Lagos State Governor, Mr. Akinwunmi Ambode, has called on Nigerians to collectively imbibe the spirit of love, sacrifice and peaceful co-existence, saying that it is only when such virtues exist that the nation can make meaningful progress.
    Ambode, in his Easter message signed by his Chief Press Secretary, Mr. Habib Aruna, said such fundamental values would go a long way in promoting and strengthening the foundation of love, peace and harmony in the country, adding that the season should serve as a reminder to all of the selflessness, love, sacrifice and tolerance of Jesus Christ throughout His earthly sojourn, his death and his resurrection.
    Noting that this season calls to mind the selflessness, love and tolerance which were the hallmark of Jesus Christ during His earthly life, Governor Ambode said, “It is a season when we should pause and reflect on our individual and collective roles towards promoting and sustaining that foundation of love, peace and harmony in our society.”
    “Therefore, we must see this period as a time that affords us to think about how we can each help to steer our nation back on the road to prosperity, by working in the spirit of togetherness.”
    He said there was no better time for the country to unite together and eschew resentment along ethnic and religious lines, adding that no challenge is insurmountable where there is unity of purpose.

  • Rekindling the fire of love in your Marriage!(2)

    Dear Reader,

    Welcome to another week with the Holy Spirit. Last week, I began this teaching on how to rekindle the “fire of love” in your marriage. In the course of that teaching, I discussed elaborately on what marriage is all about.

    This week, I’ll be examining a key factor that sustains a Christian marriage Love Responsibility!

    It is not enough to be married, it has to be sustained.  The love responsibility is the master key in sustaining a fulfilled marriage relationship. Love is the instrument a man uses to make his wife a glorious woman, without spot or wrinkle, or any such thing.

    The kind of love that should exist in a Christian marriage should be unconditional. A love that cares when there is no apparent reason to do so. God demonstrated this kind of love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8). In the same vein, God commands all husbands to love their wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her (Ephesians 5:25).

    God, through Apostle Paul, issued this commandment to all husbands. It is not an admonition or suggestion, but an instruction that must be obeyed. Your love for each other must be expressed. I read an inscription on a wall some years ago which said, “Love is not love until it is expressed.”  This is true! God gave His love expression; therefore, you must do the same.

    How can love between husband and wife in particular be expressed? This can be done in thoughts, words and actions.  Let’s take it one after the other:

    1. Loving in Thoughts

    When your heart is full of loving thoughts, it readily finds expression in the words you speak. God’s Word says: for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh (Matthew 12:34). If a man, for instance, uses abusive words on his wife, he is speaking out of the abundance of his heart.  Men initiate things, while women respond to them. Therefore, husband, initiate the love relationship between you and your wife, and she will respond to you. No woman hates to be loved. When you love your wife, you easily win her submission.

    Ii. Loving in Words

    Three short words, which some couples neglect are: “I love you.” Yet, by them, men and women come together to establish God’s counsel on the earth. However, these words are forgotten after the euphoria of the wedding ceremony is over. Words are powerful! Therefore, give voice to your feelings; it is not foolishness! The world was made by faith-filled words. Let your “I love you” to your spouse be full of faith. Wife, don’t nag your husband to death by repeatedly pointing out his shortcomings or problems in your home.  Where there’s a need for correction, use the sandwich method compliment, correct and then, compliment again.

    • Compliments:

    Praise your spouse for doing something well or for something you like about him or her. Everyone loves to be praised; everyone loves nice things to be said about them. Men and women who are not complimented do not feel appreciated.  So, when someone outside showers them with the much sought compliment, they are easily taken captive. My husband is never too tired to appreciate and say, “I love you” to me. Each time I hear that from him, I’m excited and on top throughout the day. It works!

    However, you need to understand that until you accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, you can’t effectively love your spouse as Christ ordained it. You can do this by saying this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship(John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).