Tag: Sex

A wise man in one of his books writes; “superfluity comes sooner by white hairs, but sufficiency leaves longer”; and a  preacher in one of his prescriptions  for practical Christianity says, “sufficient unto the day is of the evil one”.

Current situation as concerns the prevalence of HIV/AIDS is that adolescent males now drive the pandemic. Strained and in distress from prevention fatigue, many more young male Nigerians are having unprotected sex, contracting  the virus and increasing the illness and death statistics.  There are  nownew problems , calling for new approaches and review of current strategies. Emphasis has been on creating awareness in order to bring about relevant changes in patterns of behavior, but because awareness does not necessarily translate to knowledge, many of these young Nigerians now have their own interpretation of safe and safer sex . They have resorted to taking a few antiretroviral drugs, before, during and after sex as a way of  avoiding contracting the virus. The many poorly understood mechanisms of action of these drugs and the very high failure rate when used  without supervision  will not deter them.  They would be disappointed if they were informed that even if a Surgeon  operating on a patient that has HIV mistakenly cuts himself  and takes  these drugs almost immediately, there is still  a 75% chance that he will develop HIV/AIDS.The waning efforts of relevant agencies to sustain the HIV/AIDS awareness tempo may be making matters worse. And so unfortunately, people have come to think of HIV/AIDS now as just another form of TYPHOMALARIA .

Other issues  have  emerged ,and many sexually active men are  dying atop or underneath women while having sex. As is usually the case with underdeveloped countries, many  of these deaths are not being reported. A number of  factors may orchestrate to increase the risks of dying from sex, and these ones have little to do with whether or not people are having sex without protection. Questions are being asked as to what category of people are dying from sex, what is killing them and what can be done to stop or reduce these deaths . Finding answers to these questions may appear simple , but on deeper considerations, not so easy. In any case, the issues are worth considering.

Legitimate  spousal sex, between consenting partners , and from appropriate relationships is good for  the body and nourishes the human brain. In fact, research has affirmed that   a happily married  man or woman who has sex regularly with her husband or wife and actively participates  in it,is more likely to live longer compared with others. However, apart from the risks of contracting deadly sexually transmitted infectious agents, sex in whatever form as long as it involves two or more individuals can be  as dangerous as it is pleasant, and how much is too much determines whether or not a man or woman  dies or lives while having sex. In some  livingorganisms, nature  makes provision for male and female members of the specie to mate only once and after that  one or both dies. Studies  in rats  have demonstrated that excessive indulgence in sex by way of frequency could be harmful to health .  Male Rats  induced to engage in frequent  ejaculatory sex with female rats tend to die young, compared with others of same age not so treated. Though these reports have not been adequately investigated in humans because of the difficulties  involved in controlling  for many confounding variables in experiments involving humans, they are interesting enough to provoke common sense and stimulate thinking. This has become relevant, as  it is becoming increasingly realized that sex is sending young and middle aged boys and men to the emergency(casualty) rooms of Hospitals and Clinics all over the world.  For many of the cases that have been seen, death and disabilities have been observed  during sex or a few minutes after climax. Victims have also been observed to have used Alcohol, aphrodisiac supplements and other performance enhancing drugs of different dosage  formulations . When men die while doing it , not much is  talked about or disclosed about  the women involved.People  have begun to wonder if  men are  simply being driven crazy and into early graves  because women are becoming more beautiful, but less chaste and inclined to value systems ,or  men have become dangerously addicted to sex, because something  yet to be discovered has emerged to distort the normal regulatory control of testosterone along the HypoThalamoHypophysealGonadadal axis.

