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  • Man jailed 14 years for attempted sexual assault of neighbour’s  daughter

    Man jailed 14 years for attempted sexual assault of neighbour’s  daughter

    An Ikeja Sexual Offences and Domestic Violence Court has sentenced a man, Ismail Mustapha, to 14 years imprisonment for attempting to sexually assault his neighbour’s 11-year-old girl (names withheld).

    Justice Rahman Oshodi convicted and sentenced Mustapha following the submission of the prosecution  that the parties had entered a plea and sentence agreement dated November 13.

    The plea bargain agreement amended the initial charge to a lesser one.

    The convict was initially arraigned before the court on a four-count charge bordering on defilement and sexual assault by penetration of two sisters, ages  eight and 11 years respectively.

    One of the sisters and their mother had testified before the court on  how Mustapha entered their house and defiled the girls while they were asleep.

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    Delivering judgment in the matter, Justice  Oshodi  sentenced Mustapha to 14 year-jail term, following his plea bargain agreement to the one count amended charge bordering on attempted sexual assault by penetration.

    Justice Oshodi said he had meticulously considered the facts of the case, the evidence presented before this court, and the terms of the plea bargain agreement  entered into by both parties.

    He said that the gravity of his offence could not be overstated as it weighed heavily upon the court.

    According to him, Mustapha had sexually assaulted the 11-year-old child, described as a most vulnerable member of our society, yet has pleaded guilty to a lesser crime.

     “Your reprehensible actions have not only violated the bodily integrity of an innocent child but have also, in all likelihood, inflicted long-lasting emotional and psychological trauma that may haunt the victim for years to come.”

  • Man jailed 18 years for sexual assault on 14-year-old girl

    Man jailed 18 years for sexual assault on 14-year-old girl

    A Lagos State Sexual Offences and Domestic Violence Court sitting in Ikeja yesterday sentenced one Chigozie Bright to 18 years imprisonment for sexual assault on a 14-year-old girl (name withheld).

    The incident occurred between year 2013 and April 2016 at No. 19 Akinola Aguda Street, Surulere, Lagos.

    Justice Rahman Oshodi convicted the defendant of a three-count amended charge brought against him by the prosecution, B. E. Okeowo .

    The convict was first charged of defilement through one count information dated May 8, 2017 before justice Sybil Nwaka, now Justice of the Appeal Court.

    He pleaded not guilty.

    He was re-arraigned before Justice Rahman Oshodi on April 25, 2022 and he pleaded not guilty.

    On September 27, 2024 the prosecution counsel, B.E Okeowo, informed the court that both parties had entered a plea bargain agreement dated and filled on September 27, 2024.

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    The judge asked the defendant whether he understood the contents of his guilty plea and the obligation of the court to give out the maximum sentences on the charges.

    Chigozie admitted he made the plea bargain voluntarily and was satisfied by the advice of his counsel.

    The Prosecution counsel B.E Okeowo urged the court to convict and sentence the defendant according to the plea bargain agreement.

    Oshodi sentenced the defendant to 18-years imprisonment according to plea bargain agreement.

    “Chigozie Bright, I find you guilty of an attempt to commit sexual assault by penetration, sexual assault, assault contrary to sections 262, 263, 172 of the criminal law of Lagos State.

  • Foreign Affairs ministry’s perm sec faces panel over alleged sexual misconduct

    Foreign Affairs ministry’s perm sec faces panel over alleged sexual misconduct

    A  disciplinary committee has been set up by the Office of the Head of Civil Service of the Federation (OHCSF) to investigate allegation of sexual misconduct against the Ministry of Foreign Affairs ‘ Permanent Secretary Adamu Lamuwa.

    Lamuwa, who has already been queried, risks termination of his appointment if indicted by the panel.

    OHCSF Director of Communications M.A Ahmed made this known to The Nation yesterday. Ahmed said that any substantiated claims of sexual harassment constitute gross misconduct that could lead to employment termination.

    His words: “Sexual harassment is a serious offense that can result in termination of employment upon substantiation.

    “A disciplinary committee has been established to address this matter. However, in accordance with principles of fairness, Mr. Lamuwa has been formally queried to respond to the accusation.”

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    Lamuwa’s travail started with a formal complaint by Mrs. Simisola  Ajayi, an aide to the   Foreign Affairs Minister, Yusuf   Tuggar.

