Tag: Sex

When sex  hunger enters the mind and finds a seat, it occupies the whole seat. Production of   sex hormones for  males  begins as early as eight weeks of development when baby boy is still in the womb, and increases steadily with minimal fluctuations throughout life. For women, there are fluctuations as estrogen levels change with the arrival of puberty, feeding habits, life style, premenopause, others. Persistent thinking about sex in terms of needs for every biologically functional adult male and female may be associated with headache. This is particularly true with sexually active partners or married couples, where the regularity of sex has a SIGNIFICANT nerve calming effect.  For this reason and others bothering on security, married couples  in general, live longer than their unmarried counterparts. When sex is absent for no genuine reasons, or it has to be demanded,  tied to events, circumstances, demands, wants and conditions, headaches become  manifest.  This is one condition where in response to testosterone surge, a man  forces his legitimate wife  to have  sex and yet remains largely tense, unsettled and irritable. A beautiful wife can  create several shades of headache  in her husband  by way of sending mixed messages, using all sorts of body language to draw his eyes to her sexy body  while at the same time, telling him straight out, “that  tonight is not the night” ;she is not ready for sex. Men enduring such situations are also liable to die young , or die during sex either with the wife or with a lover outside .  For Nuns and other ultra adherents to faith, the response to sexual needs depends on extent of body and mind training ,but the fact remains that physiological demands can indeed be so overwhelming that God only knows what people do with their private lives when alone with no one else seeing them.

Such categories of people are not likely to report headache unless it is ascribed to an illness or disease condition

Some women in the premenopausal, menopausal and the immediate post menopausal period otherwise referred to as women in  the transitional menopausal period ,have a mixed blend of headaches; research has shown that they constitute the highest  population of sex starved women  for various reasons including, divorce, loss of husband to death, illness of husband with Physician-prescribed medications that have  severe effects on libido and erection, undisclosed illness or disease conditions involving this class of women. Fluctuating levels of estrogen in association with rising levels of leutenizing hormone releasing hormone (LHRH) may combine with inner tension to add color to the daily oxidant generating,inner tension that these people cope with, resulting in headaches.

Headache in different shades is more common and may be more severe  for women in the reproductive period of life(usually 15-49years). Frequently, people want to know if it is safe to have sex when a woman is menstruating.  Some husbands  have even  gone  ahead to complicate matters by beating wives who refuse sex during menses. Complaints of headaches and other general feeling of unwellnes   during  menses provide a concise definition of  an illness condition as opposed to  a disease condition. According to the international headaches society(IHS),headache when associated with menses may be separated into subclasses, depending on the duration of headache in relation to that of the period when  the woman experiences  menstrual blood flow.  The demarcation is however blurred as a result of individual differences(genetic polymorphism). Headaches may appear one or  two  days  before menses begin and then stop as soon as blood flow becomes steady . Headache  may however continue till the end of menses or persist beyond the period. It is now a matter of whether headache occurs in association with menstrual period in the absence of any  disease conditions usually known to cause headaches.

In general terms, the severity, frequency and duration of headache depends on the hormone profile as well as the fertility status of the menstruating woman. Women  belonging to the reproductive age and who do not experience menstruation (as primary or secondary amenorrhea), irregular menses ,  oligomenorhea, are likely to have additional  but related issues with ovulation. They are less likely to have headaches associated with menstrual cycles. For those women with regular, ovulating menstrual cycles, headache is expected as normal physiological phenomenon. Patients with fibroids who usually have  heavy bleeding (menorhagia) and some younger females with unexplained life threatening   menstrual bleeding (metropathia hemorhagica) may be associated with headache ,though likely to be submerged by the more sinister effects  of severe blood loss. Among other explanations, there is preferential organ perfusion during this period  that has been characterized as comparable to what happens in severe unregulated  physical exercise or preferably at the early stages of hemorrhagic shock, where as a result of blood loss, the human body tries to preserve blood for certain organs of the body including, the brain and kidneys  and if arrested, these organs are the last to recover.  Sex during menses is safe and perfectly  normal, depending  on the personal hygiene of the woman. The blood of menses is red in color, is not watery, contains natural antibiotics, does not form clots and has no  smell.