A woman’s appetite  for and demand for sex depends on many factors, including  among others, age, sex,  genetics, gender, religion, culture, occupation, environment, peer influence, life style and education. Ageand  genetics require further details.  Some women are naturally more sexually active compared with others of the same age. Something in the genes of a particular person  may have been programmed by the maker, to function at a level and with frequencies remarkably different  from others, and yet  considered normal . This explains why you have the Nuns of the Catholic faith, and why for some women, one orgasmic coitus  a week is enough where as, for others, every intimate contact must result in orgasmic sexual intercourse. Beyond that, ayoung woman that is beyond the age of puberty ,but not any where close to menopause is more likely to be sexually active with a strong appetite for sex compared with the one in the transitional menopausal period , whose hormone levels, in particular, estrogen will have begun to decline substantially.

Every normal  youngfemale within the reproductive age  bracket(15-45years) ovulates  about the middle of her menstrual cycle(usually 14 days before the next menstrual bleeding). For ovulation to occur, there has to be a surge in one {leutenizinghormone(LH)}of the  two hormones involved in menstrual cycle regulation. This hormone first acts on certain specialized cells of the ovary to produce male hormones(androgens), from which the hormone estrogen is released into the blood. At the level of the brain, this body chemical though predominantly a male  hormone, the much  that is left in the brain of a woman  during this period , serves to increase her appetite  for sex. From this brief explanation , it can be seen  and  understood  why at certain periods in every month, some  women may find themselves overwhelmed by the urge to have sex , and why some may  need to struggle  harder than others  to bring themselves under control so as not to do unthinkable things. As long as  exposure to Alcohol, drugs and other  sex stimulants is avoided as much as possible, self control is achievable in all circumstances . Problems arise when in unguarded moments  a young lady gets introduced to strange patterns of behavior and the individual gets into  unending and uncontrollable desire for sex, from one cycle to another, bulldozing men, old and young as she hops from one bed to another

For  the Nigerian African  male individual who is young and  biologically  functional , sex is something to be enjoyed ad infinitum even unto death. The African woman equally believes rightly or wrongly that under any circumstance, the black man is as strong as igneous rock when it comes to sex, and should be able to perform even when he is apparently too ill to do so. Under the unrelenting push of testosterone; the predominant male hormone, there is that feeling of immortality  and competitiveness among men that when  a  man irrespective of age  finds himself in a situation that is sexually suggestive, all fear is gone and caution takes back seat.  The positive effect of testosterone on male libido begins to fall by about age 25 years, but many individuals only begin to experience symptoms by the time they are concluding their 30th birthday celebrations;the problems declaring themselves by way of  problems getting and maintaining erections, first occasionally and then with increasing frequency. It is at this point that death comes knocking at the door, depending on the marital status of the man , type of marriage and most importantly the character and age of his partner.

As will be explained later, men ,and in particular those coming from the African continent(Blacks) are more likely to die while having sex, compared with men of similar age from the White race. One reason for this is that the black man is  genetically designed to die from problems associated with blood pressure, blood sugar, weight and the heart. The probability istherefore high that at the time of the sexual encounter, the black maleindividual compared to a white man of the same age and body size,  is more likely to have an undiagnosed metabolic disease such as Hypertension or Diabetes . He is more likely to be sexually aggressive and adventurous in bed as he tries to prove one thing or another before his partner. Though not invariable, the black male is also more likely to have multiple sex partners and be  using  fake or expired  performance enhancing drugs about which little information is available to him.

There are certain individuals who believe that women; young ,and middle aged  are killing men with sex ; they argue that improved awareness of the modern woman  about sex has made it difficult to  control her appetite for sex ,even legitimate sex. Some have argued that compared with the past, women of the present time have become difficult to satisfy in bed. Asked why she had lost interest in sex, a young woman once told a  court judge  that she had become sick of the monotony of same pattern, same place, same night, same style, nothing new. Rather than change, husband asked for marriage dissolution, because, wife had unknowingly given herself away as a cheating housewife; probably having been taken to hotels by men in her place of work

Others believe that men have become so addicted to sex that, even when during a particularly intense sexual encounter they see death coming , they are unable to help themselves .

To be continued