    Tuggar was said to have drawn the attention of   Folasade Yemi-Esan, head of Civil Service of the Federation to the allegation via a letter dated May 27..

    Alkasim Abdulkadir, special assistant on Media and Communications Strategy to the Minister  confirmed  to The Nation  that “ relevant authorities are actively handling the matter.”

    Lamuwa, a veteran diplomat who once served as Nigeria’s Ambassador to Senegal and Mauritania, has been in the foreign service since 1993.

  • Stemming sexual, domestic violence through public outreach

    Stemming sexual, domestic violence through public outreach

    The last few months have been  busy for the Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency (DSVA) in Lagos as it embarked on a number of outreaches and campaigns against gender- based violence  in the nook and crannies of the state. ADEBISI ONANUGA reports strategies employed to stem the tide of the vice in the ember months

    The Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency (DSVA) has evolved new approaches in its efforts to curb gender-based violence  in the state through behavioral mindset programmes. It also involves sensitising and training of all relevant stakeholders to infuse the SGBV message whilst moving towards a complete reversal of the menace from the society.

     The first of such awareness programmes tagged:  “Man Wey Sabi”  held at Unity market, Agbado.

    The Executive Secretary of the agency, Mrs. Titilola Vivour-Adeniyi, said the purpose was to address gender stereotypes in Lagos.

     She emphasised the collective responsibility to empower women, urging society, leaders, and residents to champion gender equality in their various domain.

     Mrs Vivour-Adeniyi  said the program shines a light on men’s pivotal roles in ending domestic and sexual violence in a pragmatic manner and promotes partnership in marriages. A lively cooking competition generously sponsored by Power Oil Nigeria Limited showcased culinary skills of the participants.

    The primary objective is to spread our message in a spirited manner, challenging stereotypes regarding men’s involvement in childcare and the essence of marriage partnership.

    The Baba-Oja of Unity market, Agbado, Prince Abiodun Kosoko appreciated the currentadministration of Governor Babajide Sanwo-Olu for ensuring that the society is conducive for both genders to thrive.

    Inter-generational conversations in Lagos Island

     The next stage of the awareness and enlightenment campaign  was given the theme: “Because You Have Experienced It, Don’t Become It”.  The one-day intergenerational conversation on triggers of violence in homes was taken to door steps of homes on Lagos Island and had many residents and stakeholders in attendance.

     The DSVA, while intensifying efforts to curb the menace of sexual and domestic violence in homes in the state and their relentless commitment to raising awareness against violence towards women and girls also emphasised the unique importance of the discussion to bridge the generational gap in understanding the triggers of violence within homes.

    Mrs Rhodes-Vivour, who was represented at the event by the Head of the Public Affairs Department, Mrs. Adejoke Ladenegan-Oginni, set the stage for a dialogue focused on fostering understanding and collaboration.

    This collaborative effort signified a step forward in fostering understanding and unity across generations in the fight against violence within homes.

    The Supervisor for ‘Ministry of Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation (WAPA), Mrs. Olayinka Bamidele, in a goodwill message, urged participants to persist in speaking up on issues related to sexual and gender-based violence (SGBV).

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    She urged parents to also respect the privacy of couples,  allow them to bond together and make decisions concerning their homes. She said third party interference often triggers violence in the homes.

     The collaborative partner for the event, VCARE for Development Foundation, represented by Mr. Peter Fujuno, affirmed their commitment to supporting DSVA in the fight against SGBV.

     At Ojuwoye Market, Mushin which hosted another version of the “Men Wey Sabi” edition,  the DSVA Executive  Secretary, Mrs Vivour-Adeniyi reaffirmed the agency’s dedication to eliminating gender-based violence through it’s initiative  aimed to change people’s behavioural mind sets, educating and training pertinent to  stakeholders and the Public.

    She said  that the programme was critically aimed at addressing gender stereotypes in Lagos, revealing that  statistics through research have shown that these stereotypes  are the resultant causes of Domestic Violence in various homes.

    She said the Ojuwoye Market, Mushin edition  was held so that the message  could be amplified to the nooks and crannies in Lagos.

    The Executive Secretary, who was represented by the Head Community Engagement,  Mr. Adewusi Damilare, further emphasised that it was crucial to empower  women to boost development and give them a voice as they also play significant impact in society.

     In order to mobilise support for gender equality, she laid credence to the need for collaborations from the public and private sector, elected leaders, and individuals to use their positions, offices, and platforms to amplify the SGBV message.