For  couples that are not using  medicines and other artificial methods  of family planning, sex during menses removes the fear of  getting pregnant because it happens to be the only period where the chances of getting pregnant amount to 0.00009%. Beyond that, it is not as if bleeding occurs every hour of any 24 hour period. The question however is what happens if a woman has headache during menses and uses that as an excuse to refuse sex.  In the absence of any other illness as described earlier and  as may be expressed as fever, yellow eyes, vomiting, or neck stiffness, this headache is very likely as a result  of  menstruation ,and can respond positively to sexual intercourse ONLY if the woman is emotionally ready for it. If  she  says she is not ready by words from her mouth or through  her body language , the matter should be quietly allowed to rest. If it is forced on her, it might signal the beginning of a cycle of actions and reactions; the consequences might not be  what is intended to maintain marital happiness .

Before pregnancy, women are more likely to have period pains(dysmenorhea).  During pregnancy most of the organs of  the anatomical structures in the body undergo changes resulting in remarkable increases in joint spaces, length and breath of ligaments, and organs .Therefore with one or two pregnancies, these changes together with the altered balance between the hormones of pregnancy plus the addition of a new  pregnancy hormone (relaxin), the condition of dysmenorhea may undergo improvement.

Dysmenorrheal  pain is usually confined to the pelvis or waist region, but may spread to involve other structures including the neck bones and thence headache .The treatment of period pains involves special drugs which are mostly acid producing as opposed to drugs commonly used for headaches. This will be clarified in the closing part of the article.

For sex between a husband and his wife, there is no doing it half way for women; no woman is ready to have her systems raised to high mountain tops, hung  upside down and then left there Scarcity of  information on human sexuality, inhibitions from religion and family traditions , communication, among others have made it difficult for many married women to achieve the  normal physiological rapture of orgasm . It is interesting to note that  orgasmic sex  as a result of the peculiar delicacy of the anatomical structures involved, will not only  ameliorate headache, al other factors considered normal, it is also more likely than aorgasmic  sexual intercourse to result in pregnancy(for couples wanting to have kids)

Sex is capable of  bringing down headache  only under a number of conditions, but  there are issues here and  time and space will permit only very brief discussion;

Sex must be  consensual, unhurried, complete, and devoid of guilt either before, during or after

The story has been told of a happily married woman who while attending a conference got carried away and had a fling with a colleague who for years was actually a  close family friend. Back in  her matrimonial house, she developed an unusual type of headache that was diffuse, throbbing and associated with sleeplessness. As sleeplessness worsened,  so was loss of appetite ; the heart became involved. One thing led to another and with  gentle persuasion from  a man of God, she made a heartrending confession . That much is how sex related feeling of guilt and inappropriate sexual experience can cause headache and even death.

For married couples it must involve communication as to how each partner wants it and how frequent .

There should be no background disease condition such as typhoid, malaria, cerebrospinal meningitis or boil any where in the head .

Recently, it came from the social media that a very popular  Television couple(woman is a TV reality show personality, husband well known rap musician) was having sex  about fifteen(15) times a day ;the woman in this relationship is understood to be very sexually active .Whereas it is possible that the couple will fail a lie detector test if  one was arranged, it is also quite possible to achieve such  feats with the aid of potent performance enhancing drugs, nearly all of which are associated with dangerous side effects. A common  side effect of drugs which  stimulate or enhance sexual performance is headache and it may be the only symptom. Unfortunately, this symptom is usually ignored  even when it develops as the sexual act is going on ,when the man who is usually the victim of death  in most cases  should have stopped .The medical opinion is that couples having sex fifteen times in a day  are both likely to die young ,and in particular, the man may die of sex related heart attack or will very soon develop a process of aging that will ruin his libido or his capacity to perform any physical activity of life  at the lowest level. Not surprising that the family Physician in the case of the popular reality TV sow couple has dutifully warned the woman in this situation to cut down on sex. To clarify issues , let it be known that no consensus exists. There are individual differences in the brain centers involved in the anatomical mechanisms of headaches  and tolerance, perception differ between individuals. The take away message is that for healthy  individuals, sex under the conditions earlier described can stop headaches.  However, when headache develops  in a man  or woman undergoing treatment for Hypertension, Diabetes mellitus, Brain tumor, Thyroid problems, Chest, Heart and  Kidney problems, major orthopedic problems such as fracture of bones,  spine or vertebral column,  prostate or breast cancer, Sex must as a matter of choice between pleasure and death take the back seat. It may take  from weeks to months before sex under these conditions can be considered safe and so perfect  understanding between couples is required There should be no restrictions.

To be concluded next week