     Adewusi noted that: “Market Fiesta” increased awareness of men’s crucial roles in preventing sexual and domestic violence and sustaining marital partnership, while also rallying support for gender equality. He emphasised that the programme’s goal was to debunk myths regarding men’s involvement in the kitchen in opposition to gender stereotypes that place women in certain positions and the importance of cooperation in marriage as a vital source of mutual support in households.

    UNFPA day in Epe

    During its outreach in Epe, a walk was held to heighten sensitisation campaign on the 16 days of Activism against Violence against Women and Girls globally. The walk held  on Friday, December 8, 2023.

     Mrs. Vivour-Adeniyi, at the event said the agency  was  aligning with the global movement for the annual event. The 16 Days of Activism against violence against women and girls, with the theme “Women Arise, Light Up Campaign” was in partnership with UNFPA to organise a transformative sensitisation walk in Ayetoro Market, Epe.

     Vivour-Adeniyi said the objective of the  event was to address and combat gender-based violence, fostering a community-wide commitment to speak up against these atrocities.

     She stated that, the sensitisation walk with the theme “Women Arise, Light Up Campaign.” also aimed at  illuminating and empowering  the entire communities of Epe, urging them to raise their voices against all forms of abuse, sexual and gender-based violence (SGBV).

     “The sensitisation walk in Epe is sacrosanct and represents a significant stride towards building safer and more informed communities, and as the agency eagerly anticipates further partnerships and initiatives in the pursuit of a violence-free society, whilst remaining  resolute in our mission and looks forward to the continued support of all stakeholders in this noble cause.” Vivour-Adeniyi said.

     Participants in the sensitisation walk  included market women, the youth, representatives from the Ministry of Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation (WAPA), Ministry of Health, Child Protection Network, the Police force, Lagos State Traffic Management Authority (LASTMA), Lagos Neighborhood Safety Corps (LNSC), and the DSVA team, gathered at Ayetoro market. This diverse representation symbolised a united front against SGBV..

    The walk commenced from Ayetoro market through Ayetoro town up to the Fish Market in Epe with  notable interaction at the fish market where the Baba Loja – Elijah Jacob Babatunde and Iyaloja- Alhaja Adeola Giwa not only endorsed but passionately voiced support for the cause, emphasising the urgency of combating SGBV.

     The walk stopped at the Local Government Secretariat, where participants were brought together for a closing session.

    Badagry  Intergenerational Conversations

    The DSVA, in continuation of the sensitisation on the 16 Days of Activism against violence against women and girls had a one-day Intergenerational  Conversation on triggers of violence in the homes in Badagry.

    Mrs Vivour-Adeniyi, in her  welcome address said the theme – “Because You Have Experience It, Don’t Become It”,  was specifically chosen to address re-occurring issues which contribute to triggers for violence in the home.

     She informed the gathering that marriages require amongst others, mutual respect, understanding,  communication, respected boundaries and cooperation, and partnership to achieve peace which were the Key takeaways for participants in in the program.

     The Executive Secretary who was represented by the Head of the Public Affairs Department,  Mrs. AdeJoke Ladenegan-Oginni stressed that the event which was first held during the DSVA  Awareness Month gave a platform to leverage and further amplify the message of the  intergenerational conversation on triggers of violence in the home.

    The Vice Chairman Badagry Local Governmentt, Mrs. Elizabeth Pedetin-Kappoin her goodwill message thanked the state government and the agency for organising the event in Badagry.  She noted that all forms of abuse affect victims psychologically and emotionally and the resultant effect evident in unruly children and a violent society.

    Ensuring peaceful homes, safer society

     Also, Supervisor,  WAPA,  Alhaja Risikat Abimbola Padonu- Hassan said women and girls are being protected from all forms of abuse and should endeavour to ensure they dwell harmoniously with their spouses by respecting and cooperating with them.  She said eradication of triggers in the home would result in a peaceful home and a safer society.

     The Panelists and the Moderator, Ann Onyechefula of the  Programs Department, DSVA informed participants that data gathered by the agency revealed that third-party interference, lack of communication, lack of sexual satisfaction, financial dependency, unrealistic expectations, and infidelity have been identified as triggers contributing to domestic violence and intimate partner violence.

    “These conflicts usually result in violence in homes bearing in mind that the family is the first unit of socialisation, to tackle violence in society we must find ways to resolve conflicts in the home front because if not curbed they eventually lead to violence in the society at large”

     She said the objectives for organising the program were to highlight the significance of Intergenerational Conversations on triggers of violence in the home particularly between inlaws and or other extended family  members of the family by fostering understanding, promoting effective communication, and sharing valuable insights that create more harmonious and fulfilling family dynamics by offering solutions to actualise a peaceful society devoid of strife”.

     At the event of the Badagry event, panelists were drawn from the different age groups and generations to participate in the symposium amongst whom were,  Mrs. Oluwakemi Bello,  Miss Temi Arowojolu,  Mr.  Taiwo Amusa, and Mr. Nathaniel Ayodeji.

    Damilare Adewusi spoke on the services the agency renders free of charge that can be accessed,  courtesy of the state government.

    Intergenerational

    conversations at Ikorodu

     Mrs  Vivour-Adeniyi,  in her  welcome address at the intergenerational conversations at Ikorodu said the theme – “Because You Have Experience It, Don’t Become It”,  was specifically chosen to address reoccurring issues which contribute to triggers for violence in the home.

    She also told the gathering that marriages requires amongst others, mutual respect, understanding,  communication, respected boundaries and cooperations and partnership to achieve peace which were the Key take-aways from the event.

    Vivour-Adeniyi who was represented by the Head Public Affairs Department,  Mrs. AdeJoke Ladenegan- Oginni stressed that the event gave a platform to leverage on and to further amplify the message of the  Intergenerational Conversation on triggers of violence in the home.

    Parents to pay more attention to their children

     The Chairman Ikorodu Local Government,   Adesina Wasiu Ayodeji who was represented by the Secretary to the Local Government,   Afinnih Abdullateef during his goodwill message, thanked the state goverment and the agency for organising the event in Ikorodu,  He said all forms of abuse affect victims psychologically or emotionally as this could trigger mental disability or suicide.

    He urged on parents to pay more attention to their children and wards and urged residents to report cases whoever the situation arises

    Report cases timely

     Ms Kemi Babatunde who represented VCARE for Development Foundation;  in a  good will message, encouraged the Ikorodu residents to take ample opportunity of the DSVA services by reporting cases timely.  She said the eradication of triggers in the home would result in a peaceful home and safer society.

    Triggers of domestic, sexual violence

    Head- Clinical Pschology department,   Dr. Olive Oluwagbemileke, said data gathered by the agency  revealed that third-party interference, lack of communication, lack of sexual satisfaction, financial dependency, unrealistic expectations, and infidelity have been identified as triggers contributing to domestic violence and intimate partner violence.

    “These conflicts usually results to violence in homes bearing in mind that the family is the first unit if socialization, to tackle violence in the society we must find ways to resolve conflicts in the home front because if not curbed it eventually leads to violence in the society at large”

    She said the objectives were to highlight the significance of Intergenerational Conversations on triggers of violence in the home particularly between inlaws and or other extended family  members of the family by fostering understanding, promoting effective communication, and sharing valuable insights that

    create more harmonious and fulfilling family dynamics”.

    At the event, panelists were drawn from the different Age Groups and generations to

    participate in the symposium amongst who were,  Mrs. Omoyemi Folarin,  Mr. James Odey,  Mr.  Taiwo Amusa,  Mr. Nathaniel Ayodeji,  Ms. Zipporah Atoyebi and Mrs. Olive Oluwagbemileke as Moderator

    Mrs Oluwakemi Bello , at all the events of the agency, gave an overview of SGBV and the services available at the Lagos DSVA that residents can access free of charge.  She told participants to call the toll-free line 08000-333-333 or visit the Novel House office at Plot 3, Otunba Jobi Fele Way,  Alausa Ikeja to report cases.

  • Sexual harassment: Suspected Law professor faces disciplinary action

    Sexual harassment: Suspected Law professor faces disciplinary action

    The management of University of Calabar (UNICAL) has announced more steps taken in the aftermath of the sexual harassment allegations and sundry charges levelled by students of Law Faculty, who protested last week against Prof. Cycil Ndifon, the suspended dean of the Faculty of Law.

    Vice Chancellor Prof. Florence Obi, who yesterday addressed reporters at the council chambers, said her office had been inundated with requests from organisations to know what the university was doing on the allegations made by the protesting students.

    The VC said the sexual harassment allegation against Prof. Ndifon was one among several complaints levelled against him, adding that the management had taken a holistic consideration of the issues.

    She said: “Management, after observing that the dean of the faculty was at the centre of the complaints and aberrations, issued the dean with a 10-point query, to be responded to within 24 hours. This was to give him a good opportunity to refute the allegations or state why management should not take the allegations of the students seriously.

    “When he responded, his submissions in the eyes of management were thoroughly weak and not convincing. Management was left with no other option but to set up a panel to conduct investigation. It is obvious that the dean cannot be in office while the investigation is on, hence going by the Public Service Rules, he has been placed on suspension to allow a free investigation.

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    “Besides the few workers of the university that will form the panel, management has acceded to the request of UNICAL Alumni, Federation of Female Lawyers and Federal Public Complaints Commission to be part of it.”

    Their involvement speaks volumes of our understanding and willingness to partner them to get it right.”

    The VC said in the meantime, the following steps have been taken; “The dean and the sub-dean were directed to submit the result scripts, questions papers, marking guides and examination attendance lists for the past two sessions to the director of quality assurance. The dean to refund illegal money extorted from the students under various sub-heads.

    “Setting up of a committee to take charge of students’ mobilisation to the Law School. A review and possible recall of the students’ list sent to the Law School. Removal from office of the two examination officers and the setting up of a Result Vetting Committee.”

    Also done are; “Setting up Students’ Project Committee to assign project supervisors to the undergraduates. Setting up of Admission Committee to review direct entry admissions.  Setting up of a committee to update the existing Standard Operations Procedure (SOP) of the university to take care of the peculiarities of the Faculty of Law, for Senate approval. And the appointment of a new sub-dean in the Faculty of Law.

    “Appointment of a new interim Chairman of the Faculty’s Post Graduate School Board. Setting up a committee to review and assign courses for the semester in compliance with the university procedure on quality assurance.”

    The vice chancellor reiterated that “management has no vested interest in this case other than to unravel the facts and set things right.”

    She added: “We will not fold our arms and accept the ugly scenario that we have found ourselves as an institution. For now, the students have alleged, they must go to the panel to prove. The suspended dean too has an opportunity to prove his innocence.”

  • Girls, sexual purity gives you supernatural intelligence!

    MY darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters, Girls…girls…girls, take it or leave it, if you want to stand out among your peers, if you want to be extra-ordinarily intelligent and be super-successful in life, your greatest weapon yet is your sexual purity now! It can fetch you just about anything! It is what you need to lay a solid foundation for a most beautiful future! BUT WHY THE HURRY TO HAVE SEX? In the first instance, when you have no time for boyfriends in your teens, you are not distracted and you have all the time and all your energy focused on your studies/getting good grades not wondering if your boyfriend is dating another girl, not worrying about the effects of contraceptives on your body, STDs, getting pregnant etc. On the other hand, I can tell you for a fact and from experience that sexual purity sharpens your spiritual perception! It makes you spiritually intelligent and gives so much unsolicited information. Can you imagine knowing all the questions you have to attempt during your examinations even before the time-table is set? Can you imagine knowing the pitfalls the devil has designed to make you fail in life or stop you in your tracks from going forward? Can you imagine knowing the trouble awaiting you as a result of the next action you want to take? Can you imagine knowing what someone really thinks about you? Can you imagine receiving instructions all the world’s General Overseers put together cannot give you to conquer a battle that has made you wish you were never born? I am writing from experience! IF YOU’RE UNMARRIED AND SEXUALLY-ACTIVE, THE DEVIL SURELY HAS AN UPPER HAND IN YOUR LIFE!!!

    By being sexually-pure and living a life of holiness, the Holy Spirit submerges your life and YOU KNOW ALL THINGS, YOU KNOW ALL THINGS, YOU KNOW ALL THINGS my sweeties! 1 John 2:20 KJV And by the time God is done with you  you’d be smoking hot, you’d have fire in your bones and on your heels even your swag will be different. The best of eligible bachelors won’t be able to take their eyes or mind off you! Your aura will magnetize the best people and the best things in life. Why? Because you carry a heavy dose of the presence of God! Everything about you will be as sweet as honey; your life will be as colorful as a beautiful well-tended garden. Even the sex you decided to keep away from will be mind blowing whether you are good at it or not! May you end up with a good man; and one that God pairs you with-THAT MAN THAT’LL MELT EVERY TIME HE SEES YOU TILL ETERNITY!

    Virgins, YOUR GREATEST UNDOING WILL BE GIVING YOUR VIRGINITY AWAY TO ANYONE LESS THAN YOUR HUSBAND! It could make your life spin out of control! Believe me! The consequences are far too complicated. This is because after one encounter with anyone but your husband, you will most likely end up sleeping with different men. I don’t even want to go into the resultant effect of that. If you are wise enough to activate the power of God in you, you will never miss your divinely-ordained spouse! He’s worth keeping yourself for and worth the waiting! However, if you’ve been sexually-active, retracing your steps and becoming a secondary virgin could save the day! But you’ve got a lot of work to do in order not to go back to your vomit! Instead of feeling bad after reading this, change your ways and let God have an upper hand in your life! I love, love you all!

     

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  • Sexual assault response committee inaugurated in Kano

    Sexual assault response committee inaugurated in Kano

    The Federal government has inaugurated Kano state Steering Committee against sexual assault and gender-based violence.
    Inaugurating the committee in Kano, the Technical Assistant to the Vice President, Professor Yemi Osinbajo, Hajiya Hadiza Aminu Dorayi, said 15-member committee was set up to help the in dealing with cases of sexual assaults and gender-based violence against children and women.
    Hajiya Hadiza said two states each were selected from the six geopolitical zones for the programme, saying that Kano and Kaduna states were chosen in the northwest zone.
    “I have inaugurated the steering committee and met with its members in Kano and very soon, I will meet with members of the wider committee which has 30 members. Our aim is to reduce the rate of assault and violence against children and women in the country.”
    She explained that members of the steering committee were selected from ministries of justice, health, women affairs, National Agency for Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons (NAPTIP), Kano State Hisbah Board, Human Right Commission, Legal Aid Council and some nongovernmental organisations.
    She said the office of the Vice President was determined to support states’ governments in addressing issues related to child and women assaults.
    Hajiya Hadiza said Kano and Kàduna was chosen because of its population and the concern its people shown on assault against children and women.
    She said, “We were attracted to Kano state by the case of Baby Khadija and the peaceful protest against assault on children and women which was some women groups organised in the state sometimes last year.
    “If the citizens can organise themselves and stage a peaceful protest against assault on children and women, I see no reason why we should not support them. We are working with some donor agencies and we will make the programme to be sustainable,” She said.
  • Confession of A Frustrated Lagos Based Housewife – “I Did This Since He Could Not Sexually Satisfy Me”

    Confession of A Frustrated Lagos Based Housewife – “I Did This Since He Could Not Sexually Satisfy Me”

    My name is Chioma, a Lagos housewife who has been through a lot. I have been married for 7 years and nursing a pain which has made my marriage turned sour.

    I and my husband had it going good but it was worse after we welcomed our first child.

    Dave, as he was called by me, lost his job then and would not want me to work. He always says his obligation is to meet the needs of his family. I was a full-time housewife and gave our only child all the attention and affection needed.

    The quest for a job took its toll on my husband; he will set out early in the morning but to return late at night. We weren’t rich but we were living on the saved funds after the loss of his job. This had a negative effect because we ate deep into it.

    A year gone by with no job yet, Dave began his sojourn into a business of his. The funds left was utilized, he gave all to make it work.

    Dave was determined and enthusiastic about the business but the home-front suffered for it. Gradually, he wasn’t that concerned about me but his new found love “his business”. He had little or no time for our baby too.

    Our sex life was almost heading for the rocks and I was not pleased when he is done with his action on the bed. His performance was below par; he hardly do it up to 3 minutes. Something he has been doing for up to 25 minutes non-stop before.

    He always cited excuses for his below par performance, from tiredness, stress and lots more. I wept bitterly because I had been sex starved. Dave, whenever he sets for the race couldn’t but spill even before three minutes – no woman will smile for this type of action. So we had a talk about this and he tried several means but all to no avail…no solution at sight.

    Months rolled by, with years counting…his condition was still worrisome because it keeps getting worst – this time around not even up to 2 minutes. I had no choice but to accept my fate.

    However, Dave was making headway in his business and I wasn’t a priority to him anymore. Staring at my photo album, I was with smiles but deep within was tormented.

    In my quest for a solution to Dave’s predicament, I had to visit a childhood friend known as Ireti at her home. I could confide in her, she did got married few years before ours. She and her husband were having lunch when I arrived. After the meal, we had a ladies talk in which I shared the issue being faced in my home.

    She revealed a secret to me which left me speechless. I appreciated her kind gesture and quickly rushed home.  Read Testimonials From Other Men

    Days later, on an evening I decided to share the secret with Dave with detailed explanation. He held me close and was full of joy. He applied the secret that evening. The same night, we made love and his performance did improve because I enjoyed it… https://goo.gl/vqigdR  

    Wow!!! On the fourth day of utilizing the secret, we had several sex routines – 3 rounds to be specific and I was okay with that. Come and see smile all over my face after we are done. That is how a woman should feel after every action with her man.

    I was short of words, feels like he had a magic touch because his performance was commendable. With different sex styles utilized, he was the grand commander and was in control. Go to https://goo.gl/vqigdR and see how you too can be the man she really wants and last up to 35 minutes in bed just as I’m enjoying now.

    Our sex life has been re-positioned and I had a relief. Our marriage has indeed turned a new phase and I believe with this my confession, I can turn up other people’s marriages too.

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  • Agency targets two million to fight sexual violence

    The Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT) has begun a six-month intensified campaign against sexual and gender-based violence (SGBV), its Coordinator, Mrs Titilola Vivour-Adeniyi said yesterday.

    It plans to reach out to two million people to join the crusade against the menace.

    At a training session for journalists on best practices for investigating and reporting sexual and gender-based violence cases, Mrs Vivour-Adeniyi promised that no community would be left behind in the fight against SGBV.

    According to her, DSVRT would embark on intensive sensitisation campaigns at Fagba, Ajuwon, Surulere, Ikeja, Kosofe, Ikorodu, Iwaya, Epe, Badagry, Onike, Ijanikin, Ojo, Idimu, Lagos Island, Alimosho and Agege.

    She said inner communities in Badore, Sangotedo, Oke Yaya, Owutu would not be left out of the campaign.

    “The campaign will be conducted through door-to-door canvassing, engagement of children in schools, town hall meetings, market rallies, engagement at religious gatherings, and visitation to salons.

    “There would also be an extensive media outreach through Billboards, radio and television jingles in English, pidgin and other indigenous languages,” Vivour-Adeniyi said.

    The team, she said, would ensure that literature on domestic violence prevention was distributed through local governments and marriage registries to intending couples.

  • Agency: poor reporting kills sexual violence prosecution

    The Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DVSRT) has urged the media to strengthen its fight against sexual and gender-based abuse with informed investigation of cases, non-judgmental coverage and sensibility to protect victims.

    The Director of Citizen Rights in the Ministry of Justice, Mrs Omotilewa Ibirogba, spoke yesterday at a training session on Investigating and Reporting of Sexual and Gender Based Violence Crimes at Alausa in Ikeja, the state capital.

    The director said reports lacking objectivity and authentication reports kill the prosecutorial chances of perpetrators and expose survivors to post-incident discrimination.

    Mrs Ibirogba said stringent enforcement of penalties on abusers, regardless of their social strata or network of power, is essential to curbing the menace.

    According to her, it is a mythical calculation to ride on the wings of poverty, poor control of urges or frustration and lack of education, among others, as excuses for rape, domestic violence or child abuse.

    Condemning the alarming rate of complacency of victimised parents with abuse, Mrs Ibirogba chided them against encouraging their offspring to remain in abusive relationships without reporting to the appropriate authorities.

    She said: “Any act of violence that results in physical, sexual or physiological suffering solely because of gender can be tagged gender-based violence. It is not true that perpetrators are poor or lack education. We tend to think of abusers as ugly or shabby, but it cuts across various strata of the society. Many abusers are, in fact, products of abuse backgrounds.”

    Dolapo Badmus, an Assistant Superintendent of Police (ASP), who delivered a note on: Expectations From the Media, said reporters must go beyond blaming rape actions to ensuring that appropriate authorities intervene for justice.

    The police officer said there is need for avoidance of unnecessary details, which could serve as potential risk to the victim, leading to the loss of dignity, condemnation and stigmatisation.

    She said: “Reporters should see investigation of SDBV as a responsibility and dedication to a social cause. This forces the society to acknowledge it as a serious problem and places pressure for justice. We must also seek to protect the dignity of the survivors of such incidents.”